Do you struggle with eye contact? What situations do you find most difficult?
@crisyorke13285 жыл бұрын
Ed Barton - The Social Anxiety Coach Every situation. That’s why I wear shades. It looks good, and I don’t have to look at people in their eyes. Looking at people in their eyes make me feel disgusted. I know people too well, and I don’t want to look at them.
@junijoash5 жыл бұрын
I'm problem is that I look into people's eyes
@kang69145 жыл бұрын
It's extremely awkward for me in most social situations. My eyes either start to blink uncontrollably or I just can't look in someone's eye's for too long and I feel like they can tell I'm uncomfortable it's so exhausting for me. Any time company comes over the house I get extremely anxious about it. Social anxiety has ruined my life. I can't just be normal like everyone else. My body language is awkward.
@FJBCmonMan5 жыл бұрын
TFL Man SAME...I keep to myself 99% of the time and stay in my comfort zone which makes social interactions even harder
@abhisheksharma-mu3rc5 жыл бұрын
I feel problem when we have meeting/discuusion in office.because of this i cnt even listen them them properly
@ana99tav4 жыл бұрын
i cant even hold eye contact with family, its so shamefull... but ill try to overcome my social anxiety. if you could do it then i can too =D
@charlottes17473 жыл бұрын
Same here. We’ll get through this!!
@reyysh3 жыл бұрын
I have this problem too, please tel how you running and managing with this problem
@reyysh3 жыл бұрын
@@charlottes1747 how ¿ Help me kindly
@abubakr73043 жыл бұрын
I sometimes feel akward/shy talking to my dad. It's so frustrating
@charlottes17473 жыл бұрын
@@reyysh I’m not exactly sure, but one thing I’ve been doing is staring at people’s forehead instead of their eyes since I don’t think they can tell a difference.
@oomenacka5 жыл бұрын
I'm verbally the most confident person in the room but whenever I look at anyone I lose my wittiness and my decent conversation skills. I actually can't focus on my own thoughts when I have to take in their face and think about how my face looks to them. Over the phone or in group calls I'm the life of the party. In person I dont exist sometimes.
@shanisamarakoon39975 жыл бұрын
Me too ..very badly i hve d same issue
@heiresslaite29505 жыл бұрын
Same here
@blessingeison4 жыл бұрын
Lol.. me too
@tahacukurkaya17414 жыл бұрын
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@yenesisvillalobos70484 жыл бұрын
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@aaronarrietta65193 жыл бұрын
When I try to make eye contact with people I feel like I'm being judge or I feel like they think I'm weird 😞
@casper1995able3 жыл бұрын
Yup that's anxiety
@mitchelljames45383 жыл бұрын
lol yeah I got the same problem. I always think I’m intimidating ppl lol people seem to get offended when I look at them in the eyes
@dnzdnf3 жыл бұрын
you are not weird if you do this
@user-ix9ur7qt2r2 жыл бұрын
metoo
@Zelchinho2 жыл бұрын
@@mitchelljames4538 same. I looked at my mothers eyes like 2 days ago and she has beem tru alot in life, shes emotionally damaged, and when i saw her eyes, looking at me with love, and me feeling nothing when i looked at her, i just had to break it, cause u can see the pain in ppls eyes, and i felt guilty for some reason. I feel guilty because i feel like i cant rly see other people, and their lives, i think im selfish, and awlward, and kinda insane in the head, so i just cant look at peoples eyes and connect with them. Idk
@rekhatabharam68063 жыл бұрын
We lose our precious moments, friends and relations because of this problem.
@wobblyjelly3453 жыл бұрын
So true. It's debilitating. :(
@pransukhbanerjee83753 жыл бұрын
Same same same...where we could be enjoying with our friends.... instead we r battling this shit out fr no reason:(
@hamzagameplayer2 жыл бұрын
i .. dont . u r just overreacting cuz i know for a fact if its a good friend he wouldnt leave u for such a thing and else try to help or just at least not bother by it
@secret_salamanders2 жыл бұрын
@@hamzagameplayer nah obviously you dont know what its like so quit talking
@shanu33432 жыл бұрын
Yes it's true i lost my precious moment in my life and also have fear to take with others
@jackbrick58853 жыл бұрын
LISTEN If you want to fix the issue do this and I promise it will work: Look at your self in the mirror for 2 mins a few time per day. At first it will be weird but then you will start to get bored of being awkward and begin to notice things about your eyes (which is making eye contact). Just be consistent
@bambi7322 жыл бұрын
Now *these* types of comments are what make reading them BEYOND worth it, in the first place, for me.
@gratemind20032 жыл бұрын
Is it worked
@hamzagameplayer2 жыл бұрын
@@gratemind2003 i think it will
@ayopollo2 жыл бұрын
I will try this
@elijahsmall58732 жыл бұрын
@@ayopollo same
@ainochiu69375 жыл бұрын
I hate eye contact I avoid it at any cost.....😢
@EdTheAnxietyCoach4 жыл бұрын
That can be a problematic way to go through life. Unfortunately, it's a big part of non-verbal communication. I'd definitely recommend working on it rather than avoiding it if you can
@lumpyjb45803 жыл бұрын
Same here bud
@harsiddhigase51303 жыл бұрын
Same.....I hate it too.... and this happens mostly at teenage
@rekhatabharam68063 жыл бұрын
@@harsiddhigase5130 true
@ourfrugallife6 ай бұрын
I've been suffering all my life, I'm 60 next month and almost happy that I'm getting near the finish line.
@aomixy53983 жыл бұрын
This comment section is everything. I have never been able to relate this much , I really thought I was the only werid one but now I feel kinda relieved
@evangelineashok11984 жыл бұрын
I don't know y but my heart was pounding much faster when he was explaining.... I wish we all could overcome this..
@godaughter40443 жыл бұрын
Pray to in jesus name
@joakimbostrom68333 жыл бұрын
Bruh same isha
@meenakshijyoti4948 Жыл бұрын
Woah, same!
@victoribarbo2709 Жыл бұрын
I had the same thing. Everytime i felt a little bit anxious and then i ackowledged my heartbeat racing and i just panicked. This video changed my perspection on that: kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJrHeKKwec2CoMk
@themelancholyofgay35432 ай бұрын
@@godaughter4044no.
@quinnrouse35205 жыл бұрын
I like summer/spring because I can wear sunglasses. It gives me a sense of safety. I can naturally look around without feeling like a goal or objective needs completing. It’s when my eyes are bare (99% of the time) is when i start getting anxious. I don’t know what to look at or what to do. This is only when my body is in a static position, like on the bus or sitting down. If I’m moving the options are limitless.
@EdTheAnxietyCoach5 жыл бұрын
I recently worked with a client who had the same problem. They could only go out at night and even then only with sunglasses on. Through gentle, gradual exposure, they cut down to just wearing clear (non-magnified) eyeglasses, and then to walking around busy places in the daytime with "naked eyes" (i.e,. no eyewear at all). It can definitely done. But it takes gentle, gradual exposure as well as some exploration of the reasons behind the fear of eye contact (i.e. bullying which left the sufferer feeling subordinate and not able to make direct eye contact etc.). Eye contact is directly related to our primate brain and our understanding of power and subordination. Once you begin to feel less inferior/submissive/subordinate to others, I have found that the ability to meet them with equal, steady eye contact also comes. It's my experience that with the right mental approach, consistent, gradual, structured exposure, the safety devices of tinted and then clear eyeglasses can gradually be cast off.
@anneneville62554 жыл бұрын
Or now with mask I feel more confident
@autumnolguin53294 жыл бұрын
Me too.. I make people so uncomfortable cause my eyes start going everywhere or if I’m passing someone I know I guess I creep them out because I look at them because idk if I’m supposed to or not but if I’m not aware of it I can naturally be free
@reyysh3 жыл бұрын
Same here, I feel more comfortable if I'd wear transitions but it would be be weard if we wear at night time if we go out in public. I noticed that too or it's all in my mind 😣
@reyysh3 жыл бұрын
@@anneneville6255 wow 😮 you are doing the same as Im doing on daily basis. I we should create a group or community so we could discuss further about similar experience
@vanwilderx29273 жыл бұрын
I feel it every single day, feel like people are reading all my thoughts through my eyes, I get this choking feeling which is overwhelming, it's nerve wrecking, but I can pull through, I believe that.
@halominder2 жыл бұрын
Alike to 'oversharing'. An older collegue asked me 2 days ago if I was ok - the short answer is that I'm dealing with a lot of thoughts on my own, but I don't share it very well... if I stopped and asked for that level of eye contact by just making it, it wouldn't be comfortable, and perhaps be offputting for him to see what I'm seeing in myself. I feel like exposure therepy (for a lack of a better term) is the right method - any time you make eye contact, make at least one push to maintain it even when you're unnerved by it. Willpower will create your habbit - you'll become more confident, and more durable in conversations.
@alessandronaitana630211 ай бұрын
You have schizophrenia
@youngnautica3 жыл бұрын
I wish I was taught how to use eye contact at a young age. I didn’t even know I was supposed to “look in the eyes” until middle school. I’m in my early 20’s working on myself and I think this would be a huge step in becoming a better person. This pandemic has made my social anxiety so much worse but mask wearing makes eye contact vital, gotta get this one down.
@ritanjoki8264 Жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@joshstanley1732 Жыл бұрын
I'm in the same boat. I didn't even realise I couldn't look people in the eyes until a couple months ago. The only person I can look in the eyes is my daughter. Working on it, I think this will improve my life more than I'd imagine. How has this gone for you? Any better?
@TheMrChaddles Жыл бұрын
I’m damn near 40 and I just recently realized that you’re supposed to look ppl in their eyes lol. So don’t feel too bad you’re ahead of me.
@AliceSamue041510 ай бұрын
Growing up I was thought is disrespectful to look ur elders in d eyes while talking
@I-SER8 ай бұрын
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@Vaaleste3 жыл бұрын
The thing is, I avoid it because I "feel" my face doing weird expressions (and anxiety, of course). For example I feel my eyebrows getting into a "mad" state or I feel my lips/lower part of my face casually move.
@allluvin79775 жыл бұрын
So my eye contact anxiety is so weird to the point I can't even look at my close family members, it's so weird that I get depressed and I'm planning on telling them because I'm tired of hiding this secret from them.
@heiresslaite29505 жыл бұрын
All luvin started happening to me recently and i'm à mess...its like à higher notch to my shyness
@allluvin79775 жыл бұрын
@@heiresslaite2950 I don't know if I should be thanking God but I'm glad I'm not alone. Honestly, I lied to myself that I would tell them but I haven't yet for fear they might think I'm weird or judge me.You know what I mean? It sucks that it's happening to the both of us.
@heiresslaite29505 жыл бұрын
We are not alone..there are actually à lot of pple going through this.i once read à newspaper letter where à girl writes about how shy she is of her own brother.. for me it has been on and of until now. This is the worst épisode yet..i'm trying to find the root since its récent. Will share with you to find the solution..lets bé strong..i believe we r actually one of the best pple is y
@heiresslaite29505 жыл бұрын
Its hard thinking they know my secret and wondering why..i have also thought of telling people or family or à family member...that way you Will shut out the over thinking and adapt à new routine
@allluvin79775 жыл бұрын
@@heiresslaite2950 Please do tell me otherwise I gotta get enough courage to tell my family what's going on which I'm very afraid to do.
@mandalaygray69175 жыл бұрын
I am terrible at eye contact. I dread interviews immensely for this reason. I have been on so many and it never gets easier. When talking to the interviewer the urge to look down is so strong but I resist as to not look unprofessional. Then I start to get dizzy and get tunnel vision almost like I am locked into a trance. I also feel my blood pressure rising almost like an anxiety attack is coming.
@aiysharastall7764 жыл бұрын
Mandalay Gray man I feel sorry for a whoever famous Person with anxiety. The struggles they must endure.
@dorianqueen10283 жыл бұрын
You don't need to maintain eye contact to the interviewer the whole time you know that would just be weird, look at them in the eye few seconds then look somewhere else for a second or two and repeat
@bri76252 жыл бұрын
Does not nodding out keeping you he head up and walking mg past still awkward?
@Josiassv3 ай бұрын
@@bri7625yes bro that’s weird
@jameslo6715 жыл бұрын
Making eye contact with strangers gives me anxiety. Thanks for making this video, it makes me believe that I can overcome my anxiety! =)
@EdTheAnxietyCoach4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the comment James
@rajeevarts3983 жыл бұрын
@@EdTheAnxietyCoach i have no problem with strangers , but have with someone i know
@wilfredbosworth63143 жыл бұрын
@@rajeevarts398 do you fancy them?
@raimeyewens7518 Жыл бұрын
Me too. Then I start looking around. Then I worry that I’m looking around too much so I look back. Then I think I look like a crazy person 😂. I don’t know why it stresses me out so much 🤷🏻♀️
@josedamigo35065 жыл бұрын
Hate having this problem man, this problem really gets me depressed sometimes. Hope I can get over it one day 💪🏼 thanks for the video by the way bro, keep up the good work
@EdTheAnxietyCoach4 жыл бұрын
Thank you my man. I appreciate the comment
@autumnolguin53294 жыл бұрын
It really sucks having to worry about it everyday before going out in public
@Syifa_Amalia3 жыл бұрын
Yesss. You can do it!💪🏻💪🏻
@nish26783 жыл бұрын
Are you feeling any better now or is it still the same?? Because it's been almost 3 years i am dealing with this shit and still i can't get over this social anxiety.. help me please if you have any suggestion 🙏🏽
@yumyumdonuts10103 жыл бұрын
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm. I urge every to LEARN AND PRACTICE BLURRING YOU VISION. It works like shield 🛡 for your eyes 👀
@Borboleta12124 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I can be fine with eye contact but often I struggle, depending on how strong a grip social anxiety has on me that day. One thing I worry about is making the appropriate amount of eye contact. When anxiety is getting the better of me, being an introverted person who hates conflict situations and worries about being misconstrued as rude , I always err on the side of too little eye contact. During a particularly anxious episode once, I avoided eye contact with a group of girls who happened to be Muslim and they shouted racist’ after me as I went past. While I can understand how they formed that assumption, it really hurt and was completely mortifying as that is not my character at all. I was so embarrassed I froze, didn’t say a word and burst into tears once I was away from people. This anxiety over having my actions/visual behaviours misconstrued continues to rear it’s head and haunt me at times. I worry A LOT about offending people as I hate any kind of conflict and have an excessive fear of seeming arrogant or rude...I tend to feel really flustered and tongue tied when people’s eyes are on me as I have such a high level of self awareness and self consciousness. I feel very lonely a lot of the time and I haven’t kissed, dated, or had any kind of romantic relationship in over 4 years. I’ve just subscribed to your channel as I hope I will learn a few useful tips here and it will boost my wellbeing. Thank you for creating this channel and posting these videos, you are doing a great service to many people! 🌎😊💪❤️
@ayeshamf25653 жыл бұрын
Awwe man, so sorry you get wrongly judged simply because of an eye contact situation. I guess one way you can empower yourself in a situation like this is to remember its your intention that matters and makes you who you are, not what they think of you. So if you are uncomfy about eye contact in a situation (when it isn't even necessary to begin with- like in the case of random passer by etc) remind yourself that your intentions aren't to be racist or hurt anyone, its just for your mental health's sake that you are avoiding eye contact, and that's alright. You aren't obligated to making eye contact with everyone around and it doesn't make you a bad person. Lord knows your intentions and that's all that matters. People who judge you are just judgy. Especially if all you do is not make eye contact, you aren't even causing harm either so their judgement is really their personal perspective, you're good no worries. May Allah make life easier for all of us #Peace 🙌🏻
@mr.fibonacci62922 жыл бұрын
How’s life been for you lately? Praying for you
@cyberdannydmorgan58633 ай бұрын
We are the same bro, i had social anxiety quit early in my life and i hadnt been with a girl or in a relationship for serveral years, it hurts bro but im way better than before😢
@arianaoyola84123 жыл бұрын
Who else is lowkey grateful for zoom because it helps with social anxiety and being more confident?
@crisyorke13285 жыл бұрын
I am a very dominant person. But I hate eye contact. I just hate people, and feel people are disgusting. I don’t trust people at all.
@EdTheAnxietyCoach5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your comment Cris. So do you feel you have social anxiety? Because it sounds more like misanthropy. In a similar way, my girlfriend is cynical of most people and has no interest in speaking to them. She's just introverted and mildly misanthropic. She doesn't have any anxiety about interactions and doesn't avoid them out of fear.
@crisyorke13285 жыл бұрын
Ed Barton - The Social Anxiety Coach I do have social anxiety that I have panic attack when I see people, especially going to a tall building for some sort of corporate interview. I don’t give a crap about their rank or status but I just have panic attack when I am going to meet people. Not submissive but the usual thing with panic attack.
@crisyorke13285 жыл бұрын
Ed Barton - The Social Anxiety Coach I’m not introverted or extroverted, just middle, but I hate people, have panic attack/heart racing and blurry mind/froze whenever I have to go to corporate building. I’m in Asia, and I dislike Asian culture and crammness, and the lack of personal space. It all adds up.
@waykool6985 жыл бұрын
You have issues.
@whatwhat34325234 жыл бұрын
I think your problem is that you might think you are dominant. But instead you might just be aggressive or arrogant. This could be a defensive approach you have created.
@Tarantula_Fangs2 жыл бұрын
I struggle severely with this, I try so hard to keep eye contact but what happens is that the other person is *immensely* uncomfortable so to make them feel comfortable I tend to look away. Like another commenter mentioned, I can’t even keep eye contact with family members. I have a difficult time having friendships and relationships from this and have noticed that I sometimes feel so isolated because no one overlooks my strange quirks and instead finds me strange. I think about it and wonder if maybe it’s just my eyes, perhaps I have strange or intimidating eyes. I have gone as far as even recording myself and noticed that I glance around abnormally and cant stay focused on the camera, I tend to look extremely nervous. I’ve heard that people with autism struggle with this, but I honestly just don’t know, its all so taxing. Anyway, I have managed to work on eye contact and even though I struggle with it, I have slightly gotten better with it and am slowly shaping friendships. Good luck everyone, you are not alone!
@thatsmenigu19542 жыл бұрын
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@KingBoxingandFitness Жыл бұрын
It’s like you taking every thought from my head . Wow
@EdTheAnxietyCoach Жыл бұрын
Yep. We think we're the only ones, but we're all thinking the same way!
@Tarantula_Fangs Жыл бұрын
@@KingBoxingandFitness Well, I have been truly working on my eye contact and I noticed what has helped me is every 3 seconds look up when I'm talking, not to the left or right but up like the ceiling. I have learned a lot of myself in this time, I realized that most people are uncomfortable with eye contact UNLESS they are attracted to you or very comfortable around you. I also realized that most people won't hold eye contact while talking, I use to just hold eye contact for way too long, because I would naturally try and read people or really listen attentively to what they are saying. I am convinced now that most people are just uncomfortable with standard eye contact with strangers, however I have been told that I have a very domineering presence about me which can have its pros and cons. I genuinely consider myself to be a good person and try to be respectful to everyone yet people's perception of me is kind of negative based purely on my looks, so that can be difficult when you're trying to communicate with someone. Although, I am comfortable with who I am and even though I recognize that I have strange quirks or mannerisms I accept and cherish my uniqueness. 😀 I will say that I have been focusing a lot on how I approach communication with people and have actually added to my friend group because of it. I am happy to say that I have added 3 new friends and it's been really fun, it has helped out a lot with any social anxiety and it pushes me to try and make more social acquaintances. Overall, here is what helped me a lot. 1) Just start meeting new people, go out more often as much as possible. You can't practice what works if you're not going out. This is by far one of the most important things that I had to work on, I've been going everywhere just to enjoy myself and even getting new fun experiences, parks, beaches, malls, shopping, libraries, clubs, bars, coffee shops, etc. (Whenever I use to get Fastfood, I would take it home to eat, now I actually order and sit in the store to eat which can bring some good conversations with strangers) 2) Wear un-intimidating clothing, if you dress too extreme you might not get the attention you are looking for unless you want to attract a specific kind of individual. 3) Wear any article of clothing with something that you like, music bands, characters, movies, art, etc. Some people will naturally gravitate towards you and ask you a question or be intrigued by what you are wearing ESPECIALLY if they're into the same thing. 4) Be honest, surprisingly, honesty has been such a helpful tool for me to make friends and even talking to people. Tell them that you're terrible at communicating with people but that you want to get better at it and that sometimes you get a bit shy and don't know what to say. You'd be surprised how many people will understand AND actually appreciate your honesty; you'll even be shocked by how many people can relate. 5) Try to be funny, don't focus too much on trying to make an impression or trying to impress but instead don't take yourself too seriously and be sure to not be scared to poke a little fun of yourself. (ex. If I were lost and asked for directions, I would tell the person that I was always getting lost because I'm terrible with directions, but I would always have a good day because I would end up having a good experience.) 6) Exchange social media, personally, I don't like social media, but I understand that it plays an important role in our lives. Sometimes, if I'm feeling brave enough, I'll ask those whom I met and had a good conversation with for their social media or even mine if they want to add me. 7) When someone makes eye contact with you from afar it usually is a good sign, the more times they do the better it is! I use to see someone look at me and I'd quickly look away but now if I notice someone staring at me, I'll say hello and if they say hello back, I will begin to engage in a conversation with them. 8) Smile every so often, but not too much, lol if you make eye contact with someone, smile and say hello. If you're too serious, you could come off as intimidating, personally I don't have a great smile BUT I noticed that whenever someone makes eye contact and I smile and say hello they usually look at me again later which is my cue to start a conversation with that person. Sometimes the conversations go well. 9) Don't linger, sometimes if a conversation goes stagnant, not a big deal, some conversations just never go past small talk. Just excuse yourself and focus on something else. You have to learn to read. 10) Introduce yourself, when a conversation is going well, just a pure introduction can help a person come to ease and help with conversation. Anyway, this is all that I could think about at the moment but they have been ESSENTIAL in helping me establish better connections with people and expanding my really small friend group. I am in a really happy spot with my life, and I noticed that a lot had to do with the lack of socialization that I had. Now I have some friend outings to go to in the next coming weeks which I look really forward to. I hope this helped you as much as it helped me! Don't worry, I think you will do good, believe me I struggled ALL MY LIFE with making friends and socializing, I'm middle aged so it's never too late. Best of luck.
@thegoodfellow41 Жыл бұрын
@@Tarantula_Fangs Spot on, think once I isolated for so long it hindered my social skills (mostly eye contact). Tbh I actually like to generate conversation but then I get overwhelmed w/breathing and eye contact. It’s most certainly been the biggest challenge of my life (also public speaking). But it’s also brought out some good. Can’t focus solely on the negative. Thx
@jagerenergy21564 жыл бұрын
Wow I Never thought I Would be able to find a Video that is this relateable to my Problems, thanks for that
@EdTheAnxietyCoach4 жыл бұрын
No problem. Hope it helped
@Drostvideo5 жыл бұрын
I like your point on using the soft gaze and looking up was you pass someone
@karimk85513 жыл бұрын
You are describing exactly how I feel when trying to make eye contact with people
@FJBCmonMan5 жыл бұрын
Yup this is me. It’s horrible and it doesn’t make any sense
@EdTheAnxietyCoach4 жыл бұрын
I agree it's horrible but there's usually a reason why SAD occurs. For me it was genetic and family + social conditioning
@anxietyrecoveryjourney12472 жыл бұрын
I was a socially anxious person. There was one time when I was speaking to a colleague and she point out that I wasn't making eye contact when I am speaking with her. This made me even more self-conscious and created more stress when I spoke to people. I knew that I have to face my fear of making eye contact. I practiced the soft gaze method and gradually I am able to hold eye contact instead of darting away.
@stephaniemoreno50432 жыл бұрын
About a year ago I started to have problems with making eye contact I never had a problem with it til I fell into severe social anxiety … what helped you to get that soft gaze look?
@swagzgaming26542 жыл бұрын
@@stephaniemoreno5043 I think we just need to start holding eye contact, I started trying yesterday
@stephaniemoreno50432 жыл бұрын
@@swagzgaming2654 I feel like I hold eye contact for two long I come off as weird and awkward.
@Awesome_Dreamer Жыл бұрын
@@stephaniemoreno5043 i am also facing same problem 😢. Can you plz help me or can we connect each other 😭
@raimeyewens7518 Жыл бұрын
I know I should look at them but I look away. Then I worry I’m looking away too much so I look back. And I repeat this until I start thinking I must look like a crackhead. 🤦🏻♀️ I don’t know why this stresses me out so much.
@bradselc36185 жыл бұрын
I been struggling with social anxiety for 3 years now and it just gets worse every day. It’s gotten to the point where even driving makes me uncomfortable. I had to tint all my windows to try to avoid people looking at me. I don’t go out much now. It gets very bad going to the grocery store or public places. Everything you say it’s exactly what I feel. I just subscribed. I will try all your tips and face my fears. Thanks for your videos!
@EdTheAnxietyCoach5 жыл бұрын
Hi Sergio, thanks for comment. I definitely recommend facing your fears in a gradual and safe way. The best way out is through! Let me know how you get on
@chayankyr40355 жыл бұрын
Bro...even I have the same thing...listen..to me.it really works....it was since 4months I had social anxiety...and as usual my day had gone worse....I came home ..as I used to do always...l was listening to sad songs....and then suddenly BELIEVER (song) played in my play list...for a moment I felt current passing through my dead body...I had listened BELIEVER many times before getting social anxiety...but now wen I heard that song...I really got pumped up...instead of wearing glasses to prevent eye contact....I wore earphones and went out ...it really worked...I was just focusing on road and but my whole heart/mind was in that song...I really dint feel people passing next to me....yes ...face ur fears...listen to some pump up music and wear earphones go out...it really works...and it happened to me today ...so I'm messaging this to as many people as I can....bro try.....it..if it works tell to few ppl..cheers
@NotYourTypicalLakersFan4 жыл бұрын
Same man did toy fix this and how?
@autumnolguin53294 жыл бұрын
I feel your pain it’s going on another year for me, it sucks cause I wanna have friends and be in a relationship and not avoid my own family but all because that one fear I do:/
@Max_G433 жыл бұрын
Tinted all windows 5% for exactly that reason and because of sun
@ghowman18 күн бұрын
A soft gaze. That's some of the best advice on this subject that I've heard.
@EdTheAnxietyCoach8 күн бұрын
Glad it was helpful
@emanizedtv80294 жыл бұрын
Great content!! Eye contact takes practice but once you‘re comfortable with holding strong eye contact it is super powerful and can display a lot of positive trades!
@jacksondowdle52173 жыл бұрын
I literally started to struggle with eye contact 5 days ago. Maybe I've let the Pandemic lock me in my house for too long. I've always been kind of shy, and a stutterer, but this eye contact thing has popped up as a MAJOR issue for me literally 5 days ago. I need to do something about it.
@montagecentral13793 жыл бұрын
Same, I’ve always been an outgoing person, then all of a sudden bam I can’t talk when I look someone in the eyes. Trust me I’ve tried every damn thing. If ur like me nothing will work. The best thing u can do in my opinion is to just ignore the problem and eventually U might forget abou it. If u have a solution lmk 😤
@montagecentral13793 жыл бұрын
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@stephaniemoreno50432 жыл бұрын
The pandemic changed me too !! The fact that we had to wear masks I wasn’t used to it. And since all they could see were my eyes. I noticed people avoiding making eye contact with me for some reason and it got to me and I just completely forgot how to make eye contact
@loveself49482 жыл бұрын
Out of so many videos on same content. Am impressed with this one because it’s practical and easy to use whereas it’s having philosophical backdrop.
@NEXTLEVELAWARENESS5 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@EdTheAnxietyCoach4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@glazebernadetter.ceniza38833 жыл бұрын
I used to experiment and observe myself a lot when I go outside my room. Like for example, I tend to challenge myself to look at and clarify if people were actually looking at me just to prove that they're not but most of the time they are actually looking at me. That's it, I'm not going out again.
@chroniik45574 жыл бұрын
Glad I found you. I used to be so confident and eye contact and conversations were natural. After being a gaming addict for 7 years and not going out much I find that I have death stare eyes from gaming and I have lost my social skills. This is very annoying as because I’m trying to get over the social bit my eyes aren’t helping lol I have given up gaming and trying to get my life on track. Thank you for these videos I find them very helpful and the examples are bang on.
@xcobyxzei4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I’m 30 years old and never had eye contact issues until now. It’s gotten worse in a few months. It’s crazy! These videos and tips help a lot. Keep doing what you’re doing!
@josiegeddio34414 жыл бұрын
i’m so glad i found your channel! i tell my mom i have social anxiety and she just says that i’m over exaggerating. it’s nice to try to overcome it by watching your videos.
@Awesome_Dreamer Жыл бұрын
I also facing the same problem even with my family members 😢. Plz can we talk on this.
@x.Magic.x11 ай бұрын
@@Awesome_Dreamersounds like they’re gaslighting you.
@AlejandroHeyy3 жыл бұрын
I looking for this advice so long! This is what I needed! God sent me this video in recommendation. Thank you so so much! ❤️
@thezealouschristian97594 жыл бұрын
Amazing video. Thank you. I can relate to all this. I have eye contact anxiety. When I feel like I am not giving people enough eye contact, I try to give them more eye contact which can sometimes lead to awkward staring lol. So, I can not win haha. I feel like most of the time I am not giving enough eye contact or too much. I find that sometimes I am not even mindful of eye contact. For me, the issue is when I am mindful of it. That is when I start thinking "Should I look away!!" "Should i hold eye contact?" "argh" lol this usually leads me to feeling very awkward and I wish the ground would swallow me up and hide me.
@addahandle-k8d2 жыл бұрын
This is well articulated. Thanks 👍
@yeranditorres49565 жыл бұрын
Even tho this vid doenst have a lot of views its still gud
@EdTheAnxietyCoach5 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Even if it helps 1 person, it's worth making
@aizen330i5 жыл бұрын
the looking up instead of down advice is genius
@EdTheAnxietyCoach4 жыл бұрын
Thanks, glad it was useful
@MrMate88694 жыл бұрын
I think if I can overcome the eye contact issues I have I will completly overcome the social anxiety. Lol damn it Great video, cheers for the help.
@autumnolguin53294 жыл бұрын
Same
@georgiakidd78183 жыл бұрын
Same
@SirusStarTV3 жыл бұрын
What about others fears tho? Like speaking to them while making eye contact. There's many fears in social phobia.
@karimk85513 жыл бұрын
Excellent advice. Something else that helps me when walking down the street is scanning my field of view with lateral eye movement. Like slowly moving eyes from side to side along with every step while keeping my head in a neutral position. Not sure how it looks from the other person's perspective but it does keep me busy and all in all end up caring less I the first place. Also chewing gum. Since, at least in my case I am convinced that after the eyes, the mouth is where the anxiety can be noticed the most. All of this along with resisting the urge to avert your gaze. If you find someone to be interesting try to make an effort and look at them, but also not for too long or too intensely by keeping in mind that you want to be 'compassionate' as in not submitting to your phobias but also not freaking out the other person while doing so. It kinda sucks that having social anxiety is like having to control your gaze 'manually' so to speak when others seem to be doing it automatically. But yeah such is life I guess
@addahandle-k8d2 жыл бұрын
This is excellent 👌
@willahsindano71522 жыл бұрын
These comments have made me realise that am no the only one with eye contact issues I love the fact that we all go through these problems i usall look at people for no reason and i found out that okay thats not normal most of the time
@stevewise195 күн бұрын
I have found this video very helpful since you have talked about things have usually done just to avoid making eye conatact cause it has always made me uncomfatable . Hope what have learnt makes me more confident and improves my eye contact skils.
@k1tkatty6 ай бұрын
I’m scared to make eye contact because I’m scared if I’ll look at them weirdly or in the wrong way since I’m not comfortable with it with strangers
@roguebeauty35363 жыл бұрын
This information was very helpful!! Thank you so much. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who gets anxious in these ways, like walking in front of a coffee shop.
@jrjrudley32 жыл бұрын
Oh wow! I've been to a few pros who couldn't explain to my about the tunnel vision thing. 2 minutes into this video has explained what I spent SO much money and time to understand. Thanks!
@EdTheAnxietyCoach Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@zahavasantos9023 жыл бұрын
Hi guys recently I just get uncomfortable when talking to peep and even my fam :(. I start to do other physical tasks like cleaning to avoid eye contact 😔
@le_hulk_71965 жыл бұрын
Am a supervisor, very dominant but always fail when it comes to eye contact. I tend to look away constantly while talking
@yumyumdonuts10103 жыл бұрын
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm. I urge every to LEARN AND PRACTICE BLURRING YOU VISION. It works like shield 🛡 for your eyes 👀
@bermanramadhan8723 жыл бұрын
i was a cheerful guy before something happened in my life, but it was 6 years ago, now im a sad human being... :( i can't do eye contact with my own family.... i don't have any close friend because of that... i through my daily life with akwardness everytime i must meet people... help me please i dont wanna die alone
@bermanramadhan8723 жыл бұрын
my most common arkward scene in my life is when i meet familiar friend but not very close at long corridor and i dont know where my eyes should look, and when he getting closer and gonna pass by sometimes i say hi, or just walk away without any word... that scene make me wanna die sooner... what a shame :(((
@maxnick70233 жыл бұрын
Your eye contact wasn't that bad when compared to my eye contact that I have! You would call me weirdo just spending a minute of your life talking with me! I am so damn lost! Don't worry! Stay strong! Spread positivity in your mind as I am trying to do it more and more to help myself! It can work at some extent!
@bermanramadhan8723 жыл бұрын
@@maxnick7023 i think we can be a friend max... heres my email Bermanramadhan777@gmail.com lets figured out how to get rid of our eye contact anxiety
@ymenace50242 жыл бұрын
Same bro
@ymenace50242 жыл бұрын
Have you improved ?
@MuhayyoMansurovna4 ай бұрын
I have watched this video about 2 weeks ago and now I feel much better with eye contact thank u so much. Making eye contact gives me much confidence❤
@EdTheAnxietyCoach2 ай бұрын
Yes! So happy to hear this. Keep going my sister
@brooketaylor62262 жыл бұрын
This was SO helpful and exactly the kind of tips I needed. My eyes are really intense, hooded and bright blue, so I already get SO many comments about them. When I feel the other person staring harder at them when I’m looking directly at them, my anxiety hits the roof! So then it gives me even more anxiety and I start looking down or my phone (especially in meetings, pretend to take notes the whole time so I can avoid eye contact) and I leave the situation knowing I came across looking ridiculous. Thank you for all of these cheat codes- I will try them tomorrow! 🤞🤞
@EdTheAnxietyCoach Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful Brooke
@niftyszn94693 жыл бұрын
People tell me I make alot of eye contact and I didnt realize. Now whenever I think about eye contact it just gets weird and i dont know where to look.
@stephaniemoreno50433 жыл бұрын
Yes sameee!!
@numanhussain60803 жыл бұрын
More eye contact us better than none.
@cyberdannydmorgan58633 ай бұрын
@@numanhussain6080exaclty💀
@esmeraldak89845 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the wonderful tips. I’m going to give them a try!
@EdTheAnxietyCoach5 жыл бұрын
E C thanks for your comment. You're very welcome, I'm glad it helped
@yumyumdonuts10103 жыл бұрын
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm. I urge every to LEARN AND PRACTICE BLURRING YOU VISION. It works like shield 🛡 for your eyes 👀
@calculatedchaos91342 жыл бұрын
I’m a security supervisor and after the pandemic and a very abusive relationship, I found I couldn’t keep eye contact with anyone. I depersonalize really hard and it’s become so damaging to my life and my work. My family doesn’t believe I struggle with social anxiety. I never realized how badly this has impacted me. Everything he described spoke to me. I’m beginning a massive promotion next month, and I’m working so hard to fix this as confidence is so important for the job. Please know you guys aren’t alone. Know you’re not a coward. I’m brave, I’m ready to fight at a moment’s notice, but I struggle with major internal battles and it does not at all reflect poorly on any of us. I’m proud of you guys for looking for help like me.
@loophole2621 Жыл бұрын
This has resonated with me. It didn't occur to me that others see my physical behaviours before I have noticed them. That the time delay is something for me to work on. Thanks for the advice.
@EdTheAnxietyCoach Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the message. Glad the video was helpful
@jarvismilanist8 ай бұрын
As someone who experiences it, I really hate talking face to face with other people, when I talk to other people I like to be beside them, not in front of them, it's really torturous. I also hate mirrors, when I'm in the car or at the barbershop I feel really tormented by the mirror in front of me.
@onee4 жыл бұрын
I don't look down, but I look to the side. My problem is, I can't even look someone (especially strangers) directly in their eyes for one second. I immediately look away, because it makes me very nervous. Especially with strangers. And with public speaking I ended up looking at a single person lock eyes, and couldn't stop looking at anyone else. For me looking down is a habit I used to do since I was a kid. I'm practicing looking forward while walking, but it's going to take time to get rid of it.
@eddyk20162 жыл бұрын
This is the best person to watch, really helpful, esp the neutral head in corridor and the "soft gaze taking in the eye and surrounding area". thank you very much Ed Out of all the thousands of SA clips I've watched yours is the most useful
@EdTheAnxietyCoach Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. I'm really the videos are useful to you.
@chetyoubetya8565 Жыл бұрын
There is also cultural norms that people will not look each other in the eyes or make eye contact with another person's spouse.There are also times where you just don't want to be bothered with the person or you do not like them even though you have to interact with them.To me I just don't want to give them anything even looking at them to me is wasting my time.
@jj95014 жыл бұрын
I'm kinda happy to read other comments so I don't feel so alone in this. For my job I have to sit at a desk talking to people so I can't hide my insecurities. It's really depressing cause I love to help people but I feel I just look awkward. Even worse is that I blush really bad. My red cheeks makes the eye contact even worse. Wish I could wear a mask 😂
@-alexsrevival65053 жыл бұрын
the masks for covid help somewhat
@samc73124 жыл бұрын
I don’t like to make eye contact with person I’m talking to, I will lost what I am gonna say.
@iwantahat2 жыл бұрын
All these tips were spot on. These are exactly the situations i had trouble with. Keeping my head up, soft gaze and looking back at people helped me the most. Thanks man!
@iwantahat2 жыл бұрын
Has to practiced though
@jessenoelle262 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this! I've struggled with eye contact for years now, due to mental health and self-esteem issues. I've been doing a lot of work on both of those, I'm happy to say. But at this point, the lack of eye contact is like a bad habit, and it's taking a lot of mindful intention for me to overcome it. This video was a LOT more helpful to that end than all of the other generic, "rules of engagement for eye contact" articles and videos out there. My brain is better able to process some of the more analytical points about how looking down is a natural "drawing in" or constricting motion, which will impact breathing, testosterone, etc (instead of how looking down makes you look "suspect" or "untrustworthy" whatever....Personally, I've never found those rationales very helpful. at all, as they're kind of subjective and shaming.) Also super helpful to have different techniques for different instances that are kind of awkward anyway, like passing someone while talking a walk or in a corridor. Ready to practice breaking the habit and facing the fears!
@JC-ji4mg5 жыл бұрын
Second time I comment one of your videos and still impressed that you really know what you are talking about. Eye contact is the most uncomfortable thing that happens in my case and I’ll let you know if these tips work! Keep killing it with the videos 💪🏼
@EdTheAnxietyCoach5 жыл бұрын
Hi Juan, thanks for your comment, always much appreciated. Let me know how you get on with these tips and stay tuned, more videos being published today :)
@luisreloade165 жыл бұрын
I can look my partner in the eye and people I trust with no problem. It’s strangers and people I don’t really like or don’t care. I also feel it’s disrespectful to look people in the eye for long periods of time. So most of the conversations I look down
@EdTheAnxietyCoach4 жыл бұрын
You could also argue that giving someone eye contact is being present and giving them attention and respect.
@nicj53543 жыл бұрын
I just realized I can practice while watching videos like this by pretending you can see me. It's EASY when you know you're invisible, so this helps. If eye contact has to do with dominance imma eye contact the hell outta everyone now!
@berrybestlifestyle91885 күн бұрын
Making eye contact with people is exhausting and makes me shut down completely.
@ProsperousBhavna3 жыл бұрын
I could relate whole of the video with myself . That's so helpful . I would try my best to improve making eye contact :)
@mp95084 жыл бұрын
Your vids are top notch and you appear to have great grasp of a spectrum of social anxiety issues. Did you study psychology formally or is it merely the fruit of years of self study? Mad success to you sir, it’s a good thing you’re doing here.
@seanclips47963 жыл бұрын
Ever since wearing a mask since covid I’ve had this problem
@LeeEverett13 жыл бұрын
I think eye contact with a mask is even easier tbh
@katec98933 ай бұрын
This is really helpful, I've subscribed. I've struggled with this for years but only in certain situations. I'd designed my life to avoid those situations but unfortunately it limits me and cuts me off. Last night I went to an event where my anxiety was sky high, it was v overwhelming but I'd like to overcome it. It's interesting hearing how you used to fear pub gardens and cafes, those don't bother me and I hadn't considered how we each have individual social anxiety triggers. My worst is sitting in a quiet room with a group listening to talks, speeches or doing group meditation. It makes me want to run out and 'escape' as it feels massively intense and overwhelming to me. The problem is it affects jobs (meetings), weddings, lectures, talks, workshops, group meditation and other events which is pretty limiting. I have left and not returned to things like this as I felt so overwhelmed.
@EdTheAnxietyCoach3 ай бұрын
Thanks for your comments Kate. Yes, SAD can be very situational and each person’s triggers are often highly personal. Many people find silence very hard to deal with
@stever5073 жыл бұрын
I feel strangers think I’m rude since I don’t even look at them as I pass them. Don’t want to smile at them or nod because then they’ll think I’m a weirdo.
@LeeEverett13 жыл бұрын
They don't think you're rude, they probably think that you ARE a weirdo by avoiding them at all costs. Not even acknowledging someone's existence when walking by shows that you're scared of other people.
@stever5073 жыл бұрын
Lee Everett your absolutely right.
@TheSnowyOwl-zg2ck3 жыл бұрын
Steve R Same here. If I am about to pass someone, a lot of times when I try to meet their gaze with friendly eyes, I find they are avoiding eye contact. Of course, this is awkward and I feel like they think I was just staring at them. But if I don't look at them when passing, then what if they try to meet my gaze, then I will seem so rude? To meet gaze or not, that is the question?? : (
@dorianqueen10283 жыл бұрын
Not rude at all when you walk past strangers and don't make eye contact with them I mean you don't know them so why the need to make eye contact with them, if say they stopped you and asked for the time, directions etc and you just avoided them and carried on walking then that would be rude
@stever5073 жыл бұрын
@@dorianqueen1028 I’ve gotten better now. At the gym, store or at work I now give a quick smile and nod at them. Makes the other one feel better. At least I feel good when a stranger acknowledges me. I used to overthink what they would think of me if I smiled but don’t really care now. Makes me feel comfortable when I do. I don’t do that to every single person who walks passed me on a busy street though. I think that’s being a weirdo 😅
@alzair80812 жыл бұрын
Coach, can you make a video about a scenario when we sit or eat on the same table with strangers or with people that we not really close to? I facing a lot of awkward moments with this. Most of the time I tried to avoid this.
@audreyl.836611 ай бұрын
I hate sitting across from people, even if I know them well. No idea why. I prefer sitting side by side, makes me feel more comfortable.
@diegomendez72392 жыл бұрын
my problem is when i’m talking to someone it feels as if i’m going crosseyed and suddenly look into something else but i’ve asked people and they say that i don’t go cross eyed and it gets me pissed at myself
@daveaxelorellanadiaz63045 ай бұрын
I related a lot to most of the situations shared in this video. Thanks for sharing this!! Super helpful.
@EdTheAnxietyCoach5 ай бұрын
You're very welcome. I'm glad it was helpful
@bluewarrior23452 жыл бұрын
One of my main weaknesses when it comes to shyness was the eye contact. I realized I had this issue at the age of 14, since at that time I couldn’t even make proper eye contact with my parents. The only person I was comfortable with were my close friends and my brother. I kept this issue to myself and worked hard to overcome this issue. But now at the age of 15, Alhamdullilah my eye contact problem has greatly improved, where I can have a normal conversation with everyone and just full of confidence. I’d say that the trick that helped me the most is we have to realize that no one is feeling how you think they feel when you’re looking at them. If that makes sense. I hope this helps and motivate you to be able to overcome this challange. You always have the potential to be greater than before. I wish you all the best on your journey to overcome this fear 😁!!! Assalamualaikum
@tasmimsaju2 жыл бұрын
You know what? I am also 15 years old AND I can't even look in eyes of my brother or any other person's eye.I don't know what to do
@kmk2983 Жыл бұрын
Waalikumassalam
@Awesome_Dreamer Жыл бұрын
@@tasmimsaju same with me 😢😢. Can we talk about it.plz help me 😢😢
@tasmimsaju Жыл бұрын
@@Awesome_Dreamer i don't know whay to do😭it has been 10 months but i still can't do it:')
@Awesome_Dreamer Жыл бұрын
Can we connect via social media or something 🥺 Because I want a friend who can understand me
@Th0ughtZ_4 жыл бұрын
My number 1 problem with eye contact is that I literally feel like I'm staring a complete hole through the person. I feel like my eye contact is too intense. What can I do to feel less idk, intrusive with my eye contact?
@KJain-fw6zv3 жыл бұрын
One technic when in a group & freak out, star looking down & say out load, "where did I drop it?". People will join you looking at the floor together. That way you can break the ice & if you keep looking down, they'll think you're still looking for whatever you lost.
@Scotch-z1u Жыл бұрын
I feel like I've never heard advice from someone with social anxiety about this until now.
@EdTheAnxietyCoach Жыл бұрын
Thank you. Good to know. You're certainly not alone mate!
@jaydizzy41394 жыл бұрын
I wanna overcome come this fear
@paulanthony53945 жыл бұрын
I need some help. I want to make eye contact with my driving instructor, since I feel like me continuously averting my gaze and looking at everything but him makes him think I’m not listening or something (I never make eye contact with anyone, ever) but being in such a close position with him sitting right next to me it makes it more awkward and I don’t want to stare and creep him out but want to return the friendliness because he makes me feel calm when driving. Thanks. ✌️
@EdTheAnxietyCoach4 жыл бұрын
Until you build up confidence with direct eye contact, perhaps you can try taking in his whole face with a soft general gaze. You can also look at neutral areas on the face like the bridge of the nose or around the eyes etc. It is very hard for the other person to tell exactly where you are focusing. Once you get used to face-to-face exchanges, gradually work up to full eye contact
@bighill82722 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your advice with us so kindly. I have suffered all my life with this problem, lack of confidence, fear of looking in other people's eyes. Its a real problem!!!
@rubensaldana5712 жыл бұрын
Amazing video, I've learned a lot in 13 minutes. Thank You.
@EdTheAnxietyCoach Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@jenphillips6614 жыл бұрын
How long should you hold eye contact in a conversation without it becoming awkward? Sometimes I feel that my eye contact is TOO good because I try hard to be good at it.
@aiysharastall7764 жыл бұрын
Jen Phillips then the harder you try to act normal and good the more the anxiety interferes, I get that too
@aiysharastall7764 жыл бұрын
I wonder what the reason is to being so anxious with eye contact 🤔
@Mr.Nefarioussness4 жыл бұрын
Aiysha Rastall he said it😭 it’s dominance, if you feel lower then the person you will tend to do it, I used to have it bad but I remember when I talked to people on my level I could actually make good eye contact
@SlightlyDank4 жыл бұрын
@@Mr.Nefarioussness I am quite confident of myself but whenever i am up close with someone or multiple people talking i get nervous (my heart also starts pounding) because of their eyes looking at me and i start to even not hear what they're saying anymore cause i'm like shit why the f do i get nervous what's wrong with you, in public spaces i have no issues tho if people stare at my i just give them a funny face n laugh, do you think this is some other sort of anxiety?
@Haunted_Gains3 жыл бұрын
You can also be so dominant and intimidate others
@cyberdannydmorgan58633 ай бұрын
@@Mr.Nefarioussnessit aint bro, my own boss limits his eye contact with me and i NEVER look away💀
@susanemcАй бұрын
I thought the vision blurriness was just me. This was very helpful, thanks
@EdTheAnxietyCoachАй бұрын
No, you're definitely not alone 🙂
@jonathanvalencia88485 жыл бұрын
I wanna say thank you for making this video it's helped me out alot I'm facing my fears each and every day and trying my best to follow ur tips and it's helped alot thank you😃 and God bless
@EdTheAnxietyCoach4 жыл бұрын
Thanks Jonathan Really appreciate your kinds. Sorry about the late reply my friend!
@jonathanvalencia88484 жыл бұрын
@@EdTheAnxietyCoach its cool don't worry about it
@techticalgaming22964 жыл бұрын
Before I know this video exists I thought I am an *ALIEN* 😅
@dinojjong74655 жыл бұрын
It would be helpful if you create a spotfity account and post short recordings or podcasts there. Thank you for this video.
@EdTheAnxietyCoach4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the comment, glad it was helpful. Great suggestion, but I've kind of got my hands full with the KZbin channel 🙂
@iisimplyamy80313 жыл бұрын
I swear. If I can make eye contact then my social anxiety will disappear like ✨m a g i c ✨
@goodvibes10882 жыл бұрын
Same
@Grunkaa12 ай бұрын
This was really helpful thank you. Particular the part about softening the gaze
@EdTheAnxietyCoach2 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@REAL-rd4wy4 жыл бұрын
My problem is my brain overthink and when i do eye conyact i feel akward and people feel i don't like them this is a problem .. what can i do ??
@andyt37894 жыл бұрын
Real Alkkis CBT training.
@REAL-rd4wy4 жыл бұрын
@@andyt3789 what is CBT training?
@andyt37894 жыл бұрын
@@REAL-rd4wy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It helps you think more rationally about anxiety, etc producing events to help you manage your response better.
@yumyumdonuts10103 жыл бұрын
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm. I urge every to LEARN AND PRACTICE BLURRING YOU VISION. It works like shield 🛡 for your eyes 👀
@REAL-rd4wy3 жыл бұрын
@@yumyumdonuts1010 im going to try this thanks
@ashley-pc2cd Жыл бұрын
4:45 DON’T look down‼️
@ashley-pc2cd Жыл бұрын
5:53
@ashley-pc2cd Жыл бұрын
11:41 look UP instead‼️👀
@ashley-pc2cd Жыл бұрын
4:58 look ahead‼️
@ashley-pc2cd Жыл бұрын
8:39 have a SOFT gaze!
@ashley-pc2cd Жыл бұрын
9:18 have a neutral head position‼️‼️
@43one3 жыл бұрын
He doesn't look like a person with any anxiety at all!!
@roxguy1153 жыл бұрын
These problem have resulted in me losing friends,great opportunities to be in a beautiful relationship, loosing touch with family and specially relatives....people just don't feel talking to me for longer than 2 minutes because I can't make eye contact with them for long🥺😓😔😞
@joeygiesbrecht81632 жыл бұрын
Me too man, it sucks
@roxguy1152 жыл бұрын
@@joeygiesbrecht8163 yeah man it's so weird...the main thing is I live one girl and she's also interested in me but I just turn her off because I can't make eye contact....did you found any solution?
@joeygiesbrecht81632 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry to hear that bro, I know the feeling. The exact same thing happens to me it feels like no one really likes me because I’m so awkward when they talk to me, and my eye contact is all over the place. And recently it’s gotten so bad whenever even my brother tries to talk to me I get this huge wave of anxiety, and I worry about if I’m making enough eye contact or if I’m making too little, and it’s just super overwhelming. Does this ever happen to you?
@jordy22993 жыл бұрын
This man is looking into my damn soul, it’s so weird stop constantly looking into the camera
@dylannewell19145 жыл бұрын
Couple.beers fixes this 😂
@EdTheAnxietyCoach4 жыл бұрын
Yep, "liquid social confidence". Unfortunately it never goes down too well at work 😬😂
@aiysharastall7764 жыл бұрын
Yes then you receive hangxiety the worst yet!
@Pepecoin1232 жыл бұрын
Hahahha
@natyokubay148011 ай бұрын
This video is one of the few that's actually useful for me, so thank you.
@EdTheAnxietyCoach11 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@cloutgodz27034 жыл бұрын
thanks a lot dude I struggle w eye contact just subscribed. ur a lifesaver man. love from canada