Mindset To Eliminate Narcissistic People

[@GuitarMatt]

7:11 "NO CONTACT, because your life depends on it!" Amen! At 50 years old I've almost gotten rid of all these people and I have a few more to get rid of perhaps with your classic quote above

[@margaritagomez3490]

When they show you who they are believe them the first time!!! Run

[@CharlesHippe]

I did this at the end of last year. Walked away from a 21-year career. Got a new job, and a fresh start in life. Toxic people won't change, walk away before life passes you by.

[@kimberlychristine9284]

Words of advice 🙏

[@dianehull894]

Wow. Awesome. 18:18 Thank you!

[@evepatchett8481]

Well done! Thanks for sharing this, hopefully it will inspire other people to take action and get away from, toxic workplaces/people.

[@NathalieYates-f1x]

​@@dianehull894❤

[@claireevans3464]

Eliminating all the toxic people from my life has resulted in me spending a lot of my time alone. Getting more and more OK with that by the day!

[@Farhat-afza]

Hugs

[@christinejones4785]

Yes has left me pretty much totally alone but then I was raised in a religion and as an only child until I was 13 1/2 so being on my own I’m use to but it still feels awful and as if you’ll never have another human relationship again 😢

[@weepingwillows1360]

Because I spend all my time alone is what causes me to talk to these people in the first place. I love my own company and always regret making the wrong company just to have a social life. Stay strong 💪 ❤

[@druidvw3960]

And another one's gone and another one's gone. Another one bites the dust!

[@Carolinagirl589]

"You are the closure!" - Love it.

[@WorldReserveCurrency]

Awesome Awesome. Flying monkeys may be people you don't know.... don't ignore the signs of Narcissism amongst strangers, and you'll know not to waste time getting closure and clarity from these people. They'll never give it to you because they don't know how... they're broken.

[@Chris-t7m5t]

Exactly had to cut 4 toxic Narcissistic family members outof my life. No contact been best move

[@Semiramis126]

I had a session with you and I can tell to you all visitors to this channel: Kevin is really honest, friendly, factual, direct and he knows what he's talking about, he really helped me and one more thing, it's a joy talking to him. @ Kevin,bless you !!

[@susancrank1587]

So, to sum it up, “Shut the door in 2024”! Amen!

[@kristinachristian3914]

I love it!! 💯

[@CharlesBukowski-m1o]

Yeah, thanks for giving me the extra inspiration with a rhyme to do something I should have done years ago!

[@caroljohnson3313]

Blocked the toxic family I grew up with. So happy, at peace, full of purpose! I'd take that over closure anyday!

[@jennifercuddy5663]

Me too. Every time I get suckered back in in any way it ends exactly the same: abuse and my ruminating. Every time. You have to limit and be in the habit of setting those limits of involvement.

[@GuitarMatt]

Same here, sisters from another mother. It's so much better than it used to be for this 50 year old until I made the choice about 2 years ago, basically

[@sism3028]

Jesus walked away from narcissists But he prayed for them. That's what I do.

[@peachesandpoets]

Yes. Annoying when people use "turn the other cheek" wrong

[@christophermwren2691]

And prayed from a distance

[@rochellet1333]

Amen! Yes he did!

[@babyanjel1875]

Absolutely 💯 true!! I was raised in a church cult and forced to marry into a church cult inlaw family. 25yrs of gaslight, manipulations, cruel flying-monkeys, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, mental abuse, spiritual abuse, and physical abuse..in the name of church/christ; outsiders and everyone are in denial and are oblivious to the ongoing abuse happening inside the household.

[@MusaDladla.]

Why I my can't remember Jesus praying for these narratives people😮

[@novakandfaith123]

You're exactly right Kevin. It's the powers and principalities that overwhelms our thoughts, some of the attacks 'attachment, codependency, trauma bond, etc'. They make you go back to the same people and destructive habits, you go back to them and get even more alienated from your path, because their mouths are an 'open grave'.

[@AngelaAngelicaWarren]

So wish I had heard this bold and unapologetic message years ago. I've paid a great price for not getting out earlier. The damage is done, unfortunately. The longsuffering taught by the church was harmful.

[@christinejones4785]

Same here stayed way too long

[@gloriacoleman7012]

Narcissists damage and destroy they only get worse take yourself and those you love who are targets with you, leave the town city you are in and start a new.

[@hugmc]

God needs us too carry the light we can’t do that if we let narcissistic people take us out.

[@denise0777]

Kevin, such a great point about "looking back" being a parallel with Lot's wife and how we get "stuck in place" when we keep looking back.

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

Some people don't want to admit that they are toxic 😢

[@Ruby-if4jf]

yep. Not guarding my heart. Bless you Kevin I'm DONE.

[@justmontina]

Wow, your messages hit home and they hit hard. Some of them have pierced my spirit so deeply that I’m more afraid of staying than leaving. You have come to set the captives free! ❤

[@elizabethrubycastro9713]

No looking back only moving forward

[@rochellet1333]

This video is absolutely the best I have heard in recent days. You are 100% above the target. Even Jesus say to dust your feet off and move on. Holy Spirit says No More Abuse!

[@margaritagomez3490]

This is soo true! We are who we hang around with. God says to be careful, cause we can be dragged down with them…. In drugs, bar hopping, gambling, alcohol, gossip, or just being used. I feel so drained around these people- like my whole body is trying to warn me that something is not right . Stay in the light, ask yourself is this what I really want for myself for my life, or in my life ……

[@maryk.utzinger4030]

Same here. I’m drained every time we hang out with certain family members. We’re going no contact now. Had the same feeling with my body that something is not right. I think that is the Holy Spirit because my spirit is not at peace around them.

[@Dan0rioN]

The sad part is I have no real good healthy relationships to replace the toxic ones so I'm completely isolated

[@Christine-cf2bz]

Take heart, as you heal, I pray that you will find a new "tribe" of safe people to replace them. 💛 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@noonebutNy]

Me2😢

[@Carolinagirl589]

People are everywhere you go - if you start up a conversation who knows where it can lead. Plant seeds of love, joy, peace... God waters them.

[@Dan0rioN]

@@Carolinagirl589 I always have tried but it got to a point I was so enraged from everything going on I srsly considered lighting everything I could on fire

[@GuitarMatt]

Dan, as "SAD" as it gets, you are in so much better of a place than you used to be. This is called FIGHTING BACK. I know that people like you nor I wanted to be a warrior in matters like these--YET it sure beats the alternative!

[@staciehulm4595]

I made this my New Years resolution in 2020. 4 years later and life is more peaceful, but somewhat isolating as I learn how to know who is safe to interact with and who's not. I appreciate having my own headspace.

[@minimallyleah7208]

This message hit me so HARD! Especially when you talked about Lot's wife, so very true. And the fact that we freeze when looking back at the narc's social media page. We start to remember the good times and wish we were back in the good times even though God moved us away from that because the bad times overshadowed the good times. Also, I love the way you weave your messages with Biblical truth. The Bible gives us very clear instructions on identifying, evading and escaping the narcs too. I don't think very many people really realize that.

[@Jessecraft1954]

Shake the dust from your feet. Run away so fast, the dust can't even hold onto your feet. Road Runner!

[@schmittyschmit4599]

Amazing message, I had to do this right before 2024. Cut off contact with narc mom, then my younger sister stopped talking to me, then my younger brother who I thought was on neutral terms in the situation started coming after me. Blocked him too. All the while my permissive father has remained silent in the name of quote on quote peace. He has admitted to me before that he knows of my mother's controlling nature however he never says anything until I react to the treatment. He tells me I need to be forgiving like how Jesus forgave those who nailed him to the cross. Using the teachings of Jesus as a weapon to excuse abuse is his go to.

[@onlyonce1707]

Well done - stay strong💪

[@marystraniero1037]

Spiritual abusers who pick & choose Bible quotes to give them peace of mind for their complicity. Ugh!

[@kimkrueger3620]

I don't even care about closure with that jerk. I have been no contact since Dec 2021. I am glad that I am stronger for doing that. I hope and pray that other people can have strength to go no contact and move forward in their lives. It's hard at first but once an opportunity comes along to get you out of this toxic relationship take it and don't look back.

[@kimberlychristine9284]

💖🙏

[@salonsavy6476]

Amen

[@Tend2Rose]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@lauralee7662]

The 15:47 mark😂! Your personality is awesome because the whole topic is mind bending!!

[@carolinekamya2339]

I no longer need closure

[@livinggood6876]

We have to take control of the narrative in our life instead of falling into other's gaslit manipulations. Thank you for this strong message.

[@dianehull894]

9:13...all you' ll get is more of them and all their addictions.! Lol. It's true. 😊 finally getting 🙌 comfortable with closing the door.

[@miriamramsey8509]

I found when my father passed 11 years ago with in 2 weeks to live ...my dad was very holy... I found that evil people was everywhere! 😢

[@rosagoglia4649]

You know what.. it sounds like good advice. I can’t believe I liked some guy who talked to any female whether she was a gossip or whatever.

[@juneevans4394]

Excellent advice. I especially liked, "you are the closure "

[@justjosie8963]

Thank you for championing for us survivors!

[@ninadallarosa3383]

your so correct guard your mind and heart

[@rita.amstlv]

I divorced about 25 yrs ago. My former husband and his relatives are still spreading lies about me also on internet. They tried to make me loose my house. This is going on 25 years! Their only job and hobby is to make my life as miserable as possible. That is almost unbelievable. Thank you for your great videos.

[@michelledonnelly8675]

Cowards & envy. God bless you

[@TheHelenhunter]

Thank you Kevin for starting this off kicking us in the b*** I have been looking into my past, being hurt and bitter and I was stuck for years!!

[@delfinorowe]

I looked back and never again. The Holy Spirit convicted so strongly that I wouldn't make that mistake again. I've come a long way since my phone call with you. Thank you! Hope the riding is going well. No contact now for over 3 months ☺️

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

Bravo 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 The Lord was crystal clear with me too to have no such dealings with these people (my ex who was a sociopath claiming to be Christian) I went no contact 11 months ago. Walked away from a business we started and everything. Still healing but 90% better. The only way to be free of the abuse and manipulation is no contact. God bless you and strengthen you, and give you wisdom and peace!!! ❤✝️

[@delfinorowe]

@@KatErina-ii6ru Thank you and you too!

[@iamonline3221]

You'r , my friend, is a legend , best laser out there

[@clairepurcell7577]

Amen. Each of those spiritual warfare scripts happened/still happens in my mind. But the bible says "do not be deceived", as in, do not think that any one of us is different or our circumstances special... evil communications corrupt good manners (Corinthians 15:33). It's not only about God's wish for you to prosper, or the moral/immoral nature of the relationship itself, its about your safety. A companion to fools suffers harm. Walk with the wise and you will be wise (Proverbs 13:20) When we rely on our own understanding, we place ourselves in danger/on the broad road to destruction.

[@phoenixd9679]

Wow SORDS ARE IN MY THOUGHTS🗡️🗡️ thank you ❤ Awsome just in time !!! CLOSURES the END 🙏🥰

[@simplypositiveme]

I'm having such a difficult time remaining strong. 😢

[@markmewordz6860]

No relationship is better than a toxic relationship. Stay focused.

[@simplypositiveme]

​@markmewordz6860 Thank youuuu. 😮

[@mikegleed5842]

YOU ARE THE CLOSURE 😎💪

[@Jake-i7q]

The Truth will set me free BUT first it will pass me off.

[@JeremyPickett]

Im not a Christian but i am spiritual, and the Sermon on the Mount is one of the greatest parables of all time. I went full no contact with a parent after narcissist violence and years of gaslighting. It was, excuse the language, effing devastating. Rebuilding is gonna take years. But i dont need the violence.

[@theverystones2643]

Peace be with you. 🙏

[@JeremyPickett]

@@theverystones2643 and also with you. Wait, that's been retired, right? :D

[@sherricharles8149]

33 years of it Oct of this year!! Kevin is correct! I am always thinking it's my fault: I didn't try hard enough, so married and divorced him twice !! He convinced me it was my fault and I loved him and felt like I was strong enough to make it work this time. Coming up on 7 years of living together and it's reached the point of leaving again! Don't waste your life!!

[@psalm91.777]

30 years this October for me

[@doglover5519]

Wow! Really good video, I needed to hear both parts about not looking back and never getting closure!! Thanks

[@dreambig1082]

Y0u have to ! If you want a good life and peace .

[@rascallyrabbit]

he makes an excellent point about the church telling people to stay in toxic, negative, abusive relationships. I find this to be horrible advice. Best to come out from among them and let them change. Run, save yourself from evil people. Jesus did all the time. He shook off the dirt and walked away. The church often protects evil doers because they don't know what to do or they like the money these evil people give to them.

[@Emefur1]

“Above all things, guard your heart”. Not guard those toxic people, not guard the relationships you have out of scarcity, not guard what your education system tells you. Solomon, the bible. Why because everything we do in this life comes from our heart. This spoke to me.

[@user-qg3ll9xs9t]

AMEN AMEN SEPARATE FROM THE TOXICITY

[@robind6300]

I felt like God was telling me to go no contact. Come out from among them and be ye separate. What partnership hath God with belial.

[@survivor2310]

Very passionately said, thank you! I agree, I 'll do it! ❤

[@goshi132]

@ survivor2310 passionately said but if you want Facetime it is 100 $ per hour and a standard phone call is 80$. Ask Jesus to help it's free. “Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. “Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. “For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light” (Matthew 11:28-30).

[@elizabethdarley8646]

Brilliant! Kevin! You stand up for men of good will. Thank you. (By men I mean mankind)😊 Thank you from Bess in Yorkshire

[@sylviacaldwell2139]

Kevin, Thank You For Turning Your Pain Into Promotion For All Of Us Healing From Narcissistic Abuse!!✝️

[@dumpmail-xz2qp]

I told my ex narc friend I want to move on because we hardly talk. In her head, she twisted my reason into, that I am jealous of her having a better life than me and that shes popular now in some fandom community. She thinks I want her for 24/7 when all I was expecting is at least once a week to catch up, to keep some kind of normal communication, not that bs bread crumbling shes been doing.

[@ExpatTime]

Why would you even want to talk to her once a week and “catch up” and yes narcs think we want them and they are a prize. I was opposite with the Narc. The narc thought it’s ok to just have me whenever he felt like it and in my mind I don’t want anything from him. It’s about never dealing with him again because it’s a waste of my time and energy. You can’t have one foot in and one foot out with a person who is selfish

[@jai7184]

Well make yourself unavailable.. No need to say anything else

[@marystraniero1037]

​@jai7184 they hate that you are able to walk away from lies

[@HoppieEspree-zx4hi]

Thank you ,! God bless you. I needed this yrs ago. Thank you

[@annastone5624]

Your content is really excellent. I particularly appreciate your understanding of religion. The religious narrative I grew up with of being kind, forgiving, inclusive, tolerant without any balance or caveats - is a major major factor in the abuse I experienced. And in my subsequent efforts to understand what had happened me. In our era evil was never mentioned, in my parents that’s all that was mentioned, but projected onto their poor generation to strike fear into their hearts if they dared think a single self prioritizing thought.

[@cindyforsyth2766]

I so needed to hear this today!! I've been struggling with closure with my children. They have been horrible only in the past 3-4 years.

[@TheSeekeroftruth1]

In a similar boat, it's heartbreaking, your own flesh and blood, but when they behave not as you are, but possessed like a Demon, what do you do? Mine is only 15 years old, and so, I feel I cant leave despite the pain and torment they often cause.

[@chamomiletea5424]

I feel this. Take care 😔🙏🕊

[@rochellet1333]

Me too! Cut ties, even family. We are not created to be abused. Know your worth!

[@alisonj9533]

There is a lady (can't recall) who has a channel about "my children don't speak to me" or "my children have cut me out of their life."

[@ShadowJerker-st3lj]

Makes me wonder how the parents are. Usually, they’re toxic crap; and have no insight or self accountability as to why a child won’t talk to them. Reminds me of Dr Phil when they throw a teenager at him and think it’s all the teenager, when 99% of the time it’s the parents.

[@ADyer421]

My dad was treated like that by the church. They don’t like to hear what they could do better or what they are doing wrong.

[@montanalrl6622]

Two weeks ago I walked away from a narc “friend”. In the past several weeks I noticed his total negativity and mentioned it to him. That only made him worse. He really started throwing crap at me. He is real big on blaming me for everything. I just brushed it off, but he got extreme and I just walked away and blocked his phone. I sure see what Kevin talks about in other videos this guy did not want me to succeed. I really thought it was my duty to try to help him as he is consumed in hatred. He hates everything and everybody. He said he was going to kill me and three or four others because who we voted for. I mean that is mass murder. I let slide. He really blew up one day and I was so repulsed I just left. Starting to feel better today but still hard to quit thinking about it. When I catch myself I say a prayer of thanksgiving that I got away. Prayer really takes my mind off it. Kevin, really enjoy you videos. Thanks!

[@AutumnGold0706]

Jesus spent a lot of time alone in prayer and meditation. He knew he could never depend on people even to stay awake while He prayed in the garden. I trust no one anymore.🥀

[@LindaStokes-ff2kv]

Amen❤❤❤

[@ADyer421]

I think my grown children are being enmeshed with my husband, they won’t move out and he enables it. I can’t even begin to decide what to do until my boys all move out.

[@Arvyhernandez]

Help them find opportunities and support them in their passions.

[@yeswing10]

This happened to me. I had to leave them all. Was just a slave to them all. They won't grow up. They are pals.

[@kristijensen9163]

Yes I am still engulfed in a 25 year relationship with a man….. at first I thought it was alcoholism…… which wasnt fun….. I had never really heard about Narcissism except as a slang term….. I was seeking to find answereds To my questions about what was wrong with our relationship. I was also trying to fix everything I fix in my self. I realize we didn’t have a communication that was very spiritual or deep. And I knew it was addictive. Anyway, thanks Finding KZbin videos about narcissism started opening my eyes to the reality is pretty much, my whole life for this boyfriend….. I am working on an exit plan. It takes a little time. Things are lining up and I can’t wait just to say I am done and I have gone.

[@Jessecraft1954]

Going on five years. Too bad it hasn't been longer. It's only gotten better. My life is better!!!!!

[@JOHN-ei2tn]

Nice !! My kind Brotha. Jesus 🔥is the Only way . 🛡⚔️ BOLD Truth.

[@iamonline3221]

You've bought me when you've mention the scripture of "Solomon" , I can't express how much depth and smart there's in those scriptures, I've studied it, everything that I've thought like "maybe here it's just ordinary" became a life training on how smart this thing really was, please study Proverbs with chatGPT (Written by Solomon, wisest man to ever exist so it used to believe anyway)

[@katypeterson2251]

It has saved my life! Since the narcissist is out of my life, my recent lab results were normal for the first time in over 6 years.

[@CharlesBukowski-m1o]

Alright, Katy! In my situation it was family of origin that was attacking me even though I moved from DC to Phoenix 2001. They really came at me one by one in the 2010s. I put an end to it ONE BY ONE in the last 8 years. And stay NO CONTACT for life now with those EX-siblings. THANKS TO KEVIN and a few other men and women who had KZbin channels like his, they helped me to help myself by telling me the truth of how these people really thought of me. Actions, not words. (I also had to get rid of their recruited flying monkeys who pretended to be fellow SCAPEGOATS). You can definitely see that Kevin saved my life to with his presentations of real talk. filtering out that Christainese "You must forgive everyone like you"re Jesus" nonsense.(That's God's job, not mine!) I recently as of only 3 years ago went from being an atheist to become a Christian. Anyway, Kevin saved my life too. No contact is indeed the only way to go with some folks

[@RhondaWiltse-rh9os]

I will keep the appointment option in mind, once I figure out how to be able to make money. My narcissists have me stuck with no job (I was caring for them). While here I literally lost everything I own. Now, that being said, not being a victim over here, but I do need to heal. Thank you for the videos you put out. These are all I have for guidance.

[@allisonemig8578]

Excellent!! Great message!! Thank you!! 💯💪

[@user-cl6uj5bn2f]

This was EXCELLENT KEVIN💯👏 You have no idea how much I needed this⏰️ Well, maybe you do😅 lol. God bless you🫶

[@privacy9175]

Now thats what l'm talking about. Straight talk. Bible scripture put in too understand.. Fantastic 👌 This one got through too me real good. Thank you ❤

[@K5309]

Thank you for another awesome video! Your videos are very helpful! You hit everything spot on.

[@welcometototalitarianism812]

Mental health and emotional well-being. Yes.

[@elizabethrubycastro9713]

HalleluYah thank you Lord Jesus Christ have your way let your will be done in me and through me amen

[@AnnaMishel]

Great advice!

[@wasode20]

So powerful and very smart!

[@sism3028]

As always another great video! Thank you!

[@maryam-rx2hu]

Perfect And truth 🙏🙏🙏💕

[@karlamatsuda6062]

Thank you for your videos,Kevin! Really helpful

[@chamomiletea5424]

💯🙏❤‍🔥⚔🕊WOW! FIRE! GOD BLESS YOU AND THIS MESSAGE! 💯🙏❤‍🔥⚔🕊

[@K5309]

Would you please talk about a narcissistic husband and a newborn baby... we been married 8 years and this is our baby's first year and .... I'm sure you know how that went.

[@erinmariebaker712]

SO good; thanks!

[@LindaLouise625]

Thank YOU!!! I have got so much from your podcasts ..I've come So far I'm blown away. 67 in Jan and Finally FREE & Happy > Really Happy!!! I LIKE ME .. omg .. Gratitude is oozing from my pours :D :D :D THANK YOU! You are part of a team that has got me where I Never thought I'd be .. Happy & I LIKE ME! :D

[@princessdimitra6495]

Thank you!

[@88tinyteena]

Thank you for your ministry here on KZbin. You display so much wisdom and your advice is helping me tremendously!! I now have the courage to properly deal with my in laws. And so far it is working. You are doing God’s work. God bless you.❤

[@jacqueshuskisson5942]

I bind the strongman that has kept me in bondage in a toxic family trust for more than 8 years now in the name of Jesus, be removed now! The Lord rebuke you!

[@nicoletacherechesu1576]

So real , so true , all you say ….. amazing !

[@nillarohr9872]

This is my real problem...they play with my hart❤️ and authencity as human walking in life to achieve changes. Thankyou Kevin and ❤️your message from Salomon!

[@americawaters4257]

They don't need to know why you're leaving. They know why. They want to know why it took you so long.

[@abundantmason5818]

🎯🎯🎯🎯😩

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

Spot on Kevin. Thank you for brilliant observations and excellent advice.

[@alysamiller3611]

I love 💕 what you are saying. It came right on time or your phone I just can’t afford your one on one. What is long as I can. Listen to your podcast. Sound good thank you so much.

[@gypsyeclipse9788]

They like things just the way they are.

[@AmandabellaDay]

Thank you for making me feel seen & validated. I worry people see me as high maintenance & spoiled. But I try the “normal way” & like you, I pay a much higher price than “normal people”. It’s not worth it anymore. I am working on quitting alcohol it’s just hard when you live with family that trigger you several times a day. I am a constant ball of anxiety, or collapsed in shutdown. Those are my 2 gears & I am sick of it 😭❤️‍🔥

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

Stumbling blocks do get in the way

[@christophermwren2691]

Thanks Kevin ✌️ You da man!!

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

I really shouldn't look back