Things You NEVER Say to a Pregnant Teacher

[@elementarystemwithms.crosm5345]

My favorite comment during my last pregnancy was, "Hey, you could use my fan. Here it is!" as I was teaching in a closet with 20 old-school computers, 20 kids, and no window directly over the boiler room so it was always hot. Best. Co-worker. Ever. Even better than Oreos because that fan was a massive Vornado fan.

[@elementarystemwithms.crosm5345]

My least favorite comment was, "Are you a surrogate for someone?" because I was single and pregnant. Nope, I was 39 and using a sperm bank because my eggs weren't going to wait around forever.

[@loretta3203]

When I was pregnant, the custodian turned off the heat in my room. That man was an angel! 😇

[@esthervillalpando8800]

Teaching while pregnant is on the top 5 most difficult things I’ve ever done! I vividly remember sleeping during my lunch. I would seriously knock out from exhaustion and would only wake up because of the school bell. 😂 Hang in there ! BTW you look beautiful 🥰

[@pembrokelove]

I truly hope no one ever has to experience the level of ruthless, disgusting, violence that one of my coworkers got, when a full grown adult said to her, “If you’re as good a mother as you are a teacher, I hope your baby dies so it doesn’t have to grow up with you.” I taught at college level as an associate professor in a nursing program; we had some overlap with other programs for like Bio, A&P, technical writing, etc., which is important only because I was disgusted that the student wasn’t kicked from their program. I had no say; the other prof had no say beyond having him removed from her classroom, and that was even a fight at first. We would have kicked him and no nursing program would ever have touched them again. I would have actively worked to end that career over this one thing, because that is far too egregious and unkind for *anyone* pursuing a career in patient care. I don’t know why people are so awful to pregnant working professionals. It’s disgusting.

[@rosie11995]

Pembroke Love, I swear people are that way for one messed up sexist reason! They honestly believe that a woman can’t work and be a mom! To all the mamas/working mamas and soon to be mamas/working mamas out there you are all rock stars! Everyone else can either supportive and understanding or shut the up!

[@biblegirl]

I wasn't a teacher at the time, but the amount of people that referred to my maternity leave as vacation or belittled how tired I was during pregnancy...ugh. my kid is four and it still irks me.

[@pembrokelove]

I hate that shit. My favorite response of all time to the “why are you so tired, what did you even do today?” shit came from a coworker far more clever than I… *I GREW A HUMAN KIDNEY, WHAT TF DID YOU DO???* Heavens I miss that sassy lady! 😂

[@catorce9027]

One of my colleagues, whose left teaching to do nails BTW, was told by our principal that asking to wear stretchy bottoms at 8 and a half months with high blood pressure and swelling was not a legit ask. Exact words, "Pregnancy is a choice." I cried (literally) as she was telling me the story (I have 4 kiddos of my own). The callousness of this dude.

[@mrsclessons7780]

Currently a pregnant teacher and I have the most amazing colleague, she only tells me how beautiful, and comments on how I have gained no weight at all (not even a little bit true) and asks how I'm feeling. I have learned an important lesson, that is the only thing a pregnant woman wants to hear 🤣

[@vlmellody51]

I am so glad I only had one. Pregnancy was a miserable experience! I remember all of the horror stories people (mostly women) told me about pregnancy, labor, and delivery. I heard about preeclampsia, epesiotomies that were cut all the way into the colon, and horribly malformed infants. Once my son was born after seven and a half hours of labor, no episiotomy and a seven pound eight ounce birth weight, all I heard were derogatory comments. "Oh, that's nothing; my little Susie delivered herself in five minutes, cut and tied her own cord, paid the bill, and now she's a Rhodes Scholar. How old is she? She's six months old." We women are frequently our own worst enemies.

[@muriel5826]

Lmao!!!

[@m_n_a_b]

🤣 I would knock Susie's mom right out... people need to be supportive. Just be supportive. Celebrate the new mom and the new baby. That's it. Nothing more. Nothing less. Just celebrate them... and maybe bring a tin of oreos. 😉

[@vlmellody51]

@Amber Baird I agree! When my son started to have problems, I would avoid talking to expectant mothers. His issues were entirely genetic and serious. If I couldn't say anything good, I didn't want to say anything at all. He's fine now, but it took him years to manage them, and he still has some difficulties.

[@m_n_a_b]

@@vlmellody51 That was very nice of you. I hope you found other parents going through similar things with their kids or that you had a good support system at that time. Pregnancy can already be very scary for many people, and then to hear about everything and anything that could go wrong... not helpful. Not at all. So, it was good you didn't scare those expectant Moms.

[@vlmellody51]

@Amber Baird thanks! Nearly forty years later, I still remember all those attempts to frighten me. As you said, the run-up to delivery is worrying enough without being scared out of your wits by horror stories. Yes, I did have a support system; I went weekly to a support group meeting of parents with similarly disabled children. My dad was also very helpful. I hope you have a very Happy New Year! 😊

[@Vanda-il9ul]

Maternity leave is in my language called, literally, maternity VACATION. I am not kidding.

[@johnnytownsend4204]

When I was in 8th grade, my teacher said, "I'm pregnant. If you're sick, just leave. You don't need to ask permission. Don't come up to me. Just go." So then a kid came up and showed her all the bumps on his arms. Measles.

[@carolwarchol976]

Three pregnancies in unairconditioned public schools. There are a lot more things not to say, but you made me smile!

[@gwynwellliver4489]

"What do you mean ?! You're not coming back?!" Said to me after being in the hospital for over a week, resulting in a life saving emergency c-section at 28 weeks and a 2lb. 5oz. baby who was in the NICU for 12 weeks. That baby is now graduated from college.

[@annasahlstrom6109]

Growing a little human is a huge undertaking and us ladies need all the love and support we need. I don't have kids but I want to when I get married.

[@adelemaidment756]

I'm a relief teacher and I once had a principal ask me if I would be available to cover a class 3 days after I was due to give birth, I had literally just finished telling her I was not going to be available the entire term because I was due in like week 2 and had no plans of returning to work until the following term.

[@margaretanncarno4014]

I wish you all the best with the rest of your pregnancy and the new baby.

[@perfectlyimperfect9129]

Honestly those all sound like things you should never say to a pregnant woman period !! Everyone is so full of advice when you're pregnant even strangers and it's very frustrating and it does stress you out.

[@kristinreynolds577]

I love Mrs Smith so much!!!! I’m so glad to see your videos on here! I wish you had your own channel too. Congrats on your pregnancy!! 💗💗💗

[@alexandraashley]

I was only 10 weeks pregnant by the end of the school year last year (only like 5 or 6 people knew by the last day of school including my bosses) but it was pretty difficult. My hormones definitely made me not have as much patience and I didn’t want to tell anyone why until I was further along. I’m glad I didn’t start the new school year and I could just be done.

[@mordeys]

Ya i never understood why ppl thought it was ok to ask teachers why they didn't plan their pregnancies better. If we waited to try and get pregnant when it was most convenient for our jobs, families, friends and others the human race would die out. Pregnancies don't work that way. If you are actively trying to conceive it can take months even in the best of situations. The odds of getting pregnant and stay pregnant passed the 1st month are astronomical. Let alone carrying to due date. There are studies that say some women are "technically pregnant " up to 20 times in their childbearing years. But the body doesn't continue the pregnancy passed the first or second missed period. That 4 days late could have been an nonviable pregnancy. So the fact that you are pregnant and remaining pregnant is a miracle in itself and should not be questioned as to timing of finding a sub or causing little johnny anxiety by learning a new teachers name.

[@tilasole3252]

"But seriously though, try to plan ahead better next time. During the summer would be perfect for us. Or better yet, get your tubes tied. By the way, can you volunte..." - Principle

[@Trumpeter667]

My mom was a teacher and while she was expecting me, it wasn’t just morning sickness: It was all day sickness. So the teacher of her neighboring classroom just knew that if she heard her name from the hall she needed to keep an ear on my mom’s class.

[@beachprints]

Thanks for the laughs! I do get what you are saying though. I am a substitute teacher. I love that you did this video.

[@amberyoung4425]

Ugg! I don't miss being pregnant lol (got 4) you're an angel for being a teacher on top of it😇

[@GoldenAngel-]

Moral of the story don't be judging any pregnant woman whether she a Teacher or not 😮

[@peacefulldiva215]

When I was pregnant with my 3rd son I was due in July in Arizona. Temperature 105-110F every day. My boss is like you need to cover up more. I had like a cm of cleavage showing. My boss was a woman who was a size 2 and never had children. Lady I am boiling, my boobs grew a little bigger and I am not buying more plus size maternity tops. I don't have the money. I just said OK and walked away.

[@Hayfay27]

I got pregnant mid August so my baby is due the end of May.. yes that works out great for having the baby right before the summer.. but that also means being pregnant the ENTIRE school year.. oh man it hasn't been easy AT ALL.. and people are like "just wait.. it's not going to get any easier"

[@melissamichalak3024]

I was also told by HR I should have planned my pregnancy better. Not my fault that my son decided to come after his due date. I was also told I needed to attend a mandatory meeting. I told the person I might not be there because I might be on maternity leave or having a baby because my due date was the day of the meeting. I was still told it was mandatory to be there. So I showed up 40 weeks pregnant and was asked when I was due, and I said today. I was still made to sit through the meeting, but I made everyone hella nervous for the entire meeting.

[@tilasole3252]

She is completely glowing!

[@Mafalda935]

YOU ARE AMAIZINGGGGGGGGGGGG . I can not stop laughing😂😂😂

[@bibliophilelady6106]

I always thought the BEST time to have a baby for a teacher is midway through second semester. I would not want to have a summer baby because my time would be so short to bond with him/her. But have that baby in April? Eight weeks maternity leave, come in for the last week or two and give finals and then have a few more months to snuggle? (So of course my son was born in November. 😂

[@muriel5826]

Sub maternity plans? Whaat? I could advise admin to hire a qualified teacher who can then plan and teach the courses themselves. That’s a pretty good sub plan!

[@christmashereandnow]

I'm a health nut, but I could NOT eat a salad when I was preggo. Pretty much anything raw was out. Needed easy-to-digest food. PS... Third graders haven't a clue what "professional" dress looks like.

[@withtrees]

2 jobs in which everyone who has no business in them thinks they can tell you how to do your job

[@shirleyjhaney1041]

Sometimes people especially women commiserate about troubles as an attempt to bond eg wow you’re giving birth in the middle of a school year. That could even be seen as praise ie boy you’re willing to work hard…..

[@nicklyle4683]

OK - I’m a single guy and the “poor planning” comment REALLY made me raise my eyebrows 😮. Edit: I also agree that the other comments are unacceptable!

[@maribeld84]

I love your videos! You're so funny. And congrats on your baby!

[@kimparker8089]

I’d love to see more from Bored Teachers that acknowledges all the teachers who are childless (about 20% of women entering their 40s without children is a pretty big part of the population that is ignored). As a childless by circumstance teacher I’ve heard so many rude comments in over 20 years but there is a lack of acknowledgement of us and our disenfranchised grief. Working through your grieving process surrounded by children is both calming and painful. But there’s little to no support. Parents are allowed to tell us we don’t understand kids since we’re not parents….admin tries to tell us this as well. We’re expected to stay later/come earlier and pick up other staff's slack "because you don’t have anything waiting at home", we’re supposed to just smile in the face of these rude comments because our pain isn’t "real". I enjoy Bored Teachers' content but there is a real pronatalism be t to much of it. Many memes and videos assume that all teachers are parents or place teacher moms above other teachers. Please, please please start to acknowledge that this is NOT true. Many teachers are childfree (they choose not to be parents) or childless (for whatever radon they were unable to have children) but we are vastly underrepresented in content.

[@PatriciaLLogan]

Well said. I had my "mom" card taken away due to Fibroid surgery. Yep, partial hysterectomy at age 29. Yes, I could have adopted, but then I was bombarded with the "you want to adopt, save your money, you will be happy you did. Children cost too much to raise". What I always wanted to know was, " if it costs too much to raise children, why do you have yours?" Do you think that I am in it for the money? I am in it for the fulfillment of raising a family, and the enjoyment of doing something great for myself and that child. No one ever talks about that. I, too, had the comment, "Oh, you can stay late", like a single, childless woman does not have plans like parents, siblings with children, and friends (with or without children), and resting from a long day on the job.

[@kayesguineapigs]

When I taught in my late 20s and 30s all people did was ask when were we having children while the answer was never because I had cancer. And when we looked into adoption, we simply couldn’t afford it. I’ve been told I’m selfish and horrible for not having children right but I work with children and I love them, so yeah I’m a horrible person.

[@muriel5826]

@@kayesguineapigs I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m glad you survived cancer but I’m sure that it was hard going through treatment and dealing with the loss of choices in terms of family. You’re right, many parents think they understand your life and motivations when they know nothing about you. From your username I assume you have some Guinea pigs. I have had many of them myself and I really think they’re wonderful.

[@muriel5826]

@@PatriciaLLogan oh dear, I’m sorry for your loss and I’m so sorry for all the insensitivity and exploitation you’ve experienced. People really need to stop assuming things about childless and child free individuals.

[@muriel5826]

I agree. I went to a fertility doctor in my 20s after almost 2years of not being able to get pregnant. I found out this happens to lots of teachers. Not sure why. Either the stress affects their fertility or the job attracts women who tend to have medical issues that affect fertility. But yes, it would be great to delve into that topic.

[@jellycat2289]

Well said.

[@joannadavison7491]

When I was HoD & pregnant with 2nd my 2i/c was pregnant with 1st- one hot day we hid in my office, with our feet up, fan on & window open just to escape stupid comments. 1st time around I spent a lot of time in hospital with hyperemesis on a drip! A colleague/friend was horrified when a not so friendly colleague asked if I was having a termination!!!! (Like my maternity health had anything to do with either). My husband was also reprimanded by his new Head Teacher (she was new to the school, not him) for us being so inconsiderate to gave a baby in September right at the start of the school year!!

[@muriel5826]

Congratulations! You look fabulous.

[@MaidMirawyn]

If you are not involved in starting the pregnancy, providing the medical care, or delivering baby, things like “why now” are not your business. Be supportive or be silent.

[@deniseeulert2503]

I had two teachers during third grade as #1 was pregnant and we got #2 after the Christmas break.. This was 1963-1964. So in November of 1963 our teacher was there when the principal came in and announced the death of JFK. She looked so stricken, and kind of clutched at herself.

[@SmartMoufShirts]

"We wanted to get you a presetn, and wanted it to be something consumable and durable. So, all the boxes on this entire palat are Hostess snacks of various kinds, from Costco. Just let us know if you need any more. We all pitched in. Please don't eat us."

[@enricam.7561]

What about all the people that feel entitled to talk about their or their friends pregnancy gone not exactly in the perfect way? Or on the contrary gone soo smoothly that you feel bad if you don't feel perfect?

[@muriel5826]

Yep, everyone needs to keep all that info to themselves.

[@pembrokelove]

And it’s awful what we do to each other… everyone wants to tell you ever birth horror story in the world, and then if you dare have an “easier” delivery or, even worse, accept interventions - afterwards it’s all stories about how great *they* did, with no drugs and in one push! We need to stop treating pregnancy and birthing as a competition and just support one another.

[@EsthersLetters]

hehehe poor thing. hilarious in a sad way. love your videos.

[@LindaKing-lf8nk]

Love it

[@s.g2344]

Lol this is really funny i was told by collegues i shouldnt be drinking caffeine 😅 as its bad for the baby but when i asked the midwife she was like no its fine -just dont go overboard which i dont anyway. Oh and i got the fruit and salad comments but the problem was the fruit and salad made me feel ill 😅 baby obvs takes after me and loves chocolate and crisps 😅😅. Every woman is different and we should be helping and supporting each other not criticize 😊😊.

[@chrisoulalakkas8968]

"Put All of your Energy & Attention into Visualizing ... It's then that Doors Begin to Open for You" ~Wayne Dyer

[@kayakinggrandmakelly7105]

Too bad there was no KZbin when I had my kids…. I could’ve made this video myself, lol.

[@arlenebaker105]

How about "You're pregnant? How exciting! I wish you the best! Here's a little basket of goodies to do with as you wish."

[@Tony29103]

First of all, congratulations! I didn't realize ya were expecting! Boy girl? Sorry lol Second, love the video! I find the whole "do you know if they got you a sub yet" kinda stupid.... Like Not your job to plan for who to cover for you for when you're supposedly on your vacation right? lol I mean.... Again congratulations! Ya know to be fair, least you'll only have one little kid clawing at ya :D and no admin too! So maybe a bennefit? Kinda sorta... prob not lol

[@bulbkit]

How is this list particular to teachers? Pregnant folks everywhere get an unbelievable ration of this shit.

[@SmartMoufShirts]

Admin - "Jess, I know you're pregnant and everything, but we're gonna need you to..." You - "I'm gonna stop you right there. If the next words out of your mouth aren't 'sit more', or 'slow down', your health is at risk. Just FYI. Carry on." Colleague - "Wow, middle of the school year... Well that was poor planning." You - "Yes, not as poor as your outfit or your hair..."

[@NoThankUBeQuiet]

Well you are gonna have a tiny thing screaming at you for every vacation you take over the next 10 or so years

[@mackenziej8980]

First coment!

[@adventureswithmymother]

At least we all know you would be rude to any one who talks to you like this

[@MaidMirawyn]

Insisting that women be polite no matter how they are treated is some toxic BS we have to stomp out. And I say this as a multi-generation Southern women. This attitude has brought nothing but problems. Yes, it’s nice to be nice. But when we let people treat ourselves and other badly, we’re telling them it’s okay. It isn’t. It is unbelievably rude on their part. Whether it’s demeaning sexist behavior and comments from men or disrespectful, unprofessional comments and expectations from school administrators and parents, we have every right to call them out.

[@genericfabricrefresher3163]

Her energy is trash im ngl, ik shes venting but its also a comedy channel. Bless yo baby tho