The “Asexual” Asian Man - End the Undesirable Stereotype

Asian male characters in film and TV have long been sidelined, emasculated, and denied the chance to have romantic or sexual relationships -- that’s when they’re not openly mocked.
In an inverse of the trend of fetishizing Asian women through the “lotus blossom” trope, Asian men are consistently desexualized onscreen. This has directly led to the damaging, widespread perception in US society that Asian men are less masculine or sexually desirable, so it’s more important than ever to move past it.
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[@sorenhodshire4945]

I think it's important to know that the answer to de-sexualized Asian men and hypersexualized Asian women isn't to sexualize Asian men more - it's to see and represent all Asian people as multi-faceted and fully realized characters and people.

[@lucypreece7581]

yup because when you over sexualise Asian men in media you end up with Glen Quagmire from Family Guy

[@wrestlinganime4life288]

@@lucypreece7581 Ah... Giggity

[@sona6436]

exactly, realizing that Asian men can also be sexually and romantically desirable is perfectly fine but there's also a lot of fetishization towards (east) asians nowadays too for example, the real solution is just for people to realize that Asian people aren't a big monolith but a diverse and complex group of people like any other

[@rouskeycarpel1436]

Part of presenting Asian man as multi-faceted is to make them being seen as sexually/romantically desirable a PART of their identity.

[@yannickjohn6930]

K-pop may also be another offender as much as a good representation. Many fans want to expect Korean and other Asian men to be romantic to them and cute. One Korean KZbinr said that he doesn't like it when that happens.

[@zhangao4530]

The fact that the audience in the screen test reacted badly towards Jet Li kissing a female lead is so disturbing and disgusting.

[@johannageisel5390]

It sucks. I love the movie and young Jet Li was soooo cute! He definitely made a great romantic hero. They should have kissed!

[@kyndramb7050]

Jet Li is so hot too! I don't get it. Its beyond disturbing.

[@thesimmer2612]

I read about the kiss scene testing and it made me wonder who they tested it with because I saw Romeo Must Die in the theater with a predominantly black audience watching. When that hug scene come up there was an uproar of "What the hell!?!?!?" from both women and men in the theater. Makes me think they only tested it with white audiences.

[@johannageisel5390]

@@thesimmer2612 I wouldn't be surprised. :(

[@rgirl1243]

I think most of the test audience was white. Because when I saw the movie in a black movie theater when it first came out, people were pissed at that hug they had been waiting for a kiss. I was unsatisfying because you could tell it was supposed to be a romance in the movie.

[@rogersnick17]

As a black man in the US, I'm always happy to see our progress constantly being pushed forward. But I also want to see our Asian Brothers treated like men. I constantly see them being treated as if they're undesirable, whether it be jokes about their manhood or their masculinity, down to the point that some resort to self-deprecating comedy when I can tell they really don't want to deal with this. Just like media can be used to normalize different sexualities and different mentalities, we need to use media and entertainment to normalize the masculinity of so many of our Asian brothers. Speaking up, as "the nail that sticks out," is how change always occurs.

[@dreamprieto328]

Thank you.

[@purplemadnessW]

Thank you for the support my fellow African-American brother

[@reinhartgregory]

Facts, As an Asian guy I'm happy to see that lots of different people are getting progress such as those of African descent or even LGBTQ folk, but it seems to me that Asians and Hispanics don't really have progress? We're all invisible stereotypes even though we are a large minority in the world in general.

[@niceasf7038]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@jccanizal6410]

Well said dude

[@NotUrBlkCrschnAntiGayMissile]

We gon' talk about how they didn't give Shang-Chi a love interest in his own movie unlike any other Marvel male lead?🤦🏾‍♂️

[@jomaq9233]

Maaaaybe Disney wants to make him their 12th “first gay character” or something

[@4263484]

Yesssssss I totally noticed that!

[@nisarga9420]

I rather like the fact that they did not spell it out that the relation is romantic. That in fact makes his reality quite relatably human. And I do believe Marvel is keeping the ground upon for romance for Shang Chi. His father certainly had a romantic story, which is a big improvement upon the original image of the 'Mandarin'.

[@beatrixfangs543]

Maybe he'll have a love interest in the upcoming films.

[@momcares8378]

C'mon. Romance is never the center point of marvel movies. Even Thor has no love interest for quite a long time. Most of them do really.

[@m.g7610]

I love this channel because they bring up topics that exist around us but are ignored everyday

[@trinaq]

Precisely, we've grown so accustomed to seeing them, that we've simply never questioned them until now.

[@AxxLAfriku]

I am so unpretty 😭 When I go to the bank, they turn the cameras off. At least I am a big star on KZbin. So don't feel too bad for me, dear ma

[@ziolp]

Ignored everyday by certain groups -- others are most definitely discussing this.

[@gmkoshy]

Ngl I like cheese cause its tasty

[@alkaholic3881]

LOl Want to have some actual balls? Talk about how white men are CURRENTLY being spoken about in the highest circles of our society. Its fucking genocidal whats about to happen.

[@wandeesthoughts]

I really hate when people say representation doesn't matter! Hollywood has created so many negative stereotypes of so many POC and we're being shamed for wanting better representation😒

[@massetozacarias5693]

The concept is great for POC (yours truly), but at execution it feels forced especially Star Wars' Rose

[@nesser52]

Media is a fifth power 💔

[@GenerationNextNextNext]

Representation doesn't matter. PROPER representation does. I would argue that when white cis men think of "representation", they think of sticking some othered minority group in the movie so everyone can see the diversity is "present", no matter how they are developed. That's not proper representation. It's not enough to be seen on-screen. We need to be seen as nuanced as white characters. Even though I'm assuming that's what you meant, just clarifying.

[@wandeesthoughts]

@@GenerationNextNextNext you're right we need better told stories when it comes to minority characters

[@orangeradishneo]

@@GenerationNextNextNext i fully agree. that type of casting almost seems worse than no representation at all. it makes people feel like they're an "other" and not considered "normal". I've noticed this type of "minimal representation" casting for quite some time, starting with Big Brother. Nearly every year out of 12-16 houseguests, there's usually 2 or 3 POC's (increasingly more diverse in later seasons, but not enough until literally THIS year) 1 or 2 stereotypical gay guys, MAYBE a bisexual or lesbian female every few years, and 1 person over the age of like, 40. Not only that, they rarely cast people who aren't considered conventionally attractive. This year's seasons of BBUS and BBCanada are the most diverse possible, the BBUS house this year is about half POC!

[@andrewchong616]

In Hollywood movies, unicorns are far easier to find than ordinary Asian men. - by Bruce Lee -

[@drgeek100]

Thanks to the JEWS.

[@RagnarLothbrok-n2h]

​@@drgeek100what do you mean?

[@andrewchong616]

@@RagnarLothbrok-n2h who manipulate the production of Hollywood movies ? it is not difficult to find out the answer.

[@joshua_here5849]

Asian men are not masculine Men who fought Vietnam war: 👁️👄👁️ Korean war:👁️👄👁️ World War 2 (Indian men) : 👁️👄👁️

[@EzioIlMentore]

White men gotta cope after being traumatized by all the Asians they faced during those wars.

[@jjq9360]

@@EzioIlMentore I'm Viet and my grandpa was a South Vietnam bomber pilot during the war

[@okpo2596]

@@EzioIlMentore You know asians fought alongside white men in those wars too right?? Especially in the Korean war which was basically a civil war between the two Koreas and WW2 too which was basically all Asia and white men against the japanese

[@EzioIlMentore]

@@okpo2596 And those wars were major racism factories for white men. You're a fool if you think they actually somehow respected the Asians they fought alongside with.

[@bluesira]

@@okpo2596 Like the Hmong people who helped the USA with promises to take care of them after the war, then the USA abandoned them.

[@prayforplagues269]

I think it’s good we talk about this, when i watched these shows I never really noticed or considered these tropes. So it’s good to see stereotyped communities bring light to these issues

[@trinaq]

Ditto, I love how the Take makes us question the inclusion of these rampant stereotypes in the Media, and why they're so offensive.

[@prayforplagues269]

@@trinaq agreed, I don’t think all these portrayals of minorities are meant with malice, but through awareness we can break down walls we didn’t know existed, because feeling excluded from the very society you live in is a horrible feeling.

[@prayforplagues269]

@dschoe87 never watched it

[@prayforplagues269]

@@playboimarty I think this is an unfortunate repercussion of stereotypes. Asian men are considered unmasculine and usually not being well endowed, and even though these aren't true, they have reverberated into the dating world. I guess the best evidence I have is that I live in Russia, and Asian men do well for themselves here because this form of humour didn't catch on. They have their own stereotypes here, usually, they are actually considered "too masculine". Weird world huh

[@PeacefulJuggernaught]

You’re so right OP. When you’re not aware of the stereotype it’s easy to just laugh and move on never even realize that you may even be internalizing that racial view or bias. The Take IS really good at that. So much so that when my wife walks through the living room and sees I’m watching a Take on a movie she loves like “Miss Congeniality” her first reaction is “…oh no… what’s wrong with THIS?” It’s an honest reaction because it’s invariably true when they point out the problematic tropes and it can feel like something you loved is getting tarnished. But we’re both of us grateful for the insight so that we can move forward and still appreciate what’s good in those films and tv shows while no longer just accepting the toxic.

[@jewelsdragonfly]

The closest character that I think shatters this trope is Glenn from The Walking Dead. He has a genuine love life, no broken English, and very essential to the story. He was too good and a big favorite to the point where a lot of people stopped watching after his death.

[@Tom-qp6oh]

Glen wasn't portrayed as Asian. He was just an ordinary American who happened to be of Asian ancestry.

[@santiagobauza4257]

Mark Grayson from Invincible too, by extension

[@jewelsdragonfly]

@@santiagobauza4257 Steven Yuen roles

[@R0SE727]

@@Tom-qp6oh yeah but the character is *Korean*-american. Sometimes character that are portrayed as coming from the Asian Diaspora are assimilated, ya kno? Yes we like rep that shows Asian Americans more in touch w their cultural background, but saying he’s just any american I think is a little reductive. Genuinely the bar is so low for what we accept as good Asian American roles on screen that we’ll accept “decent character with no racist accent who actually contributes to the story even if they’re very Americanized” as like. The best of the best

[@UltraViolet666]

@@Tom-qp6oh how was he supposed to be in touch with his Korean culture in the middle of a zombie apocalypse? Are asians only valid to you if they seem different from every other American?

[@Suebee29]

Raj was easily the best looking guy on TBBT. They did him so dirty.

[@calamorta]

I think the actor who played Leonard is not too far behind but yeah, first time I saw Raj's actor out of character made me realize how well they downplayed his looks in the show

[@josephnicolino8529]

It really bummed me out he didn't find love by the end of the show. Even Stewart found someone at the end.

[@realnapster1522]

Raj is not even Asian. He is Indian and Indian men do fine in US. They are desired by lot of white and Asian women. Many of my friends are married to white women.

[@realnapster1522]

Btw in real life RaJ is married to Miss India.

[@AL-jg4pr]

@@calamorta Leonard outside of his role is stylish as fuck. But yeah in the show Raj was probably the cutest.

[@em.415]

This happens to black women as well just in the opposite way. We are masculinized and portrayed as less desirable.

[@Fazzel]

I once commented to a black man I worked with (I'm white) that I found black women attractive and his comment was black women are too bossy.

[@zeppkfw]

I don't get that stereotype tbh. Always seen feminine and beautiful black women.

[@ezra5788]

You can never compare the experiences of men and women because the male and female value in the dating market is very different. Women of all races will have an easier time than men of all races. A white girl will have an easier time than a white dude, and a black woman will have an easier time than a black dude. Most guys are not as choosy as females. Guys will get with the most average-looking girl, but girls want only the top 10% of men. This is a fact.

[@TonyMishima92]

@@ezra5788 Even though women generally have an easier time, there's no denying that the self esteem of women are heavily impacted by public perceptions. It's the Black women who are en masse wearing the hair of Eurasians on their heads that look nothing like their own, not Black men. Also, obviously men below the top 10% are getting women. Dating app statistics can't always be applied to the general population. In truth, everyone wants to date the best, but can only settle with what they can get. But even with that said, emotional attachments are built.

[@ezra5788]

@@TonyMishima92 Yeah all true, but at the end of the day, an average-looking woman will get more dates than a good-looking guy. Dating is wayyy harder as a dude than as a woman. Women have more sexual market value than men. There is a reason over 90% of po*n is focused on female stars, not the dudes. Attractive black women will have no problem getting dudes, but for Asian men it is much more difficult.

[@soggytortillla]

i said “oh YES” when i saw this in my feed. in the “kiss me more” by doja cat ft sza music video, i loved seeing Alex Landi, a korean-american man, as the love interest!

[@sallycinammon1478]

I know I was also taken aback but happy too. Good for them.

[@hobihope2981]

Alex Landi is gonna win Hottest Man Alive in a few years 😤😤😤 BET

[@jaimicottrill2831]

I haven’t seen that video but I’m going to look for it now! Also in one of Taylor Swifts videos she has a Korean American as the lead love interest. It’s finally ( slowly) getting better. Although I never understood the whole Asexual Asian trope. I have always found Asian men to be as attractive as any other race of men.

[@kyramcintosh8536]

I got that song stuck in my head and wanted to watch the video to get it out so I could focus on my homework. As soon as I saw Alex Landi I gasped because he was one of the most handsome guys I’ve ever seen. It wasn’t until after I finished the video that I realized I didn’t remember the last time I’d seen an Asian man portrayed in such a desirable role and I found it really refreshing. Now that I know the guy’s name I’ll check out more of his work

[@corycianangel6321]

Ah yes, he is so hot!

[@elijeremiah1058]

What I always found infuriating about Big Bang Theory is that Raj is by far the cutest guy in the main cast. In my opinion he was the only cute one, but they all acted like there was no way he could compete with Leonard.

[@nin.-2644]

I completely agree with you over the fact that he is by far the best looking of the bunch. However, and sadly, I found his poor prospects in terms of romantic interest to be realistic. Often attractive people of colour get cast aside for less attractive white people. (South) Asian men are often overlooked by white women no matter how great of a partner they could be in favour of other men (and if I'm not mistaken, the show only introduced white romantic partners, Raj's sister being the exception). Actually, from my observation, Asian men get overlooked by pretty much any woman with a different cultural heritage than them. I'm not sure whether this was a deliberate critique or whether it originated from the writer's own bias, but sadly the show was right on the money in that regards IMHO.

[@domokato]

@@nin.-2644 that's a negative feedback loop at that point. The cycle needs to be broken

[@nin.-2644]

@@domokato I couldn't agree more.

[@ForeverAmber_1]

@@nin.-2644 I agree with you, and I think the issue is that we mainly pay attention to what we are used to. Rather than explaining this in a shitty way, I'll use a personal example to (hopefully) clarify: For as much as someone can "objectively" be considered attractive, yes, I thought that Raj was the best looking in the group of guys on BBT. But it wasn't until I met and had a very flirtatious dynamic with an Indian friend that I started really noticing the attractiveness of that character, and other men around me of Indian ethnicity. Basically, it was typical for me to pick out the hot white guy b/c I have always lived in a predominantly Caucasian area. So I wasn't *really* looking for anything else but that. When I developed an attraction to an Indian guy, I started noticing people of Indian ethnicity on a more individual level, if that makes sense. And once I became more interested in aspects of Asian culture (especially Hallyu), I found myself paying more individual attention to men of Asian ethnicities than I think I used to. It's like once you broaden your cultural horizons, you don't see people as part of a "collective" anymore. I really hope I framed that properly. I think seeing different races/ethnicities as a homogeneous group instead of as individuals really is a big part of the problem (guess I could have just said THAT, huh?)😏

[@pjrodriguez386]

never found the show funny at ALL. besides the beetles looking one's open misogyny, them castrating the Indian guy by making him unable to talk to women let me know I didnt miss much without watching

[@giovannirafael5351]

Loved the video but I wish it also talked about how when an Asian man is put as the "attractive guy" it's also a mixed Asian man, kinda like when black actresses get opportunities is usually the light skinned ones.

[@rajeshdevika8827]

They would call you racist if you point it out.

[@WalkingSideways]

@@rajeshdevika8827 No they wouldn't, it's been openly discussed on a lot of platforms by Asians and mixed raced Asians.

[@narwal8432]

ye

[@jalandharashiva]

Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 8

[@user-783hhss7w2oifhe]

Even Crazy Rich Asians fell into this trope. A movie about asian representation, with all asians, meant for asians, but still couldn't help themselves with casting a half-white asian male lead lmao

[@RodrickColbert]

Fortunately, many Asian nations have their own great vibrant film industries that do just fine outside of Hollywood.

[@golbinnom]

exactly

[@andrewchong616]

@greas Wyq I don’t think it is not helpful. Asian particularly Korean film and music industries are getting popular in some western countries, including US. Of course it is still at early stage as compared to Hollywood, but it does contribute to building up a positive and real image of Asian Men.

[@golbinnom]

@greas Wyq squid game is first worldwide on netflix as we speak

[@shyofshyness]

I may be shallow af but I feel like korean movie stars are gorgeous people whereas hollywood asian actors are just meh

[@andrewchong616]

@@shyofshyness That’s why so many people agree there is a systemic discrimination against Asian men in US. In North America, Asian men are not only underrepresented but also vilified by media as weak and unattractive men.

[@trinaq]

Another Asian oriented stereotype I detest is the "Asian speaking in Broken English" trope. It seems to be used mostly for cheap laughs, and might not be as commonplace as the media would have you believe.

[@HenshinHeroesMedia]

I can buy language difficulties since studying one is hard. I studied japanese and that language is hard. Same goes for anyone learning english but I do get the frustration of asian stereotypes and broken english. As a filipino man, I can see my relatives speak perfect english or have an accent, and I wish hollywood just shows diversity. Even white folks speaking a different language can butcher the words. Show those moments, hollywood

[@bal9944]

Yes, I have seen the middle age Asian woman who works in the nail beauty shop with broken English a lot of times in media.

[@ondutytoday5801]

That stereotype rightful not only for Asians, but for all of the emigrants characters non English native speakers. Even British native English accent can seems funny in an American movies.

[@EclecticDD]

@@Chris-rg6nm There a newer immigrants and there are Americans of Asian descent whose families have been in the US for generations. It is a stereotype.

[@jcspoon573]

@@Chris-rg6nm I think my best experience with this was at a restaurant where the grandfather was the chef, spoke no English at all, still tried to communicate with customers, though. The parents (middle aged) ran the register, books, etc, and their English was very good, but accented. Then the kids (teens and early 20s) waited tables and cleaned up, perfectly local accented English (with occasional confusion on something said in Mandarin). It's realistic, but Hollywood doesn't depict anything with that much nuance.

[@Auron1Roxas2]

Can’t believe they didn’t mention how groundbreaking it was that 1997’s Cinderella movie had a dark skinned black woman as the beautiful princess Cinderella and a filipino actor as the handsome prince. Like that is still a huge movie to many millennials who grew up watching it.

[@AnimeArchaeologist]

It's quite weird indeed.

[@29jgirl92]

Yes!!

[@princetriton1308]

@@AnimeArchaeologist whats even crazier is that his mother was black and his dad was white 🤣🤣🤣

[@lucyching5633]

I looooved that version of Cinderella! I watched it so many times!

[@IONov990]

I totally forgot about that

[@twotonkatrucks]

As an Asian-American man approaching middle age, I really appreciated this video. It feels like we’re at a cusp of a sea change but not quite there. But, media representation has vastly improved since my formative years. More awareness the better.

[@vaccinatedanti-vaxxer]

The most important factor for women male preference: height, looks, and race. Despite virtue signaling of American women, they are repulsed by average Asian men. Asian men are the highest earners in America with lowest divorce rate. Even wealth cannot help Asian men! I’m not saying white women must find Asian men attractive or else they are racist, but openly acknowledge racial preferences is okay for any race any gender. However, I admit there is a growing trend of all races of women (especially among Asian women ironically) find Asian men attractive. Although racial preferences can change, most people subconsciously determine what is attractive or unattractive in adolescence. When I lived in Korea as Asian American man, I noticed the barriers for dating white women there were gone. When white people choose to visit or move to asia, it’s likely they see Asians positively making them distinct to most whites in their native country. If a girl grew up as a fan of kpop, it maybe more likely she may find Asian men attractive regardless of her race.

[@OVI-Wan-Kenobi-8]

There is a significant line from the 1991 movie "Boyz n the Hood" where the character Furious Styles stated that "The best way you can kill a people is you take away their ability to reproduce themselves". That is exactly what Hollywood and white Western media has been doing to Asian males for the last century, so much to the extent that even now westernized Asian women typically don't find Asian men to be attractive.

[@narwal8432]

progress popg

[@jalandharashiva]

Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 0

[@burritomussorini8263]

It always bothered me when I was watching Big Bang Theory that how Raj was shown always awkward, unable to talk to women, unable to have any romantic relationship and how feminine he was. But on the other hand, when his sister Priya was introduced, she immediately gets Leonard, her persona is just great, she is a successful, intelligent lawyer, capable of having all the extroversive qualities. How desirable she was as an Indian woman, how masculine she was and how horrible Raj was, as an Indian man who never saw a woman in his entire life. I couldn't enjoy the show after that. It wouldn't have hurt them to show Raj as more confident, funny and a lot less awkward.

[@RabiyaRavenclaw]

Actually,it would have hurt them to show him otherwise. Asian male in the west are stereotypically potrayed for the sole purpose of making them a subject of Ridicule, Mockery and Insult. They always potray them as Ugly, Nerdy, Geeky, Unattractive, Wimpy, Whiny, Cowardly, Uncharismatic, Incompetent, and all about "academics". Always, a goofy sidekick, comedic relief and even worse a mere Taxi driver with a funny accent or broken english, among the leading White Caucasian Male lead. South Asian males are even told to to do the Hollywood 's sterotypical version of South Asian accent for the sole purpose of Ridicule and to make them a butt of jokes, further desexualizing them more. And Honestly, Kunal Nayyar (Raj) wouldn't even get a role here In India, not even for advertisement. Coz he is not at all good looking nor is he a good actor. Western people loved him in the BBT, coz the loved laughing at him.

[@bball3048mmfr]

He was confident, funny, and less awkward when he was drunk (unfortunately).

[@zeyadib1211]

What do you mean by never saw a woman

[@eileen_a_b]

It really bothered me that on The Big Bang Theory, they had Raj, the character who demonstrated the greatest desire to find a meaningful romantic partnership, end up alone even though they went to the trouble of setting up a viable relationship for him in the last season. Also, while not all relationships have to be sexual, I was really disappointed that Aaliyah's character did not end up together with Jet Li's character because it was obvious that it's because he's Asian. I think the same happened in a lot of Jackie Chan's movies.

[@leannewheeler5351]

I was so angry. I was hopeful because they gave Raj a story and a background story but as the show progressed, they made him more and more feminine. I really hated it. And I really hated that he ended up alone 😔. I just knew he was going to come out with a love interest... creepy Howard and neurotic Sheldon got wives.

[@eileen_a_b]

@@leannewheeler5351 YES!!!! The asexual character ended up in a loving marriage with the prospect of having children some day and Raj has to choose between friends and a girl? 🙄🤦‍♀️This actor, Kunal Nayyar, in real life is married to a former Miss India. But no, forever the platonic Asian! 😠

[@ananyasrivastava8771]

Exactly, he was like the least creepy guy of all of them. Also, how they made fun of him for sometimes being slightly feminine?????

[@Arkane117]

I agree with you, but I just want to mention that Jet Li and Jackie Chan are both first top martial artists that became actors later. Meaning they are not great actors. I'm sure if the director really wanted to have a romantic scene with them, he could have had them learn to do it somehow but at the same time, they are not great at doing romantic scenes. But that is not to say there are no Asian actors that can play this role. There are many,.. but Hollywood doesn't cast them. They want to pick the stereotypical asian looking actors, not the one that's going to look better than a non-Asian leading actor.

[@eileen_a_b]

@@Arkane117 you don't think they are good actors and that's fine. Jackie Chan was sent to an Chinese drama/opera academy where he spent his childhood learning all aspects of performance of which acrobatics and martial arts was just one component (I read his biography) which is what eventually led him to pursue a career in film acting (starting as a stunt extra and moving up to starring roles) so it wasn't a transition from one to the other for him. Jet Li did start in martial arts first, but started acting before he was 20 so he has experience doing it and he isn't without talent IMO (Hero is one movie that comes to mind in which his acting was superb). Both of them have played lead characters with romantic interests when they worked in China so they had the experience with that also before transitioning to the US market. There are also lots of film actors in US cinema that are clearly cast on looks or comedy chops and not acting talent that have had roles depicting romantic relationships (Ashton Cutcher, Kevin James). The video even explained/showed a highlighted titled stating that Jet Li's kiss with Aaliyah wasn't well received by Urban Audiences and I find it hard to believe that it's because they can accept bad acting only if there's no romance. We're going to have to agree to disagree on this one.

[@sotrue5413]

I learned about this in my Asian American History class in college. Asian women are either oversexualized and viewed as "exotic", or submissive, or even portrayed as the villain at times. And how they're always paired with a white man that "saves" them, but Asian men are seen as weak and never paired with a white woman, or any woman for that matter. Just because of the war, as mentioned in the video. They're rarely the lead, and if they are, then it's only for a martial arts movie, but even then, they never have a love interest in movies. I'm glad that you made a video about it so that more people are aware of this, and not just a tiny group of college students a year.

[@theinvinciblewarrior4132]

Together we have to destroy these white supremacist

[@SpongeChadSquareJaw]

@@theinvinciblewarrior4132 you can't destroy the view of white person being the better one in society which mostly consist of white people

[@Liathrys]

America has slain a great Fascist only to replace it with an even greater one.

[@jayb2705]

I'm so happy that this kind of stuff actually gets taught in college, maybe there is some hope

[@terryscott2632]

@@jayb2705 usually it's only taught in places like california or new york where there are lots of asians that fought for their history to be taught.

[@Random-qi3vv]

It's sad because Raj in real life married a genuine supermodel. He's by far the sexiest man on that show,to the point that, if he had a Hollywood regime, he could play the character of the masculine man(Did you see Kumail nanjiani?). And even jet Li, the man is a martial arts specialist. he's masculine as masculine gets. Its an honor to have a great role for him. But I do see the waves of change happening. BTS breaking into the scene, Kumail najiani playing the role of a literal god and Shang Chi s managing to break the stereotype. Kudos to MARVEL!

[@narwal8432]

huh, really? marvel usually sucks

[@jalandharashiva]

Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 6

[@RabiyaRavenclaw]

What Kudos, Nanjiani still played the role of a sterotypical Bollywood actor in eternals, and dopinder from Deadpool is another Stereotype.

[@atharvawaikar9730]

@@RabiyaRavenclawExactly. The industry feeds them scraps and it’s as if all sins are forgotten.

[@user-wr6zt9lh7n]

Indians feel more like a mix between EVERY race soooo... hard to say certain people represent really.

[@totalpefectionisto]

To All Boys I Ever Love was the perfect opportunity to turn the trope on its head and they chose to cast white boys.

[@acesking]

course they did, it was written by an asian woman, nobody wants to see asian men erased more than asian women

[@frankiel3767]

Worse yet, they did diversify the cast by adding a Black actor and a Cuban guy but they didn’t add an Asian guy

[@megh2890]

For about five years, I lived in Tokyo and dated mostly Japanese men. The reactions that I got from white males, even those living in Japan and dating Japanese women, were always incredulous. I can't even count the number of times I've had people question my Asian partners' sexuality or masculinity. The idea that Asian men can't be sexy is totally baffling to me; my experiences DEFINITELY suggest otherwise.

[@dako6141]

I just don't know why white men have to be that hypocritical (disliking that you're with a Japanese man but they're with Japanese women) and use stereotypes. I noticed that whenever I'm friends with white guys, it's never the ones who date Asian women (they tend to be the most racist white guys). In addition, I noticed that a lot of white men like my father tend to be immature and impatient with family members when they're married to Asians, it's really unfortunate and I wish they just didn't exist.

[@megh2890]

@@dako6141 That sounds like a challenging thing to experience. :( I completely agree; the hypocrisy is downright upsetting, and it's just further proof of how damaging Western depictions of Asian men and women can be.

[@dako6141]

@@megh2890 I think those white men (and other non-Asian men) need to mind the business that pays them and stop harassing white women who happen to be in genuine, loving relationships with Asian men. I usually ignore Hollywood movies that involve caricatures of Asians in some way/shape/form and go straight to K-dramas or other Asian drama, which lack the damaging stereotypes about Asian men that we're constantly bombarded w/ in America.

[@dako6141]

@6889 It's usually racist white men and self-hating Asian women

[@ningthoujamelvis6103]

@Alice J true even I have 👀 2 renowned Korean girl youtubers blatantly told the international viewers not to come to Korea lol. Asian girls are the real hypocrite here. They feel entitled to both asian men and white men in Asia and America respectively

[@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow]

White beauty standards are the center of so many issues in popular media

[@TheBaconEarBuccaneer]

Well it is a western show tbf

[@Goffe909]

It's in a market where most people are white. And Asians love to watch shows with whites in them.

[@Goffe909]

@@Wisteria_ You do realize that most of those white writers you're speaking of are Jewish right? They are not white they're Jewish. If your argument is true then why are Asian men no desired by most women around the world. Western women can't compete with what women here in Asia bring to the table.

[@freebird1721]

​@@Goffe909 You are a caucasian man who fetishize asian women, we get it, it's ok but funnily this confirms partially what "Wisteria" said just before you.

[@Goffe909]

@@freebird1721 oh you made an awful assumption. I am not Caucasian. My mother is a Cree woman from North America. My father is from Africa and was even in the military their is his youthful days.

[@andrewchong616]

Asian American have not realised that if they continue to follow the game rule, they will never win because the game is RIGGED. My word to Asian American dude: No need to act like a white guy and think like a white guy. Be proud of your own ethnicity. And most importantly try to learn somethings from your fellow from Asia. They are changing the game rule which may ultimately help you to escape from the dilemma.

[@IkesPimpHand]

I wonder if people will ever bring up how terribly the show "New girl" treated Indian men. I'm Indian and honestly I'm used to the casual derision piled on us by not only the world,but Indian women themselves. Western media seems to really be extremely dismissive of Indian men in particular. Indian women are looked at in this "angelic halo" light and we are seen as effeminate, inconsequential and basically c**ked in the media perception.

[@realnapster1522]

Indian women are generally fine. They don’t attack or stereotype indian men as a whole. It’s the white western media which derides and ridicules non white males. Because men are representative of cultures and white western media wants to promote their own cultural and racial superiority. Indian or Asian Men who are subservient to whites are welcomed and included in the whole movement. But traditional Indian or Asian men are constantly attacked and ridiculed cause they stand up to western white supremacy. It’s a multi layer propaganda campaign.

[@user-bp2fo4be6p]

There is no propaganda, Indian men who are conservative, loud and don't want to integrate into developed society can go back to their country, and yes women usually dress, talk and integrate much better, the same with muslims, those who want Sharia can getthefcouttahere, no multiculturalism in developed world, celebrate your culture in your own countries

[@WastedBananas]

What did New Girl do?

[@WastedBananas]

Indian women are definitely the least desired group of women there are alongside black women though. the actress who played Cece isn't even fully Indian

[@RabiyaRavenclaw]

New Girl isn't just one show, there are countless shows where Indian and even Pakistani and Bangladeshi men, Coz West puts all the South Asian Men in a single category, in that same kind of Stereotype where they are out for the sole purpose of Mock, Ridicule and Insult. Shows like Big Bang Theory, Hey Jessi, Skins, Degrassi, Deadpool, Eternals are all big example of South Asian Male Desexualization.

[@mc-ge2bt]

Even before The Walking Dead, Lost did a great job of allowing Asians to be Asian but have individual personalities. Sun and Sayid were (beyond) handsome and immensely multilayered. Especially Jin, Daniel Dae Kim. His character literally had to perform completely in Korean but interact with the entire cast English speakers while only had one other person that understood Korean, Sun, his character's wife.

[@godemperorcarlo]

My favorite Role for Daniel Dae Kim is still Johnny Gat.

[@shalini_sevani]

I think you mean Daniel Dae Kim played Jin.

[@user-mb9nm7bq5e]

Can we talk about Brian tee and sung kang.

[@jessikat56]

@@shalini_sevani this is literally what they said.

[@avokanima3403]

Yes I definitely had a crush on Sayid and Jin ahaha

[@GigiMurakami]

Thank you for creating this. As a Black woman married to an Asian man, I appreciate this conversation so much 🙏🏾🖤

[@user-uy1rg8td1v]

The little boy in UP, I didn't even suspect he was Asian until the end when they did a quick look at his mom. I kinda wish they made it more clear.

[@GigiMurakami]

@@user-uy1rg8td1v yeah I was kinda surprised as well tbh

[@mrconfusion87]

Thanks! Black women hopefully get their justice too here as well! 🤗

[@Qwertyuiop-bj8ry]

I'm pretty sure it's small 🤣

[@alexong2542]

Your husband is a lucky man 😉

[@skuxsarah]

BTS and kpop idols don't necessarily embody more "femininity"- that's just another reiteration of the feminine Asian man stereotype. It's more that they aren't defined by traditional western masculinity tropes and stereotypes and toxic masculine gender roles.

[@davidwong6515]

Be quiet..... globalization is abhorrent

[@narwal8432]

tbf one diraction justin beaver and hary styles and that kiinda crap get crap too

[@impostorcore7071]

​@@narwal8432 why is a child here?

[@Acetvn-kg6ty]

There is no toxic mansculinity. only toxic women who generalises Men.

[@impostorcore7071]

@@Acetvn-kg6ty me when I got brainwashed by toxic masculinity

[@brianhasiholanmangoloipard6059]

you might not hearing this very often, but thank you very much to mentioning us the Asian men and represent us so the world could see us as valuable as any other men. because we were pretty much did not fulfill any dating criteria nowadays or see us as the men who worth dating (being yellow, below 6 feet and being a laughing stock). it is hard for us to be able to date women while on the other hand, our Asian women starts to adore more non-Asian men and even make fun of us. so again, thank you for making this video about us, the Asian men.

[@narwal8432]

yeah, shit sux

[@jalandharashiva]

Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 4

[@adrianramirez6848]

its just the media dude. black men are oversexualized due to corn and get different treatment. they arent really more attractive than you asians since both of your races have a similar amount of unattractive and attractive people.

[@R0SE727]

Surprised nobody in the comments is mentioning Jason Mendoza from The Good Place as an example of male Asian rep that walks a good balance of giving the character nuance & humor while showing the actor as the handsome & attractive man that he is. Manny Jacinto is Filipino excellence!

[@inajai6422]

True! They always mentioned his good looks throughout the show

[@R0SE727]

@@inajai6422 I always appreciated that he’s considered desirable by many characters even tho he’s a lovable idiot! He’s fun & I appreciate that he subverts stereotypes abt Asian men in other ways by being emotionally intelligent & not being a total brainiac bc those are also the stereotypes that contribute to the des*xualization of Asian men in general. Gotten love Jason Mendoza

[@helen8022]

Omg I LOVED Jason. Especially his first lines when he's like "Everyday thinks I'm Chinese when I'm actually Filipino. Heaven is racist!" Lmao gets me every time.

[@WhalienDNA]

He is amazing!

[@jonathanlim4585]

Jacksonville Jaguars rule!!!

[@pawanthakur-df2yk]

2 Broke Girls was very offensive to Han

[@SpartanManchie]

I remember when one of the girls insulted the Asian man, the other girl said that she need to be careful not to hurt his feelings or he’d kill himself with a sword. My jaw dropped. I never watched that show again. And they didn’t treat the old Black man much better.

[@pawanthakur-df2yk]

@@SpartanManchie And to think Michael Patrick King made that show who has made Sex and the City.

[@dtucker241]

@ParticularlyGoodFinder Almost wish they'd chosen other moments. Didn't realize I was signing up to hear so many transphobic jokes with my morning coffee. Appreciate these kinds of things are being critiqued these days though!

[@itachimistress]

@@pawanthakur-df2yk I've seen Sex and the City... I'm not surprised

[@GayTiktok]

@ParticularlyGoodFinder my god it’s supposed to be a light hearted comedy show. Even Japanese tv show make fun of seppuku

[@Internatube]

Read ANY criticism regarding the 2021 Cowboy Bebop and literally the FIRST thing people mention is how terrible Spike was because he "wasn't played by a certain white actor". Like....huh? First Spike is a fictional martian. Secondly, if they bothered to watch it, John Cho absolutely fucking nailed Spike. It's like "choose the right actor for that role". And they did. But he's too Asian for them to accept it.

[@midnightsun2085]

Thank you for speaking about this. It's long overdue.

[@kirk001]

As an Asian American male who's seen this since the 80's, I really appreciate you making a video on it. Really well done. I had to share it with my family and friends immediately.

[@mayaparamita2254]

Bruce Lee was still alive during the 80s, right?

[@dr.woozie7500]

@@mayaparamita2254 he died in 73.

[@joesmith201212]

@@mayaparamita2254 dear lord man yikes how clueless can people get

[@coles5451]

bro look at your profile picture. in your case the stereotype is true

[@lutheruler7487]

Hollywood is racist and owned by racist whhhhtes

[@NotUrBlkCrschnAntiGayMissile]

My only critique is you missed how this trope is also internalized by Asian Women as well as Asian men. They may have their own cultural reasons why they don't wanna date Asian guys, but a lot of Western born/raised Asian women have grown up on a steady diet of this trope and it works just as well on them as it does on any white or black person.

[@GigiMurakami]

Agreed! Good point.

[@anoushkashenoy692]

Yes. In many Asian communities Asian girls and Asian boys both refuse to date each other, and now there is growing resentment between them.

[@NotUrBlkCrschnAntiGayMissile]

@Duck duck goose goose oh no. They're slipping into some Black stuff?🤦🏾‍♂️ That's OK. We know THEY'LL eventually get it together.

[@unapologetic7281]

@@anoushkashenoy692 that’s really sad to know. I hope all non-white people can just accept the fact that these things were not made for us but by whi!te supr€mac!sts (mostly) and will always have a sinister/bias undertone to it (if/when they do include us). Self-acceptance is key!!

[@shrisiva4016]

@@anoushkashenoy692 More like Asian girls not wanting to date Asian guys and Asian guys being left to try other places due to it

[@Kabutoes]

The movies: “Hiroshima Mon Amor” (1950s) and “The Lover” (2002) feature an East Asian man and white woman, and written by the same writer

[@CartoonSociety-in9ci]

Would be neat to see more Attractive and Masculine Asian men as love interest and shown to be desirable and not seen as villains, monks or kung fu teachers.

[@millsgurl8358]

Please do a video on how black woman, but mostly dark skin black woman, rarely get love interest or how they fall under the disposable girlfriend trope, making audiences see them as undesirable or desexualizing them.

[@starrsmith3810]

Or hyper-sexualizing None are good

[@millsgurl8358]

@@starrsmith3810 true. Black women are somehow both hypersexualize yet desexualize at the same time.

[@lavender1653]

Yes!

[@greatgownsbeautifulgowns]

Don't forget about how dark skinned black women are also constantly masculinized.😔

[@Crazypixiness]

I'd love to see a video on that!

[@mirasol0098]

having an accent is quite the opposite of dumb; it means this person speaks at least two languages

[@Nightriser271828]

Ehhh, not necessarily. You can have a regional accent. Sorry for the nitpick. :p Otherwise, I generally agree. I respect someone who speaks multiple languages.

[@mirasol0098]

@@Nightriser271828 That would be a dialect. Though various dialects are almost unintelligable in my native language.

[@harrisn3693]

Then why is Russian considered a Rival to American English? Because the Russians can flatline the US in 20 minutes by their nuclear weapons alone. India, Pakistan, China, Japan and S.Korea can’t even touch the US. There is a reason why Russia is seen as a rival but still respected more than any model minority.

[@martinpiekarski1512]

Nah, accent is what you get depending on where you live, you have it regardless on the number of languages you know. It just may make a contrast when you live in a different country and use the regional language, while keeping your regional accent. Because it's actually more difficult to learn foreign accent than language itself.

[@nehcooahnait7827]

“I am an American and I don’t have an accent.”

[@justinzhu329]

Great video. Thank you for the coverage of how many Asian men feel.

[@narwal8432]

boost

[@jalandharashiva]

Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 8

[@nehemiahmarcus308]

The issue with movies is their over-reliance of tropes. Even working against a movie trope becomes a new trope. I don't think the tropes will ever disappear from filmmaking.

[@IndiGeaux]

My late husband was gorgeous, sexy, charismatic and Japanese American. I should be happy that he was looked over, or I may not have had a chance at true love. ♥️

[@s4xtt]

condolences to your late husband

[@andromeda3163]

I’m sorry for your loss 😔

[@sailorgaijin8838]

Rest in peace.

[@yuxuanhan659]

im sorry for your loss

[@CoolNumber1]

lol everytime when an asian man find love, he somehow die lol.

[@abishaipaul2298]

Ancient India: creates Kamasutra. American sitcoms to Asian characters: We can't let you have sex??? All we can give you is terrible accent.. Bwah hahaha.

[@sho3bum]

Unfortunately this video focuses on more on east asians and not south east asians. Not hating on the video it's just not a part of the conversation and I understand

[@nilimpvats6677]

@@sho3bum The stereotypical accent they gave us and the new bobs and vegane narrative is so damaging to the image of South Asian men. If there's a chart then south asian men will be at the bottom because the whole of the west think we are gonna ask for nudes. Either we are the nerdy science guys, weird indian uncle or people from slums. We seriously need better representation in hollywood.

[@summerhoang]

Well to be fair, the narrative of south Asian men showing predatory behaviors towards women on the internet is a reflection of exactly what has been happening in life provided with countless evidences. That narrative wasn’t born with the intention to emasculate south Asian man initially, but to warn other women/victim to be wary and pay caution. And because so many women has experienced it, which results in people subconsciously form a negative impression in their mind due to the collective behavior of that group. The media didn’t invent this narrative, it’s much more of south Asian man’s own doing, similar to the case of “Karen” etc

[@kahkah1986]

@@summerhoang I agree to a certain extent; this video talks about comedy SE Asian men, but there are other issues in there. There have been unfortunately real problems with people being coerced to join terrorist organizations, for example. That isn't the only narrative for all Asian relationships, of course, but misogyny and 'control issues' can still be there, especially around arranged marriage. Not to say that European relationships don't have their cultural issues either, just that this video would seem to miss that nuance. A film like 'The Big Sick' was actually made by a Pakistani man about his experiences, for example, that is surely more nuanced, it talks about him moving away from some aspects of his culture. Some Asian women disliked its representation of them, that it repeated stereotypes about them and arranged marriage etc. but I do feel it does start a conversation, not only about internalized racism but also learning from Western cultures.

[@abishaipaul2298]

@@summerhoang well to be fair, predatory men exist in all cultures and when it pertains to South Asian men, there's a very good case to be made for repressed sexuality. The society as a whole has failed to teach men in India how to behave. And it's sad really. Right from when the British came in with certain regressive laws about what's considered norm in terms of sexuality(I know they banned certain regressive Indian practices like sati) everything is leaning far right in India today. And the representation in American sitcoms doesn't help. I think the big sick is probably the best portrayal of a middle aged South Asian man.

[@melanieshaw691]

I'm just sad you all left out Harold & Kumar, I think it's a great example of breaking this trope also eventhough it's a comedy they directly commentate on these tropes

[@Meow91]

thank you for covering this!

[@Hallows4]

It’s obviously too early to tell at this point, but I wonder how much Marvel’s Shang-Chi will play into and/or subvert this trope.

[@elisabettajdj335]

One is that if the hero is asian, the villain cant be white ever. This has been documented that white producers actively sabotage the movie into having this dynamic

[@amandak.5967]

I know the actor Simu Liu from the Canadian sitcom, "Kim's Convenience," where he played Jung: the attractive bad boy with a big dorky/sweet side. I kinda hope he keeps a similar characterization in the film. Jung was so relatable/well-rounded :)

[@mysteriiis]

Book version Shang-Chi is straight up Bruce Lee meets James Bond. They'll have to fuck him up pretty hard to turn him this way.

[@Lionbruh]

Considering the lead worked with and defended that guy with hate crimes against Asian people on his record I'm not expecting much. He sold out on his principles so damn fast.

[@tootspogsforever5590]

@@Lionbruh what??

[@UnboxingAlyss]

I'm glad they talked about "The Love Birds". I was pleasantly shocked that the couple in question consisted of a black woman and a Pakistani man. It was really refreshing to see. It also gave me hope. Since black woman aren't considered conventionally attractive (especially dark-skinned ones like myself), it gave me a bit of hope.

[@tsuyayaka1]

Same! I loved that movie.

[@princetriton1308]

Go watch OLD just came out

[@harrisn3693]

Well tbh there are two type of black women, Gorgeous or Tyrone. I’ve yet to meet a black click who is in between and the few who I am attracted to are str8 up gorgeous. Nothing racist, just pointing that we men like feminine looking women for the most part, nothing to do with color as much as the hwite media makes you want to think. I’m Pakistani BTW.

[@witchplease9695]

@@harrisn3693 You are racist and your view of Black women is based on your racial bias and stereotypes of us. The majority of ALL races are normal/decent looking to cute, including Black women. If Black women were portrayed with the same diverse range in character and womanhood as white women were, your views would be different.

[@tacrewgirl]

Issa Rae intentionally made the interracial relationship not include a white person.

[@bz1393]

Appreciate you making this video - thank you!

[@cerealbeforemilk8976]

Thank you so much for this video, this topic is sooooo important ❤️

[@FlyToTheRain]

jesus christ i'm so glad i never watched 2 broke girls, how did that poor actor survive that?

[@snowfoxxie]

Right? I was thinking I might get around to watching it someday… now it’s totally crossed off my list. How can people find super hot girls mocking a regular looking Asian guy entertaining? Does it make their manhoods feel larger? Seriously though, that dialog and scenarios are a complete waste of that actors talent. If he wasn’t such an incredibly good comedy actor, those scenes would be just depressing.

[@hamidkarim4811]

@@snowfoxxie Even if he wasn't asian, it it's still not fun or entertaining watching a series where a human-being is mistreated, mocked and disrespected all the time as a form of comedy, it's really not funny.

[@WhalienDNA]

Yeah… really glad I never tried that show. What terrible writing!

[@nickjunes]

It's like the show itself is a high school bully and everyone is ok with it.

[@nkwari]

That show is almost like Step N Fetchit or Amos & Andy in regard to its treatment of that Asian character.

[@jeanine1625]

I also loved how Filipino-American Vincent Rodriguez III as Josh was depicted as the love interest in crazy ex girlfriend. Not as a stereotype, just as a (bit slow) hot dude.

[@michellewilson5224]

This needs to be upvoted more. It’s shameful that the didn’t seem to include Filipino representation in a video about Asian stereotyping

[@ninarances9074]

@@michellewilson5224 While watching this video, it showed a clip of Ned from 'Spider Man: Homecoming', who IS Filipino. But that's about it.

[@MrPurge11]

This video is a breath of fresh air, really hope things will change for representation of Asian men in Hollywood and the media.

[@narwal8432]

agreeed

[@jalandharashiva]

Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 2

[@clix.1596]

I'm so upset you didn't mention Ki Hong Lee in The Maze Runner! I'm literally obsessed with him

[@darlion]

I'm latina married to asian man. I can tell you, best decision of my life❤️

[@mrconfusion87]

😁👍🍻

[@poetcindylynn]

Josh from Crazy ex-girlfriend also breaks the pattern in a way worth mentioning.

[@silviaetna9874]

I watch lots of TV shows and crazy ex girlfriend really stood out for his portrayal of a Filipino man. I was grateful for this variety. I think more TV shows should follow the example

[@mayaparamita2254]

@@silviaetna9874 you can go to Netflix and watch various movies from all over the world

[@mayaparamita2254]

Lewis Tan, and the guys who played The Raid: Iko Uwais and Joe Taslim (who also play Bi Han/Sub Zero in recent Mortal Kombat) also do not fit that stereotype. Also Bruce Lee.

[@alejandrocervantes3624]

Dont even bother, thesse trend surfers, will never FULLY cover that show, aside from the ocational lip service here & there I asume casue it didnt hit big with audiences as opossed to rick & morty & game of thrones

[@tsuyayaka1]

Yes!

[@courageouscarla1804]

Sessue Hayakawa was gorgeous! This content is so great! Some of the examples in the video were so offensive and unrealistic. I know in the african american community we have ongoing issues with media representation and harmful negative stereotypes but I appreciate other culture struggles as well more and more

[@jalandharashiva]

Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 0

[@missauroraroseblairsays]

What’s so crazy is that I have always founds Asian guys attractive and I gotten a lot of crap for it. My first crush was this Hmong guy in my photo club and I told my bestie about him and she straight up told me “girl he can’t pleasure you, get a real man”. I still date them and I get sideeyes and strange looks.

[@AKu-xs5vg]

Many people are NPCs and can only repeat what other people say.

[@davidwong6515]

Stop your fetish....it's unhealthy

[@mahcussmaht4115]

dang your bestie be racist

[@Moviehubxzy]

Your friend need to meet Asian pornstar keni style. 😂 let’s see after how she walk on the road. Lol

[@jalandharashiva]

Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 0

[@PanPanokola]

I think that's why Rush Hour is one of my favorite movies. I don't have to get into it too much, but Chris Tucker and Jackie Chan's on-screen chemistry and the fact that they're co-leads with neither one feeling like the "sidekick" or subordinate to the other.

[@wrestlinganime4life288]

Besides it's buddy cop comedy and clearly plays a lot of stereotypes, so for comedy it's not an issue

[@FabalociousDee]

@Lindsey Bailes Rush Hour had a lot of problems for sure, and the racist jokes were so...fucking...many. But Chan's character was suave, intelligent, somewhat open-minded and got an on-screen kiss with a smoking hot agent. He was allowed to make mistakes, too. He also recognised that, while annoying & reckless, Chris Tucker's character wasn't actually dumb. Lee was a great character. But the racism was BS.

[@RossLarson]

@@FabalociousDee Rush Hour still had a generic Asian villain, played by Ken Leung. Ken did get to star in a romance movie with Hayden Pannettiere in 2007's Shanghai Kiss, though.

[@FabalociousDee]

@@RossLarson True. Rush Hour had a LOT of problems still, no denying that.

[@nanayaakarikari6737]

I mean they are both minorities. Let’s be honest, if it was a white man and an asian man or a black man, I’m pretty sure the white man would’ve been the main character

[@gretasimpson9240]

Those clips from Two Broke Girls genuinely set my teeth on edge! Can’t believe how badly it’s aged, but hopeful that jokes like that would never be given the green light now.

[@nickjunes]

Yeah like let's make some scenes about bullying, but write the show from the perspective of the bully. First time I've seen it, but it's incredibly low. I can't believe how recent it was.

[@OVI-Wan-Kenobi-8]

There is a significant line from the 1991 movie "Boyz n the Hood" where the character Furious Styles stated that "The best way you can kill a people is you take away their ability to reproduce themselves". That is exactly what Hollywood and white Western media has been doing to Asian males for the last century, so much to the extent that even now westernized Asian women typically don't see Asian men as attractive.

[@nickjunes]

@@OVI-Wan-Kenobi-8 Yes, this is exactly what it is. That's the nail on the head. It's a precursive genocide. It's an attack on our image as mates because white/jewish men feel threatened and rather than let women make up their own minds they want to play dirty with propaganda tactics.

[@realnapster1522]

Hollywood is racist propaganda. It will never change.

[@narwal8432]

hopefilly

[@Junior-ts1xg]

I thought about Ned immediately from the newest versions of Spiderman! Good job with this video!

[@andrewchong616]

Asian American men chose to be silent on this shit. We can only rely on Asian men in Asia (Real and proud Asian) to defeat these stereotypes.

[@andrewchong616]

@Dracula Buttf**ker 3000 nah. It’s far more helpful than joining stupid Stop Asian Hate activities.

[@amandahartsell9247]

This is why I refused to be ashamed of being mostly attracted to Asian men. I find them to be the extremely attractive and honestly wish there were more movies with Asian male non-Asian female relationships. I’ve done some digging, and most of the movies that do represent these relationships are either A) Don’t take the relationship seriously at all and they break-up or B) the Asian guy dies. It’s discouraging to me because it says relationships like the one I’m in right now are not worthy of being taken seriously on screen. I can’t even imagine being an Asian guy and having every movie with an Asian guy tell you “Hey, you’ll never get the girl.”

[@vatefairefoutre0]

or the Asian guy has to leave and marry an Asian woman due to family pressures... that's what I see a lot. and honestly what happens a lot in reality too (context: lived in Korea for 5 years and dated around. plus hearing many stories...)

[@s4xtt]

Thank you for echoing the demoralizing upbringing I experienced

[@JB-bi6vm]

I agree. It is getting better not good enough though. Before Beverly Johnson, Tyra Banks, Whitney Houston etc., there was Marpessa Dawn. She was considered the most beautiful Black women during her time. They almost never acknowledge her Filipino heritage. Society recognizes her French heritage and usually emphasizes it while at the same time brush off her Filipino father.

[@user-ip8bw7gt2x]

@@sovietunion7778 lol the west is the one pumping Asian women and White male in all media outlets for the past 100 years

[@mcgibs]

Hope I'm not alone in this opinion, but being fetishized by non-Asian women REALLY does not carry the same sting that society tells me I should be feeling. The power dynamic simply isn't the same. Take the way society treats women *in general*. I say cut em some slack. Allow them a bit of fantasy. Not too long ago, we weren't even seen as human, let alone desired. People crowing about Asian men being objectified in this way gives me a serious case of SMDH. I might feel different if we were living in a white matriarchy instead.

[@Monster_myron]

God Mickey Rooney in Breakfast at Tiffany’s haunts me to this day. Absolutely had no respect for that man.

[@saltycrunch]

All of his scenes in the movie could be edited out and NOTHING would be lost.

[@kimonaNo1]

I'd never seen that before, hate him now.

[@christopherb501]

F***ing HATE that movie.

[@mewesquirrel6720]

He literally had been doing this kind of stuff since he was a baby😂😂 he's done worse. I don't see you making movies or series

[@ohwow6640]

@@mewesquirrel6720 What does the commenter saying they don't like Mickey Rooney have anything to do with making movies or series?

[@zrthtwfv]

I really love this channel. Every breakfast I watch your vids while eating. 🥰

[@magicalgirl4]

I've always found Asian men really attractive, so it's weird to me that this stereotype has prevailed for so long. Unfortunately, I feel like I can't really say this normally or else it may seem like I'm fetishizing them, but anyway I just find them more handsome

[@mrconfusion87]

You do you girl! Props to resisting the insidiuous Hollyweird conditioning machine!

[@starrsmith3810]

I find Asian men to be incredibly attractive myself, hell I’m still fangirling over Robin Shou but it’s a trope that unfortunately still does exist.

[@tsuyayaka1]

What's interesting is that this is more of a western thing. When you watch dramas or music videos from Asia (especially South Korea) every Asian guy is perceived hot or desirable.

[@thebeatifulmessblackrabbit7203]

True basically that it’s more common in USA

[@wrestlinganime4life288]

Albeit overmasculinezed especially in bollywood movies

[@alistairt7544]

This channel is geared towards US/Western social issues, although some issues apply to an international audience, but a lit of the topics are kinda based on Hollywood and American Media.

[@tsuyayaka1]

@@mindoablues While that’s true, a lot of people don’t watch foreign media and absorb these harmful stereotypes from American TV.

[@kimifw58]

People portray their own as desirable? Stop the presses.

[@trinaq]

Please cover the "Yellowface" trope, or hiring white actors to play characters of colour. The most infamous example would definitely be Mickey Rooney in "Breakfast at Tiffany's."

[@johnnie543]

Or the Mexican Ricardo Montalban as the Japanese kabuki actor Nakamura in _Sayonara_

[@sophiabalounsi7832]

Or Ghost in the shell, live action.

[@Ilikefrogs..]

I think they might have done a video about that already? I definitely remember seeing one.

[@athena608]

Honorable mentions go to: Katherine Hepburn - and every other main character! - in The Good Earth (1937) John Wayne as Genghis Khan (at least he didn't attempt an accent) Emma Stone in Aloha (oh you're half Vietnamese, suuuuure ...)

[@agnessofiacastrocarvalho774]

@@sophiabalounsi7832 that was not yellowface was whitewashing look it up

[@liveelbaraka3371]

As a black man i thought i was the only one that noticed or even cared about how Asians are never able to be in masculine roles in Hollywood.. This is why I was so hype for that ninja assassin movie... Asain gangster movies are awesome too..

[@donnguyen1107]

Jake from American Dragon Jake Long was a personal favorite of mine: He's rebellious, more street-smart than book-smart, has struggles with school like any kid, does physical stuff like skateboarding, camping, and swimming, can be kind of punky, is definitely tough when it comes to a fight, isn't completely effeminate, and his main romance throughout the series is with white girl Rose.

[@alh9569]

I’m glad conversations are had about racial stereotypes differing on the gender of the person. Not enough people understand that every racialized stereotype materializes differently depending on gender.

[@DavidEsotica]

When Bruce Lee refuses the services of women in Enter the Dragon, it is because he is disciplined as a student of Shaolin. This is in stark contrast to Han, who was kidnapping, drugging and killing the girls on the island.

[@jdwright89]

Ya, that was the one point I didn’t get in this video. He wasn’t overly objectifying women and some how that de-sexualizes him? I don’t get that

[@starrsmith3810]

Plus Shang Tsung had a hard on for Sonya in the MK movie

[@nessyness5447]

Yeah, this video doesn't entirely get things, because there is a big difference between a character being presented as asexual, and a character being presented as sexually undesirable.

[@moonlily1]

Yes, I had read that scene as meaning to depict him as having an honorable character in contrast the others who were depicted as slimey douches. That's my reading anyway.

[@tshidi129]

@@starrsmith3810 Yoh! Thought I was the only one who saw it

[@satyamgupta2182]

Love how observant you are about issues in media 👍

[@EmelieWaldken]

Shang in Mulan (the animated movie) was a big part of my s3xual awakening as a teen. I think he was a good early example of a non-stereotypical Asian man. Okay, he was super good at martial arts but the film is basically about military training and Shang is much more multi-faceted than his physical prowess alone. He is sympathetic due to his compassion struggling with his honour, his very perceivable queerness (Let's Get down to Business To defeat...) and even his embracing of the feminine qualities towards the end of the movie (although he doesn't go full cross-dressing as the three soldiers do).

[@narwal8432]

damn its been forever since ive watched mularn

[@jalandharashiva]

Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 8

[@pinkysaints2309]

I’ve seen a weird thing of white men getting mad that women find asian men hot. I was talking to my ex friend about a kpop idol I thought was hot and they found it weird and made fun of me for it which was so weird.

[@henryfung6789]

Very true. And Asian women think it's weird to find Asian men hot.

[@eldron29-a54]

@Oricand famous Asian women are way too much operated too, so if you find weird the attraction to operated Asian men, you should know Asian women don't look like idols or Manga. But maybe you have double standards...

[@eldron29-a54]

Asian men are handsome. In Europe we know better.

[@zeppkfw]

Same experience. Just plain jealousy and shock I guess since KPOP took over real fast

[@mangos1346]

They are usually very toxic guys and think women, esp asian women, as their belongings, so they get mad when someone else try to take it from them

[@1MegArbo]

I can't believe the totally unfunny and completely offensive "Two Broke Girls" ever got the green light, let alone run as long as it did. I'm pretty sure it is even still in syndication. People complain about shows from the 90s, such as Friends, not holding up well in some social instances. 2 Broke Girls is much newer than Friends and seems to get a pass. It is also way worse than most of the 90s shows ever were. How has this happened?

[@edgaralanhoe2942]

That show was such a mess, stereotyping every single character on that show

[@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254]

Trust me, there are some pop culture that get fairly criticized and some that seem to escape (i.e. Bridget Jones's Diary which traffics in many of the tropes that The Take has critiqued and yet when it had its video here, escaped criticism)

[@alienboy1322]

@@lubhanshkohli6543 If it's a joke, why it is not funny?

[@arb1897]

@@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 likr how? What are the criticisms?

[@starrsmith3810]

Birth of a Nation exist……..shitty media always will exist and get green lighted

[@MikeydeLaraCovers]

YUP. (Thank you for saying this out loud and for having our backs.)

[@HowdyItLovll]

I've been so desensitized by degrading Asian stereotypes that seeing healthy Asian representation feels almost, wrong. I know it's just projection, but I just feel broken. Like why try to date or work out if all I'll ever be seen is as sub-man or undesirable?

[@criticaldrive7688]

Hey. Is everything ok?

[@criticaldrive7688]

@BlackpillWizard Hey. Is everything alright?

[@narwal8432]

frfrfr

[@MyLife-og2kr]

Simply because you're more than that. Fight now, so our future generation doesn't have to go through the same struggles we did. In order for there to be progress, us asian men need to put in the work and fight the internal struggles so we can muster up the confidence to step outside of the box that the white men has put us in. It's very much needed.

[@jalandharashiva]

Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 3

[@BobLogical]

Steven Yeun's been having a hell of a star turn over the last few years.

[@lucieblaise8793]

First of all, having never seen "2 Broke Girls", those segments are THE most offensive contemporary treatment of an Asian male I have seen. Like, how on Earth were those "jokes" approved?! Secondly, the asexual trope of Asian men is still very present in the 21st century. I could not begin to describe how this has damaged the self-image and self-esteem of my wonderful boyfriend, who is Japanese American (he's better now, therapy has helped a lot).

[@mrconfusion87]

I salute you for REFUSING that Hollyweird brainwashing! 🍻

[@evaniresmith7160]

I totally agree! I had no idea the show was so lazily cruel toward both Asian people and trans men, treating both as mockable and less than white cisgender men.

[@knmonlinemedia]

The show was awful as hell. Very lazy writing that resorted to stereotype a lot.

[@aMoodyHipster]

The reason racist ass jokes like these make it on air is because there are only white people in writer's room and in charge of the production. All 3 Rush Hour movies are directed by the same white guy

[@OVI-Wan-Kenobi-8]

There is a significant line from the 1991 movie "Boyz n the Hood" where the character Furious Styles stated that "The best way you can kill a people is you take away their ability to reproduce themselves". That is exactly what Hollywood and white Western media has been doing to Asian males for the last century, so much to the extent that even now westernized Asian women typically don't find Asian men to be attractive.

[@theresedo4917]

I was actually waiting for you guys to mention "The Crimson Kimono" on this topic, it has some other problems but the portrayed of asian male make my jaw drop for a 1950s movie

[@AdityaSingh-gb2lk]

Thank you for making this video

[@sophroniel]

Having grown up in an area with a large asian migrant population the idea of "desexed" asian men is .... baffling. They're just like other guys 🤨

[@Nightriser271828]

Shit, the submissive Asian woman one is fucking ridiculous to me. I get that Confucian values were supposed to demand submissiveness in women, but in practice, I haven't met the kind of female doormat that sexist men fantasize about. It's Orientalist bullshit.

[@byMidnyt]

Having grown up in the very white Bible Belt of the Midwest, I also find it baffling.

[@collin-theonlyandone2299]

Just one of the many techniques adopted in the west to effeminate Asian men because they are scared of losing global hegemony

[@blackhoneyblossom]

As a teen I watched a lot of Japanese series subbed online and was crushing hard on the actors...when I talked about that at school I became the weird girl who like Asian guys and therefore must be a lesbian because they looked so "feminine". I was so pissed back then, not because I was called a lesbian, I'm pan, so I don't care about that, I'm also totally supportive of men who actually have a feminine aesthetic, but because they looked at these very attractive masculine men and, just because they weren't the typical American Hollywood jock, called them feminine. I'm very happy that times are changing and especially with all these BTS fangirls, I just wished that I didn't have to listen to people telling me all Asian men look like women back when I was younger. The weirdest thing was: we actually had a guy in our grade whose parents were from China and a couple of girls were into him, so the hypocrisy was real. On the other hand, I'm happy they didn't treat him like they talked about my film crushes. Add: my university boyfriend was half Asian, and I remember him being basically in shock when I told him I thought he was attractive. He told me that nearly no white woman had ever said that, and he thought no woman would ever find him attractive.

[@asrafelicia]

I also enjoyed Japanese series because they mostly didn't over sexualize a romantic relationship. They don't need to kiss or making out everytime to make the point that they were in love (or care each other). Asian cinema always really good at making a subtle hint about romance between character (especially if the main theme wasn't romance) and we end up wanting more and crushing hard on the actor.

[@sorryminati4719]

The issue is fetishism over that.

[@sorryminati4719]

Also all these BTS fangirls don't fo much good to the non masculine stereotypes with their edits and all these theories of shipping them etc That is a concern

[@quenchtv5436]

@@asrafelicia im filipino i grew up watching american movies im always wondering why western movies majority of them are not complete w/o bed scenes 😂

[@asrafelicia]

@@quenchtv5436 Most western series used sex/bed scene almost like a mandatory to validate they were couple (but at some point they were cheating anyway)乁( •_• )ㄏ

[@octabodemes]

I would love to see you guys take on the latino men, how they are often seen as the dumb one, narcos or just a random gardener instead of the spicy latina which you already talked about🙏

[@aussiedanny28au15]

Do you guys also have stupid stereotypes? I didn't know that, because you guys were always seen exotic

[@davidwong6515]

But you are the dumb one only the blk is dumber ...why do you delude yourself from reality

[@octabodemes]

@@davidwong6515 Ok daddy

[@davidwong6515]

@@octabodemes Good ...see how much better life is when you accept reality instead of crying about it

[@octabodemes]

@@davidwong6515 Yeah daddy

[@lilac2698]

It may not sound like a problem to a lot of you guys but as a South-Asian, it's even worse. Now that K-dramas and Anime have begun spreading, East-Asians have gotten more and much better representation. Let me just give you an example of how bad it is on Social Media sometimes: One time, I met a Nepali girl in a voice chat in a Discord server. When I first joined, she told me she was Filipino, but we talked for a while and after some time we were the only ones remaining in it. She hadn't asked me before, but our conversation about how many languages we speak got to mentioning that I'm Indian(she didn't realize earlier because I don't have a strong accent). Only after she knew that, she told me that she was Nepali. I was shocked for a while (this was during my newer times of Discord, I hadn't known how prevalent and disgusting stereotypes were about us). I asked her why she said she was Filipino earlier and she replied saying that whenever she mentioned she was Nepali, people would start blasting her with the stupid baseless Indian stereotypes about and begin mocking an accent(which she doesn't even have, by the way). It baffled me, because she was genuinely such a nice person. The fact that once I used Discord more, and more, I realized how common it is for such happenings. I can't recall one time after me revealing I'm Indian that I haven't been blasted by stereotypes. Some of you all have hypersexualization. Some of you all have asexualization. We're just always neglected. ALL of South-Asia as a whole is just assumed to be India, and everyone thinks that everyone who lives in South-Asia looks the same. If any brown-ish skin toned guy is inappropriate and disgusting, it's obviously an Indian guy (Even though many Bangladeshis, Pakistanis, Nepalis, Arabs, and Latinos look similar). I'm sorry, I just had to share this. I've faced incidents like these too many times and it's tiring. I'm from the North-Eastern part of India and I have very East-Asian looking features. I can't describe how many times I've had to argue with people who say I'm not Indian. I'm sorry, I'm pretty sure I'd know my nationality better than you. There's more than 40 million of us who look East or South-East Asian but live in India. That's more than the entire population of Canada. Still, everyone assumes a certain look for South-Asians. Please, try to avoid doing all of this stuff unintentionally, it really hurts.

[@AKu-xs5vg]

Stop falling for the white divide-and-conquer. Everything in "south asia" is part of continental India. Not India the country, India the continent. Any Pakistanis, Bengalis etc who try to escape racism by saying that "they aren't Indian" are self-hating cucks.

[@WastedBananas]

Just say You're Asian, its more accurate and gives people a better idea of what you actually look like.

[@braisenjoseph]

@@WastedBananas genius ☠

[@nazninsultana9248]

Damn i hate how i can relate as a south asian

[@RabiyaRavenclaw]

The reason for this is Becoz thinks that South Asian and even Indian is a race, which it is not. Indian is just a nationality/citizenship. India is made up of 100s of different ethnic groups who are all racially different from each other. And as for the accent, so the South Asian accent is brutally Stereotyped in Hollywood, where the Hollywood directors ask the actors to exaggerate and overdo the accent.

[@blueoblivionx]

I've been watching Asian dramas my whole life so I've always been exposed to Asian men being portrayed as strong, sexy romantic leads. It's crazy how far behind representation in American media is.

[@belle-ashton2167]

Yes! And Kdramas are getting the attention they deserve thanks to...Netflix, ironically. The best one is Mr. Sunshine when it comes to tackling the trope because it empower BOTH men and women and show them being manly and/or badass on screen as well as gentle/classy characters.

[@thapoint09]

Asian media is better at representing Asian than non-Asian media. Quelle surprise.

[@blueoblivionx]

@@belle-ashton2167 So true! It definitely helps expose the shows to people who wouldn’t normally watch :)

[@belle-ashton2167]

@@blueoblivionx Yes! Mr. Sunshine is a Netflix Original Series and I applaud Netflix for bringing this high-quality show from South Korea instead of hiding a gem that is not from the US, out of jealousy.

[@mugiwarafan2687]

@@belle-ashton2167 yes but i believe its from tvn and netflix only helped in the distribution worldwide

[@Bllue]

They used mulan as an example of an asian villain, but all of the characters are asian and General Shang was fucking hot lmao

[@CandaEH]

its a little biased for sure.

[@tubeguy4066]

This video is just cherrypicking nonsense

[@Kilooma]

@@tubeguy4066 so the stereotypes against Asian men don’t exist

[@markuscriticus8278]

I remember a guy who talked how excited as a kid he was to see Harry Kim on Voyager, thinking "finally, an asian dude who's gonna get hot chicks!", and how disapointed he was, that after five years of being space Milhouse van Houten, Harry Kim finally got some action... And said episode was called "The Disease" for a reason.

[@kezmenflowers8691]

This is why I prefer to watch foreign films instead of Americanized portrayal of foreigners. I love watching old Samurai movies and movies with Sonny Chiba. Americanized portrayal of foreigners either like to put you in a beta role or a rapist role. Asian horror is my favorite as well.

[@PyanY]

If you grew up watching foreign media, you know this steryotype only exist in america😤

[@arb1897]

Ummm...........are you Indian? If not......i Speak for myself. Khud ke palluke niche jhak ke dekha hai?

[@ojberrettaberretta5314]

europe and latin america too ,at the same time in asian tv stereotypes of europeans and americans and latinos also persist

[@solen5529]

here in europe too this stereotype also exists sadly :(

[@RabiyaRavenclaw]

Nah, It's the same case in Europe too, Have u watched Skins?, a British Series, Where Dev Patel , British Indian actor playing the role of a British Pakistani character Anwar was Stereotyped in this very same way like this video shows, infact Dev Patel even faced Racism and Discrimination from his co actors on set for the Character he was playing.

[@magzdilluh]

The show Crazy Ex-Girlfriend also broke these stereotypes by having the slightly dopey, but good hearted himbo character Josh Chan being the protagonist's main love interest.

[@ironheart5830]

What about James Shigeta Crimson Kimono ?

[@narwal8432]

whats a himbo

[@jalandharashiva]

Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 9

[@Kabutoes]

Ninja Gaiden is one of the first games to feature an AMWF between Ryu Hayabusa and Irene Lew

[@jimmylim5015]

Xenogears releasing PlayStation one back in 1998, add an AMWF couple.

[@kingpanther7601]

Great work as always. Could you guys do one on the OVER sexualization of black men in media. I remember the second season of Insecure having an entire episode dedicated to the subject.

[@andrewchong616]

Sir it is seen a significant improvement with Black men image in media. Actually Black roles are highly diversified, in terms of job nature, they can be scientist, sportsmen or businessmen. in terms of characteristics, they can be aggressive, sociable, nerdy or family oriented.

[@cheburashka8997]

Very important and needed topic. Thank you for this video. I'm really tired of portraying Asian men as undesirable and hearing most people saying that Asian men are not attractive to them and that 'it's just their preference'

[@cheburashka8997]

@@mindoablues yes, but when it's a preference of most people, almost every person you meet then something is not right

[@brandonontama2415]

It's possible that Asian men being undesirable is due to genetic factors rather than representation.

[@brandonontama2415]

@Lyon Blade Yes

[@acerchromebook3003]

@@mindoablues preferences based on race are racist, it's like saying everyone in a racial group is the same

[@yolandatoba5665]

@@brandonontama2415 Genetic factors? Explain please.

[@anaizabal746]

Mass media portraits attraction or even admiration to Asian men and woman as being a fetish, like if it was something weird or unusual that other people besides Asians themselves would find them likeable. I mean, it's insane, people is great, attractive, interesting, good, or bad in every culture. Just because everybody doesn't look like Captain America doesn't mean they're ugly.

[@professorprofessorson8795]

hollywood is so damaging

[@notmyopinion4981]

When I saw lovehard, I thought the asian man was gonna end up as a side character and was disappointed the moment I saw him. I said to my bf 'omg they are gonna make him the weirdo nerd, who tricked the girl and broke her heart and then she gonna meet the real dude and hit it off with him' and was so surprised that they didn't take that route and instead build on their relationship. Now watching this, I realize while I was so convinced he wasn't gonna be the male lead