How to Flirt and Get a Date - Autism Talk TV 20

[@oliviadesign]

While I was watching this I realized that there have been several instances in my life where a guy had gotten to the point of saying "what are you doing this weekend" and every time I would make up some thing that I thought would make me sound cool so that he would keep talking to me and eventually asking me out. Not realizing that that's what was happening in the first place! LOL. No wonder I never go out on dates, I'm always giving the signal that I'm not interested. Well now I know.

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

OliviaDoes oh well

[@mcpartridgeboy]

your dam lucky your a woman, you just need to say yes, imagine having to do all the work yourself , its hell on earth I have had like 2 first dates in my 40 years of being alive and zero second dates, never had sex except with a prostitute , never had anyone love me, or even like me enough to be my girlfriend, having aspergers as a man is literally infinatly worse than being a woman ! if all I had to do was say yes id be in heaven, im so jelous of women, they got everything so fucking easy and I got it so fucking hard ! getting a date shouldn't be the hardest thing I ever did, getting a date should be really easy like it is for you ! im jsooooooooo jelous of women !

[@darkraft1020]

It is endearing to see a woman struggle with hints, like how we normally are as guys :) i need to find a nice Aspie girl, that would make life easier.

[@AMR421RA]

@@mcpartridgeboy Yes, I know excatly how you feel. I had very similiar experiences and slept with a prostitute and a stripper just so I could experience what sex was like. I tell you this it didn't make me feel any better afterwards, I still felt empty. Sex is only important to people that are not having any sex. So, if you can get this idea that sex if everything out of your head then it isn't so important. What you need is self love, I know this sounds corny but women have an abundance mind set. Which is something us men need to develop too. Right now a lot of men a struggling with women and remaining single b/c of toxic feminist ideology that has been pushed in our society. Women know they control the dating world so the odds are stack against men like us. Hating women will do no good except hurt yourself even more. You need to find peace within yourself and be happy with who you are. I hope you're doing well my friend.

[@mcpartridgeboy]

@@AMR421RA Hi , uyeah oive found peace i dont need a woman, i was told thats when id find one, wich is obviously BS, but none the less ive accepted ill be alone and i dont care anymore, when i feel bad i just excersice now, im in great shape and it helps me with my mental health. I really dont care anymore, its been so long with no woman ive grown numb to it now, pornography is free and easy.

[@TheNerd305]

When you ask "What are you doing for the weekend?" Neurotypical response: "Oh, nothing." Aspie response: "Oh, nothing." Only difference: The aspie fails to notice the question wasn't just a question!!!!!!!!! If I had ONLY known that earlier...........

[@StarlitSwamp]

Hehe, that sounds familiar, and it's not even the only (nor the worst) way I've failed at doing conversation. For instance, it took me a ridiculously long time to understand that whenever somebody asks me how I'm doing and what I've been up to lately, they're usually just trying to be sociable and don't necessarily expect me to answer truthfully, plus I'm supposed to return the same questions. For the longest time, I used to either just say I'm fine and not know what to add next (a bit like in your example), which would often end the exchange on an awkward silence and parting of ways, or when they seemed especially interested in knowing about my recent activities, I would often launch into a summary of my insomnia problems and how my latest attempt to get a job had failed miserably, not because I felt the need to talk about it, but because they had asked and so I felt compelled to satisfy their apparent quest for information. I eventually came to understand that it's not the kind of response people approaching me casually were generally after.

[@fearless4him595]

Faunatik What?! I'm not supposed to say "I'm fine." and keeping walking? Also, I had friends tell me that my crush also liked me and she showed it by asking me for a pencil daily because she forgot to bring hers. It annoyed me that she kept taking all my pencils. After they told me that, she already hated me. Did she like me or was she forgetful? How do I talk to people?

[@ok_jaja]

Manuel Padilla omfg I feel so stupid now

[@ok_jaja]

Fearless 4 Him I was in a similar situation

[@noahbrady562]

"You start by making eye contact" Well fuck

[@nikosantos1172]

Lmfao

[@antiHUMANDesigns]

A number of years ago, I was getting something to drink from a bar, and a girl came up to the bar and stood somewhat near me, and eventually asked "are you having fun?", and I replied "no", and then she said "me neither". Then I ignored her for maybe 10-15 seconds, and then she walked away. Looking back at it, I think she wanted me to suggest something, and I was a dumbass not to pick up on that. She was even "my type" as far as I can remember. (I'm an aspie, but didn't know that back then.)

[@DaddysTaz]

im not on the autism spectrum at all, but im extremely introverted and shy, and this is like the most useful thing ive ever watched related to dating

[@josephcrawford7922]

Same and I don’t think I’m Autistic at all, Maybe I’m just different from everybody else

[@trutheretic]

Word

[@TheNerd305]

(Aspie finishes looking at the video) "So that's all there is to it?" (Starts to smash his computer down to the ground and begins to weep bitterly) "I AM GOING TO HAVE SUCH A HARD TIME WITH THIS!!!!!!!"

[@wowowoowurgud1423]

Manuel Padilla you certainly will if you break your access to google. How are you supposed to google it now?

[@dpfljr]

🤣

[@alexanderbrewis1859]

Yep

[@ihavetheherpes]

This was actually very helpful.I'm just worried that my lack of expression, monotone voice and difficulty looking people in the eye will show a false lack of interest. I gotta suck it up though. I've very close to turning my "disability", into an ability. Thank you, Wrong Planet!

[@pirhannayt6423]

Did you ever find any success

[@njintau]

You bring up a good point, that's one of the hardest things for me was to determine whether a girl is just being nice or genuinely interested. Many times, I just use the shotgun approach and ask a girl out regardless but at times, I've noticed that many times women would smile a big smile and lean towards me if interested while the body language is neutral when she's just being nice.

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

njintau she's just being nice nothing else

[@HANSMKAMP]

For me it is really hard to approach a woman. I don't approach a woman if she doesn't send signals like in 1:34 (the girl switches between short looks to him and looking on her cell phone). Looking at him and smile are clear signals, giving him a green light for approaching, which the guy actually does. I am very reluctant in asking what she will do in the weekend. Asking it is somewhat intruding in her weekend plans (minding what she will do in the weekend) and not asking is lacking interest. Although I am autistic, I can apply the same skill, but I am scared to death to do it. I daren't do it. The girl or woman may think that I am not reading her signals and ignoring her.

[@Methylenedream]

I'm the exact same way bud. It's terrible and now i'm in my 30's and just so lonely I can't even begin to explain :/

[@ihavetheherpes]

MDMA4LIFE maybe it's the molly, no offense.

[@Methylenedream]

Wise General MMA I don't consume MDMA (or any stepped on variants of it like today's 'molly'). I've had to explain this to 100 dummies by now so here's 101. It's just a username and I chose it like 8 years ago as a sort of joke because at that time I was doing my thesis in the field of structural biochemistry. I like MDMA because I think its structure is an elegant way to prevent metabolism of the 4' moeity of this phenethylamine (the principle active binding/allosteric modulating functional group(s) of any (99%) phenethylamines). It does this by providing an additional resonance structure and increases the overall aromaticity between the phenyl and dimethoxy moieties in MDMA. Yes I know this comment is 2 years too late, had I seen it then I'd have replied then because it was just a low blow uncalled for dick comment for you to have made/ I really will never understand where someone's desire to make fun of strangers in a KZbin comment comes from. For the record, trying MDMA once or twice in your life will not kill you (or have any long lasting effects). Regular use is a different story of course. Don't just go around making fun of people, it's juvenile (and mean), uncalled for and what good does it do to mock someone for a challenge they have to deal with in their lives and have no control over?

[@groovytony5246]

Hans Kamp I'm not autistic and I'm still scared as hell lmao. It goes for most people, you aren't alone.

[@groovytony5246]

MDMA4LIFE Ahahaha your comment made my day

[@J239h]

What I've learned from watching videos like these is that I need to pursue hobbies that are more conducive to social interactions, rather than the ones that you can really only do by yourself. Like, I went to a comedy club a couple weeks back for their recurring open mic night. Its incredibly cheap AND the social conventions aren't to complicated. Plus, a great way to learn how neurotypicals think. I could also do more research into bands I like so I could have a conversation about them. Just a few ideas.

[@sauce6534]

Dude!!!! What do you think about IMPROV?

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

She's just being nice

[@dagtheking5739]

Well, duh! 🐦

[@Videogamefan7000]

So, this is how Chris Chan made the "first move?" Interesting.

[@dagtheking5739]

Happened a couple years ago???

[@Roswell01Area51]

Finding friends and healthy romantic partners is a lot like finding paid work, volunteering, or grocery shopping. If you sleep away your life and never make the effort to socialize, you will never have the opportunity to make a difference in the community or somebody's family.

[@nickkellie]

Man this whole thing makes me feel anxious and I start sweating just watching

[@okonh0wp]

All I know about autism is it really is not good to have. I go on a date here or there (I think my first date was around 17), but basically means I don't get laid, sometimes alienate friends, don't do well in social clubs or groups, can't hold down a job (I couldn't last in either of my two stints as a substitute teacher), I almost got fired from a government job once for a weird relationship with a girl, I'm 30 and I would have been so much more successful socially, professionally, and had a a wider circle of friends if I didn't have it.

[@gemmelos6]

Dafuq you're saying. That's just such a useless argument. You're prolly just trolling, but for anyone else reading you're comment they should be aware of the fucking negativity you convey. Cos what you're saying is just logic, the reality. It has no meaning. Asperger is great. Yes the challenges are there, but its an exciting journey to take with all these great people eager to help one-another (like wrongplanet). I know a side-effect of aspergers is depression. Its very important to be positive. "To be positive" is a verb, you work at it and you strive for results. Again you're comment, objectively saying, is totally useless without a positive note to take from it or without a clearly fixable problem being presented. Stating that your life would have turned out differently in another reality (without autism) is a fact. Its true. So if you cant change reality, you should look a 1 layer down in scale and see where there is a change possible by working on it. End of rant lol. Hope at least 1 person finds this interesting or commendable :D [or understandable ^^]

[@meganwatkins4206]

Wtf? yes I have aspergers, but It's not that bad.....

[@myriamhaar2753]

those things you mention can be learned with a good mentor/therapist. I am mentoring an 18 year old who graduated from a professional school in June. I prepared him all through the summer little by little for a job, he started last Wednesday. It takes some preparations, a willing and understanding employer and clear agreements between the employer, the person on the spectrum and me (I remain present but in the background). I go to his work every now and then to see if everything is OK with him, I stayed with him the whole morning on his 1st day to make sure he felt comfortable enough. His employer knows he is autistic, knows what their new employee needs and what should be avoided. And if there is ever a problem everyone knows where to reach me. Personally I don't know anyone on the autism spectrum that does well in clubs, autism does affect communication and social skills so it seems logic to me that this would be a more challenging aspect of your life. But you are capable to learn and adapt with the right support and guidance. Being a neurotypical is no guarantee for a successful social and/or sexual life believe me. It takes remaining your true self to be able to have a meaningful relationship and this my friend is what autistic people do best: being honest and being who they are. I trust you will be able to find the right person to guide you through your new experiences dear okonh0wp

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

Johann3s I disagree autism sucks for me and I'll be better off without it if a cure has been implemented

[@jacoblee5546]

@@myriamhaar2753 you know it's a hunch, but I bet if you were actually down to earth/realistic/serious about helping that 18 year old get over ALL his problems in one go? Stop being stingy and open you're legs.

[@danielmarquis5258]

I had to look at how old this was. MOST women won’t give their numbers out to strangers in 2022. The dating game has TREMENDOUSLY changed over the last ten years since this video came out.

[@JRomeMelodico987]

Sad time we’re in

[@antiHUMANDesigns]

A simple "trick", in such a case, is to invite them to have some input to what you're saying. If you talk about yourself, then every now and then you could ask if they feel the same way, or such. Ask fi they agree, or what their point of view is. Just to involve them. It's simple to do and it doesn't make it feel fake.

[@ncktyu]

lol I always see shit like this and the first thing that goes through my head is: Don't be ugly. It just makes your life way harder. It's fucked. Also don't give a stupid ass neurotypical response like "it's all about confidence". If you truly believe that then your ignorance and willingness to lie to yourself is unbelievably amazing to me and I honestly envy you sometimes.

[@somescams]

"Oh, I hear they are playing it at my house tonight". Straight to the point.

[@lukeallan6486]

Very nice video in my experience it's not only the social skills that's hindering me from trying to flirt but also the bullying or put downs person or people do by saying insults which can damage self confidence. However i have come to realisation because it is almost a normal occurrence with me cos I may also have a slight autism, you learn to live with it because you can't change people's actions. Just expressing my opinion but I love myself and my individuality. I am proud to be me.

[@filmerjared3950]

She is soo freaking gorgeous. I'd never be able to talk to her.

[@TheManny717]

Me neither. T_T And I, myself have never had a gf b4. I did ask a girl to go out, but they never seem to answer my offer. T_T Oh, and even though I'm 23 and have an autistic spectrum disorder, I do not like to give up...but it seems so difficult to even say "Hi" to any lady these days.

[@joannhunt4418]

Manuel Hernandez Stop being a simp, she is just an ugly bitch.

[@plasmablade9463]

FilmerJared when A girl smiles at me like that i get so nervous so do not to smile or not and I really do not wait what do?

[@henryleopard1066]

+Manuel Hernandez Dude you should definitely give up. At your age the ship has sailed now and the chances of you getting some clopper which haven't been destroyed beyond belief by hot alphas like me and Big Cums Mushroom Guy are slim to none. Prepare for a long miserable life of loneliness and pity. That's what's in store for you. Hitler.

[@TheManny717]

henry leopard -reads card- "Thanks, Hitler".

[@mimmom]

Alex Plank, you are the best! Perfect timing for my 15 year old. He has a girlfriend now. She has similar social skill difficulties, though, so I don't think she even notices Alex's differences.

[@Square_Peg]

I am lucky to be married already and not to have to worry about this. As I get older I seem to get worse at talking to people and making friends. If I had to find a date now I would probably just use an online dating site to get around this type of awkward conversation.

[@JK-nj3bt]

For me its the opposite i'm getting better

[@jakolu]

I wouldn't really call this flirting, more making conversation and asking someone out.

[@PJVids83]

+jakolu But, you see, that's usually how it all works. Flirting is conversation. We use flirting for more than just romance, we use it to make people feel more comfortable with us. Anytime you're out and about and you decide to be friendly, that's flirting on some level. Now, whether that flirting is meant to be romantic or not really depends on the intensity level of the flirting.

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

She said because she felt bad and didn't want to hurt his feelings.

[@boliussa]

+jakolu they should have defined the term. Also doesn't cover what happens on a date, first, second, third date etc

[@dpfljr]

@@PJVids83 also building comfort first is a common mistake for "nice guys "

[@mcpartridgeboy]

establishing she likes you still OFTEN results in rejection, ive been rejected by girs that likes me A LOT, and no its not in my imagination, she spread it round work she liked me, I asked her out, I was nervous and she said no, she was really angry about it too ! was awful, people think rejection is bad, people think getting rejected by all women for 30 years is bad, and it is, and ive been there, but my god, by far the worst is getting rejected by a girl that likes you and wants to date you, that will break anyone ! soooo frustrating and sooo devestating to your self esteem !

[@aspieotaku3580]

Let them approach you, it works for me. Dont pay attention to them and if they like you they will come to you. Also hiding your aspie traits as much as possible.90% of the time if you tell them you have some neurological disorder they will dump you. Hope this helps.

[@TornaDoza]

Probably only works if you're hot as a Greek god.

[@Nihilistic_Optimist]

Also hiding your aspie trait is not a healthy long term strategy. Once you want to be in a meaningful relationship you won't be able to hide your true self for a long time

[@alalmalal]

@@Nihilistic_Optimist what are the odds of long term though

[@maxhamlin38]

I've accepted the fact that I will die alone

[@MicahBuzanANIMATION]

dating is awkward and confusing without autism. it largely depends on the people involved.

[@JackHY2K]

Agreed!

[@ShadowPlay1919]

right so it is almost impossible with autism. I never have a relationship. any time I got a girl was from phone chats or craigslist back in the day. nothing anymore much. and I was drunk on the phone chats and was cool and laid back. I don't drink anymore. I never get laid

[@JackHY2K]

Wouldn't say almost impossible, but difficult and confusing yes. This is true even for many non-autistic people, especially ones with depression, ADHD, schizophrenia, social anxiety, or one who is unfamiliar with the local culture. Also people who are simply introverted or way too extroverted.

[@wowowoowurgud1423]

Micah Buzan cool, fuck off. No one asked. I imagine that you're like "I hate when not everything's about me".

[@ShadowPlay1919]

Wowowoow Ur gud wtf

[@mcpartridgeboy]

So it boils down to dont have autism, great, that helps a lot. Annoyingly i do have Autism.

[@evanhalsey1844]

I don't flirt with anyone at any time. I have no intention of every dating, having a relationship, or getting married. One time when I was out riding my bike, there was a group of girls at the track at my elementary school. One of them tried to get my attention and yelled to me "hi," "you didn't say hi," "you're cute," and "would you date me?". I just kept moving. I just don't want to be social, and don't like to talk. I consider adult norms, responsibilities, and milestones way more important than human intimacy. I want to just live by myself, own a home, have a job, and drive a car. And I don't care if it makes me characterless to others. I'm an adult and I don't look to attract people or be cool anymore.

[@MeredithEveritt]

I am so clueless about dating. My last long term relationship I didn't even know when we were on our first date until he called it that. Then once I asked someone out and even paid for dinner but she had no idea it was a date. I need to learn how to send and interpret those signals! It's so frustrating.

[@iiTzLurks]

I never been on a date nothing and im 20 so be lucky you have been on one

[@mountaindew9921]

same i dont understand what hose things really are and why we do them its really confusing

[@Kamikitsune0]

While I understand that people with Autism (all spectrums included) can be really socially awkward, I don't think this video is going to help in some cases. There are just some people that are TOO socially awkward that won't understand social cues. For example: A girl smiles at you but starts to back away. Someone not understanding body language might see a smile and assume she's flirting/inviting you; BUT in reality, you've spooked her and she's trying to politely get away.

[@Jibe111111111]

What is the piano music at the begining, I find it awsome.

[@spik330]

Step 1: Notice that they are looking at you. Step 2: Look at them and smile Step 3: Look away Step 4: Ask them out on a date. (By this point you should already have traded information and found common interests) 10/10 guide it really gets in to the nitty gritty of the dating world, just really fixes all of those problem.

[@sokawai5]

Heck nah. This video shows you how to be a human and not yourself. As if we're bots. Just say whatever. Ways of flirting can just be you showing the person what you're good at and stuff.

[@Gytu]

Round 2: Alex flirts with the psychologist :))

[@pricelessppp]

Then the Psychologist lady loses her lively hood. I think light flirting with therapist is ok.

[@xmunki1389]

What if my favorite movie is Texas Chainsaw Massacre... Will that be detrimental to my dating successes

[@thedevilwithin6336]

x munki Not in my book. See for instance, if your favorite movie is Texas Chainsaw Massacre, I deduce you might be a fan of horror/slasher movies. So now you must place yourself in an environment of like-minded people such as a horror convention. I bet you could definitely find someone receptive to your interests then.

[@darkraft1020]

I would not go with the title, but instead say something like "Actually, I'm really into horror!" Followed by an extra detail like "I really like the movies made by x", or state the reason you like horror. This way you are not putting her off with a surprise title, but instead showing that you have some passion in the things that you like.

[@SHMELKEDGE]

I can't flirt. everytime I try, It just seems like I'm being friendly. even If I completely throw myself into it.

[@Chris-k9k9c]

I watched three minutes and felt like I was going to pass out with fear.

[@lautaro736]

Wow this was really helpful, i don't have autism but i never thought that this were the correct steps to pick up a girl you never meet before, i cant believe its that easy since i always thought about this but never found the answer or an answer as straightforward and detailed like this before Thanks

[@juicy_rickys_world3273]

The sad truth of the matter is that as a man with ASD, you will probably end up alone. Consider yourself incredibly lucky if you have a girlfriend. Women don't seem to have as much of a problem with this, even women on the spectrum-there are always a thousand thirsty guys ready to take you out if you are even mildly attractive. Just my .02

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

ONSEN BEATS I hope the cure will come soon

[@han-lin1999]

Are there statistics saying that it really is easier for women on the spectrum.

[@JohnathanNoechelShunn]

Well I have a friend with autism which led him to be interested in demons, music, and the arts. His interests helped him to stand out with some women.

[@timsquirrel]

@@christiansnaturestudio6599 Yes, I hope the cure will come soon too! Throughout my entire "dating" life, it's been slap-dash hit-and-miss the whole time. And now my first marriage has fallen to pieces too with my wife deciding to divorce me!

[@dpfljr]

@@timsquirrel Check out Rollo Tomassi's Rational Male Blog for the truth about being a successful guy

[@dpfljr]

You've got a troll with multiple accounts trying to get people to check out this Tro-what's-it program! The reason I suggested that the Guys check out 33secrets and etc. is because they can be found on KZbin and don't cost anything

[@DC3Refom]

I really struggle with this and i cant tell when someone is flirting unless bare visually staring me in the face and with all the noises and things i hear my brain gets mentally tired n thrn it take over my desire to flirt i try hard n pudh myself to over come but to no avail, i am confident but my autims overides it or put it behind a barrier , shout out to all my autistics were unique smart clever and special . We will gwt thwre n discover true love , keep your heads up n god bless you all

[@Tetodash]

So this is what Chris wants?

[@jaredgarcia7511]

cool now I know how to have a conservation with my own peer group or with others

[@nickkellie]

Also, how the heck did he know that the movie was even playing let alone the time and the place!?

[@han-lin1999]

Are there studies proving that social skills training really works in the long term? If it's teaching us to communicate like NT's, it sounds like camouflaging which we can't really sustain. Autistic people often find that they need breaks or meltdowns by the time they get home. They often work hard trying to look normal by monitoring their facial expressions, suppressing their stims, and focusing on other social cues. Maybe it's better for the autistic boyfriend to be himself instead. I'm autistic. I can smile without faking it with poor timing and possibly the wrong kind. Sometimes people giggle. I could be wrong.

[@stefan1024]

Dr. Liz Laugeson: so you start by making eye contact ... me: ok, that's it, I'm out

[@chessic4]

Good points. And what about people that have problems with eye contact? Or have trouble speaking when nervous? And we are just supposed to wait until someone makes repeated eye contact with us? That sounds like a long, long time between opportunities to practice.

[@dpfljr]

Number one mistake most guys make is immediately building comfort! Oh and to the dude who said he would never be able to date someone like the girl: no one is out of your league, that's a myth!

[@dannyguy2008]

Leagues do exist and they’re not myths. People seek those in similar attractive levels.

[@kaiyodei]

I don't know. all the acting is so hard. it can't come natural to me. I'd have to exaderate. and i have not even been diagnosed with anything

[@mcpartridgeboy]

what about when she tests your confidence, ? women frow tests in to see how confident you are, how do I know if the woman is genuinely not interested or she is testing me to see how confident I am ? how do you tell the difference ?

[@ShadowPlay1919]

so what do you do when the movie you have in common isn't playing at a theater?

[@KiroStun]

do i have to wait 5 days to add a new entry in the wrong planet blog?

[@moontitanzan]

Wow, my mind was just blown. I've never looked closely at how other people do it

[@KiroStun]

Ok i can now add entries. I dont know what i was doing wrong

[@lkayde1996]

So what do you say if you get Rejected? This sounds helpful

[@Jibe111111111]

What is the piano title at the beginning, I really love it.

[@Angelo-z2i]

Chopin etude op 10 no.2

[@Jibe111111111]

@@Angelo-z2i thank you for replying, even if it's 7 years later. I appreciate it.

[@SpookeyClown]

First off, I'm fairly sure the interactions were just a controlled demonstration. Are you an extrovert / verbal aspie? Or more non-verbal? I'm very verbal and tend to only be able to approach girls conversationally via just describing observations (since visually I'm overstimulated anyways). For example in a grocery story, I often will ask girls stupid shit like, "How do you know what color dish soap that you're suppose to get?" Then follow up with a confusing response. Turn stupid into funny.

[@tiamarie6719]

This is a little bit helpful, but I need more advice on getting to know a guy before telling him that I'm attracted to him and asking him out and showing that in more subtle ways. I've failed so many times because, I always get distracted by my sexual/romantic feelings whenever I see a guy that I'm attracted to. I was told that becoming his friend first is important, and I agree. But, I can't seem to put those feelings on the figurative back burner for very long. At least I've learned some things over the years, like not pressuring the guy for a kiss or a date or anything like that for example and not saying comments that are too personal too quickly; like, "I like your butt" for example. I want to be seductive but, I don't want to come off as a creep or go too far and end up getting taken advantage of. Any more advice for an autistic woman such as myself?

[@burger_kinghorn]

Too artificial and oversimplified. I would like to see more on how to determine if the interest in genuine, i.e. just being nice vs. real attraction.

[@dcs002]

Is she attracted to me or just being nice... or maybe making fun of me? A nice smile and a sarcastic smile look pretty much the same to me. When I was in high school I got hurt pretty badly by not recognizing the difference. ("OMG! Can you believe he ACTUALLY thought I would want to go out with HIM? EWW!!!") Some of us are such social disasters that our reputations precede us.

[@onestate3074]

Its not that I have serious autism or anything (I'm capable of flirting) but I am very Intrigued by I individuals with autism.

[@alexanderbrewis1859]

Yeah the much more likely scenario is that I get freaked out that I might creep her out so never admit that I like them lol 😆

[@hackdown3]

It's a good starting point there. I wish it'd go further than what was said.

[@Genin99]

The people who are too socially awkward go to people in Liz Laugeson's line of work regularly. I have Aspergers and I've been to a few support groups for people with Aspergers. At these support groups we learn how to socialize and it's normally for people(or kids depending on the general age for the group) who can interact with others pretty well.

[@marcallencastro7789]

Hey Alex, Not sure if you could answer this, kinda personal, was wondering if its possible for an aspie to have a romantic/sexual relationship with a nypical?

[@PJVids83]

+Marc A. Castro I'll answer that question. Yes, yes it is possible. In my case, I met a single mother with an autistic son and it went well for a while. So, you just have to look for the right people in the right places.

[@Will403536]

I'm not even an assgasm but that was a useful video. Also, what the hell are "NT"s that people keep mentioning?

[@imaliven8470]

So how does an austistic girl ask a guy out and not be afraid of being judged? I feel like men discriminate disabilities and I thought there is a law we shouldn't discriminate.

[@georginajovanovic]

I would like more information

[@lGalaxisl]

Wow, if that girl was not acting and just spontaneous, then I would definitely like some with her personality in my neighbourhood

[@Disneyfan5150]

@gridracing, I know how you feel man, difference though is I have AS and i've changed to a point where people wont know unless I tell them

[@Aaron91092]

My problrm is I talk about myself alot because I dont know what to say, so It makes me look selfish.

[@ZacharySmith89]

"Flight of the Bumblebee", I believe.

[@JohnnyBoombatz1119]

haha if only it was this easy...it's like they are showing the Game Shark version

[@Kyle-ii4fp]

I'm going to be 24 on March 25th and no luck :/

[@jonathanrogers5163]

Kyle Bergman lol

[@dpfljr]

Hey dude, don't worry about it! You'll actually be more attractive to women when you're in your 30's! In the meantime work on getting your shit together and improving yourself! Also check out 33secrets to dating mastery and Rollo Tomassi's Rational Male!

[@Akendolfr]

One day Autism TV will talk about something worth f**king talking about! :D

[@saltedbrownies]

I

[@Wiseblood1]

how do you know if its really a girl?? sometimes people lie and i am really really gullible.

[@noxure]

When you learn more about human sexual relations, the more you become aware how boring it all is. X is attracted to Y when X subconsciously thinks that Y is the best he/she can get. What X values can vary, but for a large part they are evolution and culturally defined. That's what it basically boils down to. So basically, when you are attracted to someone, you have to try to impress them so they are attracted to you, just like any other animal.

[@Princess2Warrior]

*What a faulty and self-deluding statement you just wrote. Most women are attracted to stupid, weak, abusive males, which disproves Darwin's theory of evolution. Evolution is nonexistent.*

[@dpfljr]

Actually Check out Rollo Tomassi's Rational Male Blog for the truth on that one

[@dpfljr]

@@Princess2Warrior Translation Strong Alpha guys that can see past all the BS

[@SpookeyClown]

I say don't even bother trying to guess, aspies are terrible at that. Just ask, save yourself some time. Find some sort of warm facial expression that you're comfortable with. Don't bother spending time with someone with no common interest. I tend to be forth coming about my gremlin rules like no theaters, restaurants (well lit ones anyways). Making a list of descriptive reasoning as to how you feel in public places and use it in conversation. Do you already have a notion of compatible traits?

[@dpfljr]

Learn body language

[@jaxv94]

Tips Fedora* M'lady

[@christinabutterfield1801]

Xiuhcoatl :(

[@dpfljr]

That'll definitely get you rejected real quick

[@sundelight8230]

I need some advice theres a girl who i like a shes autistic and we both in the same performing arts group we have see each other but she shy and she is beautiful i know she liked one of my poems and i dunno if i should write her a poem. Ive not been tested for austism but i think i have got it my aunty thinks i have. Ive just got myself on the list to be tested. Im 29 shes 28 but shes beautiful. I dis giv her my number and said if u wanna hang out heres my number and shes said that would be good but i know shes shy and has trust issues. Can someone help me with advice what to do thanks. I do sometimes think im ugly and shes beautiful

[@JaredIsSmelly]

I just want to be helpful and say if a girl gives you a number with 555 in it, she's not interested.

[@banjaxed73]

"Let's assume they're ALREADY on a date." And, we got there - how...?

[@MbappeTheGoatFC]

I am actually on the mild spectrum

[@CivicChuk]

Actually, I think this video is quite realistic but we just aren't given the full story behind why she's there. I bet she's in that doctors office as part of her court-mandated psychotherapy that was the result of her plea-bargain for castrating her last three boyfriends. Therefore, she is displaying interest in him, but only as a future victim!

[@dpfljr]

That's the more likely scenario

[@lordoffrog2354]

'That would be really fun' lmao

[@LordNifty]

Common interests, common interests... what happens if, hypothetically, I happen to be, say... quite nerdy? :)

[@katiejones3804]

Thank you!

[@jacoblee5546]

To be fair, most men would have their confidence tested if they asked out a 10/10 latina 😔❤️

[@BP-dz8rr]

This seems robotic...

[@thomasrichards646]

Wow if only it was that easy

[@jakeu3164]

I myself have autism and I this video can help me get a girlfriend.

[@Klarence75]

Teach me plzz😢😢😢

[@dhammaboy1203]

If you attempted the conversation as depicted in this video in Australian culture (who, like the British are not very open to people they don't know imitating conversation) - it wouldn't work. When I traveled to the US - I found Americans significantly more open to casual conversation. This example is not a cultural fit for my country.

[@horrdfr33dom49]

That's why we have dubstep. Lol ;) Ajapai - Energize Listen to that bro!

[@damiandanev9271]

Scripts are a great thing mainly because they can be completely detached from reality. 2:09 convo doesn't exist in the real word unless you are attractive or the woman is unattractive, it goes more like this: Man: Are you watching bla bla bla on your iPhone ? Girl: Ammm, yeah... *thinks how creep was that Man: I love Woody Allen. Girl: Ok, nice. *fake smile, thinking : OMG here we go again, this guy trying to start a conversation, cant he get the hint that i am not interested by my minimalistic replays ? Man: Do you have a favourite of his ? Girl: Amm, i am not sure... *thinking : ok, hes got to get the hint now... Man: Ok. * damn, looks like i am disturbing her. Girl: *damn right you are!

[@UCjhEZRDM1uJVxbqyFlp]

1:46 What's her name or does she have Facebook (not kidding)? Thank you. From another Alex.

[@liam-jaywalker5592]

All I know is she from 'modern family' her name in that is Hayley

[@datahim5684]

I'm gonna be honest here as an Aspie. If you say the right things to girls when you're in a good frame of mind you may be able to get a chat and a flirt, but if you have a social or a genetic malfunction women will smell that a mile off. This videos setting autistic guy's up to fail. We live in a world that's rigged against us and even the nice neurotypicals will show their true colours when it comes to real issues (e.g relationships, employment or legal issues). If you're on the spectrum it's you versus the world.

[@Scarboi2021]

HA,i will die alone theres no way of letting me enjoy a relationship!