Abstinence; let's talk about it | The Unpopular Opinion

[@anonnona6433]

This was well executed ladies. I was abstaining before marriage. My reasons were faith based 🙏 and they were further reinforced by the fact that most of the girls who were sexually active went through depression or very low moments when the relationships ended. I think if we are to speak in generalities, women tend to have sex hoping for commitment and exclusivity. And yet a man is capable of sleeping with a girl just for a release. The 2 genders attach different value to sex( generally speaking.)Claire said it well. Make your independent decisions but if I were to advise a girl out there, delay sex as much as you can so that by the time you have it, you are old enough to deal with the consequences that come with it. Allow yourself to be a child, to have an innocent childhood. There is plenty of time to be an adult. Being a child with adulthood problems leaves you with scars.

[@ninnahevitta2289]

Mmh well said

[@lelianankunda9357]

How do I like this comment more than once?😄Very well said👏🏾

[@kabyize]

Well said 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@Michealla256]

This is so accurate ❤️🥰

[@Empathy_17]

Wow this is really well illustrated and said

[@kallitsavo312]

It's the hair for me❤️ Y'all have great hair Sending love from the +254🇰🇪

[@nantabajoansseggane3828]

Love the diversity in this trio. Married, cohabiting, single. I think almost 90% people can relate to at least one of you! Kudos ladies. Love and light. 🤎

[@dorablanche7621]

Well put ...

[@Flourish_today]

Agreed 💯

[@fionakemi]

Thanks Joan. We appreciate this 🙏🏽

[@kakuru-gilbert]

Diversity indeed

[@elishashirima5924]

Pray

[@khamisaisha739]

Here after Murugi Munyi landed in UG! The Kenyan fam is here to stay ♥️ New subscriber ⭐✨love and light✨

[@fionakemi]

Karibu!

[@katushabephoebe3747]

Welcome to the pearl of Africa

[@JanetKiende]

Everyone's hair looks beautiful 🔥

[@fionakemi]

Thank you 🥰

[@carolineariba2294]

If you are single, abstinence is power!

[@vickyitenyo.]

Prim!! Priiiiiimmmm!!! I'm here for Prim!! You're so honest girl!Good job ladies! I'm here to stay. Sending you love from 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪

[@rayahakoto6094]

Murugi Munyi sent me here, Kenya's in the house Hii ❤

[@catherinewamaitha4559]

Tuko ndani

[@fionakemi]

Karibuni guys 🥰

[@anonnona6433]

15:44 I think people generally feel intimidated or judged when they are around people who are not like them in terms of choices say, drinking vs non drinkers. Sexually active vs abstinence etc. Whichever choice you make, own it. Live it loud and proud and that way, you will be able to co exist with every one without judging them or feeling judged.

[@joymiracle]

True my dear... point on📌

[@Therealspiceolife]

I love that you all finally share the real stories and it helps so many of us not feel alone in these streets lol 😂. On a serious note I feel sex doesn’t make you lose your value as a woman and when we are brave enough to have it, we shouldn’t call it falling short. In the end we’re human and strength isn’t measured by how many people you never slept with or finally slept with. We mustn't make virginity and purity the source of strength or confidence. I’m learning this each day..

[@anonnona6433]

I think it comes down to why one chooses to have sex. There are many women who have sex just to make the man happy hoping to keep the relationship. Like it's not something they want for themselves at that time but they feel obliged to do it. So it's neither consensual nor is it rape. And if the result they hoped for doesn't happen, all hell breaks lose 🤔 My point is have sex when you understand the idea of consent. Have sex because you choose to. Have sex when you are ready to handle the consequences that come with it. Both emotional and physical. But all in all, once it has happened and you feel bad about it, don't live in self condemnation. Take the lesson, forgive yourself and live a happy life. 🤷‍♂️

[@dorothykasemiire1087]

​@@anonnona6433 Well said. Thank you ❤

[@nafunaangelina]

For sure abstainance is Wonderful, best thing that has ever happened to me and it's faith based, ebya feelings nga bakukyaaye tebikuluma nyo.only challenge is judgement yoooooooooo! But thanks for these.

[@viviennenabukenya2568]

I feel Fiona when she says people claim she ain't real ...I mean!! It's her life. Everytime someone principled does or says anything, pple call it kajanja and kwekoza🙄🙄

[@rahmanansubuga2032]

True

[@Fablyflane]

I know right !

[@Nyakato-v3t]

Exactly 🙌

[@sharinbeata8162]

i really love the fact that am 19 but am just aiming on this like it's part of kind of guidance to the way am moving on and emphasis my real me and desires and being decisful

[@kamarungatiara9571]

Claire I loved your look from hair,lipstick and the color of the dress.Today just appreciating these great minds. Thank you darlings!😍👌

[@thesoleparentassembly501]

Abstinence in Uganda is a trip... My experience having been in Uganda for 8 months now is truly book worthy. God bless all of you guys partaking in the Abstinence struggle.

[@christinenakazzi280]

I came across this channel while scrolling my phone, I love the topics you ladies are discussing we need this.

[@themavilakazi]

I am encouraged to bring back the word abstaining, been saying am celibate & this just make the guys want to know how far they can go & yes to sound fancy🙈. 23 year old virgin. Thank you for this video.

[@joymiracle]

Same here... I'm approaching my mid-twenties and I am still that extroverted, free-spirited virgin. no offense. it is a decision I deliberately chose to take until I feel the time is appropriate for me and it has totally nothing to do with not having opportunities coz I have had a million opportunities and I have always opted not to have the sex.

[@Nyakato-v3t]

@@joymiracle kudos💕

[@joymiracle]

@@Nyakato-v3t oh you're here! my friend from @Benjamin Zulu show.. right?

[@Nyakato-v3t]

@@joymiracle sweet heart hapi seeing u here lol❤️❤️u must be a silent follower in our class😍😁thankyou 🙏

[@joymiracle]

@@Nyakato-v3t I'm a day to day follower my darling only that I always catch up the 8pm sessions the following day in the morning. Meanwhile hope you're well😍❤️

[@fbanoba]

Our generation really fumbled through puberty and adolescence. Very strong points ladies! It would also help if virginity (especially for girls) is no longer perceived as something to "lose". When you phrase it as "my first sexual encounter" instead of "when I lost my virginity", it takes away the shame and expectation that you shouldn't enjoy it.

[@theunpopularopinionug]

Well said. The concept of 'losing' in itself is problematic for young women

[@kibuulekalembe4726]

Fiona….my fav person. I’m motivated to keep going by you. Kudos 🤗

[@fionakemi]

I see you hun ❤

[@terrynafula6222]

I agree with her. You have such a profound way of sticking to your principles. It gives us hope…that these things still matter.

[@lillian524]

The hair is hairing you all..looking gorjus😍 Thanks alot for the talk. Love from Rwanda🇷🇼

[@nyonyoziprim]

It’s good to have you here sis

[@morinemuhoza2198]

More love from Rwanda🇷🇼

[@fionakemi]

Thanks ladies Much love 🇷🇼

[@sonianandagire]

I love the authenticity in this conversation. I'm rooting for y'all all the way 💓.

[@roselynejason4572]

Just saw your feed today...i love the show..its like am seeing my sisters chat.Fiona raising the single flag...wuuup wuup..claire you are my sister... Prim you are my alter Ego...

[@yendys74]

Real is hard to come across , and you guys are so real, Carry on

[@fionakemi]

Thank you 😊

[@nabayegoroselyn8765]

I really like you guys what I go through is what you talk about Thank you 🙏

[@ketrahvanderbaan3743]

I am super addicted to this program. These ladies make my dayyyyyyyys✋❤️always refreshing listening to them.💗

[@ainembabazisusan3971]

Claire glows more everyday, girl you’re doing the work and it’s paying off

[@joymbugua9385]

Loved this! As Africans we totally need to have this conversations...especially as young women...New subbie

[@kemigabojamillah5816]

You guys look great🧡🧡🧡the hair ,the accent ,am jus in love with everythg And thx for discussing this topic🤗

[@Iamdian1]

The day I watched one of your videos on this channel, I subscribed immediately. I rili do love it here. I love you gals.😍😍🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@fionakemi]

We love you too 😘

[@Iamdian1]

@@fionakemi 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️thank you so much dear🙏🙏.

[@meranninsiima3539]

I love love Prim's realism.

[@stecykaren9319]

I love prim.. Raw as it can get...

[@ariihocollin4648]

I'm obsessed with you guys, you are the big sisters I never had, naye banange, Ugandan men can make you feel like giving them sex is an obligation, and think that abstinence is pretence. I love you guys, your talks and advise are doing a great deal in my life.

[@immaculatembabazi2881]

Thanx ladies for sharing d different views ranging from Single, cohabiting and married…..meaning everyone has gotten an answer. Inspired

[@nabbumbachristineangela2236]

The numbers are numbering and I love it for you ladies.

[@fionakemi]

Thanks Christine 🥰 love that you're looking out for our growth too

[@joanopheliaampaire2265]

I think people feel validated when they have similar experiences with their peers. So when they are not the same/you don't relate, there's a natural thing to compare yourself and subsequently jugde yourself or the other person for being different

[@kwagalahannahvivien1885]

The way Puusi critically looks as someone explains 😂😂😂

[@daizieigamba]

ALL YOUR HAIRS LOOK AMAZING!!!!!!! : D

[@malkiawaalego2552]

Such a great discussion 👏 you’re all looking amazing 🤩 suggestion for a future episode, what does submissiveness look like to you? The stereotype in 🇰🇪 about 🇺🇬 women is you all kneel to greet and serve your husbands/boyfriends and you wash their feet etc etc. Kindly confirm/ deny ?

[@mizzj6056]

It is a misconception. Ugandan women are wild...Kenyans are referring to a particular tribe (the Baganda) and stereotyping it as "ALL" Ugandan women. And even Baganda women mostly submit when a man is really being a man (providing). They're nice when they're getting something

[@fay007]

🤣🤣🤣

[@pa811]

Hehhheeeeee...I see this stereotype potrayed in the Kenyan Tv shows...be careful with stereotypes, as a matter of fact the tribe that has kneeling women has the most cunning women. The symbols of submissiveness easily delude men.

[@tarirodorcas]

🇿🇼 Loving the content.

[@zulaikhaidris6163]

Actually am prim😂😂 being so open and i never get ashamed about it, but all in all i love you all gorgeous ladies 🌹❤️

[@akijungu]

Question to Fiona: You took the step when you were ready. How did you reconcile that with your beliefs/faith (assuming they had not changed at the time).

[@Glosh-d]

Kemi , your hair looks amazing. Wow.

[@Floatsgarden]

Guysss the HAIR!!!😍

[@ninsiimaedinah6128]

Wawu you gals are looking so beautiful , it's the new looks for both of u for me 😍 I just love how prim explains everything so real , I have really liked today's topic so much , am abstaining tho not easy 🏃 so I have even learned more dt I didn't know about abstaining , thanks ladies.

[@mweneroland3278]

I love the vulnerability, it is a double edged sword, to share or not to share. Like they say, to each their own

[@Berna_Aine]

I love how y’all speak! ❤️ I appreciate that you speak from the heart plus you are making my weekend! 💥

[@miriam_miriam]

"When i consent i dont feel like you used me" prim nyonyozi put it on a tee🔥🔥

[@agathamartha3032]

The conversation is so real ,I like your choices of words.I mean the whole talk show is amazing.Keep up.

[@fieviespiff6989]

Guys keep up the good work just subscribed to your channel, and I'm loving every minute of it.

[@vanessa_kwezi]

😂😂😂😂🤣😂nahhh this episode was too funny “let’s go and lose them this weekend”. That one sent me

[@asiofiona8899]

Fiona🥰..... Am Fiona too but for some reason I relate to your opinions always. The decision to abstain or not is a personal choice especially for adults. The person to consult is surely your God Netflix and surprise 🤣🤣🤣

[@fionakemi]

Wueh ! That Netflix and surprise is real 🤣 thank you for supporting our channel sis. I'm glad you feel seen here

[@beatricewanjiru4003]

Please allow the Downloading option

[@kamarungatiara9571]

It’s the new hair styles for me😍

[@fionakemi]

Thanks Tiara.

[@nabakka_vivian]

Ladieeeessssss... your hair is on point. Y'all look dope!

[@maryamqassim9166]

My dear your right if ur abstaining u need to get some one on the same path those of al trying me personally almost lost anstaining bcse of let me try n its difficult wen uve gone for some good time love has grown soooo if some one aint commited u loose

[@Haise8]

Real ,Raw and Saying it ALL

[@rachealkayinza2410]

Still at work but when i reach home and i give this video time i will know why nyonyozi is giving that look🤣🤣🤣🤣this girl is so funny 🤣

[@mizzj6056]

Prim on counting toes and fingers 🤣. Kindazi is my spirit animal

[@rachealkayinza2410]

Me too 😂😊😂😊 she is so real in a funny and enteresting way

[@audrey_b8082]

A few of these comments mention being "principled". Principles are an "each to their own" type of thing. If ones principles stand elsewhere than yours... then they're principled in that regard. I feel it's important for people to understand that

[@amwenesheillah3350]

You all gat nice natural hair👌

[@sheilaumuhoza6701]

😘😘😘 love the conversation

[@estherobioma4306]

Great conversation, love from 🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬

[@nyonyoziprim]

Welcome sister. Thank you for being here.

[@fionakemi]

Amazing to see our content resonating across the continent ❤

[@n.w.2757]

This conversation was awesome. I love the realness. Prim you gave awesome real sister-sister advice. Love you for that. Everyone gave great advice. Claire I’m in the same boat as you. I’m open talking about sex but my husband is more conservative. So I have to be mindful and also speak with him about what his boundaries are with me talking about certain aspects of it. But it was known before our marriage that I did not want to sugarcoat the topic with outsiders who may be looking for advice

[@geraldinfenti5422]

It's been 9 months of waiting until marriage because of my faith and am loving it ! I honestly can't say it's been hard because am very intentional and cautious about my decision.

[@bekhiewiththegoodhair72]

All experiences are part of our journey. I am thankful for all the fun 🤩 moments and will still have them 😂😂😂

[@mbabazipriscillah1433]

Kemi you remind me of my friend I lost but liked😃but I feel like your such a nice person

[@est4084]

I love you guys.so far you are best in Ug speaking respectfully

[@ritahleticia7703]

Am with you Fiona on this one, 31 in a few months but every time I meet my friends, they ask me are you still abstaining and when I say yes they wonder. But that journey is really easier if you have a strong reason such as faith based otherwise, you will also surprise yourself

[@fionakemi]

Hun, may you continue to choose what is right for you. Regardless of the thoughts and inclinations of others ❤

[@ritahleticia7703]

@@fionakemi Amen to that

[@evelynkabahuma7035]

me too, with Fiona on this one

[@chefrungi]

Wow....you guys indeed have unpopular options about life. Thank you for all the knowledge and time invested. Much love ❤

[@sioniangula7193]

Eish! This is so wonderful for me and for the rest of learning real matters that apply in all every days of life...I really like you GUYS... so muuuchhhh... i will be always staking on this UNPOPULAR OPINION'S podcasting! Be always blessed!

[@ronitahaineamaani]

Love the episode! I'd love to know your take on abstinence that comes on later on into a relationship that wasn't initially abstinent. Also, hair goals.

[@titusmazima4187]

This indeed would be interesting

[@fionakemi]

The truth is this type of thing is likely to exert a lot of pressure on a relationship. You've established a flow and this decision from one side would be changing a very fundamental part of the relationship. I believe it would be very difficult to work on unless both parties really want this and even then, you'd have to change your dynamic in a way that would, without a doubt be difficult and even strenuous. From my own experience, the person choosing abstinence will have to decide if this principle takes precedence in their life (which btw is not a bad thing) Similarly, the other person would have to decide if this is something they're willing to work with, realistically.

[@nalungaagnes1884]

I love your hair ladies 😊 y'all look beautiful

[@lynbee1238]

First one here….I have been waiting for this one😆😆❤️

[@fionakemi]

🤣 welcome

[@musinare]

Just got home from the amazing live show to relax in bed on this episode😅😅 Thank you guys❤️

[@fionakemi]

Awwww 🥰

[@divinekitiibwa8831]

I love the way you ladies are factual it's actually the right way of life than someone else who bits around the bush😊

[@ntonodhalwa]

Am late on this show but the way am watching vid per vid . Am joining the cult😊

[@CatalystPatience]

Here I am joining you and enjoying every bit of it😂😂😊

[@andreannndebu6136]

I love Fiona's hair. Kindly do a vlog about it

[@anonnona6433]

She has a personal channel that handles that. Fiona Kemi

[@leticiakokuleba2158]

i agree, its been long since fiona gave us a hair video on her channel banange

[@katrionahdoryn7034]

Its the lipstick for me😙😍😍😍😍😍😍🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@fionakemi]

@@leticiakokuleba2158 I'm so guilty 🤣 been pulled in so many directions with my various jobs including this channel

[@fionakemi]

Got a KZbin channel hun. Please check it out

[@Ivan-1992-w7m]

Mbu banyankore men hahaha😆 its actually that video that landed me on this channel and i had to watch all of your videos

[@MedicalStoreug]

This channel is the next big thing

[@fionakemi]

Thank you so much

[@francineayebazibwe5961]

this trio is so real

[@marianyangoma1438]

Love the trio, the insight is good.

[@LydiaJNjeri]

Very insightful content. New subscriber from the 254 🇰🇪 through Murugi Munyi🥰🥰🥰

[@fionakemi]

We love her 🥰 thanks for joining our space

[@Jane_Bless]

Not Prim counting toes and fingers to 50 guys 🤣😂🤣. But y'all looking amazing and I love y'all hair 👌

[@janicekoome9834]

Do a video of how you met and how you keep your friendships grounded now that you are working together.

[@theunpopularopinionug]

love this idea. saved :)

[@primrosemenya3810]

Btw am a single mom and abstaining. My son will be 10 in October and i chose to abstain from sex since then!

[@ruthiebrenda4595]

Virtual hugs... Am abstaining 4 yrs now...single mum to 3 now

[@Cikanyoro]

I like how you guys are so real

[@primrosemenya3810]

Prim, my name is Prim and I would so love to be your friend for your boldness confidence and openness. You donot mince words!!! Ladies, Kemi and Clare i love you just as much. Great content

[@fionakemi]

We love you too Prim

[@LindaTinahTV]

I love these open conversations about sex, bring some more. I talk candidly about sex and think people should have these exchanges more often even as couples. Sex is such a personal but also spiritual thing in my opinion. We receive and give it differently as individuals. But no amount of preparation gets you 'ready' for that first one because it's so different for everyone. My 2 cents to any virgin would be, just make sure that you actually really want to do it at that point and there is no external influence, the rest you won't know until it's done.

[@nahabweshanitah2278]

This is powerful . Thanks Girls♥️

[@FortunateCheli]

Fav show💙

[@CatherineSsempebwa]

Ladies you look awesomeeeee...Claire that lipstick looks amazzzzinggg on you..👍 The topic is very much needed. Thanks ladies. It's always beautiful to watch these conversations...

[@jackyguchi4141]

You guys speak my mind a million times. How I love you😍😍😍

[@fionakemi]

We love you too 😘

[@ronaldmureema4147]

Like ur program, thanks for ur information

[@leonoracynthia5086]

Prim!!! Where did you do your hair from?

[@nabbanjachloe201]

Netflix and chills suprise...but it's true though it's also essential to find a partner that will help you stick to your path

[@lilianbeerda]

Thank you ladies, your doing agreat work.

[@norah1091]

Awesome work ladies 👏🏾👏🏾

[@alexkatugambe]

guys u need a show on one of our National Tvs, Thanks a bunch.

[@anonnona6433]

Prim, that is a nice hairstyle. Different and nice. 6:12. Y'all are looking hot 🔥 😍 That was an hell of a hilarious story. What a pact 😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@paulpercy5829]

Great Show ladies, interactive & informative, good show.

[@nyakaisiki]

You guys look so smart😻😻