things to do by yourself as an introvert

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[@limeparticle]

One thing I love about being a true introvert is never getting bored - if you don’t like the company of others, you better like your own company 😅 I’m never short on things to do - granted, a full-time job, studies and housework ensure I don’t really have a chance to get bored 😂 I kind of want to try the pretending-to-be-someone-else bit though, it could be fun!

[@thenoobalmighty8790]

@Literal-Littoral you're a noobtrovert

[@fegrace_1]

I can totally relate. During the lockdowns I helped a lot of people that were lossing it because they are use to a lot of external stimulation and validation in order to function. I one was heard it stated, “that boring people are boring”! I truly believe knowing yourself, cultivating your individual interest, and developing ways to remain productive (not the same as being busy) and creative are things each person that everyone can benefit from exercising in theses key areas!

[@imeaiwteh7540]

@Literal-Littoral i just exist, in my own company, whatever I want to do I can do to keep myself entertained, it cannot get boring.

[@tayluvofficial]

What about someone having no job?

[@thenoobalmighty8790]

@@tayluvofficial get a job

[@lh3517]

“Hustle culture convinced us that it’s okay doing social things for leisure but not okay to do things by yourself”- wow this is so true!! I’ve never really thought about that before but that is such a great point!

[@TheGreatWasian_]

So facts and it’s such a toxic mentality to force people to feel like they need to constantly hang out with others

[@aimee8151]

As a librarian I highly approve of your suggestion of going to the library!

[@glichedslice]

Lol

[@Kaori_lean]

My college library is little far away from my department block 🥲. It always consume time so even if I go to library I cn be there only for some minutes. 🥲🥲 That's why I rather stay in the classroom or Canteen but all alone ☺️☺️

[@andersnielsen6044]

As a p0rn-producer I highly recommend you to go and make some..

[@KitsuneHB]

I will do it for a whole day in my next holiday in one and a half week. There are even some restaurants in the same building so I will miss nothing. I'm really looking forward to this day. :)

[@celestial_essence05]

A thing I personally love doing by myself is thrift shopping! you find so many things by yourself because you aren’t distracted by other people you are with and you can spend as much time as you want to. I hope this helps someone.

[@starcatcher3691]

Helps me! I've been wanting to thrift but have no one to go with. Perhaps I'll go on my own

[@Alwin828]

Yeah I too love it. But, I'm an introvert living in the *2nd most populated country* in the world. Everytime I have to go out, it feels very hard.

[@chelseajosefine]

My mother always thinks because I mostly spend time alone that I’m depressed or I’m just moving around the house and honestly I just don’t mind being by myself, yes I go enjoy being around being other people but watching this video really helped me understand that being with yourself doesn’t mean you’re sad or isolated, it can be way of recharging and encouraging self love☺️

[@RED-my9hl]

no fr cuz why are mothers like that smh

[@Tansymist]

@@RED-my9hl FR my mom calls me nerdy just cuz im always reading books shes like why dont u watch tv? Also she gets mad when im always alone/by myself at home instead of socializing and stuff… like im sry if i like books more than ppl T_T

[@tomg271]

Things to do as an introvert: - whatever your interested in, do it alone - simple Concerts, restaurants, reading, hiking - whatever. There is literally no rules.

[@andersnielsen6044]

No one wants to go to a concert, a restaurant or hiking alone.. It just maked you look like a complete zero. If you want to read alone then stay at home.

[@tomg271]

@@andersnielsen6044 Disagree

[@omalleysmith9100]

One of my favourite things to do by myself is: TRAVEL. As far away and for as long as you like. I find you get much more out of it because of the following: - no having to compromise to make someone else happy. - no exhaustive decision making - you make ALL the decisions -no having to wait on someone - no one talking to you while you're trying to take in the sights and sounds of your surroundings. - you are more acutely aware of EVERYTHING because you have to be in order to be safe, or not miss a connection or bus, etc.

[@andersnielsen6044]

I thought only terrorists and sexual abuser was travelling alone.

[@Sss-mb5qs]

@@andersnielsen6044 what

[@fegrace_1]

Ruby, I don’t know what your future plans are but I could totally hear you doing a literary podcast (a mix academics, history, and your personal opinions on the text). You have a great voice! Some of you videos I will look at the first time and listen to the second time around!

[@fmt0htm]

Same here !! I'd love it ✨

[@PoetGhost]

do you have any recommendations of podcasts like this? ty:)

[@rachelmayes298]

I get daunted if I have to go to family meals, get togethers, etc. I’m the quiet one in the corner. I really enjoy being on my own, and thank you for these ideas.

[@imaginationsmusic1985]

My immediate family is small but holidays can be a little noisy for me. I've come to the realization that it's ok if I dont want to spend the whole time talking to everyone. Sometimes the conversations and laughter get loud, so I've learned to just quietly go to another room and read or look up something on my phone for a few minutes. Even just a couple minutes away can be a refresher and keep me in a good mood 😊

[@s.g2344]

Me too -i love being with my family but I honsetly find it draining as well - especially as the rest of the family are social butterflies lol

[@urbsketch]

Just keep in mind that some of those people have interesting stories - things they did when younger or maybe things they do now. I’m also an introvert, but I do stop and think that there are many interesting people out there - and I can learn new things from them.

[@ikhlaqali1710]

I think us introverts should start like a group because I'm really struggling to do things on my own I'm always at ho,e which i like but even when i want to go out i can't

[@verzrc2772]

Embodying a character out in public is honestly one of the most fun ways to spend time with yourself haha, thanks for the video!

[@TJ-kz1ul]

Thank you, Ruby. A few other things that I enjoy doing, as an introvert, are gardening, spending time with my animals, bird watching, and knitting. =)

[@Tansymist]

Sounds like such a cozy lifestyle i wish i had that😭

[@Westly.3]

As an introvert I find being on my own replenishing, as being around other people is so exhausting for me. I especially like reading a good book for many hours in peace and quiet. But recently I’ve been trying to encourage myself to get outside and go public to places like cafes or parks while taking a book to read or some writing, that way I get to do what I like while also putting myself in a place where I might end up possibly being social and meeting other people. I like eating out for a treat even if it’s just me, going to a good movie or just relaxing at home watching TV, Netflix or watching an old favourite movie on dvd. Even though family gatherings are usually hard, I am now making an extra effort to try to connect and listen to others about their days, lives, stories or what’s coming up in the future, I guess it’s only the polite thing to do so.

[@Westly.3]

Oh and yeah I want to tryout the act as a character for the day, but I live in a pretty small town and most people know each other here, so I don’t think I could get away with it lol 😆

[@ikhlaqali1710]

I'm finding it difficult to do what you're doing 😔

[@amberm9853]

I thought I was the only one who did that with graveyards! My mom is the only person who knows I do that. I love finding the oldest graves, wondering what the person's life was like, and trying to guess how they may have died.

[@ladymallowyt]

Being an introvert, I've noticed even now that I'm married I still love my alone time. I feel like it's something I need. Not always ofc, but I much prefer being alone than spending a long time with our large family. Even when I visit my family, I find my brain saying 'okay its time to go' after a few minutes

[@victoriawalker7792]

I LOVE going to galleries on my own. I take a small notebook to art galleries and I record a stream of consciousness on each painting that takes my fancy. My favourite activity on my own rn is Bird Watching. Good pair of binos, field guide and a notepad and that's a day out. I always take sandwiches and a flask of tea, and when you go on your own you always get into a good chat about birds with people! I think you'd like birding Ruby. Anyway, coming back again to ask for a Vegan favourites series! Snacks, meals, sandwiches. That sort of thing. I'm trying to eat more plant based and would love an insight into your faves.

[@carolynmarshall1968]

I’m very much an introvert, love my own company, never get bored and very much a home person. I do think people don’t understand how you can spend so much time on your own and do get friends that worry about me, bless them but I can’t explain to them enough that I’m ok. I won’t tell you my age as my age doesn’t go with my brain/mind age, inside I’m still young. I’ve put on my wish list for Christmas a Waterstones Voucher (I suffer from anxiety) so my goal in the New Year is to take myself to Waterstones (Plymouth, as I live in Devon). Spend hours in there looking at all the amazing books and to sit down alone in the cafe and read. I never get enough time in there as when I do go with a friend they get bored and don’t enjoy books as much as I do. There’s something about a book shop that makes me feel calm and amongst like minded people. You are such a grown up young lady and love your vlogs, never to old to watch. (I’m probably around your mums age) she should be very proud of you. You would make a great teacher as I love listening to you and learn things I wished I listened to at school. Never to late to learn eh! xxx

[@jenniferhiddy]

One of the benefits of being a true introvert is that you never get bored - if you don't enjoy the company of others, you should enjoy your own. I'm a bordering school student who is never bored - granted, I don't have much time to be bored - but I'd like to try some new things; it might be fun!

[@julialovesgfriend]

readathons and movie marathons (specially themed ones, with snacks, outfits and even a little Instagram photoshoot matching the theme) are also always fun!! also listening to albums (your favorites or some that you’re not familiar with yet) without skipping or picking what song to listen to, just pressing play and paying attention and then journaling about it (ranking the songs)

[@lorenericksen5075]

I feel so rejuvenated with your ideas! I especially love the library and your idea of choosing a random number and finding the book is delightful!

[@nicholasphelps3872]

Introverts make the world go round, discuss important philosophy and enjoy the joys of hobbies and goals. Not a bad thing

[@Natalie_is_typing]

Working in retail has made me realise just how introverted i am... Looking forward to trying some of these on my time off 😅

[@malv4935]

Great ideas! It just feels so validating to hear these things as an introvert myself. We need to recharge our batteries in our own company, but we so often feel some sort of guilt for not doing something else or doing things by ourselves. That is a mindset that has to change. It is also surprising how similar we introverts are, yet different in our own ways. I can see myself doing (and also already do) pretty much everything you mentioned in this video :)

[@micaylabam2428]

Researching something you are interested in and learning a new language or hobby such as embroidery in might also be fun ways to pass time as an introvert, especially when done with the few people you, as an introvert, choose to socialize with.

[@rebekahlemon6513]

I'm a n introvert and during the summer holidays at the end of August, I got into the twilight saga and other books like them and would hide in my room for three hours or more just reading. Reading really helped me because I was not mentally there to do anything else and was struggling so much. Thanks for another amazing video Ruby!

[@Westly.3]

Try reading Midnight Sun + Life and Death, if you have read the main series and finished them. I really liked how the author mixed things up.

[@rebekahlemon6513]

@@Westly.3 I'll look into it thanks for the suggestion!

[@nathiny8]

Absolutely love these ideas! They are so unique, I'm definitely going to try some. Thank you Ruby for the inspiration! Hope you have a lovely week. 🧡

[@nikolkuhar8127]

You can also: 1. Paint your nails, with watching a show, or listen to audio book, and enjoy those 30min 2. Write a poem, I know silly right. But just open a notes app an write your feeling in lyrics. I promise you, you'll love it 3. If you can, do online shopping, or just browse, make plan for presents for different occasions

[@CandidKaushik2507]

I don't need anyone for my happiness 😊. The most beautiful thing being an introvert ☺️

[@lizdorrington2851]

So many great ideas Ruby. One of my goals for the new year is to be more kind to myself and to take myself on a date.

[@alicecappello7907]

Ruby! That's Amazing! I'm so glad that you share with us these usefull advises. Thanks from Italy by an introvert 🍁❤️

[@AshleighSherlock1998]

You keep me really motivated whilst I’m in my third year of uni (Ngl I’m not enjoying it that much) your videos are such a boost and escape for me. Keep being you, gorgeous person xXx

[@defineddisabledlife3463]

This is such a good and helpful video for me because of my severe autism. I hate people. I want to live in the middle of nowhere and only see 1 or 2 people daily lol. So I’m so excited about this video!!!!!

[@sophia7gr]

wow, i'd really enjoying doing almost everything that you mentioned. it makes me so happy that more people are feeling like that because in my inner circle nobody would understand. They would think i'm weird.

[@kaataerts2070]

i just wanted to say I absolutely loved this video, they seem like genuinely fun things to do and I already want to do them

[@tailorseries9077]

I love all these ideas! Especially going to have to try out the street rambling one.

[@marabeth9400]

I love these suggestions Ruby. ☺️ I am excited to try multiple of these activities.

[@sebbc]

Thanks so much for these ideas, I completely relate to finding social activities still fun but it definitely drains my energy! Thanks again!

[@SabrinaJohns]

These are actually really good ideas!! Loved this video Ruby!!

[@noahmalmquist1940]

Thank you so incredibly much for this video, I can't even put into words how happy I am right now :') this was very inspiring, especially the "act like a character" it sounds like so much fun

[@susanbuckley4153]

I love your ideas! I’m a true introvert as well and value my alone time so much 🤗 I also love your pumpkin sheets..

[@ababy6074]

I just watched this in Australia! I love the idea of doing a movie night, make bookmarks (I am an artist so I usually paint them), and Pinterest! I'm crazy about Pinterest! I have many boards, particicularly crochet, easy painting, card-making, etc. Great idea for a video! Thanks Ruby xxxx

[@ruzenkaceralova6979]

Wow i did not expect this to be so creative!!

[@raea3588]

Thank you so much! This is the first time I've found your channel and I'm subscribing ❤I feel as though I've found a kindred spirit through your introvert nature and the pastimes that you shared 🙂

[@graceallsop8705]

you are the idol all of us introverts need, you act as a reminder that its okay to be an introvert and for that I'm sure were all grateful!

[@margaret77777]

thank you for this :) im an introvert too, and while most of my family is such, im definitely a lot more so than the rest of my family. this is so refreshing to see and hear because most of my friends are extroverts as well, and it was a nice reminder that it’s okay to be on my own sometimes :)

[@bryanbearsley8314]

i love doing a few things by myself. just do your best ruby. my parents tell me that all the time

[@imeaiwteh7540]

2:01 It is very fun! It’s been a habit of mine for so long to make up my own characters and personas and embody them throughout my day! Keeps me entertained beyond bounds. I have favourites now and one of those characters has been with me ever since I was 11. There are certain people who called me ‘unstable’ when they found out, but I do not agree with them, because to me this in itself is expression and exploration, all the possibilities of what I can be. It’s liberating, mind-freeing, and I find self exploration to be very entertaining when practiced this way.

[@stargirl6235]

Your idea is very attractive. Also, we can easily incorporate these ideas into our daily lives. Can't wait to wake up tomorrow morning!

[@JulEnglefaris]

Being alone for a while is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t want to deal with people anymore. ~ Tom Hardy

[@tjcrossley_]

Very cool video! Btw love that autumn is one of your favourite seasons and can't wait to read your book... eek!

[@elif5842]

i'm so glad to know you, ruby, that i feel so much better when i listen to you❤️❤️

[@stridermk9270]

Sooooo glad you got mythologie candles going Ruby!!! They're the best. The Yule Tide Candles are out. Long house hearth, and Northern lights are my fav.

[@FilmflickerCinema]

I'm actually extremely extroverted however I'm trying to learn to enjoy my own company as a self improvement thing and this was rather helpful. Thank you :)

[@avenginggoddess]

I love #2! That sounds so fun and a bit like method acting.

[@milenahildebrandt4201]

I really enjoyed this video. It was so cozy and comfortable and the ideas are so unique. I can’t wait to try them out 💕 thank u

[@tuvstarr2179]

I absolutely loved this!🤍

[@MariaMedeiros]

I absolutely love this video! My favourite thing to do is become a different character! Love this idea and its so great to spark the imagination! I love how relaxed you are in this video. Bravo!

[@Meg_intheclouds]

Same! I also make Pinterest boards and Spotify playlists for it too (and sometimes I pretend to be fictional characters I love especially when doing school work) oh and sometimes I become the characters I’ve designed for books if I need inspo and stuff

[@rogrigs1505]

Some fun ideas. Thanks for sharing.

[@annaverb9159]

Thank you for ideas, Ruby :)

[@rodrigofortes3]

Thank you so much Ruby, I really feel honored to met you.

[@westofwesteross6996]

I really enjoyed this video. It was also really helpful

[@valentina4459]

your videos are always so satisfying 💖

[@VirgoKat]

I adore spending hours on Pinterest, I love naming my boards and I love that looking at my boards names and content is like a intricate visual journal of who I am. I love the gravestones suggestion too! 🌺

[@shinbuk4238]

Thank you for making this video. Honestly yesterday i was feeling really hopeless, and feeling that everything will make me bored and that nothing will bring me fun and happiness. And this video really woke me up and made me realize that I don’t know and I haven’t experienced everything yet. This video is also motivating me to get up and do something interesting

[@lesliegraham8478]

Simply, thank you🤗

[@boqueronbecky6977]

I love all of this!

[@doctorwho.obsessor]

love this you have given me some really great ideas. I have also just started watching the Cunk On episodes and they are really good thanks for this recommendation. Your channel really inspires me

[@user-dh1yq5cz9v]

On the street rambling point, I love the idea of The 'Flâneur' - the urban stroller, just observing and watching the busy city and urban structures bustling with activity, but not engaging yourself. Just watching...

[@emma3295]

I rarely comment anything on internet but thanks ruby for this video. these ideas are really unique and as someone who is currently struggling with depression it's really nice to have idea of new things to try.

[@nicholasphelps3872]

It's a big world. Always go somewhere very public like a city and explore a shop or mall with something that interests you and see all the other people in the world outside of our bubbles. Bad times always end even when they seem like they don't :)

[@nicholasphelps3872]

I know because I've gone through it. Sometimes depression is just our mind's way of telling us were not living out our purpose or potential

[@thenoobalmighty8790]

Yes. Address the cause. Go out into the world

[@RED-my9hl]

I wouldn't say unique lmao

[@thenoobalmighty8790]

@@RED-my9hl your moms ayy nuss is unique

[@kflecha1]

Ruby is so brilliant ❤ this is inspiring ❤

[@pomomary3118]

Wow, thank you so much for this video!💕

[@sababatamanna9226]

Thank u so much for this! ❤️

[@XeniaSketchbookPages]

My own top activities for introverts: a walk in the park, reading a book with a cup of tea, knitting and drawing 😊

[@jane9875]

the bliss of being on your own no small talk

[@carrieicanhasbooks]

Some of these in already do but you have given me a few to try out. Love your videos

[@fatmaaltaher8648]

you are amazing ruby 😫❤

[@laurenwilliams5815]

I'm definitely going to try that character thing she mentioned it sounds so much fun! ❤

[@nothandomatshoba6861]

I love option number 2, definitely trying it

[@sheilatrostli3396]

Hello Ruby, I love your videos! They make me feel soooo well and happy. You have a big fan in Brazil 🤎

[@sarahwas1118]

Dear Ruby, Thank you so much for your inspiring and peaceful content. I am also a writer (sadly I don't spend as much time writing as I want to) and I suddenly realized, that you would be a perfect main character for a book. So humble, so clever, so full of magic, but there is also a depth in your eyes, that knows the darker parts of life. I just wanted to complement your work and your charisma. Greetings from Germany, Sarah

[@kerriwoods4585]

Love your ideas

[@constanzaoliveros7931]

You are amazing! thank you so much for this video! love from Argentina

[@RedVelvetLines]

Ruby, you have such wonderful ideas. You are giving me permission to do things for the pure enjoyment of it and not to fulfill a specific purpose.

[@lillysummeroriginals1213]

Consider starting a commonplace book. It’s basically a book with all your knowledge but there are so many videos are on KZbin I suggest you look up if you are interested as it’s loads of fun

[@jimmason1111]

great video thank you so much ruby

[@koukizsana7135]

Ruby granger is my favorite after all 💜✨

[@legomaster9190]

Thank you for sharing these ideas! And I find it to be quite true, this point you made about things to do: they indeed tend to lean more towards the social, though I've begun to notice a slight shift in this as well. I find even this to be somewhat interesting. Why the shift? Regarding the reading point, I don't know why, but I become so self-conscious if I were to go to the park or some other place like that and just start reading there. Mind, I haven't done this yet, but it's something I've wanted to do for a while now. Guess I'm too nervous of just "sit there and do nothing". Maybe I'll try to overcome this one on this summer... The other tips are good and nice, too. I especially liked the one where you create your own character and then pretend to be said character. I don't know how well I'd do with that one, but it sure feels like something really worth at least trying!

[@margaret4641]

A cool way to make bookmarks if you don’t like to paint is to make thick friendship bracelets. I have several double-chevron bookmarks and string is extremely cheap :) I even make ones inspired by the cover of the books I’m reading it’s so fun!!

[@pipeline555]

You are amazing ruby, i love your videos. I send you a hug.

[@angelina011]

Yesss, another video😍

[@SalmaT1111]

That’s the best video by now❤

[@millefolium9303]

Well this is pretty much what i do every day. I am in the library right now, in my favorite room. Its at the top floor so its very quiet, and the books here are on art, music and philosophy. And there is an old book-card organizer here which i wish i could share i picture of. With the little cards that would be in the back of the books, that used to be stamped when someone borrowed the book. Its no longer in use, but there is something nice about the fact that they still keep it here.

[@diansapuart]

You forget to mention Praying, or you never intended to. Whatever it's the best activity to do alone as an introvert, connecting me and God, in such a beautiful act.

[@verosaraiva]

Love this!! 🥰

[@tezzastudying7208]

Love this video so much 💓

[@kuhu50]

You’re such a main character and I love it.

[@Ceaaa22]

Some pretty dang good ideas there, Ruby 😁👍

[@TheGreatWasian_]

Your comments on hustle culture and the social acceptance of social leisure but not individual leisure really spoke volumes and helped me to feel validated and okay that I like to spend a lot of time alone.

[@juliasantoszlotek8673]

Great idea! I also pretend to be a character sometimes. I like to write letter as if I'm living in a period of History that I like. When I do it, I can also practice my English and French.

[@nancysloan3731]

As an introvert, I hate answering the phone. To me, I love the fact that phones take messages and I can call back at my convenience. No more interruptions, when I am involved with an important task or just don't want to be bothered.

[@rewqqwer3393]

Dear Ruby Granger I just want to say thank you for your amazing videos and keep going🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰