Granddaughter Opens Up About Her Depression | {THE AND} Hollis & Marianne (Part 1)

[@TessYaar]

I cried when she said "so call me when you're sad, thats my job." she is such a loving, caring, perfect grandmother.

[@keriezy]

I love how grandma just sat and waited while Hollis tried to explain.

[@nikkbenson5943]

I know I wish all conversations started and ended like this 😭 most people don't ever really listen to me

[@huyked]

​@@nikkbenson5943 I'm listening. Start typing. :)

[@RoseXo]

I also loved how they both sat in silence for a little bit until one of them felt comfortable to start talking.

[@deonnamae7053]

“By being worried, that’s a form of love.” Those are wise words that definitely affected me, as someone with depression. I never thought of it that way.

[@ProMrLecoq01]

I worry all the time about someone who thinks of it as annoying and me being overprotective, it’s hard to distinguish borders and space because you care so deeply and don’t want them to get hurt by awful people

[@kennedyjohnson6294]

German Rubberbands i was the 1,000th like

[@Fath0m73]

I literally scrolled down to post something similar and saw your post. That's a great reframe.

[@estelleMaimouna]

Me too. It just hit me

[@janicepatty]

This gives me a whole new perspective that takes away the bad in being worried.

[@danaalmalik2871]

grandma:''call me when youre sad'' Hollis:''so i'll call you all the time'' that hit me.. she kept saying how everyone saw her as a ''happy girl'' when she was so sad all the time

[@voyance4elle]

I can deeply relate..

[@ProMrLecoq01]

Well yeah that’s being a depressed person

[@juanabonita945]

I can also relate as well like everyone thinks your okay but deep down your drowning.

[@estelleMaimouna]

That's the saddest reality of living with depression. Everyone around me sees a jolly rancher. While inside, im crying every day.

[@buutifuleyes]

She's a younger face of her Grandma. They look so much alike...beautiful women

[@graceknor5049]

Everyone is talking about how lovely the grandma is, and she is so lovely! But so is Hollis. You can tell she has such a gentle and kind spirit and is such a strong fighter.

[@juliab.75]

Grace Knor aww yeah true!

[@user_abcxyzz]

And she's fyne

[@shahistaqobolo]

"Don't look at yourself as damaged because you are not damaged."

[@melissaan5194]

What a phenomenal g'ma. She's so wise, well spoken, and loving.

[@killilu6968]

That’s what age does to you. That’s why you should never be afraid to go to your parents grandparents other loved ones when you struggling with something. You might think that they can’t help you cause it’s a different time period, times are changing, they didnt experience the same things you do. But in reality they have, everyone has and they specifically have gotten through it and they can help(this wasn’t specifically towards you more like a general statement to everyone)😀

[@ogbunnas]

Grandma is soooo spiritual oh my God, I felt her energy... When she explained how she & Hollis' relationship is intertwined like a ribbon, how they were meant to be 😭 She & her granddaughter look so alike too.

[@Rooted_Locs]

I wanna give her a hug...as someone who's had a traumatic incidence in childhood that manifested itself into depression as a young adult

[@BuckleyBrittany]

Same here

[@sy1150]

ow sweetie please let yourself SPEAK. She says "I guess" and "I don't know" after almost all her sentences. Your words matter!

[@nzungu7773]

👏👏👏

[@JJ-xq2cp]

It's not easy to get words out when you're emotional and trying to explain why, especially when so many thoughts are in and out your head. It's hard so please have empathy and understand she, like most people, is trying.

[@thepeacechannel7083]

I actually think she did a great job.

[@AnnieTsukino]

I just realized I do the exact same thing.

[@lonexmo1605]

I do the same thing its hard to explain the cause of being sad sometimes or how you feel when you're sad....but yeah her words do matter

[@michboyd10]

Yes Marianne, @7:40 "that's a person who has taken her hurts and used them to not inflict hurt on others". Beautifully said. Your words are gift to others.

[@usernamexoxo742]

“I feel peaceful in your presence “ wowww 🥺🥺🥺

[@abigailperry3108]

when babygirl said ‘i’m frustrated with myself over how damaged i still am’ i felt that. they remind me of my grandma and i so much. i don’t ever wanna lose my grandma but i know someday i will. i love her so much :(( and when i’m with her i hide my sad side. 🙁 this is my favorite episode out of all i’ve watched tonight. and lemme tell you i’ve watched ALOT. i don’t know why i’m just now finding ‘The Skin Deep’

[@ladylashhh]

THE AND needs to be on tv, would be so helpful for others.

[@TheSkinDeep]

Maybe one day we will be! ;) We can dream big! Thank you for the kind comment!

[@connie7192]

I second and amillionth this too.

[@royhonders]

Who watches TV?

[@wfh440]

Hollis has a heart of gold. She's the type of girl you'll be happy to take home to meet your parents. Don't beat yourself up or harshly criticize yourself. Keep your head up gurrrl 💛. Rainstorms dont last forever.

[@maryyy718]

Watching Hollis was like looking into a mirror at myself, the way she describes her relationship with her mother, mirrors my own experience. Even down to her word choice when explaining her struggle with feeling damaged & acting happier than she is. Very strange when you remember there are people who have gone through the same or very similar things & have the same thoughts & feelings. ‘I am not alone’ is what I took away from this.

[@missbejazzful]

Exactly, it's nice to know there's many of us out there.

[@reginagumma9401]

me too :( I am blessed to have some people in my life to fill that void but its sad to know my mom doesn't love me the way other people do.

[@lisamariem78]

Yes. And I miss my nan.

[@issmehnfidiskab3039]

Same for me, my grama and granpa were the angels of my life. My mom has never been interested.

[@oliviagodoy138]

Growing up with an abusive mom who had a paranoid personality disorder, made me believe for a very long time that the way she percieved the world and relationships was the right way - and the only way - to do so. It took me a very long time to see things with my own eyes and learn to listen to my heart and cultivate relationships in a way that was healthy to me. We also lost contact because she refuses to get help. The biggest struggle I go through is to remember that her and I are two separate people, and that I am not damaged, just hurting. That the choices she makes aren't at me, but because she is sick. This video was so helpful and important, I cried so much watching it. Thank you. 🧡

[@franciscaferret4303]

Olivia Godoy Moreira I needed this. Thank you

[@Misskonswayla]

Thank you for being so honest, this is many peoples story, including my own. I hope Hollis realises how blessed she is to have such an incredible grandma

[@TheSkinDeep]

Thank you for being so open, honest and sharing your story with us Olivia! It is so important for people to know they aren't the only ones struggling to fight through similar pasts and emotions. Thank you for watching and we are sending our love!

[@livenletlive4639]

Dedicating this song called "I'd Rather See Your Star Explode" by a band called Slaves.It's one of the songs that makes me feel invincible(kind of).The lyrics always get me-i've been my own worst enemy ever since falling out with my mum.I struggle to believe in myself even for the smallest of tasks cuz i'm always reminded of how "weak" and unable i am.I found this song and it's always like a therapy session with myself.You're gonna be fine;keep on going and don't look back❤

[@JulianBollerhoff]

Thank you. Can relate so much to that. Especially at christmas time

[@sammy4982]

This is so touching to me because I’m this close to my grandma as well. Grandparents are so important...if you have them in your life, make the time to get closer to them❤️

[@gretasjourney7450]

Sammy True! Make the time to get closer before they are gone!

[@crowplease]

i miss my grandma immensely. she passed this year. i was able to see her a year prior as we lived continents away. she told me that she loved me and that she would never forget me. she suffered from alzheimer’s. watching this video made it very hard because i miss her voice, wisdom, sincerity and her laugh to this day.

[@jessical6719]

Sammy i wish mine was still here :(

[@crowplease]

Jessica L same. i wish i’d had more time with her. i’m so sorry for your loss.

[@unbotheredaj7127]

Mine died.

[@itsmuimui]

Her grandma is so wise and kind and wonderful

[@emma-xo2uw]

I felt like the grandmother was talking directly to me at the end, and I began to cry with Hollis because I realized how I relate precisely to what she's dealt with. I'm still in the situation but I was crying because I felt like this video was shown to me for a reason.

[@21goingon34]

Emma Hedden that's crazy I was thinking the same exact thing

[@chiaraireland-morris3898]

Emma Hedden same here, I'm crying so much right now

[@MsBbycakes02]

This relationship is so beautiful. This grandmother is giving her granddaughter some of the best wisdom and advice anyone can get.

[@angelasolis6050]

Depression... tough to live with..

[@laninaclay6276]

My. Good friend just lost her 22 year old son to suicide on Tuesday. He has been dealing with depression for yrs.

[@amelss3]

I wish all humans feel this much love and support. Like this grandmother loves this young Lady.

[@xheartiiz]

A wounded heart takes time to heal. A mother’s love is something we all yearn for. Forgiveness is the key to healing. It sets you free! It’s not an overnight process. Your hardships are a necessary part of soul growth. Well wishes lady!

[@liveinthemiddle]

Grandma's are the best. She is so blessed to have this type of balance in her life.

[@miss._em96]

Wow! I’am laying in bed with tears streaming down my face. Grandma “don’t think of yourself as being damaged because you are not” That hit me because I think of myself as mental and messed up in the head.

[@Whimswirl]

She resembles her grandma a lot.

[@jaydev536]

Wow, what strong women with absolutely beautiful spirits. As someone with PTSD who has felt very much the things Hollis expressed, especially about not wanting her trauma to define her relationships with others (or herself) and being tired of the sadness, and not wanting loved ones to worry, I really needed to hear what Marianne said. Extremely powerful words and they mean the world to me to have heard them spoken to Hollis. I hope she does call up her grandmother when she's happy or proud of herself, and when she's sad or angry or scared or just feeling flat.

[@TheSkinDeep]

Thank you for sharing part of your story with us, Jennifer. Much love.

[@makeup800]

What a gem of a grandma. So loving, so kind, so understanding, so wise. They have a beautiful relationship.

[@INTHESALLOW]

Holy cr** I think my period is about to come cause I'm crying like a b*tch... I identified my own grandma on this lady... What a strong woman, full of wisdom.

[@Blissfulbizz]

From someone with a hole in my heart from my own mother, I felt like I was getting this talk directly to me. Thank you so much for that. 🙏♥️

[@simonebittencourt8251]

What a beautiful conversation! So much wisdom from this grandma... There is nothing more precious than this kind of unconditional love, unconditional acceptance. What a warm-hearted relationship both of them share! It is so very true the reasons the grandma gave to prove that the granddaughter is not "damaged". She is certainly not. What a sensitive, pleasant, captivating young woman... Thank you for sharing such a sublime moment!

[@aamirkala1352]

You have to warn a big man like me with love like this , I’m bawling my eyes out, I wish my grandparents were here with me to see me grow, I never had the honour of creating memories with my grandparents

[@TheSkinDeep]

Loved this comment. Thank you for being open and sharing with us.

[@julsjuls8107]

113 likes 0 dislikes - bigotry and disillusionment have not touched this video. What majestically beautiful souls - you can almost feel the palpable patient love as Holly explains her depression. That coaxing love from her grandma that says “I know you have fallen but look...you stand even taller because of the fall.”

[@Mikethamanc]

Damn what an incredible pair of women. So lucky to have an grandmother like her.

[@bordosense]

I felt the pain, I felt the love and I will take those words into my heart "...that's a person who has taken her hurts and used them to not inflict hurt on others."

[@youtuba6711]

My grandmother was the most important person of my life. I hope she knows how much she was loved!

[@hannahjoseph3440]

This one really got me. This broke my heart but was so heartwarming at the same time

[@adrianaa2767]

She needed to hear those words from someone who loves her as much as her grandma does. I feel like she healed a ton by the end of that question. They're both amazing

[@Noelle55520]

Omg I have this exact same dynamic with my grandmother! My mother did not struggle with addiction until my early teens. But my grandmother was just where my heart and comfort always was, from as long as I could remember. I always gravitated towards her love and strength. When my mother died, I didn’t have the same longing as a child should because I didn’t really see her that way. It wasn’t until I became an adult and had children of my own that I realized she was and is my mother and my grandmother will never be that. I appreciate the grandmother’s acknowledgment of that and that she made the granddaughter aware of that for her own peace. This channel makes my heart so full!

[@yakubuaminaladi284]

I love her grandma,she is so sweet,she understands Even when you're not speaking. She wishes to do more even after she have done much. That's just perfect

[@emcq11irish]

I used to suppress my feelings so much that I would have a difficult time even explaining the important and “good” emotions I had to others. I just can relate to Hollis in so many ways, and I know her grandmom knows and understands her even without words. And the fact that she takes time to listen, and takes time to explain and give advice is one of the best things that the person you takes care of you can do. I definitely see the strength her grandmom has and I see it in Hollis too she just has to wait for time to heal her fully.

[@its_jeannine]

Wow. When a brave young lady openly talks to her incredibly well-spoken grandma. You can feel the love and respect they have for each other with every word they say... so touching. ♥️

[@NorthernFella]

how awesome and wise is Gran, so full of love for her grandaughter who is awesome as well for overcoming the trauma she experienced.

[@dusuconde8043]

“Worrying is a form of love” AHHHH YESSS ♥️♥️🥰

[@cityandgirl]

This makes me cry. They remind me of me and my Grandma. I miss my grandma so much.

[@katrabbit]

This video is life changing. This was beautiful. And much needed. I can relate to too much of what Hollis was explaining about her mother and her sadness... Thank you for this. I needed to see the conversation between these generations of women to start a process of healing that's been 27 years in the making.

[@BuckleyBrittany]

I related to this sooo much. Currently crying while my grandmother is in the other room. I can't wait to hug her in the morning and thank her for everything she and my grandfather did for me and all she continues to do for me.

[@paraglokhande936]

They look so similar!

[@Ri-qu4gj]

Parag Lokhande they really do! 😲

[@Shiskwbdbxcu0]

What a wonderful wise grandmother ... feeling the unconditional love.

[@fr1643]

damn i love their bond. i can relate to this girl and she was so brave to share this in front of everyone including her most loved one.

[@JG-mt3rp]

Whatever is troubling that young lady is very valid. I had some painful family drama that derailed me for many years, but as I came to terms with it my life was transformed. I hope she can find the way soon.

[@matchalover08]

Thanks for making this video. It's exactly what I need right now. This reminds me of my late grandma. I lost her a few years back and throughout the years I have experienced multiple trauma. I understand the pain the granddaughter has been going through. I would still write a letter for my grandmother whenever I'm down. I know she's in heaven watching over me and wishing me to be happy.

[@Azadehghavamrad]

Oh my dear world!!! Marianne, every person on this earth needs someone like you! And I agree fully with her, Hollis you are not damaged, and you cant run from your emotions, you need to a acknowledge your emotions, or else they become anxiety. You need to deal with how you feel in a loving way, because your feelings are real but they have never been allowed to be there so of course your sad emorions feel like intruders and like an ellement that you need to get rid of. You needed to survive your childhood, and being strong was translated as not being sad or down. But you are not in war anymore, you are you and being strong now is allowing every part of you to be there, to take space. And it is hard but it is so worth it, speaking from the experience of not having had parents growing up. I love this conversation

[@Ri-qu4gj]

They look alike!!😧

[@Lucyfurrrr]

Well no shit it's her grandma

[@averyfarmer2720]

“I feel peaceful in your presence”. That was something I needed to hear today. Thank you for sharing.💚🌿

[@simonebittencourt8251]

Message to the granddaughter: don't try to look happy when you do not feel happy. Be the emotion you feel. Your sadness is not a burden, it is a human thing. You need time to heal. Give yourself time to heal and count on this extraordinarily wise woman your grandmother is. Whatever you feel, let it vent, accept it, then let it go and move on. Do not try to hide it. Try to heal it. Then you will be free to be happy. The best of luck to you. You are so beautiful inside and out. You will heal when you stop trying to suffocate your core emotions.

[@AfgQueen3]

I love the grandma!!! She’s so kind and understanding. I wish I was able to have that kind of a relationship with my grandmothers. Why do you guys always make me cry?! 😭😭😭

[@polina_pr]

wow, this girl is so beautiful!! I feel sorry about the way she feels.

[@WhatNotsNSuch]

My grandma was my best friend in the whole world. And we both knew that we had a strong entwined relationship like she describes as a twisted ribbon in the video. And I grew up with an alcoholic mother and a lot of negative things come from that. My grandma was a HUGE part in my upbringing, healing and comfort. I nursed her the last year of her life while she had pancreatic cancer and she passed away November 25, 2018. I miss her so much everyday but this video helped me so much and made my heart happy. She never wanted me to be sad and hated to see me cry but oh man, is it hard sometimes. Thank you for this.

[@LunaLoveBad6969]

At the end when she started acknowledging her granddaughters strength that one hit home for me because it felt like the exact words that I needed to hear and tell myself. Everyone on this earth goes through hardship and wishes for the day to end or what have you. But we also have to remember in those time that the only thing that matters is how we rise. How we choose to move forward from whatever it is we have going on in our lives is what matters. Don’t listen to the negative voice in your head telling you otherwise. Obstacles will be there but what matters is how you grow through them. Keep going✨

[@momojett]

What a beautifully articulate, wise Grandma, which will be passed down to Hollis, and probably already started. Lovely - lovely connection

[@susannahXD]

Omg what she says about being open, and about feeling damaged. I relate to that so much.

[@tildatilda5737]

Both are so strong...the grandmother is becoming my role model...she is wise...smart...and kind...

[@octopus_eyes]

I love the connection they have but i'm really struggling with all the 'like'. I suppose it's a form of self defense though, a glimpse of the pain and insecurity shown in the languague, and i respect that

[@Alphacentauri819]

Adriane Brandon I think that’s it. It’s a reflection of our culture...and also hugely, it seems to be her struggling with the extreme vulnerability of it. Good call :) I love seeing comments that show a thread of empathy... kudos to you for recognizing the “why” behind the like🌸

[@DanielleT192]

This made me cry a little :(. Their relationship is so strong and her grandmother cares so much about her. I get like this sometimes and feel down on things in the past and how things are now.

[@alyssaking3663]

♡ "don't look at yourself as damaged, you are whole." This grandma is so magical

[@vinamistry5263]

both are so well spoken and express themselves beautifully. im crying

[@EDITMODE]

"you are someone who has experienced hurt and used it to not inflict hurt on others" best statement throughout

[@jessicaa3739]

I started tearing up as soon as I start this video

[@merveKUNAK]

You can see how the grandma sees the girl in such a different light than she sees herself.... That is amazing. I wonder if all grandmas see us like that no matter how much of a mess we are.

[@dianaduran8166]

this made me miss my grams so much, Haven’t cried this much since she passed a year ago 💕

[@Hannahhasalife]

Hollis is so lucky to have someone to open up to and understand were she is coming from. Wish I had that.

[@seiacheyenne1107]

when she explained her thoughts about filling in and loving her enough, that hit me so hard 🥺 “she’s your mother...but we can never take that spot, that’s hers & i hope she one day comes to realize that” 😔

[@loodle5515]

i’ve never cried as much as i did when watching these two because i could relate so much. Listening to Marianne, I could hear my grandmother.

[@rtroian83]

Like a big baby watching this Grandma talked to her granddaughter that's all we need is love and acceptance that's it unconditional love and acceptance

[@eydnamortensen5985]

What a wonderful grandmother. Her words are so loving and true. People with depression are not broken or weak. Depression is not a sign of weakness, it's a sign that you have tried to be strong for too long. I hope this beautiful young woman is getting the help she needs to overcome her depression. Love from Denmark

[@montanap5332]

What a beautiful relationship they have. I love seeing how understanding and supportive the grandmother is. This is a perfect example of why 'The And' is such an amazing project.

[@vuyolwethu_m26]

That was like one question and it went sooo deep. Hollis' answer was so relatable

[@hlubimthimkhulu8965]

I wish I had this type of relationship with my grandparents . It's beautiful.

[@molliethompson2143]

this is so beautiful. the relationship between granddaughter and grandma is so incredibly special

[@joeyxxox]

Still miss my grandma even after 20 years. Would have loved to sit and chat with her like this! Cherish your grandparents.

[@meghmalhaar]

She is 100% youth of her grandma. 😊😱😱😱😲 thats beautiful to see how people grow with time and it's beautiful either way like how she would look like when she was her granddaughter's age 😊😍😍😍😍 Beautiful how God is behind everything.

[@BenAlbert]

As someone who has depression this is the Best thing for it talking to people who love you and care for you is in my opinion the best medicine what a wonderful grandmother you have and what a beautiful and courageous granddaughter you are it is very hard to talk about depression because there is a stigma attached to it but I hope one day soon people will realize that it is not just a case of Oh you will get over it and see it for what it really is a mental illness

[@catalinaalcorse8974]

first question and im already crying, i wish my great grandma was still here, she was my angel and she still is

[@emilyseymour5849]

I love the relationship between these two. It's so incredibly sweet. I don't mean to disrespect my own grandma but don't we all wish we had a grandma like Marianne in our lives?

[@suzystone244]

whole and entire..... This gripped me BIGTIME....IM crying.

[@scarletnguyen1355]

I've never seen a video like this, I'm close to my gramma too and I never want her to see me sad, I get this on another level, I lived it, and this video of confession makes me cry.

[@dipmeingloss]

She's basically the younger version of her "grandmother".! so beautiful💕its like looking into a double mirror & seeing your future self when you get older.💯heartwarming...

[@nicolemarie151]

Elders are so important!😭

[@carryn6237]

I was at work when i started watching and i had to stop because i couldn't keep the tears from falling. Gosh this video made me realize just how much i miss my grandma 😭😭 Honestly feels like she's the only one who understood me 😭😭 Appreciate your grandparent's ❤

[@kjkkjjjjkjkkjkjj]

Oh my god what an amazing woman the grandma is

[@Camila-xf9qv]

“She has not chosen to be who she is. She has chosen to not get help for hersel” this video really reminded me of my situation and my relationship with my grandma 🥺

[@abbyweaver18]

I totally understand what Holly is feeling about being sad and everything about that, I’m not for sure what happened with her mother but My mom died when I was 6 and it’s always been hard because I did have a mother and do have a mother but never really got to experience the bond a mother and daughter has and haven’t and won’t have her for so many important parts in my life. So much love for Holly grandma and her fam❤️❤️

[@aishazhang8122]

"You are whole and entire just as you are" damn that hit home 😭

[@regevvino]

"that's not a damaged person. that's a person who taken her hurts and used them to not inflict hurt on others". your wonderful grandmother says that your pain has made you a more loving and tolerant person for others - remember that. A strong personality is shaped and honed under the most sensitive tests. by the way, in such cases we usually feel harmed by the lack of love during critical childhood periods. as adults, we may seek this love from people who are overbearing, emotionally abusing us and repeating a pattern of behavior similar to that of our parents. Choose people who deserve your love. I'm totally envy the people you will choose to give and receive your love from.

[@dzpatnmiami]

This is so beautiful. I wanna meet both of them. They seem like such good people 🥺🥺🥺

[@virgobubz]

"You are whole and entire just as you are." Truly powerful.

[@itsleeese]

OMG THE TEARS. BUT THEY HIT SO DEEP.