Things Not To Say To Single Parents

Whether it's questions about your non-existent sex life or assumptions about how you came to be bringing up a child on your own in the first place, these are just some of the things that single parents are very tired of hearing.
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[@heyoitsme2416]

I love how most people out there just assume that all single parents had their partner leave them. My best friend was a single parent. She never had sex until after marriage. Her and her husband were happy. They had two kids. But he died of lung cancer when their kids were just 5 and 1. So now she's a single mom. Don't assume.

[@DK-uc9zr]

+Emily Roberts Oh common. Statistically the chances of a parent dying before a kid hits high school pales. On one hand it isn't socially acceptable to assume based on what is statistically probably and on the other hand a single parent becomes defensive if they're asked as to not assume. It's a catch-22.

[@dylanmorgan2752]

It’s far more likely the relationship failed statistically, than having a parent die. Assumption is a major part of what all humans including yourself do, to try and figure one another out. Most people will automatically assume the most likely option and cause for being a single parent and start there, rather than moving down the list of specificities such as “oh did your dad slowly drive off a cliff in a 1982 Volvo only to get struck by lightning halfway down and have his ashes eaten by sharks??” “No- my parents just split up”.

[@cultkitties]

TØP aNd PegGy at the disco *omg tøp and Panic!*

[@jevonjackson4236]

In fairness to this story she will get the benefit of being a widow aka single mother just saying.

[@hollyroberts3821]

@@cultkitties AND PEGGY

[@erinmiller1433]

Misogynist logic: If the mother leaves the father, it’s her fault per se. If the father leaves the mother, it’s her fault for choosing him in the first place.

[@isaaclooper1180]

Exactly. Quit picking abusive fuckboys.

[@erinmiller1433]

Isaac Looper So it’s never the man’s fault?

[@isaaclooper1180]

Like I said pick a good man instead of a fuckboy who's abusive. I mean women choose don't they?

[@erinmiller1433]

Isaac Looper So do men.

[@isaaclooper1180]

What do men choose? And women will pick an abusive fuckboy over an nice good man. It happens all the time. It gets annoying. Cause then you have women asking where are all the good men at? The good men were around. You just never chose them.

[@spiritedrenee9895]

Single parents are tough cookies.

[@tyan_ldn]

nobody likes em except for the person that made them

[@tyan_ldn]

19 actually and it was a joke

[@tyan_ldn]

Side note my mother is also single

[@tyan_ldn]

Would probably laugh because it was a good joke

[@tyan_ldn]

What?

[@abbyxxxx7976]

Okay think about this. person: “A child needs BOTH parents.” Gay couple raising a child. person: “You need a dad and a mo-“ “you said two parents!”

[@anastasiaantoinette272]

They can’t even complain. What next a transgender couple can’t raise a child?

[@bangtwitterandtwicetagram830]

abbyxxx x lmao 😂

[@billyosullivan4514]

Nice strawman

[@killerfox8]

a child with two gay parents is the perfect target for the bullies I guess your life can't get worth than that

[@broseidon1658]

Mohamed Fox Dude, no one cares. I came out to literally everyone in my school and no one gives a shit.

[@willcumming1267]

04:06 "Now you're a single mum, do you regret keeping it?" -- 😂😂😂 good GRIEF!! that's horrendous!

[@whoreallycares2368]

Will Cumming meh, a comment to mum is horrible but a lifetime to the kid - totally ok

[@darkenedpixi7693]

Will Cumming yeah that is horrid...... Omfg

[@lauren19965]

Will Cumming atleast someone was honest!

[@cecilia4947]

Oh my God I know, it's so rude to ask such a thing

[@lars9113]

I'm sorry but your name has me wheezing

[@xcfcleannecfcx]

" I will just stand here and drink my saliva " haha !

[@EMan753]

What an absolute mood 😂😂

[@Pa-gy5vh]

The worst thing is most parents can relate 😣😂

[@ddg80sbby]

The lady with the head wrap had me in stitches 😂😂😂

[@Saddiesinclaire]

Dava Greely same she seems so real and lovely 😂❤️

[@N-GinAndTonicTM]

"Oh, no! How did you open your legs for *that* ?"

[@siwap3809]

she is pretty funny

[@Onlinesully]

@@siwap3809 yes she was. and she also seemed to really have figured out how to do things better.

[@polly-jayne9719]

“A child needs both parents “ well um what do you expect them to do about it ? Magic a spouse out of nowhere ? No hunny

[@pinknet9811]

You look pretty

[@harshitmadan6449]

Don't deny custody to the other parent. That's it.

[@zahrah8512]

Harshit Madan So if their partner died then they shouldn’t deny them custody

[@ginger6readspaceman]

@@harshitmadan6449 What if the other parent was abusive or like, died 🤔

[@Feliciatanktop]

Harshit Madan many people don’t want custody. I know so many parents, men and women, who left their families and never came back. Sending the bare minimum child support checks and nothing else

[@yourmajesty7012]

There is nothing wrong with single parents, I was raised by two people and they did a horrible job now I'm left to fix the mistakes they made. I wouldn't mind being a single parent

[@music-is-speech6777]

Your Majesty same my parents have left me with so many issues because they didnt want to spilt up because of me and my siblings but they made the house a living hell because they dont like eachother

[@justing7490]

Your Majesty now imagine if you were only raised by one of those shit people..... I love people's assumptions that having only one parent will make that parent good. Odds are that one parent will be shit just like they would have if there were two of them. Believe it or not, having addition help doesn't make you a shit parent....

[@0xstev3]

you don't understand averages. two parent households are way better, on average. there are of course instances where single parents are good and two parents are bad, but overwhelmingly it's not the other way around in terms of outcomes.

[@EarlSquirrelsonn]

Your Majesty that’s s funny way to look at it. You would need a partner to have the child with, but you’d also be happy not to have them. I get what you mean, but like the majority of kids would want both parents.

[@area51escapee85]

I think I'd have been better off with just my mom if my parents had split up. I used to wish they did. I'm looking for a therapist now. @ballyoulsterboy, You don't need a partner to have kids. One of my friends was made by in-vitro fertilization.

[@hellokokoro4833]

It would have done me a WORLD of good if my parents HADN'T stayed together 'for the kid' in their broken marriage. They resented eachother deeply, and they're only human, so of course that resentment fell onto me-- the person 'forcing' them to stay together-- as well, and now I'm an incredibly anxious and depressed adult who struggles to believe a person can actually love me. :|

[@puntoofmystery6125]

ashley lindsey mood.

[@smhXD21]

ashley lindsey same but I'm only 14 how did u get through it, it's taking a big toll on me

[@niccotancredi3985]

I had an single parent, who took out all of her frustrations on me verbally and also through buying more things than she needed. She also has hoarding issues, as there was no other authority figure to help or stop her. I got told if I had a problem with it, I could leave, having no where to go. She has helped me out alot, but also emotionaly blackmailed me and given me HUGE selfesteem and trust issues. I am sad to say I live with her still as an adult because I can't seem to get a decent paying job, I don't do well with conflict and have become too much of a people pleaser. Turns out I have really bad anxiety and depression from years of trauma and stress, to the point where I now have panic attacks. I don't know how I would need to figure out how move out on my own.

[@KDsage123]

I swear. My mom dealt with my stepdad for so long because she thought it would be better for us to have both. But my childhood would have been so much better without him.

[@gracep2910]

The woman in pink is so beautiful.

[@tyan_ldn]

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[@user-ew4zq3zn9d]

Grace M Not my type....

[@Truth2power5848]

everything is cancer no one asked kmt

[@user-ew4zq3zn9d]

@@Truth2power5848 It's a preference lol

[@Singsonggirl]

Right?! She's so sexy!!

[@flerp5665]

Things not to say to people with depression/anxiety

[@MariaEduarda-uc6gt]

itz.just.alyssa tfw you make a light suicide joke and people get worried

[@Cheychaosxx]

Imagine this: being a single parent.. with depression and anxiety 😱.

[@summer_the_rae]

YES

[@dedacc1106]

itz.just.alyssa when you say to someone that you're depressed/anxious and they go "oh, but you're such a good person! You have all these great things in your life!" like singing and drawing are things that keep me from ending it all, not stopping my depression and anxiety. that's a whole other ordeal

[@kinsienoble6755]

"Everyone gets stressed sometimes" "Have you done anything to try getting better?" "What are you depressed about?"

[@georgia4159]

The ideal situation is 2 parents in a LOVING relationship. But as soon as the 2 parents turn TOXIC together, 1 LOVING parent becomes the best situation.

[@omadjourney]

As a single mom to my little boy I have heard most of those lol but as for the sex life???!!! what's that, that went out the window when I found myself all alone and holding the baby 11years ago lol.

[@t.jackson2613]

Term-B Phillip after a while doesn't it seem like another world? I don't even remember sex anymore. Lol I would feel like a messy virgin if it ever happens again. Lol

[@omadjourney]

That's so true it's not even on my mind anymore it's definitely like another world lol.

[@teqkingz5934]

i will be your messy virgin u cheeky slaag lets hav ya

[@pyrokineticfantasies8964]

Teqkingz chill dawg

[@happy_123_sophia]

As a single parent id rather my daughter have one very happy parent instead of two parents that hate each other and only stay together just for the kids as they said and then make the kids life a misery, sometimes you have to make the right decision for your child and i did by being a single mum! 😃

[@emmawhispers3146]

FLAMY SKYS I completely agree. I’m much happier now that my parents are divorced than I was when they were together and constantly fighting.

[@happy_123_sophia]

My mum commented on this not me

[@AnaM-vn6jk]

FLAMY SKYS as a teenager that grew up and still lives with parents that hate each other and are only living in the same place because of me, I completely agree.

[@naomihaygar3156]

Theoz Fan Please tell your mom I said she's awesome! 😀

[@Saddiesinclaire]

happy_123_ sophia happy_123_ sophia as someone who was raised with parents who dont love each other and was always fighting, i really wish they split up so as a young child growing up I didn’t have to witness all the fighting & be dragged into it day after day.

[@TheHazelNutX]

things not to say to people who wear glasses

[@cauliflowerfaerie2090]

hazzle bazzil yeeeeees!

[@CharPonyVA666]

hazzle bazzil How many fingers am I holding up?😂

[@TheHazelNutX]

CharPonyVA can i try them on??!!!?!?!??

[@jayymeszaros8744]

How do you see in these?? Or, wow you really can't see!

[@FaiTheValkyrie]

You look beautiful without your glasses

[@ngdj999]

my mama is a single parent and she tried her best

[@EveryDayALittleDeath]

My parents divorced when I was eighteen months old. And I'm so glad they did. I never felt the tension of them fighting, I never felt like it was my fault. I never missed them being together because this was all I knew. Staying together for the kids is stupid and only hurts the children, because they pick up on it. The earlier you do it, the better, because then they have more time to adjust.

[@brenyy96]

Please do one about adults with braces! Or picky eaters would be great too

[@tess6193]

brenyy96 omg I’m a picky eater so that one would be great

[@missmagic5752]

Oh my god, single parents can rock their kids' worlds. My mom is a single parent, but still allows me to visit with my dad's family and my half-sister. I love my family, but I love my mom even more for keeping me

[@akira2775]

Things not to say to people with depression? Because I always hear people go “oh you’re too young to have depression” or “it’s just a stage. She’ll be fine.” I despise it.

[@Kokuen17]

things not to say to people with depression

[@gavin1118]

Kokuen17 Good call, I’ve been waiting for this one for a LONG TIME! ☺️

[@AnaM-vn6jk]

Kokuen17 “just be happy”

[@mitzypinks1338]

It’s been done

[@ollie-ver7114]

one time when my divorced parents, my best friend (who knows my parents are divorced), and my twin and I were on our way to summerfest. we had the radio on, so, right once we stopped talking, a commercial about how "in order for your kids to turn out fine, they have to have parents who love and support each other. you don't want to get a divorce, it'll ruin the kid's happiness" and whatever. WITH MY DIVORCED PARENTS AND THEIR KIDS ALL TOGETHER IN A CAR, JUST TO HEAR A COMMERCIAL ABOUT HOW ME AND MY BROTHER ARE SUPPOSEDLY MENTALLY ILL

[@starstone3620]

well shit!

[@GarbageHomo]

@* nie * why does this sound familiar

[@Nicoratboy]

" whose going to want to date someone with a child?" I think it's nice my dad is trying to date...

[@omadjourney]

Ohhh hello dad ,I'm joking .....lol

[@emilyholmes4154]

Same with my mum

[@bgp6656]

Same here

[@trawrtster6097]

Eh, some people don't want kids, biological, adopted, or otherwise. I would personally never date a single parent for this reason.

[@PaperFolder_]

I was brought up by a single mum from the age of one, along with my two older sisters and she did an amazing job with us.

[@SuperDuperSP]

The Angel. That's your opinion. Others may think otherwise.

[@PaperFolder_]

Super Duper S.P I know. You can find good and bad opinions about anything. I was just sharing my experience of a single parent upbringing.

[@dylanmorgan2752]

+The Angel. Your individual story if true, may be a very nice and heart warming tale of overcoming the odds, but sadly doesn’t necessarily speak for the rest of society at large. I wish there were more cases like yours, but most boys raised by single mothers statistically have a higher chance of getting stabbed to death in the prison showers than making it to University. In the US, a very high percentage of male and female prisoners were raised by single parents.

[@susiekbryan]

The lady with short hair and pink shirt is SO gorgeous!

[@littlerelief5029]

Who would want to date someone with a kid? my stepdad did - 20 years later...

[@user-lq3ro4vp3z]

he must be stupid

[@littlerelief5029]

What a sad response to a nice comment.

[@heh9668]

@@user-lq3ro4vp3z not as stupid as you though

[@cookiecutter5162]

@@littlerelief5029 Your stepdad was a fool.

[@Jazzlyn_]

I'd totally date someone with a kid, I love kids ☺️

[@haylee9044]

My mom has been single my whole life and Im any only child so me and my mom are inseparable, she is my best friend

[@Onlinesully]

lovely lovely lovely

[@Scott-on2er]

"A child needs two parents" Head ass, my dad is both my mother and my father

[@nevej9556]

Single parents are great. My mum raised me all on her own and I thank her everyday for everything she’s done for me.❤️

[@Rat_Queen86]

I was bought up by 2 parents who hated each other, I would have sold my soul to have had my childhoods friends parent; she was a single parent but she was truly amazing.

[@zipitlockit3976]

My grandfather was raised by a single mom in a time where women weren't really....supposed to have jobs. Sure she worked her ass off but that gave my grandfather someone to be proud of, he has an amazing work ethic, He learned to keep a house clean, married a wonderful girl and raised three successful children. just because there's a 'phsycology' to having a single parent doesn't mean you know anything, you didn't talk to the right families. also my boyfriend was raised by a single mom as well, He's really fun and has been my best friend since we were 12. No criminal record, just a fun, nice guy who loves videogames and is thriving for his future ^^

[@FirstLast-ys7zn]

Zipit Lockit Psychology my g

[@emilybaker52]

Akbbba 1 Not really - My mum is a single parent and I’ve had a great life with just her and have done really well in all my exams and everything.

[@pastordonkoh7692]

Emily Baker YES *EXCEPTIONS* LIKE YOURSELF EXIST, just a fact of statistics the outliers or anomalies as someone has already mentioned happen But you don't tell the whole story. Generally the best fit is growing up with both parents

[@emilybaker52]

Leonard tha God Yeah but I know loads of people that are growing up great with single parents - I’ve got a friend who wishes she didn’t live with her dad - so it’s not exceptions. If your single parent does a good job then you’re fine.

[@pastordonkoh7692]

Emily Baker still exceptions. You clearly don't understand statistics. No one is denying the merit of what you're saying Its just meaningless to the general outcome

[@ticrific]

Please do “things not to say to people with tourettes” !

[@ticrific]

Mariah Carpenter yeah I watched it and it’s great, this comment was posted before the video was

[@annagray7235]

my mum is a single parent all her life and she is doing an amazing job at it

[@cirice4455]

Things to not say to naturally thin people.

[@1TopGunPaintballer]

Natalie Morningstar naturally thin? Is that like naturally fat?

[@RandomPerson-cy3ok]

Natalie Morningstar Yes! I'm thin and people say "you should actually eat something"

[@casuallyceltic]

TopGunPaintballer Yeah. Some people don't gain weight as easily as others.

[@DragonKazooie89]

It's Andrew boi or "It's great that you can eat anything you want!"/"I wish I was able to eat anything and not get fat!"

[@cirice4455]

Absolutely!! Some people don't get that "Oh, you should eat more" can be just as rude as "Oh, you should eat less!"

[@clevername6304]

My sister is a single mom and she’s a damn good one. It helps that she’s the oldest sister. My mom raised three kids as a single mom and we were all fine.

[@Dermaa]

Clever Name Situations like ours, having a single parent and becoming a decent member of society because of it, are a statistical anomaly. We just happen to be part of that statistical anomaly. Ps, it's interesting how your sister is also a single parent now, what's even more interesting is that two of my three sisters are also currently single parents, I wonder if there's something to be studied there.

[@bethanyellin4197]

I'm 18 years old and I have a baby girl saffron who is a year and 4 months and I couldn't regret anything with her she is my life, I always get looks because I'm young and people think I have ruined my life and I really haven't ive just started it. its true there like your best friends they look up to you, they love you they will support you no matter what and if that is something to regret then people need to start looking at the bigger picture.

[@madeleinejoy3499]

I love the name Saffron! I bet she's wonderful, she's lucky to have such a loving person as a parent. God bless you both

[@bethanyellin4197]

gurll xx

[@user-uk1tl4ct9y]

Bethany Ellin what a lovely name, I'm sure she's absolutely wonderful. Best of luck to both of you x

[@bethanyellin4197]

aww thank you, and best to you to b xx

[@eleonoramustafaeva1303]

your kid is lucky to have such a committed parent! but you're life isnt gonna actually start until you're what 30

[@thewildonesappear6594]

Things not to say too people with chronic illness. Things not to say to only children.

[@libbyneefe1075]

THEWILDONESAPPEAR I can’t believe they haven’t done one on chronic illness yet. I would’ve thought that would be one of the first ones they thought of.

[@thewildonesappear6594]

Libby Neefe Yeah, its kinda dumb...

[@pastordonkoh7692]

HIV

[@Tequilasunset312]

Could you do things not to say to someone who had an abortion? Edit:Thank you all for the likes! Glad to hear you guys feel the same!

[@heythereadventurer9190]

yes, that would be one of them

[@Nicoratboy]

My mom is a single mom and she's really awesome

[@Thegayone0]

Peters palace nice profile picture!

[@Onlinesully]

that’s lovely to hear. good for you both. kindest and sweetest wishes to you.

[@michaelrauch8629]

Glad they've shown single dads they get ignored so often

[@anastasiagirl1342]

My neighbour whose a single mom to 2 kids told me that someone once said this: "Might as well abandon the kids. They're only good for keeping the man there". LIKE WHAT?!

[@nicolem8122]

I'm a single mother and yes it's hard but being a parent is one of the greatest joys of my life.

[@Ash-cu1wg]

My mom is and was a single parent, even when we lived with my dad (when we were little) my mom still felt like a single mother. She payed for everything, she worked, she bought all the groceries so when we left my dad it wasnt a change. I never felt sad, I actually felt happy because I didnt hear them scream and my mom wasn't as stressed anymore! My dad was always away either at work or out with friends/family so I never felt like I miss him, I still call him and he comes down and see's us. My mom stayed in that relationship because of us, but once she saw how unhappy we were she left, shes amazing and even tho we bump heads a bit I love her for everything

[@tamzin4251]

My dad died when me and my brothers were younger my mum raised us singlehandedly so don't assume anything she's honestly the best parent I could have ever asked for

[@ashd7419]

My dad is a single parent

[@paulgibbons2320]

n a t h a n :D hero.

[@graceygrumble]

A child needs to feel safe and loved. That's it.

[@idlickthetoiletjotaroshitt553]

My mom is s great example of a single parents.My dad left my mom when she had breast cancer and while pregnant he’s literally shit. He abused her emotionally also. I haven’t spoken to him since I was 9.

[@ncturnalmarshmallw8644]

I have a single mom and I’ve grown up fi- *thinks about everything wrong with me* EVERYONE HAS FLAWS REE

[@bunnygirlemi]

next on bbc three: Things Deaf People are tired of hearing.

[@naryli]

Mystical Being Already done

[@bunnygirlemi]

im wheezing what have they not done

[@bunnygirlemi]

things blind people are tired of seeing???

[@naryli]

Mystical Being That was done also lol

[@bunnygirlemi]

LMFAOOO

[@fushiushi]

Honestly I clicked on this video because I’m the child of a single mother and I’ve heard her complain about some of these things! Nobody has said anything about her being a laugh but with the two parent thing and the thing about the sex life. And, knowing her, she’s still an amazing mother! I love her with all of my heart because she is what’s keeping me alive and she tries to put a smile on my face every day even when I’m not feeling down. Just to all the single parents out there, you have my full respect for all the work you do. Don’t listen to the people that say these things!

[@icy6608]

My cousin was a single parent for three years, because the girl he got pregnant(ex-girlfriend) was crazy and didn’t have a suitable home to raise the baby. Now three years later my baby cousin now is a sassy little 4 year old and my cousin has a great girlfriend who I love hanging out around.

[@India.H]

4:47 "you did okay. He's breathing." 😂

[@JuiceMyRandomness]

I am so glad there was men and women to represent :)

[@JZGabriel1]

4:32 to 4:41 the way she says and expresses about it, it's so nice and wholesome, I felt like I needed to cry because of how happy she was while saying it... Jesus...

[@theSword-]

ALL children need both parents.

[@LoveMyAnime1218]

my boyfriend is a single father and I love his little girl sooo much shes so adorable

[@queercatboy4266]

Somthing doesn't seem quite right here...

[@mxsinist3r]

I’ve got an amazing single father who literally deserves the entire universe who does everything I can for me. I have so much respect for single parents

[@ellens3447]

My dad passed away when I was very young and obviously I wish he could have been around to help raise us but I strongly disagree that a child NEEDS both parents. My mam did an incredible job raising 3 kind, intelligent and very loved kids, she's my superhero ❤️

[@adamturnbull4916]

On that first one my dad basically raised me on his own through thick and thin and he made me who I am and couldn't be prouder to be his son cause I have nothing but love respect and a genuine friendship with him

[@arabziana94]

They're all so funny and so London, brap brap!! (yes, not *all* I know) But the lady in the head wrap killed me, you go mama, kill e'm!!

[@sophiaguerrero9433]

I hate the label of "single mom/dad" why can't they just be mom or dad you don't call someone with their partner a couple mom or couple dad

[@MonkeyButtMovies1]

Not really the natural order now, so many parents are divorced. Out of all my friends only 1.5 of their parents were still together (the .5 being a friend whose parents divorced but then got back together)

[@dylanmorgan2752]

Yh because the name of the parent is really the major issue here. It’s outside the norm, at least until modern life completely screws up the majority of family dynamics, so therefore it should be labelled as such. Also most people who have single parents don’t refer to their parents and say “oh that’s my single mum” or “meet my single mum”. They’re statistically more likely to be in a jail cell before they reach adulthood, but we can see where your priorities lie.

[@gavin1118]

OMG, DO THINGS NOT TO SAY TO SOMEONE WITH AN ANXIETY DISORDER!!!! I will feel that there may be other people out there that I can relate to! Thank you, and continue making great videos! ☺️

[@shizukesakawakami2929]

I’m 19, single mom of 2. Their dad is working his way slowly back into a relationship with me and my sons. However until he is a POSITIVE thing for my kids he won’t be around other than for visitation. He was the one who left and it opened me up to everything that was going on that I didn’t see when we were together. If he succeeds at mending everything and we can move on and be a positive thing for our kids and eachother I will forget about the break up entirely. But to me this made me a better parent, mad me mature in the way my kids need me to, made me learn other things entirely on my own and I really have come to realize yes two parents are idea, when one or both are toxic then that toxic person needs to either change or be removed. It will bring the child down. My mom raised me as a single mother for years, yes I have thought about who my dad was, but at the end of the day when I needed someone or something I went to mom not went asking can my dad who I don’t know help me instead. I never really needed him other than a few rough spots in my life. I’m glad my mom was brave and left someone who I heard to be abusive to protect me and herself. I’m proud of her. I know how easy it is and tempting it is to say nope can’t do this alone and fall right back into that toxic environment. No I don’t want to repeat the cycle of single parent, no I don’t want to be mom and dad every day. But until it’s healthy and safe for their dad to be more involved for all 3 of us, I will continue being a single mother for as long as they need me to be!

[@PhoenixRayne88]

I'm single and a mom but I don't consider myself a single mom. There dad is still very much involved in their lives.

[@paulgibbons2320]

That's great. If single mums have to be a thing then this should be the norm. Evil women stopping father's seeing their kids should be a thing of the past.

[@rowdylilpiper1379]

I've been asked "who's the father?"😑😑

[@lemongrabloids3103]

My best friend is a single mum to three kids one of whom has fought and beaten cancer twice. She does it all on her own every day x

[@charleyturner7654]

my half-sister’s mum walked out on her and my dad when she was 3 and my dad was a single parent for a few years before he met my mum. my dad is the best dad in the fucking world and he was so strong throughout the whole thing and i couldn’t be more proud of him because single parenting is not easy

[@JETJOOBOY]

And it is better to have both Grandparents...

[@gorgeousgal6803]

Oh no, how did you open your legs for THAT😂😂😂

[@devilishtrouble]

The one that made me so mad was “already made families never work out” this was said by my boyfriend’s sister in law at the time. She was basically was saying sent I had a child the relationship wasn’t going to work. Not only did she piss me off but pissed off half of my boyfriend’s family.

[@literallytrash1869]

I feel like no one is surprised by single moms but when it comes to single dads everyone is like "OMG REALLY? WHY???" It's nothing special, I just love my father but I also love my mother, I'm just more like my dad so we get along a bit better than my mom and me

[@xanderdelion]

"Oh noo how did you opened your legs for that !!??" 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥😂😂😂😂😂

[@Kirby_is_calling_the_police_]

“How did u open your legs for that?!” 😂😂😂 savage

[@saffp99]

Sometimes you can have both parents but only feel the love from one...

[@literallytrash1869]

Sometimes it is better for the children if the parents get divorced. My parents used to fight a lot and I was often hiding alone in my room for hours when the were yelling at each other, insulting each other, throwing things and banging doors. Living alone with my father now it's way more peaceful at home

[@phoenixjordan4536]

I had a single mom and i'm proud. Key word "had". I'm a proud daughter of two moms

[@minnirai1806]

OK but I ship the mom with the curly hair and the dad with the glasses haha they talk like they've known each other for ages! And they seem like great parents

[@HumanityHoax]

That was me and we met 10 seconds before the camera rolled :)

[@chloewoodington5117]

I grew up with a single dad my whole life and he is genuinely the nicest guy!!!! He is such a big kid

[@londontravellers22]

I'm a single parent and my ex was an alcoholic who was a part time father to my kids only when hes sober. I fell into depression when he left me but I still tried to make sure he was a good father to my kids since I was shit scared of being a single parent. I fell into depression because of that. My best friend whose father passed away too knew the struggle I was going through and another best friend who is childless kept telling me to get over the fact my children's father is gone cos she thought after 4 years, she didnt understand why I was so hung up on him. My best friend who's lost her father told her that it's not about me wanting to get back together with him, it's about the fact he's gonna lose his kids to alcohol and that I'm going to be a single parent that's what's hurting me the most. She told her that if she didnt know what I was going through that means she doesnt know the massive impact a child can have on losing a parent. When he died, she didnt know why I was grieving because I broke up with him before he died. I was grieving because my kids lost their father and I have to deal with the fact that he won't see his kids grow up, wedding, graduation, first child etc. Not because I want him back. A part of me will always love him since he was my first love.

[@rmionlyknowrapmonster5848]

"A child needs both parents" Well, maybe you want to say that to the dad, not the mother **facepalm**

[@harshitmadan6449]

What if the mother denied custody to the dad?

[@seeme3211]

Looooooooooool Jay z was a drug dealer that was not a good example

[@Eecw1188]

See Me but he ended up a successful rapper.....

[@seeme3211]

Salena Hose but he didn't have a good upbringing I'm a fan of Jay z but he was a criminal

[@averagelife5449]

See Me jay z was LUCKY

[@romanfox5368]

Also these people were raised by their grandparents actually.

[@dylanmorgan2752]

They used Barack Obama, Jay Z and Halle Berry as examples. They have turned out to have great lives and great ambitions despite having single parents, but they are the EXCEPTION, not the norm. They are all great hard working and sometimes just lucky human beings anyway, not because they have single parents. Notice they don’t talk about the fact that growing up with one parent detriments the kids and that not every child is lucky enough to have the work ethic to become Obama etc. Also notice how they didn’t use any examples such as the statistics from prisons being that most criminals come from single parent/ single mother backgrounds. I’m not going to slate them because you can’t even tell who’s fault the split was mostly or if it’s for other reasons, but for the most part I would tell people not to be reckless and to treat the home environment as they would their own romantic social circles etc. And only have kids if you’re 100% certain of raising them right.

[@DendyJungle]

This is one of the saddest ones. God it makes me feel so sorry

[@terracottateeth8246]

I knew this amazing Jamaican woman who was a single parent and she was a teacher her kid went to the school she was the mum of the school we all loved her the strongest women I ever did know

[@redram5150]

Things not to say to single mothers. “Hello”

[@jbell1166]

U win

[@Maryam7862010]

For me personally, I wouldn’t date someone who’s already with a child. If I’m in a serious relationship with someone & we wanted to settle down, I’d want to have that first experience with them, e.g first marriage to each other, first house together, first child together. You have that special connection. If I went out with someone who had a kid & decided to have another kid with them, it wouldn’t feel as special bc they’ve already shared that precious moment with someone else. This is how I just feel though, so it may be different for others.

[@emmas6002]

I brought my daughter up on my own since she was 2 . My daughter called me MAD Mum and dad . Her dad stopped seeing her and tried to blame me er no. I’m now married again and her step dad is amazing loves her like his own and does more than her biological dad has ever done!!! Used to annoy me when others used to say oh my partner away how am I going to cope. I used to think I Have to cope 24/7 365 days man up!!

[@aro_base]

I was raised by a single mom and even if our life was and is still tough I am going well and I can't imagine how my life would have been with a father at home. I read books and asked different people around me about the link between having been raised by a single parent and their behavior in society... I found out that if I'm having troubles making a basic choice or live in a relationship with someone, it's maybe because I've been raised by a single overprotective mom. For example, I found out that I will seek in my boyfriends a paternal figure AND a lover. Not everyone will agree to have these roles in a relationship and I understand. I also remember that I had for the past few years a "fear" of elder man. When I was at my friend's place I had no trouble to speak to their mother or sister, whereas with a dad or brother I was petrified of the unknown. I moved from country to country, I build my own representation of parenthood and now it's too late anyway. When I was unbearable my mom used to say: "if only your father was there, you would be calm etc", this sentence hurt me the most because she did her best and yeah my dad doesn't give a shit about us anywayyyy. Mom, I know you're exhausted, therefore you're the only one I have in this world... I love you :) SOrry if it's too long.

[@EarlSquirrelsonn]

I was raised by a single parent and if they went on like half the people in this video I’d be pretty ashamed of them. I’m sure these lads are good parents, but they’re making themselves look awful...

[@valravn1932]

ballyoulsterboy How? By having a sense of humour 😂

[@EarlSquirrelsonn]

val ravn well in a way. You don’t go around doing the stuff they claim to be doing then laugh about as if it’s ok. I mean people can do whatever they want, but if my mam did half of it I’d feel quite let down.

[@valravn1932]

ballyoulsterboy You either a. really don't understand sarcasm nor have a sense of humour. or b. Too young to understand or never have met the woman outside of being just your mother. I promise you she would have this side to her just hidden in front of you.

[@EarlSquirrelsonn]

val ravn a - I have a very good sense of humour and understanding of sarcasm. I just lack retardation. b - yeah bro, I’ve never met any other woman in my whole life apart from my mother. How did you know?

[@Saraseeksthompson0211]

What she said is so true - one good parent is worth more than two shit ones

[@Samuel115s]

yes very true, don't ever do it for the kids because your anger and discomfort will start to show and will effect them to. a break up is sometimes what is need eg in the case of my parents.

[@shadeboonzaaier3280]

New favourite channel ❤️❤️❤️

[@Maikel97]

"Children need a mother and a father" Same nonsense as in the discussion about same-sex parents

[@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249]

M. Mihalache Except the fact that countless people have been raise successfully with one parent.

[@kristinagotswag]

My parents split when I was 11. Obviously I was upset when it happened but I turned out alright. Children don’t need a mother and father, only for reproducing really.

[@Maikel97]

@Southern Discomfort You should look up what nonsense means and then you should rethink over your answer I've talked about this statement being as stupid as it is used in the discussion about same-sex parents... in both cases it´s bullshit

[@Maikel97]

You have completely misunderstood my entire statements and understood exactly the opposite that I actually wanted to testify Talking to you makes no sense anymore

[@Maikel97]

Correctly I was only raised by my mother after my parents divorced during my childhood and I would´t say that was bad for me or my sisters or that we became bad people The same applies to some of my friends who grew up with only one parent or with same-sex parents

[@RandomPerson-ml8ej]

I do think that having two parents is better but telling that to a single parent is just pointless. I'm sure these parents would prefer if they were still in a happy relationship too but life doesn't always work like that. So you have to do the best you can with the situation that you are in.

[@emmawhispers3146]

Random Person Having two parents in a loving relationship is better, but having two parents in a toxic one is not.

[@The482075]

This is my favourite KZbin series. "Things not to say to people."

[@adrienneneal4645]

My little brother is 15 years younger than me and I’m not even his mother and I get comments like this all the time. People need to mind their business

[@janebaker4912]

I dated a single father for two years. NEVER AGAIN! Don't be down on people who are kid free not wanting to be instant parents. Being a step mom is not fun. You have zero control over anything and baby mama will manipulate your man and people look down on you.

[@janebaker4912]

saidbhxo x exactly. That's why I left.

[@janebaker4912]

saidbhxo x the thing is you didn't listen to the list of things I said. The things I could tell you. Ask yourself why you instantly jumped on me than consider I had a story to tell. That's just the thing step parents are expected to have no feelings and get shat on everyday. You don't know my side.

[@janebaker4912]

Sims 4 Is Bae if I was a single mom I would understand and not feel entitled to a date and would date an other single parent. I think, cos I don't know, that single mom would find it easier. Step dad is an easier ride than step mom.

[@Exsugarbabe1]

I woukd never ask a bloke to be an instant parent, that’s really irresponsible and may end in disaster. I guess women have been bought up to think they can do it all where men are told there’s a massive hole missing is mum isn’t around. You dodged a bullet there.

[@janebaker4912]

Ruth Barr thank you I did. He used to use his daughter to control me. "Step daughter will think you don't like her I'd you don't do it" he'd say. And his baby mama used the daughter to control my ex to break us up. "She's not coming over because SHES there." Then ex took it out on me. Punishing me. It was all horrible. Last commenter said I was a shit person :( doesn't even know me. Step parents are always getting shat on. NEVER AGAIN

[@CelticFairyBox]

Some of these questions are harmless and conversation starters.

[@TB-dg3jw]

D F let me guess, youre a straight white male who grew up with two parents

[@AryaBeltaine]

lmao what does being a straight white male have to do with this comment?

[@isaaclooper1180]

Yeah and many straight white and black women are ignorant.

[@dylanmorgan2752]

+Gina Eie Many straight white men just don’t believe that ignorance equates to not agreeing with everything people like you have to say. Many other straight men of all races grow up with single mothers and statistically experience worse lives and are more likely to end up in the prison system without any chance at a job or education.

[@vanessa4694]

I was raised by a single mom ( my dad died when I was four ) and I am so grateful for education I've gotten.

[@sorchasam3252]

I'm a single mother for 8 years and thank God I haven't gotten most of these. I actually like when people say "how do you do it??!" because at least they are understanding that it's tough work!