Singaporeans Try: Therapy (Mental Health Special)

World Mental Health Day is celebrated on 10th October every year, but at The Smart Local, we wish to keep it a daily topic instead of something people mention once a year, or even shy away from.
In this special episode of Singaporeans Try, three TSL members tell their stories on camera for the first time to a professional therapist and discuss personal issues such as self-esteem, depression, anxiety, relationships and even suicide.
Through this video, we wish that anyone facing the same issues are able to find solace. Should the thought of visiting a therapist feel foreign, we also hope that this video will provide you a peek into what visiting a therapist feels like.
Special thanks to Belinda from The Lighthouse Counselling. For more on counselling, psychotherapy and life coaching, reach out on www.tlhcounsel....
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Renae Cheng - / renaecjc
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This episode is different from any other Singaporeans Try video, but it is a topic many of us feel strongly about, and which is sorely underexposed in Singapore compared to in Western cultures. At the end of the day, our mental health is important because everything we do flows from it.

[@bailbail6533]

Thank you for this. Bless💜

[@valarie1238]

the thing is, some people have mental illnesses like me and we struggle. I struggle with agoraphobia which causes me to have panic attacks in certain situations. One example is crowded places and I cannot deal with it especially on public transport but nobody can see it so when i take the priority seat when in case I faint, I get confronted or asked to give my seat up and this whole thing makes people in these situations feel like their issues are invalid. Other times, I just can't even stand because of my panic attacks and that goes on for a while before people even give their seats up. mental health is important but at the same time we also need to break the stigma on mental illness. Something I've been searching up is service dogs for psychiatric issues. The funny thing is singapore doesn't have those even though there are most probably more people diagnosed with mental illnesses that could benefit from them as compared to the number of blind people in singapore

[@heirembae4389]

Well this videos gives me anxiety. Talking about mental health always gives me anxiety. I had to stop watching just after 2 minutes to prevent myself from getting into a downward spiral. Eventhough its not everyday we feel depressed it feels like an eternity when a mental breakdown or anxiety attack happens... But good video to raise awareness i just cant bare to feel down. It hurts

[@Enviotonin85]

@@valarie1238 For mental health, we call them therapy dogs, they exist in Singapore, there are a few private therapists that uses an animal for therapy, and every week there is a welfare group there brings well trained pets to IMH and other homes to use as them as therapy dogs. And most of the time, any dogs or animals can be tame and use as personal therapy pets, you just need to train them yourself and build a close bond with them. Most of the time, adopted animals are more ideal as the key is the animal chooses the owner, as it there when it knows you need it, plus most of have their own life experience. But, still....even in the states therapy dogs are not allowed in public transport.

[@muhamedraaseth1196]

why did this relate so much and make me cry? like come onnnn

[@sammiong7001]

This just shows, not every person with the happiest smile have the happiest life in the world.

[@0rochimarusama]

no stupid , dont faking ur happines for the sake of the others .lesson of life

[@freyapng3251]

@@0rochimarusama people only fake it because they don't want to burden others or they don't wanna show that they're sad. it's a fact that people who look the happiest might not always be truly happy. even if you think that showing whatever emotion is easy, you think that just displaying what you want to is easy. its not. People are afraid of the reaction about what people think about them it's a fear they have unknowingly no matter how hard they try to push away the thoughts stop caring it isn't as easy as you think. maybe you're able to have enough confidence to live your life to the fullest, not hide anything, any emotion. but others are different. the thoughts that people with these problems have are extremely toxic and sometimes it'll reach to the point where they take their lives. maybe it's feeling like they're alone in a situation that makes them feel like that. that's why, people say, before you comment anything think about the context of the comment.

[@nicktan842]

I have a fake smile 😊 when I go to school 🏫cause of Friend problem

[@sammiong7001]

@@0rochimarusama I don't really want to reply to any of your following comments. But really, you're going waayyy too far. It's because of insensitive people like you that led to people having such thoughts. So keep your negativity away. This video is about helping others cope with their issues, letting people know they aren't the only ones dealing with the same problem, letting them know it's ok to seek a professional for help. Everyone have different personality, you like to share your problems with others? Good for you. But don't expect others to be like you. Instead of talking shit as if you know them, help them out, give them solutions instead of hurling profanities, saying they are fake or what so ever not.

[@0rochimarusama]

@@sammiong7001 hahahah , sorry can't tahan laughing .I already pointed out all of this 3 people problems,to summarize THEY DONT TRUST ,TALK , CARE TO MUCH OTHER OPINION u rather pay the therapist just to listen to ur pity problem cos u can't trust ur friends?or family? ,can it's ur money ..bad cycle of friends

[@foriverv]

Thank you so much TSL for featuring Jes in this episode, as a lesbian who isn't out to my parents her struggles were very relatable and my heart broke watching this but at the same time I'm really thankful for the representation. Also big thank you to Jes for staying strong and for being such a huge encouragement to LGBT youth like myself

[@charltje]

Jes, Zhin, Renae, you guys are so so so brave for doing this in the public eye. thank you for sharing your struggles & know that your stories have definitely helped somebody out there. ❤️

[@icemilo21]

im so proud of them for doing this and letting tsl film them :’) sending all my love and support to everyone and not only them ! giving all of u guys a virtual hug ☺️

[@lois2906]

Everyone seems like someone who brings joy to everyone in front of the camera... really couldnt imagine they have gone through something so difficult.

[@katriya9123]

mental health is really important and not many people see that 💗

[@peanutzz2662]

You right at my school the only one the see it is Me

[@peanutzz2662]

I m really mad about my self Bcs I FAT and I cry every night

[@Kuurajin]

@@peanutzz2662 actually, everyone just have different body sizes. No one should be called fat or super skinny or tall or short. It shouldn’t define who we are. I look at myself in the mirror all the time and see so much fats in the place I don’t want to have, I call myself fat. But to other people’s eyes, I’m skinny, my ribs can be seen at times and so on. So, it’s your way you look at yourself that defines who you are as a person. If you hate your body and all, you let people talk bad about your body. If you have self love for yourself, you stand for what you think is right. I myself am working on my self love and I know this is a year late but I hope you’re building on your self love

[@yeow0008]

I am a counsellor and mad respect for all 3 for allowing their inner self to be recorded...Thank you for allowing us to experience your vulnerability and openness.....KUDOS to you 3!!!

[@bailbail6533]

*Thank you Jes, for opening up💜* I hope Jes will have more confidence in what she does. I hope that the judgemental will not get to her. Never ever let others pull you down just because they feel that what they perceive is always right. LGBT is nothing to be shameful of, it's who we are. Those who tries to "correct" us thinks that they are helping us for a better future, but they failed to see that we are just like them, flesh and blood. Who says that male and female are a pair, who to say that it's the law? Every living being has the rights to find their trueself, only those who selfishly destory one's way of living for the sake of face in this society, are the ones that truely breaks the Will of God. Jes, you're an amazing person, thank you for letting us know how you feel. I can't be of much help to you but I just want you to know that there will always be someone who will be by your side, be it your real life friends or internet fans. Thank you for staying true to yourself, please have more faith in yourself. I know you feel lonely trying to find your way out of this dark tunnel, but we, the figures connected by Wifi, Internet, techonologies, will always be by your side. *I hope that you will see the light at the end of this tunnel one day💜*

[@Sparksnglitter]

You picked out the three bubbliest people of the newer cast and it really makes me see them in a new light. I wish I could show them in person that I care for them and give them a huge hug 💕

[@chelspy]

I’m 5 minutes in and my heart is breaking just watching Jes pour her heart out. I wish you all light, healing, and love, and can only hope that the darkness will never find you guys again. ♥️

[@sitisyafiqah4089]

Zhin's struggles slapped me, i didn't know anyone else would feel this way. When he told his stories, i felt like i was telling my story. Its a nice episode.

[@interludemediasg]

Zhin is an introvert, an INFJ to be precise. I totally relate to him 💯%

[@uhdelpha]

there's rlly alot i didnt know abt them...wow, rlly wanted to cry throughout the vid, take care of yall mental health guys

[@cherryknees]

i think exactly like zhin does. it makes me feel so bad when i second guess my friends, but i really was confused and i thought they didn’t like me or something, so i just cut them off and didn’t talk to them. they were really worried and sent me many messages and i was even more confused because i couldn’t tell if they genuinely liked me or not. but they didn’t give up even when i cut them off, and i realised that they were true friends. the guilt i’m having is so much, and i am still always angry at myself for still second guessing them

[@ParamountPepper]

I would say I have similar problems which is why I always thought of going to therapy but no 💲 😂

[@Kuurajin]

@@ParamountPepper well, I keep them to myself and I’m my own therapist. That’s why if you’re my friend who just suddenly visits my house without me knowing, sometimes you can hear me talking to myself

[@jdnoflegend9719]

Be kind to everyone you meet because this shows that everyone is fighting their own hidden battles

[@iamDarrennn]

Singapore isn’t a place where people with mental health are welcome. There’re so much stereotype and negativity towards these people. Please, anyone who has met someone who’s dealing with issues, be supportive and understanding. Take their hand and comfort them, bring them happiness, make them feel welcome!

[@peackpr9]

Unfortunately is isn't just Singapore but all over the world mental health has stereotypes.

[@linggg6076]

I thought Joyce left tsl didn't see her in a long time

[@sarahedits4666]

she was always behind the camera

[@miakaluckystar]

This video is somehow so timely. Been struggling a lot recently and decided to see a counselor and the appt is tmr. Hope to reach somewhere with the session :)

[@hafiz7058]

I feel the same as well. I wish you all the best!

[@miakaluckystar]

@@hafiz7058 thank you! All the best to you too!

[@KOBEROCKS777]

All the best! It definitely helps, based on my own experience. Do remember that it takes time, 1 session isn’t probably going to fix everything, but its a great start. :)

[@tjj184]

you did well for just picking up the courage :)))

[@hibye8948]

all the best!’ u can do tis!! :-))

[@misspotatoheadjr]

Feel like our generation as a whole is starting to take a different and more open approach towards mental health, but it often feels like we're all alone in our own mental health journeys because we simply aren't talking to each other about it. So thank you TSL for opening up the conversation, and I would love love to see you guys continue to make more meaningful content like this (:

[@sowonkim4806]

Omg seeing the thumbnail broke my heart 💔 I want to give all of them a hug right now

[@pris4704]

It’s so brave, to see them allow themselves to be exposed to the public eye like this with such personal feelings. It’s not easy, they are seriously so brave.

[@bteo9955]

The funniest people are the saddest people

[@sohsaraaa]

the professional therapist was so professional and so so sensitive in everything she said so thank u for that :')

[@jaminaaa]

zhin's story hit me the hardest.. thank you for this. praying and hoping for everyone being able to heal soon.

[@MswtMai]

Please feel my hug from wherever you are. Thank you for sharing your stories. You are so brave for doing that and may this video opens up more conversations on mental health.

[@ryanchow3709]

Behind every smile is there is another story not that everyone sees.

[@elaineloo610]

Thanks for making an episode about mental health, let's let more people know and start caring about it

[@trins_treasure]

god i cried when jes cried 🥴

[@jkrw9733]

i’m barely five mins in and i’m alr starting to cry from how relatable this is

[@natalieoh2359]

a thank you for having this ep done tsl and also Jes, Zhin and Renae for being so brave to confront your past again :) also, i think Belinda the counselor deserves the credit/appreciation due for being so professional, sensitive towards their emotions as well as approachable for each individual to feel comfortable sharing on their own will!! :) not every counselor is able to do that so good job Belinda!!!!!

[@tabitha.rebeccalong]

This video left me in tears. Thank you for being honest and opening up about your individual life. It makes me realize that everyone goes through bad days and it's okay. I am grateful for this episode of Singaporeans Try.

[@yschews]

Kudos to everyone who opened up to contribute to opening up on mental health. Takes an intense amount of effort to step out and speak about all the troubles they had hidden in them for years. Xx

[@soapy2587]

Wow! I learnt so much about Zhin. I didn’t know he had those kind of thoughts. This episode really warmed my heart 🥺

[@DzulKhairiNg]

Big thank you to Zhin, Renae and Jeslene for having the courage to share very personal issues in your life. Just want to say you are not broken, you are loved and you matter. ❤❤ ❤ Your courage to share will inspire others to seek help if needed as well. Appreciate your efforts in making this video👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@kylieng4617]

Thank you for making this video, I myself have been in therapy for 4 months now and I can't explain how it's has help me become a better person and how to care for not only myself but the ppl around me once again thank you

[@leellanwong2951]

Thanks Zhin,Renae and Jes for sharing and letting TSL film it. I feel like I can relate to Zhin as sometimes I second thought my friends and I always feel bad about it

[@kmgcsc]

they are so brave by coming out and talking about their problems i really hope that everything will be better for them stay strong ❤

[@lovetrustandpixiedust]

Really appreciate yall making this video, TSL. Mental health shouldn't be a taboo topic, and like Zhin said, going for therapy shows that someone is actively trying to improve themselves and get out of their rut, like how we go to the doctor when we have a flu. Just because we don't see the problem (like a broken bone or a cut) doesn't mean it's not real. Society needs to do away with the stigma related to therapy and start regarding mental health as a legitimate issue.

[@ebonyloveivory]

I applaud their bravery and strength to step forward & to do what must've been one of the most challenging episodes ever. Placing their personal lives at the forefront for all to see is not easy.

[@vic5652]

im so proud of them for being able to do this :

[@adhiantos]

Thank you TSL for this video, to be part of breaking the stigma. And kudos to the three of them. Take care everyone ❤️

[@sumit6190p]

Tese guys are brave to put out themselves in front of everyone exposed. Respect

[@fachua]

Thank you TSL for doing this video. More needs to see this!

[@InspiredNowOrNever]

By far the best episode on TSL. Thank you Jeslene, Zhin and Renae for sharing your stories. It is not easy and I am grateful for this. I wish the world will one day break the stigma of mental illness and be inclusive. It will save so many people contemplating suicide and actually committing suicide.

[@Jessica831__]

I’m still learning to get over my prev relationship, being hated by ppl and it’s really tough. I tried killing myself, I self harm but I did end up realising, that’s not how I should live. Something that kept me going now, is to be able to help more people... I’m doing pretty fine now I’d say... It’s such a heavy episode but a really meaningful one.

[@rujet14]

Heavy content... But good content... I am a person who watch it fast so the quality is so good when it is fast...

[@jarvistay1698]

Omg why must you choose these people. They’re my favourites. Nice to hear their stories. Edit, also good job 👍🏻

[@heitung9001]

im watching halfway and my heart is breaking

[@sinneruki]

Lots of love for everyone here and TSL Know that when there are dark skies, there will be day break

[@sinneruki]

And pls remember YOU are worthy of being here To love every inch of yourself As you are - you are worthy

[@ancillalarasati4262]

Beauty? They are so brave to say out their personal problems to public Respect Thank you TSL for spreading this awareness to the public And thank you to the members for telling your personal problems to us

[@dawnho7744]

Thank you for this episode, TSL. It takes so much courage for you to be in front of the camera to go through the therapy sessions and let us, the viewers, know what you guys have been going through. It's education for those of us who are clueless to mental health problems and comfort to those who are suffering. To the three of you who came forward with your issues, you're never alone.

[@jaminaaa]

this must not have been the easiest to do but thank you for sharing your stories and struggles. I've only started seeking therapy in June this year, after years of struggling and despite having attempted suicide in 2015, I still told myself to believe that it's a passing phase and was too embarrassed/shy/afraid. the stigma behind seeking help for mental health issues is really still strong and I really hope this video can encourage anyone and everyone who is struggling, to reach out. thank you TSL for this video, and our three participants, for their strength and resilience in pushing through despite these challenges.

[@starangeltoy]

Thank you so much for doing this special video. It is so important to stress upon the importance of mental health, especially since there are still people in society who treat mental issues as taboo, which is unhealthy and damaging to individuals and society as well.

[@calismatic]

jes is me rn, after my break up with my girlfriend last november after 2.5 years it killed me internally. whatever shes said its what ive felt and it really opened my eyes on the things youve never seen and then seeing it after the whole breakup, aint used to being single because i never learnt self love and its hard now.

[@starwith90]

Thank for sharing i been through those day where you are having social anxiety.

[@ashloveya]

same here.....

[@victorialim]

Thank you TSL for shedding light on a topic like mental health. I hope you continue to do more of these as well as other videos talking about other important but under discussed issues in our society!

[@isabelleleong5478]

I really hope there will be more videos like this! Maybe a video talking about the costs of therapy and what are the available options for help for mental health could help Singaporeans, I know many people who struggle not with just acknowledging they need help but also finding accessible help. Hopefully it’s smth to consider!

[@icemilo21]

Isabelle Leong there’s a link in the description and maybe it would be helpful for u ? :)

[@QihuiLooi]

I feel that the one that is difficult to step out of the zone will be Jeslene. Although I think it is possible that at the start, actually both have different views towards bisexuality, or rather not as much as what she seems to have thought of. But this constant factor was being pushed aside, especially when that moment of time where you feel that this person can relate to you and understand you more than any other person you have met. That kind of attraction will be something that almost everyone have difficulty to resist on. So after that you will self-resolute towards having the moment of period where both of you had been together, and wished you had; that you turn into your inner insecurities. That you shelled yourself out from the rest. So for this kind of person is that their first courage to really step out and get hold of yourself and find back your own identity. This process itself is already a hard step for them to move on. While Zhin's case was actually easier, as I think it's a common pressing issue in this current generation. That people just want to see the good stuffs, the best side of them to the world. That people starts to live in this kind of facade of themselves, that they have lost their own identity. That they questioned themselves, "Do they really know who I am?", "You won't understand even if I have explained it." kind of situations. You will start to think more than usual, scenarios comes up to you more often. Additional thinking of 'what if', are just toxic to the mental health. It's a vicious cycle, of self doubt and questioning events might not even happen at all. Good that you have taken the attempt of digital detox. This kind of people you have to just talk to them more, and share their same level of understanding, and show them the other side of the scenario of what would have been. They will eventually be enlightened and slowly correct themselves. It's okay to at times get lost, to self-resolute, to be vulnerable of yourself. Being a man doesn't have to put on a strong front, even though of social stigma that men should maintain their masculinity. Being weak is being true to yourself as well. Renae's case is also easier, work stress is also another common issue here in Singapore. It has become a pattern here in Singapore, more often than not now you're working on a social media industry. Judgemental comments of various opinions will definitely come out. As much as Millennial tries to open to the kind of freedom of speech. Opening a mail before you're preparing to go for bed is like opening a Pandora Box. The kind of attraction to know what they are going to say, will give you that urge to want and be curious. So down here, is more about discipline and really keep reminding yourself that sometimes things are just voices, but not a reflection of what you should be and must be. However this reminding issue can also sometimes backfire, as you start to blame yourself for being harsh on yourself again. Just have to be more ease, and cool about it will do. You do you.

[@aryamurali9922]

More love to you people, i have also started seeing a therapist. Everything will be fine

[@ravenminatoes353]

Thanks tsl! As a person suffering with GDA, I thank you for bringing awareness to this topic

[@maikelaritonang]

Thank you for bringing this up TSL!

[@khhthuiting]

Thank you TSL for sharing this, as a person struggling with such issues, I can resonate with all of them. Really hope that all of you are coping well!:)

[@elizabeth4689]

props to them for allowing this to be filmed

[@lovelyfriedrice1230]

OMG I LOVE YOU GUYS SOOOO MUCH I CNNT EXPRESS IT I LOVE THAT YOU ARE HERE ON THIS EARTH I LOVE THAT YOU ARE ONE ON THIS EARTH TRYING TO MAKE LIFE EASIER AND BETTER FOR BOTH YOU AND ME I LOVE YOU SO MUCH don’t forget that you are much appreciated by me, us, EVERYONE i love you so guys so much❤️

[@valerie5298]

Thanks for sharing your vulnerabilities so openly, takes a lot of courage. Therapy is powerful & not as scary as you think

[@sapphire3200]

God i cried when zhin teared, god bless all of them. They’re such wonderful humans.

[@thineshvaranjeremy6431]

Speaking out and getting help is so important. So inspired by this video. Thank you for this!

[@MswtMai]

This is amazing! Thank you TSL for this. Going for therapy should never be something embarrassing. It is very normal to seek help and therapy is a place you can do just that. I hope this video breaks down walls and misconceptions of mental health and everyone can be more receptive in dealing with so called awkward conversations about mental health. It is very normal. It is in us and we should all embrace it as a whole community.

[@dariuswong9764]

Yeah great to see Joyce back, its been while

[@ryuudjinn1761]

I want to see a part 2 for this topic where maybe the therapist can give tips to us that have friends facing the same issues. Most of the time, friends having such mental stresses would be shy or in denial of their mental issues and having us telling them to meet a therapist would just make us look like the "bad guy" or being "ignorant" in their eyes, pushing us further away from them.

[@ariel3725]

I can relate to parts of each of their stories. 😭

[@wongweiqi9496]

this is the best video tsl has ever produced

[@nicoleliang7700]

You know... this is so timely... especially when I was seriously thinking about taking my life

[@claiirs]

Nicole Liang stay strong 💪

[@sanjay8854]

Nicole, stay strong u got this man!! find ppl to talk to!

[@makkaucbkia9640]

You’re not alone and I know this doesn’t mean anything and wouldn’t mean anything when you read it. But just know that you’re not alone and as strangers, me and the other two commenter above bother to comment means we really care even though we do not know you. I know how you feel, I have the same thought as you.

[@KOBEROCKS777]

Nicole Liang hey it’s perfectly normal, there are many people thinking the same too. But there’s one difference between you and the people who have taken their lives: you still have another chance of making a change in your life and see it turn out differently. Haven’t you wondered how it could have turn out differently? Once you have passed through this stage (albeit a very hard stage) of life, everything will be so much easier, your perspective of life will be so much different, victory would taste so much sweeter too! Don’t give up NICOLE LIANG! You can do it! I am trying my best too!

[@misssusan5076]

Hi, if you are keen, you can refer to this link: www.aware.org.sg/womens-care-centre/counselling/ hope it helps and wish you good day

[@ariel3725]

I'm not supposed to be watching this at work. Because I'm going to start to cry.

[@splashburst]

Been contemplating going for therapy for a long while, but didn't know what to expect and how it can actually help. Watching this clarifies many doubts of mine and makes me feel more comfortable going into therapy. Thankful to the team for creating this and grateful to Jes, Zhin and Renae for sharing their stories. It must have taken lots of courage and strength on their part.

[@jaminaaa]

hello! just wanted to pop by and say. that while I'm not the best example. but I only started seeing a psychologist in June this year. like you I was very worried, not knowing what to expect and it took me about 3-4 sessions to actually start feeling that yeah, this might actually work??? it's not an easy task and seeking help is an incredibly brave step so kudos to you! sending ❤

[@yongchoontan9419]

Thank you Jes,Zhin,Renae for being so open and honest about what y'all been going through. I'm reading this book by Ellen Hendriksen "How To Be Yourself" and thought might be useful to share as it opens up my mind to understand myself better. I feel that through reading, it gives us the reassurance and the peace that we need. Let's continue to be brave, being our authentic self.

[@pupwee]

Thanks jes , your problems really got me in my feels . Very relatable , and ouch my heart . Love you Jes

[@ftnqrrtaini]

Kudos to all 3 of y'all for opening up, takes alot of guts to do so.. keep pressing on y'all ❤️

[@nbtri]

Awesome content. Everyone needs to see this. Especially older-gen parents.

[@mayonnaise-6684]

My heart breaks for them I don't know what to say I hope that they can adjust back to a healthy mental health

[@lsotope3537]

Thank you TSL for this video and so proud of the 3 casts to share their stories with us :)

[@lkh1048]

Thank you Jes, Zhin & Ranae so much.. so much 💕💕💕 We can all do this and improve ourselves !

[@navrillera]

Tbh this is one of the best tsl videos ive ever watched, but it would be better if this video is shorter as in upload 1 person per video :> Tysm for making this, mental health is rlly important & this vid taught me a lot of values. :))

[@vars1449]

This is very relatable, for those of you who say don't try to fake your smile for anybody else well is not that simple because society is judgemental as hell. We fake our smile is to be approachable and professional.

[@xantheatan4378]

sending all the love, support and genuine care to you three! thank you for sharing your stories and allowing us to relate, everyone has a deep dark fear and side, and to reveal it to the world is surely not easy. but it has helped so so many people take comfort in knowing there are people who struggle out there, and will definitely inspire more to step out and begin a recovery process. stay strong and be unapologetically you!! humans are not perfect, don’t ever feel the need to subject your entire existence to a single person/minority’s passing comment, and know there’s a whole community willing to support you. and for everyone struggling out there, this is a battle we all face, and will all get through, things may look bleak now, but i hope everyone finds the bravery to make the “first step” mentioned.

[@sanjay8854]

Heavy stuff for my tender heart! Loved the therapist such a good listener :) Guys if your reading this please try your best to spread positivism in your life. Sometimes, I mean 95% of our time focus on yourself first you are so important and precious to everyone around yoU!! have a good day cheers :))

[@thefinestpiece]

I regret giving a second chance to people. It bit me back real hard. I never look at friendship the same hell even I forget the definition of what a friendship is. Now the relationship I have with people are purely just work. Nothing more.

[@jiayiong5557]

In short, understand everyone's situation around you

[@ewwtyt96]

Thank you TSL, Jes, Zhin, Renae for sharing about mental health. It's topic that resonates within so many, yet it is still a taboo one. Hoping that people will learn to be more understanding towards each other. When you are about to drown, seek help, you are not alone.

[@shoogetout05]

It's really brave of you guys to step up and share what you guys have been through. It will certainly help a lot of your viewers who watch your video and help to raise more awareness on mental health. Hope that the 3 of you will find a little bit more closure and acceptance in what you guys have been through as well! 😊💕

[@whoismeru]

Thank you TSL for this video. It resonated with me. Thank you to the 3 courageous people who were willing to share their stories.

[@valerieshorty82]

its so nice to see the three of them coming out to everyone, i wish i could do that too. but i dont know whats the real cause, it started too long ago and problems build up as well as left unsolved. theres just too many things in my head and its still adding on.. sometimes i just want to have a good scream but i cant, i cant. i feel like i just couldnt relief myself because i dont have the power within. its really frustrating how i can be fine on somedays and irritated,sensitive,depressed on other days. it sucks so bad because im dealing with everything all by myself. it would be nice to have friends and family giving me support but i couldnt come out to them, not a single one. they dont and they wont understand and my friends? im scared, im scared that they would judge me even if they dont show it and my friendships would drift like how it happened before. things are so hard

[@misssusan5076]

Hi, if you are keen, you can refer to this link: www.aware.org.sg/womens-care-centre/counselling/ hope it helps and wish you good day

[@libraarc]

I like that they mentioned the stigma of therapy and that people would judge you for it.

[@lovetrustandpixiedust]

Sending love to all of them, especially Jes. I hope you find your crew - one that consists of people who love and accept you just the way you are, one where you can be entirely yourself around without fearing their judgement.

[@roxiane]

Extremely late to this video, but I just wanted to say that I could really relate to everything Zhin said even though we're very different people. it's hard to build trust when you've been hurt in the past and perhaps those feelings will haunt us for as long as we live, I can only hope he is in a much better place now where those intrusive thoughts no longer have a place in his life. Let's do our best

[@nothoseok3820]

thank you so much tsl for really making an effort to raise awareness of how therapy is so important to people like me who has really been frustrated for just being myself. Thank you really much♥

[@josephtan5340]

It how nice to do a video about mental health, so many people would be afraid to come into touch with mental health as they are afraid, I came from a suicidal survivor, yet I am now trying to be strong :)

[@Love.RoslynnAria]

I know how Zhin feels. Whenever someone ask how i feel or how am i doing, I just smiled and say yes im fine. But when they truly asked and probe further, that's when i became a human fountain. A part of me have hide so much pain that once someone starts to seep in my darkness slowly, i cannot stop crying 😢 I think a whole lot lot and to avoid those train of thoughts, i kept myself busy day by day, avoiding thinking of the problems. I always tell myself that i have to keep on swimming if not i will drown. Drowning in my problems. Belinda has such a soothing, unjudemental vibe that i like. Been counselling once and the person i shared to wasn't so 'comforting'. All she does was questioning my doubt and never try to understand what i try to reach out to her.. I guess that's why i stopped seeking help.

[@kwokkevin1]

Hey, I hope you are doing okay and hope you find people you can trust and can open up. I don't know what you are going through but I hope you are able to overcome your pain and find joy in your life. And whenever you go to a councillor again that you are able to find someone who you feel suits you and understands you and is comforting. :)

[@limjingwen6427]

thank u guys for opening up and I know is hard to survive in this world but just keep on fighting for it , u all can do it and thank u for living until right now you’re brave 🙂

[@Enviotonin85]

sometimes is not hard to tell others that you are mentally unwell. But it's hard to say it in a way without making the other person feeling alien by you. And walk away and avoid you whenever they see you. Even those working within the mental health and social service is the same when someone close to them tells them that they are mentally unwell.