We're Scared of Being Hurt in Love?? | The Thirsty Sisters #32

In today's episode we answer the million dollar question: Why is Nina so guarded when it comes to love?
This episode, The Thirsty Sisters pour their hearts out and give advice to those afraid to love. Can a guarded person open up to love again? How do we let down our walls... when we're scared to love after heartbreak? Let us know if the comments section below ❤️
P.S. Shoutout to @Nk and @Rashidah R for inspiring us to make this episode! 💕
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00.45 Topic of the day
02:47 What is Sylvia most guarded about with "Mandy"
05:16 Why is Nina guarded & dismissive in a relationship
05:56 Nina shares about her new relationship with "Handy"
08:31 What made Nina open to love and date again
13:53 Nina’s advice to those afraid to love again
20:44 Sylvia’s advice and perspective on relationships
29:25 How Sylvia manages her expectations in life/relationship
33:15 Final advice to those who are guarded
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This episode, The Thirsty Sisters pour their hearts out and give advice to those afraid to love. Can a guarded person open up to love again? Baby steps perhaps? Love and loss, we want to know all of it 😧🥺 Share with us in the comments below ❤️

[@ceciliayeni6479]

Can you discuss related to loyalty in relationship?and also about fwb? There was a man who has a gf, but often lives abroad. So in his current city, he met a girl n without any saying, they become like fwb. So for sometimes, he cares the girl romantically sometimes treat her as normal friend. But when he cares romantically, ( like when a guy is approaching the girl he likes), doesnt he feel guilty? There was one time when this girl asked whether he has gf or not, n he admitted it by saying 'i do' but seems he doesnt feel guilty, he even still tried to touch and grab the girl. It leads to feeling insecure on relationship.

[@yexinxin5588]

😀💖Sylvia Chan 陈思华💜😀💙You are very cute, very pretty, very attractive when you are doing the thirsty sisters podcast ep 19 ''I Dated A Guy Twice My Age? Our First Date Don'ts'' in Jul 14 2020💚💛I'm crazy in love with you when I saw you at the thirsty sisters podcast ep 19, you are so beautiful and so sweet💖💜I love you so much everyday💙💚I miss you so much everyday💛💖I love you💜💙I love you💚💛I love you💖💜我爱你💙💚我爱你💛💖我爱你💜😀😁😁😁😍😍😍💖💙💜💛💚💖💌💌💌💌💌💌💜💙💖💚💛💜😍😍😍😁😁😁

[@yexinxin5588]

😀💖Sylvia Chan 陈思华💜😀💙You are my favourite NOC and TTS girl💚💛I love you very much everyday and I miss you very much everyday💖💜我爱你 OK💚💛😁😁😁😍😍😍💖💙💜💛💚💖💌💌💌💌💌💌💜💙💖💚💛💜😍😍😍😁😁😁

[@Enchante...]

- If you cannot control yourself (emotions, overthinking etc...), you cannot control a relationship. - Learn to work on yourself before building a relationship. If ego is present in a relationship, it means that in some way you love yourself more than you love your partner. - The expectations we set on partners, it really a reflection of their true character? Don't allow people to lose themselves in order to fit into your expectation. - Try not to expect anything, go with the flow. - Don't take bad experience and build on your self-defense, build it on your perspective. - All in all, there is nothing good or bad about a relationship, just worth it or not. Even though things may have not ended well but, if it had made you look back and say "I would date this person once again if I have the chance", know that you really had a worthwhile moment together.

[@nk9501]

Thank you for choosing this topic TTS. When I saw th tittle of this podcast, had a feeling it was me. haha. Tbh I felt teary when I heard Nina talk, I resonate so much with her. People around me keep asking me why I am single. Its not that I WANT to be guarded, but my heart just freezes when it senses attachment. Its like I am on constant edge about who to allow in and to what extent. Sighhhhhh. There are days when it gets so fuckin tiring to keep these walls so high. Anyways, I am happy for Nina. I hope he is the one :)

[@alexchase73]

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart. If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love her/him, feel honoured that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different. If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you can. This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away. Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. Don't deny love just only you don't want to be hurt... IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN

[@chweechweegum]

OMG IM SO NINA! Listening to Nina’s story really helped me understand myself a little more!! Was really confused + lost about my dismissive self☹️

[@mrdonniegoh]

Nina has become more vocal in sharing her thoughts and point of view. Keep going!

[@JaslynGJX]

Can you all discuss on how to get out of a toxic relationship? I'm currently struggling with that and it would be great if TTS discusses about it and open a new perspective for me

[@Lololol555x]

Is hard, but once you are out, you will be so happy and proud of yourself. Been there, is easier said than done. But it can be done. Jiayou!! ❤️

[@tsururumeruru1258]

The best way is to break it off, dont procrastinate and doubt yourself. The more you put it off, the more you feel like you’re drowning in all the emotional stress. Its not easy, but you have to do it for yourself and your own sake.💜

[@cashmerehazel21]

I have been using the *Devil's Advocate* method too. Imagine the worst, be prepared for the worst outcome, then rejoice in anything that's not the worst. And if the worst truly did happen, I'll just say *"I told you so".*

[@farland789]

* if the worst truly does happen.

[@NoranLier]

Sylvia you're such a pessimistic optimist, it's actually a potent approach to life, thanks for sharing the notion

[@bubbletea5097]

listening to this while doing maths makes the pain much more bearable

[@tealong9407]

Agreeable Listening to this in the background while working makes time flies by.

[@tansijiesherlynphoebe6448]

Good that u can do this...I can’t I get distracted even at the slightest sound If I do this, I prob would be focus at this and forget about my work that’s not a good thing.... 😐

[@gaurava.s8587]

I always listen to them while I sleep makes me sleep way easier

[@Flastew]

You guys are just too cool and so open, really enjoy your videos.

[@kaimin9720]

21:08-25:11 although this is not direct at friendship, but it became a puzzle piece that just solve my missing piece

[@joeylim261]

thanks for the tips!! Sylvia's formula works well for me as well hahahaha

[@wete6787]

I think we can make nina’s love story into korean drama 🤣🤣 its so dramatic and exciting to hear

[@LPSGvVenice]

Took me like 3 years to do this, shit aint easy :(

[@fauxtaperz]

Never clicked on a new episode this fast ⚡️

[@shiminfoong]

I am sure I can fight your "guarded" record. About 10 years? every time I try to be less guarded, I got hurt. how sia?

[@JKNana]

Nina, still got Aiken leh!

[@jennliwen5612]

Im teary watching Nina teary 😩

[@cklee88]

Sylvia's expression is always very 'sampat' XD

[@yexinxin5588]

Hey trojan kuda...same to you, you are very 'sampat'...Why so disrespectful towards my sweet and cute 💖Sylvia Chan💜? You yourself is very 'sampat' la...XD 😕

[@royalace5808]

Wow, I love the statement by Nina. 'take away 1 condition, and you will see 20% of the world'. =)

[@Jay-ru2cw]

Would love to hear how would you deal with your feelings if you happen to fall in love with the wrong person (not available - in an unhappy marriage) and the wrong person also loves you back...

[@kathrynkaren1024]

Very excited about the telegram group!! XD

[@Adamaqz]

I dont think Sylvia's way of thinking is morbid tho. Accepting that everything in life we have is temporary. Preparing for the worst and accepting whatever good or bad comes makes life alot better. It makes us treasure what we have even more. Sometimes by hoping, you are somewhat lying to yourself that nothing will go bad. We all know that's not true and bad things will eventually happen in the end. Because life made up with both good and bad right? When you expect nothing what else you can lose by having no expectation? So my equation to happiness is expecting nothing and accepting whatever comes your way(:

[@brokencooker2966]

What I can say is.. I am learning a lot from you guys! Please do teach more or provide more of your experiences and guidance! :)

[@Chloe-dl3lh]

Cant wait for the telegram community! Great initiative!

[@ivegotajarofdirt1534]

I was just watching old videos of sylvia an she is so beautiful and hasn't changed a little I am so surprised

[@helenav446]

Sylvia and I have the same mindset lol we both don’t believe in promises 😂

[@gaurava.s8587]

Why isn't this on Spotify 😭

[@jebroll368]

They BELONG to the streetssss boyzz

[@Rylhaha]

Can yall do an episode on commitment issues?

[@jazelbagel]

Ello!

[@yexinxin5588]

😀💙Ye Xinxin💚Love💖Sylvia Chan💜Forever💙😀😁😁😁😍😍😍💖💙💜💛💚💖💌💌💌💌💌💌💜💙💖💚💛💜😍😍😍😁😁😁

[@lizasem4184]

Another podcast on self care? :)

[@tansiwei2344]

Im so nina :””

[@yexinxin5588]

😀Lots of 💙Love💚 for the most beautiful girl 💖Sylvia Chan💜😀😁😁😁😍😍😍💜💙💖💚💛💜💌💌💌💌💌💌💖💙💜💛💚💖😍😍😍😁😁😁

[@yexinxin5588]

💚In English💛😀💖Sylvia Chan💜😀💙You are very beautiful💚💛I love you 1000000 years💖💚中文💛😀💖陈思华💜😀💙你很美💚💛我爱你一百万年💖😁😁😁😍😍😍💖💙💜💛💚💖💌💌💌💌💌💌💜💙💖💚💛💜😍😍😍😁😁😁

[@yexinxin5588]

😀💚If given a chance to fall in love again, I will choose to fall in love with 💖Sylvia Chan 陈思华💜 again and again and again💙💛I love her eternally💖💜Everlasting love💙😁😁😁😍😍😍💖💙💜💛💚💖💌💌💌💌💌💌💜💙💖💚💛💜😍😍😍😁😁😁

[@yexinxin5588]

😀MyCuteAndPretty💖Sylvia Chan💜😀💙我很想你💚💛I miss you very much💖💜我很喜欢你💙💚I like you very much💛💖我很爱你💜💙I love you very much💚💛Love💖Love💜Love💙💚爱💛爱💖爱💜💙我爱你爱你爱你💚💛I love you love you love you💖😁😁😁😍😍😍💖💙💜💛💚💖💌💌💌💌💌💌💜💙💖💚💛💜😍😍😍😁😁😁

[@yexinxin5588]

😀MySweetAndCute💖Sylvia Chan💜😀💙You are always the beautiful girl I love most in this world💚💛Nothing going to change my love for you💖💜You are always on my mind everyday and I love you so much everyday💖💜Whether you have boyfriend or husband in future, my love for you will never change because you are very important to me and the only girl I love is you 💙My Sweet And Cute💚💖Sylvia Chan💜💚I love you forever💛💖我爱你天长地久💜💙我爱你长长久久💚💛我爱你永生永世💖💜我很喜欢很喜欢很喜欢你💙💚😁😁😁😍😍😍💜💙💖💚💛💜💌💌💌💌💌💌💖💙💜💛💚💖😍😍😍😁😁😁💛

[@libraries144]

ahh, sylvia's grunts and snorts annoys me :/ today got intense breathing too oh well

[@yexinxin5588]

Hey soufrin fr...your comment annoys me...I got a terrible headache after reading your comment...would you mind flush your comment down the toilet bowl because it really stinks...😠😠😠😠😠😠

[@libraries144]

@@yexinxin5588 just nice in shitting now thanks for reminding me

[@yexinxin5588]

Very sorry soufrin fr...if you are nice to my beautiful 💖Sylvia Chan💜... I will be nice to you too but if you are very nasty towards her...I will be very nasty to you also...no offence ok...be nice to my 💖Sylvia Chan💜 in future because she is my love( the one and only girl that I love most in this world )...😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎

[@libraries144]

@@yexinxin5588 u seem to have some sort of complex for her. Why do yall think i have sth against her. I am just saying i am annoyed with her snorting so now as a human i dont have a choice to say my frustrations? I love TTS just sometimes their saliva in their voice annoys me a little. Tf? Yall have no life

[@yexinxin5588]

Hey you soufrin fr, 💖Sylvia Chan💜 is my love, I will protect her if anyone wants to harm her or say bad things about her, so please stop saying bad things about her. The only person I will protect and will love very much is my sweet and beautiful 💜Sylvia Chan💖😒😒😒

[@kraekern]

New mics but the noise at the background makes it unbearable.

[@thegoat7360]

like 2 ah mah chatting. vomit.

[@yexinxin5588]

Hey the goat..I vomit when you start talking...excuse me...i'm going to vomit again because your comment is full of poison makes me puke...😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝

[@thegoat7360]

@@yexinxin5588 haha.