Why Do Indians Still Take Dowry?

[@iseedarksideofeverything5233]

Some families be like: we don't accept money, we only accept "gifts". And those " gifts " usually consists of household things like fridge, ac etc. which is also considered dowry

[@shiwangi787]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW seriously dude, you are the manifestation of toxic masculinity. Trashing every comment made in good spirit. Again it's men like you who instead of acknowledging the odious injustices meted out to women since ages, are putting forth the most tone deaf, banal and ludicrous argument. I hope you find a thinking woman.

[@chereipeach345]

there was this distant relative of mine who had a literal breakdown infront of my dadaji, who was matchmaker for his son, bcoz the bride's family was not giving them car in dowry. like tf man how pathetic ppl can be.

[@shrutisharma4586]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW a thinking woman is a woman with a brain. What do you want? A blow up doll or a robot? If you took your time to actually watch the video you’d get the answers to your question. A woman brings far more to a marriage and her family are financially penalised for it. It would be a different matter if men actually universally knew how to cook, clean, run a household, how to be good caregivers. Essentially you’re looking for a lifelong free maid who you also strip any financial independence from. What is worrying is that dowry is demanded in cases where the woman intends or is given the freedom to work post marriage. So the woman is essentially paying a man to benefit his household financially as well as to maintain his house for free. How can there be any logical argument for dowry and why on earth would a man want to be commoditised? I’m surprised men don’t feel degraded when they’re stamped with a “market value”. Also, after taking dowry from his father-in-law you’d expect grooms to be eternally grateful to their in laws and a good companion to their wives, except this isn’t the case ever. Instead unfortunately men expect this - and for what exactly?

[@Mohit-zn2rn]

@@shiwangi787 if men are your real concern then starting marrying guys below your standard then you won't have to offer dowry

[@anitachandra2030]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW well because you guys don't allow women to flourish careerwise. Why would women won't expect a well earning groom, when you guys expect women to do the household and childcare work? Your argument is so stupid.

[@hridyanadappattel4400]

I remember when I was in class 7 and we casually went on a trip to the jewellery store (who does that?) and my parents got a gold biscuit. This was a common thing they did, they always got these gold biscuits when the price for gold was low. So this time I asked them why they were obsessed with gold biscuits. They told me that they did this for when they would need to marry off both me and my sister. I was confused because they taught in school that dowry is banned to which they replied that that doesn't stop any family from taking unless it's a love marriage so lmao. It's been 10 years since then and I have realised that I am not attracted to men and haven't come out to my family yet so that's gonna be fun :) Edit: My family is from Kerala and we're Christians

[@Severus.S]

Ahahahahahahahah

[@RMatt2016]

Keralites purchase the highest amount of gold in country as most want to give dowry in such a form

[@dhivyadharshini2141]

All the very best of coming out to ur family in advance !!!!!!

[@mind9726]

the edit and the attraction part i relate to lol :) atb to you in life, may you go on well and prosper!

[@pizza9632]

Wow things are gonna get complicated huh? U can do this💪💪💪💪

[@shiwangi787]

You guys don't have any idea how incredible you are. Also you are doing an essential service to the regressive Indian society by calling out its perverse practices and unscrupulous morality. Love you ❤. Keep doing what you do. I hope lots of men watch your videos and imbibe something out of it.

[@shiwangi787]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW what's stopping the so called man from finding a woman with the same qualities? Why a servant, submissive, docile, obsequious and slave is wanted as a bahu??

[@shiwangi787]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW what does that even mean🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@swatisaini6447]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW Bhai ek kaam Kar Tu single hi rah, phir koi Ladki se tera Pala Nahi padega👍

[@shiwangi787]

@@swatisaini6447 yee deserve bhi ni karta hai.

[@swatisaini6447]

@@shiwangi787 more like no girl deserves a partner like him

[@mahalak4383]

I don't know about other places but in Jharkhand and Bihar, if the guy is a doctor or if he is having govt job, they tend to take hefty dowry in case of arrange marriages. I remember talking to one of my male colleagues, asking him not to take dowry, as it's not fair for the girl's family and shouldn't have any place in a progressive society. He was like it part of our culture, even his parents have aspirations. I was thinking Wtf.

[@swatisaini6447]

Dowery amount is based on groom's CV

[@kamartaj3010]

@@swatisaini6447 in bihar and jharkhand. Pvt job employees are considered as majdoor. Recently i came to know about this from my classmate who is from Jharkhand. Only pvt employees who earn more than govt job from IIT NITs are considered as good job. He said how his neighbour who is a peon in some state govt department got scorpio as a dowry gift recently.

[@swatisaini6447]

@@kamartaj3010 coz they have job security which private sector doesn't guarantee

[@kamartaj3010]

@@swatisaini6447 my friend earns 3 times more than his neighbour peon. And every one in his village mock him that you want get enough dowry if you dont go for govt job. And he is an iitian and doesn't care about dowry and govt job. He can get settled in any high paying position within 5 years. Toh iss job security and dowry me ladki wale jimmedar h na ki ladke wale. Kyuki wahi log h jo govt job groom dhundte h fir highest dowry bidder uss ladke ko kharid leta h.

[@swatisaini6447]

@@kamartaj3010 who are these Ladki wale and ladke wale? These r Boomers and Gen X jinke zamane me govt job was the only way out of poverty, (school me 1991 liberalisation scheme padhi thi na Yaad karo) Tab private sector ki g*** lagi padi thi. Wo Zamana beet chuka hai par thinking aaj bhi change Nahi hui

[@shrishtimalhotra2406]

As someone rightly said, grooms' families are the real gold diggers.

[@garimayadav483]

No ...this girls family which is stupid

[@johnconstantine8574]

No body said that

[@saltyuser_]

Yup, always hungry for so called "हुंडा" 🤡

[@nomadicmritunjaya774]

What about preference given by girl's family to boys in govt jobs , is it also gold digging ?

[@sarthakparashar3695]

@@nomadicmritunjaya774 it's because most people still don't allow their wives to flourish career-wise. Get a life. Tumhari patriarchy hi kehti hai ki men should be the provider. Don't blame feminism for it.

[@Dobbyisfree000]

My brother is getting married and he and my mom refuse to take dowry. MY GOD ! That was the toughest thing we ever had to do. Our side of the family almost ate us alive. The brides side was begging us to take atleast the jewels. And they MUST take all the wedding cost. And not share it with us. . Holy mother of love, that was a nightmare. We miraculously made the brides side agree toa tleast split the cost in half. And NO DOWRY.

[@jagriti5163]

You are a wonderful family...mostly thanks to your Goddess mother❤️

[@konarkkd3264]

You have the best family.

[@AreeeAsh]

I also have a brother and i will try my best to not let my family take dowry when he's getting married or give it when I'm getting married. If the guy's family doesn't agree then I'm rejecting immediately

[@cruel5746]

@@AreeeAsh 👍

[@niteku6448]

Don't beleive you

[@justsaying7783]

The worst part is when people belong to girl family they all hate dowry and when they are from guy family then it's oky. This continues hypocrisy is the main reasons of dowry ISTG

[@justsaying7783]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW it's literally quite the opposite when man demands for a money or dowry its riti rivaj n all but when women want rich husband she is gold digger. I mean ask your relatives or friends you'll know 😏

[@CancerDepartmentFeminismWing]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW you are right. I agree with you 👌

[@user-yq3vt7zr5m]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW oh atleast women who marry poor or middle class men don't torture and kill them but look at the cases which happened bcz of dowry

[@aayushjharussiansocialistb8786]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW Please don't marry any woman. 🙏🙏

[@aayushjharussiansocialistb8786]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW Just go on your way and don't ever come back.

[@aleenascaria6851]

you know all these dowry problems would be solved if parents stop involving themselves in their adult childern's love life so much, man or woman... they need to find a suitable partner themseleves, acc. to their own persepectives... then introduce them to each others families and decide their own futures. Of course, for this to happen, woman and man both should first be financially, socially and mentally independent in this society... and not stay dependent on their parents. Statistically, womanfolk are the dependent section of our society...for this to change we need more and more woman to get out of their homes, start working and building independent careers, and manage their own finances, and sponsor their own wedding together, bride and groom. If parents want to help, they are welcome, but not forced. never forced.

[@swatisaini6447]

💯

[@meghasharma182]

Perfect scenario 😊

[@TheBodyIsRound-136]

In India marriage is like political alliance between two families.

[@shrutisharma4586]

If the transactional nature of marriage is to be eradicated, the first step is allowing men and women to choose their partners themselves without any family interference. Arranged marriages are inherently flawed as it’s the pairing of 2 strangers where their physical and material offerings are commoditised - literally like scanning through a brochure and picking out a product. How degrading is that to a human being. People always harp on about the low divorce rates in India, but what people should look into is what proportion of marriages are happy. Arranged marriage is a system designed to keep 2 people tied to each other with or without their will. A woman isn’t given the opportunity or permission to be financially independent so often women won’t initiate divorce for fear of their future (as in many cases their own families won’t support them). Men are raised as undomesticated so they need a female caregiver to “look after” them. Its an interdependent structure whereas the preferred approach should be to enable both parties to be equally independent. It shocks, surprises and upsets me how parents never allow their children to grow up and make their own decisions. I mean why in matrimonial ads are people written about as “girl” or “boy” when they’re over 18? Also, it’s baffling to me how a couple are pressured into deciding whether they want to marry a person they barely know after one or two meetings. A person is never going to reveal their true nature in this amount of time. Thankfully my parents were supportive enough to encourage my educational objectives and I was allowed to find my own partner. No dowry was exchanged and we both equally contribute to our household. We’re happy because we’re equals and love each other. I wish the same for everyone else as well.

[@meghasharma182]

That's very true.

[@shrutisharma4586]

@@ultimatetruth4156 I wish you would actually read some books for once as I’m literally sick of saying this to you on all of your posts. A man may be the sole breadwinner of a family in your stated example, but he isn’t the only person running the household. He is able to go out and earn because his wife is looking after his house, cooking him food, raising his kids etc. Alimony is paid out as division of what the man has earned post marriage because he has been enabled to do so by his wife. As an example Bill Gates was able to run a successful business because his wife was around to do the things he couldn’t such as raise the kids, look after the house. She has every right to demand alimony because she sacrificed her career and life to allow her husband to be what he is. In any case, as I’ve stated before, divorce rates are minuscule in India so where does this point regarding alimony come in anyway? Most men will never have to pay it. As for child support - if the child is in this world because of you then you better provide for the child, as that’s part and parcel of being a parent. You’ve responded to my post, which I’m guessing you didn’t bother to read. In my post I said that my husband and I are equals, we both earn and we both contribute to the household. Shame you dowry defenders will never become the kind of husband that my partner is. People like you hold back progress and let archaic customs stay the norm in India. If Indians are embarrassed about the state of their nation it’s because of people like you.

[@sanaxluv8036]

@@shrutisharma4586 they are so salty for real sis I swear. Like you can't have your cake and eat it too

[@aayushjharussiansocialistb8786]

Arranged marriage need to be stopped.

[@sulaganabiswas]

This is a great comment, Shruti Sharma. Unpaid domestic labour by women goes unnoticed as a women's kartavya while men like our brother "ultimate truth" here are forever crying about having to earn money for the wife. Even if it's a totally horrible patriarchal set up, there is no logic for dowry because a man earns money to lead a life of domestic and sexual comfort and a woman takes her husband's money to provide him with those domestic and sexual comforts. Kartavya on both sides. So then why dowry?

[@tejasvinichaudhari9441]

Well let me tell you something. Dowry is not a real issue hypocrisy is . 1.If you are family of one daughter and a son. you hate it when someone asks for dowry from your family for your daughter’s marriage but same family feels entitled to dowry when they are from groom’s side 2. Chasing well settled guy in order to secure future of daughters. Parents themselves don’t consider their daughters capable enough to secure their future so they chase guy way out of their league and end up paying for it . 3. Not allowing ur kids marrying by their choice - sounds stupid but it is still practiced in India . Let ur kids chose their own partner on their understanding rather than forcing them in alliance parents prefer for maintaining there social status . 4. Expecting guy to have big house , property , six figure salary but then at the same time not considering the age of a guy . It’s hard to achieve these many things by mid twenties

[@tejasvinichaudhari9441]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW well I wouldn’t agree to it 100% , because mostly in India parents are seeking for more wealthy families for their daughter than the daughter herself . It’s interference of parents that has to be reduced drastically and let the daughters have their say in their own marriages

[@Annsu2017]

Spitting of straight facts..true..when parents of the bride want a well educated, high- end earning groom they have no right to complain about drowy...because the importance of the marriage is money instead of love or even care.

[@endisnear306]

True, parents interfere a lot when it comes to marriage.

[@swatisaini6447]

@@endisnear306 a lot indeed.....

[@Mohit-zn2rn]

@@tejasvinichaudhari9441 you're like few of the gem women left who actually make sense. Well dowry issue can be solved easily when women start marrying someone below their financial standard

[@govinda7948]

Once when I was in 7th standard I told to my mom and sister that I will not take a single penny from my in law ( I mean was the dowry) and they said you should focus on your study than this shitty thing. And gave me a 15min lecture that it's not all about the money it's about the respect that your in law gives you and us (the ladke Wale kinda thing) So, yeah someone rightly said "Ki aurat hi aurat ki dushman hai" I may sound like sexist but this is what I've been watching and experience for years.

[@luckysriwastwa2347]

Yeah, that is the only time the women's suppressed for long times get some respect and that too by begging in name of their son

[@debanjanaroy7911]

I have witnessed a case in my neighborhood that haunts me when i think of this society.....there is an aunt in my neighborhood who was married to a middle class family and her father was forced to give dowry but couldnot give the whole amount so that aunt of mine had to face domestic violence and constant torture at her in laws place .......they would make her do all the work all by herself and also did not give her food to eat added with beating and yelling......after a year she gave birth to a girl child and the family was discontented and wanted to kill the child ......so one day what they did was put kerosene on my aunt along with her daughter and attempted to burn both of them alive....but fortunately the aunt have being realised that they were in danger had called her dad who thankfully came with the police just in time also her brother in law did a lot to prevent that disaster (he was the only one at her in laws place who was good and cared for her).....

[@Jazzzk2]

@@ultimatetruth4156 And you yourself is a b0t , what about THAT

[@shreeanshi9695]

@@ultimatetruth4156 You are lying

[@debanjanaroy7911]

@@ultimatetruth4156 You can say what ever you want...whatever I said is true and it doesnt need you to believe it .....if you want to be deliberately ignorant towards such social matters how can my one comment change your mind bro....i just shared my experience on this matter

[@debanjanaroy7911]

@@ultimatetruth4156 dude i agree even men are made to carry huge enxpenses of the family all but himself and has to work very hard to fulfill the desires of his parents,wife and kids but eventually losing his own passions and goals in the process .....but try and and understand its all connected it the wife has financial independence and earns won't the income of the family as a whole increase and their standard of living improve? education of women and their participation in earning a living will reduce burden on men as well ....and as of domestic violence against men i would say there are always two sides of a coin ,if there is good there is bad just like all men are not rapists all women are also not angels so it falls upon us to stop arguing who is more helpless and who is privileged lets just do are parts and try and solve the problematic ways of society ....

[@apple3354]

@@aditigupta9930 and if dowry deaths happen...why are women marrying.....just for well settled husband?. That is really sick

[@superboyblaster]

Such a good explanation, every Indian needs to hear this

[@surabhishiwangi9883]

@@ultimatetruth4156that is the thing you clearly explained brother...!!relationships make family and family makes a home and these are run by good values and not some kind payment bills jo aapke ghar... ohh sorry... HOTEL me lagta hai. And this is the difference between a home and a HOTEL WHERE YOU LIVE...!!! Wese ek baat aapne bhut sahi kaha sir... ki jaha dowry liya jata hai... vo ghar nhi hotel hota hai...!!

[@sanaxluv8036]

@@ultimatetruth4156 yeah then men should also do the household chores and bear children, how does that sound? Huh? Marriage is superficial in both ways, you don't have a sarkari naukri, you won't get married and if women don't push out 10 babies and make samosas they won't get married. It isn't that hard to understand my bestie

[@minswagg5929]

@@surabhishiwangi9883 exactly !!

[@minswagg5929]

@@sanaxluv8036 dude, he went silent , lmao ;)

[@quizudita]

@@minswagg5929 this *@ULTIMATE C**#utiya* and *@Akash Gupta MGTOW* are Genuine Examples of *@SSHöLES...* Kindly IGNORE them, don't waste your Time or Energy 1) Whatever Females Do/Say/Not Do are WRONG.. Basically Anti-Women 2) Straight away switching to Make victims i.e. diverting the Topic of Discussion 3) coming up with Vague Replies 4) Only Female Victim Blaming/Shaming.. 5) When Proved Wrong.. Taking Escape route,. ... Never Accepting that They too Can be Wrong.. Because #EGO _From the Bottom of my HEART, I _*_DON'T_*_ want these 2 Guys to be _*_MARRIED_*_ .They _*_DON'T DESERVE TO._*_ Only an unfortunate one will get Trapped with them. GOD BLESS EVERYONE._ 🙏🏻

[@lifeistolive1617]

I mean yeah... Marriage is a market in India I still quote my computer science teacher who recently told my class boys "Independent Girls make bad wives, they won't depend on husband for financial requirements and therefore u will lose control in them. So choose wisely" I was sitting there thinking, what the hell was my teacher's point. I mean did she mean that girls should not be "over educated"🙂 or did she mean men should always "control his wife"🙂 or did she mean "something else"🙂.I was confused.. I mean she was showing bad example right? 🙂

[@lovescenario_4224]

I think she/he was being sarcastic? IDK to know that one should be in that class 😅

[@HairTiesForGlorfindel]

If she wasn't being sarcastic, I hope you reported her.

[@anujoshi209]

Wow is this the quality and calibre of teacher in India,we are doomed. I do hope u reported her .I know it is difficult to go against someone in position of authority but this is just wrong 😕

[@user-go9kw6wf4m]

Wtf

[@TarunTiwari108]

Losing control means where she ( *wife of individual* ) wanted to go at anytime, anyhow they can go; also being *careless* towards their responsibility for their in-laws & husband as well as children. Because it had been noticed that:- *WHEN A MAN START EARNING HE THINK ABOUT HIM & HIS FAMILY*,, ON THE OTHER HAND *WHEN A GIRL START EARNING SHE THINKS THAT SHE DOESN'T NEED A MAN* & that sad ground level reality.

[@VaswatiDeb]

My relationship recently ended because they demanded “gifts” aka dowry. I am a Bengali and simply can’t be the part of the evil system again. The guy was from North Indian state. I had no idea that these people can make so many excuses to take dowry...oh sorry I mean “gifts”…”gifts”. I feel disgusted and he wasted my one year. He made fun of my height, wight, looks and job. He acts like he cares, but actually insults me, told I am "not marriageable" and no guy will accept. He thought eventually my family will give money and car and gold “gifts”. But I realized this tactics gradually and kicked him out of my life yesterday. Now I m having a hard time to sleep bcz I loved that guy. But I simply can’t ruin my life by being a part of this low class mentality. I did the right thing and have no regrets. Oh and I am a financially independent highly educated Bengali women and still they had the audacity to ask for dowry to my ma and tell bad stuff against me when rejected.

[@akhila007]

Good decision!

[@AnirimaGhosh]

You have done the correct thing.. if u ever read the comment again… even though it hurts now.. think about having to spend ur entire life with that guy. U r lucky

[@hakunamatata3935]

Excellent decision. You saved yourself from a jerk.

[@bhaveshtontiya7152]

Bengali kisko pasand aa gyi???😃😃

[@megsie1424]

You took the best decision of your life by not marrying that PoS. As a North-Easterner, the whole dowry stuff that's considered soooo normal in many other regions is mind-baffling. As if the guy is doing a favor by marrying the woman 😂 People who give in to this extortion are equally to be blamed, be it from guys' side or girls'.

[@genzglam8974]

I literally get soo much respect from my heart ,when I hear groom family didn't want dowry... My cousins inlaws ...were in of those...were open minded n literally didn't ask or accepted any gift (money,fridge ,ac or anything )

[@jalapenos3793]

@@ultimatetruth4156 surely the girl must be of rural area or is uneducated. Working and educated women will never do such things for sure.😂

[@dmeditz8100]

my uncle didn't took any dowry he is PhD doctor and he married a girl who was IIT Madras passed out but was unemployed as well as fat around a 90kg after 1yrs she never had stable job but she got herself photography passion which is very unstable income but he was okay with that after few months she wanted to have baby my uncle accepted her choice she became mother my uncle asked her stay at home to nourish baby properly till he becomes proper 6yrs but now she want to start her unstable photography Carrer so she was taking kid at studio everyday and was not giving proper attention to baby health when my uncle got irritated said her leave job for baby she was like y don't u leave your doctor job and take care of baby if he does that then it can risked baby future so he wanted divorce but now she is threaten him by making fake case on him.

[@sanafizasana4351]

@@dmeditz8100 so women need a study income to make decisions .and it's not only her duty to take care of a child.

[@marryangel9212]

@@dmeditz8100 isliye kam padhi likhi ladaki se shaadi karana chahiye

[@Berrygirl6784]

​@@jalapenos3793u know all indian girls?😂

[@srija1010]

We support everything abt this channel. Love it . It not only provide verbal information also provide data of ancient times. I am very glad to find a Channel like this.

[@abiri7309]

My cousin was my aunt and uncle's only daughter.. They have land, rental property and own home. So naturally all these assets will naturally go to my cousin.. The groom's family demanded a car(a luxury one), money and more jewels on bride. They didn't demand anything at first but, when marriage was nearing they dropped the bomb.. My uncle had to sell a land and had to buy their demands.. Yet, they were saying that they could have done better.. I lost faith in humanity

[@abiri7309]

@@aditigupta9930 I really wished that she would not follow through her parents wishes.. She was quite young too in her early 20's.

[@subhashreeroy1558]

@@ultimatetruth4156 can you just stop spamming everywhere? Like seriously.. That's childish...

[@reasonsx4352]

@@subhashreeroy1558 this man wants to show how women control man and all of tht, he is really blind, surely a bot

[@conscious_seconds5383]

Swaddle is doing a great job to educate people and make them understand the real reason of why it started and the reason why it's not valid anymore.thank you so much for your efforts

[@sandhyasingh2836]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW dowry is the reason people murder girl child in the womb as dowry makes her a burden nd so,better not to have her on earth . totally valid right ?dumbfuq

[@salmakazmi4995]

So as a woman upon marriage…you are expected to leave your family and career, give birth, provide free labor, and caregiving AND still have to pay to do this because you are considered a financial burden? Absolutely ridiculous. We seriously need to reconsider family dynamics in Indian society.

[@sportslivenews8248]

Valuing Bride based on her DOWRY RANGE is unethical. Similarly, Valuing Groom based on his SALARY RANGE is too unethical. Because men is not a product. When it's come to arranged marriage, lots of men married women without expecting DOWRY. Similar how many women married men without expecting his SALARY ?????? Women should grow up as GENEROUS WOMEN.

[@ananyanegi9423]

​@@sportslivenews8248men are supposed to be a provider atleast as women are childbearing and care givers. Even if both parties earning the same , indian women doing 2 jobs. In a salary of one. Contributing more to the relationship than man. That's why I will never marry a man earning lower than me.

[@sportslivenews8248]

@@ananyanegi9423 It is not right to say that husbands does not involved in doing household chores. Husband also involved in house hold chore. Example : Car driving. How many wives know car driving??????? Working wife doing Job and household chore (6 hours job + 2 hours house hold chores = TOTAL 8 HOURS) But Working husband doing only Job but 8 hours job. In some case 10 hours job. When comes to time wise, both works 8 hours per day. So don't exaggerate women as hardworker. If you feel uncomfortable to manage both house-hold chore and Career means why not you marry a house-husband instead of looking for Rich groom ?????? Don't worry Government of India gives special support to working women by considering her pregnancy. REMEMBER ESI maternity benefit. In Tamil Nadu, TN government offering 36k ₹ cash to pregnant women. TN government offering free bus pass for working women TN government offering 1000₹ cash per month for working women. TN government offering 12 month maternity leave + 12 month salary for Government job women during her pregnancy time. Recently TN Government increased it's government job vacancy for working women by decreasing government job vacancy for working men.... Then why you still looking for rich groom even though the government offers high cash benefits for only for working women??????? I don't know why rich Indian women does not prefers to marry lower middle class men even though she is born in well settled rich family & she is earning 1 lakh per month ????? I agree you point, INDIAN MEN IS NOT DOING major part of house hold chore😞. I will definitely teach my male kids to do house hold chore.👍🏾😊 Thank You 😊

[@elitecoder955]

​@@ananyanegi9423 and men are expected to be providers, protectors. Also no house maid costs that much, and all these "jobs" you talk about is women mostly doing it for themselves as well

[@Shivakumar-dk6ph]

​@@ananyanegi9423then u have to give dowry

[@PrantikaJagannath]

I am from eastern parts of India, and we do not have dowry system here. This Feb only my elder brother got married to his gf and it was us who gifted her the jewelries, make up box and other stuffs.

[@sniper74839]

@@Aditi-mb3qm She didn't say she is north-eastern 🤔

[@genzglam8974]

I don't know u....but I love u nd ur family☺

[@sanju7226]

thats v sweet of yall 🥰 may they have a happy marriage

[@mayankshukla3912]

@@Aditi-mb3qm why dont you call her system as reverse dowry. Why its progressive. I doubt whether you women really want equality

[@mayankshukla3912]

@@genzglam8974 yes as they have reverse dowry . You need to be proud of them . 🙃🙃🙃🙃

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Even in Regency-Era England, the dowry (among upper-class women) was absorbed by the man but she still had ‘pin money’ that took care of immediate expenses so that she didn’t have to ask for money. I feel that in our society, especially among some CIS-Het Savarna Men, feel a sadistic pleasure in seeing their wife be deprived and dependent. A sad reality indeed.

[@RMatt2016]

Oh. It's more complicated than that. Fathers of Upper class women (think dukes, barons, Marquesses) and the upper middle class women (think merchants, the "respected" professions of clergy, government, law and military) on the day of their marriage form this kind of trust fund to ensure that the money they give to their daughters are strictly regulated and separate from the financial identity of the husband. These trusts regulated what could be used by the husband and what could be used by the daughter. Further, any reminder would automatically revert, in full, to the daughter on widowhood (or to her heirs if she dies) This was crucial as any asset held by the woman became the husband's property. Exception was Land (real) property which, while under the husband's control in terms of management or rent, it could not be sold anyway without mutual consent nor can he mention it in his will There was also "feminine" items like ornaments/jewelry/dresses which could be sold by the husband unilaterally but not willed off. All other items can given away in a will or sold or leased unilaterally. Middle class women (local shopkeeper, tradesmen's daughters, dressmarkers) had it rough because all their items were automatically under their husband's control on marriage. Some fathers tried to give property to their daughters for some protection but most really didn't have that much money to give land. Trusts were way too expensive.

[@atrangi_musings]

As a working independent woman and what I know from other women like me ...1. we want equal marraige 2. We don't want guys parents money only guy should be able to earn as much as we do ( fair ask equal ) 3. Not willing to live with over interfering in -laws ( who are toxic and don't know boundaries. Genuine ppl can live with ) 4. Share every responsibility without gender bias. 5. Guy can finacial help his family so does girl. Girl will take care of her parents whenever she see fits. Guy has to give same respect / effort towards his in laws as he is expecting from his wife to his parents. There now you go. I know around 10-15 girls middle class earning girls who wants these things. Respect and equality not audi or 2-3 cr flat. But haven't seen any guy agree to this..even if they agree it's extremely hard for them to have a partner who has equal say in all matters. Cause bachapan se yahi sikhaya hai mera raja beta to sabse khas hai.

[@alisonweber7564]

@@ultimatetruth4156 Who are what men want . they are desperate for any girl only some men have choice in women 😂😂 beggars can't be choosers 😂😂

[@atrangi_musings]

@@ultimatetruth4156 if only you read analysis of that data 1020 women against 1000 men all over not in particular age group read the details also you are a misgynist and well women like me certainly don't care what all men wants feminine shit and all I am what i am and if someone choose that it's okay else we are not really dying to get a man or getting married there is more than life to marriage and men for girls I am sure you know cause you are 39 yrs old unmarried person

[@atrangi_musings]

@@ultimatetruth4156 who the hell you think you are to decide what women can and not f**** patriarchy and family system if that comes at cost of women being slave of men

[@atrangi_musings]

@@ultimatetruth4156 if this is what men thinks than more and more women will choose stay single / divorce. Than bana lena apne family and dekh lena who gives a child if men is not gonna stop being misogynist then more women will become Feminist every action has equal and opposite reaction.

[@atrangi_musings]

@@ultimatetruth4156 you said society is patriarchal that can change there are matriarchal societies things can and will change when more and more women will take their stand. And sexism and patriarchy are perfect destruction of family system we feel oppressed in it we are not happy with system and women being 50% of population it must count so system needs to change

[@hereslovely3367]

Dowry Is Something Very Insane. Recently My Friend Got Married, Her Family Gave 15 Lakhs (Including 11 Lakh Car & A Bullet Bike) + All Furnitures + Household Items. They Only Themselves Paid The Engagement & Wedding Bills. The Overall Expenses Were Around 36 Lakhs!! Why These Greedies Don't Understand That Bride's Family Are Also Humans, They Don't Have Any Money Machine In Thier Home!!

[@somalichakraborty484]

Instead they could give that amount to their daughter to start a business.

[@hereslovely3367]

@@somalichakraborty484 Yaa...she is a graduate student & soon going to be a government teacher.

[@PMcse]

The only way to get rid of gender related issues- "financial" and "emotional" independence.

[@dayyanahmad117]

Ryt

[@helenmorishmonikatudu3974]

👍 True

[@animeshmandal7147]

Just came to read comments. The way people are fighting over who is right or wrong is truly awesome 🙏

[@lakshay8496]

I am a guy born and brought up in the US and I was discussing this with my female friend a few days ago. I am totally against it but she is supportive of ‘gifts’ and I fibd this so stupid. The girl does not need to be sent with a dowry or stri dhan. Woh khud bhi padhi likhi hai woh shaadi ya divorce ke baad kaam kar sakti hai aur aatm nirbhar reh sakti hai. There’s no chance that I’d accept ‘gifts’ in my wedding. Also Wtf is ‘Len den’ lene wala kuch de hi nahi raha aur dene wale kuch le bhi nahi rahe.

[@chiravuris]

Both my husband and I are doctors. I just graduated from medical school and my husband was working as an attending physician in the US. We were asked all of 10,000 rupees as a dowry as a custom. Which we forgot totally. No one actually even remembered to ask or take the dowry. My inlaws are physicians too. Education makes a huge difference in our mindset. That's the reason we all need to be educated. Even if you don't plan to work in the future

[@themoonkeeper271]

Why even ask for 10000 rupees?

[@chiravuris]

@@themoonkeeper271 Bcz it's a "custom/tradition" as dictated by his older brother. Doesn't make any sense to me!

[@konarkkd3264]

@@chiravuris but I've seen a lot educated people who are Jaahil in real life. I mean they accept these Social practices.

[@chiravuris]

@@konarkkd3264 One can only hope and try I guess

[@mmtaxrma]

@@chiravuris mam i can give answer of your question that why our indian culture was having dowry custom if you feel like dowry is a curse then i will tell you an incident that happened to me i am from pauri uttrakhand and we don't take dowry in our culture but its really hard for us to find girls for marriage and the reason is that all the girls want a husband with government job . I was really surprised when my friend from bihar getting married who is 3 yrs younger than me so i asked him the reason then he told me that dowry helps the society to be balanced together so that families can give their daughter in the financially mAtching family. Every girl want rich husbands so what will happen to middle class of the society? My girlfriend was married to an army officer just because she want someone who earns more i can understand that everyone want secure future why can't boys secure our future by asking for dowry .

[@khush2699]

Seriously I hate it😡🤞 when a girl is earning then why should her parents give dowry, I swear this is so disgusting.

[@khush2699]

@@ultimatetruth4156 Ohh hello read my comment once again she's can afford her own house 😎if she's independent 🤞. And yes who'll pay her for her services which she provides free of cost😏.

[@kashxoxo_]

@@khush2699 ᴡᴇʟʟ sᴀɪᴅ.. 🌝

[@khush2699]

@@kashxoxo_ Yes dear, what they think about women, I'm earning and i can buy whatever hell exist in this world. Men and women both are equal as per my opinion if a women can handle household perfectly then why she can't manage other things

[@kashxoxo_]

@@khush2699 💃🥂 ʏᴏᴏᴏ ɢɪʀʟʟʟʟ!!! 🔥

[@myyeschannel]

Even if a girl is not earning that doesn't mean that parents are selling their girl to groom . They are tying an authentic relationship with them and in return she will be a house wife and take care of them . And according to me a woman should be financially independent

[@jyotikaswan9898]

Ppl still defending dowry? Which year is it exactly???

[@Mohit-zn2rn]

People still giving dowry which year is it

[@SuperAnkita]

@@ultimatetruth4156 so you're saying that one must pay rent to live in the 'not a hotel'?

[@mayankshukla3912]

No matter which year it is , why would i refuse a gift . 😅

[@sportslivenews8248]

Women still valuing groom based on his salary range.... Which year is this?????

[@sportslivenews8248]

Will you marry a men without expecting his SALARY???? Just change yourself first, instead of blaming men...

[@ritesh.khandekar]

As a guy, I can say that don't marry a guy who takes "dowry" , if he truly "loves" you he'll go against the world for you, let alone his family.

[@WR-NC-ASPL]

But, Are women ready to marry poor, low salary handsome young men of good character who loves her and does not want any dowry.. No.. And all women will not be able to love a rich well employed man.. So, what happens is that some women start offering dowry to attract marriage proposals from only the rich well employed men. Such women offering dowry will marry all the rich well employed men. So, now the women who are not offering dowry will be able to get only the left over men who are the poor, low salary handsome young men. But, even unemployed women don't want to marry a poor low salary handsome young man... Even unemployed women want to marry only the rich government employed men.. So, unless all women decide to stop offering dowry to attract the rich well employed men and get ready to marry the poor low salary handsome young men, the dowry system will never stop... Because, there will always be women who are offering dowry to attract the rich well employed men.. V

[@yeelanma9165]

@Google Account 😂😂😂😂

[@arc0613]

Because in India marriages are not based on love or care willingly. It's rare to see dowry exchange in love marriages where they marry each other by choice and love. Parents don't want their daughters to be financially independent and flourish as a person but just want to marry her off to rich and stable guy. Like wtf ? Also the groom's parents tag a fix rate for their son according to their job like they are some kind of commodity. They don't want an educated and earning bride but an educated caretaker instead. My elder sister got married last year. It was a love marriage and both are earning. The topic of dowry or expensive gifts was not even brought up. The whole fallacy goes to hypocrite parents. I hope this generation knows what's good for them.

[@manyavasudeva800]

finally a sensible comment

[@harshitarani6669]

I have heard this many times "humein dahej nhi chahiye, bas aap humaare mehmaano aur baraatiyon ka swaagat acche ae kar dijiyega". Doesn't it create pressure on the bride's family to spend more for a lavish and expensive show off wedding party, with of course some goodiegood return gifts for the barati and mehman of groom's side? Isn't it of some vicarious kind of dowry?

[@aayushjha4216]

There should be restriction set by govt to the amount of money that can be spent on marriage.

[@factshouse3690]

@@aayushjha4216 No need. There's a thing called choice.

[@alankrit11]

Everyone talk about women dowry but not no one talk about male dowry... That men should have " JOB, financial independence , own home etc period.

[@CancerDepartmentFeminismWing]

True

[@shreeyakhandelwal8620]

So many people in comment section are defending dowry and this tell us how far we need to go. This is for people defending dowry see dowry deaths are real , but I have never heard about deaths because of low salary. And the logic you are giving are at some extent right but according to this logic that women marry only rich man then I don't know how poor people are having a wife. I know most of families want a stable man then a poor one and this need to be changed but defending dowry because of this is so wrong. Dowry is a crime. Dowry deaths and domestic violence because of dowry are real. They only situation to escape this is marry a partner you love or marry someone who is financially independent.

[@AshishKumar-ei8ly]

Because poor family can't give huge dowry so they marry their daughter to the poor one.

[@shreeyakhandelwal8620]

@@AshishKumar-ei8ly but have seen poor people taking huge amount of dowry and if not paid torture the girl. They mostly demand dowry after marriage.

[@AshishKumar-ei8ly]

@@shreeyakhandelwal8620 those are mentally ill people they just use the girls family for their greed. But i have also seen womens who hesitate to give dowry for their daughter but at their son's wedding they demand huge amount of dowry. In my own family my aunt just give 2L on her daughter's wedding but when it comes to her son's wedding she demanded 20L... Hypocrisy!!

[@shreeyakhandelwal8620]

@@ultimatetruth4156 Ya suicide rates are more of married man because they have much tension as they are bound to provide with money. Not arguing on that. But men murder because of dowry, alimony are much lesser than female deaths because of dowry. And ya I didn't talk about men suicide here because it was a video of dowry and I was just arguing with people who were defending dowry.

[@shreeyakhandelwal8620]

@@AshishKumar-ei8ly ya there are a lot of hypocrites. I have even seen this kind of uncle aunties in my family.

[@kaustubhgowardhan3813]

Rethinking the institution of marriage as a relationship between equals is a nice dream, but won't happen anytime soon because the parties are not equal. Women are in an inherently weaker position when it comes to marriage. Between having fewer alternative options for income, the social pressure to be settled and the biological ticking clock, they lack the bargaining power to approach the institution as an equal. And when one side is at a disadvantage, the other side is certainly going to take advantage of it. So much so that even after marriage, a woman is not given any financial independence, even if she continues to work. Financial independence is the key here and apart from the obvious solution of more women in education and work-force, maybe it's time to take dowry back to it's original roots as shown in the video. Whatever "gifts" the bride's parents give at the wedding should be to the bride. Whether it's property or money, it should be in the girl's name and neither the groom nor his family should be allowed to touch it without her permission.

[@swatisaini6447]

💯

[@shrutisharma4586]

Ironically this shouldn’t be the case for the simple reason that there are fewer women than men in India. Not all men will get a spouse because of this, so you’d expect women to have more bargaining power. If you want to see successful female stories just look outside of India at countries where women are treated more equally. Quite frankly the minute Indians stop treating their women as property and dictating her every decision there will be an improvement in the situation and not a second before.

[@kaustubhgowardhan3813]

@@ultimatetruth4156 Thus proving the point that intelligent people don’t want to have kids. Fewer kids, at least

[@kaustubhgowardhan3813]

@@ultimatetruth4156 If dowry is the bill then they shouldn’t make her work for the rest of her life.

[@shrutisharma4586]

@@ultimatetruth4156 and a woman isn’t a free servant. There are more ways to contribute to a household than monetarily.

[@AkankshaSingh-kx7ey]

As someone who has vividly seen dowry in every single marriage i have ever attended...i sincerely feel that the government should just remove the dowry prevention law...if a law is just not implementable..why keep it just for the sake of it ?

[@swatisaini6447]

So that they can get votes from female voters😂

[@kamartaj3010]

You know my sister who used to give long lectures on dowry and called men who take dowry as begger. She agreed giving 5 lac rupees cash + gold worth lacs as dowry just to marry a well settled boy of her choice. And when i told her about why r u giving dowry? She said IT IS NOT A DOWRY. JUST GIFTS. MY IN LAWS NEVER DEMANDED ANYTHING (Yep the groom's family didn't demanded anything) but she agreed to give them money so that she an marry him. And guess what my sister is a well educated (engineering + MBA) financially independent girl. Working for a MNC. It is not the system that is letting society down. It is the hypocrisy of the people.

[@kamartaj3010]

@@aditigupta9930 nope she is very confident. She did love marriage. May be that's why she did like that. May be she has double standards. Khaane k daat or dikhane k or.

[@kamartaj3010]

@@aditigupta9930 she didn't asked. My parents themselves asked groom's family for any demand. Groom's family denied. But my family themselves gave them on our own. But the point is my sister didn't objected to it. And when i confronted then she defended it. May be bcz she didn't want to lose him as it was intercaste love marriage. And didn't wanted to make her in laws sad. Overall she was always confident on her decision no matter how bad it was. Normally majority of girls do that they dont follow what they preach.

[@shrutisharma4586]

@@aditigupta9930 agreed. I married someone of a different religion and there was no dowry or “gifts” exchanged because we love one another and no one can put a price on that. We’re completely against dowry as a couple both giving it and receiving it. We have a son and a daughter and we’re imposing no restrictions on who they marry - the only condition is that no dowry can be exchanged because love isn’t transactional.

[@BeingHumane173]

The key to ending dowry I think is getting rid of the idea that, marriage is the most important thing in a women's life. Grooms who asks for dowry should immediately be rejected. Stop bugging women asking her questions like "when are you getting married?", "When are you having kids?". Make your daughters financially independent so that marriage doesn't end up becoming a means of livelihood for her. And getting married is not a woman's obligation, motherhood is not an obligation. it's a choice. It's ok to be unmarried. It's ok to be single. It's ok to be childfree. Women don't owe this world or anyone any children. Women don't owe men anything. Don't hesitate to reject potential grooms who dare to ask for dowry or special treatment in any form. Split the marriage bill equally between the bride and groom's families. If groom's family disagrees, once again don't hesitate to cancel the wedding. Groom's family is not God. Groom = Bride, Groom's Family = Bride's family. Groom and Groom's family do not deserve any privilege or consideration. If we follow these, I think the dowry system will fall apart within no time.

[@aravindAravind-lf8no]

I have been thinking that women in my locality should go to police when their husbands are harrassing for dowry. So that their husbands could get a lesson they deserve. But a police inspector in our locality was demanding 60 lacks dowry. And ppl were saying he has a big govt job and he could demand that much.

[@aravindAravind-lf8no]

@@ultimatetruth4156 good point, as per indian dowry abolition act in 2005. It was clear that women should be treated equally with men i.e daughters should be treated equally with sons and should be given equal rights in the name of inheritance. Now inheritance is what a girl can get and it is her right as much as her brother's. But dowry is a damand, and not woman's demand. It is the demand of groom and his family. if not given ppl will harras the family of wife and harras wife mentally and even physically. There are many cases of dowry killings even today. The demand of dowry makes women's family face terrible financial problems. And women's life is also not safe. And that's the issue. Generally I haven't seen feminists saying about inheritance of properties and responsibilities. Instead they will talk about dowry and go. I feel that is wrong of them.

[@swathi123vm]

@@aravindAravind-lf8no Don’t waste your time explaining things to the pea brain which can’t comprehend things!

[@jagatdeuri3261]

Northeast India, Dowry free region of India. In contrace to the practice , the brides in this region are showered with gifts from the family of the groom

[@hereslovely3367]

Yaa

[@iiiiiiiiiieeeee]

Actually, tribal communities all over india do not have dowry system. I'm tribal from gujarat.

[@shilpisingh9229]

Hats off to your content team for writing so accurately

[@beingfithumane]

Tum bhagogi ya bhagaogi???... Contact me for dowryless marriage. 😁😁😁☮️🅰️

[@sandhyashetty1285]

And this dowry culture is also a threat to men cause in some rural parts of India young boys are kidnapped by a family to marry their daughters so they don't have to give dowry

[@HardiRiddhi]

I have a question: Why does a father of the daughter have to give gold ornaments to the daughter while marriage? As Modern people are not going to wear that gold ornaments then what is the purpose of giving such expensive ornaments? All this things are so deeply rooted in our culture that we don't even question it.

[@anmolt3840051]

Traditionally, in laws family also give gold to the bahu

[@shivangihere9141]

Previously there was no concept of money or cash. Exchange was done in gold or cows or clothes or land only. It's pretty sensible for that time.

[@CurlyFitt]

@@ultimatetruth4156 yeah most but not all. Actually a lot of women's jewelry, money, or anything which has some monetary value is kept in guarding of the in laws stripping off her from the financial independence she got from her parents. "That is done only for her benefit though" what benefit Idk

[@satviktalks1762]

🤣agar pati ka ne loan le liya to wo kaam ayega isliye

[@beingfithumane]

Absolutely, stop production of ornaments.

[@rajeevsingh8239]

The question should be "Why Indians Still Give Dowry?" The receiving side will never refuse anything, its general human behaviour. But the fact that most families from girl side are comfortable to put grand amounts for groom just to bag their daughter a "good partner" or "family name" for me is the main cause of problems. Its not an issue if a women gets married late or not gets married to a grand surname or family if they are not willing to pay dowries, resistance is needed else no point of blaming the other side who's in receiving end of all these benefits.

[@kinoxxan]

I've seen a lot of potential marriages break because of the groom's family not being satisfied with dowry, even though they liked the girl. In most cases, the bride's family is forced to give a huge sum of dowry. Dowry is definitely not a choice. Putting the blame of dowry on girls and their families is literally victim blaming.

[@kaustubhgowardhan3813]

It IS an issue when and to whom a woman gets married, the girl's family will feel obligated to offer because resistance might lose them a desirable match. The blame here lies on both sides because by both offering and accepting dowry, both sides are perpetuating the devaluing of women.

[@anushkatyagi5708]

soooooooooo true! I belong to a well-to-do family and they believe if we can we should give the dowry (GIFTS). Recently my cousin got married she earns a lot her husband earns, their family didn't demand anything. Still, dowry was given, a freaking car was given as a GIFT! because our financial condition allows. Just why?

[@kenokyu7227]

Who wants to give money if no one is asking .....................

[@anushkatyagi5708]

@@kenokyu7227 It has become so common that it just goes on and on and if you are giving something who would say no my point is both parties should just stop. neither take nor offer it to them

[@wiseversa135]

Fun fact about me- i haven't still attended a single wedding where dowry wasn't taken.. i have attended like over 40 weddings till now..

[@Severus.S]

Fun fact- You've probably only attended so called non-lower class weddings where they don't make a show of dowry but still fill their pockets backstage

[@wiseversa135]

@@Severus.S well i have attended all types of family wedding.. an IAS asked around 1 crore dowry, a very big businessman asked for a 40lakh car, a primary teacher is asking for 15 lakh cash, while a government teacher got 20 lakh (cash+car) all of these are either my relative or very known people.. they aren't no lower class.. they make it quite big thing about dowry and all, even rejected so many girls cuz their parents weren't able to give that much dowry.. and the girl's family is insulted by saying apni beti ke liye itna sa bhi nahi kar skte

[@Severus.S]

@@wiseversa135 my bad, my bad bro. I read it as 'where dowry was taken'. My reply would make more sense then

[@mayankshukla3912]

And you should know that majority of times its just a gift because family of women know how capable their daughters are.

[@napoleon3026]

@@mayankshukla3912 a gift? sounds like something someone who takes dowry would say

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Don’t you just love it when family members use you as a Cash and Carry due to a warped sense of tradition? Fun times 🌝

[@akki4856]

Until and unless this situation of girls moving to their in laws home will stop completely this dowry will never get stopped. So technically, after marriage both bride n groom should move out and build their own nest.

[@basic7052]

No

[@akki4856]

@@basic7052 what no

[@basic7052]

@@akki4856 Why the boy will build a new home when he has already a home?

[@akki4856]

Same why girls need to go to a new house when they have their own

[@akki4856]

@@ultimatetruth4156 same.. Who will take care of girls parents??

[@SaurabhPrasadsunny]

How sweetly & efforrlessly speaks Anahita ❤️ Her facial expressions just hold me for each and every video. Talking about dowry, I don't know when can we be free from this old money 💰 laundering practice of groom's family. I am going through this whole shitty process rightnow as my sister is getting married & despite of my not agreeing with this all, I am being a part of this whole shit. Because of my father & the not so understanding groom's family. I feel shocked to see when the Groom's mother is demanding all the quantitative things with a smiling face & without any hesitation. I feel this should be a responsibility of Groom to take a stand in his own marriage & discard this burdening thought of Dowry. Also, at least women should support & understand women. Not saying every women is bad, but when I see a Groom's mother herself is demanding about money, "kya kharch karenge, kya denge" this give me a very bad impression. Also, daughter should be seriously made educated by parents & make themselves Financially independent so that they don't have to take this bullshit from anybody. In addition to this all, the burden of Society kya kahegi sochegi, this is itself an idea which resides in the heart of a family/father which sometimes forces people to get hurry and get stuck in these kind of wrong families

[@joerudnik9290]

Incredible presentation and so alarming for the brides and their families.

[@artraft3669]

Many people here are saying earning women five dowry to marry crazy rich men and don't marry poor,well behaved, handsome, sweet, good hearted men who don't want dowry. So poor,well behaved,handsome,sweet,good hearted men then give attendance here.

[@mansipandit6310]

I totally appreciate the video really needed recently a girl got married in my neighborhood and her father paid 40 lakh as a dowry although that girl is working or empowered this is ridiculous i request you to come up with solutions it will help ...

[@udayansarma8541]

Place where I am from we have no concept of dowry. I came to know about dowry only through text books and movies.

[@Bharatiya12321]

What's that place ?

[@udayansarma8541]

@@Bharatiya12321 awesome Assam

[@udayansarma8541]

@@Bharatiya12321 you won't find dowry in a typical Assamese society or family. Above it in some northeastern tribes communities you will find matriarchy or matrilineal family structures, where general stereotypical roles gets reversed!! Men does the Household chores and women go for work..

[@Bharatiya12321]

@@udayansarma8541 great 😃🤟

[@kamartaj3010]

@@udayansarma8541 yea bcz northeast is mostly tribal which has less influence of manuwadi culture.

[@SwastikPalA]

I just went to one of my maternal aunt's wedding and I saw a new decorated car I thought it is of groom but my father told me that " ye dahej hai ladke Valo ne 16 lakhs demand Kiya tha isliye ek 8 lakh ke car aur 8 lakh cash diya Gaya hai . I was like " ye abhibhi hota hai"

[@SwastikPalA]

@@ultimatetruth4156 my point is" groom ke family demand aur force kyu karti hai . Itne paise dena ke liya" It's about the choice of bride family that they wants to give something or not.

[@sanaxluv8036]

@@ultimatetruth4156 men and women look for different things in marriage, men marry for their lineage and lust and women marry for financial agency. Marriage is an institution which objectifies both. No need to defend them or preserve these values, they are stupid and rhetoric.

[@aayushjharussiansocialistb8786]

@@sanaxluv8036 In that case, Institution of marriage should be dissolved. Men, women both need to work for government.

[@mamy22ka]

Started from Britishers. Now has become status symbol for both parties.

[@supremebeingofexaggeration712]

Can you please make a video on the impact of Manusmriti in Indian society? I don't think many people realise how humongous it's impact is on the Indian society. Most people don't even know about it.

[@CancerDepartmentFeminismWing]

@It's oblivion exactly

[@kamartaj3010]

People say that we dont read manusmriti. But they do follow it name of culture daily. Honour killing, same caste marriages, no rights for girls in property. Practicing caste system and untouchability is all from manusmriti

[@shrutisharma4586]

Manusmriti is not a religious text but an ancient book of law which is outdated. Some people intent on keeping Indian society in the dark ages use this book as justification for oppressing women or behaving in a certain way. There are no rules in Hinduism so this book is in no way tied to religion.

[@Rahul-sm2ol]

Manusmriti is an ancient legal text (Dharma (work) Shastra) mainly about governing society of later vedic period rather than being torch bearer of hinduism. Also not applicable in modern age as it's not eternal like the Vedas. It has both good and bad aspects. Verse 10.63 preaches that all four varnas must abstain from injuring any creature, abstain from falsehood and abstain from appropriating the property of others. verses 9.72-9.81 allow the man or the woman to get out of a fraudulent marriage or an abusive marriage, and remarry; the text also provides legal means for a woman to remarry when her husband has been missing or has abandoned her. Manusmriti offers an inconsistent and internally conflicting perspective on women's rights. It preaches chastity to widows such as in verses 5.158-5.160, and opposes a woman marrying someone outside her own social class as in verses 3.13-3.14. In verses 3.55-3.56, Manusmriti also declares that "women must be honored and adorned", and "where women are revered, there the gods rejoice; but where they are not, no sacred rite bears any fruit". Punishment for sodomy and homosexual acts in it are same as well. So I won't blame this book soley for the all the social ills because it's full of contradictions and has good aspects too and the punishments in it are less regressive than some of the other outdated books that are still followed by millions.

[@alisonweber7564]

@@ultimatetruth4156 🤣🤣🤣 really manusmriti was ahead of its time 😂😂😂 just like you are ahead of every one. 😂

[@aninditabhattacharyya7222]

Dear parents, next time you’ll have a girl child, instead of thinking of her marriage, concentrate more on her ability of being financially independent.

[@aayushjharussiansocialistb8786]

Money can take away suffering of anyone. The only thing I love is money. More females need to be financially independent.

[@aayushjha4216]

@@ultimatetruth4156 Sorry. I am not American.

[@mayankshukla3912]

Dear girl dont blame parents , its your own job.

[@mayankshukla3912]

@@aditigupta9930 haha . I have cracked neet with all india rank in 700's this year so will start my mbbs soon .

[@vsreelekshmi591]

@@ultimatetruth4156 That's not a causation relation bro. Such a troll u are. Correlation doesn't imply causation.

[@MilanHoon]

in this civilized educated 21st century society, we don't call it Dowry, we call it gifts 🎁

[@napoleon3026]

@@ultimatetruth4156 wife refuses dowry, wife gets burnt/beaten no date or region needed because happens every now and then everywhere

[@arikagoel4140]

@@ultimatetruth4156 fam how much did you take in dowry? Why are you so keen on defending this archaic practice everywhere in comments? People like you disgust me honestly.

[@MilanHoon]

@THE ZOLDICS hehe..i am not a fake account bro, its a moody account

[@MilanHoon]

@THE ZOLDICS मूडी: (of a person) given to unpredictable changes of mood, especially sudden bouts of gloominess or sullenness.

[@swapnikajaimini8634]

Hi The Swaddle, I really like the content and topic that you bring up. It's quite essential that all of us understand the real cause and the statics of thing going around. one suggestion from my side I feel the content should be in Hindi (can take example by Soch by Mohak Mandal) so the generation like us (80s-90s) could show your videos to our elder generation (parents and grand parents). I know its difficult generation like these to understand such critical and long going on topics. Your content is good and can reach out to a bigger audience if made in Hindi. Hope you would consider this suggestion. Thanks.

[@ruturajthete3677]

+1

[@BreadFred3]

The more I think about it, the old dowry system was better than the current 20th Century concept of "dating."

[@Remy4556]

In Assam, its instead the groom's family who has to gift the bride with most of the gold jewels and silken bridal attire. Yes,dowry system exists here in too, but its very casual and not heavily spent upon The concept of spending an entire fortune for a " Big Fat Indian Wedding " doesn't exist in here as most weddings are quite an intimate and simple affair So yeah, girls have much more liberty in here I'm not generalizing, but its true atleast for a large section of the population.

[@yaminivishwakarma9928]

And people say women are gold diggers.😔

[@vishaldey8325]

Which they are

[@therheasen]

I think there should be a law where housewives are paid by their husbands on an hourly/daily basis for household chores.

[@kamartaj3010]

Dont marry. Simple. Be financially independent

[@therheasen]

@@kamartaj3010 Marriage is a private affair.

[@kamartaj3010]

@@therheasen then why govt should interfere?

[@therheasen]

@@kamartaj3010 Ask the government, not me. To marry or not to marry is a personal preference and this should not, at all costs, be linked with financial independence.

[@garimabaranwal8725]

In that case, there should be paycut for women's rent and food and other expenses.

[@kantadeka6368]

honestly i totally love ur work and the topic u speak about u should get like millions of subs cause u are making a change .

[@JasonStanton-s9s]

It was started during British raj, in Indian culture we had Stridhan, wherein gifts from parents and relatives constituted the woman's wealth, usable for her well-being. However, historical shifts occurred during British colonial rule when the privatization of land was introduced.

[@loveevynn5042]

I am from North East Dowry is not an issue here atleast among the locals. Most people here are decent enough not to ask or demand money or gifts shamelessly from the other party Also women are definitely treated better and equal here from what i have seen I guess you need to have good upbringing too like parents teaching their boys that women are equal etc which is generally seen here

[@AdityaRaj-gj4dl]

😱

[@asthasingh4786]

Dowry is just a symptom, the real problem is the marriage without love. Nothing could be happy in the marriage which is just been imposed to a boy or girl, it will only cause these problems and dowry is one of them

[@sanaxluv8036]

I come from Bihar and recently around on 25th of November, just the house in front of me had a woman's body laying on their doorstep and soon I found out that the woman was their bahu and because her family was not able to provide the dowry they demanded, they made her starve for 8 days and cut her arms and legs and also used heated iron to scar her skin. The case was reported, the police came but the family bribed them and they did nothing and just left without investigating the crime scene. I was so disgusted and horrified, I'm seriously scared of humans more than anything now. Our whole neighborhood is just straight up disgusted by their behavior towards their daughter-in-law. We socially discarded the family but god knows how many women have to go through this just for the cause that they are women. Hope all of them find peace and security within their lives. I love them, they are a inspiration for me. I'm working hard enough, I make sure to leave this country as my father told me to. Good luck ladies 🚺 be strong and keep fighting because there's alot to be fighting for.

[@sanaxluv8036]

@@ultimatetruth4156 did i say men don't get killed? this video's about women, if you wanna watch go watch a men's issue channel. You seriously don't have a job.

[@aayushjha4216]

@@sanaxluv8036 The solution is females to become self dependent and divorce their parents if they force them to marriage.

[@therealgrimreaper68]

@@ultimatetruth4156 if you care about men's issues so much then make a channel and talk about it. You people don't give a shit about men's issues until women's issues are brought up

[@sanaxluv8036]

@@aayushjha4216 yeah, that's really important for indian society rn.

[@anahita_sachdev]

These motion graphics are next levelllll 💯💯💯💯💯

[@dayadarwazatoddo5921]

I'm so awesome

[@johnconstantine8574]

Isko khte h अपने मुहँ मियाँ मिट्ठू बनना

[@kaustubhgowardhan3813]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW Becaue a woman has been denied privileges and opportunities available to a man.

[@johnconstantine8574]

Women constitutionally have more privileges than men.

[@swatisaini6447]

@@johnconstantine8574 check the discription

[@dhruvbhartia90]

We Indians are so busy fighting over religion that we ignore real issues like violence against women and children, dowry, climate change, corruption, poverty, unemployment, etc.

[@rightlibertarian8355]

Because religious problems are more dangerous and hostile. A particular religion is in crisis across the globe. French President Emmanuel macron has already mentioned it. Highest number of victims of violence are adult males. India's biggest problem is overpopulation. Coming to unemployment, overpopulation combined with agriculture dominant economy is causing it. Atleast current government is spending on infrastructure, transportation and defence, sins of previous governments have caused all these problems.

[@asamvav]

I wanna add my two cents to the discussion. Even if the women become financially independent and contribute to the running of the family, dowry as a discriminatory extortion practice will continue. There are family's family's where the wife earns money and does all the housework and both her homemaking & earnings are considered a right of her husband to dispense with at his pleasure.

[@jaibholenath.7817]

I am from Bihar, here if Brides family deny to offer dowry then they have to hear many nasty comments such "as forcibly imposing their daughter on someones" and Many life long taunts which sticked to them to their grave.. So not a single parent in the state can't imagine to get marry their daughters without heavy dowry..

[@beingfithumane]

The biggest problem with people of this world is that they don't want to change ownself and want to change the world. ☮️🅰️

[@sowjanyabhardwaj3409]

Many women are in need of help on how to get a job or start nd run a business for their financial independence. If they get it, they'll not be a liability in the concept of marriage. That'll probably help this dowry go away. All they need is good knowledge, communication skills and self confidence to come out and earn for themselves and the taste of economical freedom will do the rest..

[@aayushjharussiansocialistb8786]

Money and knowledge is the solution of all problem. Paisa bhagwan nahi hai lekin jitene bhagwan se kam bhi nahi hai.

[@Traumatised311]

They're still not liability 😡😡😡😡😡 U calledd a human a liability

[@Sachin_y28]

Fir wo settle bhi nhi hongi bhagte rehngi.

[@binnaaesculapian5068]

When society doesn't values that women in a marriage can also perform good & aid financially, they also pressurise the men to earn more, work relentlessly, give up on their career dreams and choose a more secure path and doesn't allow them to cope up with stress and anxiety organically. That's the thing! Patriarchy is not saving anyone.

[@sumitsingh7835]

My neighbors they are native of Agra and 5 months back, the man of the house was talking to his distant cousin and telling him that a relative in their family is IAS and the cash in dowry they have demanded is "Rs. 1 Crore". I mean "Rs. 1 Crore " cash ??? ( Exclude stuff in kind) That means the other party is able+agreeing to pay. That is some serious shit. Even a lady whose son( has his own shop of electronics) got married to a girl(who was preparing for Teacher job in govt school,now she is teacher in central govt school) they received a "BALENO" car(top model) + Cash + flat in NCR. here are many such cases where even the girl's family show off that they have given such kind of stuff to the Groom. So now my brother is a married man okay , in our community or family (Pahari people )dowry is not a dominant theme of marriage ceremony. So No DOWRY So the lady whose son got "BALENO" Car in dowry asked my mother " Tere bete ki shaadi Hui na woh Govt job hai na ,kitna Mila" ??? My mother said " Nhi humare mein aisa nhin hota itna lene dene ka" The lady said" Na na Govt job wale ko bhot mil jata hai ,tera beta toh govt. Job mein hai, humare mein toh govt job mein ho ladka toh bhot dete hain" Then she asked "Teri bahu Kya krti hai " My mom said " Job krti hai Gurgaon mein " The lady said " Private hai Kya ???" My mom said '' haan " The lady " Arey Pvt toh bekaar hoti hai ,na aaney ka time na jaane ka time" In govt job Dowry remains always high even for not so good job profile. One friend of mine who became Sub Inspector in Delhi Police when he got married his family received (on demand) "Rs. 25 lakh" Cash + Car( a decent one) One guy who was working in CSS as ASO ( good job profile) he also got huge amount in dowry+ flat in NCR.

[@anmolt3840051]

I am just relishing the irony of a supposed "MGTOW" responding to every comment here

[@swatisaini6447]

Spammers ki bheed roj lagti hai Yaha😂

[@Aramita]

LOL so true... He seems personally hurt.

[@RojaJaneman]

Give it time

[@mayankshukla3912]

@@Aramita and you seem to be hurt by his comment

[@shivangishandilya8454]

Please make the same content in hindi and other languages as well...so that the it can be understood by a large number of people in our country ..

[@aayushjha4216]

They are making it hindi.

[@dqweerd]

This video explains so much!! Great job guys!!

[@lifegoeson2029]

Yes you are right. In hindu text dowry mean the gift and security give to the daughter foe their prosperous life and (Willing and happily) buy bride's family.. They gift what they can not likely to be forced to give what groom want.

[@mimis.5139]

Hmm i am from a community with no dowry so i will not comment on my behalf but hope the whole India can speak up against it coz before seeing this video i thought everyone opposes dowry as it was taught in school but i see a rare kind of human species here who supports them. So hope all of you can save yourself from this species💙

[@bhaveshtontiya7152]

Hamari community main bhi dowry nahi hain....hame to ulta ladki ko bahot sare gehne aur shadi ke kapde bhi dene padte hain...

[@vikassagar2304]

Dowry is taken by everyone but its forms are different. Girl's family thinks that our daughter is not capable to make money, so they give money to boy to bring up their daughter after marriage. One condition can also be seen. If girls earn or make money, family search for boys who earn or make more money than their daughter then family again gives dowry. जायदा की चाहत में और जायदा चाहिए सभी को. Whether it's from boy's family or girl's family.

[@kamartaj3010]

@@aditigupta9930 sahi kaha jaha saudebaji hogi waha sharte toh hongi hi

[@VaswatiDeb]

Girls and ladies (and decent men & fathers out there), while commenting I have seen some low level creatures saying in favor of this heinous system of dowry!! So, I request all of you to be financially independent (and please make the female members of your home financially independent too) so that these imbeciles can't take advantage of you by giving lame excuses while searching for a groom. Trust me I am a second generation earning woman, meaning my mother used to earn too. It gives you a different level of mental strength and confidence & you can yeet these creatures out of your life. We can't change society alone but we can definitely change our life. Also, please don't marry until you become financially stable and independent (yes, womenfolk too) .

[@basic7052]

Independent girls give more dowry.

[@basic7052]

@@aditigupta9930 Because working women marry men who earn more than them. Fact is those men who earn more take more dowry. So unemployed girls marry low earning men and give less dowry.

[@kerriekupar6466]

@@aditigupta9930 the more he earns the more he demands. If a working woman dosen't want to pay dowry she'll have to find someone who earns less than her.

[@khushiprabhudessai9760]

@@kerriekupar6466 in this case even a rich girl can demand money from poor middle class men😌😌😌as she has more power

[@Vineethajojo]

This tradition doesn't give me golden retrievers men, it gives me gold digger men.

[@jugnu2344]

In Arrange marriage give/take Dowry is ultimate *LAW*

[@Jazzzk2]

It's not lmfao-

[@amritanjali7929]

instead of dowry we should give property to daughter like son gets just supporting stop dowry will not work support the above point and then dowry will automatically get stop

[@basic7052]

Giving property to daughter will have no effect.

[@basic7052]

@@aditigupta9930 Not all girls want to be financially independent.

[@hereslovely3367]

The Sad Thing Is That The Higher Income Job Demand More Dowry Than The Low Income Job...

[@WR-NC-ASPL]

That is because all women want to marry only rich high salary men. So, there is a demand for rich high salary men. While no woman wants to marry poor low salary men. So, there is no demand for poor low salary men

[@sportslivenews8248]

​@@WR-NC-ASPLexcellent reply 👌 Like dowry expectation, salary expectation should be illegalized... Dowry asking men = money greedy men Similarly, Salary asking women = money greedy women

[@minswagg5929]

Uff- I’m a 16 year old and ever since I could remember things, I’ve always had memories of my father saying “beti ki shadi ke liye paise bachne hai”, I used to ignore it but growing up listening to that repeadly was quite annoying, so one day maybe when I was around 13 I told him to stop saying & believing such imbecile things and he replied to me with “you don’t understand what the actual world is like” Again when I turned 14 I heard my father saying the same thing again and by that time I could say I knew quite a few things about how men and women are DIFFERENTLY in our patriarchal society so I told him to stop repeating things which r disgusting also because dowry is banned since idk for how long and getting married isn’t something y should be paying for, he replied with a “shut up when u don’t know the real world”… Like dude people like u r making the world so in-survivable, and I’ve not heard him say anything about it since then, kudos to me;)

[@shrutisharma4586]

I heard such things growing up too but then I found my partner myself and paid for my own wedding (with everyone’s blessings). My parents now proudly tell everyone that our daughter has done everything herself and isn’t a burden. I’ve got a daughter and a son but I’ll be paying for their education not marriage. You can be the change you want to see in society. All the best.

[@shrutisharma4586]

@@childoftorrentialrain9445 respectful bhaiya… how about asking the women in your family. In any case I doubt any woman sits and times it after sex.

[@minswagg5929]

@@shrutisharma4586 kudos to you girl!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

2:12 I love the animation there 👏🏽

[@shivansh5637]

To all those people saying Husband's house is not a free hotel Bhai ek baat batao aisa konsa hotel hota hai jisme apne kaam khud karne padte hai aur dusre guests ke bhi kaam aur seva karo (Hypocrisy ki bhi seema hoti hai) aur man liya ki hai hotel toh she is doing the work she should be paid for it. Not asked for money.

[@sanaxluv8036]

They seriously are so dumb my lord. It's important for a man to have a good job if he wants to keep a wife and a family. On the other hand, dowry is basically luxury and filthy money. They really don't have any braincells

[@ava-if8xc]

As my friends are getting married ...i can see , they are giving up on career or ready to give it up for comfort. Its also somewhat fault of us too, dont marry a guy just because he is rich or blah blah if he takes dowry but rather demand for career oppurtnity even after marriage.

[@simrankashyap3511]

Thanks a lot for bringing this kind of topics.

[@debahutichakravarty1242]

Thanks to God.. I'm belongs from clearest tradition of Hinduism, which is not allow to take Dowry.. Jai Lachit Jai Bharatvarsh 😎

[@Vanessa-ts2xh]

Now a days people dnt take " dehej" people take gifts , people dnt marry within the jaat they marry within the caste ... just changed the words with time nothing else

[@kamartaj3010]

And girl's family willingly giving expensive gifts(dowry) to the high salaried groom's family so that their daughter gets well settled and dont have to struggle much. Taali ek haath se nahi bajti

[@Vanessa-ts2xh]

@@kamartaj3010 these same things r said about rapes ! Kindly change your mentality

[@kamartaj3010]

@@Vanessa-ts2xh tum apni mentality thik karo idhar dowry ki baat ho rahi h. Or me dowry ko defend nahi kar raha h bas logo ki hypocrisy dekho aas paas. Dowry ki demand h kyuki dowry ki supply hoti rehti h. Parents agar apne baccho accha education or financial independent banaye. Toh dowry ki jarurat shayad utni na pade. Par so called educated govt employees also demand dowry just bcz they are govt officer and girls parents willingly ready to Fulfill their demand just to marry their daughter to them. Marriages are mere business disguise as culture. Sidha court marriage karo or bina gift k reception party do. Kya faltu k kapde gold cash lena duniya k saamne dhikawa karne k liye.

[@kamartaj3010]

@sohitjain_clicks giving gift willingly is not bad. But the transaction involved and hisaab kitaab of that gift transaction is very bad. Iss relative ne itne ka gift diya toh hum bhi utne ka hi gift dena hoga. Isse hota yeh h ki yeh bhoj ban jata h or insaan karje me doob jata h. Wedding are mere business in name of culture.

[@factshouse3690]

@sohitjain_clicks Totally agreed.

[@hermionejeangranger9923]

And people potray women as gold diggers

[@beingfithumane]

Uttar Pradesh: Groom thrashed by bride’s family & guests for demanding 10 lakh extra dowry. ☝👍🏳🕊☮️Ⓜ️

[@beingfithumane]

In a surprising incident from Gaziabad, Uttar Pradesh, a groom was assaulted by the bride's family on his wedding day because he allegedly sought additional dowry. A video has gone viral on the internet in which the groom is taken out of the wedding venue and beaten by the bride's family. A woman, who appears to be a member of the groom's family, is seen shielding him from the pounding.

[@NOVA-ei9kj]

Even if they don't use the word dowry they yse words like gifts. Gifting gold diamond sets to grooms sister mother, cousins, sister in laws family, distant aunts etc. These expenses take a toll on the brides family

[@natan2156]

Discussion below issues 1. Marriages where reverse Dowry happening, where Girls father earning money because of shortage of girl. 2. Law it self not define what is mean by Dowry. Girls after getting Divorce getting huge alimony , what is it , reverse Dowry.? Or Marriage unfortunately turning towards legalised prostitution.

[@natan2156]

@@aditigupta9930 you can express your views openly. If you are thinking asking dowry is prostitution and marriage is legalised ......., You are correct

[@satyaprakash03133]

Because they can't afford to abandon the thought of losing these privileges !

[@kamartaj3010]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW yes u r right

[@gopikamurali3756]

Dowry is easy money obtained through marriage without any effort from a woman's family to a man's family,that is why this practice can't be stopped

[@harshadchopda8058]

@Akash Mishra, MGTOW calm down ken. Nobody needs a man's opinion.

[@devd8845]

@@harshadchopda8058 only the *man* acknowledges opinion of another *man* and not a beta cuck simp aka male feminist.

[@satyaprakash03133]

@@harshadchopda8058 My dear pal it's beyond your ken !

[@harveyspecter1855]

*One of the many cursed colonial gifts to us is dowry system. Angrez gaye lekin unki backwardness chodke.*

[@kamartaj3010]

Bihar me dahej pratha mughlo se bhi pehle se chali aa rahi h. Mughlo k time bihar k brahmin and bumihar ka marriage market bhi lagta tha for dowry. Highest bidder jitega. It is totally indian fault not any Britishers

[@RajeshSrivastava-fr7qz]

जातिवादी वंशवादी सम्प्रदायवादी पाखंडवादी अंधभक्त अंधश्रद्धालु अंधविश्वासी लोगो के लिए कूड़ा कचरा छोड़ गए.....

[@Mohit-zn2rn]

Why don't you use "take/give" dowry because even if groom side doesn't want dowry but still bridal family gives expensive gifts and other things

[@swatisaini6447]

Let me drop a bomb shell- There is nothing wrong in giving or taking dowry. So where is the problem? It lies in the greed of groom's family where they demand expensive gifts and bride's family has to f*** up their budget to meet those demands. And the physical and mental abuse that happens post wedding if dowry demands aren't met💀

[@Mohit-zn2rn]

@@swatisaini6447 lol... if you can't give them those demanded gifts simply cancel the wedding but greedy women side can't opt to lose the high salaried, rich family for their incapable daughter. If dowry hurts you simply cancel the wedding and get the woman married to someone below financial standards so no dowry will be involved

[@swatisaini6447]

@@Mohit-zn2rn lol have u ever lived in India? If a girl's marriage is broken she is considered 'upshaguni' When women's whole reputation depends on marriage and babies how will her family dare to break the wedding? And this is exactly the reason groom's family feel empowered to exploit her family bcoz they have fear of loosing reputation if 'baarat laut jaye' Thankfully this is slowly changing, did u read about the Haryana bride case?

[@Mohit-zn2rn]

@@swatisaini6447 lol stop blaming others for your own failure. My own marriage broke due to greedy bridal side and I live in India so ik how easy it is to misuse dowry law and blame everything on men.

[@swatisaini6447]

@@Mohit-zn2rn so sorry it happened to you. Good riddance from greedy people However u can't ignore the reality of most indian marriages either