This is How Your Ego Is Holding You Back

We all have an ego - and if left unchecked, it will get in our way and hold us back. Many people have asked me what the ego is, how to know if your ego is running your life even if you're not full of yourself. In this talk I teach about what the ego is, how it shows up and how to start doing ego work.
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[@NO-kw9cp]

My ego is absolutely sabotaging my true self in every way.

[@juliakristinamah]

Are you ready to start doing the work?

[@Minji100]

Hope your Ego captivity had ended and you are liberated. FREE at last ✊

[@knowthyself5604]

You recognise it and then know you can change your beliefs and focus on it for a few weeks to create the new habit. Problem solved. I like to think we are all equal and improving if we make the choice to.

[@evanamiart91]

I have to take this every day for life as I suffer from 3 mental conditions, and my brain will never ever fully understand the advice as when it hits midnight, my brain automatically hits the reset button and the advice goes out the window. So, it's a daily commitment to getting help by watching these daily and feeling better about myself.

[@zakiamwoma4647]

Thank you so much julia. I am unlearning so much. Am shedding my old self daily. Bless you so you can keep many of us.

[@JohnM...]

My ego so far has actually made me fearful of succeeding. I just started a business and thoughts have come into my head that start with " what if..." (usually all catastophising).

[@newtuber4freedom43]

John M :: me too!!

[@adiblay2992]

It makes sense, getting outside of your comfort zone (like a business) is so difficult and like Julia says-your ego is there for better or for worse as the basis off what you were taught. By doing what you do you are trying to move from that and debate your ego maybe! Good luck you are doing great I'm sure 😉

[@chowder_1148]

M;

[@derthalie]

NEED to keep that ego in check! 😭 How we feel and think about ourselves can definitely get in the way, and sometimes make us self sabotage.

[@pedroperez1770]

Super, Namaste, thanks

[@juliakristinamah]

Absolutely. Ego work is really important work because we think we are ego, but we are not, ego is part of what we THINK we are.

[@lindayocham3450]

Yes I would like to change my mind and get in a better place

[@juliakristinamah]

This is the work!

[@lindayocham3450]

I have been you some of your work to speck up to people when I dont like want they do I like take care of my self for example today I came home from work and my neighbor help him self clean out the shrubs and weed and tore out grass now there just dirt now I confront them and ask him was he in my yard and did this and he said yes I told him dont not do anymore I have someone to clean it up I call my co work over he look at it and said it look like they want to build on here I took pictrue today I hope I said everything right I real had to hold back my temper

[@lauracirillo9944]

This morning I found your video, my life made so much sense, Thankyou

[@juliakristinamah]

Glad to hear it and glad you're here Laura.

[@lisav6583]

My ego tells stories and in my weakest moments I believe it. Thank you for this video ❤️

[@utubestalker.dotcom]

Our ego defense maybe to stay silent and take the verbal abuse of others who are acting in ego, or to say Bye Felicia and cut them out so the negative energy is no longer attacking us. So after acknowledging our own ego thought, you're saying we should step back, balance our mind, and come back to see where they may be coming from. Not to think of it as an attack but try to see their different lens that may not see your perspective.. And then respond without fear. Squashing it, rather than reacting defensively. (if everyone did this, we'd have a more understanding world. This is exactly what we needed to hear today -Thank you

[@bobburch2151]

Awesome video. Thank you

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks Bob. Glad you found it helpful.

[@stoogey1]

This video hit hard for me. I buried my mom, dad, grandad, brother and uncle from the age of 9-13. My ego keeps reminding me of what I said about myself and my family and friends said about me. Last month was the 32nd anniversary of my mom dying and my ego came at me screaming. I done what i did when I was 9, binge eat. Got 3 footlong subs, half gallon of ice cream, and a 3 liter coke and ate it all in one sitting. My ego isn't holding me back, its killing me.

[@christopherpape4823]

I'm very sorry for your losses. Have you gotten help for the binge eating?

[@juliakristinamah]

That doesn't sound like ego - it's sounds like trauma and deep pain. Do you have a good therapist to start healing from this with? If not, I highly recommend getting one in your area if you can.

[@mirelladlima5278]

@stoogey1 ; you know now and this knowing is going to help you deal with it. Being aware is the first step to getting a handle on this ego. We are with you on your road to recovery.🙏

[@mrossainz]

A lot of people tell me my ego is a big problem because of how feisty end confrontative I am. But they never acknowledge how they constantly make fun of the colour of my skin, my nationality, my physical features, but most of all, how all that combine is the excuse to treat me differently and frame the situations to prove their "ego" point.

[@silentgrove7670]

I am going thru an experience of being regularly triggered for hours a day due to the noisy neighbour above me. Its most unpleasant. It's gotten so bad I have started sleeping at off hours to avoid it. Angry aggressive thoughts are certainly challenging me moment to moment most of the time at home.

[@lynnscorner6587]

This is so powerful -I never would have associated these negative thoughts with ego-thank you for this message

[@andrewz58]

Holy crap, I really felt @13:22. Very refreshing to hear that being articulated. You are a blessing on our planet. Just discovered your videos and they are very profound

[@khaledali6410]

Wonderful video like always, Julia. This has taught me extensively about the ego, and how it could be used negatively against oneself. There is a song that taught me as well about how crucial an ego could be, and how it draws us back from being caring and loving of the people around us which could lead us to despair. It’s called Reflection, by Tool. It gave an example of how the Moon, as bright as it is, it reflects millions of lights from the Sun. Therefore, without the light of the Sun, the moon is a lifeless satalite. I think it’s a metaphor that we, as people, complete each other, by caring for one another and not letting the ego get in the way.

[@juliakristinamah]

That's really beautiful - thank you for that.

[@ritaodriscoll2093]

Thank you. I needed this just now. Married to a covert narcissist with 30 years and being ruminating desperately this week.

[@francesbeth2077]

You are so right. I don't know how to not be triggered and become explosive. Mainly with close family members and my significant male mate. I want it to end so I can enjoy my life with someone.And not just for happy times..but even the sad times or day to day life.experiencea. I hate being alone and I have alot of love to give but I never feel secure with the person. And I never believed my family was proud of me. I was always carrying shame and worry, even as a young child. I tried to mimick what I thought was appealing behavior to a man, and yet never put myself in the equation. I don't know what a healthy relationship is. I always want to be included with my family's decisions so that I know how I can help. Just like church, the leaders always recruited you for specific tasks or jobs in the church family, so that you take a part in ownership of your church. I never thought I had an ego. I became what the other person needed. For me it is shame that has plaqued me even as a child. Not with teachers, colleagues, coworkers professor s or friends, though. Strange isn't it? For me, I wanted my family to love me and not be ashamed of me. And to share my mate with my family for life events. I know not everyone will like me but sure wish my family did! Your video is enlightening and enriching.❤️

[@veronicabruce2078]

This is so difficult to counsel someone who is having problems with their EGO. Thank You Julia for such clarity

[@anitavanpatten8645]

You are a miracle to me

[@katwelsch9932]

I am a student of the Course in Miracles. This explanation is so parallel to the teachings there. I am subscribed. The lesson here is valuable

[@decembersix8206]

I am totally new about this "Ego" thing. very interested

[@epgarc2]

Thank you... this is all a practice...like Buddhism! I love your insights ❤🦋

[@juliakristinamah]

Absolutely. This is a journey - not a destination

[@newtuber4freedom43]

Wow!! So need this! So stuck and headed further down the rabbit hole. I keep getting deeper & deeper into my own head & it’s not productive or beneficial. How to stop? Was not always like this. Can I divorce my ego? Leave it on the side of the road? It’s always outsmarting me and winning? It’s so negative and I’m hoping to find some positivity in me that can shine & share. Why is the ego so negative? I know they say the forming years only go thru age 7, but some of us may have been older as our brains may have been spongier longer. Some days, i still feel spongy & gullible thanks to my negative ego. I want to recognize it sooner, not hours or days later. I want to retrain it, re brainwash & reprogram it. Such a struggle. Somewhere in here I hope to find the good person i used to be or the one i thought i was or wish and hope to be. Ego holds us back truly in more ways than discussed. Even at work!! Can you discuss ego & the low grade narcissist as well as ego & the codependent; touching on both differences & similarities? Why & how to change both. I just can not feel free because I have been in survival mode for so long. Do you have any videos on getting out of survival mode and just being happy existing?

[@lifehackd9808]

I literally love your videos even though I just watched 2 of your videos

[@juliakristinamah]

Glad you found us - Welcome!

[@Mushroom321-]

yep!, it's a constant" practice"!

[@juliakristinamah]

Yes ma'am!

[@AbdullahArRafi]

You're really great, Julia! Probably a better explanation of ego doesn't exist anywhere on the internet!

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad you found this helpful.

[@JasonRoust]

A last! Someone who has made a difference.

[@taowme]

Wow. Ego is a little scary!!! Interesting. I've often struggled with - what we love vs what we're good at.

[@taowme]

@Anon Ymous Oh yeah, he's great. I have a playlist for The Book of Five Rings on my channel. check me out!!!

[@juliakristinamah]

Ego work is really important work because if left unchecked it will blind our eyes and deafen our ears to our true, authentic selves.

[@taowme]

@@juliakristinamah Thanks!!!

[@dazz_in_the_now]

Love this Julia. My ego manifests itself as anxiety predominantly best thing I've found is to acknowledge it when it pops up and then be present 💌💌💌

[@juliakristinamah]

That awareness is key.

[@so7iane88]

It is beneficial but learn to guard your energy and improve your life.

[@killakumi]

Yes! Learning how to just be present helps. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle is a great book to help with letting go of our ego.

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks for sharing!

[@thegodofsilence5580]

You’re such a cool person

[@juliakristinamah]

Glad you're here.

[@hunterdanielserpebecker5586]

Thank you Julia for the video about the EGO. This is one of the best videos that I have seen this week to help create a better version of myself at an emotional level. My ego has affected me since I was a child. How we can control the ego and we keep in mind to think how special we are, this can help us grow and more emotionally secured. I watched the video for 6 minutes and then I had to go to work for a meeting. I had an Emotional trigger at my work and I identified it after the meeting. I will watch this video again because it is so beneficial. Emotional trigger: The "Inability" to speak naturally with others in any language. What does it tell me: It tries to tell me that I am too nervous to do it. I suck and I cannot do it and I am not good enough, Observation of the ego: How do I feel: I feel sad, frustrated and overwhelmed. What is another way to see the go: It gives me energy to work harder and improve each day with public speaking, my youtube channel that I am organizing and my self-esteem to communicate with confidence in the languages that I speak. Thank you Julia!

[@juliakristinamah]

This is brilliant - thanks for sharing your process with us - it's going to help others too.

[@knowthyself5604]

I have spiritual experience at times as a christian and been one for about 3 decades and have thought the same thing in my research seperate the ego rather then kill it. Helps me to be a little more self assured. You are surely in your purpose. I love your content. Thank you with gratitude.

[@yoyo-gt5fy]

Your videos are honestly amazing. So helpful, especially during these uncertain times.

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks friend. Glad you're here and glad it connected.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

My ego was right. As soon as I stopped reflecting back others' rosy view of themselves, I was rejected.

[@victoriastallard]

Wow thank you Julia, I have constantly struggled with the ego my whole life and really never paid attention to why or what it was about. I have always thought that it was just someone hurting my feelings, so from now on I am going to try my best to get & ok keep my ego in check. Thank you so much for clearing this up in your video ❤️ I just love your videos so much & they are so awesome & really help me learn, & fix things within myself as to how & who I really want to be even more so.

[@edwardgrey2198]

You have helped me make sense of the last two years of my life. I thought I was evil at work but now I realise it was ego taking control of me. I can't be more thankful for this. Thankyou very much. I thought I was crazy. I was just trying to protect myself.

[@rashidalam7420]

This was very Helpful !, Thanks 😊

[@juliakristinamah]

Absolutely Rashid - Glad you found it helpful.

[@nour8563]

Great presentation. Thank you!!!

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad it helped.

[@LisaGemini]

This is wonderful because it makes me think about beating myself up and how useless it is. God bless you, Julia.

[@jaimeek1219]

Excellent topic, hope you make more on ego. I couldn’t connect with it yet, I need a more specific example that I can relate to. Need to rewatch it with a clear mind.

[@juliakristinamah]

More on the topic coming out next week.

[@dadlord689]

I have my own version of human spirit system and I think that ego is actually a set of different behaviours. Thing is that ego as it is is a part of any behaviour if you'll be honest with yourself. And so by fighting this set of behaviours you are actually starting a war with absolutely fine ideals that happens to be hated if being viewed from special angle (like fake news making anything looks scary and bad). So I encourage you to trust yourself and look at any self behaviour from a point of good one. With adequate filter, definitely. I am ok with that I like to gain sympathy from acting generous or helpful. Addiction is happening when you are hiding and shaming something that might be great for you, and so just can't fill enough. They way you make yourself a better person is by pray your best ego parts, and discovering your saturation point by feeding different good ego aspects (like love for attention and fame). It is about the way you are getting your jam. If you honest, loving, compassionate - you are fine to fulfill all your "ego" needs.

[@agrav2474]

Awesome explanation!

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad it connected

[@taowme]

Love psychology. Very informative.

[@jackjohnson7396]

Nobody talks about egos. Good info!

[@TheLvsburger]

Thanks Kristina you really opened my mind up to the detriment of long held old believes that ego has induced, i found usually I would naturally try to reaffirm those old thoughts if i dont go through these steps that you suggested. Greeting from Toronto :)

[@annavillalpando4872]

Thank you ♥️♥️♥️

[@erikalarsson]

Thank you to coming back to who i am 💕🙏

[@fonsilvers]

Thank you! This is very helpful information!!

[@juliakristinamah]

Glad to hear it friend.

[@KarleneA380]

Good stuff. I'm doing the work.

[@juliakristinamah]

Yes! So good.

[@lifehackd9808]

Okay I think this is going to help me from being sad all the time

[@juliakristinamah]

We'd love to welcome you in.

[@admirbarucija2018]

I’ve had ego-related troubles a lot in the past, and sometimes it’s still an issue for me! I’m excited to hear your thoughts on this, I know whenever I watch your videos that I’m going to learn something about myself, life, or the people around me. I hope you’re having a phenomenal week so far 💓

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks friend - glad it connected.

[@admirbarucija2018]

Julia Kristina Counselling You’re welcome friend, it is much appreciated!

[@Zanniroxwell]

I have a memory of being around 5 years old.. I LOVED listening to music on the radio and I started trying to sing songs I was learning. I was SO AFRAID that someone would hear me, not like my singing and make me feel embarrassed. So I decided to sing under the covers or under my pillow every night when I thought everyone else was asleep. I liked how I sounded and I was proud of myself.. for remembering the lyrics and singing to the beat I DREAMED of being a singer someday.. one night I got caught by my Father.. he was angry that I wasn't asleep yet.. he said "I heard you singing under there.." I felt SO ASHAMED.. He didn't say I sounded good. He told me "no singing at bedtime" and walked out. I assumed I had just embarrassed myself and my dream of being a singer was squashed from the fear of sounding terrible. If only my Dad had said "would you like to be a singer someday?" Or somehow acknowledged my inclination towards music at a young age.. since it was something he exposed me to himself! I always wondered what he thought of my singing or how long he even listened. If only I could've pleased him with my singing.. I guess I had a fragile ego from the start?

[@icequeen5551]

Off topic but you look gorgeous today julia(as always), love the hair😍😍

[@Kenny-Ross]

Another great breakdown Julia. Thank you!

[@xhxh8242]

Thank you so much!

[@timothystone7104]

I always feel better about myself and the world everytime I listen too you. Thank you

[@thegodofsilence5580]

If you ever don’t have a idea for a video, I would like to see one on the heroines journey, thanks again for your videos!

[@juliakristinamah]

Great recommendation - thank you.

[@mirelladlima5278]

This is so enlightening. Letting the ego take over keeps one stuck in the cycle. Because it's so easy to take the easy way out. OMG this has happened to me so often. Tks this is really helping me.🙏

[@angelferris9812]

Another great video! Julia thanks for everything you do! 🧡

[@juliakristinamah]

Always good to have you here. Thanks Angel.

[@veronicabruce2078]

I love the re-learning that you teach.

[@juliakristinamah]

So glad you're here Veronica and that this was helpful.

[@pfa2075]

Wonderful and helpful video. As always.

[@janicesmith56]

You explained it so well. Thank you for this!

[@chocoholicgoosegirl6623]

Hi I’m a newbie. Thank you so much for all you do! Amazing xx

[@krakkag]

Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and wisdom. This helps me more than you can imagine.

[@user-eg5ck5go2n]

This is such powerful and huge knowledge you're sharing Julia! 🧡 Thanks a lot

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad you found it helpful .

[@moosethelad]

Epic👏 Thanks a lot Julia!

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad you found it helpful and really glad you're here

[@mikejarrells431]

Thanks for sharing. Trying to improve the quality of my life via psychology. 😉

[@NClottery]

I need these in my time of life right now I love you Julia!

[@jenniferpearson1362]

I am just so amazed at how many ahh haa moments I have when I listen to your talks! You truly have a gift for this and helping peeps! Thank you! Shift society here I come 😁

[@juliakristinamah]

So glad you're going to join us Jennifer!

[@slybry]

Thank you for speaking on this topic. As I have been watching your video lately this one has hit the nail on the head for me because I have been noticing I am acting out what ego saying. Thank you for helping us adjust our thinking to be more positive.

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad it helped - thanks for being here.

[@leeclarke8993]

Thanks, I needed that. I’ll work on it.

[@stevenumphlett2666]

Great content. So needed. After the last 3 months this is a wild time and I have to admit. I need to really get the coaching to overcome the mess.

[@juliakristinamah]

Are you on the waitlist for The Shift Society?

[@Pinoytoonz2335]

Hi I'm Cai. This is the greatest video I've ever watched. Thank you so much. You helped me rediscover my self with this awesome content.

[@alyssavalencia2644]

I thought ego is what makes you feel “proud” and defensive I didn’t know it could also do the opposite that’s good to know

[@shahinansari6234]

Thank you. It was good.

[@taowme]

Love your audio quality!!!

[@juliakristinamah]

Oh thanks - it's just a little lapel mic.

[@timothystone3726]

Very beautifully put,I kniw our primordial mind is strong but I get upset when our civilized mind basically defaults ,, but very well put and you make it interesting to listen to.

[@prostudying7418]

you gave claity about this complex thing and what to do also,I find it very difficult to separarte myself from Ego because it so deeply attached to my existence ie myself.when i am in egoic state i could not figure it out because at that time Ego becomes the i so who am i ? which i is ego and which i is me ? you teach very simply the most complicated topics thanks .

[@laurenkelly3588]

This just helped my day ♥️

[@daikij74522]

Hey Julia! I've been loving your videos, they're truly so helpful. Could you perhaps go deeper into mindful exercises (20min+) and include more of those videos in your channel? I loved your 10 minute guided mindfulness exercise and I'd love to take it to the next level! Thanks as always :D

[@juliakristinamah]

Hey friend - come join us in the Shift Society - there's already several mindfulness exercises in there, and I post a new one every month.

[@Mushroom321-]

"liked"! you explain things so well!! always have !, keep it up! THANK YOU! didnt know how much i need to see this. so interesting! 🥳 😃

[@Marcelube]

Dear Julia, thank you so much for all you share with us. Could you speak a little about how to work on our superego, too? Thx.

[@Mushroom321-]

your haircut looks great on you!

[@GoodVibesOnly1914]

Very well said

[@seanlowe4557]

Hey Coach! Good talk

[@MariaSantos-gm7ps]

Thanks was great

[@JamesSmith-si2mz]

Thanks sis

[@henrylambert8621]

Hi Julia liked your vidio very much thank you very much

[@SharpCats371]

Your video addresses the elephants in the room at this time. ✝

[@rainbow9987]

I thought this was helpful and I think you should do more of the ego videos.

[@juliakristinamah]

I've got 2 more coming - stay tuned.

[@samechickdifferentday6593]

Thumbs up! ♥️

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks friend.

[@ernie9071]

Hi! I’m new to your corner of the world and Ya, I’ve got some issues with my interpretation of the world and people. I’ll start watching your video’s and see how it helps me. Thank you.

[@nahiedlaila9601]

My ego is literally ruining my life

[@juliakristinamah]

That's just your ego telling you that ;-)

[@nahiedlaila9601]

@@juliakristinamah you are right i didnt even realize😅

[@juliaschleifer4364]

Have you heard of A Course in Miracles. The workbook has 365 lessons that undo the ego mind. The goal is to achieve a God centered reality and to use the Holy Spirit as our guide. To return to God’s love, with inner peace and freedom from attachments to the egos illusions.

[@chrisdigitalartist]

That sounds very interesting Thank you for sharing. =)

[@brightprime4900]

Hi I’m finding your videos so very helpful - thank you 🙏 I’m feeling a shift after many years of trying so hard! Do you refer to the inner child? And is this the same as the ego in your view? Thank you in advance ❤️

[@idaloup6721]

The question is : where comes from our consciousness, our true self , what religions call the soul ? Because we want to connect with our consciousness or soul or true self ok but where does it come from ? I mean is the true self really who I am ? How could I know who I am ? Because over years I've developped my personnality, become aware of my tastes, likes, dislikes, what makes me angry, the opinion that I have about people behaviours, my mindset, my bad mood etc... If all that is the ego, if the ego is the personnality, the ME in this experimental planet therefore what I am physically, what or who is my soul, my true self , my consciousness? A specific entity ? Another me than me ? A piece of God therefore a piece programmed by the astral dimension, the Universe ? It's weird, isn't it ? I've been meditating about this topic for a year and a half and It's weird to want to break down who we are in two. The Ego and the true self. And I've just come to an end that we are that we are. Period. I feel that my soul, my real essence is the plan of God, the astral plan therefore the only one. My true self is my astral body which is a programmation and finally does the ego really exist ? The ego is only created to enable the soul to make the astral journey on the 3D. It's a kind of shield to protect us from the madness of this dimension of predation but it does not have to do with the astral project that is our true self. Anyway only our true self is manifested on this dimension. The Ego doesn't exist apart from in a meaning of arrogance. It's my opinion of course and It's what I meditate about

[@SY4E1]

Your info is amazing and you are soooo beautiful