these ppl understand pretty privilege the best

[@kzarkage]

Pretty people - looks aren't everything Rich people - money isn't everything Top tier athletes - you're all winners

[@belledraws1331]

Murderers - people come and go Edit: wow thanks for 1K likes you guys

[@urmitomar5879]

@@belledraws1331 😂😂

[@howltae]

@@belledraws1331 your colleagues must feel so lucky to have you

[@radioactive_baby0706]

@@belledraws1331 💀

[@sushiiitrash]

#1 swimmer

[@moodylittleowl]

the difference between "weird" and "eccentric" is always either money or appearance

[@ess531]

OMG this is so facts

[@kdjoshi726]

SO TRUE

[@sebaschan-uwu]

The difference between weird and eccentric is that anyone described as eccentric is probably fucking crazy

[@vixxenshae]

Right, when the popular rich attractive girl likes a niche thing it's "quirky" and "cute" but when the average girl likes the same thing they're "weird" or "a freak"

[@r.a1301]

​@@vixxenshae or if an unattractive guy is quiet, he's a weirdo. But if an attractive guy is quiet, he's mysterious

[@neku1080]

My favorite part is that she's using her pretty privilege to help bring attention to the issue. She's conventionally attractive, so people are more inclined to stop and actually listen to her. If someone who wasn't conventionally attractive did this, people would just think they're whining and would probably not be as receptive. I have so much respect for this woman

[@fayrahthepotato7515]

I don’t see this as an issue but yeah 👀

[@KyonV13]

The way she talks about the glow up situation makes me think she went through something like that but is at least still self aware

[@mrs.portgas6602]

actually, there's another pretty woman who talked about the topic and everyone in the comments was shitting on her and saying stuff like " we get it, you're pretty" no matter who speaks about anything, you'll always have the ppl who finds something wrong with it

[@sabless]

yeah it always pisses me off that nobody listens to ACTUAL ugly people when they discuss this topic

[@hildir6507]

No it was the condescending attitude that made me wanna watch. xD

[@bib4eto656]

When you're ugly, people straight up pretend you aren't even there. When you're attractive, people trip over themselves to pay attention to you.

[@AngelaEAwesome]

When you’re ugly you wish you were ignored. You’re thinking of average people. Ugly people get stared at, physically abused, and hear comments about how ugly they are from people.

[@elisa1213]

@@AngelaEAwesomeit’s both tbh. i used to be ugly af and half of the people would publicly call ugly and give me bad names, the other half would ignore me and only talk to me to use me (example : to ask for homework since i had good grades)

[@dreamcatcher1074]

Just being honest this literally happened to me whenever people see me specially for the first time (happened the last time i went out to go to the gym 2 days ago) just to prove it rly is a thing and unfair to some ppl, it's just genetics they should treat everyone the same.

[@electricearth1101]

ive never gotten anything special from being attractive. every other woman looks at me like im satan because theyre jealous so im constantly seeing people express their insecurity while looking directly at me. and men & girls will often choose to be mean or unpolite to me because they want me to know that they dont desire me. which is like "why the fuck do you need me to know that? im just shopping at safeway. mind your own business."

[@kekele5597]

Noo I actually wish they pretended I wasn’t even there. But they look at you like you’re annoying them and they want you to disappear.

[@Neozoo800]

Went from being bullied to the bullies sliding into my DMs. Like, bruh.

[@logan.saige5910]

literally!! like i get so frustrated when the people who made fun of the way i looked are the same ones wanting to be friends and asking me out like do they think i don’t remember them bullying me or something 💀

[@Beaten247]

Samsies, i dropped over 100lbs and the slides were REAL

[@Vampirita447]

SAME

[@kitanajadefrost4663]

My life in a nutshell like what do they want

[@hiwelcometochillis2579]

They also bully pretty people

[@signofthecrimes1534]

"is it just me or did you get hot" - a guy who talked shit about me in high school 🥰

[@idk0820]

I’d smack the ever lasting shit out of him 🤦‍♀️

[@SuperNuclearUnicorn]

What an incredible backhanded compliment "bitch you were ugly af before, but now I want to fuck you"

[@pa1154]

Dude, this literally happened to me last week. He even apologized( that apology was fake and was not coming from heart). He even asked for my recent photos like wtff

[@justinemaeganm.freyra7256]

​@@pa1154 now that, is creepy-

[@MuneCharbon]

That man gonna get tossed over school window into school dumpster 🔜 ☠️

[@nora_mk]

mum be calling me ugly like as if I don't look like the man she fell in love with 💀

[@__L__837]

I’m sorry she said that to you

[@shannacollins8371]

😢

[@fabertaleixo]

Bro-

[@nora_mk]

@@__L__837 it's okay. I got friends who tell me that I'm beautiful and I don't really find myself that "ugly", I'm "average" lol. My mum calling me ugly doesn't really affect me much, I'll be sad for some time and then I'll be admiring myself in the bathroom mirror for 2 hours straight.

[@monejohn9973]

She's probably jealous like my mom were almost totally opposite & she's mad that I'm everything she's not she's 4"10 I'm 5'8 she's obese I'm model size and just like how Rihanna looks like her dad I look like mine ..if it wasn't 4 the world complimenting me,I'd never knew I was gorgeous...😊

[@whyhellothere6855]

I’ve learned that there is no such thing as weird with pretty people, just quirky and cute

[@bellefairydust]

Yess lol

[@The_One_And_Only_Rata]

Just like with my experience I went from being called nerd to smart but I am also not the most beautiful person in my grade cause I believe all of my other girls are also beautiful. I am also just straight up not the prettiest

[@monejohn9973]

Not true😅 over 20years ago when my pretty as loved comics anime & tomboy things as a girl ppl made fun of it...plus It depends on your race/culture and what's considered "kool" or Acceptable by your people.

[@electricearth1101]

rachel zegler is weird. not quirky or cute

[@night_of_stars]

This is so true. If an ugly person is loud, they’re annoying, but if a pretty person is loud, they’re outgoing. What’s up with that?

[@madisonwilliamson]

On goddddd

[@yomom3684]

No if they are loud then they are annoying. I don’t care how hot a chick is, if she won’t shut up then she is annoying.

[@Tickle._.Monster]

Nah it just depends on if people like their personality, i think a lot of pretty people are annoying cause of the things that they do and say. It isnt just ugly people.

[@madisonwilliamson]

@@Tickle._.Monster look up the halo effect. It essentially is “pretty privilege” & its been studied over many years- not just the last year over tiktok lol😂 … but it’s shown to give criminals lesser sentences, and give less qualified people job positions- purely based on looks

[@night_of_stars]

@@yomom3684 I’ve seen it at my own school. The loud pretty girl is popular and outgoing, but the loud ugly girl is always told she’s annoying and needs to shut up.

[@blueblueblueb]

being ugly is crazy cus ppl will genuinely tell you you don’t deserve love or happiness because of your face, which is literally just genetics 💀

[@Sugarbunyzz]

Who told you that?

[@eylulzeyneperikci7745]

Nobody actually tells you that but they imply it. Whenever i told my friends that i like someone you could see in their eyes that they think you have no chance with that person. After a while i stoped telling them. And you have to watch people you like, opening up bout their feelings to your friends who are far more beautiful than you. And you can't even say anything.

[@blinkeuisaswiftie8397]

@@eylulzeyneperikci7745 that one's true, people would sometimes say those things indirectly to your face but either way they know it will hurt you.

[@Susie-jw2ew]

No one is ugly you just need to live yourself then your not ugly Also it’s not genetics

[@abz4674]

Yup. I've once been told "your pretty too, in your own way," and "I don't think anyone would want to marry you anyway".

[@Sanxioned1]

People's reactions to moths vs butterflies is a pretty good example of pretty privilege

[@Thegoddessgenesis]

Both scare me 💯

[@ganpsao]

Moths and butterflies are so cute but im actually scared to my core from butterflies more than moths

[@elizabethgeorge3007]

You know you pretty when everyone in the room says “Bless you” after you sneeze

[@sof5611]

or if you have a loud af grandpa sneeze that scares the life out of everyone

[@19tet]

fr no one says bless u when u fart..

[@Zero-nk1kf]

Fart..? 💀 ​@@19tet

[@19tet]

bless you @@Zero-nk1kf

[@19tet]

but i do @@Zero-nk1kf

[@mackenzieedith1005]

This is so legit, coming from a person who lost over 50 lbs and peaked after high school. It’s insane how different people treat me now

[@ankitadeb5727]

Omg+1

[@20khalidinsha30]

@@allie9661 hey remember your body DOES NOT define you! you are beautiful im sure

[@blk7747]

same but lucky i had some good people in life who treats me the same

[@hayley5104]

How tho? Cause I need to lose weight before it becomes unhealthy

[@banihora5394]

Sameeee

[@fulltimedisappointment7754]

I remember when I was “ugly” me being shy was considered “creepy” but me being shy now is “mysterious” and attractive

[@Janellabelle]

now you're "enigmatic"! 😆

[@thebakagirl5293]

This:

[@bambooforrests]

Are you a man or a woman?

[@kyara.kumari]

Same! I am shy cuz of social anxiety and only really have one friend. When I was "fat" and "ugly" it was creepy. But now that I am more "healthy looking" suddenly its fun and normal to be shy.

[@Lily-hf5dh]

Ong that’s how I feel too, some guys have even told me that it’s “cute” like nah bro, social anxiety/shyness ain’t cute lol I’m out here struggling

[@alexislmunoz7708]

Pretty privilege is real. I used to be ignored a lot and pushed to the side in high school. In college, I had a glow up and all these friends and guys actually approached me out of nowhere. I think the people that stick with you even during your awkward stages, are your real friends 💯

[@msk-qp6fn]

Yes those are the mvps

[@notherepim]

Yeah

[@19tet]

lowkey thats the one upside to being ugly. life just weeds out the fake ppl in your life its crazy lol and separates the wheat from the chaff

[@inimene6]

I used to be a bit overweight and lost over 10kg, got nice glasses and cut my hair shorter and I'm still treated the same🤷‍♀️ I feel much better though and my father doesn't tell me what to eat and not to eat anymore

[@eskatheiceprincess4614]

Yes!! So freaking fr!

[@abnf-b7q]

Pretty people saying "looks don't matter" is like a millionaire walking up to a beggar saying, "Money isn't everything"

[@throughcolouredglasses9300]

I felt real pretty priviledge for the first time when we all wore masks to go to uni etc. People were so much nicer bc my eyes are the best part of my face. Insane to see the shift in their behaviour when we stepped outside and talked without masks on!

[@MsMC4444]

This is an interesting view of it. Thank you.

[@christy2252]

For me out was the polar opposite, people didn’t pay much attention to me until they actually saw what I look like, that’s when they actually treated me well 💀

[@Coochie_829]

Sameeee when first went to highschool we had to wear masks and everyone was literally so nice to me but when I took it off literally everyone started acting really shitty for no reason. Like just say I’m ugly, BE DIRECT😡😡😡

[@fate8007]

@@Coochie_829 you are beautiful

[@xoxjelloxox]

I still were a mask because I’m self conscious in how I look without it

[@adamxoxoxo]

Pretty people are the ONLY people who would ever say the privilege isn't real 😂

[@angelategos7217]

'cause they think everyone gets the same treatment

[@andreatran8176]

I still get talked over even though people say I’m pretty 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

[@dookie7299]

Pretty privilege is real. I was kinda attractive already, but when I had dreads and wore baggy clothes people literally ignored me if i asked for something as minuscule as a pencil. Its crazy.

[@GirlScoutCookies420]

The way I look at pretty privilege is a blessing and a curse, its a blessing because you probably feel more confident in certain clothing, going out, and maybe certain opportunities as well but it’s a curse growing dealing with random girls being hateful to you for no reason, your friends sabotaging you, stalkers and men in general being very creepy. Honestly I can say I appreciate it much more as adult because now I know where I stand with people, and can stick up for myself. Although growing up a lot of the time I think it harder bc sometimes blending in, people are less likely to deal with negative shit.

[@newname3021]

@@andreatran8176 “I still get talked over” …. Babe that’s not nearly the same as being the used friend for rides but not invited. Random strangers not making eye contact/less patient with just about everything. It’s just different. And also there is a level to pretty privilege. You could just be average pretty. The people she’s talking about are the gorgeous ones

[@four2434]

when she said ppl find the mere presence annoying, it's fr. a memory i will never forget from childhood was when a classmate pushed me to the ground told me to "stop following him" wearing this disgusted expression when i was simply walking to class minding my own business lol. everyone is so kind now, even parents, who somehow always find a way to introduce their sons 😂

[@orangejuice3201]

the only downside of pretty privilege is that when you finally have it after being ugly your whole life, your biggest fear is losing that pretty privilege.

[@shara_burns]

I only had a mild glow-up and the difference in how people treat me is INSANE. It's actually made me more nervous to leave the house if I'm not dressed nice and wearing makeup because I don't want to be treated like that again.

[@lotta3664]

Same I am scared to leave the house. Before I would just go out so easily with zero effort, but now I have to put all the effort.

[@nemofish3504]

Aww I’m so sorry you feel this way :( I’ve been pretty much ‘average’ looking my whole life, maybe even less, so idk… I think I’m used to it at this point xD

[@Marusja.78]

So sad 😕

[@JonSnow-pn6gn]

Then you already lost the plot. I would rather be unattractive and be treated bad because of it, rather than be attractive looking and have fake friends. The looks people have are not permanent. Time has proven that and will continue to prove it.

[@shara_burns]

@@JonSnow-pn6gn I only have 2 close friends. I'm referring to the general public, strangers, workers etc. Not everyone, but most people.

[@Emily-fl4cp]

It’s so true how a pretty girl can be loud and annoying AF and no one says shit. Then the “ugly” girl speaks up a little and she’s annoying?

[@mimosakura795]

Yup, and let's not forget even if the pretty girl messes up its "ok" But an ugly girl messes up its "her fault she should not exist etc.etc." People are just a holes*

[@QueenE2017]

exactly keep the same energy.

[@duc2133]

I mean, pretty or not shits annoying, but I’ve always said that if you’re ugly and talk a ton of shit and have a shit personality I’m like why, you already ugly af and you’re nasty. A pretty girl can be a bitch and I just laugh cuz at least it’s some eye candy, an ugly girl who’s being a bitch? Get out of my face lmao.

[@duc2133]

@@lucyduquette3811 lol I know I was supporting pretty privilege. I don't really think I'm a crappy person for that, if a girl is unattractive but has a beautiful soul I give her props and highly respect her as a person. If she's ugly and also a shitty person, why would I even give a shit? If she's very pretty and has a crappy personality? Well I would never wife that up but at least she'll be fun to be around sorry not sorry lmao. It applies to both men and women btw, maybe even more so for a very handsome man vs an ugly man. This is the real world not some fairytale

[@SparexoMe]

Idk where yall are living but it would go both ways when I was in school. Pretty or not, if you were annoying someone was gonna tell you to shut up and sit down.

[@fil4648]

Hell, I just dropped 15 kilos and had a good shave and haircut and people treat me completely differently than four months ago.

[@dio8636]

For real. I gained 20 kg over the past 2 years and it's the exact opposite. Used to have people not leave me alone, harass me even, now it's like I'm invisible. People find me annoying more quickly and are more likely to disagree with me, which just shows that when I was prettier, they would hold themselves back just because they respected or liked me more. Pretty privilege is real

[@dio8636]

Sorry English isn't my first language, by hold themselves back I mean they would bite their tongue/hide their real thoughts just to try to get me to like them. Honestly felt like I had honey on my ass sometimes the way they were just agreeeing with me all the time, especially people of the opposite gender. Now that I'm not as pretty that doesn't happen anymore

[@Poodle_Gun]

Because you are male. Men have pretty privilege: women don't.

[@flyxic]

as someone who had a MAJOR glow up.. PRETTY PRIVILEGE IS REAL. I used to get bullied so fucking bad, that I had to go homeschooling for 2 years. During those 2 years, I got a major glow up, and all of a sudden everyone was nice to me.

[@ldeidara968]

Yes this is 100% true. Bullied my entire life. Middle school and Highschool. Towards the end of senior year the glow up started. And it’s like everyone did a complete 180.

[@stealthis]

That's when you reject them in the most Savage ways

[@AnfalAyub]

Samee pretty privlege is real coming from someone that had an glowup But also pretty people always get unecassay hate when i didnt have my glowup so i dint get that many hate but when i had it i got serious hate for like no reason

[@matthewmorgan7755]

I agree but also this is weird. Placing a “glow up” on prepubescent kids

[@439801RS]

To me that seems just like a different kind of bullying, like they still only care about your looks(specifically the people who bullied you beforehand)

[@439801RS]

​@@matthewmorgan7755agreed, kids and attractive should honestly never be in the same sentence

[@crissp5333]

exactly like people i never talked to are now like “omgg we should be friends you’re so pretty” like what does me being pretty have to do with us being friends

[@amirahx]

I never knew it come across as this way😭. I just thought it was a nice way to start a conversation/ friendship.

[@ibtsamjadoh9988]

@@amirahx well u can call some1 pretty but just don't use it as an excuse to be friends

[@crissp5333]

@@amirahx i’m not saying telling someone they’re pretty is bad, i love telling girls that! i’m just saying that it comes across as back-handed because they’re just now wanting to get to know me because i’m pretty yk?

[@AL_-uy5co]

Who are these people who wanted be friends with you because you’re so pretty? I find for me it’s the..opposite girls are meaner and don’t want to be around you because you’re “stereotypically attractive”.

[@crissp5333]

@@AL_-uy5co i also know some girls like that but for the most case it’s the opposite

[@Rosethxrn]

This is very true. Before I had my glow up it was so different. If I entered a place no one wanted to talk to me. Let alone look at me. They didnt even want me to be in their conversation. If I was loud they would tell me to be quiet. If I asked a question or I even just looked at someone they would be so annoyed and just roll their eyes. When I had an glow up. When I entered a room everyone is greeting me or complimenting me. They would call me in to join conversations. If I am being loud we all start laughing and then we all are loud. And if I asked them a question they would answer politely and if I looked at them and they look at me back we would smile. And btw this was how the same people changed. I'm talking about the same people before and after my glow up. So don't tell me pretty privilege isnt real. PRETTY PRIVILEGE IS REAL. So now if I ever see someone being treated like how I was before my glow up. I always go hangout with them and make sure they are having fun. And I make sure to greet everyone

[@Detective_asparagus]

I used to get bullied quite a bit for my looks (I was the kid you'd get DARED to ask out). While I don't see myself as that attractive still, now that my face/body has matured more (and beauty standards conveniently changed to include me), people are so much nicer to me now. I can't even BELIEVE people when they compliment me because it's so strange to just flip like that.

[@reginageorgetownuni]

That "Your presence is an irritation" hit the nail. When I was overweight, people used to act like it was a bother talking to me. After I lost weight and started taking care of my appearance, people went out of there way to do simple things for me. And I'm not even that attractive. Imagine being gorgeous/hot!!

[@WhenYoureAlexa]

People treat me so much better now that I’ve lost weight. I was treated so poorly when I was overweight, people are much more kinder to me now.

[@funkyfresh2053]

@@WhenYoureAlexa i didn't even lose weight i just got taller and the fat redistributed to my hips and chest and pepole where so much nicer im losing weight now but because of HRT my fat is collecting more in my stomach and pepole are starting to be more rude

[@DarkCircles698]

Been fat most of my life and I have a very short hairstyle. I'm practically invisible and if people do notice me they mistake me for a man and call me sir.

[@MissElisabelle]

I am still losing weight so I am still fat, but I think that me taking care of myself is what makes people ultimately treat me better, not necessarily the fact that I lost a bit of weight.

[@aura20002]

@@MissElisabelle that is kot true. Unless they are some sort of fitness enthusiast, there is no reason they'll like that u take care of yourself. People say things like this when they dont wanna admit that they like you better when you're thinner.

[@LoveAtHome]

Over a decade ago, my college professor once said, “If you are good looking, half of your problems are solved.”

[@athymeow5737]

My mom said the same thing too that this world is shit and to most of them look matters more than personality

[@Katfully_foody]

And you get New problems to replace them

[@woozihae]

Yeah, it's sad but you can't deny the truth. If someone disagreed then they'd be lying to themselves lol.

[@coolbreeze5683]

I had a Psychology professor back in the day say during lectures "sorry to offend the women in this class but all men prefer blondes. That's just psychological fact." He was a tenured professor who probably lectured his crappy opinions for decades.

[@coolbreeze5683]

@@Nortarachanges he was a weird professor and I heard years later that some students complained about him making other racist and sexist remarks during lectures. Him making that comment and calling it fact is absurd. Probably 99% of people of color have dark hair so whatever skewed data he had disregarded a large amount of the population.

[@user-qw1mm9bn3k]

Gurl your so real for this your speaking facts frfr ❤

[@athenathegoddess1060]

If someone not conventionally attractive says looks aren’t everything people think their over compensating and trying to make themselves feel better. If someone conventionally attractive says it then they are angels and so generous.

[@Poodle_Gun]

Only if they're men

[@Bom.3d]

“The truth ain’t pretty but coming from that pretty mouth the truth seems fitting”- jhene aiko

[@brokechanic4844]

Imma have to go look up Jhene Aiko, that's smooth

[@thelordparis2103]

Songs fucken fire

[@Bom.3d]

@@brokechanic4844 this made my day more people need to listen to her fr

[@rosetyong]

Oh damn it’s her I knew this name seems familiar

[@myrasvlogs787]

"Cause you ain't never talking loud, cause you just get me, you know what I'm talking about, yeah you so PRETTY" 👀

[@ravenashburn3689]

"What's a disadvantage of being ugly?" "Literally existing" if they're a genuinely nice person but ugly they'll be labeled as a creep

[@taylorbooker8463]

What kind of world do you live in? I don't know any genuinely nice ugly people who are labeled as creeps by virtue of being ugly. Also, straight up UGLY people are very rare. Tryna think of someone in my school who is ugly rn and I can't. Like do you mean deformed?

[@candacethecreative]

@@taylorbooker8463 not ugly - unconventionally attractive

[@cuteshark2964]

Facts

[@MsCatfish4]

@@taylorbooker8463 I’ve defo hung out with girls who’ve called a guy who was unattractive or even just older a creep when all they did was talk to us

[@taylorbooker8463]

@@MsCatfish4 I hear. It's immaturity to assume a guy is creepy just because he's talking to you - adults are usually less shallow and more open-minded. My point is that conventionally unattractive people are not generally perceived as "creepy" unless they are genuinely creepy. I've just never seen that. I can't deny people's experiences but it sounds very bizarre and extreme.

[@adrianlovestay]

It really is real. Influencers that are stereotypically attractive get away with so much shit.

[@violent_human]

As someone who had an insane glow up two months ago when I was sick for a month straight and just focused on learning to do my own hair and makeup properly, I can tell you: PRETTY PRIVELEGE EXISTS. I was treated like shit bc I was fat and ugly all my life, but when I disappeared off the face of the earth for a month and came back pretty and skinny, suddenly people wanted to be around me???

[@jellyfishnooni3497]

Being a POC and racially ambiguous is now the beauty standard. I haven’t even changed, the beauty standard has. It is the realest shit, you are exactly right

[@z_bennet4208]

THIS!! i used to feel unwanted and ugly because of my brown skin, hair and eyes so i spent my entire life acoiding sunlight, lightening my hair and whitewash myself. now when they find out im racially ambiguous its like a fetish to man and instead of getting bullied i hear “hello my pretty kebap princess” lmao.

[@awesometani8148]

@@z_bennet4208 I know!! Exactly

[@nikki1400]

Get into acting. Being racially ambiguous is GREAT in the acting world.

[@danatekhlay6304]

This is so true , but I'm not racially ambiguous I'm a dark-skinned blackgirl with afro hair so its tough out here , I have to be super attractive, have amazing features nice body hair that looks perfect makeup and decent close to even get a third of the attention an AVERAGE white girl gets , I'm still overlooked , I have to over compensate with a personality smh

[@danatekhlay6304]

KEBAB PRINCESS IS OUTRGES😭😭

[@kinda_cold_in_the_closet]

“Everything you did was annoying” I felt that.

[@unravel9716]

Especially with family

[@ericfurtah8285]

Same

[@EMMAxSWIFTIE13]

I swear this is me all the time. Everyone is so irritated when I ask a question or even speak, like come on let me speak.

[@LilGreenGlo]

Dude. This is so true. When I was “less attractive” nobody listened to me. I got so used to being treated like that, so now that I’m “prettier” I get so surprised that people don’t talk over me and they actually listen.

[@jessijaneway6660]

Girl I had a guy literally tell me to my face that my more attractive friend's feelings mattered more than mine...because she's hot.

[@derpwadder]

He is gonna age so badly and karma is going to hit him like a truck

[@michio2018]

How dare he tsk

[@aAverageFan]

@@derpwadder Karma doesn't exist

[@0ldAcc0unt]

@@aAverageFan I mean, you can believe what you want to believe. But someday he'll pay in some form.

[@lylelaney8270]

​@@0ldAcc0unt that's a lie people say to comfort themselves.

[@JamilLynch]

"Its flirting if you're hot, it's sexual harassment if you're not." 🥴

[@firefly.8381]

mainly that's an attraction thing.. if your attracted to that person you would welcome the flirting.. if you are not attracted to the person you probably won't. unless it's a stereotypical hot person flirting with everyone, then ur just seen as a player.

[@chunnilal2111]

Realest shit I read today

[@ferd3007]

Yeah, cause sexual harassment has nothing to do with sexual stuff at all...

[@kea2613]

Men☕️

[@gwenshapp3621]

@@kea2613 Lets play find the misandrist! Found them..

[@nilimabarapatre6182]

As a person who is now little bit of a cute looking in their teens rather than being ugly as hell in childhood, their is a sky high difference in how you get treated by boys ...And BETTER TRUST ME!!!!❤

[@wwrittenbymee]

the popular kids at my school are honestly really bitchy, but i noticed that they’re actually nice to me. i talked about it with my best friend, and she said that it’s because they find me pretty. i thought that couldn’t be the reason, but i still went on with my day. couple weeks later, me and my best friend were hanging out with each other while the popular kids were right there. (i don’t want to be mean, but people don’t exactly find my best friend attractive-) but i tripped over something while walking, and they all gave me a friendly smile. minutes later, my best friend then tripped over the same thing, and they called her fat. pretty privilege is fucking real. that shit is not fair.

[@Poodle_Gun]

Maybe they're "mean" so that people stop picking on them. Look at all the angry people in the comment section! I'll bet some of them would physically attack you.

[@crimina1minds]

waiting for the day i glow up so i can reject everyone that rejected me

[@asgacc8789]

What about me

[@nagito177]

this

[@theman5324]

Same

[@ElaineSade]

Don’t worry it’ll come sooner than you think 🤭

[@Katharina14031982]

I understand where you are coming from, but please don’t behave as badly as they did…

[@sierra.lynette]

“your presence is annoying” to “let me do that for you baby girl”

[@sunny.sun00]

LITERALLY

[@BigFortniteBaIIs]

She's talking to attractive ppl sir

[@BigFortniteBaIIs]

@@sunny.sun00 not talking to you goofy

[@TehNiCoLaS]

@@blossom_roblox1358 popular is a stretch it you got roblox in your name if im honest

[@posadist681]

@@TehNiCoLaS damn 💀

[@gabrielidusogie9189]

For me it’s the civil inattention. People will avoid eye contact with but as soon as you look conventionally attractive then all of a sudden, people start saying to you. It’s weird when it’s people who you’ve seen around and they have avoided you but now, they want your presence

[@Poodle_Gun]

Unless you're conventionally "overattractive", in which case, they'll treat you like shit.

[@feyre_fey]

Okay here's one from me Till high school I was fat,I wouldn't say that I was 'ugly' but I was very chubby and have this very ugly flaked/fizzy hair which I sometimes even cut it so short(somehow like a bob cut),I've never considered myself as 'ugly' but I think the boys(and some girls) think otherwise,I often heard them making fun of my appearances,but I was cool with it,don't even know why,just don't care at all.But as high school ends I decided that it's time for a change and I work on my body,my skin(I was fair and still am,which is considered pretty in our country,yes i'm from Asia)because I had acnes/pimples,and learned to take proper care of my hair,I even work on my postures(i've heard my classmates who are boys have been talking 'bout my bad posture and even the way I walk),and my attitude.And this year we have a high school reunion party and my ex-classmates were shocked.And even the guys who never talk to me walk up to me with big smiles and asking me my numbers,blah blah.I told my girlfriends about these and they were like,"Maybe they just tryna be nice" like NO! They could've been nice when I was not so attractive but they WEREN'T. This does not only happen in this circle but also in my everyday surroundings,can't help but compare my previous experiences and now. Like seriously people can't argue.PRETTY PRIVILEGE IS REAL!

[@hazelnut11_]

the difference between how we treat moths vs butterflies is a prime example of pretty privilege and their not even human

[@ugotnojamz7503]

Your comment made me realise a lot of shit

[@diobrando1616]

I love moths especially those big cute fuzzy ones. A better example is Butterflies and flies. We will be careful with a butterfly cause it pretty and kill flies because they're ugly and don't have a pretty design on them.

[@Okk681]

I treat them the same way, the wings of a butterfly is pretty but I can’t stand their bodies 😬

[@Haley4321]

True but I actually like moths better than butterflies. 😂 Ig some ppl don’t like moths as much because they eat your clothes and stuff but like hey how often does that actually happen to you.

[@bruhno1545]

@@Okk681 same bur we still prefer them over moths because of pretty wings

[@pg4222]

yes. does anyone else get the, “i’ve always had a crush on you.” text from the ppl that new you before your glow up

[@Max-rx8ri]

LITERALLLLYYYYY

[@snowy_gateaway7583]

FR

[@deaddog7611]

Nah cause I don’t shave my legs and it scares most of the shallow people off.

[@ReflectingonReflection]

@@deaddog7611 LMFAOOO

[@catherinevaz6139]

Omg, this is so true. I used to be a friend, at best. Bullied, by some. All of a sudden, many guys wanted to hang out with me / date me. No glow-up though, just late puberty, lol 😂

[@thepersonwhoasked4772]

I irritate people somehow but im not even talking to them or know them i am just able to fucking piss them off with my ability to exist.

[@TtheLorax]

No this is actually the truest thing I’ve seen today

[@hana-77]

its so hard for ppl who are deemed “unattractive” to understand the feeling and reassurance that we are not any less deserving. i know the look people give when you say you have a crush, the look that you’ll never be pretty enough for them.

[@theman5324]

Same. It's so lonely. You can be surrounded by a hundred people, but none of them find you attractive. Like what 💀 not even one?

[@hana-77]

@@theman5324 right.. and all bc someone js randomly decided certain features were ugly 😭 not our fault we arent perfect bro

[@jiminplsletmehit7620]

@@hana-77 uh, no actually 😭 beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Mainstream beauty standards don’t necessarily dictate what the people around you see as attractive. It determines who society as a whole treats a certain way based on these standards

[@iamdumbsometimes483]

@@jiminplsletmehit7620 Ya But majortity Beatuty is in the eyes Of the masses And masses Have more power than you

[@hana-77]

@@jiminplsletmehit7620 yes, actually 😭 im talking abt majority of society. which IS mainstream. if someone likes for smt thats deemed widely unattractive then ok. i never said that its impossible for sb to like those things but its unbelievably rare and unfortunately most of society doesnt think that way.

[@kenny995]

My best friend is so stunning and has a great personality. When we go out together you can see the stark contrast in how we're treated. People hold door for her, buy her drinks, and ask her to dance. I'm usually ignored by most people. She's insecure so she doesn't realize she has pretty privilege, but that's not her fault. She's a genuinely great person, it's just funny to see how differently we're treated.

[@MH-hy9su]

I have the same experience. My lovely friend is constantly being given gifts from customers for doing much less than all of us. I’m invisible most of the time but when I walk side by side with her it’s highlighted!

[@SalemsForgottenWitch]

My ex best friend had a huge glow-up and now she has pretty privilege, and she's the exact opposite, hence *ex* best friend. She's a narcissist and constantly uses her prettiness to get away with everything. As example, I would say I don't get crushes often, but I do get crushes easily and when I do, I get really attached to them, I have BPD so I even tend to get codependent over the person I adore. Now, I've had three crush in total in my highschool years. A, a boy from my class who her and I were both friends with. I had a crush on him since my first year there and, since we were best friends, she knew exactly, she wasn't particularly "pretty" (by societies standards) back then, but later that year she had her huge ass glow-up, and I'm talking from us both being like a 5 to her being a 9, she's really godamn attractive now, and after she got her massive glow-up she, suddenly, started crushing on him too, I didn't think much of it at first since she was my best friend and I didn't think she'd actually make moves on my crush, well, summer holidays were there and when they were over, I come back to school after being in the hospital (where she didn't visit nor texted me at all throughout, which I thought was weird) and boom! They're holding hands and being all in love right in my face, I cried my eyes out for a few days and had to stay at home because my mental health was shitting me on, but eventually got back to school. I had another crush on a guy, but we weren't really friends, I was attached to him though, and guess what? Yeah, it all started with "Guess who was staring at me in class today? Right, your crush!" And after I told her I lost interest in him (which was partially true) it ended two days later with "We had a date today, he totally loved me, but hm I think he just isn't my type really." Then, after some time, I had another crush, let's call her L. L and I were really close friends, we were in the same class and we sat next to eachother the whole years. I told my bestfriend all about her, she knew how much she meant to me, and yet, she tried to take her from me again. BUT I was fed up with my bestfriends shit so before she could do anything, I asked L out, and she said yes! Me and L were together for over 2 years, and I was so in love with her, I would call her my first real love, and until now, my only, throughout our relationship my bestfriend was not herself, she was so mad about the fact that her pretty privilege didn't work on L that she totally left me to rot, so we didn't talk for almost a year, but, as heavily depended as I was on her, I truly loved L, even more than my narcissistic best friend. Eventually me and L broke up though, not because of my best friend, but because of my shitty mental state, hey, I get it, but it was the worst heartbreak I've ever experienced, so bad even that my mental health got so bad that I had to be locked up in a psych ward throughout my birthday in october, christmas, new years eve, valentines day, eastern and almost another of my birthdays. Moral of the story, watch out for (pretty) people who are narcissists, especially if you have BPD, NPD and BPD go hand in hand, polar opposites attract, so narcissists love borderliners, like with me and her.

[@SalemsForgottenWitch]

Godamn, my comment ended up being super long, sorry lol!

[@claracatlady9844]

Yeah been there. It’s the getting ignored for me. Like I 100% understand that someone is interested in getting with my bf because she is drop dead gorgeous and super charismatic. I don’t expect people to treat me the same way. It’s just that I think it’s pretty rude to walk up to two people that are obviously there together and then blatantly ignore one of them simply because you aren’t interested in pursuing them. It just makes you feel so invisible and irrelevant

[@ivorywine2627]

It was so strange for me to realize I had pretty privilege. I grew up in a small village so the people around me knew me since forever so I never really got benefited from pretty privilege, I wasn't considered the pretty girl, I was more of just the smart kid and kinda bullied too. I was super insecure so I never really realised I fit the beauty standard. When I got to highschool it became more clear that some people found me attractive but my mental health really fluctuated and my confidence too. I always felt like I could never shine or be the first choice when with my friends (because people would either always hit on them, not me, or because they'd talk about how they think someone likes them). Really only after another girl hit on me I realized I was actually fairly attractive lol Now I do see it really clearly because strangers at my job always treat me with more patience and respect when they see me vs when they only hear my voice, so it is really clear that it is a thing, even when my confidence makes me feel otherwise.

[@MalikaInbetween]

Absolutely true!! And the fact that like you were/considered “weird” before but now you’re “interesting” 🤦🏾‍♀️ bro

[@purpleanne723]

I've always been really pretty well not always but still the majority of my life I have been but my friend who is basically a sister to me wasn't conventionally attractive but then she had a glow up and BRO the way people switched up on how they treated her it's honestly really sad.

[@chadalpha]

When she said "your presence pissed people off". That's me! And if you bring this up, the response is "well there must have been something you said or did to piss them off"

[@mochiteacutie]

Literally me at my job like how tf does it annoy you Brian when I ask you for one price check one time in 6 months like wtf.

[@mr.3pic324]

Yeah, Chad. You are literally the most annoying person. I think you should just leave this conversation. Gosh.

[@user-ko7mp9jg2u]

Yea its a direct gaslight

[@starlovelndh]

It's so true she explained it so good like whenever I talk people get annoyed af like what the f*ck did I do?

[@thewatershopkeeper167]

Exactly dude this is-

[@cupidity_1255]

Let me tell you pretty privilege IS REAL Now i have a small, round, baby face so masks looked really bad on me. Everyone ignored me and talked over me in group projects. HOWEVER, THIS YEAR, masks were no longer required and suddenly everyone is so much nicer and listens to me 😭

[@CherryXXCola]

Omg literally the exact same thing happened to me. I had to wear masks made for children because normal masks fell off my face, but the kids’ masks were really poor quality and they were super unflattering on me. I also didn’t know how to dress my body type so all my clothes didn’t fit my shape well and after I stopped wearing masks and got a little bit of fashion sense I’m treated so much better.

[@cupidity_1255]

@@CherryXXCola I swear we had the opposite of mask fishing

[@CherryXXCola]

@@cupidity_1255 FR that’s the best way I’ve heard it described

[@SilverGreenEyes18]

That's because masks made everyone anti- social. You are lucky that this was your problem, people were commiting suicides because of those inhumane corona measures

[@dipakkakotidipakkakoti4420]

Same

[@lazyfoxplays8503]

When I was skinny and in shape people talked to me everyday. People would walk up to me and I was invited to BBQ’s, and just to join clubs and events. When I dislocated my kneecap and gained a ton of weight, bro. I became invisible. And this isn’t school. This is a grown adult telling you. When I gained 80 pounds because I was still eating like I was working out every day, but not doing anything that intense. I became literally invisible and people stopped caring. I stopped getting invited to things. When I became depressed, I heard “that sucks,” and damn… there was no attention on me. Well… there was some attention. But it was people who fetishized obesity. As an adult. Can confirm.

[@robster7787]

Bruh. I can confirm that look’s definitely affects day to day interaction. There is both a Harvard and Johns Hopkins study on the matter *that I participated in* Just to note, I was the “average looking” one.

[@katiekawaii]

The opposite is true too. I used to be thin and pretty and people were always nice and helpful and interested in me. As soon as I gained weight, I became _invisible._ It was one of the most eye-opening experiences of my life.

[@fighterflight]

Yup. And that’s what the pretty privilege deniers haven’t experienced yet but they will eventually.

[@funfings842]

Awww nooo! Im so sorry you had to go through that! It's disgusting how dehumanising people can be for something like this. You deserve to be treated so much better. Also i have a question, if that's okay... would you say you found out who your real friends were through this? The ones who loved you because of who you were, not the flesh sack you came with?

[@spinda7]

when you’re ugly they talk over you, but when you’re pretty they pause and actually listen to what you have to say

[@saralpbx]

FR OMG

[@lamb9770]

that is so accurate and so sad😢

[@raquelwhite7210]

Natural to be nicer to someone you find attractive

[@UrMom-qf6db]

If this what society become im scared for the future. Imagine priorities people that have cute faces rather than knowledgeable people.

[@lamb9770]

@@UrMom-qf6db this isn’t a new thing at all

[@RazorShalom]

My ex boss at dominos would literally let the girls that work there get away with anything. He even let them steal and then blamed me and other men for the theft. Pretty privilege is very real. It’s what’s ruining this world.

[@Littlebrunetteme]

She ain’t lying when I was “ugly” but they where like “eww she likes you” now it’s “damn mommy” and “damn you got W rizz” 💀💀💀

[@muskanmoondra682]

The "stereotypically attractive" did it for me. I love this girl😭😭

[@vldt5934]

Conventionally attractive

[@mymidgetbae184]

How can anyone even deny pretty privilege it's real af

[@enrater123]

Yeah of course it is, I haven't seen anyone deny it though but it's almost like saying the earth is flat as it's been proven that attractiveness warps our perception of people

[@lavenderllamamusic]

my brother has denied it whenever i mention it to him. it's really annoying lol like c'mon at least be honest and own it

[@wolfzmusic9706]

Not for all people. I'm pretty and still got bullied cuz people saw me as a nobody and a loser

[@enrater123]

@@wolfzmusic9706 yeah it can actually be the other way around, people can be quite antipathic to you out of envy

[@clueless7822]

If you are pretty admitting that being pretty gives you benefits is a form of social suicide. That is why rich ppl say money don't matter.

[@m1ika_]

It’s because of the Halo effect. It indicates that if someone is good looking (for example), you would assume that they have a good personality, or if someone is rich, you could assume they are smart. It’s not only about beauty, but the Halo effect applies to it as well.

[@NicDunn]

Yup, when you’re nice to look at people are nice to you. Be presentable and always work on yourself

[@maryamkidwai2543]

Its good to work on yourself. But not everyone is gonna be in the mental space to work on their looks all the time, or have other stressors. Or theyre working on it but it takes time. That doesnt excuse people deciding how to treat a person based on their appearance. Thats the same way people could for example treat people of different races differently just based on appearances even if they arent racist per se. Its all douchebag behaviour.

[@nat_c_crow]

People who have always been pretty don’t realize they have the privilege cause they’ve always lived like that, it’s the basic “standard” that they know. Someone who is considered “unattractive” or “ugly” by society’s standards doesn’t get treated the same as a “pretty” person who has that privilege, as depressing and messed up as that is.

[@bwingbwinggwiyomi]

I was the person who was considered ugly duckling, and now I get pretty privilege. It is very much real, yeah. And so bullshit. I feel compassion everyday for my younger self, she was always beautiful ♡

[@abigailsunn1464]

Yeah, this short hit me so hard. While I'm glad to have pretty privilege now, it causes me to go back and forth between loving how far I've come to just trashing on how I used to look/feel. This is the society we live in.

[@sexybraintv]

Ya, and you don't get harassed every second either. ‼️

[@keeptaiwanfree]

i never thought i had pretty privilege and i thought people were just all being super nice to me for some reason, until i saw on youtube videos of people talking about what happens when you have pretty privilege. i still don’t know if i have it (i have a complicated relationship w/ my appearance) but im realizing more and more that people are nice to me because of me looking innocent and having a baby face and being “cute”

[@donaldfromtiktok6424]

I can contest. I’ve always been conventionally attractive. Guys are always so nice to me (unless I reject them).

[@deleted72636]

Those people are also the humblest because they know what it feels like to be rejected by others.

[@bonkmeabeab3563]

big true. thats just a true thing in general: people who have had it bad in life are less likely to discriminate or make fun of people in those same situations. going through shit gives you a sense of empathy and compassion that is difficult to get otherwise

[@zachsdickDOTmpg]

100%. After my glow up during the pandemic I started getting a lot more attention out in public from both men and women. But I still remember how scary it was to even approach strangers in public and try to spark a convo or get a number or a date. So when people start flirting with or hitting on me I always try to let them down easy and show respect for the fact they even tried. There’s nothing wrong with getting rejected, the only mistake is not taking your shot to find the right person for you.

[@williamcooper8599]

And probably make the best wives/husbands.

[@surbhibohre4344]

Exactly

[@nanditakatha5347]

Some aren't. There was a boy in my class his looks weren't great, he was even unhygienic and stuff no one would even let him borrow an eraser even went ahead and tried to commit suicide in class I helped him throughout the years. After a few years he came back to school became the hotshot popular guy doesn't even care to say 'Thank you' he simply ignores me

[@leohalivan861]

Straight facts. I've lost about 100lbs of weight and even though I still have about 50lbs too much on, I can see a VAST difference in how I am treated by everyone I meet.

[@011StObsessedSwiftieandLivie]

Yall, she isn’t saying that people are ‘ugly’ she is saying that people will always be ugly according to beauty standards and that means that those people who are considered ugly will be disrespected.

[@milkcartondoll]

literally. the amount of times i got called fat and ugly during my tweens/teens was tremendous. i’m convinced the only reason my “friends” in high school kept me around was to make themselves feel better about themselves because they were so freaking cruel to me and mocked/belittled anything i’d say. but then after i graduated and lost weight, learned how to dress better/developed my own style, and just generally got through puberty, the same people who would never look my way were suddenly falling over themselves trying to get my attention. now people will stop me to call me a doll and tell me i’m “pretty” and blah blah blah but it doesn’t mean a damn thing because i still see the same frumpy little 15 year old girl in the mirror. i still feel like i’m the butt of some cruel joke.

[@aubreysub6928]

“feeling like the butt of some cruel joke” is SO TRUE and the feeling never goes away. when people laugh in public I still think they’re laughing at me, even though I’ve lost weight and look “”normal”” now. A guy tried to talk to me in class this semester and I spent the entire time wondering what his end goal was, thinking that his friends dared him to talk to me or some shit.

[@josb.m.2334]

I struggle with this, like I want to loose weight and get in shape but worry people will only want me for my glow up and not my personality. Like what do we do? Who can we trust to like us for us.

[@barsxsalicia]

@@josb.m.2334 well you should get in shape for your own health lol, heart disease is a growing condition in todays world. Looking good would just be a plus.

[@miacale2125]

@@josb.m.2334 I totally agree with Alicia but beside that, I would advice u to not worry too much about it for a simple reason : "Don't be paranoid about who your real friends are, there's only one way to find out Let time do the sorting " (Orelsan, notes pour trop tard if you re intrigued by the ref :) ) Like, deceptions happen more often when u re conventionally attractive that s for sure, but it s not necessarily a bad thing cause u learn a lot from them. It s like unlocking secret scenes from an otome game, u discover aspects of humanity that u didn t suspect and it s really interesting for your personal growth to know about more diversified perspectives, even evil ones. In the worst scenario you would feel a little lost at first but after an " existential crisis " you re more likely to have better social skills, see red flags more easily and to be more steady on your standards and principles

[@fighterflight]

@@josb.m.2334 don’t worry about who to trust, just trust yourself to know the difference between a decent kind friend and a fake person manipulating you. give yourself some credit 👍

[@JM-iu2ss]

Pretty privilege is 10000000% real. I used to be super overweight growing up. Up until about a year ago when I got my shit together and now I’m pretty.When I would wait to cross the street I’d have to sit for ages until there was randomly a gap in the cars so that I can run across. Now I’ll stand at the side and wait for a couple seconds before a car will just stop and let me cross. I’ve been allowed to cut lines by guys when before that was unheard of for me. My bf even jokes about it. We were struggling to get an Uber because we had our dogs with us so he told me to use my “pretty privilege” whilst he waited round the corner with our dogs. I asked the driver and he was completely fine with it (bare in mind we had messaged and called a good 10 drivers before this) maybe he was just nice but idk. It sucks sometimes because I think back to my old self and how I never would’ve been treated how I am now.

[@shabnam414]

@Simply Sahara so like. you did look prettier than before. you said you learned to flatter your features more

[@Ur_husband_is_gay161]

Girl u hair is givingggg!!!!!

[@thinkforyourself518]

I actually use this now---I let myself be "ugly" sometimes and see how people treat me. It reveals A LOT about how people feel about you, and also themselves.

[@JessicaB-th5kz]

My sister fr she had a glow up a extremely good one. At 13 she was like "ugly" 3 years later She had a glow up and i have to tell you her old friends tried to be friends with her again and her ex wanted to get back with her. Pretty privilege is real!

[@Azr721]

This is true. Even though I had the opposite happening to me. Since childhood until the age of 22 I was attractive and had a lot of attention from guys and people always commented about how gorgeous I am. Then I suffered from intense physical and mental health problems and for the past 3 years I started looking more and more "ugly". I gained weight around my waist and stomach while my legs didn't (my shape became weird), I started getting acnes and scars, my skin color became yellowish, my hair thining and I look ill overall. Now I noticed people are mean to me. when I go to restaurant they always put me in a table far from people and when I ask for help for example from an employer in a shop or at the hair salon they act annoyed by me, roll their eyes and sigh, never smile or just ignore me when I talk to them and even their services to me is done in bad way.

[@ClovertheUnburnt]

omg, yeah... like its wild for me because I was socially awkward but a bit stereotypically attractive... now I have gained 100 pounds and had my hormones go wild and came out as NB and bi (NOT a good thing where I live)... but I am also much more socially adept. and so its wild seeing the things people suddenly accept, and the things they suddenly find annoying lol

[@waterlily7903]

Damn.. I’m so sorry. I wish the world wasn’t like this but it sucks that it is… I hope things get better for you and you start feeling better. You deserve kindness

[@AC-ow5kx]

Same. I understand what you feel, I'm so sorry about what happened I hope you get better soon❤️

[@xtralbs7384]

Don't lose hope on humanity. When I worked in retail I didn't prioritize pretty people. Lmao one attractive lady called corporate on me for a small thing (my manager said she's crazy) and I couldn't give less f∆¢ks. I thought it was funny. I treated the "unattractive" ppl better bcs they feel more genuine and less stuck up. (No I'm not "ugly" I get compliments once in awhile so I'm average. I just rlly hate pretty privilege) Ps. I'm not an a-hole based solely on their looks. It's definitely a factor in how I treat them, but I mirror their tone mostly. I don't treat them like trash I'm just more mellow and take my time like 2 seconds more.

[@lepakshijaideep489]

I'm so sorry 😞😞❣️ Truly hope your health and situation improves soon. I'm sure it's hard to remember this all the time, but it's not a 'you' problem or something you deserve, as your looks are the only reason people turned against you

[@gwendolynrobinson3900]

Pretty priviledge is real but a double edged sword, especially after a glowup. Suddenly everyone is nice to you but you can't get it out of your head that they're all fake because of your looks and you don't know who to trust and you resent how differently your treated, you can't enjoy it. Everyone all of a sudden just seems sleazy.

[@jinx8627]

I know this is a late reply, but you are so right. I began taking pride in myself after recovering from clinical depression and while I’m learning to love and take care of myself, I have such trust issues when talking with people I used to know.

[@corocoro_coronya]

The fact that being pretty in people’s eyes can make you attention seeking or stuck up too.

[@DeborahE7]

Things can change with age alone. I grew up very pretty and nobody seemed to take me seriously. After I turned 40 I’ve been mistaken for a doctor multiple times when I’m at a hospital and when I’m shopping the salespeople come to me with all their problems and it turns into a counseling session and they want all the advice I can give them. When I was younger my opinions didn’t matter much to anyone and back then people would tell me I looked like a model to my face but then would say that I was a dumb blonde behind my back. But now people want me to tell them what to do with their lives. It’s weird. Pretty people do get better treatment but nobody wants a young pretty person that they’re jealous of to tell them what to do in life.

[@rusokana3642]

Oh the struggle 😂😂

[@dumbahhperson]

You don’t gotta be good looking for people to be fake. Yeah people are nicer to you after a glowup. Doesn’t mean they’re all bad and out to get you. Just do you, take people at face value, trust your instincts.

[@roya44444]

my looks change day to day, and i can literally tell when i look good based on how everyone treats me

[@eliserieke9308]

It's real. I'm decently attractive and started wearing makup again regularly for the first time in years. My co-workers are automatically kinder, more polite and more patient. The power of makeup!

[@invisiblestring8]

it is so real. i was "the sensitive, 'funny', annoying one" because i was so desperate for anyone's attention. i used to be the one who was left out. always. ALSO, literally NO GUY has ever show interest in me, and so i watch my friends get into relationships and i'm just sitting here like 😐

[@that_prettylatina4055]

Deadass me and it sucks

[@mariaking9802]

I feel you

[@lee9910]

same like ive only liked 2 people seriously in my life and none of them liked me back 💀💀

[@minfires7572]

This is literally me rn lmao 😭 and my friends just tell me it's annoying when so many guys like them :/

[@xdkankaxd5427]

Same :/ but i wait for my glow up

[@voidvoidvoidvoid]

My bestie told me that she used to be very unpopular and “ugly”. She said that everyone hated her and treated her differently. But after she had a glow up, right when I met her, everyone was falling at her feet, asking to be friends. The only reason we became friends instead of those people is because I hadn’t known her before. Love you girly 🥰

[@gojo-ep5zu]

huh wait so the only reason ur friends is because she glowed up? idk sorry maybe im interpreting wrong

[@voidvoidvoidvoid]

@@gojo-ep5zu No, she said that she used to be “ugly” and that when she glowed up All of the people that bullied her wanted to be her a friend. We only became friends after her glow up because I hadn’t known her when she was “ugly”.

[@eileensnow6153]

@@gojo-ep5zu sort if like marrying someone when they’re poor and then they get rich. They know you don’t love their money, or in this case good looks

[@blueberrymuffin4921]

@@eileensnow6153 not exactly. more like you’re marrying someone who’s rich who used to be dead broke. it could also be for money, but the difference is that the other ppl who want to marry him were uninterested before he was rich. his sudden wealth didn’t change ur mind, nothing happened for your mind to have changed. but that’s not to say that you wouldn’t have done the same, that’s smth you would only know if you had known them before.

[@gojo-ep5zu]

@@voidvoidvoidvoid ohh right !! so was it like she had a bad reputation at that time and thats why you guys didnt get closer or something

[@Ronanthestarboylw4uw]

I can add this to the list of things to look forward to when I transition. I will find comfort in my skin and people see me the way I want to be seen and I can’t wait for it.

[@mall0wfluff]

So true. Pretty girls who were mean and rude and nasty were loved in school. If you were mean and rude as an ugly person…well you know how it goes.

[@user-kc2cg7pr5q]

Ugly ppl r not allowed to be rude or mean

[@saloni2244]

Exactly people will tell you inner beauty matters but it's just BS . I've seen beautiful and rude bully type girls getting all the attention from girls and guys Hypocricy of the people

[@Poodle_Gun]

In the eighties??

[@Aringki]

Went through it the other way around 😭 When I was pretty, people initiated conversations with me and wanted to include me in things that I didnt even ask about. And then when I gained weight during covid, people would still do that, just not with me. It was like a switch flipped and I was no longer effortlessly making friends. It's weird

[@aweakfish2910]

something similar happened to me, when i was a kid i looked pretty average, but now that i'm in highschool i'm not the most attractive person ever. the only good thing is at least i know who my real friends are

[@ashtonbeckett5596]

Pretty privilege isn't real its mostly how you present yourself and if you show up looking like a 40 yr old mom in her fucking pajamas ofc nobody is going to want to talk with you or even look at you You have to go out of your way to look good and for people to like you if you are "Ugly" First off find your haircut I swear to god if your haircut isn't right then ofc you have no chance impressing anybody and if you are out of shape go to the damn gym I don't know how tf you think your special but being in shape is not pretty privilege its just that nobody likes fat fucks and even pretty people workout and your not special and warts and acknee can be fixed with creams and stuff but yall ugly people just exscpet to be treated the same as swomebody who goes out of their way to look good. And I swear every good looking person goes out oof their way to look good it doesn't matter what they tell you they will probably lie and tell you its natural but There is effort in being attractive

[@eastcoast26]

I know right? So crazy

[@PragmaticBLT]

I feel that. Husband used to be so patient with me, smiled a lot, goofed off with me like just random tickles and kisses. Gained some weight after we had our son and now when i say his name he snaps "what?" Like im being the most annoying person he's ever met. Breaks my heart. Working on improving my body but it can get discouraging when the negative reaction to my mere existence puts me in a depressive slump. Thanks for reading my rant lol

[@Portlandporkpies]

@@PragmaticBLT Aww i feel you man, im sorry cus i dont really have any advice to give u but i just want u to know that me and the 3 other ppl who liked ur comment support u 🔥🔥🔥

[@bella6254]

If you’re ugly and shy/introverted you’re awkward or weird but If you're attractive, it can be considered cute or mysterious

[@afeiwoo5284]

I dont think its just weird i think its also considered as eyesore bcs literally im facing this stuff and yeah pretty people just get away with everything💀 most of em🗿

[@jeed4484]

Facts

[@Jennijennijenni]

Me going to work without makeup VS me going to work with makeup… HUGE difference in how customers and my coworkers treat me….

[@raskullsshako]

It’s literally so true. People thought I was hella annoying last year and it was always for the tiniest things I did. Now ima come back different and watch them act different 🙄

[@kateissues]

I used to always get called ugly growing up and was bullied a lot as well. I even experienced SA too from guys, in 8th grade. So the one day in middle school when a girl called me pretty, it honestly made my day. But I still continued to get bullied constantly for my looks in middle school and early highschool, so my self esteem hit rock bottom and I developed an ED, Depression, and body dismorphia as a result. But in my 10th grade year of highschool people started to suddenly treat me quite differently, which honestly just confused me. I didn't feel like they were being genuine with their compliments, I just thought they were just trying to be nice and not hurt my feelings. So I would constantly shut down any compliments I received even subconsciously cause I didn't really know how to accept them. I was so used to being alone, ignored, and called ugly that I didn't know how to really respond to people paying attention to me or giving me compliments. I get hit on a lot by guys recently, and I still occasionally have a few people call me ugly, (but that's besides the point) so yes pretty privilege does actually exist even if we hate to admit that it does.

[@RexGalilae]

A lot of people just grow into being pretty and I guess you were one of those. I know some girls from my middle school who were frankly clapped, fat, had terrible social skills that are now a 10 lol. It was a private school so there was no overt bullying or anything as teachers were quick to shut it down but you could tell they had terrible self esteem Good on you, though! We need this level of introspection in everyone

[@Vesta_the_Lesser]

". I didn't feel like they were being genuine either so I would constantly shut down any compliments I received cause I didn't know how to accept them. I was so used to being ignored and called ugly that I didn't know how to respond to people paying attention to me or giving me compliments." OMG This. I was always pretty average looking but I had bi-polar (diagnosed at 17) so I had behavioral problems, didn't really know how to interact with people, a group of people LOVED to pick on me b/c it was easy to do so I was paranoid, when ppl WERE nice to me i just assumed they were trying to mess with me, I didn't trust niceness ever T_T

[@HelennaRose]

Me too my brain doesn’t have the part of it developed to be accepting of people, so I’m always alone, because I was treated like you were, all the way til grade 12.

[@Altrantis]

I was bullied in school despite being attractive though. I guess it's different when you're a guy, it only seems to affect older women. Guys very much don't care and girls sort of stay away for some reason, intimidated maybe.

[@choux8372]

I feel similarly. I get complimented now, but my brain immediately thinks, "Oh, they're just being nice. They probably think I need it or something." I always say thank you and try to change the subject, but one day, a girl told me, "You DO know that you're pretty, right?" And I just stared at her blankly.

[@soniam9719]

That's why your attractive friend's dating advice is ridiculous and never works😂 They don't even need to say/ do anything - they already caught everyone's heart

[@kairahz.v]

Exactly.

[@Laniduck]

@kaylan! Yes! My hot ass friend always says "don't look for love, love will come to you!". But love doesn't come easy unless you look like you could be on the runway.

[@Hershey177]

dude dude dude!!!!!! SO TRUE... I remember feeling ignored back then... but after coming out of 2 years of quarantine after hitting puberty... people gave me soooo much attention as I had changed a lot... I realized how people treated me so different from back then... imagine going from the ugly friend to standing up for your friends for the stuff u went through

[@AleynaSeymen]

Pretty privilege is also sometimes annoying when other people tell you “oh it’s because you’re pretty” about sth you’ve accomplished or they imply that otherwise you wouldn’t be enough or don’t have anything else to offer like wtf?

[@thevioletoracle]

I'm plus sized, my sister is extremely pretty and thin. Dude. The WAY she gets treated comparatively is unreal. "I don't have skinny privilege" "pretty privilege doesn't exist." Get real. I've had people dead ass ignore my entire existence. Like introduce themselves to all my female friends and the act like I don't exist. Wont even make eye contact with me or act disgusted. Men. Girls that befriend me to make themselves feel better. It's gross. The kindness my sister gets from Everyone is insane. I'd say I'm often invisible, and she's very visible and everyone is nice to her. Free drinks. Discounts. People going out of their way to help her and give her things. I still remember her posting a photo of us and someone from our school commented: "one of you is beautiful." Go to hell Steven.

[@evilcakecutter403]

I'm so sorry all these happened to you... Please stay strong it hurts so bad to get ignored like that

[@actually_wirt]

I relate so much. My sister is gorgeous (she's also my favourite person btw), but it's just frustrating that the first thing people say to me is "your sister is so beautiful". Like damn, nice to meet you too I guess. Even adults did it growing up, which sucked. It's like nothing I say matters since we're always being compared. I thought being attractive to other people would mean getting friends in high school (which is not true), so I unfortunately developed an eating disorder i still struggle with occasionally. It also sucks when my sister's 'guy friends' pretend to be interested in me/like me just so they can get closer to her, especially the first few times when I actually fell for it. I used to be so jealous of her growing up bc of how differently we were treated by everyone, I'm glad I've found confidence in other parts of myself, and people who treat me in that particular way I pick it up easily and I don't let them waste any more of my time. If people around you want to define you by your looks they're clearly not people you want to have anything too do with

[@Patchouliprince]

Honestly fuck Steven, you’re beautiful too

[@TheRealAomineDaiki1]

I’m a bit bigger and I have a skinny sis and I feel this

[@marquistf1996]

Yeah it's very difficult to be closed connected to someone people treat VERY differently/much better. I understand what you mean from experience.

[@KatyVLOGS12]

I like that she says “stereotypically attractive” and not just “attractive”.

[@goldenpony822]

​@my mobile acount🏳️‍🌈⃠ 🤡 you wouldn't understand why she actually does it

[@Gamper1]

@my mobile acount🏳️‍🌈⃠ or because attractiveness is subjective

[@LeViIain]

You can think that stereotypically attractive people are not attractive and still have your behavior change based on who you personally find attractive or not.

[@David-vz5cz]

@@Gamper1 no beauty is mostly objective… hence pretty privilege If beauty was « in the eyes of the beholder » pretty privilege wouldn’t exist

[@NasirDawari]

She just negated her own argument.

[@SavannahHir]

This is so true, I had a guy-friend and we never talked because I had so much acne but when summer hit I worked to get rid of most of the acne and I was really pretty and now he is the nicest person ever to me but I didn’t even change on the inside

[@DominickDecocko]

Oh boy this is true. I lost weight due to being sick in my 20s and whole world shifted on me. Everyone treats you different. It went from "Can you stop wasting my time" to "How can i help you" "Can i get to know you more" "Who is this man".

[@audreymikaelson4973]

Exactly! I grew up with a slim body type and had a best friend who wouldn’t fit the label of fat, but had thick thighs and chub. She used to be bullied for her large thighs, for her (barely even noticeable) belly fat and for being very… voluptuous in her bottom. This was in elementary & middle school. I am now bullied for not being any of those things, while she is now seen as the beauty standard because she’s “curvy” & “thicc”. The roles completely reversed. The beauty standard went from being a skinny, white, blond “petite” living mannequin to a thicc girl with impossible curves. NOBODY’S BODY TYPE SHOULD EVER BE A TREND. We need to stop having “trending” bodies.

[@AndyJ-le7tp]

My story only by the time curves and thickness were “in” I was too old to be hot . Very annoying. And the older generations never let go of the standards they had growing up anyway . Body types should not be a trend , exactly.

[@fionna294]

@@Ttg0102 there has always been beauty standards pushed onto people. not really a new thing

[@banaduck2445]

omg i can see myself so much in this, when i grew up (born 2004) we always compared who has a gap between their thighs for example that was around 2016/-18 when we started to compare bodies, periods, beauty etc. and i always felt bad because i dont have a slim figure like my overall frame, i was a bit chubby :3 at that time but still i cant get a gap between my thighs even being completely healthy and fit 🏃 maybe only if im underweight 👀 now i have deep talk with guys (or gurls) that told me that they actually think my thighs are really attractive and i was like??? huh really? for context thicc isnt (or wasnt) such a big thing in europe if you compare it to the USA, latin countries or balkan countries, but now also here i guess which really suprised me how fast it can change i didnt even notice that development which is quite insane and scary tho but out of this i learned not to mind anymore as long as im healthy because its gonna change anyway and i dont have to go with the beauty standards its stress for nothing

[@somisomi62]

True! I was fat and ugly before then had a glow up in college then gained weight again during the pandemic then lost weight post pandemic--people treat you differently depending on the way you look.

[@ashtonbeckett5596]

Pretty privilege isn't real its mostly how you present yourself and if you show up looking like a 40 yr old mom in her fucking pajamas ofc nobody is going to want to talk with you or even look at you You have to go out of your way to look good and for people to like you if you are "Ugly" First off find your haircut I swear to god if your haircut isn't right then ofc you have no chance impressing anybody and if you are out of shape go to the damn gym I don't know how tf you think your special but being in shape is not pretty privilege its just that nobody likes fat fucks and even pretty people workout and your not special and warts and acknee can be fixed with creams and stuff but yall ugly people just exscpet to be treated the same as swomebody who goes out of their way to look good. And I swear every good looking person goes out oof their way to look good it doesn't matter what they tell you they will probably lie and tell you its natural but There is effort in being attractive

[@slimshadyfoeva333]

@@tyjk8964look up calorie calculator and type in your exact height and weight. For example, I am 6 foot and used to be 290 pounds. Calorie calculator said I needed about 3000 calories per day to maintain my weight 2000 calories per day to lose one pound per week and 1700 calories per day to lose 2 pounds per week. This is what people mean when they say they are on a calorie deficit. It absolutely worked for me I am now 165 pounds and feel amazing. However, the less you weigh the less your calorie intake should be. For example, at my current height of 6 foot and weight of 165 pounds it would be about 2500 calories per day to maintain my weight 1700 calories per day to lose one pound a week and 1500 calories per day to lose 2 pounds a week. You can try other methods such as a keto diet ,which means you cut out almost all carbs ,but it’s harder to keep track of and there are many weird ingredients in many processed foods that will counteract ketosis. I have also heard ketosis can cause severe headaches for the first month of a minimal carb diet. So, I would absolutely recommend the calorie deficit. It seems like results are much quicker as well.

[@slimshadyfoeva333]

I know this reply is like a damn book at this point LOL ,but I just wanted to mention the importance of protein in a calorie deficit. The minimal amount of protein in grams to get is .73 multiplied by the amount you weigh. For example, i weigh 165 pounds which means I should try to get at least 120 grams of protein within my allotted amount of calories for the day. So the best way to do this (especially on a calorie deficit) is finding the lowest calorie highest protein ratio in the food that you eat. For example, grilled chicken, broccoli, turkey, egg whites, and yogurt are all great low calorie foods with high amount of protein and they all happen to leave you fairly satiated as well. Protein will help you keep and even build some muscle on a calorie deficit ,but if you are not worried about lifting don’t over complicate it. Just stick to your calorie deficit. Change your habits and your body will change itself. If you actually read this I hope it helped lol. Good luck!!!

[@zillva]

​@@slimshadyfoeva333Just want to add on a tiny bit of extra info here. 1lb in a week = 500kcal deficite 2lbs in a week = 1000kcal deficite. A calculator isn't always accurate, as the base metabolic rate varies depending on genetics, and it generally only shows the average. A slow metabolism can be a full 300kcal lower than the average, and a fast one 300kcal higher, though you likely have hormonal imbalances if its anything more than that, and should see a doctor for it

[@atin4353]

Also the "pretty girls have no true friends because every other girl is jealous of her" is BS. All my friends were beautiful in highschool and college, ive also stayed in several girls hostel and i know very well they were treated really nice. The prettiest girl were showered with compliments often even by us girls. So whenever i see pick me girls talking about how no girl likes them because of their beauty i just 🙄 Pretty girls get pretty privilege from both genders because we girls literally fawn over other pretty girls all the time

[@nicknackpaddywacks]

As someone who's been bullied and called ugly all throughout middle school, I felt this deep in my soul 😔 I've been treated as and called 'annoying' more times than I can count.

[@_je0njungk00kie]

Same. Now I just don’t talk cuz no one cares

[@kendelbeard6627]

Very VERY true. Her before and after description describes my social life from grade all the way to my college days.