This is how I cope with having a savior complex

[@almohvn33]

Mine started at least 33 years ago. It stops now. It stops now... I do it because: 1. Out of boredom 2. I am "better" and have all the answers (superiorty complex) 3. I am more experienced 4. I can change your life, which... gives me... unreal feelings. STOPS NOW!!!!!!

[@dranthonyg]

I hear you ☺️💪

[@madamevampsilverkim9242]

It is very probable that You have the complex because of your brother, and then you both have it because of some dysfunctional dynamics in childhood within your family. It's a coping mechanism. For me, it's a way to find connection with others. The problem is.. we don't always know what others really need, (besides basic body needs) and our help will be really unfitted... after time we will feel drained. In a relationship saviour will feel like is always saving everybody but no one helps or cares about him - it is toxic too :) It creates belief of being morally superior.

[@dranthonyg]

I hear you! ☺️

[@Mangothewolfbat-bf9pt]

I remember that I used to think about how people would react to what I do ALWAYS in positive light, and it annoys me a lot, I try to slap myself whenever it happens I hate it so much

[@LokiturnedmeintoaFrog]

What if helping others isn't guys main goal? What if it's the urge to just be seen and phrased as a hero?

[@dranthonyg]

Love this question! For me, there's definitely a need to be seen as someone who is doing good for others. And I've seen this can also be toxic for my relationships if I take it to an extreme. Lesson I learned is to be aware of those urges and unpack them to see where they're coming from ☺️

[@LokiturnedmeintoaFrog]

@@dranthonyg Thank you❤️

[@hamtoneisaac.i288]

​@@LokiturnedmeintoaFrogFeels like I am currently going through it. I am choosing careers like police, military, politician, Businessman, etc., to be seen as a hero and someone who has a great legacy. Any suggestions on how to cure it ?

[@LokiturnedmeintoaFrog]

@@hamtoneisaac.i288 I don't know if there is one. I don't find a problem with wanting to be seen as a hero deep inside as long as I'm doing good.

[@ranaal-khaled1549]

Thank you so much for sharing this! May I ask what happened to your interest/passion/career in music? Once again, thank you for this insightful video and beautiful storytelling

[@dranthonyg]

Ty so much for the encouragement!!! I'll do a separate episode on my work in the performing arts soon! ☺️☺️☺️

[@kirsikka3752]

Is there any video or channel about how to cope as a savior's friend? Is there any hope for that relationship and on what terms?

[@dranthonyg]

This is an amazing question!!! I'm going to film some new videos next week and I'll put this at the top of my list!!! Ty! ☺️

[@kirsikka3752]

@@dranthonyg Thank you very much! I met my friend when I was quitting my relationship with a narcissist. We got close very quickly. I thought that we are like dear sisters and helping each other and experiencing life together, we both had difficulties but also very good times together. Then she switched me to other, who is in tragic situation and I am healing/healed and I want to move on from being a victim of a narcissist.

[@dranthonyg]

@@kirsikka3752 that sounds really tough. I'm sorry that happened! You are strong!!! 💪💪💪

[@polak56565]

I had to save my mom from my father and it never really went away...

[@dranthonyg]

I'm really sorry to hear that. That sucks 😔

[@zekeuchiha1449]

Here you go 1k subs just for u

[@Alphabet7]

You have a nice voice you

[@dranthonyg]

Ty!

[@farahk7139]

what is this dialect ? american ? anwys you're awesome

[@dranthonyg]

It is American! ☺️ Ty!!! 🤩🤩🤩

[@Chirokelley]

Not Savior Complex dear.

[@fatenaljmmal2746]

What it is then? 😢

[@engineeredtruths8935]

There is a spectrum. It's a cope for narcissistic abuse. People pleasing behaviour

[@dranthonyg]

Ty for this ☺️ it's hard to put this sort of content out there. I appreciate your insights. I just did a follow-up video the other day if you're interested kzbin.info/www/bejne/jKbTpXhqpN54iNk

[@TaxingIsThieving]

There seems to be some confusion between saviour complex and hero syndrome.

[@LokiturnedmeintoaFrog]

​@@TaxingIsThievingWhat's the difference?

[@abelardadebayor5642]

get to the point. downvoted

[@dranthonyg]

Noice 👉🏻👉🏻