Should He Charge His GF Rent? - Part 1

Do you think if a woman moves in with a guy she's dating, she should pay rent?

[@justinmitchell8343]

It's lowkey odd when they argue... lol Loni.. always gets straight to the point... Jeannie always feels like she needs to tell a story about her parents... she got a story for every topic lol

[@wimbletone]

well it is a talk show...

[@lajuanesoutherland5569]

Justin Mitchell That is so true 😂 Sometimes I want Jeannie to more straightforward and just say it. She says wise/ insightful stuff but she is longwinded at the same and you almost lose the message

[@raic3283]

Dats why Jeannie one of my favs she has a story for everything lol. I enjoy storytelling.

[@DeeL3]

Jeannie is my girl and I normally love her stories. But lately it feels like she is trying waaaaayyyyyy too hard to sound "deep" and inspirational. So yea, sometimes I just want her to get to the point.

[@ashleyen3]

I think Loni *thinks* she gets straight to the point, but many times, she's off base. The audience always claps for her because they feel like they have to.

[@stephanymariah5890]

It dont even Have to be rent, pay the light Bill's pay for when you go food shopping pay the internet bill HELP OUT WITH SOMETHING

[@MorganCPaige]

Stephany Mariah right, pay the WiFi, netflix, energy bill, groceries - something. But really homeboy should stop asking the internet and talk to his partner. Communicate y’all

[@ShaunHensley]

It has to be half the utilities AND rent.

[@navyboy120]

No Bitch, pay rent. Always trying to pay less than necessary. bills are separate. Aint no free ride. Live on your own and you'll pay more so quit tripping. You work you earn a good living contribute. Society has change you have equal rights so pay your fucking equal share.

[@navyboy120]

@@MorganCPaige That's no help bc you paying what you sit around and watch all goddam day which is access to entertainment. That ain't sit. Pay some fucking rent. Always wanting the man to carry the load while yall free load. What's your value? Not enough to do nothing. No on me gets a free ride except the child. You work you pay.

[@vitorfernandes651]

These women who don't contribute with nothing are the same who don't move a finger to help with running the bone like cleaning and cooking. These women are not worth marrying, they still haven't grown up enough. They lazy

[@DADEFUYE]

you cant ask for gender equality and say "no" to equal responsibility.

[@manimichelle495]

Oops 🐸 ☕️

[@Nanshashakadi]

The day a man will bear a child and give birth to him, then I will pay his bills

[@MartianOrion]

@@Nanshashakadi The day a woman deposits seed in another woman to impregnate her, I will take you seriously.

[@Nanshashakadi]

@@MartianOrion oh my goodness what a huge effort

[@MartianOrion]

@@Nanshashakadi Yep, I'm never gonna take you seriously

[@shaunjames5111]

I will Never understand how in 2019 in the age of me too and all the other movements pushing for gender equality conversations always start with "should a woman pay" I have never heard should a man pay. It's always understood a man should pay. Yet for women we always need context and more info and circumstances but we want equality.

[@pwrhitterp]

Shaun James women don’t truly want equality

[@Bivivaki]

I wish one day you really understand the importance of being a gentleman and treating a woman like gold and not your housemate nor your business partner. Spreading kindness 😇

[@pwrhitterp]

Iyayi enlight me ... women always say things like that but never elaborate on it smh

[@Bivivaki]

@@pwrhitterp on the grand scheme of things it's all about the enrichment of feminin energy and the gradification of masculine energy, one cannot flourish without the other. I really don't want to go all Sunday school on you, you seem like a nice person, If you are really interested you can look into it 😊

[@pwrhitterp]

Iyayi the Bible lol ... you lost me right there

[@kelsyejordan]

It's just the word 'charge' that ticked me off.. Yes were moving in and of course i should definitely pay my part or contribute in some way, but saying 'charge' as if I'm just a tenant sounds wrong to me.

[@ItBeAndrea]

Kelsye Jordan I agree, I think Tamera was trying to get at that but wasn't able to be clear about it.

[@sasasavage5047]

That's what it is though because they aren't getting an apartment together, they aren't married, and her name isn't on the house, so him asking her to contribute is the same as charging her. Nothing wrong with it.

[@peanutjelly727]

Gina H See, that's where I would have an issue. The fact that she would be helping him pay for his house, but she wouldn't have any rights to the property itself because her name isn't on anything. That changes everything. I'm sorry but I'm not going to help you buy your house and when the relationship doesn't work out, you walk away with property and an investment could make you money in the future and I walk away with nothing at all. Like how exactly does this situation benefit me? Personally, I wouldn't move in with a man unless we intend to get married, in which case, I would expect my name to eventually be on the property, so I absolutely wouldn't mind paying on the mortgage. But if we're living together just for the sake of living together, whose to say that he didn't ask me to move in with him just to USE me to help him pay off his loans with no intention of marrying me or starting a family?

[@lovexoxo251]

Yes I agree! Contribute is better since they are a couple

[@chinweofuru8974]

Yes! @peanutjelly

[@SilentKnight0011]

Women always say I'm old school when it comes to them having a leg up.

[@biggsydaboss3410]

Yeah they want all the benefits of equality but none of the downsides.

[@adityadas6082]

If she wants to be old schooled or old fashioned then they should just stay in the kitchen 😂

[@rachelg6289]

Depends on the woman.

[@SilentKnight0011]

@@rachelg6289 Of course 😅

[@Mr.Boring_Man]

Not all but yeah - very selective with the equal treatment topic. Old school button is pushed when the power dynamic bends in their favor. Work your way up the corporate ladder, making more than the men, bragging about your independence but then your old school when it comes to tab at an expensive restaurant.

[@haileeroxana]

I moved in with my boyfriend 2 years ago. I pay no bills, only groceries, but I only make 1/3 of his salary. He voluntarily put the deed of the house under my name since we both chose it. He is actually handling everything well without my help. I work, and go to school so he doesn’t want to add any more stress into my life by making me pay bills. Based on everyone’s comments, I see that men like mine are rare. I definitely appreciate it. I don’t think I would be with him if he made me pay bills. I would have stayed home with my parents. I moved out at 19 & was living free there too.

[@truthblunt]

He should definitely charge her rent, she ain't no wife.

[@ericdupree8603]

Me n my wife contribute equally, especially if we move into a spot together. We in this together.

[@One_of_Many750]

Andre Spivey Even If It’s Your Wife, She Can Contribute Too.

[@LittleMsLibra8]

Agreed! She’s not a wife, so she shouldn’t be living with him at all. Rent or not.

[@mr.b7486]

Common law marriage?

[@truli91]

If he charges her rent then she should demand a renters contract which can give her some right like he cant kick her our without a notice, he needs to fix everything in the house with his money and so on.

[@j0j0_369]

Why is there always an awkward silence from the audience when Adrienne talks?!??! Oy-veh...

[@kiwi9921]

IKR! I think she means well but for some reason the silence she get is spot on. LOL!

[@tovahcastillo987]

Because she’s IGNORANT

[@rodwilliams7457]

Lol!!!

[@jenaumorgan]

NATALIE JENKINS She's given them too many dirty looks recently, I guess. But she made a valid point with contributing with bills.

[@Finlay693]

NATALIE JENKINS Adrienne be talking wreckless sometimes that's why lol

[@JenJHayden]

that's why you dont move in someone who is not your spouse. sorry for being prude but mama aint raise no fool. if i'm good enough to live with, im good enough to put a ring on it.

[@sahadaouattara]

ain't that the truth. women need to start valuing themselves .I swear

[@xxcruiserlove26xx]

how would they know your good enough to live with if they’ve never lived with you??

[@JenJHayden]

xxcruiserlove26xx not sure what you mean. thats like saying how would they know if your good enough to marry if they never married you before. makes no sense. the point i am making is if someone says let's move in together they better be ready to get married.

[@Sach6693]

I'm in my house giving you a standing ovation as we speak. Tamera was the only one that was speaking on the issue of 'playing house' and all the grey areas that comes with it. If I'm single and paying rent then my name is on the lease or if I'm married my name is on the deed of the property and with that comes a certain level of rights. She's moving into someone else's house without her name on anything and is expected to contribute like she's part owner. I know living isn't free but she's reaping zero benefits from the situation. If they break up he can kick her out at anytime and there would be nothing she can do about it.

[@xxcruiserlove26xx]

J. Jo yeah but marriage is a much bigger commitment than living with someone... in my opinion moving in with someone is really the ultimate compatibility test

[@CallMeRose]

I’m old school and I was raised that a man should be able to take care of his woman. He’s the man of the house therefore he should be able to provide and take care of bills/rent. Especially when it comes to married couples, the woman nurture and cares for the kids. She goes through birth and a lot more that men can handle. You paying rent or going 50/50 on bills - you’re basically a roommate. Cooking, cleaning, free sex, catering to his every need. I’m not saying to free load but it’s more about knowing your worth as a woman and the value you bring. To earn that respect and get treated like a Queen. Some people will argue that this perspective is a gold digger but you have to look at this bigger picture and see what each party brings to the table. A man can not expect his woman to go 50/50 if he doesn’t go 50/50 in everything else in the house.

[@malonso212004]

My husband and I split all bills and we even have separate accounts. We never argue about money because we know before hand what we are responsible for and any excess cash we spend however we want-no discussing big purchases since it’s your money. However, we both agree if one of us falls into financial hardship the other will obviously support however needed.

[@malonso212004]

L O I don’t have to do both I’m proud to say I can. When we have kids I plan on staying home. I also LOVE TO COOK, it’s a passion. :)

[@TheSweetForever]

How it should be. I love this concept. I love when women don’t depend on a man to take care of them 🙌🏾 like they are crippled.

[@phugh3878]

That's great that you are his free piece of ass. He doesn't even have to spend a dime on you !! Good for him. And he can save his money up to impress his side chick !

[@malonso212004]

P Hugh no no I said we were married-We stopped having sex years ago 🤣 you seem like one frustrated person. Good luck and God bless 😘

[@Bianca.Nceeee]

Why does The Real Break a 5 min video into 2 parts? seriously strop trolling us

[@Dan1ella]

For that 💸💸 I guess

[@wimbletone]

i'm not from the US so idk and i have adblock on, but do you guys get ads when you watch the real? if you do then that's the reason. they break videos into clips so ur forced to watch part 2, part 3 etc. and each video has ads, so you're forced to watch two ads or more ads if they split the videos into clips. i think they get money off of it, too.

[@madenaknight214]

Same here, w/ ads (Bahamas). They've uploaded longer, clip in the past. It's just a revenue thing. I've had other channel, videos cut mid center. Minus Wendy one ad, through out

[@devourskull8542]

they get more views because obviously you'll wanna watch the other part 2 video

[@NotAMuse]

Someone needs to teach their KZbin/Social Media tech person that you can add more than one ad into a video if they’re worried about money. I think maybe they’re trying to rack up their ‘views’ for the numbers. Dumb. But what can you do.

[@ruxz-ujdkr]

No Adrienne....that doesn't make sense. It's not that situation. So let's not get carried away.

[@catierollins8493]

Khalia Milton lol they are always getting off track

[@pink_magical_girl]

Khalia Milton she NEVER gets it. 😑

[@xxcruiserlove26xx]

ikr she always makes up all these hypothetical situations that have nothing to do with the question

[@michite7435]

Khalia Milton there are situations where people rent out their rooms to college students or something like that...so I get what Adrienne was saying.

[@tovahcastillo987]

Lol

[@jmatthews5685]

If I was the girl, I would rather just live alone and continue to pay my own rent until were married. Married men should provide.

[@ShaunHensley]

ABSOLUTELY! If a woman wants to be a leech, cut her as loose. She’s a user.

[@phugh3878]

And you're broke and useless

[@j0j0_369]

Loni look like she is so over this topic...

[@y.c2935]

NATALIE J right ! I find her disrespectful at times when she makes faces when the other girls disagree with here .... like that’s the whole point of the show LOL

[@divinalove8525]

She always looks like that and it’s annoying

[@daughterofchrist550]

They both should contribute. Unless otherwise specified. The conversation definitely should happen.

[@smithmarina970]

I would never pay for a house that is not in my name , that's just stupidity, and will he be doing part of the chores.

[@indigos0ul]

I don't like the word "charge". Yes, if we're living together we can both contribute, but you're not "charging" me anything. I'm not paying YOU, WE'RE paying it together. It's all about connotation.

[@KT12346]

Nicole. I agree

[@TheJuiicymelanie]

Ehh I agree with Tamera, I’m old school. If my man buys a house, I don’t honestly think I should help “pay rent”. But as my job as a women and a partner, I’ll help balance everything out. I will take care of the house. I will clean that house, I will decorate that house, I will buy groceries for that house, I’ll help make it a HOME! Simple. Anything he gives me, I’ll flip it and make it even better. that’s just me though!

[@robinlight]

That1_mel I'm the SAME WAY!! Plus it goes back to what I've seen. My parents were like that, my dad told my mom you don't have to work I got this. She made the house home!! Well said.

[@WiCkEDLADYCRYBABY]

Same !

[@ourhomeiscool]

That is what I do also! If his shirt have a hole, it goes to the trash and when he realizes there is a new one on it’s place. LOL It’s about taking care of each other!

[@joyfullifestyle2665]

Your response is the best!!! I agree! I will make sure we're good by saving us money, having food to eat, making sure we look good but dont say "oh you got to pay rent half every month.... Oh pay half of everything...." If i have to when we're in need i will but that's not what guys in this century want. They want the woman to do the cooking, cleaning, raise kids and also pay for half of everything!!! It's either im the man of the house or you OR we do everything half CLEANING, COOKING, BILLS AND TAKE CARE OF THE KIDS

[@maharawchaa]

That1_mel I agree 1000% that's what I'm trying get the other ppl n the comments more previous to this to get but it's like I'm tlkn to a bunch of kids !

[@MajesticMyronn]

Honestly i think that there needs to be a compromise and if you're gonna move in with your partner then you have to be willing to accept some responsibilities & pay as well because you now also live here! It's only fair!

[@KiannaDarling]

Myronn Coleman I

[@gigimoore4529]

Myronn Coleman totally agree

[@thatssocrystal5715]

All I know is that my dad pays all of the bills and my mom buys the groceries and takes care of the house. If you wanna play house that's the real way to play it but if you want a roommate then yes split everything in half. I would not buy a house with my boyfriend, isn't that something you should do with your husband??? The couple needs to have a conversation and figure out where the relationship is heading before making such drastic decisions.

[@jonnydavis6066]

Crystal Chinaelo nope. Women need to pay 50/50

[@thatssocrystal5715]

jonny davis I agree that boyfriend and girlfriend should pay 50/50 but not husband and wife. I guess I'm old school like Tam🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Dilenga23]

jonny davis if women are paying 50/50 men need to do household chores 50/50

[@SenorMeinKrafter]

Where does this idea that men don't do chores? Y'all are ignorant morons. All y'all have no experience in the real world.

[@thatssocrystal5715]

Señor MeinKrafter2020 everyone does not have the same lifestyle so you are the ignorant one my friend. In some households the man works long hours and the women does not so it would not be so fair to him to come home after long hours and start doing chores if his wife has more time to spare or vice versa

[@JammyG360]

If I have to pay rent in HIS house, I'd rather go pay rent somewhere else, we don't HAVE to live together. If we're making a big move like moving in together then both of our names should be on the lease or co-ownership agreement. We're NOT gonna have a fall-out and then u get to kick me out, then I'm left homeless, nope! If she decides to move in then she should be paying utility bills, and buy some furniture etc. but I'm not giving half on a mortgage my name is not on. Edit: According to the law after a certain time he won't be able to kick her out so if he charge her rent then he can give her a certain time to leave. So i say don't move in with anyone unless u have some level of security. Look it up common law rights, property rights act. I will say i don't think they should bring up topics like this without having a full understanding of the laws, they would be helping more people if they didn't just give an opinion on a topic but have the facts. This is no joke, i watch court shows now and then this come up a lot, let's not shack up with people y'all without knowing our rights. I say this bcuz they're ppl that own their homes and let "bae" move in then "bae" end up kicking them out. Be smart.

[@cjatani3828]

Literally the response i was looking for in the comment section!

[@sesayida]

Exactly !!! That’s what I was thinking

[@sundayrain9086]

Sis I love you for this comment

[@mykittiespuppy1972]

So you'd rather pay rent and help a landlord pay their mortgage than contribute to your loved ones living expenses? Really, what's the difference? It's most likely cheaper than renting your own place. Also, shoe on the other foot, would you really let a man move in and live cost free or for significantly less cost than you? It's not like we're talking about paying for renovations, updates or repairs.

[@Nash0303]

Thank you!

[@angie5957]

Id understand if they planned to BOTH invest in buying a house together or renting an apartment together but the statement said HE'S buying the house and she's going to live WITH HIM. That to me suggests that with or without his girlfriend he was planning to pay the mortgage on his own anyway. So why charge her if he's capable of doing so. (If that's the case) It also depends on her financial ability. If she pays rent, then they just roomates. If not rent though I do definitely think she should contribute to electricity, water food etc., since they both are using the utilities.

[@jonnydavis6066]

Angie Reveles Because she's LIVING with him. if she had her own place then no.

[@robinlight]

Angie Reveles mortgage hot rent. If he's buying the home he's paying a mortgage.

[@Wealthybaby]

That’s exactly how I see it, I would offer to pay something else, but def not Rent

[@sasasavage5047]

I'm honestly surprised this is even a debate. Of course she should pay rent, she is living there too and they aren't married. If she wasn't living with him she would still have to pay rent somewhere else. She should pay half of everything if she can afford to. Whether that means her money goes towards all the utilities and he puts his towards the mortgage doesn't matter to me, but she needs to contribute.

[@loisrattler8448]

Angie Reveles It seems to me as if he wants her to help pay for his house.

[@jaemukbang3725]

I need to date white men like Tamara does so I can have the same reaction to this topic as her

[@jammminjazz6803]

Kink B lol

[@SuAlteza92]

Funny af

[@babeyfre5h]

😂😂😂

[@Wealthybaby]

🤦🏽‍♀️😂😂😂 petty

[@ourhomeiscool]

She is coming from a marriage stand point. When you are already committed and are family with someone, there are certain things that are not that big deal and common sense to both spouses (things you discussed when you were dating). She didn’t live together before marriage, so I completely understand where she is coming from.

[@ShoroukA]

Helping with bills is one thing, paying rent to a house he owns is something else!

[@hortonhearscrying]

My friends dad pays for his rent and college but this dude charges his girlfriend of 5 yrs half the bills. Hes using her tf up.

[@Godlywoman88]

Smh, these men just want help. They don't want to be providers anymore.

[@Angela-wv4yw]

I personally would not want to be with a man that makes me go half on everything like 2 roommates. If he is suppose to be my man, then I expect him to act like one. I’m with Tamera, I’m just traditional in that way. But if he can’t afford it, then I wouldn’t want to be with that type of guy in the first place.

[@Godlywoman88]

EXACTLY!

[@2phoness]

Remember Tamara is a celebrity she making $$$$$$ a year and her husband of course they don't think like regular people. Lmaoo

[@didinkwocha294]

2 Phones I don't think it has to do with how much she makes in this situation. She's like me where she has a traditional outlook when it comes to a relationship

[@evolutionofwords]

That’s not it. She didn’t live with a man before marriage. So it wasn’t a factor.

[@saints0931]

evolutionofwords she was still not a normal person

[@sheeraabd3558]

"Does that make sense?". The most overused sentence on this show.

[@ChechenGirl]

Look up studies done on how men and women split the bills and household tasks. Study after study will show you that no matter how much money a woman brings in to share with the bills, she still ends up doing the majority of the household tasks. Women end up getting the short end of the stick in the majority of situations. So for those men saying the women should split the bills 50/50, you better not be like the subjects of those studies and actually contribute to doing 50% of the household tasks too instead of leaving it to your woman.

[@lovexoxo251]

Exactly! Thank You!!

[@katekamerun1550]

S S Tell it Sister! Well said!

[@CourtneyA.]

Exactly. These days society expects women to pay half the bills as well as do household duties and take care of the kids. On rare occasions, you'll hear about men cooking, cleaning, or taking care of the kids. But for the most part, women have been doing most of that, and then some. It's ridiculous.

[@tatl6244]

Don't do the chores. It is up to the women to not take the abuse.

[@highway955]

the problem here is most women only think of dishes, laundry, dusting, meals etc as housework. when i see women out there fucking with the plumbing, shingles, oil changes, snow removal, weed wacking, shrubs, sheet rock, etc then you might have a point. wheres the 50/50 in other things home related?

[@shanycebt7850]

If you want me to pay rent, I'd rather get my own place. However, I will chip in in other ways. If you can't handle the rent on ur own while I support you in other ways, u not ready for our future

[@ATrueLoveOfficial]

If you own the house, no you should not charge a rent to your partner. However, you need to share on paying the bills and other necessities. If you don't own the place and actually renting it, then you have to split everything including the renting fee.

[@JenJHayden]

ATrueLove,com let's be honest here most people do not own their house. they have a mortgage and the last time i checked it does not pay itself.

[@sundayrain9086]

J. Jo I'm also not helping you pay your mortgage if my name is not on the ownership papers. If you want tenants to help you pay your house then put it out there bluntly that your house has rooms for rent so that I know that I'm here as a tenant.

[@alicemoore2700]

Uptown fights

[@kerrian2731]

It's not about being white . I was raised that men should be the provider. It's okay if I want to pay or contribute but for my partner to mandate me to pay rent...he is not a provider. Let me offer of my own will. All the men in my family growing up took care of the household.

[@jerrelCbanks]

@@kerrian2731 lol men are providers yet women earn just as much as men do nowadays, hell often times more. This isnt the old days, im finding that many women nowadays want to have their cake and eat it too. You want the man to bear the responsibility/burden and you to only be a supplement, but you also want equal say so(and pay) in what goes on.... you can't have it both ways ladies. If the man is the provider then youte gonna have to drop those dreams of making equal pay in the workfield. If you want equal pay then you have to bear equal responsibilities. And that goes for men and women..alot of men want a woman to cook clean etc, but they're barely able to pay the Bill's on time.

[@ladylove32219]

There is no "chipping in". As long as both of you have income you both pay the bills. The burden should not be on one person.

[@blamafor]

I am here with Tami. I am old school too African born and Raised. The man pays for EVERYTHING!! Roommates and friends split the rent couples don't. If the woman is supportive which most women are, she will assist her man and make sure they are both saving something but a man asking his woman for rent? That is am American low.

[@Destinay4lyf]

blamafor exactly!

[@23imansaray]

A boyfriend and girlfriend buying a house together is pretty stupid. It doesn't make any finical sense to buy a house with your boyfriend or girlfriend, because when you break up, one of you are going to be stuck with the burden of the house. When a husband and wife buy a home, they already know how they are going to mange the expense, because they are going to make the plans and figure out how both parties are going to contribute to the expense of the house.

[@rukayyahibrahim4186]

I think they both should contribute especially if they earn about the same salary.

[@vianjelos]

@Eden Grey She is getting a roof over her head tho...no one is asking her to pay 50% of the mortgage but at least some form of rent and utilities.

[@madmann1000]

The problem with these discussions is they always focus on the financial part but fail to realize that essentially, a woman will do more for the household than a man. Women generally do most of the child rearing, cooking, cleaning and also dealing with groceries and finances on kids. To top that off with making them pay half the rent and bills is not balanced!

[@angienew8499]

i totally agree with you. With all the work the woman puts in to make sure the house is running smoothly it would not be fair for the husband to expect her to pay 50% of the house-bills. But I guess this is a discussion everyone should have with their partner before they settle down.

[@ChechenGirl]

Jamal Vines Do you have studies, research, or anything to back up that “women don’t do all that anymore”? That’s funny, because a simple Google search will give you results of universities and research institution that provide recent studies that prove otherwise. No matter how much money the woman contributes to paying the bills, women, especially today, still do most of the household tasks compared to men. If men want women to contribute to paying the bills fairly, then he should also do his faith share of the house work and not be a lazy ass when he comes home from work, and not leave the majority of it to the woman.

[@angienew8499]

Jamal Vines you can continue lying to yourself if it makes you happy

[@69Fabulosity]

"PREACH" TAKE'M 2CHURCH"!!!

[@user-ty3yh8sb5y]

Boss boss that barely takes any work lol why do you think men do it rather than doing work INSIDE the house?

[@faithgreenleaf9424]

1) Is my name on the lease or deed.2) Can he afford to take care of me 🤔3) I would never move in with my boyfriend because i need a husband. Playing house will get you no where.

[@alreem9891]

Clearly Tamera's never lived on her own lol

[@2phoness]

Alreem fr

[@SuAlteza92]

She has actually...

[@cccody50]

she actually had a beautiful apartment she had for a while and Adam moved in with her after they got married before they bought their house together

[@NotAMuse]

I believe she did. She just always had that Sister, Sister money to pay her bills so she wasn’t struggling and didn’t have to ask Adam to help her out. LOL, must be nice.

[@taiyonatiare7918]

She rich 😂 thats why

[@christinarouse1209]

If you have no power in your household because you don’t pay the rent you’re not in a relationship built on love you’re in a business transaction honey.

[@dee007noche]

Any relationship is built on transactions. Even love. Would you love someone if they dont benefit you? Happiness, physically, spiritually, etc? Thats transactional

[@DynamicUnreal]

Darren Rose You can love someone even when they don’t benefit you, that’s why it’s called *love.* Being with someone because they benefit you only makes you a shameless superficial parasite.

[@if.i.dusse_somyself7683]

@@DynamicUnreal but this is exactly what most women are implying. They dont want to be with a man unless they benefit in the form of a man paying for everything. Sounds very parasitic to me.

[@ladyJ_000]

Tamara grow up with your “old school mentality “ this is 2018 girlfriend

[@sethm3856]

Jeannie, he's still gonna take advantage because at the end of the day it's his house and she's a flatmate in his home. Unless he writes up a formal lease and charges her bond money and lodges the bond (or however it works in the US) she still has no rights, she's just paying for the privilage of being a guest in someone elses home.

[@ObedienceOrSacrifice]

I'm not paying "rent" anywhere that you can decide to evict me from and I'm not entitled to any of the equity that I've helped you build in that "house" but I would be more than happy to split all the utilities 50/50, personally I would never and have never "shacked" up with anyone.

[@WifeandWifeTV]

ObedienceOrSacrifice this!!

[@Hooked_on_ray]

I'm not splitting everything 50/50, I want a husband not a roommate. Now I will contribute to the bills because the cost of living is high but you not about to hound me for 525.69 every month! Don't @ me I said what I said!

[@serwalee3266]

RayBay ! 😂😂😂 Lmaooo

[@nicolejackson1268]

Ray Bay ! I agree 💯

[@Wealthybaby]

😂😂 Facts

[@indiabroussard2350]

Okaaaaaaaaaaaay💁🏽

[@ourhomeiscool]

I agree one hundred percent! Might as well stay single then, people get the contribution thing wrong! You can contribute to the running of household in so many ways other than money.

[@milamonroe6818]

A man is supposed to provide and take care of his family unless he isn't capable of it, if he is then there's no reason why I'm gonna be splitting everything. I'm old school

[@eddiekruggerr4972]

Being Selectively traditional is lame

[@TheSweetForever]

That sounds so stupid 😂. Sounds like you want a father rather than a partner. A man to provide for you that’s what a father does. How about get a job and contribute. We as women are allowed to work now. What a crazy idea.

[@aann7132]

The Sweet Forever go watch SheraSeven1 and thank me later.

[@navyboy120]

Your pld school when in comes down to women contributing but women are in great financial shape. Sounds selfish to me. MTOW

[@spartanman5231]

Akia W I Love You I agree that is crazy I have been saying that always

[@jojopemb2218]

A working woman should contribute to the household when they are MARRIED and living together. That’s why I don’t play house. If ur living with ur boyfriend or girlfriend splitting all the bills down the middle, y’all are just roommates who share the same bed.

[@GS-oz3se]

I think this situation is only different because he is buying the house for a long term investment, separate from her. In a decade, if they get married, it would me uncomfortable to be living in a house I didn't help buy. I also wouldn't want don't like the idea that she pays for half of the house, they break up, she moves out, and now he has all the rights to a house she helped contribute to.

[@smithmarina970]

Gabbi S either way it sucks

[@dani45216]

I agree because in this specific case the house is in his name, so why should she help pay for a mortgage that is in someone else's name! It is not like the mortgage is in both of their names, so I don't think she should pay towards the rent. I think they should split everything else though, including food, gas, electricity, broadband ect.

[@lovexoxo251]

Yea I agree, that would be sad.

[@faizasaeed1000]

anyone who watches Carli Bybel haha i think they had similar problem, coz Carli bought a big house while she was with her bf and when she broke up with him, she sold the house and is building her own home now, so yh i think the gf should contribute to paying electricity bills, water bills and so on! but the house is a long term thing u shouldn't associate with anyone even the person ur married to coz even if u get divorce the person will move out without claiming ur house!

[@faizasaeed1000]

so yh i think the reason Carli sold the house was her bf probably paid half of the house money or something like that!

[@carolellamuch9571]

She should not pay rent but utilities and food Periodt!!!! I'm not paying no rent I can live alone

[@icanthelpbutwndr]

I love Tamera and all, but giiiirl its the 21st century, people share and split the costs of things all the timeeeee

[@joenebelski9422]

They want equality but not this type of equality 🙄

[@identityiskey]

Jeannine.... Girl!!!!! You speak my soul!!! Love you

[@Qharrison1978]

Yes, contribute

[@smilealwaysnatasha3423]

Q Hart straight to the point lol.

[@truli91]

Then she should have full rights as a tenant. This means he needs to annonce when hes invanding her privicy and he cant kick her out without a notice. He also needs to pay taxes to the state. If that's ok with you then all is right.

[@tricemarie]

Thank you Loni 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I knew she would bring good sense to the table

[@kellyjessielisa]

So let me get this right he owns the home she’s paying for so when he sells it he’s pretty much cashing out on what she put in. It’s not an expense it’s an asset if she’s going to pay she should own half.

[@GO-nh6br]

My house is paid off..i told my girlfriend congribute 500 a month, and she said no, she still rents her 1 bedroom apartment for 1500 a month plus bills,😅 woman want everything from a guy, you want a hard working loyal guy, 6 feet tall 6 figures, but won't contribute because is not her house, ok than keep paying someone else 1500 a month😅

[@erinslife_sincerelyerinnn]

No Adrienne that doesn’t make sense

[@messouanais]

What on earth. Yes they should pay bills not rent lol . Were they not paying to leave where they were . Hahaha please .

[@1sava]

Making your girlfriend pay you rent in YOUR house is WRONG, point blank period. If you had the money to go buy you a house, you SHOULD have the wherewithal to pay the mortgage. OF COURSE, the girlfriend HAS to contribute in some way, shape or form and help out around the house in any way that she CAN. This is just common sense and the logical progression of getting into a domestic cohabitation/partnership with someone else, whether you're married or not. But don't go get a house, ask your partner to move in, and then suddenly expect them to help you with the mortgage right off the bat. It's a shame that he had to go to Reddit to ask strangers, instead of having a discussion with his girlfriend in the first place. If I was her, I would break up in instant and call this relationship a day. He is NOT loyal! #NEXTCAAAAAAASE

[@jetnight88]

Sava but she is living in the house and when you’re living in a house you pay some money

[@jetnight88]

Sava if you are my love interest then you’re paying money to stay in the house

[@noellecauble3796]

My husband has never asked me for a dime even before we were married lol. I cook, clean and take care of the kids.

[@strategygalactic]

@@noellecauble3796 that is your payment

[@tony3879]

Disagree with u brutha. Pay bills in some shape or form is bullshit. If u get into a relationship knowing both of u work then both contribute down the middle. If she doesnt work then u have to have that conversation because in the end i are taking all the risk. I guarantee that if u get her pregnant or live with her long enough for cohabitation; she will get the house the car and half ur bank account. That is why things should be equal unless u go into the situation knowing she is not going to work and u are okay with the risk.

[@Skyte777]

I like how she slick took shots trying to say Men are mostly the freeloaders trying to stay with females free of Bill's but then at the same time trying to advocate for women do the same very thing???

[@sabaande]

No I wouldn't pay rent lol. I've never dated men who would dare ask me that in the first place. Established, trafitional, alpha-type men typically pay for the woman they love.

[@sabaande]

@Lamar Brown Not every woman is a feminist ;)

[@marquiwill1]

@@sabaande just say youre a leach and really dont offer men anything.. dont make it seem like a better grade of men are out there, and that they deserve you of all women..

[@sabaande]

@@marquiwill1 Then I'm sorry that you haven't yet met the right woman who brings a lot of value to your life. Just do a better job of choosing her and you'll naturally do everything to make her happy and have an easier life. It's never about leaching off men...it's about you both getting what you want from each other. 👍

[@phugh3878]

Smart girl. I’m the same.

[@moorecandy2790]

NO! She should not pay rent! HE should pay RENT 100% That's what real MEN do!

[@phugh3878]

Thanks. A smart comment.

[@shecops985]

“I guess I’m just old school” says Tamera always..🙄

[@tiffanyjones2710]

Yes, because she has to preface what she's about to say for fear of being judged by a bunch of foolish heathens who have no morals.

[@MsMockingbird06]

It depends on the culture. My husband is from Ghana and I can't imagine him asking me to pay rent when we were dating if he bought the house. When we were dating and living separately, he volunteered to regularly buy my groceries. Now that we're married, I don't regularly contribute to bills, but I pay child care expenses, my student loans, and contribute to our savings and retirement. My husband sees being the provider as being responsible for our living expenses.

[@phugh3878]

African men are more traditional.

[@ohhthatemma]

As a couple they should both contribute to bill and utilities, if he expects her to pay rent then he should expect to treat her like a tenant. We're not sleeping in the same room for me to pay you as my landlord. Bills is one thing, rent is unnecessary.

[@djennej3580]

Emma Mufundi Thank you 👏🏽 I feel like everyone is misunderstanding the question. He’s buying the house, not renting it out. I felt like he was thinking he should charge her to stay there (outside of normal financial contributions to the household). Why even move in as a couple then?

[@ohhthatemma]

Djenne J exactly! I’m not renting the space in the bed beside you. Either you’re looking for a tenant or you want me to move in as your partner and we share the cost of living in our joint household. You can’t have both.

[@lelelew2735]

exactly that's what tamera was asking alot of people misunderstood. It's not fair to make her pay rent but she's sharing her space with you if your paying rent your paying for personal space and utilities. not to share your bed and bathroom with your so called bf he should just give her a bill to pay

[@highway955]

reverse the positions and i guarantee you wouldnt be singing the same tune.

[@navyboy120]

Really! Bc there's a responsibility to keep shelter and you have to do contribute there's a hold on sex? He'll naw... Get out and get on. Your are no value. Women want to earn and keep their money and pay nothing. Where's the equality now? Bs...

[@niceyh.2529]

If my friend is looking for a place to rent, I will rent to her. If I want my friend to move in with me, she doesn't have to pay rent. If your man wants you to live with him, then you shouldn't pay rent. You don't say "hey, let's move in together, and you can pay half of the rent too! ". Because then you are using her to lower your bills. If you both agree to move in together to lower both your rent, then sure, but that's based on more of a business agreement than a relationship agreement

[@melancey]

THE PANEL LOOKIN FIREEEE 🔥 love you girls 💚

[@kelleyb]

I can contribute in others ways, but I will not be paying no rent.

[@ChechenGirl]

Yes, she should help with the rent and other bills. And he shouldn’t freeload and expect a housemaid either. He has to do the household tasks fairly exactly as they split the bills.

[@nfvy8111]

S S except she wouldn’t be helping with a rent, she’d be helping with a mortgage on a house that’s only under his name. What if they split? He’s going to own that house entirely.

[@ChechenGirl]

VII I guess that makes sense. But my point is, if she is helping with bills, he’s got to help with the house chores too, fairly.

[@tiffanyjones2710]

Splitting the bills and rent is some new age "masculinity." Real men PROVIDE for their homes and wives, while the women run the home (even if she works outside of the home; her money can go to savings). Both SPOUSES are still playing their parts. But what does a woman look like paying half of the rent? She might as well be a man or a roommate, because that surely is not how a wife ought to be treated. How can he feel like a man asking his wife to go 50/50 with him when he should be capable of paying all of the bills? He'd have to pay all the bills anyway if he lived alone. A real man will honor, love, and respect his wife fully regardless of if she pays half of the bills/rent. The reason is because he knows his God-ordained role, and his love for her is not based on her ability to pay bills. He is drawn to her spirit, mind, and beauty. And no, those things don't pay the bills. He does! She brings an entirely different offering to the relationship and home, and a real man will appreciate that. Bottom line: all the men that I have dated have felt uncomfortable if I even offered to pay the tip at a restaurant, so you know how they would feel about me paying rent if we were ever married. New age "masculinity" is no masculinity at all!

[@stevenhiggins3055]

Nope, if real men provide, real women stay home and do all the housework. Sorry, but you don't get to have it both ways.

[@if.i.dusse_somyself7683]

Its funny how women get to define what a "real man" is. Real women dont talk back to their men. Real women have dinner ready every night and have sex with their men when they demand it. Doesnt this sound a bit... unfair? It only sounds unfair because it only benefits men. The same as a man paying for everything, which only benefits women.

[@seansami6275]

Women are always "old school" when it benefits them lol but very feministic when that suits them too

[@lumieredarling3739]

If they break up, the house is still going to be his. Why invest in a house that isn’t partially hers if they break up? But she should definitely contribute with utilities/groceries/satellite/cable. I understand if they’re married and they both have ownership of the house in the end. But if they break up, that house is still going to be in his name and she will have helped him buy it. He will own property and what will she own? A memory? No thank you.

[@tatl6244]

Then she should live on her own. When you pay rent, it always go to the owners. Even if she lives on own renting, she will still own nothing.

[@truli91]

@@tatl6244 yeah but in case of a break up he can throw her out in a day. A landlord cant do that. A landlord also needs to announce his visits and pay his taxes. This guys is getting helped buying a house and she gets nothing. She woulf have more advantages living in cheap rent than living with him.

[@guppy0112]

@Eden Grey I wish women would make up their minds- one minute you're saying that women have higher libidos, are more passionate, more adventurous than a guy; next minute, you're saying that only men want sex! Women are so sex driven, they end up having sex with plastic devices when they are not getting any!!!

[@dee007noche]

Now you know how men feel with marriage

[@blackrock4110]

I’m sure she will try to accidentally get pregnant and secure the house by legal action.

[@tiyahtirvana]

Okay clearly the only one who understands this question is Tamera, bills and rent are completely different. The man is trying to charge his girlfriend that he allowed to move in RENT, it's not about her helping PAY the rent it's him actually charging her to pay her own set payment of rent to him. It's not "he's going half and she's going half" it's him charging HER to pay to live there. That I do not agree with, she's better off living alone than with him in this situation until they are ready to get married.

[@4evertwins1]

I’m old school af so don’t judge me, but I just feel like if a man is the man of the house then he needs to be able to pay the all of the bills. I just feel like how can you expect to be the head of my household and I’m helping you pay bills. That doesn’t mean that I think that a woman should not play her part. I also don’t understand having bills with someone and playing wife to someone you are not married too. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@CKMLMA8]

That doesn't even sound old school that just sounds entitled. Head of household doesn't mean you have more finances. At the end of the day you need to be doing something for the relationship and for the situation. If you're grown and you have the ability to help pay the bills and you're not, unless that's something you guys agreed upon beforehand, then what exactly are you doing?

[@stevenhiggins3055]

The world has changed. There is no "head of the houshold" anymore, couples are partners. In everything. So they should be sharing responsibility. Women work now, so they can contribute, and if they can, they should. If you want your man to be a the "provider" and take care of you, then you'd better be staying home doing the housework. You don't get to live a modern lifestyle and still cling to oldschool values.

[@if.i.dusse_somyself7683]

Old school when its convenient. Old school women were also to be seen and not heard. They gave their husbands sex on demand and were often subjected to abuse and treated like objects. Husbands owned their wives. Women today seem to have an over inflated value of themselves. You really think cooking and in cleaning in 2019 is an equal contribution to a relationship? What if there arent any kids in the picture?

[@vikingshark2634]

My last fiancee (I say last 'cause, never again) moved in to my place on the understanding that everything would be 50/50. That never materialized of course, turned into zero effort on her part. But our initial agreement was "yes, you're gonna pay half the rent". Now if she would have said "Hello no, I'm not paying rent" BUT...I came home every day and the place was clean and relaxing and smelled like flowers and the laundry and dinner was done? Then "hell no" she ain't paying rent. If my fiancee was like "you're the man, your role is this" but also went full on "I'm the woman, this is my role" we'd probably be married today. Instead she laid up on the couch contributing no effort and no money until I kicked her out.

[@vikingshark2634]

@@if.i.dusse_somyself7683 I'd say if I worked all day and came home and just got to Netflix and chill without being handed a list of chores and complaints, and all the household stuff was already taken care of and I didn;t have to worry about anything outside of work and paying the bills....that would be equal enough for me. I don't need her to share expenses. I wouldn't do it in real life though because I'm redpilled af and not risking losing what I have in divorce court. But the thought is nice.

[@emg.9246]

I have no problem going half on bills but that man better not think he’s the sole head of the household. If I’m paying half the bills I’m also the head of that household and he better treat me as his equal. And if we going half on bills we also going half on cleaning and cooking. He can’t try to make me a house wife but expect me to pay half on everything.

[@NotAMuse]

I’m with Loni. Be an adult and have a convo about it BEFORE you move in with the other person. Love makes you blind, stupid, and horny and it’s gonna be really hard to ask for money after the fact that they moved in and got used to not paying any money, ya know?

[@sabrina.natalie]

Every time the question is asked or the girl chat is getting ready to begin, Adrienne is always the first one to speak and give her opinion. Anyone else notice that? I wonder if they purposely designed it that way or if that's just how it usually happens.

[@TT-wj1kx]

i'm with Tamera! we're not playing house!

[@ImDirtyDani]

T T boom! Skr8 like that

[@kparm23]

danielle reeves what..

[@stardustblue]

Then why move in and free load?

[@TT-wj1kx]

RoyGBiv M there is no moving in until an engagement!

[@beautifulsoul7093]

If your not paying bills as an adult...then wouldnt that be considered as "playing" house as a freeloader living in your bf's house?

[@4bfam]

Tamera is the only one who understand the question. lol. He said rent. Not should I ask her to help out. He offered for her to move into his home. So no she doesn't pay rent. Now if he had said should I ask her to help with the expenses then okay...have a discussion.

[@ariadnebene8413]

4bfam Yeah, I think she got stuck on the "charge her rent" part. I did too when I read the title. It sounded very much like, even though they are living in the same place, the boyfriend was a landlord and she was some lowly tenant.

[@lebhotshorty]

Thank god im Arab, you ain’t moving in til you married! I never understood the purpose of getting married after you moved in, you’ve already done everything a married couple would do! Ruins the whole thing

[@AJwhy]

Yerp! Why buy the cow if can get the milk free!

[@chec786]

Ocean lights right! Thank الله for Islam 🤗😊

[@edwardcoats8776]

No eating at the table if you're not bringing anything to it.

[@cecemac988]

Y’all totally missed the point. He’s buying the house which means he won’t have any rent/mortgage payment only utilities and upkeep of the house. No she shouldn’t pay rent because there’s no rent due since he OWNS the house. She should help pay for the bills and upkeep.

[@tovahcastillo987]

My fiancé and I live together “been living for a few years now “..He pays everything ... He’s very successful and he doesn’t want me to pay anything .. Because well,I got myself a good man.. I know how to pick them ... I would NEVER picked a broke man or a cheap man or I’ll just stay single .. Girls,know how to pick em .. If your man ask you to split the rent ...NEXT.. ewoo no you broke ..

[@phugh3878]

Yes. Very smart girl.

[@TheGoalisSublime]

if I'm going 50/50 on bills with a man then we going 50/50 on household duties. Don't expect to come home to a home cooked meal every night. I need a home cooked meal too

[@phugh3878]

@Boss boss you wouldn’t be able to protect anybody anyways.

[@Jaimelikegem]

I'm with Tamera on this one. I don't believe in living together before marriage, but ultimately it's the man's responsibility to take care of finances. Ive never dated a man that's even thought to think its appropriate for that to be the other way around. And all you women saying, "yes it's my responsibility to pay for a house that isn't in my name", it'll be awfully embarrassing when you two break up and all that money you put into it means nothing bc your ass got kicked out. That man is your boyfriend and potentially your future husband. If you're okay with him treating you like a roommate, go figure. But that won't be me. Not today

[@rex2258]

Lol being a roommate is better than being a sex doll

[@OchannelUSA]

A woman who doesn't contribute to finances is a freeloader. If she cooks and cleans to compensate for not paying anything, she's basically a live-in maid he can bang. If they have kids, she can certainly be a stay-at-home mom as that's a temporary full-time job but once the kids are old enough to be in school most of the time, she better be working part-time and pitching in something. There are plenty of work from home gigs out there so there's no excuse for being entitled and lazy. It's the 21st century and it's all about equality.

[@y.d.343]

I can tell tameras husband pays for everything and she didnt want to say anything!. You go gurl!

[@jazrerunt6868]

Tamera looks so distraught and confused 😂😂👍🏾YAS gurl

[@20Renea10]

I see where Tamara is coming from... the term RENT sounds like yall aren't in a relationship... on to part 2 lol

[@canestrin.i]

I am going to side with Tamera.. If I was married, I would not pay rent. I think it is the responsibility of the man.

[@Kufo-Oriji4632]

Loni said it best

[@theresaresendez8471]

Couples are supposed to be a team so ii most definitely think the female should contribute financially. Especially if she has an income.

[@spartanman5231]

Yeah makes a lot of sense don't it

[@jasminevaliente96]

Oooo this topic crazy. Yes no grown adult should be living for free. If you ask me to move in from where I'm at and comfortable, into a house that doesn't have my name on it I'm not contributing 50/50. However, at the very least utilities, groceries, cleaning supplies, soap, tissue, just obvious stuff the house needs and were both using up.

[@Charlenedoesstuff]

Yes Tam “playing house”....lol

[@shaedavis53]

Everything should be split down the middle. Its the fairest way!

[@Dilenga23]

Taneshae Davis than that’s a roommate not your man.

[@nfvy8111]

Taneshae Davis okay, then put my name on the deed as well. I’m only paying for what’s OURS. I’ll be looking like a damn fool if I help a man pay his MORTGAGE and we end up splitting.

[@jetnight88]

Sugar no it’s equality

[@mykittiespuppy1972]

Blows my mind that they're expecting someone to not be expected to contribute to the living expenses. I'm sorry, if I'm paying a mortgage and anyone who isn't my parents moves in, they better pay half or an equal % of income. Why should they get to live for free while I foot the biggest living expenses? How is this even a question?

[@deejay4183]

Get a roommate. That's what that is.

[@coolkidella]

But paying rent is different from contributing to utility bills!

[@biggsydaboss3410]

Notice you have to add "utility" to the bills part. Is rent a bill or not?

[@newworldlord643]

Nope..even when I had a BROKE man he didnt dare come to me asking for money for no dam Bill's FOR HIS PLACE GTFOH!!

[@produstaaaa]

If I'm living with you and I'm paying rent or bills, my name is def on the lease or house. I'm not about to get kicked out with no repercussions.

[@amnedits4898]

WHAT IS UP WITH THE STYLING THIS EPISODE LOLLOL