Learning To Help My Daughter Through Depression | {THE AND} Abigail & Jeff

[@nkinyori]

"I love you coz you're you. You don't have to do anything, be anything..." Such a powerful message from a father to his child ❤

[@eklecktic]

Other things popped in my head - her sense of humor, her level of compassion for others (including animals!), her hugs, etc. But ultimately just by the nature of who sho is as my daughter overrides any and all other positive attributes. Thank you for the comment!

[@nkinyori]

@@eklecktic Beautiful. I know she appreciates you too as her father. Thank you and most welcome :)

[@nkinyori]

@NIVEA I love that! I need to find me an anyway friend :)

[@jeannielikeinabottle]

@NIVEA that's so beautiful! Thanks for sharing that! I love!

[@jaughnekow]

Wish my parents could see this.

[@michilii]

this one hits hard for some reason. You can really see how much he knows her and hurts for her. Dad role model.

[@eklecktic]

Wow! I don't know about that Mich, but THANK YOU. I love her with all my heart.

[@arcbee007]

"You made it through all of your bad days" - So beautiful & true.

[@theman3342]

Wish i could do conversation like this with my parents

[@lunatic5162]

Same.

[@shandradowe4113]

When I was a teenager..i was going through depression an my mom didn't even listen to me..I'm 51 now an sometimes it catches up to me

[@lorelei7754]

I feel that. I'm 39 now, but when I was her age I was suicidal. I needed help. I never had anything close to this conversation with my parents. That support and love is amazing.

[@eklecktic]

@@lorelei7754 I thank God for the relationship I have with both my daughters. It's not always easy, but it's always lined with love. I'm committed to being there for my girls and my amazing wife.

[@rylie.2019]

i hope and pray for the same for you, me and EVERYONE, we WILL get through whatever you’re going through, love you!! your existence shows there’s more PURPOSE to you THAN YOU KNOW.

[@marikesl]

"The talent's there, kiddo!" - That hit me right in the feels!

[@babyelephant260907]

What a beautiful, meaningful and soulful father/ daughter connection. They even have the same eyes. “I want to live, I want to thrive, I want to love living life” really resonated with me. Suicidal depression can be so debilitating. But hang on in there Abigail (and anyone else struggling). The darkest minute of your life only lasts sixty seconds...Reach out. Most people are decent and would rather hear what’s going on internally than your eulogy.

[@abigailkleck8538]

I haven’t ever noticed how much alike our eyes are until you mentioned it. Thank you for the sweet comment ❤️

[@babyelephant260907]

@@abigailkleck8538 It’s the first thing that I noticed. (: You’re so welcome! Thank you for being brave enough to share your inspiring and life-affirming story. There’s beauty and strength in vulnerability. One step at a time, one day at a time. You’ve got this!❤️

[@lisalamorey3453]

I wonder where her feelings come from? Such a great relationship. FIGHT sweetheart! You are SO loved!

[@wombatcube]

Depression is more complex than "Oh I had cool parents"....it can come up from someone raised by amazing folks.

[@lisalamorey3453]

@@wombatcube Agreed

[@lauralambo9870]

I really felt this one. I really hope she's still here and continues fighting. I fight everyday and it's hard but so worth it.

[@746shix]

Watching this as a Woman who grew up without a dad makes me feel my loss, how wonderful to be loved unconditionally, beautiful

[@victoriamwema9031]

Abigail I'm rooting for you!

[@abigailkleck8538]

Thank you Victoria!

[@abigailkleck8538]

@NIVEA I wasn’t expecting to cry two days in a row!!! You totally hit me in the feels with that one, thank you.

[@spiderrocket8367]

As someone who’s best friend sufferers from Depression. You can never fix someone with depression. You just have to be there for them the best way possible

[@DaynaChristinex3]

I feel for her. I’ve struggled with similar issues, and I wish I had even one of my parents hear me. Or even take a second to ask me how I’m doing. He is such a great father. I hope she is doing better.

[@abigailkleck8538]

Thanks to TMS, therapy and support from my dad I am getting better! Everyday is still a struggle but it’s getting better!

[@DaynaChristinex3]

@@abigailkleck8538 That is awesome to hear! You can do it!! Take care😊

[@loun9611]

Jeff , I could relate totally to you as I am a father giving support for my adult daughter who suffers from depression. It is so hard to see your child during their dark times.and you just want to make things better but can’t. At times I feel so hopeless and don’t know what to do. Other times self pity comes in for moment where i feel “why me” then I feel guilty. You just feel so helpless and you want your child to get better and have a happy bright life. It is a worry that stays with me constantly. I think you understand.as fathers we want our children to have a bright happy productive life. Wishing both your daughter and you the best. A huge hug to both of you.

[@TheSkinDeep]

Thank you so much for sharing this, and opening up to Jeff and our community. Sending you and your daughter love.

[@kathis4386]

That’s the kind of relationship I‘d love to have with my father & mother. But it’s never going to happen in this life. I loved everything about this conversation. Pure and raw emotion, true love of father & daughter 💗

[@sherifloridagirl9693]

Love this father and daughter. Both are working hard separately and together to be there for each other.

[@leannehinke5430]

Oh, Abigail! You are stronger than you think! You're a beautiful and amazing soul. And what a wonderful dad you have. Hang in there and keep fighting. You are loved.

[@abigailkleck8538]

Thank you so much!

[@jasminewilliams2833]

You can clearly see the love that he has for her. I love how he is there to support her through whatever and letting her express how she feels without aggressively telling her how to feel.. this definitely hits home ❤️

[@emilyyauger8836]

Can I just say that her makeup is amazing!

[@abigailkleck8538]

Thank you so much!!🥺❤️❤️

[@emilyyauger8836]

@@abigailkleck8538 you're so welcome!

[@KaylaOsosita]

My heartfelt this so hard. My dad and I were disconnected for a long period of time and recently rekindled our relationship. And this conversation is giving me all the feelings.

[@yogaqueen1527]

I'm extremely depressed so I felt this

[@eklecktic]

So sorry you have to deal with depression Sunny. Praying you find enough light to get to your next step of healing.

[@GenesisTee]

Keep fighting, small victories add up.

[@elizabethmenegon8057]

When you keep thinking that such beauty should be enough and that the "last conversation" question wasn't the sensible one to be included.

[@melissamiller857]

We love you Abby! And Jeff! And there are SOOO many resources online to deal with depression, but I know when you are in the thick of it, you don't want internet advice on how to deal. Coping takes so much time, and the understanding of those around you. Im so glad you and your dad share an amazing relationship. Yall have been so close for so long, and I'm so proud of how amazing you have become. I see so many posts about how many cool things and places you are going. Kathy, pat, and Karen all brag about the amazingness that is Abby. You keep being you, and don't let that cloud cover your rainbow. Love you!

[@Lena-op1fb]

I really appreciate the video, but also the comments under it. This feels like a comforting safe space, filled with kindness and support🙏🏻

[@TheSkinDeep]

Hi Lena, that is exactly what we're looking to achieve: a space where people feel comfortable to share their stories.

[@rylie.2019]

i hope and pray for EVERYONE’S wellbeing, we WILL get through whatever you’re going through, love you!! your existence shows there’s more PURPOSE to you THAN YOU KNOW.

[@MrAveryBrown94]

That response at 2:53 mark, hit me in the heart. I don't have kids, but.. I understand what it's like to have a friend that wrestles with and through depression. Thank you, The Skin Deep for allowing us into this private conversation. 🤍

[@lawansuksyiemlieh4848]

This has to be the best one yet ❤️

[@devinelove6873]

She has beautiful eyes

[@abigailkleck8538]

Thank you so much!

[@addicus1763]

Depression can have such a deafening role in your life. It twists reality....and tells you to think the thoughts and engage in the actions that will only deepen it. The solution is simple....do everything it says not to. Get out of bed, get moving, be around people (when it says to avoid), change how you talk to yourself and think about what happens. Engage in radical acceptance and believe there can be more. Most important of all....find the root...and heal it. For many, it’s a feeling of unworthiness. Recognize where that came from. Why you developed those beliefs, that your intention was good (to protect you from pain) but it only led to pain. Find new ways of being...that bring real peace. Also, don’t neglect diet. Poor gut health can contribute to both anxiety and depression. A whole food diet low in sugar, simple carbs and junk is so HUGE for your mental health. There will come a day you will not live with depression...but just live.

[@eklecktic]

Thank you for your comment. Although the solution seems simple to many, the ability to carry out the solution by someone with depression is often near impossible (by the nature of the disease). I've seen my daughter be basically paralyzed by this disease. Thankfully, we've seen amazing improvements over the past year. From when this video was made to today (2 months) we have seen amazing changes!

[@addicus1763]

@@eklecktic I am so happy to hear she has seen successes. I hope she has also taken note of what changes have occurred....that led to that improvement. That should be part of her wellness plan, the things that she needs and needs to avoid to be well. I am grateful she also has your love and support. At the depths of depression, it can sometimes be hard to fight for yourself. Sometimes, you fight only for those you love and the hope they bring....as they see the you beneath depression....that you don’t always see. I did not mean to imply those simple steps are not incredibly hard to do, in the moderate and severe depths of depression. The deeper you have sunk, the more will they take to do. The steps are simple, it is the emotional weight that makes them hard to do. My intention in posting that comment was to give people hope. For those in the depths of depression, especially when it is chronic....the thought of always just enduring it through simple will is awful....and makes it hard to be motivated to keep going. I began my journey with depression and anxiety at 13. I didn’t see the other side until my mid-thirties. Some chapters were very dark. It didn’t have to be that long and dark but there was much I didn’t know and had to figure out along the way. I compare it to an addiction. The dark pulls you in. The further down you go, the harder it is to climb out. Once you’ve gotten out, you have to stay aware of what helps you stay well. You also have to recognize what your early warning signs are, that things are starting to slip, address those issues early...so you don’t have to fight it at it’s darkest. For me, many of those simple strategies pull you from the darkest places (but are incredibly hard). Hope is key to motivate that. Finding the core of depression and healing it for myself was the key to ending it. For some who struggle with this, they have 1 standard for others...and a much harsher one for themselves. They speak to themselves in ways they would never to anyone else. Acceptance and compassion are so important. Figuring out why you believe such terrible stuff about yourself is important...cuz then you can correct the record. Gut health also played a key role for me...and does for many. People don’t realize how much of our being well begins in the gut. Self-acceptance was my personal key, gut health was the runner up. I understand everyone’s story and solution is different. The journey is worth it. I wish I knew what I know now at 13, as I could have spared myself decades of pain. However, I’m grateful for the compassion and ability to see the shades of gray in life it brought. Your daughter has a beautiful spirit. It was evident in that video...as was her desire to fight. She will be someone’s hope story one day. There chance to know there is a life after this and good things are to come. I suspect you have been her hope story in many ways (I sense you may also have had that battle). The medical community knows so little about this issue...which is why it’s solutions don’t provide the relief so many need. The causes of this are many. The solutions are both simple and complex....depending on the roots of your depression. May your daughter continue to see those rays of light, as she climbs out and recognizes what she will need to stay in that light. Thank you for the vulnerability you both showed, in discussing this important issue and highlighting all that is good within you both (that we should all aspire to) while you did. I saw her strength and beauty of spirit clearly in that video. I also saw the power of unconditional acceptance. Thank you again for your vulnerability in providing hope to those who are in this fight.

[@mypathunfolding]

Although it may have been hard to get to this point, thank you for believing your kiddo, dad. Please do everything you can to stay, Abigail.

[@its_rangga]

i shed tears

[@destinyrose4596]

I wish everyday I could be this open with my father. I stopped seeing him as a hardened disciplinarian as I became an adult and started to see him as the victim of his life circumstances. I wish our relationship wasn’t as strained. This guy is the example for all father figures. He seems vulnerable enough to open up,and strong enough to support her and guide her.

[@Lovelife-tt4cm]

What an amazing father god bless them both. I have been blessed to have a father whose been there all the time his 81

[@allison-bn3jy]

so good. always rooting for you abby ❤️

[@abigailkleck8538]

Aww thank you Allison❤️❤️🥺

[@lalmapui]

Love you Aby and Jeff! This is pure honesty! Love love both of you! Hope you continued to do well Aby .

[@abigailkleck8538]

Thank you so much🥰❤️

[@johnnym]

After my last suicided attempt and finally getting an official diagnoses of depressing and anxiety; I had hoped and prayed I would be able to have this kind of talk with my family. It didn't and probably will never happen. I've been fighting alone my whole life, no support of any kind, and I'm just exhausted. I don't have active suicidal thoughts like I used to, but I also don't want to live either.

[@510mio]

I hope you find happiness. Wishing you strength and love

[@sandygaray7670]

You are so pretty, everyone is beautiful in there own way 😊

[@jeannielikeinabottle]

Beautiful

[@clove8220]

True Pure Storge Love!!!!!💗

[@LeonC0704]

3 ,minutes in and already crying

[@keshanastevenson5125]

I can relate so much to the bad depression days 😪

[@aquamina766]

Everyday is a fight.

[@simini1837]

Hello Abigail, I don't know you, nor your specific situation, but the book Lost Connections by Johann Hari might be useful to you. All the best to you and your family! ❤️

[@joannarivera1407]

I just really want to be her friend

[@abigailkleck8538]

Here for it!! I love making new friends!!❤️❤️🥰

[@joannarivera1407]

@@abigailkleck8538 My instagram is ughjoanna feel free to add me!!

[@july713x3]

Aww man.

[@victoriahendrix2797]

I really need you to add spanish subtitles

[@abigailkleck8538]

I agree!!

[@LeonC0704]

does she have a store? He mentioned her making stuff

[@sunset33533]

Depression sucks, but it's treatable. There is hope. The mindfulness book "30 Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels has helped.

[@TheRandomINFJ]

What does {The and} mean???????

[@TheSkinDeep]

Hi! Here's the meaning: At THE SKIN DEEP we believe that a relationship isn’t you or I, him or her, us or them. It is the and that connects us. It is the and that is the space between.

[@tamerilee]

@@TheSkinDeep I always wanted to know why and the explanation is more beautiful than I thought! 💗

[@lockedoutofpain2037]

a lot of us don't make it to the next day without a scar

[@kristannablue]

This poor father has to walk on eggshells 💔 He deserves some support.

[@eklecktic]

Fortunately, we are able to mitigate walking on egg shells as healing progresses AND how I've learned on my end as well! There's actually a great book with that title. Blessings. I'll never turn down support in life in general! ;)

[@abigailkleck8538]

@@eklecktic love you dad. Thanks for loving me even when it’s hard❤️

[@ellefont3813]

Dealing with a child with depression/suicidal ideation I definitely understand the walking on eggshells. I hope we get to the other side of it.

[@tammyw4515]

he looks like kate elisabeths dad omg

[@sydlovesbreedlove]

It’s nice that they have each other. Their love is deep and sweet. 💛