Why Being Friends with Other Systems is Important | COLLABORATION!!

[@Stellar_Lake_sys]

"the normal people are staring" has become a bit of a running joke with us and the two other systems we live with whenever we talk about system things in public

[@cirrusfloccus6080]

The great thing is that I actually have been friends with a DID-system for years now (although they weren't diagnosed until recently) and after they told me I went like "hey, I should watch videos about this to educate myself about it" and I watched a bunch of videos and each time I was just like: "wait, this sounds like me" "oh no, that's exactly what I experience" "why do i have all these symptoms she just listed?" "is there did without amnesia?" Actually, I started hanging post-its all around the house to figure out whether I might have amnesia and just don't remember forgetting stuff. I was super stressed for a few weeks, but after really educating myself I think that I might have some kind of OSDD1 and I realized I can actually kinda ... bring my alters to front (not every time, but I can try and sometimes I succeed!) and it's actually helped me immensely, because one of my alters has severe social anxiety, but I'm this person who talks to random strangers on the street and hugs them (I don't usually do that, but I totally would! I love people :D) and when we have an important meeting, we kinda try to make me front, so that we won't be super awkward and scared and actually be able to talk to the people. I feel like I'm really getting my life together now! :) For the last years I've just been really frustrated because trauma therapy was helping a little bit, but overall it wasn't really doing anything and some of the standard therapy stuff even made us feel like crap and now it kinda all makes sense. :) Haven't talked to a therapist about it yet, because we stopped therapy, since it just wasn't helping anymore past the point were we managed to get a little better (which in retrospect just happened because I'm the host now, the former host is a mess (sorry :D), but I texted my old therapist and we're having an appointment in two weeks! :) Sorry for that long text, I'm just kinda happy right now! :)

[@WeAreAlexandra]

I really love this comment, it makes me so happy that you guys are working so hard and that things are starting to turn around! -Sandra

[@twinstarssystem2857]

holy shit that's exactly how it went with us -dark

[@sage6238]

“You are a cool person- you are cool peoples” I love that

[@Bixmy]

I am singlet but for now im trying to understand osdd so i can interact to my gf with osdd better and ur channel have been so helpful. Thanks a lot.

[@saminajackson7295]

I'd love to be able to make friends with another system someday, at the moment I don't know any. Thanks for an awesome video :)

[@CRYSTALNOODLES]

We'd love to be friends with you... we felt the same way and didn't know how to make friends that would accept our plural expierences and so we started a channel and talk candidly and honestly while we work out our stuff... we try to reply to every comment and have made a few close friends this way. If you don't want to be our friend, that's ok, but highly recommend this blogging / vlogging approach, we found so much support and encouragement from it. FB groups, Discord and IG have been helpful too.

[@HelloEmmaClare]

I want to say, I am so so grateful to Silver and everyone else in the Rings System for creating this channel. Seeing people talk about the things I experience in an understanding way has been crucial in developing self-acceptance, and feeling like I'm not alone with my struggles, or making it all up! Definitely going to check out the Alexandrite Systems channel! (I'm curious if that system name is inspired by Alexandrite from steven universe??

[@WeAreAlexandra]

Not directly, but we are big SU fans!

[@calonlocke9147]

This really makes me want to have plural friends to meet offline and look forward to being able to have that interaction... The closest we have is meeting a system friend before we knew of our own plurality. I feel like sometimes people who are alike do manage to find each other, even before knowing I hope to have something similar in the future, the way you express that freedom to be yourselves sounds like a wonderful experience - Frey, Locke System

[@stellarcascade7550]

I don’t know any systems outside of watching KZbin videos. I really wish I did because I think we really could benefit from such an understanding.

[@renee4609]

I need system friends. Or at least 1. It's hard to discuss situations to singlets

[@justanotherprofile]

Me too

[@CRYSTALNOODLES]

We'd love to be friends with you... we felt the same way and didn't know how to make friends that would accept our plural expierences and so we started a channel and talk candidly and honestly while we work out our stuff... we try to reply to every comment and have made a few close friends this way. Granted, not ever noodle in the system is a "good friend" so we might appear flaky... so If you don't want to be our friend, that's ok, but highly recommend this blogging / vlogging approach, we found so much support and encouragement from it. FB groups, Discord and IG have been helpful too.

[@dandelionsystem]

@ 8:45 where silver is talking about the base level dissociation I nodded for a bit and then thought you know lately I've been having periods of time where I'm not dissociated at all and its so foreign to me that every time i have to force myself not to panic

[@TheRingsSystem]

Mood 😊

[@sad_doggo2504]

12:12 This, so much. When we came out to a friend at work it seemed like all she wanted to do was change the subject, even though this was a huge deal for me and I just wanted to make her understand so that if we had some kind of crisis on the job, there was someone who could help. For a while I thought maybe I was obsessing, but... you're right! This affects everything. It affects how we view the world around us, it comes down to the core of our identity and those big questions about who we are and consciousness... we shouldn't have to feel so alone. - Holly

[@valeriariey3336]

thiss is legit my fave video

[@AhsetofAtum]

I'm glad you both managed to find eachother and become friends. I hope someday I will make a friend too...it's lonely. Take care, K

[@CRYSTALNOODLES]

We see that your comment is from over a year ago... but we are a new system and we can relate... We'd love to be friends with you if you're still looking for one... we felt the same way when we first reaching out to people and didn't know how to make friends that would accept our plural expierences and so we started a channel and talk candidly and honestly while we work out our stuff... we try to reply to every comment and have made a few close friends this way. Granted, not ever noodle in the system is a "good friend" so we might appear flaky... so If you don't want to be our friend, that's ok, but highly recommend this blogging / vlogging approach, we found so much support and encouragement from it. FB groups, Discord and IG have been helpful too.

[@WeAreAlexandra]

🦄It was a lot of fun filming this with you guys! We should do something again soon 💜

[@TheRingsSystem]

Yeah!!

[@reverendmothercheryl2276]

In my system we have the feeling of “yes and” meaning that if we meet someone who is speaking of something that might provoke confusion in other people we can accept what they are saying (yes) and then continue forward (and) with the conversation. There are eight of us in our system, and most singlets don’t identify the complexities so our having to explain has given us a desire to not make other people feel the need to explain to us.

[@daisychain4112]

Hi Silver and The Rings System.....and another really interesting, fun yet totally understandable informative and educational video! Thankyou on behalf of so many! XX

[@TheRingsSystem]

Thank you!! ❤️💕

[@drewharris7785]

Old video so hopefully you'll see this. Thanks for the very informative video! I'm relatively new friends with a system. I have A LOT of trouble differentiating between alters and knowing which alter I'm speaking with because they are SO GOOD at masking. I'd really appreciate some tips on recognizing which alter is out so I don't feel like an ass all the time and so that all the alters feel respected and recognized. Thank you!

[@maximalisticice]

Watching this video while being a singlet, makes me feel a little guilty...? I mean I research multiplicity a lot, mainly because I hope if I'll ever be close with "someone" multiple, I'll know enough to make them feel almost like they are talking to another multiple. I know it's not really possible, but I want to be the most supportive person about it, hah. I'm so thankful for you all and other multiples for educating us!

[@TheRingsSystem]

Even you just being here!!! Thank you so so much for all the research you’re doing! I appreciate you and those like you so much you have no idea. You’re going to be the people who help change the world for the better surrounding DID/OSDD stigma. Anyone with the disorder can spend a lot of time learning about it, but support from singlets like you is honestly invaluable. I feel like I didn’t talk about it as much in the video, but there really are some amazing singlets out there and we wouldn’t know what to do without y’all ❤️❤️

[@maximalisticice]

@@TheRingsSystem Thank you so much for answering, and all the positive words. I am now even more motivated to learning about you, and every other system willing to educate! Tbh I have no idea what else to write because I'm overwhelmed by the kindness you've shown me through this one comment. Have a wonderful day/night, whoever is fronting!! 💛

[@dorieorinix]

One thing i love even just online relationships with my system friends is the "im blurey and probably a bunch of people all at once right now" and have that not be confusing LOL

[@okboomer6882]

I'm not sure but I might have OSDD1b. The one thing that makes me doubt is that when we switch, it simply feels like my inner voice is push aside and another one takes it's place. Other wise, I can feel and remember most of the things happening (except that one moment where I'm thinking one thing and after a while, I realize one of my voices is still buying something). Then there's what's happening recently. I've been feeling empty lately, but when I let a voice front, again I can still feel a lot of what's happening, but the emptiness is gone and the personality is different, but it comes back when I front again. And then I doubt this again because they can change identifies if I (and they) want to, but they're always the same basic character: Someone similar to Spider-Man (or IS Spider-Man), a responsible one, an angry one, and a hedonistic one. Sometimes these aspects blend, sometimes they're separated (that's the case currently), and most of the time I don't control it. The voices just happen to take these aspects. But then I also have to consider that circumstances are different this time. I didn't make two of them. One manifested as I repress my anger (I was having a stressful week), and I eventually identified him as the original personality (that is, if I have this condition). The other one started manifesting as flashes in my head, and only now did we start talking to him. Then the other one, I identified as my 6th grade self (but he manifest as a 20 something years old that looks like Edward Norton) and when I let him front, he acts almost exactly how 6th grade me did (the only reason we don't allow him to front without someone else co-conscious). Then when I tried to get rid these voices, it never stays permanent and sometimes I can still hear one of them in my head. And now, one of us wants to integrate some alters because we're having a hard time handling all this

[@dorieorinix]

OMG TALKING ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME and feeling guilty or modding speech for other nonsystems. Thats such a huge one. Thank you

[@DracoSystem]

Great video! We were so so lucky that when we came out to our new group of friends, most of them had experience with other plurals! One good friend has another system friend and another is actually dating someone with DID! It's been so validating to be able to come out to these people and just accepted and understood right away. I know this isn't the norm for most, but it will be one day!

[@HelloEmmaClare]

Omg I had to pause the video to comment when Sandra said they have a cat in their system, we have a cat too!! Omg we got so excited!

[@WeAreAlexandra]

Omg!

[@sad_doggo2504]

Same here. 😊 She's a caramel tabby with golden eyes and gets verrry cranky when she gets hungry lolol - Cub

[@ElenaAideen]

Those dang cats! Ours is a leopard and pretty much only cares about food!

[@twinstarssystem2857]

We met our first fellow system in real life today in our school's Quarantine QSA group chat, and it's amazing. We can't meet in person, because of the current plague, but just having someone else to talk to was so. Amazing.

[@TheRingsSystem]

WOOOO That's amazing!! I'm so glad!! ❤️️ ❤️️ ❤️️

[@thenodesystem.2452]

Meeting you (and everyone else at the conference) was so amazing for all of us!! We all love y’all SO MUCH!!

[@TheRingsSystem]

We love yall too!! It was so amazing meeting you guys and everyone else there!

[@fienevandijk7224]

I'm not a system, but these are some good tips, for if I ever meet another system.

[@tiredatm]

yay!! hello again ♡ and nice to meet u sandra :)

[@13TheFurry]

Do you have any other videos about interjects? When you mentioned that I felt a HUGE click in my brain. I didn't know that was possible and is something I definitely want to hear more about

[@TheRingsSystem]

I don't yet BUT I have some resources for you! traumadissociation.com/alters.html#list (scroll down to fictional introjects and factual introjects) did-research.org/did/alters/functions.html (scroll to introjects) Hope that helps!

[@phoenixwilliams4306]

Man I'm so jealous of people who know systems IRL. Granted our system was only realized just recently and we don't really have any IRL friends at all yet for numerous reasons but anyway if there aren't really conventions for stuff like that near us do you have any tips for meeting systems? Also when it comes to singlet friends as well does anyone know how to tell people IRL about being in a system? Due to a traumatic upbringing I am really scared to tell people because I'm scared of not really just rejection but by encountering someone who would threaten us physically somehow (this isn't exactly logical but paranoia is a real bitch). Does anyone know how to tackle this fear or know how to find out if someone is trust worthy IRL?

[@TheRingsSystem]

There's a few common system meetups - In the US, there's a yearly Florida DID convention hosted by An Infinite Mind, and a smaller version in Boston in October I believe. There's a routine system meet up in Philly over the summer which is absolutely lovely, and I know there's a strong system community in Oregon, but unsure who/where to contact. I'd suggest testing the waters with "Oh! I stumbled across this youtuber the other day with DID - have you ever heard of it?" to gauge their reaction. If it goes well, you can come out to them, and if it goes unwell, you can always drop the conversation.

[@phoenixwilliams4306]

@@TheRingsSystem Oh that's so good to hear! We live in Oregon so we can try and look into that! And that sounds like a good idea we'll try that when/if it ever is applicable! Thank you so much!

[@serenxiia]

I love this video! I love the idea of system friends and hope to find some soon. I find it so important to find others who can relate to what you go through and your alters can make friends with other alters who can understand what they go through. This channel has helped us so much with our OSDD-1b discovery and we have a new channel to go check out now!

[@KeeganRusz]

2:30 ! That. Its like homecoming and communication feels freeër, like we can openly interact. We watch other DIDchannels and its like a positive trigger to us

[@havendidit]

"It's very rare for a singlet to actually do enough research on DID and OSDD to understand it to a conversational level with another system." Well turns out my past half a year of research on DID for a protagonist for a novel that I probably won't be finishing anytime int he foreseeable future might have had some use after all! Unless I turn out to have OSDD-1a. Still glad to know stuffs but I feel like I'd lose my singlet-who-knows-stuff status

[@TheRingsSystem]

Regardless of what you end up discovering about yourself, thank you so much for doing research!

[@havendidit]

@@TheRingsSystem I don't know any systems in person, but if I meet one I hope I can help them feel welcome and understood :)

[@magramirez5761]

We're moving to the east coast this summer! I hope I can somehow manage to stumble into the system scene around there! I don't know any other systems IRL or online and it's really isolating.

[@TheRingsSystem]

If you'd like, send the Alexandrite System or our system a message on twitter or tumblr - we're based in the east coast, and are hoping to get a larger system get-together network up and running! There's also a system meet up at the trans conference in Philadelphia, which is where we met!

[@abbiepancakeeater52]

reminds me of when an ex friend of mine told me he has DID and my response was just to be like "oh wow i didnt even notice have i spoken to any of your alters before?" at the time i didnt even know did was previously called mpd, now it turns out i have osdd 2 years later haha

[@abbiepancakeeater52]

but anyway, my current friend group is super accepting and supportive of me and my alters, aside from one recent slip-up where a new(?) alter decided to reveal itself and purposely freak everyone out.

[@ElenaAideen]

Very recently are aware of being plural and the I/we crud is the worst! We had to basically just tell a lot if the people we interact with regularly, just get used to us using the plural when referring to ourselves. Half of them were, " oh, I just thought that was a quirk of how you talk" .... Apparently we've been speaking in the plural half the time for years. 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@MaskedNozza]

Yeah this is really important. Thanks a ton for this, it helped to hear some incredibly relatable experiences today 😀 "Yay, that's a video" 😄

[@kilobucket]

i wish i could find other systems in my area! :-( theres one i know in the city over, but i cant afford the train

[@morethanonesystem8113]

Hi, how can I meet another system to be friends with? I joined some Facebook support groups and found that the content was so sad and hurt, that it started really depressing me. I love how the KZbinrs are all about Functional Multiplicity and living their best life. How can I connect with others that feel this way too?

[@TheRingsSystem]

Send us a message on social media and we can direct you to some places 💕

[@CRYSTALNOODLES]

we need friends too! we believe if functional multiplicity

[@vicktoryscreech]

God this is amazing I love this video thank you guys for making it

[@Linny-m7m]

You are such wonderful people ❤️

[@guidingkeyblade7834]

11:24 I am one of those singlets.

[@LiEnby]

I was trying to be that singlet then realised I’m actually just that system

[@ravensilvertounge3274]

😍😍😍😍 love this -Raven

[@theREALsaulGROSVENOR]

You are both so awesome.....i love your channels

[@TheRingsSystem]

Thank you! 💕

[@jamie1249]

do you have videos on what its like when you discovered you are a system. like later in life. Im new to this.

[@forsakenstudio]

I’ve only been close to 2 systems, and in both cases the host betrayed and hurt me and caused a split so I’m rlly awkward around fellow systems but I’d like to try to get close to a system again, preferably in person -Alex

[@hannavignolo6454]

that is pretty much a video talking about how much you like your friend(s)!

[@TheRingsSystem]

Hehe, it is kinda!

[@CRYSTALNOODLES]

on the part you guys are talking about relationships with singlets - do you agree that it can be frustrating and exhausting to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to get to know your parts? that's where we are at right now... and it breaks our heart, we feel this is a deal-breaker but maybe we are taking it out of context and not cutting our partner some slack.

[@TheRingsSystem]

Yes, we agree. We were in a relationship once with someone who refused to see all of us as equals, and expected Silver to front most of the time and make the 'big' decisions about our life. It's frustrating and taxing, and that was one (of the many) reasons we left. It can absolutely be a deal breaker if you feel like it is, and I hope you find something that works for you ❤️️

[@poppysquids]

can we get a video on masks/shells? if there is one already does anyone have a link

[@poppysquids]

oh and only if you have the time/energy!

[@TheRingsSystem]

Hi!! Sorry I never responded to your other comment - it’s been in our to-do list since and is actually the reason why it came up! Recording is a bit haphazard for us and doesn’t really take a schedule, but it’s written down for the future :)

[@poppysquids]

@@TheRingsSystem thanks for responding ^^ its no problem if you miss it or take a while to get to comments! give yourself time. i love your videos!

[@TheRingsSystem]

Thanks!! You guys tend to have the ability to leave very good suggestions/questions that we don't always know the answer to, and then they end up sitting in the "held for review" until we either figure it out or made a whole video on the subject XD

[@keithkaitlinreynolds808]

6 months in and zero dislikes. Is this some kinda record?

[@patchwork1157]

here's a question. I got a friend who has DID (diagnosed) and over the past year I've realized I might have OSDD-1B (not diagnosed). Before they got diagnosed I told them about my suspicion about my alters, but she shut me down. painful? yes. but I've been thinking since now they can in a way understand were I'm coming from, that I should be system friends with them. We've been arguing for days on the matter but are leaning to telling her, but I still don't really know what to do. Got any advise? btw, love your videos. they really, REALLY, do help us understanding OSDD-1B. thank you

[@TheRingsSystem]

I don't really have any advice, but I do know what your friend is going through. A few years back, after we had known for years about OSDD, a friend had a realization that they also were a system. It was hard to accept because I had known them as a singlet for so long, and for some reason, knowing someone as a singlet to a system as a close friend and watching them make the discovery is harder. Maybe it had to do with feeling like our experiences didn't match, but a lot of it was wondering if I was influencing them or making them think they had the disorder when they really didn't (I didn't want to make things more complicated for them!) and trying to dissuade them from over-emphasizing with our experience. It took time for me to realize that this wasn't a good thing to do. I'd say give your friend time, and maybe a little space after coming out to them, and be persistent about coming out and your experiences. The Alexandrite system has a good video about coming out too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYq9hZ58gceIibs

[@patchwork1157]

The Rings System Thanks you very much. This really dose help us plan out what we will do, and thanks for helping us see things from another perspective other than our own. It really dose help.

[@nathanbernards]

Any tips finding other systems irl? Sounds impossible:/

[@ketchupsystem356]

Hey. If anyone wants to be friends, we're here!

[@colleenhoperue5538]

We would love to meet Audrey some day.We could go to the buffet and eat n eat,then we can go to the mall,look in the book stores n look at the toys.

[@AUnicorn666]

first

[@AUnicorn666]

I had to :P though seriously i love your channel

[@whyoh8756]

OWO !!!!

[@TheRingsSystem]

Uwu!!!!!