Things women do that 'turn us off' 😩🥴| Episode 49

[@matildatimpiyian1325]

I'm turned off by women who shut their social lives the minute they get into relationships. I don't like ladies who tag their boyfriend's to our girlie events and vice versa. Or even worse fail to show up simply because they are in a relationship. You can still exist in separation and have fun without your partner's presence.

[@foodandvibeswithkoi1013]

Aki mimi I turn off my social life once I give birth,gor a full year,I try to fight it but mum guilt gets the best of me

[@Cikanyoro]

Me and you both Matilda

[@sharonjepchumba2547]

Especially first time mom... when you have to balance between work, motherhood and maybe wife duties

[@FayKay348]

@@sharonjepchumba2547 motherhood is completely different because you literally are your baby’s lifeline for the first few years of their lives.

[@matildatimpiyian1325]

@@foodandvibeswithkoi1013 That's understandable. Here I meant intimate relationships.

[@nyokabindegwa]

My biggest turn off,, women who think not keeping time is a flex🤦 and then they go ahead to laugh it out like "aki mini and time" Like I don't get what's funny here Jane!!

[@kezmaina-doktari]

😂😂 Jane was just resting...

[@Gakara2009]

Jane🤣🤣🤣 wooi

[@linahwangari2595]

😂 😂

[@linahwangari2595]

Those women are a turn off to me too🤦‍♀️

[@biscotti7140]

Kingbetweeners👑 in the building 😎🤝🏾🤝🏾. Notifications🔔 On ✅

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to see it… 🤩🤩🤩

[@carolinemumbe8465]

this is so nice to a guy that craves for knowledge so attractive ❤️❤️❤️

[@charitykathure2528]

One of the things that turn me off are the clingy type. I love my space sometimes. Not all the time with the same friend🙄

[@halimaaden5188]

I agree with this 100%😭😭😭

[@FayKay348]

I am not a fan of women who totally lose their identity once they get into a relationship. A relationship is not the be-all-end-all of life. I don’t always have to hang with your man just to hang with you.

[@aokookello5564]

I Know, it's not interesting at sll

[@nishmaina5002]

And THEEEEEN there are these daughters of Delilah 🙄they can never let a compliment end in a positive way,,,ati "heyy babes today you're killing 🤗but imagine hiyo lipstick ingekuwa ya orange,,🙄ati "your shoes are cute but sizingekuwa tu na heel ya 1inch,,,, just burry me,💔such a turn off🚮🚮

[@missmillicent254]

A lot of people get woke so that they can fall asleep in a different way -Lydia, 2022

[@maman_moon]

​listening to TMI is like compensating for the mature conversations that we never had with our elders ( mothers, big sisters, aunties, shosh, etc.....) merci beaucoup mes grandes Soeurs je Vous aime 🥰

[@allthingswamuyu]

So true sis😂😂

[@maman_moon]

Thanks to The TMI

[@Molly-dw1ft]

Most definitely

[@yvonneivy3494]

@@Molly-dw1ft channel ci

[@bettymukolwe6600]

well said ...

[@cynetykwamboka1333]

Hi ladies , love your podcast On the flip side of victim mentality , it's also paramount to encourage ladies not to downplay their own side of the story / their own truth because they don't want to appear as victims . Own your truth , do take some time back to evaluate your part in a situation but never dismiss how you felt concerning the same 🤗

[@ruthkiruki2083]

This is true. if you search deeper you will realize some of them were never heard or didnt have a voice mostly out of trauma.

[@Mosh-p5f]

I love this comment..so true. Thank you for sharing that.

[@chisikwapatience]

In campus , I has a friend who was the same skin tone and body size, everytime we go out clubbing she borrows my clothes and uses my make up, I has no problem at first until it became consistent, Make up is expensive,she didn't get that,I had to keep on buying foundation frequently, until I decided its enough, I set a boundary and the friendship changed

[@cess-thelight3492]

She was a user...i hate such people being around me

[@tmipodcastke]

Ooh giiirl! It was important to set that boundary sis… expect relationships to change when someone who was taking advantage is not allowed to anymore! Go you. ❤️

[@muthonigithinji8937]

Women that think that everything is about you.... seriously siz....you is not world.. world is not you

[@tmipodcastke]

Shout louder sis!

[@priscillah4831]

My biggest turn off In women is self centeredness, those who think the world revolves around them. They want everyone to listen to them as they go about their problems and everything, they think others don't have issues so they never listen to others, they have no empathy.

[@julietmwale2883]

I currently have this friend and every single time we meet it's her about her goals, plans, and problems and I sit there and just listen almost all the time.

[@priscillah4831]

@@julietmwale2883 this is exactly what I'm saying. I have such friends and it's really exhausting 🤦

[@hellenben39]

my mother in law is exactly this... every time wwe meet she is always ranting about how so and so did things to her..how she does not like this and that..waah its tiring to sit for almost 2 hours listening to someone complain about everything

[@theclangwilimi1485]

A word both Lydia and Murugi say a lot is "FANTASTIC"🤣 apart from 'problematic' of course🤣🤣🤣

[@wambuindirangu6385]

Everytime I finish a TMI episode i feel like I have just finished a masterclass. I learn alot from you and I'm growing and evolving so as a person. Thank you so much. An Inbetweener for ever❤️

[@Ckago7]

Hey ladies, I like the topics you discuss it's definitely TMI. Lydia's word "however" Murugi's word " I feel like"

[@legalcafe]

Hahahaha so true. Or Lydia "right?"

[@justmyworld2542]

Actually when TMI started, Lydia was always like "I feel like". Lol

[@gracethuku4555]

Murugi says she lost old friends after she set boundaries..i totally relate..i have lost several as well. Its uncomfortable mwanzo but it gets better. My biggest turn off are women who rely on men to feed them. I just cant.

[@winterachieng9562]

I love the advice y'all gave during TMI Talk. I've been there. I did just that and i don't regret completing my undergraduate courses even though I'd never want to be a teacher. I've made peace with that. Lydia, your wardrobe this year has been serving me goals. I'm in love. Joan, i love your body. Damn girl.

[@valleryapiyo9836]

The mean girl energy point was just screaming Christineeee from selling sunset.....that girllllll 😂😂😂😂mean girl award

[@Sally-ym9ex]

That's where my mind immediately went. And those who put others down had me thinking of Colony from selling Tampa

[@magalienia6958]

Christine's mean gal persona is just a cover for the insecure, miserable little gal within who hides behind all those designer clothes.

[@valleryapiyo9836]

@@magalienia6958 I felt like it was more of an excuse She could have worked on her toxicity and not use her childhood traumas as a free ticket to make people around her miserable. She could have done better

[@valleryapiyo9836]

@@Sally-ym9ex mean ass humans those ones🤣

[@lifewithallets]

I once went to an invite an event and I remember we were having a conversation with Foi Wambui....God bless that girl she was trying to know me and literally another influencer came to say hey to her she said to her and immediately strikes a conversation with her as if she didn't even realize I was there and Mark you this babe the first time she held A Brunch event me and a friend of mine whom they are tight went to support her and this was second time she was ignoring me .....imagine i just unfollwed her instantly......upcoming influencers such as me in events people don't take us seriously but what I know tomorrow we might need to work together do you think I will reciprocate the same energy???

[@aokookello5564]

Wait until you become big, they'll be all over your DM. Mimi when I go for those celebrity events, I focus on the food and drinks. Some of them can treat you lower than 🗑️

[@lifewithallets]

@@aokookello5564 it is soo wrong coz you don't know where you will meet me tomorrow and the energy you gave me will be the same I will give to you.

[@Yutsekelman]

Ladies thanks so much for the topic and I just like the way you two bond and flow and share knowledge.. one of the turn offs I have is calling this particular friend , especially when I haven't heard from here in a bit ,but boi oh boi when I do she takes over the call and then all the drama comes flowing ,if she got all this madness going on then call ,but no she waits for me to call and takes over the call ,all I could say is ok ,oh really ok well am oh ,so sorry and blah blah blah .that's a great big turn off for me . Like Lydia I think I attract broken birds 🤫

[@secondineumwali1697]

Lydia:guess what Murugi:good night

[@foodandvibeswithkoi1013]

My biggest turn off is this chics who dig at you indirectly, like 'how can that chic be that fat' and the chic she is talking about is maybe smaller than you

[@maureenachiengotieno1240]

I had to screen record the section and boundaries and share it with someone. This sums up I have been trying to tell the people who just don't understand that "My things are MY things" 😂 I feel so validated because I have been called selfish alot. I am saving that video and will use it to communicate going forward.

[@musinare]

I think my one biggest turn off might be.....women that get confrontational or violent...with other women. especially over a grown man that has made mistakes by himself. Like the moment you have the time to fight another girl and not let your man take responsibility for his own actions....girl bye😅

[@fatmahady]

Mean girl energy is all my paternal cousins with an exception of a couple😂… all family functions with them feel like a highschool reunion🤢🤮

[@maggie.98]

That moment when Joe said she tops Lyd's best friends list and Lyd tickled Joe and they both laughed 😍😍 I wanted to add more on what Joan said about women who you've just met and they start over sharing their details, most of the time these are the type that give out your information to other people when you become friends,they barely can't keep things to themselves.

[@fkamonya]

Murugi - Absolutely, Lydia -100 percent.

[@tmipodcastke]

😂😂😂😂

[@Linda.Maingi]

​@@tmipodcastke and goodnight 😂😂

[@branisachieng]

With VICTIM MENTALITY I hope women can understand that they are not making it up or fantasizing about it IT IS REAL their are many social constructs that are made to work against you ... COLOURISM SEXISM EQUITY but at the end of the day you either wallow in that and live in if's and regrets or do something about it and make it easy for women for other coming generations...THATS THE POWER IN OUR PAIN

[@graciakinyanjui6937]

Murungi love your hair,,,Lydia KM your accent is ok ..your are fluent and eloquent..

[@patiencebarasa550]

Enyewe I have paused and subscribed, mmenishoutia vile inafaa. Constant watcher who always forgets to subscribe(tabia mbaya🙄)..love your content and you guys!!❤️

[@angelamwandanda8333]

I'm a new subscriber and I enjoyed this discussion, thanks ladies!

[@esirbellabulla]

I have been called out!! Haha. Some things I've done thinking it was okay! Weeeh!

[@Cikanyoro]

I get that one of it's always about Brian....been there. I also get that one of women treating our women friends time like it doesn't matter. If we make a plan show up. I look forward to this show every week now. Thank you for airing this

[@TheCookingNurse]

Today na today🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Women who meet you today and immediately feel like you're besties, no sisss we r not.

[@Flourish_today]

My biggest issue with some women is those who talk about things that don't improve our lives. Talking about clubbing and partying, eating chips and chicken, being taken out by so and so. Now what is that?can we for once talk about saving to buy land or starting small buisnesses. Not everyday is party time.

[@lynnieeve]

You know...

[@muriithimumbi370]

Lol! Or the ever cheating partner, pls new news pls

[@ladymorisette]

Its Friday... just discovered this bomb ass channel and am on a TMI watch marathon sipin' my wine.

[@WakejiKamore1]

I can't believe I am awake past midnight watching this... its so good... I know how it feels to have those compliments that feel like a slap and a hug at the same time. YUCK!! .. they leave you confused 😕😕

[@Oregano987]

I love that face you guys make when you say "No" and sit back - it's giving " I am not boarding vibes" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@salomekamau5380]

Lydia...I feel... about that matusi and compliment...ah, ah, it was needed.

[@gracy7714]

“Sally” must be chocking 😂😂😂😂. The advise in regards to pursuing education 🙌🏽, it contributes majorly to how you articulate yourself( principles as you said), I agree.

[@silverwanjira]

"I feel like ..."Joan's words that I associate with

[@wanjikungare8517]

Lydia's word of the day is GUESS WHAT! PROBLEMATIC 😝

[@Nonz]

Whooooa lets talk about negative comments on people's channels and pages - I always tell myself that you envy that person, why bother leave a comment if you hate the person/their content. This episode is fire. Luv you ladies. Eish sorry, i comment as I watch.

[@jaccylaughter]

"Alot of people get woke only to fall asleep in a different way" 🙌 Lyd said it. This is such a turn off for me. Thank you Sisters, waiting for the special something😂 🥳💃. #TMI!

[@ahabwe5761]

Murugi and goodnight...it is a brand on its own🤣🤣🤣

[@fatmanasir6691]

I love this topic. If you don't deal with the victim mentality it haunts you for the rest of your life. Deal with daddy's wounds. Kia Stephens has written a book on that, she runs ablog&podcast. Thank you Lyds for talking about putting boundaries on frequencies. I stopped bending backwards late in life, otherwise I really hurt myself on several occassions. I'm work in progress in respecting people's stuff.

[@missnzomo9998]

Murugi says " i personally feel like".. alot🤣

[@Solitadiaries]

Hey girls, you both look gorgeous!!! Joan I’m not hating but I feel like that food money thing goes both way, when you say that your friend didn’t offer to split the bill, did you offer to split it yourself? When she said she paid for food, maybe if you did offer to split the bill then she would have probably mentioned that she took money from your bag. N/B don’t get it twisted, it’s so wrong to get into someone’s bag, I wouldn’t myself. But then again there’s a double standard in you saying that she didn’t offer to split the bill whereas you went home knowing that she paid for food using her money but you also didn’t offer to split up at that time.

[@winniewangui9661]

Yess the friends who postpone your plans coz of their boyfriends last minute call it's so rude I got bored of a friend coz of always turning down our meetings coz 'Nani ' called we should do better.

[@bethtrylakinyi5098]

Lydia-It feels like Murugi-I feel like You women are hilarious❤️

[@ivonna7916]

True true💯

[@emmakanana7612]

I have watched these episodes so much it has rubbed on me 😂

[@jeanayackomytake6178]

New here. Loved loved and loved this. I was about to give a compliment that would be seen as backhanded. You ladies are awesome. The first 52 minute KZbin conversation video that I finished. I have subscribed and I will keep coming back for more.

[@julieomwanda1312]

welcome nyamin....they are dope....bring that backhanded compliment we are here for it

[@Spinkly]

Lydia I love your accent!!! Also the word that reminds me of you is Yack!!! And both of yall is D for done! 😂

[@sashawambui]

Lydia’s word is “Goodnight!”😂 I just love it when she says it😂

[@shaniceamira4201]

Can we just appreciate the quality of this video 🏋️🏋️🏋️it even gives one psyche to watch .

[@minkrasi]

So true on finishing what you start! great advice...

[@conniekamanya3978]

The both of you would be "Goodnight" but I love it soo much i started using too interchangably with "curtains or its gates"

[@happinesskipeja1334]

I love it when you share your inside jokes with us.....alot of love from TZ 💕💕

[@Angela-xl6iv]

One thing that turns me off about women... Are the ones that are nice to other women that are pretty meaning if you not pretty they won't respect you like seriously

[@louisawambui4475]

It sucks that I have to wait an entire week for the next episode! Yani a whole seven days☹☹☹. Keep up serving great stuff😊😊

[@puritymuthoni2070]

hey,there are this group of women who are like i bought this,i did that,and at that point they truely know you are at your lowest point financially..its really a turn off to me

[@vion_k4]

It's definitely TMI😍😍 Looking beautiful ladies I enjoyed watching this🌹

[@greymatters4565]

Lydia's make up and outfit is on flick 🔥

[@mercykiaritha350]

I can't believe there was a time I wasn't watching and listening to TMI podcast.

[@carolinenjoroge1195]

mean girl energy giving kindergarten immediately yuck🙄

[@mercykwamboka_]

Eeeww🤢

[@ggll5240]

D for Done lmao 🤣 😂 but I love when you say that. Please don't stop

[@aphrodite1699]

Not me straining my ears to get the tea 🍵😂😂😂mmesengenya nani hao? Lydiah, your accent is awesome😘

[@lynnieeve]

Haha... they said "there are those that she blesses"my mind went to one C****😅 and I know I'm right 😊

[@jennydoureen5642]

@@lynnieeve Aki give me the second and the last letter atleat niwe na clue😂

[@mkhanamyaya2658]

Caroline *******

[@mitchellmiranda8191]

Lyds phrase: i tend to gravitate towards.... Jo's:mmh...,yeah... exactly 😂😂

[@tmipodcastke]

We support each other here ❤️❤️

[@alanpierrers]

OMG, this is so true. I had to start using that word when I started watching the videos. I was like, I'm gravitating towards... lol.

[@rninsi2003]

joan the word/saying that you always use is 'you know, kind of thing' and know IVE STARTED SAYING IT. lmaoo its giving trend setter!🤣

[@karenkinyua5020]

Am 23 I broke up with my bff 2years ago she dint respect my boundaries then we later patched things up so few weekends ago we decided to hangout and coincidentally she and her friend got to meet my guy literally she acted all clingy towards I am not a dramatic lady so I just let it slide but never again I now realize why I definitely don’t want her to be my crowd

[@thegodlyprincess_kenya]

That career dillema was handled the BEST way. I agree 💯

[@briannduhiu2441]

Thanks for recognizing us the kingbetweeners😊😊

[@magalienia6958]

One thing women do that's a turn off... in this day & age, without presenting receipts/body count, insulting a fellow woman by calling her a whore/ho just because u want to trim her down to size, is not only a turn off but it's redundant, mundane & intellectually lazy. "Sista, if ya only come back when u've a difference of opinion or argument is spitting out Ho, then take several seats at the kiddies' table coz clearly u're punching above ya weight. This episode though ❤️ ...The Best! The ladies preached! Thank u!

[@passionbaridinbo]

Lydia will always say.. Guess Wha'... in her accent and now when im passionately advising my problematic friends lazima niseme... guess wha'

[@rhodagmaina]

23:00 😉 I would mute that if I were you. I clearly heard the name 😂😂

[@ggwanjiku2017]

Hehe same

[@linetmutheu]

Victim mentality is yuck 🤮 yuck!! I always feel physically pained to listen to such a person.

[@lucymwai7540]

*boundaries are about frequency!

[@milliekwamboka7762]

Am always in love with ladies who supports each...TMI content is full of positivity and authenticity. 💗💗💗

[@adilais-haka4357]

Just love the open mindedness in your episodes :>

[@roziebaybe1626]

Eish This One Definitely Brought Out Y'all's TRUE Personalities To Life..STOP SHOUTING..WE BELIEVE YOU!!! 😂😂 #ThePassion

[@monicahnjeri8309]

Those who throw shade and disguise it as a joke, it totally turns me off! Also those who belittle your dreams and vision and say it in a way that they are sugar coating..huh 🤦🏽‍♀️ Those who tend to press you down after an achievement and think you are not capable of doing something and they will throw words like; "wasn't not for this, you would not have been able to do this " 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@naomimaina3428]

This is so common. But it's "goodnight" to such type

[@Spy_X744]

Is it weird if I dislike women who are not ambitious?

[@themusingsforum7672]

Murugi your word is " Exactly' since yummy mummy days

[@africanprincess3421]

Mimi I have that accent and I grew up in Nairobi west lol no real justification lol

[@Nonz]

Its definitely TMI thats what am here for that intro Child!!!

[@wanjikunjoroge1191]

It's definitely TMI🔥🔥💯

[@wanjiku805]

Another great topic. I look forward to watching you both deliver great content.🖤🖤

[@shulamitefrank]

Lid says "good night " pretty often.

[@puritykiprop1356]

I was waiting for this.Love you both😍

[@inezamy9523]

Am watching this episode on a different place but that energy of people not keeping the plans like cancel if you won't appear

[@adilais-haka4357]

Backhanded compliments and trynna demean other ppl through the compliments is just so weird 🚮

[@africanprincess3421]

They are called backhanded compliments

[@asimwebarbra6469]

I want the green dresssss

[@evanunu8832]

its how Murugi pouts as a baby and you think shes going to say something adorable but says fuck you🤣🤣 time stamp 20.00 also Lydia im here for your outfit girl💁🏽‍♀️

[@mutaicherobon6550]

For real 😅

[@julieomwanda1312]

OMG..that part where someone gives a "compliment".. Oh how hate such people!

[@thisandthat1523]

These non-stop talks would overwhelm me. But atleast I see kooch I'd dig out when drunk.

[@lavishlovergirl]

You mean rape? Coz being drunk is not consent

[@thisandthat1523]

@@lavishlovergirl you mean sodomy? Because I would be drunk.

[@tiggie837]

Start tagging the sources of your outfits ladies.

[@flomaish9814]

I am properly drunk from taking a shot every time you said “I feel LIKE”…so to answer the both of you, like is your word collectively

[@josephinenyebaza2156]

Lovely Conversation..!!

[@wanjah.374]

🤭I don’t know if you care or not, but with my headphones on, I can hear the name you didn’t want to say out loud.

[@wanjah.374]

And yes it’s true what you said. Also given themselves the power to give the stamp of approval which they issue in a very elitist way while they claim to be an amplifier of women 🙄🙄🙄. Total BS.

[@N.J-c4n]

😅😅😅

[@joycemuthoni4011]

Today Lyd looks overly happy 😊 😊😊