Thinking of Breaking No Contact? Listen first! (The Love Chat)

[@TheLoveChat]

Friends, Have you recently been through a breakup and need counseling? Check out BetterHelp: www.betterhelp.com/Rory - (Get 10% off using that link.) I am sponsored by BetterHelp and receive a commission. I believe in mental health counseling.

[@JaskaranSingh-eq7ok]

I believe in you Rory hahah

[@prateeksharma9551]

I've sent you a mail today... expecting your prompt reply. I trust you.❤️

[@fathuman]

If you got dumped they have to do total and absolute 100% of the effort. DO NOT, for the love of god, lift a single finger.

[@bernieoconnell5515]

I agree absolutely

[@laurayazid3536]

You're soooo right, now I need to remember that!

[@suncloudx6502]

How though, its so hard not to reach out, im day 13,has he even noticed i havent contacted him!

[@laurayazid3536]

@@suncloudx6502 my heart goes out for you.... The nostalgia wave is going to crush him and he will reach out. In the meantime, think about yourself and keep listening to Rory, I know it sounds cheesy, but it does help!

[@fathuman]

@@suncloudx6502 Yes it is hard but assuming you were unilaterally dumped, then why would you chase somebody that voted you out of their life? You're not going to talk them into changing their mind so don't bother.

[@OilCanHarry2U]

The second you push that “send” button… YOU… WILL… REGRET… IT.

[@mrbotitas18]

It´s been more than a year since NC, I have obviously moved on and have a different partner who's amazing, however, just to let you all know... they always come back, it doesn't matter how long it's been. Found out a day ago that he wants me back and it's the best feeling in the world to know that I don't!

[@RedRoomPosters]

dani-coronadoh Great to hear that 😎🔝🔝🔝

[@cedricchan4224]

This is an inspiration to me

[@yswen828]

Dani, so what happened when your ex came back? What’s your situation like?

[@mrbotitas18]

@@yswen828 well, I am in a relationship with someone else so when a mutual friend told me about it I just laughed. I won't ever get back with him...

[@cedricchan4224]

during they breakup, did u beg and plead... or broke no contact along the way prior of him reaching out?

[@magicman205]

I've stayed subscribed to this wonderful channel because I want to leave comments confirming Rory's teachings. My girlfriend of 2 years (best friend prior of 11 years) ghosted me about 5 months ago. I went into NC immediately, lost 80+ pounds, went back to school, went skydiving, went to therapy, hired a financial planner, and made new friends out of the coworkers I had been anti-social with for years now. The pain was unimaginable for a very long time, but no contact helps a great deal with self improvement helping a TREMENDOUS amount more. I do still miss her and I am still sad from time to time, but if you truly dive head first into self improvement, I promise you you can heal! Heal well, my friends!

[@sunleepark761]

@Magicman205 great comment and so true

[@iuidit2809]

awful experience. you got this! :)

[@1911free]

Listen to Rory people! No contact works every time. Either they come back, or it will not matter to you in the end, regardless. Stay strong. You will not regret it. Its only a phase. Once you are out of it, you will have become a better version of yourself. Even though I am passed the "phase", I am still a subscriber. Rory is doing good to the world. I send my love to all the brokenhearted people out there. A broken heart means you have one. Embrace it!!

[@Amctothemoon]

@Precious Diamond that means you’ve split up move on

[@ScratchBabble]

I wasn't in danger of calling but moving forward has been a challenge. This helps. Thank you.

[@BritshBeef1]

So pick your head, up and put the phone down.... you deserve better! Priceless...:-)

[@jedijed9001]

21 days into no contact! she reached out to me 3 days into no contact the first time then left me on read so i continued it. time is on your side! with time you start to feel better but yes, sadness comes in waves and unexpected sometimes. just going through the motions and gyming everyday. i got this and everyone else here has got this!

[@happysoul2626]

Hello. Yes, I’m talking to you. I’ve been here in this place 2 years ago. I was dumped by a man who was my everything for 2 years. I thought I was losing my mind. I was desperate, so I listened to Rory. I came back to his videos over and over for about 8 months and then I took a leap of faith. I moved to a different country, got a new job, moved to a new place, and completely turned my life around. It was a long, tedious and painful process, but I made it. After 2 years, I’m now in a healthy and beautiful relationship. My partner is reciprocating my love and my affection, and he is very supportive with regards to making my mental health a priority. I’m in therapy and I still have bad days from residual trauma, but I am here. Please. Follow rory’s advice. Go no contact. Exercise. Go for a walk. Get into therapy. Go out with friends. Meet new people. Cry. Laugh. Scream. Get it all out! Trust me, I swear with my life, things will get better. Trust yourself and immerse in the healing process. Being dumped is the best gift that your ex could have given to you.

[@unafrade]

12 months now since breakup, found a new girl, still stings a bit but I feel normal again. The hardest thing to get over isn’t her, it’s what she inflicted on me. The betrayal, the confusion, the lack of communication , and throwing away a 5 years friendship, essentially making me grieve worse then the grief bestowed by the death of a loved one. That shit is hard to forget or even get over, how could I be so foolish, how could I think our relationship was so strong that nothing would separate us. Only to be dumped, out of the blue and completely blind sided, no warning signs and no explanation. Never take someone like that back....Never

[@sallyscott7555]

Nobody leaves out of blue. Why to enter a new relationship when you obviously didn't heal?

[@unafrade]

sally scott yes they do, she did. And I have healed, but the trauma remains.

[@bodegabonsai7069]

That's what hurts the most, I thought we had something special. We had problems but I thought our love was strong enough to weather the storms. It hurts that I was so wrong about her. Wrong about us. I feel for you.

[@GuavaGhoulie]

Thanks for empathizing how if they ended it it’s THEIR job and we deserve more than what they delivered. This diverted some anxieties , grateful for ya Rory :•)

[@stormfalcon72]

Almost four and a half months after breakup and no contact and I can say that I do not want her back... Finally. Yay!

[@JK-ni7gp]

Just got there after 9 months

[@levicook8787]

@@JK-ni7gp good to see that, I'm at 4,5 months and still in so much pain

[@JK-ni7gp]

@@levicook8787 deal with the pain. Let that shit flow. You will become a star like me........

[@Jcampbell4321]

Damn bro that ending gave me energy to power through my day. You are honestly one of the best humans out there. Helping the broken. Empowering to make change and do better. If you’re ever in Houston. Send me a message. Dinner will be on me.

[@peanut8211]

I’ve listened to so many NC vids and this is one that truly resonated with me- esp the part that the dumper owes it to us to do the bare minimum of making that bit of effort to reach out and work things out with us, if they so genuinely desire to do so. Why do we need to pick up the slack for them in everything?! Know our worth people x

[@RedRoomPosters]

If someone left you.... forget her/him, move on.... because you dont need person who choose to left you, among other versions she/he could choose... so , you dont need back that person with experience of “ dumping you from their life”.... Respect yourself and dont forget .. there are 7.000.000.000 people on planet Earth.... And of course “... at the end, you dont need your ex, and you will be fine“.. Dating Guy 😊😊❤️ Great video LC 😊❤️

[@tinamkrkmn]

BEST VIDEOOOO EVERRRRRRRR...... I WAS SO DEPRESSED TODAY! LISTENED TO THIS TO THE END! AND I WAS LIKE FFFFFFFFFFFKKK ITTTT.... I FELT SO MUCH BETTER!

[@spookykittty]

It is 100% because they’re lonely. So don’t fall for it right away. They need to prove themselves and that’s key.

[@MM-yy9us]

Finally at the part where I know I deserve better in every way! My advise to anyone going through a breakup is work on yourself & self improvement, don't run from the pain with alcohol or whatever coping habit you have and stay single until you are fully healed. Obviously go NC for your you and if they come back you can decide if you even want them back.

[@thewalkindude7716]

This is, hands down, the best No Contact Strength video on KZbin! The timing on this video was pure perfection. I needed this so much!

[@TheLoveChat]

Glad it was helpful!

[@KabayanJo-b3z]

Me too.

[@cherrybacon5154]

I think that if you're thinking of breaking no contact then you should be prepared for the worst. No "I love you's" but "Oh, well, we, I've got someone else now". You have to be mentally strong enough and detached enough and healed enough in order to cope with this, so don't try until you have been in no contact long enough to do this. Better yourself, be independent and happy by yourself before you do this and I guarantee any bad news won't feel as bad. If it's good news then let him prove to you with actions and not just empty words he's still worth it. 🍒

[@professorcartmenez8507]

I wasn't going to break it, but it was nice to hear you once again Rory. Finally, I can say that I don't care anymore about what was, or what will be, and that I am at peace with myself. All anxiety and sadness is gone thanks to complete no contact. I Haven't figured everything out yet after a year and a half, but I'm getting there. You and DG were my lifeline so many times. Stay safe.

[@larrycruz3648]

Not me! But im here to listen anyways! Ever since I walked away from my ex,I maintained no contact for 9 months. Therapy helps and moving on supports that. I got a new gf now who is wayyyyy better. Love yourself and don't blame yourself for the unfufillness or decision of another person. Let them go and focus on yourself. Fix your flaws and improve and change behaviors that are no good for you. Let go of people who don't want to be in your life. Love yourself. Be the best version for you!!

[@heartmendoza3361]

i'm very relate i needed this. my ex broke me up because of someone else and then i blaming myself because honestly i'm being neglected but i'm asking myself, do i deserved this person who betrayed me with his neighbor girl, while we still in LDR i don't think so. you open up my eyes it came up to my mind that i need to stop blaming myself for the another person who not being unfaithful towards me and let me down when i needed him the most.

[@coachcruzl1114]

@@heartmendoza3361 you don't need him. You need you. Love and respect yourself. He is a coward who gaslight, lied, and disrespected you. Thats all you should keep in mind. Leaving someone for someone else is extremely disrespectful and a red flag. Youre a beautiful woman and you'll eventually find someone way better than your ex. Stay strong.

[@noahshade814]

Thank you for this Rory. I got dumped the day after our 5 year anniversary, it’s been almost 4 months. I went a month without contact then she texted me about a mutual pet passing away and we haven’t talked since. I still miss her and probably think about her a few times a day. While in no contact I’ve worked on myself and it’s what’s has kept me sane. Your videos have helped me a lot and today for whatever reason was an extremely tough day. My anxiety was high and this Video helped calm me down and refocus my energy back to ME. People I know it’s hard and I’m sure I’m not fully healed yet but trust the process and try to enjoy it. Trust people like Rory and others, don’t fall for the gimmicky shit. If they want you they will come back and if they don’t then that’s fine. Either way the most important thing is that YOU come back. Love yourself and love the people who still support you. Peace out and thank you again Rory!

[@natester2617]

How ya holding up Noah?

[@lynnosa8963]

I’ts his birthday.. I’ve made it till 6:43 pm.. trying to hold on and finish off the day. had to come here to get my mind right again. I’ve been in no contact for the second time now for a good month..

[@younessdiouane3829]

You helped pass through the hard dark times after my ex dumped me two years ago! two years passed by and now I met a lovely girl (back to the dating game that I swore I d never touch again :) ) and here I m back again to your channel. Thanks bro for the content that helps others. Keep it up

[@sunnydaye5942]

Timing was perfect to hear this. Thank you.

[@Richard-zb3qw]

Saved to watch this every time I feel the urge to break NC. Thank you!

[@mazharhussain5824]

I made so many mistakes you can imagine and honestly after 5 years they came back. As Rory tells the straight up truth both individuals need to work on each other, She dumped me again but it didn’t matter as the relationship was doomed as we both returned to same behaviour, honestly she reached 3 times and I rejected it because it would be the same

[@ClipFrenzyZone]

Very well said my friend. I deserve better. I'm done with this no contact bs. I am moving on now.

[@ladydi1303]

4 almost 5 months no contact 😔 long distance relationship recently because he moved away for school. This video helps my cravings

[@georgepanagiotou8673]

I’m with u there, ldr here too. Was with her for almost 3 years and it’s been so hard. Last time I reached out was 2 months ago and with Christmas coming up it’s so hard. I hope u here from him in time but be strong either way.

[@autonemy]

It’s been 7 months. I’m so close to breaking n c. In my head it all Works out. Reality is it’ll probs just set me back to square 1 of healing.

[@lilasteeves3693]

Well thank you my friend. Yes I deserve much better. But guess what. After 10 mos of no contact yesterday he phoned to see how I was. I let it go to voice mail I don't answer unknown numbers. Said this is Harry how are you and the dog. Isn't it awful about this virus we don't have any music or anything. Bye dear. Imagine that crap. I did not respond to the call. He must be having a pity party . I have no intentions of calling him back. Dumping and ghosting was way to much for me. He thinks he can come back whenever. I already told him I want nothing more to do with him. What is wrong with this man's head. No I don't want to go through same crap again. He hasn't changed at all. I have came to far with my healing to let him or anyone near me right now. Thank you this reading was meant for me.

[@vintagebabyseventythree6244]

Thank you 🙏 I just found out that she resigned from where we both work. I wanted to reach out to her so badly but I knew I’d regret it. Thanks to your video I won’t be. Hard though it is. Stay strong fellow dumpees ♥️

[@JohnDL212]

This was so helpful. I was literally about to send a text and I'm so happy I listened. Thank you! I didn't send.

[@blackreign8933]

Rorey you are the straight up truth I hung in there 67 days no contact she reached out and said she misses me thanks brother!!

[@TheLoveChat]

You got this

[@blackreign8933]

Rorey She reached out only to try to friend zone me again do I just go straight back in to no contact?

[@pastadish385]

I got left for another guy last month but damn life’s a little annoying because it’s the little things that pop up. Drank the other day,, and drunk me decided to check my exes FB(dumb I know) and saw that they were in the country that the bottle was from. And a couple days ago I was approached by a girl at my job, and of course she had the EXACT first and last name as my ex. Regardless, I am working on myself, working out, school and work but it’s when I’m alone that my anxiety starts to go up. I know I’m not going to break no contact, but damn does it cross my mind. I think I’m just lonely tbh. Anyways, I’m kinda rambling but thank you for the videos Rory! They help a lot!

[@GDFuze21]

Been NC for 4 weeks now. I have my struggle moments, but this video is what motivates and fires me up to keep going. Thank you Rory, I don't know how I'd get through this without you

[@TheLoveChat]

You got this, Chris!

[@1028dash]

I’m 3 months in. Lots of ups and downs . However without Rory id be a train wreck ! Get his E book guys , it’s so good and has helped my passions like my podcast :)

[@tc8719]

Thanks. This came at a perfect time for me. I’ve been struggling the last couple of weeks with feelings of doubt and anxiety. I know better than to reach out, but your message today is really resonating and providing some much needed reassurance. Thanks Rory!

[@GlenRushz]

Fuck, I wished I heard this earlier…overthought and thought that my ex gf was dating and I broke NC by telling her “Hey, genuinely happy that you found a new guy, blessed to hear that you’re happier!”

[@Ty_Weezy22]

man rory never misses!! this video kept me from texting her!

[@drumdaddyrocks492]

I’m deployed and we were going to get married when I got back. It’s been hard for me but I’ve been trying to focus on my deployment and college classes I’m taking out here. I wanted to break NC but I’m glad I heard this first. I needed to hear this.

[@ZhakRyuu]

Thanks for this one Rory. The last part gave me an adrenaline rush, which for me means i am on the right fucking path. Appreciate you, man!

[@karolinamoontv5560]

Six months later I’m dating someone new. He messages me on Twitter “hey hope you’re well” and like two pictures on my Instagram.. I can’t tell u how bad it pissed me off.

[@karolinamoontv5560]

Why did he do that Rory ? My bf said he “planted a seed” to see if I’m still interested. I’m NOT. He def broke my heart.. but I find myself looking at his social media again. Y?

[@BBD1]

@@karolinamoontv5560 he's checking you up, checking the waters to see if you are available and/or you still miss him To be honest i think the bigger question is..why are you in a relationship and thinking so much about that ex reaching out? Think about it

[@karolinamoontv5560]

@@BBD1 it’s simple really. He died to me. Now he’s alive. Just trips me out. I blocked him and don’t give a shit I’m happily engaged.

[@karolinamoontv5560]

@@BBD1 my fiancé said the same thing ... “planting a seed” to see if I was still interested and I’m def not. I look back and think what a waste to be so heart broken over someone so worthless.

[@MrHitessh]

You won girl

[@btu45nh]

The truth agian Rory,well said. Why would you chase or break no contact will your ex. No thanks,yes we do deserve better!

[@troykomoda2267]

Damn … you brought up so many points I hadn’t even thought of. Thank you once again for pointing out things that I overlooked.

[@mantasbartasevicius3553]

that is damn right Rory, i respect you for doing this :]] there are so many people who needs this type of reminders. I got out of that thing but still listening to your work, cause it helps to maintain yourself ! And i like your style :]]

[@nonimi2037]

Damn .. thankyou very much for this video. I was feeling so emotional and irrational. And I don't feel like bothering anyone anymore with my break up blues. And this was JUST what I needed to hear. I suddenly see everything so clear now. Thankyou for your genius calming advice & keeping us sane!!

[@fourseasonsandles]

Wow! 💥 I just found this channel today and this really resonates with me. Solid work and I’ll be digging in more. I’ve been checking out other breakup or no contact coaches (3 total) and they all seem to have an ulterior motive of wanting to sell you a kit or something. This is solid, logical advice. Much appreciated sir!

[@TheLoveChat]

Welcome to the channel!! Glad to help!

[@BlurryGhost]

It's been over a month and I'm still feeling th loss. My anxiety is down so much and I've thought about reaching out. Not going to though. I didn't do really much begging and pleading it was on the day of the breakup after her last message I said nothing. She did it over text. I knew instinctively I had to leave her alone and not message back. I had to respect her wish. I may not have told her but I feel it was best cause she had built alot of resentment towards me and barely spoke to me the last few weeks and did a slow fade. My sister talked to her and she's blaming me for everything. It's fine. I've accepted my part I hope she accepts her part. I'm trying to make the changes to myself, gym, journaling, quit smoking cigarettes, working on communication skills. I know she still has feelings for me. She's not coming back. I NEED TO MOVE ON!!

[@darrylyusko8615]

Similar to my story... Still stings for me. Got to respect myself. My ex is emotionally unavailable. I said this to her Cuz her own 2 daughters won’t speak to her. She hides the pain of this. I brought the subject up, suddenly I was dumped, via text

[@everettdawn7811]

If you’re in your 20s you don’t have any clue what you want

[@madisonjh]

you couldn’t have posted this at a better time. thank you, you’re a literal saviour. you’ve helped me grow mentally this last month and you’ve changed my whole perspective on things. i wish you greatness & happiness in your own life.

[@ScoutSniperGamer]

Im glad I came to this video before I did anything stupid. You my friend are good at what you do!

[@electricblue2920]

Honestly when I look back at our relationship I think I in a way made alot of his decision for him. I remember 4 months of or 6 he apologized for not yet being my boyfriend or even asking me out yet. Reflecting now I made all our dates. I'm gay so it never occurred to me that he wasn't talking the lead but I think that's actually important to him. If he comes back he's gotta do it himself

[@niknic1540]

I am worry about him as i am watching the news about his country's covid 19 cases have gone wildly. That is why i am here to listen to you.

[@dantheeraiderfan1974]

Damn Rory another great vid. We talked in June seems like many moons to go. I will be lying if I said I am totally over it but I'm moving on and and re discovering myself. Its been 5 months since the break up but I can tell you I am slowly getting to a better place, Like you said if she would like to reach out she knows how. Keep it going Rory

[@iamhannahnicole]

Incredible how you put out these videos at JUST the right time. Thank you beyond words

[@tc8719]

I said the same thing. It’s like some sort of divine timing.

[@iamhannahnicole]

@@tc8719 Really blows my mind!! hes talked me off a ledge last second so many times!

[@tc8719]

Hannah Cobarrubia I’m grateful to finally be past that point of having so much anxiety, I act irrationally. I don’t want to pry, but would you mind sharing your situation? How fresh is your breakup? I’ll go first. ;) I was in an amazing LDR for 12 months. Just a few states away. Ex broke up with me February, three days before Valentine’s day, just prior to the lockdown. I was devastated and out of my mind for a few months. I’m finally in a place where I know I don’t need my ex, and on the verge of not caring if she comes back. Ever since (and prior to) us splitting up ’ve been focused on self care and improvement; mentally, physically, and spiritually. I’ve realized that only I hold the key to my happiness.

[@cherrybacon3319]

I was the one who left him after he was being disrespectful and insensitive. On my way out he told me never to come back. I'm happy with that. At this moment in time I'm content in doing my own thing and self living, and even though I get moments of panic where I think we're done I fetch myself around to what I want more than him, and that's my life. Me. 🍒

[@simonalebachew9450]

I just broke no contact after getting a call from her mom, telling me about her but I regret texting her now tho. Guys don’t do it. It’s not worth it

[@KBGameOver]

How come her mum told you about her?

[@simonalebachew9450]

KBGameOver she kind of talk me through to call her or talk to her so I felt like she knows something

[@FindTheCureGBS]

@@simonalebachew9450 that wasn't what ended up happening?

[@simonalebachew9450]

J M nope, she left me on read

[@FindTheCureGBS]

@@simonalebachew9450 well her mom probably does know something. Maybe was just too soon this time

[@gintaka]

My man Rory keeps dropping the mic!

[@umpalumpa-qw8ru]

Don't do it. What if you send them a text, they read and and won't answer? Or worse, not even read it? Ask yourself: what do I expect to happen? Of course, you text, they answer and 2 days later you ride into the sunset together, because all was just a big misunderstanding. Won't happen. You send a text and you will get disappointment. Don't do it, stay strong.

[@DavidJarvis01]

You've saved me Rory. Thank you.

[@FMD-gm7cj]

Hi mate Thanks so much for your videos & pod casts they have saved me so far. I’m two weeks into no contact. I blocked my ex a few days ago when I was advised she’s in a rebound, (3 weeks post 8 yr breakup & 2 weeks into no contact). I blocked her because I was absolutely gutted and devastated and impulsively blocked her because it felt like the only thing to do. I’ve sat on it for a few days and In line with my journey to self discovery and improvement I’ve reflected and decided to unblock to help myself, a mental decision to face reality, accept it and process it so I can continue to heal. However, after unblocking I now see she has blocked me! Obviously in direct response to my blocking her. Now I’m stuck. I really want her to unblock me because it just doesn’t have to be like this between us, I’m desperate to message and tell her why I initially blocked her and that I’ve now unblocked her. What do you suggest is the best course of action mate. Would really appreciate some guidance. Thankyou Dan

[@Seren2010kinder]

Every woman I have broken up with I have always looked back and at some point I have regretted and thought I shouldn’t of broken up with her. I know she will regret breaking up with me I’m a total catch but she forgot that due to Situation issues I’m not getting in touch ever!

[@ashdonsimmons01]

NC for almost a month now. (Fastest month of my life weirdly) She has posted tons of pictures online of doing things and with guys, she also had told my friends she misses me and cries all the time. She also recently republished a photo that says: “remember: if they wanted to, they would.” Why is she trying to make me jealous and why is she trying to make me chase? It’s her job to win me back.

[@thebeard6334]

Ur absolutely right once again Rory no matter how much i know I'm worth and deserve more the very least. Is a damm text just acknowledging I existand yet I miss the woman like crazy and want to talk to her even thou she knows 100% how I feel my heart still says to let her know and my head says stay the f how u are, if its meant to be and she does feel what shes telling u then she must make that move first..... I hate this, the past 14mth have been great and both madly in love.... Her parents and my past mistakes (before there daughter) are what's caused the split bcuz its so much out the blue that 3 days before the split we were still talking of our marriage...hurting so much atm

[@warrior_kris1744]

I was here few days ago, but now i am all into regaining myself back before gaining her back

[@nothingwhats628]

20days of no contact 😢it’s hard, i still couldn’t accept the way he left me, did everything for him, but he left, he won’t come back bcz he is a stubborn

[@TheLoveChat]

If you're looking for more support we have opened our Discord Community. Here is the link: discord.gg/KUCeXX3uzS

[@Flwrgal7]

Did he come back

[@nothingwhats628]

@@Flwrgal7 hey, yes he did come back after almost 5 months of no contact

[@tahratahsan996]

You are a mind reader my man.

[@sweetcristys]

Thank you for this video. I just wish I had seen it before I made contact. Now all I have to do is begin no contact again…to re-establish my worth.

[@TheLoveChat]

You got this!

[@Nanon2632]

Bless you Rory! Amazing work and advice as always

[@ishnookie]

Thank You Rory.. Much love from the Philippines 🇵🇭

[@MrPyroArrow]

I swear to god Rory I needed this, it's like you read my mind!

[@rubyray777]

Always insightful and fits the situation! Thank you!

[@alexiahowell8582]

It’s the last part for me! I needed to hear this🙌🏾

[@gaoang3391]

Thank you Rory , i watched all your videos, your video and again and again ,you video is for after accepted break up before I won’t even listen one single word of you 72 days break up I’m still on the roller coaster 🎢 ..also a lot from Susan winter ,coach lee , the art of love .. I like to go sleep with your video it’s calm me down and healing , encouragement about self developing

[@kathtrimarchi6266]

Everyone talks bad about the person who break up, but there is always another side of the story. I broke up with my boyfriend because he never showed me love, and I haven't stopped crying and thinking about him. I broke up still loving him... But you know what? I have to love myself more, even if it hurts. Maybe some of you took for granted the other person and that's why the other left.

[@MrZuritag]

Depends, a lot of guys get blindsided by woman who act on emotions and decide by themselves that it's over. Meanwhile most men will try to make it work but the woman having bottled everything up won't want to.

[@kathtrimarchi6266]

@@MrZuritag look, if a man doesn't love you in 2 years, there is nothing to fix.

[@MrZuritag]

@@kathtrimarchi6266 it all depends, some guys show love differently. I for one am bad at giving affirmation but I take her out, buy her gifts, write romantic letters but if she requires words of affirmation she won't feel loved. That's something that can be worked on but both of you have to try. So there are things that can be worked on but both have to be involved.

[@kathtrimarchi6266]

@@MrZuritag well, no love letters, no words of affirmation, no hugs, I begged him to kiss me, no gifts (he traveled for one month to another country and not even a chocolate brought me), no support, no nothing. And I tried a lot to let him know how I like to be treated, but he never listened me. (I'm sorry for my English, I'm not native English speaker).

[@MrZuritag]

@@kathtrimarchi6266 Ah, ok don't worry your english is good. It does sound like he didn't think of you much, sometimes some guys are indeed broken and it's not your fault, they aren't ready for a relationship most likely. I gave my gf everything I could, but it wasn't enough because I wasn't able to give her affirmation as much as she wanted. But you're right in the end you realize, after months pass by, that you we're good to them but they didn't appreciate it enough and yes it's their loss. I think the ones that were actually good and tried their best after a breakup can move on and improve themselves to find someone that will appreciate them.

[@Frolocki]

14 months since BU and NC. Lol. I revisited this because I fell off my chair and stalked her. There wasn't anything but i just wanted to clear my head.

[@alonzojimenez4412]

Thank you! I need this. It’s sobering and great advice!

[@martinoy6767]

Oh i love you. Just what I needed.

[@JoJo-vz5yh]

Arguably the best video you made

[@kp2l988]

Absolutely, Rory. You are a 🌟!

[@westsideisdabest7825]

I bloody only went and broke it after a week.. I felt instantly regretful, there was really no need. I realised and cut off the conversation early. There was an argument brewing, and I apologised, said "Sorry, shouldn't have messaged, glad you're okay, see you around". This shit is like quitting cigarettes hahaha

[@anewman1976]

I was sitting here thinking half way through, why the f- am I listening to this! I came to the conclusion it must be your dulcet tones!

[@markpack1111]

When they leave I always laugh... Its a sign of releaf and insanity but the good kind of stuff!! You know "" because the next and the next and the next and the next and the dozens more after the next will get the exact same treatment you did... And in the end we'll be the next one in the long line of bright shiny New objects... and in a quiet yet shalow moment, you will be told something special.....somthg you've never heard before.... And it will be... You are so different than all the others.... And so It begins....

[@toddh2410]

Extremely well thought out talk!! Thank you so much!!

[@Louie_777]

I always watch your videos. Coz its inspired me a lot and give me the strength even if it's very hard...

[@evelyngarcia9678]

Before I go to bed I listen to your video rory you are a great dating coach. I am so grateful I found your chanel it helps me alot thank you 😘

[@evelyngarcia9678]

Update: I met someone we dated over a year and he broke up with me 😢 so im here again

[@serafillic698]

When you said “they’re reporting to you how good they’re doing and want you back” that’s literally what happened to me though, he’s the dumper I’m the dumpee. After 6 months no contact he reached out again like nothing happened and just started updating me about his life… I asked why he was texting me after the conversation and he avoided the question so I didn’t press it further and we haven’t talked since then because he’s not a baby lol I won’t beg him to answer my question. idk maybe he was just bored or he really missed me and didn’t wanna admit it. I called him tonight but hung up immediately lol I’m sure he still got the call so if he contacts me because of it I just won’t respond like he did to me oh well

[@FindTheCureGBS]

6 months since the break. 6 months of no contact. Have started feeling it again the last couple days. Pretty endless seems like. Still haven't met anyone new at all.

[@FindTheCureGBS]

@@gamesportalsim no one's been interested

[@FindTheCureGBS]

Will take a year or two more before I run into anyone who is

[@FindTheCureGBS]

And when that fails after a few months... I can go no contact again. But it will go the same way. Starting as me just wanting to play the field and the girl hoping I won't screw her over and leave her. Only... For her to do it instead once I feel bad and have changed my mind gradually over to accepting the idea of being with her 🤷‍♂️

[@SxCR4WR]

J M don’t worry I’m in like 8 months of radio silence and I am having a bad night right now. I won’t ever break no contact but it hurts right now even though I have truly worked on myself. Not gonna lose sleep over it though just gotta keep my head down and continue. You’ve got this as well!

[@FindTheCureGBS]

@@SxCR4WR thank you. That helps to hear. The circumstances were I'd said hurtful things while drinking. Kinda made sense to me at the time before watching these types of videos right away that if I didn't act right then to repair it and took this advice instead I'd just be sitting here 6 months later. So I guess I shouldn't be surprised 🤷‍♂️ It does seem like you've got this I think

[@lindakafexholli7085]

One of best videos EVER! Thank you ❤️

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

Don’t do it guys. Trust me.

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

Christian Martin ....dont. She doesn’t care. In her mind it’s your fault and your fault only if she’s the one who left. Plus, if u attack her, it’ll just make her defensive. Closure is an illusion. Leave it alone.

[@SoulsOfWisdom]

I broke no contact recently while drunk. Saw her online, my drunk mind saw it as an opportunity, to... I dunno, drunk contact. But it was a pointless irrelevant message where I told her I was being drunk and to ignore my message, so she did. lol I haven't messaged her since. In fact I'm glad she didn't reply, given the fact that I was drunk, I feel better than I would have if she had replied.

[@lindarobinson1287]

I needed this so much!

[@BritshBeef1]

I am such a fan!!

[@dextro3481]

What if I neglected her and that being the reason for the break up? Wouldn’t nc emphasize my bad behavior?

[@jennyjen3985]

No couch i don't want back a cheater and a liar back in my life. I don't want back the person who broke my heart. Seriously couch it's not worth having him back. I was foolish to believe nd trust him when he had broken it a million of times. He left me bt honestly couch it feels like a burden have been lowered from my shoulders. I was the one who was providing for him bt it just hurts that he didn't evn apologized for breaking my heart nor thanked me for all my doing for him.

[@pickleraider4394]

I've broken up with my ex 3 months ago we have been together for almost 4 years and she said she needs a break because she's had mental health problems and confused on how she feels and we have been seeing each since than and when I found out she's seeing someone else I've stopped seeing her, after the break up when I was seeing her on dates she would tell me she wants me in her future and she wants to have kids with me but why see other people and why leave me, she still rings me to check up on me telling me she loves me and she says she needs space to miss me and that so now I've said don't talk to me only when you want to meet up and do something. I've been bettering myself during this break and working my way to the top to become a better me. Sad part is I will always love her and to this day I still miss her it's hard to walk away from someone you love. I've began no contact now and I know she wants to see if the grass is greener on the other side. I don't know what to think even tho it hurts I'm still moving forward with my life and still going to the top with or without her. Part of me always going to love her and that part of me wants her back into my life its sad situation. I don't normally write things like this, I wrote this hoping someone can reach out and help me in my situation

[@pickleraider4394]

@Samuel Phan thanks man for the reply man, I really needed to hear that today.

[@YouNolf]

That ending. 💪

[@lorderomir]

Rory you are a hero