THIS Is How A Fearful Avoidant Connects During Sex

[@sunrisesahar]

It’s actually in the come as you are book, and I finally realized very accurate as myself a fearful avoidant, sex before bonding just trauma inducing.

[@AG-bx1cc]

My FA ex and I had a sexually charged beginning to our relationship where we did everything but make love for a few weeks, so when we finally did it felt pretty significant. Rather than cuddling or anything afterwards, she instead asked me to go home (it was probably around 11pm). So strange.

[@sifublack192]

This makes perfect sense. A woman I was seeing a while back (whom I suspect is FA) kept telling me she "felt safe" right before our first time having sex. My FA friend said the same thing before she initiated. I think feeling safe is a HUGE factor for them.

[@Fresh_Baked_Bread_Is_Life]

Yes.

[@sifublack192]

@@Fresh_Baked_Bread_Is_Life the more you know. 😉

[@ge0rgialiv]

Maybe do this video but with anxious and dismissive avoidant see their thoughts about sex and connect

[@soniaesther0529]

Ugh. Hard to watch. I struggle with this as an FA.

[@ragingspeedhorn]

You are not alone, Sonia. Im working on my mild FA style.... and im just leaving my dismissive avoidant. Fireworks for 5 months, then her withdrawl....then the warm up and beautiful romance but without sex. Now she cant accept why im unfulfilled and need to leave. My cycle is constant ... be myself.. calm..engage with my environment... funny . Listen way more than I speak etc We give so much to recieve so little. Now, I dont care and will do everything for myself instead.

[@gabbyvargas6861]

I definitely feel this is true as an FA. I also have another question and this is just in general. Do DAs "test" you the same way FAs will in a relationship and how? I watched another content creator break down his thoughts about how DAs how they do actually test but in their own way. Would love to hear your thoughts and Mike's thoughts!

[@stephaniepersin4222]

Life is too short to waste your time with these types of people. It's not your job to fix anyone.

[@michaelhuntley353]

Hear hear!

[@Align45]

ED (mental, not physical, cause stemming from their attachment style) & avoidants…a discussion that needs further discussion

[@glsn3825]

My FA ex wanted to meet me then he cancelled saying better not, he thought with his horny mind… I am glad he didn’t used me.

[@egypt8904]

I think the guy I’m talking to is a fearful avoidant. We have a sexual relationship and he knows I’m willing to have sex with him but he plays games he flaked on me twice. I believe it was out of revenge. He was suppose to see me on Wednesday but he took too long to respond so I said nvm forget! So he didnt bother ask me why he carried on with his day. Next day I got mad and told him we need to talk on the phone if not we’re done and I only said this because he has been so inconsistent and say he wants to see me then flakes on me. So he called me we talked all day I was shocked that he actually was being attentive towards me. I was at work though so at the end of shift he asks me to come over and I told him no not today. I got a text an hour later with him indirectly threatening me. I was so shocked because he’s never done that and then here we today he hasn’t talked to me. And I’m like why throw me away when u could’ve saw me in two more days!

[@tq9vq]

Hey Thais! Can you please release a video about the trauma caused by violent abuse from autistic siblings in a narcissistic household and how to deal with it .

[@jesseskellington9427]

Why do these seem so disorganized? Hot and cold They always seem to have a track record of passion projects they never complete and end up in the hoarding situation....

[@DragonballSteve83]

Avoidant abuse is narcs younger cousin claiming innocence ignorance while controlling the emotions and information in the relationship

[@Lulu-nn8mg]

They don't talk to you for 3 days after 😂

[@practical.emotions]

So true. Every time I listen on avoidants, all I remember is that it doesn't work. You never get your needs met or the rug is pulled immediately after. They have to want to change and probably won't.

[@Shanedeliveryi]

Soo true, both of you! 😂

[@carolsherman9817]

Just like a narcissist 😢

[@oosn0b0ardroo]

Oh man, this is painfully accurate... 😬

[@monavanderwaal4723]

in my experience as an FA, i only do this to see if the other person reaches out after first (i get scared that they didn’t like it or something). not healthy thinking but that’s my thoughts afterwards most of the time

[@gregkelly9775]

Just wondering, at what point do you unblock your fb to them? If at all. Its been about 2 months of no contact now ....

[@DragonballSteve83]

Avoidant abuse. Narcs younger cousin

[@gregkelly9775]

Good for one night stands? 😮

[@bulldogsnewleaf-m7g]

sex is the entire relationship, no?

[@gregkelly9775]

No

[@bulldogsnewleaf-m7g]

@@gregkelly9775 Oops, I've been doing it wrong...

[@gregorystinette8271]

Why are you promoting interracial bedroom scenes in your presentation ? Is there some kind of social engineering agenda going on here ?

[@michaelfeeney6108]

What a weird thing to say. There’s also ones that… aren’t? I guess you have a problem with it.

[@practical.emotions]

This is the 21st century... Gregory grow up or move to the Middle East...

[@moneypenny515]

😂 you good bro?

[@soniaesther0529]

😐

[@gregorystinette8271]

It's an ongoing observation in Western cultures. Who is behind this agenda & why ? Do some hard research before you make a judgment on my simple observation. Shalom