Things Non Binary People Wish YOU Knew About Being Non Binary

[@electronics-girl]

The correct answer to "What's in your pants" is always "legs".

[@jacquelinelowe6324]

No..... It's the gods and worlds of mass destruction and death (make a innocent face - :3 this is an example)

[@Danica_K.H.H.]

Actually, butt. The butt is always in the pants. Some people don't have legs, but everybody have butt.

[@rudolfst3367]

@@Danica_K.H.H. Nope, some people don't have butts.

[@Danica_K.H.H.]

@@rudolfst3367 goodness.

[@JulieCoal]

Yes, no naughty parts are afab and amab unlearn and relearn gender and sex are between the ears nothing else matters. Only doctors use the tems afab and amab ushally, I don't believe in it, but I use it to describe anyone who identifies as a binary identity.

[@junoeggers8878]

If we aren't involved or you aren't bankrolling my transition then I owe you nothing. Don't ask invasive questions. If you wouldn't want someone asking your mother or sister that question don't ask it of a stranger.

[@AlterGamersack]

I just watched the video and read your comment and I understand it and at the same time also understand why many people would ask some questions that can be considered invasive just because they don't consider them to be that. I think the most important thing is to always ask, if you could ask a person something, that would certainly lead to less problems.

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

Let nonbinary people have a binary exploration phase and have binary people have a nonbinary exploration phase. We all change through our lives. Calling everything a phase is just rude!

[@barryledgister4496]

You`ve just called them phases..`a binary exploration phase` and a `nonbinary exploration phase`.

[@Danica_K.H.H.]

There is some kind of point in this. Like, what will happen if people will experiment with their gender expression freely? First, the cis people who experiment like that will have an additional breath of freedom. Second, the nb people will become visible. And third, the binary trans-people will become visible. And both nb and binary trans-people will come to their gender realization more freely and easily. And maaaaybe cis people will make their lifes less discomforting. Less "dress more manly/girly, walk like that, do things like that, blabla".

[@omp199]

How about recognising that because we change throughout our lives it is absurd to make our primary means of categorising people one of those things that can change? How about we experience the obvious lightbulb-over-the-head moment and understand that it would be better to make our primary means of categorising people something that will never change, such as, oh, I don't know, their sex?

[@hollisbostick2872]

I was enjoying the video normally until the very end: "Don't ask non-binary people invasive questions. Please, for the love of God.", whereupon I laughed out loud and am still smiling about. From your lips to God's ears, Lynn! ❤

[@theidiotwithnoname2801]

It's not a trend

[@HermelJaworski]

@@facthunt2facthunt245 Well, they can be ace, non binary and trans, and lesbian. These are multiple aspects of their identity, not 5 different ones

[@BulbasaurRepresent]

@@facthunt2facthunt245 Being transgender means being a gender not assigned at birth - which non-binary is.

[@omp199]

@@HermelJaworski A lesbian is a woman - i.e., an adult human female - who is attracted to other women - i.e., adult human females. If someone is a woman, they should be able to simply say so, without jumping through all these hoops. If they are not comfortable doing so, they might need help in digging down to the root cause of their discomfort, and in addressing it. Playing with labels is just a distraction from that.

[@SylvesterLazarus]

​@@omp199 Labels are used to describe someone's experience and not to mask any supposed issues that they have. Somebody can absolutely have discomfort about their body while not being trans, actually most people do at least to a degree. Everyone who is trans went through that and came to the conclusion that they are not simply dissatisfied with their bodies but but have an identity that doesn't align with their body. Ace describes an aspect of your sexuality, non-binary and trans describe your gender identity, and lesbian a label you use that roughly describes both your sexual orientation and your gender for other people to understand. It's not jumping hoops, it's using language to describe who they are and how they feel beyond just the traditional system.

[@JulieCoal]

I wish but unfortunately we need stage 2 or we will never get respect form cis identifying people.

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

Some of us speak english as our default language even though we're not from an english-speaking country because our languages are heavily gendered. And speaking english avoids gendering EVERY verb, adverb and adjective 😅

[@jbach1738]

It would be considered completely inappropriate for a cis person to ask any other cis person about their (or their children's) private parts. So why do they think it's ok to ask trans people this? I have straight up had people ask me if I have certain parts in my pants. This happens to binary trans people all the time too. Cis people, please stop asking other people about things that only a doctor or sexual partner needs ro know. Those questions are creepy as hell.

[@zefiro6829]

There was a someone at a group therapy whose offspring is nonbinary. The way she would correct herself was so sweet 'cause I think I've only met one other parent with an enby kid (she was also supportive, but the group therapy mom takes first place 'cause she never once joked about "pronouns these days"). (in a warm, soft voice that could melt the entirety of Greenland) "My sonー Oops; I mean my offspring..." "He's shy about making videos... I mean, _it's_ shy about making videos."

[@NithinJune]

offspring is such a clinical way to say children

[@NithinJune]

child or kid is another option that’s a lot less formal!

[@omp199]

@@NithinJune Yes. And the "it" pronoun is dehumanising, too. If these are the child's preferences, then it suggests that the child has some serious self-hatred thing going on, thinking that they are not worthy of being considered human. It is deeply troubling. And the OP is celebrating it! Doesn't that say all that needs to be said about this movement?

[@DasOrangensaft.]

Uhm. Just because you associate the pronoun "it" with non-humanity that does not mean it is like this for other people. Also you probably don't know neither the mother nor their offspring. So maybe don't assume as much. Thank you.@@omp199

[@paulhammond6978]

@@omp199 ehh - when I heard that the kid went by "its" I immediately thought of Luxander whose videos I have seen. It also co-hosts on the Trans Atlantic Call In Show on The Line fairly regularly these days.

[@natascha_mephisto]

OMG you used my comment I am so honored ahhhhh♥

[@bdariamihaela]

I am a cis girl but in my gender expression I have two extremes: 1. Nails, make up, skirts and dresses, all the colours of the rainbow and 2. Give me the most oversized hoodie with jeanes and a low ponytail. Most days I'm somewhere in between but more twords 2nd. So yeah I think I'm a little gender non-conforming

[@barryledgister4496]

Every woman is like that. Clothes for work, evening-wear,leisure, partying, slobbing around the house,formal occasions, working on the car and chores etc etc. It`s not `gender expression`. It`s called `having a wardrobe`.

[@bdariamihaela]

@@barryledgister4496 my mom and aunt are nothing like that

[@the.redtent]

This is just fashion ffs... stop putting labels on yourself

[@omp199]

You've got too much time on your hands if you are philosophising about clothes and makeup. Sometimes I wonder if all this nonsense would have gone away if only we'd listened to the naturists. Stop being so shallow, buy some textbooks, and acquire some genuine knowledge about the reality that we all live in.

[@JulieCoal]

​@@bdariamihaela"mom and girl" are offensive it's mom identifying and cis girl or trans girl.

[@Nova-_-]

I hate it when people think non-binary is just a third gender like no I'm personally a demigirl, i'm gonna be as distinct and different to the next non-binary person you meet as we both will be compared to the one after that

[@xamtastic]

Oh my god....

[@Doglover13391]

Tomorrow is my birthday and I love your videos

[@theidiotwithnoname2801]

Happy early birthday!

[@SusieLostHerDog]

Happy birthday!

[@Doglover13391]

Thanks

[@NagisaP]

happy birthday 🥳🎈🎂🎉🎈

[@riverchampeimont]

I'm very admirative that you have overcome the feeling that you need to look androgynous to be taken seriously as a non-binary person.

[@facthunt2facthunt245]

She wanted to take T a few days ago so that doesn't make any sense.

[@riverchampeimont]

@@facthunt2facthunt245 They want low dose T for another reason which is probably they have gender dysphoria which is pretty common for trans people (both binary and non-binary). On the other hand, as non binary people we often feel we need to look more androgynous because otherwise people would see us as our agab, so it requires a great deal of confidence to resist this and not care if people misgender you.

[@omp199]

@@riverchampeimont I don't know anything about this person. I just got recommended this video but don't really fancy watching it. Having said that, I don't want any harm to come to the presenter of the video. I don't want her to damage herself by taking hormones as a response to what might well be purely a problem with her mental health. I hope she can get whatever mental health support she needs without having to resort to making irreversible physical changes.

[@ChristianKhan-yj6sw]

she*

[@HermelJaworski]

I really loved this video, it feels so good to get this kind of reassurance! as a masc presenting AMAB non binary person, thank you!

[@DangerousKaos]

6:43 this is sooooo me now lol 😆😭 it’s hard to speak up and say to people what I am at times, but I definitely feel inspired by your story and journey 💜

[@SylvesterLazarus]

I want to add 2 requests to binary people: - Yes, use google and the internet if you have questions but please always listen to the answers of non-binary people (or people from any other group that you're interested in) and not just outside sources! Asking anyone directly is also always okay if you do it with respect and without ill intent, and please also accept if they don't want to talk about a topic or about themselves in some ways. I'll claim 99% of the time you'll be answered with respect and compassion. - There are non-binary (among others) people who will tell you things like, "Yeah, I use they/them but I'm not that serious about it, so use any pronouns!" Often people will tell you that for many reasons like not wanting to upset people or to not sound demanding, but will be bothered by misgendering or similar things, so if you know that someone prefers any set of pronouns or isn't comfortable being addressed in a certain way (like being NB and not wanting to be addressed in a way that is really gender specific, like saying "You're a nice dude, man!"), please give them the respect of using or not using something they are or aren't comfortable with!

[@omp199]

Or, how about we don't pander to their unreasonable expectations of special treatment and just treat them in the exact same way that we treat everyone else?

[@SylvesterLazarus]

@@omp199 The same way as everyone else.. You already don't use racial slurs against different ethnic groups or outdated medical terms as slurs against disabled people. If someone was bald and the person asked you not to call them Baldy because it's hurting them you would not call them that anymore, or you wouldn't call a stranger Cutiepie or Big Daddy just because you please. But if someone told you that they prefer they/them and to please not call them an adorable little princess baby girl then it's not okay anymore and it's "special treatment".

[@blazi64]

Your videos are so important and underrated

[@aiofox22]

GUYS! I NEED HELP (really good video btw ❤🙃) I know that I'm Non-Binary, I mean, I feel non-binary and I already understand the whole thing and I am, but I also see communities of trans people and they also want to hide their chest and not have curves, LIKE ME! And I don't know whether to cut my hair or not, I feel like it would make me happier and be called with male pronouns but I don't really care, so please help, I'm confused, I don't know if I'm trans or non-binary 😕

[@riverchampeimont]

Wanting to hide your chest can be both a trans binary or non binary thing. For instance as an enby I feel gender dysphoria for some parts of my body but not others.

[@hollisbostick2872]

The purpose of your journey is not to "fix" yourself to better conform to a descriptive label. The purpose of your journey is to become more comfortable in your own skin, so that you don't have to waste all your energy 'passing' (already uncomfortable) as someone you don't feel comfortable with in the first place. It is not actually relevant how other people's journeys unfold. There are cis enbys, there are trans enbys (hello!👋🏾 that's me!), and there are enbys who just do what they do and would prefer not to be labelled at all. This is what Lynn means when they say "There is no right/one way to be non-binary." If you know that ,that label resonates with you, _then _*_whateve r you do is non-binary_* , no matter what gatekeepers have to say about it. As to being trans, technically as an enby you are (because your gender does not align with your gender assigned at birth), but *sex and gender are not the same* , so if you're for the most part OK with the sex you were assigned at birth, you are not "required" to change it to be "trans enough" -- nor are you required to label yourself as trans _even if you want to change your body to some degree_ . Your journey is *yours* , for *your* reasons, and all that matters is that you're satisfied, not that others understand/agree with your labels (or lack thereof). (Except, of course for the hoops you have to jump through to satisfy various interests if you want to medically transition, but that's a whole different discussion.) Have fun discovering yourself💛💛😀🎆 !

[@ramen8285]

Transgender just means you don't identify with your assigned birth gender, and non-binary is an umbrella term which falls under transgender. You can identify as both transgender and non-binary, or just non-binary, or just transgender. Make the labels fit you, but don't try to make yourself fit the labels. Also, terms such as "transmasculine" and "transfeminine" exist, which you can probably guess their meanings. You can use these labels to help you and people around you to understand you more.

[@aiofox22]

Thank you all, you really helped me :) You cleared my mind more, and I have to continue on this journey to discover myself, but at least I have a clearer idea of ​​what I am, thank you ❤

[@omp199]

@@aiofox22 Since you refer to your chest and curves, I am guessing you are a woman. If it makes you uncomfortable to say so, then that's a problem that a mental health professional should be able to help you with. I hope that you are able to seek out and find the help that you need to accept what you really are. You don't need a "gender". You just need to understand and accept that which is real.

[@makotomodachi]

Gender is not related to the hobbies you have. A lot of enbyphobes like to present the argument that nonbinary people are just gender non-conforming people, and they always mention "gendered" hobbies. I'm genderfluid and I like music, anime/manga, video games, and alternative fashion/makeup. These are hobbies anybody can enjoy, not a specific gender. I am also AFAB and like to dress in more feminine styles compared to masculine or androgynous ones. Does this make me a cis woman or not a "real" nonbinary person? No, it doesn't. Being nonbinary is very flexible and you can be yourself without being put into a box that society wants you to be in. I really like feminine things and being femme presenting, but it doesn't make me less nonbinary.

[@TakeAchance365]

This reminds me of one of my favorite quotes from the TV show. I love Doctor Who it’s from the 11th doctor It goes like this we all change if you think about it all of us are different people all throughout our lives and that is good. You gotta keep moving so as long as you remember all the people that you used to be. - Matt smith the 11th doctor

[@Nova-_-]

doctor who has so many trans-positive moments it's awesome not perfect, but definitely up there the doctor is very gender

[@TakeAchance365]

@@Nova-_- I feel like one of the best things about the doctor is that they can regenerate and they literally just go by the doctor

[@Nova-_-]

@@TakeAchance365 the definite article

[@goinowhere]

you're amazing! 🌈, thanks so much for making this kind of videos

[@5PctJuice]

Hey, hi, hello. Super new viewer just sitting here with some hot cocoa enjoying this video because I very recently (after battling on and off with my identity for 11 years) realized that I'm nonbinary and some form of ace (leaning aego right now from the terms I've found). I'm mostly just watching/looking at memes wondering how my love of garlic bread didn't clue me in sooner, but videos like this are amazing too! Just a super quick thing on what actually made me fully understand that I'm nb: literally just saying "they" to myself and giggling uncontrollably like an idiot for a solid 3 minutes.

[@JohnBarfield-qw3bh]

I just love your videos. ❤❤

[@liamodonovan6610]

You are a non binary beautiful sweet person love you're intelligent channel i respect you as a transgender non binary beautiful person

[@GalaxyPenguin99]

All non binary people love these kinds of vids. Gl with the sub goal before pride month!

[@ethan_the_alien]

To be clear, trans people can be gender nonconforming as well. Trans men who do not dress in clothes that people typically associate with men can be considered gender nonconforming, and vice versa for trans women as well.

[@jureslegel3877]

Another thing is most people realy dont care what you are if they dont like you as a person they dont want to hang with you and that is it. And there are people who are bored and just want to argue about everything.

[@davidprince1138]

"I want to be special and unique and belong to my cliche of peers."

[@ishaalimtiaz6715]

Lynn you so cool ☆☆☆

[@orangesnowflake3769]

You 'talk with the side of your mouth' as well

[@DorkSideoftheMoon]

It’s just an aesthetic the internet has convinced you all is important… If the internet was as prominent in the ‘90s, we would probably have “goth-self” or “grunge-self.”

[@dankelly7712]

“Rigid sets in western colonialized world” Are you kidding Lynn ???? Have you ever hung out with Kalahari bush people? People from a tiny village in China ? Or India ? How about the Inuit in Northern Canada? You want to try opposing rigid gender norms n those communities ? I think this demonstrates how uncritical your thinking is on this topic. I’m not a hater, just responding to your opinions with my own observations.

[@sondraford3644]

New enby just here to say hi. Love to see good info., for the masses. Keep spreading the word. 💛 🤍 🖤 💜

[@facthunt2facthunt245]

In your last video you were saying you were trans.

[@riverchampeimont]

And they still are. Non-binary is a subcategory of trans basically.

[@elking8373]

Nonbinary is under the trans umbrella.

[@courtneyisaseagull]

You're the most obvious troll ever. Bye bye~

[@barryledgister4496]

Struggling to get the clicks and views. This channel just a couple of years ago was getting almost half a million views and 1000s of comments.

[@riverchampeimont]

And they are still trans. Non-binary is a subcategory of trans. They never said they stop identifying as nonbinary at any time.

[@rudolfst3367]

Things people wish non binary people knew: nobody has to go along and approve your ideas about yourself and the world.

[@SylvesterLazarus]

I choose to believe that Italy and Switzerland don't exist. They belong to the Roman Empire. Nobody has to approve of the ideas of those "Italians" and "Swiss" people..

[@JulieCoal]

😢 bad I'm it/itself today and you made me cry. How dare you.

[@Nothanxbuttyyy]

Im nonbinary, but still. Alllll of theseeeeee are what i want people to know.