Things I Wish I Knew About Making Friends in College/University

[@monicology]

👋 What is something you look for in a friend? Let's discuss! :)

[@avrxse]

👋 The main thing I look for in a friend is someone who is selfless. Beacause that will determine that they will care, love, and be empathetic to you! I also think someone who is loyal and encouraging!

[@avrxse]

*Because 👌😂

[@ayanaroseviju5663]

A friend who can understand me..💞 support during the worst times....

[@medinasehicc]

Ayana Rose Viju same

[@monicology]

@@avrxse I agree with this!! I think patience is also one of the most important traits to have, not only in as friend, but as a person in general. :)

[@snakeywakey4109]

How i made friends was basically on the first day of school, id choose a spot where someone was likely to sit and sat there, then people would sit next to me, infront of me or behind me, then id usually do an activity like drawing or writing something and wait for them to look at what im doing, acting like im completely zoned out, and if they asked me something, id reply and try to keep the convo up. Imo this worked a bit but the biggest problem for me is maintaining friends because i havent talked to any of them since summer started

[@monicology]

I have a challenge for you: why don't you reach out to some of your friends to see how they are doing?

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies.” ― Aristotle

[@monicology]

I'm so thankful for your comments. They are always so inspiring and they make my day. I always look forward to reading your comments! Which is your favourite quote?

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

@@monicology Thanks and enjoyed your video till the end. And smashed that like button too. One of my favorite quote that I remind myself everyday is “Life is not short; We just waste most of It." by Seneca. Or “People are frugal in guarding their personal property; but as soon as it comes to squandering time they are most wasteful of the one thing in which it is right to be stingy. It is not that we have so little time but that we lose so much. ... The life we receive is not short but we make it so; we are not ill provided but use what we have wastefully.” Do you've any favorite at the moment?

[@monicology]

​@@QuestionEverythingButWHY Thanks for your support! These are really meaningful quotes. I'll add these to my quote book! I think one of my favourite quotes is this one: “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars.” ― Norman Vincent Peale This quote is quite meaningful to me and I live by it, to a certain extent. For much of my life, I've always held back on what I wanted to do because I always wanted to avoid possible failures. But that changed in the recent years. Like this quote suggests, I think there's much to learn even from "failed" experiences. Simply not going for something, say a competitive job opening, because of the possible negative consequences guarantees a missed opportunity. Conversely, applying to a competitive position means there's a chance for success and guaranteed an opportunity to learn something throughout the process. That's been my mindset. :)

[@ayanaroseviju5663]

@@QuestionEverythingButWHY 🤞💞

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

@@monicology I didn't knew that quote back then but I used to say something similar, "Shoot for the star. At least you will reach the moon." That's how my life has been. I used to use that quote to my friends all the time. But recently I stopped using this quote. Maybe because it's obvious to everyone now. Reading your comment reminded me of few quotes I love. Here it is. “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” ― Albert Einstein “Until you're ready to look foolish, you'll never have the possibility of being great.” ― Cher “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.” --Mark Twain “Unfortunately, the clock is ticking, the hours are going by. The past increases, the future recedes. Possibilities decreasing, regrets mounting.” ― Haruki Murakami Hope you find it comforting!

[@minerva7699]

I like everything in here.. Loving your edits in aesthetic way and that writing in the tablet. And yes "Friendship is a Process" you can't call somebody as FRIEND if you feel you can't connect with their soul. Friendship is always a gift - - it is being with co humans and help making life more colorful and wonderful. Friendship is priceless. It's not available unfortunately in Amazon and whatsoever online and personal stores. Rather it is stored in the heart! I just met you. So how are you doing?? You're amazing. Hopefully to hear you at times. Sending you hugs!!

[@monicology]

That's so well said! I'm doing well, how about you? How's life in the Philippines? :D

[@glow15]

Such a lovely edit! Thank you, we're going back to campus soon and I'm either really excited or nervous about meeting people again!

[@monicology]

thank you so much! me too! are your classes in person or online?

[@ForeverMish26]

Study groups, frosh events, and even just going to interactive places on the campus. We had a place we called the rec house at UofT - it had a pool table, some chalk boards, a huge tv- we would go there for movie nights and at the time the Walking Dead was the it show and so we would watch there every week with like 30 people who loved the show! If there isn’t anything like this on your campus, may it happen! Watch parties are super fun and you can do it with any show or movie :) Great video! Your tips will definitely help people!

[@monicology]

Omg you went to UoT? That's so cool! (Many of my friends go to UoT). What college did you go to?

[@ForeverMish26]

I wish I knew I went to the Scarborough campus if that’s what you mean... I never went to college.

[@monicology]

@@ForeverMish26 Ohhh I see! At St George you have a "college" you belong to. Like, "Victoria College, University of Toronto" or "Trinity College, University of Toronto". I guess it's a bit different at Scarborough!

[@ForeverMish26]

I wish I knew yeah, nope it was just UTSC :)

[@monicology]

@@ForeverMish26 Ahh gotcha. So cool! I love Toronto, it's my second home. :)

[@JhennipherBarbara]

love all of these tips and your editing style! this vid is so helpful 💕

[@monicology]

Thank you so much! I also like your channel a lot! Girlll your skincare routine video is awesome - you're literally GLOWING! 💕

[@petsforlife1195]

Thank you for. Making this! I have a new friend now because of this!

[@monicology]

Ahh that's so wonderful to hear! Which tip helped you the most?

[@petsforlife1195]

The tip to take initiative, and to join clubs, I just texted her at first, and we just been talking since,

[@monicology]

@@petsforlife1195 That's so awesome! Keep me updated about how things go!! :D

[@girlyessencee5273]

Thank you, Great tips!! Definitely joining clubs and extra activities is a great way to meet new people, and going alone is even better, as you will have to push yourself out of your comfort zone to get to know new people. Friendships definitely take time to develop, too bad some people don't want to put the time in!

[@monicology]

Hey! I completely agree with your point. How have you found uni this term with the current situation and everything going on?

[@bushrakhan8749]

Wellness is incredibly important, and friends and support circles are a key part of that! Our class has a facebook meme group, and it helps us to share frustrations and laugh about "Zoom University" as well as bond as a class! Thanks for making wholesome, yet practical content M! 💛🍎

[@monicology]

I often think that I am the average of the people I surround myself with, the people who I look up to, and the types of information I consume. This along with exercise + sleep + work factor into my wellness! 💛 This video is dedicated to you as mentioned in the description, thank you so much for being an amazing friend!

[@williamcopic817]

Great tips! I've often been challenged by this as I'm sure many others have too!

[@monicology]

Thanks for watching! Which tip did you find the most useful?

[@williamcopic817]

@@monicology I think the follow up is really important

[@monicology]

@@williamcopic817 Sameeee you should definitely reach out to a friend and see how they're doing today! That's my challenge to you :D

[@stardustsarah]

Yeah I needed this because i kind of suck at making friends and keeping up tbh 🤦🏻‍♀️😅 Thanks for these tips 💜 Also, I love your doodling uwu

[@monicology]

I'll be your friend! :) and thanks so much Sarah!!

[@stardustsarah]

@@monicology aw 💜😃

[@elliesbrooke]

This is so important, to reach out and make that contact, I'm not in school or uni, so it's difficult to meet new people, but I have thought about maybe joining a club like you say, maybe a sports club :) xxxx

[@monicology]

Yes for sure! What sports do you like to play? Also, I can't wait to hear more of your music Ellie!

[@missrelaxed3872]

I just found your channel & I absolutely love your video

[@monicology]

Yay! Thank you!! How did you find me? :D

[@clarabellewang9244]

When I answer with one word it doesn’t mean I don’t want to be your friend. I am just stiff at socializing. But now I think I am ok it at, thanks to my friends that open up to me that I slowly open up to them. If you see a person that is very reserved and have no friends or only one I think that they will be grateful that you approach them

[@monicology]

This is a great message! What did you think of the video? :)

[@clarabellewang9244]

I wish I knew the video is amazing 😊

[@TheProjectHelpDesk]

Funny thing is that most of my first year friends were all by accident. I was in marching band my first year of college so that helped to meet a whole bunch of new people at once. I already knew a handful of people and after the end of rehearsal I was talking to someone taht I thought was my friend because I was looking down and this guy had the same shoes on. I didn't look up so I was saying ,"Hey we should go grab lunch at Dodson." The response shocked me, "I'd be glad to, but who are you?" I looked up and was 10 shades of embarrassed, but this guy and I did go grab lunch and he became one of my best friends. We still joke about me mistaking him for someone else based on his shoes 25 years later. Another person -- I trying to find all of my classrooms prior to class starting and walked into one of the two gymnasiums. I literally walked into someone. I turned 10 shades of red and he apologized for not paying attention. So yeah. Be yourself. That one person happened to be a new member of a church group I was interested in so by literally walking into someone I met so many more people some of whom are still my friends 25 years later.

[@monicology]

Awesome stories! I think people are generally pretty kind and open to meeting others so who knows - a simple hello could lead to lifelong friendship. :)

[@TheProjectHelpDesk]

@@monicology That's true. I have a doozy of a story about how I met my best friend.

[@monicology]

@@TheProjectHelpDesk It's an awesome story. Your life seems to be super interesting! :D Lol I've met my friends in pretty typical ways - mostly from class and labs.

[@TheProjectHelpDesk]

@@monicology not interesting. actually pretty boring.

[@monicology]

@@TheProjectHelpDesk It seems pretty cool to me! I watch your videos and I sense that it's awesome! :)

[@BohbearonYT]

I find it way easier to make friends with people online than in person, not sure why.

[@monicology]

I would also agree.. because when I type, I can take more time to think about what I want to say as opposed to having to think on the spot haha. What are some online communities you use to make friends with new people?

[@stardustsarah]

Oh wow I wish I was like that. It's hard for mw online

[@shreyaambade6688]

So cool! Thanks!

[@monicology]

No problem! What did you think of this video? :)

[@VGMobster]

I remember in college the friends I made forming freshman year were my best ones! I recommend if possible to room freshman year to really gain great friends in college

[@monicology]

That's really great to hear! In light of the current situations I think it'll be difficult since school is online, but I think there are some great online communities out there that can serve as a place for people to meet new friends until things are okay again. Btw, what are some games you'd recommend some freshman to try while they're in quarantine/at home?

[@itsanna04]

Another student and I are the only two students who are studying Visual Arts in my class. I can already sense that he hates me or doesn't want anything to do with me. And now we have to study the same subject for the next two years...any advice?

[@monicology]

Thanks for reaching out! If you sense that this person doesn't like you, you don't need to talk to them (you don't have to be friends with all your peers). I think that as long as everything on your end is good (e.g., you don't hate them back for whatever reason), you shouldn't worry about what he thinks of you. Why does his opinion matter anyway?

[@itsanna04]

@@monicology Hmm true that! Thank you so much!

[@monicology]

@@itsanna04 Let me know how that goes! Always happy to chat + keep me updated alright?

[@itsanna04]

@@monicology I would love too! Is it weird that I feel like I have an older sibling now? Especially being an only child 😂

[@monicology]

​@@itsanna04 Yay I'll be glad to know how things work out! Always happy to chat. :) fun fact: this channel name was originally going to be called "your big sister [my name]" haha so it's quite fitting!

[@abbyjane5452]

always loved ur aesthetics! hmm i agree that making friends is really challenging but its really important or you'll be lonely the whole school year hahahahaha

[@monicology]

Thanks Abby!

[@marcussilv2149]

Second :)

[@monicology]

Third... lol

[@marcussilv2149]

@@monicology third :)

[@monicology]

@@marcussilv2149 Did you mean... fourth? LOL this is fifth hahaha

[@marcussilv2149]

@@monicology welp

[@monicology]

@@marcussilv2149 You mean *six

[@eristea7418]

I'll use this tip. BTW, thank you on visiting my channel.

[@monicology]

Of course! Which tip did you find the most useful? :)

[@eristea7418]

Take the initiative, that's the most tip I need, because I usually wait for others to greet me. Haha!

[@monicology]

@@eristea7418 It's really life changing!!

[@savannahhamama617]

Great tips! Wanna support each other?

[@monicology]

Thanks for your support! :D I'll check out your videos!

[@MissCreepyTales]

As an introvert. This video sounds so challenging to me. Hahaha. But I love the ideas and they way you elaborate each one! Great video!

[@monicology]

Introverts unite! :^) Is there anything you'd like to see in the next video?

[@avrxse]

This video is amazing! These tips are very helpful and life-changing! Thank you! 😊😁 Friendship Quote: "The strong bond of a friendship is not always a balanced equation; friendship is not always about giving and taking in equal shares. Instead, friendship is grounded in a feeling that you know exactly who will be there for you when you need something, no matter what or when." - Simon Sinek

[@monicology]

Simon Sinek is AMAZING. Have you read his books? I know you said you loved books, so if you haven't read it yet this is definitely a must-read!

[@avrxse]

@@monicology I have not yet, but have MANY of his books on my to-be-read list and I hear many amazing things about him! I read his quotes a lot too, which got me this quote! :D

[@monicology]

@@avrxse I recommend reading the book summary/book of "find your why" - I watched a summary video earlier on the week and it really changed my perspective on why I do the things I do. Finding your "why" it's truly empowering. Simon Sinek helped me find my why. My "why" for this channel is to inspire youth and young adults to pursue education by providing them resources pertaining to the student life.

[@avrxse]

@@monicology That is truly wonderful! Your "why" is definitely working! I have heard of find your "why" before but never looked into much, now I can because of you, thank you!