How to Stop Getting Triggered & Keep the Ego in Check

This video is part 3 of my 3 part series on ego work. Most of the time, when we're getting emotionally triggered it's because our ego is feel threatened and so it gets defensive. This triggered defensiveness can show up in many different ways and in this talk I give 7 different ways our ego shows up to try and protect us when we're feeling vulnerable or defensive and what we can do to manage the ego so the ego doesn't control us.
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[@juliakristinamah]

Hi friends, what was one of your biggest takeaways from this?

[@valentinanocross8677]

Being a beginner and asking why I'm defensive.

[@timmeshiawilson4859]

People respond at their current level of awareness and it is no use in me taking it personally.

[@CristiBundukamara]

Everyone can only be at their own current level of awareness, and it's not all about you. Great video, thank you!

[@juliakristinamah]

@@timmeshiawilson4859 YES!

[@juliakristinamah]

@@CristiBundukamara Glad this connected with you.

[@sandrarojas537]

My BIG problem is that when I’m being triggered, I go from 0 to 100😰. I just end up reacting, saying the wrong thing, making arguments worst and then feeling miserable, stupid and guilty about my reaction 😖

[@lovedefault1167]

i know its hard, i used to be like that & end up hurting someone or getting in trouble. try doing what i did it worked for me, make it a challenge for urself, that the next person who gets on ur nerves u immediately talk to urself by saying for example." im currently driving, i need to focus on that only, this persons probably having a bad day, or just a plain idiot, i have bad days too sometimes i know what theyre goin through. im here driving right now and my goal is to get home safe not teach people lessons. i am responsible for my actions not other peoples actions." if you practice that every time somethin happens it will start becoming a habit, it may take a loong time but eventually ull find urself alot calmer (try 5 minute meditation s everyday too). i used to think i have to not let anyone "get away" with the horrible things they do to others or to me i still do from time to time alot less than before tho, but then I started to understand what might be causing their idiot behaviors and realize that my purpose isnt to fix anyone, but to look after myself, be kind, and become a little forgiving. we humans tend to judge eachother it has alot to do with ego ofcourse, this video is incredible and i hope what i said helps a little too💕

[@sofiyarini]

Im the opposite, im goin from 10 to 0 in a second, blank and numb

[@qtharris1]

Your question "What am I trying to protect / defend?" What an excellent question / point! Will try to remember that question the next time I am feeling defensive.

[@Therika7]

I thought about this question… I think my own ego wants to prevent being misunderstood, judged, and discarded. It comes from things in the past - some of us weren’t allowed to be ourselves in childhood. Thinking about this really clarifies things!!

[@valentinanocross8677]

I think you are the only or one of few coaches I can relax to . You are such a great presenter.

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks Valentina. That means a lot.

[@claireconway8510]

I find kids are like the beginners we should choose to be inspired by. Their simple discoveries and candid opinions are funny, beautiful, sometimes annoying, but unashamedly curious and brave.

[@ccdenice]

The ego is not your amigo.

[@juliakristinamah]

cute!

[@fernandogalian2794]

ego gives you sense of identity, but you can't overprotect your self sense of identity or you are trappting yourself in that state, and identity is not stable, it always moves and grows.

[@dianelamorticella6053]

Ain’t that the truth!!!! 😂😂😂😂

[@shannonbaker7430]

Ok, my shame normally stops me from commenting on public sites, but it cannot stop me this time. Holy smokes, sister! You are ridiculously real and aren’t afraid to get down and dirty. Thank you for your insight, vulnerability and wisdom. I so appreciate this lesson. Sending love and light....💜🌟

[@tomasbritt4444]

Ego should provide you with a healthy defense that allows you to safely transition between ideas and personalities as you learn, grow, and explore. The ego becomes unhealthy when it is fixed on a certain idea, outcome, or thing. A healthy ego allows others to have differing viewpoints while one retains his/her own point of view. One does not feel personally attacked if his/her views and opinions are questioned since his/her survival is not associated with any view or opinion. The unhealthy ego comes about as a result of a stifled exploration period, primarily associated with childhood experiences, that shows one that the world outside of one's own beliefs, views, experiences is unsafe and dangerous to one's well being (survival was threatened). To recover a healthy ego, a person must practice acceptance, return to an expansion and exploration type of mindset, and discover the boundaries that will allow one to be one's self while being accepting of others. Ego is NOT the enemy. Ego is a friend once you become aware of it and learn how to manage it. It will keep you safe if you learn to use it appropriately.

[@briana14333]

This is great advice. I was taking notes of things I will implement in my relationships. Thank you! My favorite takeaway: "If you've done nothing wrong, there is nothing to defend. If you've done something wrong, there is nothing to defend."

[@hannahdavis7]

Super helpful!

[@tpmash]

Great stuff

[@sophskulley]

🙌🙌🙌

[@veronicabruce2078]

I love the part of "A Beginners Mind." We bring way too much stuff forward with our relationships. Children don't hold grudges because they come forth with a beginners mind. This is so mindfulness. Thanks.

[@That1PissedOffBoomer]

Truthfully people don't deserve forgiveness and if they cross me they deserve death

[@learnasl1644]

"People are projecting from their own current state of understanding" This is so good! Super helpful! Thank you!!

[@donnaiovine2123]

I use to get defensive. I didn't realize that was my ego. Good to know that there's nothing to defend just accountability, responsibility, and apology. I guess we should still apologize even when didn't do anything wrong but for some reason the other may have been offended or didn't like what was/wasn't done.🤔💭

[@zeruszephuros5419]

Your second point of "living for celebrating only a few moments of success" totally hits me right in there... This is why I really love you and your channel, so deep, detailed, and right to the point

[@juliakristinamah]

Glad that connected. It was a big realization when I saw that this is exactly what I'd been doing. Happy you're here.

[@cindyyurdana8607]

I have to tell you. God actually put your video in front of me! Really! I’ve been struggling so hard with this! Your guidance is easy to understand and is to the point! Just what I needed. Once again, thank you for sharing your knowledge! It’s so helpful!💥💗😇🙏😁❗️

[@learnasl1644]

"People are showing up in their current state of awareness, whatever they have going on" do not take their comments or reactions personally. We are all in different places of growth and development.

[@robynsarahstocker]

Hi Julia, I’m a trainee therapist and it’s nice to see therapists using KZbin as a platform 😊

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Don’t try to be something or someone you’re not.❤

[@Anastashya]

That’s me! The goal chaser! In between I become “almost” depressed. I have to move out of this. Thank you so much!

[@juliakristinamah]

I hear you sis. That used to be me too. Glad we're in this together.

[@conniehintsala8348]

I have been recently watching Julia Kristina's videos. She is so straightforward, no fluff, no showiness, no babbling. Her teaching has structure which is easy to take notes and refer back to. Julia, I am so glad to have found your videos and look forward to learning, working on "my crap" and transforming my life and breaking the trauma bonds.

[@JCole72722]

You are by far the easiest, clearest, most down to earth person out there to listen to. You give such fabulous advice. There's so much to learn about ourselves and because of the world we live in and constantly meeting new people and entering new situations our perception of ourselves changes too. A simple thank you seems so little in comparison to what you share with us, but thank you so very much.

[@blasloza3604]

The beginners mind... you sound like the Buddha... it's so true... it humbles you... it shows you your strengths and limitations... thank you. For your wisdom.

[@blasloza3604]

Hello Adam Loza here. I have been an addict my whole life and I was sober for a few years. I thought I had it all together... than I relapsed.... and I went to rehab... I still used in rehab and I could not figure out how to get right....till.. I decided to start over... I needed to be a beginner again.... I'm still sober today... I love all you are doing I want more info omg....

[@juliakristinamah]

Glad you're here brother. And good for you for always getting back up.

[@stalvy6369]

Loved the discussion about celebrating the journey as well as the goal. Love your energy about...everything .

[@londongirlonthemove9458]

Never give up. You are loved and valued. 🧡

[@Firuzeh]

That's the story of a hero, getting back up. I'm sure you'll stay that way.

[@captaindan1000]

I like it when you admit that you struggle or have struggled with things. Or that you aren't perfect for whatever reason. You admitted you have an ego. If you're this honest about yourself then I guess you don't have an inflated one. Excellent!

[@rolldicegavel4422]

Hello, My name is Nicolas, I’m from France. I’m new here. Thank you for that channel, nice work ! I just found it, working on my (very protective) ego. The biggest takeaway in this video is to be curious instead of defensive, I bet it will help a lot.

[@dkdawe1]

Ego is the little centre of the Babushka doll... the core of self.... surrounded by the colourful exterior.

[@Heiligenbeil]

It's Matryoshka doll, not Babushka. :-)

[@rachellemarcoux3104]

Hi Julia! I want to take some time to thank you for your videos. I tried many times therapy and rarely got what I needd out of it. These videos are super helpful and correspond perfectly to my needs growthwise. I also want to take this time to thank you specifically because I am so grateful that these videos are free. I don't have a big enough income to pay a therapist and these really help me understand a lot about myself. So once again thank you!

[@Whoareyou2050]

How your videos are free is simply mind blowing! The amount of information that you have put out in these videos with all your heart, speaks volumes about how much you are willing to help people heal and grow. I am a new subscriber of your channel. I intend to finish watching all your videos and join the Shift Society as soon as possible. I am already addicted to listening you unveil the reality of life in the most simplest ways possible. You are simply Awesome! May God bless you ❤❤❤

[@carmellerose4406]

All I can say is thank you Julia....you have helped me to improve my life by giving me the tools to get control of my ego.

[@vilmagayah2310]

why am i crying thank you very much again and please be safe

[@juliakristinamah]

Have you figured out why you're crying? Is everything okay?

[@IamMinnie90]

You are a gift to humanity ♥️

[@admirbarucija2018]

I’ve really enjoyed your ego series so far and can’t wait to watch this video as well, getting triggered is something I’m guilty of from time to time! Admittedly, hearing the truth from other people can really hurt, and that’s the situation in which I sometimes feel this way. I hope you’re having a wonderful week so far 💕

[@judielliasochs5273]

I got a lot out of this video on the ego.i will definitely watch more on you series. Thank you for your brilliant knowledge of this subject!

[@wendycruz2939]

Thanks, you totally make so much sense. So many people need to listen and take a step back and be who they were created to be.

[@anneruttenbur1924]

I love your talks.

[@juliakristinamah]

I'm so glad it connected Anne.

[@keniaportillo7339]

It’s almost like everything you say relates to little bits of my life. I find myself being so open minded and aware of my own experiences as you speak about the topics, which is why I love to watch you. You’re so helpful ❤️

[@craigmerkey8518]

Wow during this video I found myself smiling a lot, you are so safe and validating. You make it all so simple because these concepts and practices are quite thorny. My share, growing up in a family where my parents egos were and are still disturbingly fragile the ego has been always interesting concept. It is very frustrating when two people can speak the same words yet have totally different meanings.

[@guidosaurus]

Knowing who we are authentically seems to be key here. If we have found our authentic selves and trust that we can rely on it, all the ego problems are resolved, there is nothing to be hurt or broken any more. I've read a lot about this and seen a lot of videos, and all sources seem to say this same thing. I haven't yet been able to find my authentic self and I'm still struggling to grasp this subject and therefore, I still feel fragile and insecure a lot. My biggest struggle now is that I still don't understand how I can realize my authentic self; the pathway is not so clear for me. But this video helped to identify some stepping stones, so thank you for that.

[@edbrown7950]

Guido, Learning who my authentic self was took me many years. It is a process that starts with struggling to grasp this subject, feeling fragile and insecure a lot, and being open to seeing other perspectives other than your ego’s one way of seeing things. So, congratulations on starting the process. If I could make a suggestion to you, practice becoming aware of what you like to do and what you do not like to do, where you enjoy being and where you do not enjoy being, etc., and work on doing more of what you enjoy fully and do less of what you enjoy less. Be honest with yourself about these things and work on judging yourself less harshly. It helps to practice self-compassion and become aware of where we can have compassion for others, too. That goes hand-in-hand with what Julia Kristina is saying about practicing “Beginner’s Mind” and becoming curious about things rather than judging them. Best of luck!-- Ed Brown

[@enginegirl17]

I love this. It's literally EXACTLY what I needed to this morning. Something I've been struggling with just really clicked. So thank you for showing up and being you ❤

[@chrismcevoy2503]

We all have an ego you just have to learn how to tame it.❤

[@carinaulander4827]

Hi Julia Kristina. I am 61 and have quite a lot of life experience. Nothing of what you say is really new to me. I have been interested in these topics and in personal development for ages. Yet, the way you put it, express it and explain it, is just outstanding!! :) I just happened to discover you today. I listen to “10 things that will get better when you love your self” and it was such a relief to me. I really felt: “Yes, that’s it (in a nutshell). I will go ahead with this”. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge.

[@karenfiggins7808]

Yes! Great information! I have always had a fear of being judged. And I have a lot of opinions that I defend by not presenting them to others. 🙂💞I love that you enjoy dancing!

[@Therika7]

Everyone functioning at their current level of awareness. This is so wise! Thank you!!

[@chrismcevoy2503]

My biggest takeaway from this Julia is to not put all my eggs in one basket.❤

[@chrismcevoy2503]

It’s good to strive for a goal.❤

[@ashleym5868]

It's funny because I was thinking this week that I need to work on not getting defensive with people. So I was going to look through your videos to find one about it. And here we are.

[@juliakristinamah]

Ha! I love it. I'm also going to do an entire video on defensiveness because I think it's such an important topic.

[@ashleym5868]

Awesome, I look forward to it! I really enjoy your videos and they have really helped me. Thank you 💕

[@nelsonroberts3760]

Julia Kristina, first of all I must tell you that you are the first I have ever responded to..that being said I have to tell you that you gave me that missing piece of puzzle that I needed to discover who I really am and from there it's been a steady growth, and you've been there with me the whole way..so thank you very much

[@thcxrev2likeit]

I used to be triggered easily especially by the people I placed very highly in my life until I learnt through your help and my own personal therapy through my health professionals in nz , I manage bipolar disorder with medication and sometimes even with a mood stabilizer stress does go above my threshold. Ever since watching your videos you have helped me & my partner be better parents & just overall better people to be around with alot better strategies for my family and friends. The change is incredible, fully grateful to have you exist in our times of struggle. Stay amazing Julia! You rock!

[@mohitsharmaee7155]

I learned so much by just watching your videos than learning as in my life. Although I am just 18 years old but everything you said was on point and made lots of sense to me. So i wanna thank you for all these wonderful and knowledgeable videos. You literally taught me more than than any other teacher in my life.

[@OluwafemiDeleoluwafemiayodele]

Thank you so so much for this. I needed this at this time.

[@fallofmanbrand]

Loved It!

[@jeanettedicarlo7808]

I just want to say thank you, thank you, thank you!!! You are such a great person and thank you again for sharing all of your knowledge with us 💞 You talk about absolutely everything that a lot people go through every day. You’re awesome 🥰

[@sugarandspice2136]

Whew this hit home like crazy 😫

[@toya8888]

Thank you so much for this video. That part about being defensive really helped me a lot. Thank you!

[@raularmas317]

I have noted that I have grown at pretty much a snail's pace. I have also noted how often people have tried to rush my growth, not really respecting my own pace and need for self-examination. If it weren't for my previous boundary work I think I could easily gotten waylaid/sidetracked and thrown way off my own course. Thanks for your help in my own development.

[@karamia8246]

The element of defensiveness stood out to me the most...I am now doing ego work, starting here! Thank you for this presentation, I’m a new sub!

[@ron_r]

Hi JUlia!! This is so encouraging and motivating 🧡 What i loved the most was let my self be a beginner, alow my self to be courios, allow people to be in a different stage of understanting of things. Thanks!! i clicked the like button now!!

[@juliakristinamah]

Welcome Ron! Glad you're here and I love your insights. Thanks for sharing.

[@hunterdanielserpebecker5586]

Thank you Julia for the great video. Many of the these characteristics have affected me to find personal happiness. Like the video "Why we do not feel good enough" my gremlin is the fear of rejection if I do not express my thoughts well. Doing the self-journal mindfulness exercise, I have recognized better what type of ego affects me and what is ego fear and real fear. I have an open-mind, but I used to be defensive and to take everything personally. "I cannot express my thoughts well" Ego fear Ego tip 1: It used to be very difficult for me to speak english(I am multilingual) with others because I thought that people spoke english to me because I could not "speak" other languages. I am more open to talk to anyone in whatever language and if someone speaks english to me, I understand that they want to learn languages just like me. Why should I discourage that? I am not sure why I used to think like this, but it was an ego fear and frustration for feeling rejected due to an cultural identity crisis. EGO tip 2: Missing life During the trip, my ego affected me so much that I did not have fun with my family and my friends. I was so focused to reach my "goal" to travel to Italy and speak italian and the sicilian. This makes me sad, but my girlfriend and I went to Paris and I was so focused to go to Italy , I was closed minded to do a lot of things instead of enjoying the moment and opening the doors to another culture. EGO tip 3: To be a beginner This is a great technique to improve the foundation of our goals and personal projects. I am starting a youtube channel in a week, but you taught me something that was crucial. We can be imperfect, we decide what we want to do with the videos for example, if it is editing, the length of the video, the video production. We must step back because the question that I had was "This is an ego threat that i cannot have a successful youtube channel", but it is not about how i can be successful, it is how i can grow with public speaking and having a cultural dialogue with others. EGO tip 4: Defensiveness I used to be very defensive with many things. I still continue to work on acceptance of my life and my abilities. Ego tip 5: Overthinking I have been overthinking since I was a little kid to feel good enough or be someone that i am not. Mindfulness allows me to calm the brain and reflect what is ego fear and thoughts that do not serve me. Ego tip 6: be yourself I have noticed that my ego did not allow me to be authentic. I am in a language exchange program, I ask more questions, I try to be the most authentic and what I have learned is that people appreciate it. I used to avoid making mistakes, but it did not allow me to grow. People want authentic conversations, and personally I am working to be imperfect not perfect. Ego tip 7 Judgement This is important because I used to think that it was my problem. When I went to Italy, my cousins did not want to talk to because I was not from Italy. I thought that there was a problem with me, but it was not my state of awareness. I can reflect due to my maturity and awareness, this is not me. It is ego fear that makes me feel vulnerable.

[@amandaadams9170]

Been quieting the mind more from overthinking. It's very healing .

[@gertykrishka2222]

Excellent view of what the Ego is and how it can be managed. Thank you.

[@krsnakantagopalinidd6233]

Thank you for your videos, it helps me a lot! You are helping people to change their realities and consequently change their surroundings and make the world a better place. Thabk you

[@sandraeriksson5101]

Everything made so much sense to me, I feel like I gained a lot of insights and aha moments from this 25 min talk. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge ❤️✨

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad it connected Sandra - thanks for being here.

[@MariaSantos-gm7ps]

Julia Kristina Counselling Thanks. Julia. was great thanks Maria. S

[@j.j.oconnor3442]

Thank you. 🌻 I always take notes. I begin again, daily. Brilliant!!!

[@nickmn6108]

I love the way you teach by also using your own self-acknowledgement and share. It is effective.

[@workingtoseethelight8244]

I loved everything you said !!! You are awesome Julia !

[@Rastasoul1]

You are heaven sent! Everything you said resonated with me and that’s ok right 🤗Thanking you with all my heart!♥️🙏🏾

[@bernienikunen3302]

It’s interesting to listen to you Julia . I hear a lot of topics and sayings that I learnt in treatment , like quit kicking our own Asses - keep an open mind - don’t take things personally - be your authentic self - practice mindfulness - it’s all good stuff and I like what you say about going back and starting over what we have learnt and that’s why I like AA and listening to you ! It’s reassuring what I have learnt and working towards my goals and I like what you say about moving towards my next level of growth - I like that . Progress not perfection - it’s all good Thank You !!!!

[@redjaw69]

So powerful and poignant . Thank you for this!

[@marcioalvarenga5701]

Thank you so much to your teaching God bless you.

[@juliakristinamah]

You too friend.

[@jaimeek1219]

I never realized how much my ego disrupts my life. I am slowly understanding that my jealousy is from my ego, competition is my life and I’m a sore loser, I’m afraid to try thing because if I fail it will hurt my ego. I have a lot of hatred due to this problem and have a hard time letting it go. It affects me from the core to the point of panic attacks, I’m ashamed and need to “start over”. It’s a long road to recovery. Thank you for the video, it was very helpful. 💙

[@latestFijiangospel]

Very emotional indeed 😢. Thank you Julia for touching our lives and infecting our lives. You are a great gift to our /personal healing. I thank God for your life🙏

[@tpmash]

The acknowledgment on its own is deep and powerful. You’ve admitted things that millions will NEVER ADMIT about themselves. I commend you! Wishing you success in confronting your ego and finally getting healing! Jealousy is toxic to your Souls

[@raularmas317]

I agree with you ms. Nocross. I believe she is one of the most astute , aware individual's with a knowledge of both herself and the patterns, and mental processes of others and she's a dynamic presenter as well. And aren't we the more blessed because of her skills?

[@amaryllisgrypari6020]

People sanction in their current level of awareness .....this helped me move out from a grey zone....I needed it!!!thank you so much for all you said in this video and many others. Take care!stay safe!!!

[@johnfarago3363]

What! You get nasty comments!? My defensive spirit immediately sat up in my chair. Ready to go to battle for you. I have no idea how anyone could have anything but cheers and compliments for you after all you do for the world. Julia, thank you for all your help. Your videos are the place I stop scrolling for positive helpful instruction. 💖💯

[@stephanimok1424]

This is a particularly excellent talk. Thank you, Julia!

[@mig23flogger88]

You are such a good teacher..I really enjoyed this..Going back to vid 1 & 2 , Thanks Julia :)

[@juliakristinamah]

Always! Glad you're here.

[@chilloften]

Oh girl! These are bomb x 3. I have severe ego issues d/t narc mom plus stress career. It ruins my whole life. Tfs🔥🌹

[@angelferris9812]

Another great lesson! Thanks Julia 🧡

[@juliakristinamah]

Glad you're here for it Angel.

[@1bighug]

Hi Julia this video is in the all time top 10 for me on your channel, you really crushed it on this one well done

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks friend. Your comment made me smile.

[@sherryelebeauty]

Love your commentary! Thank you for taking the time to make these amazing video's. You are helping to many people. God Bless You

[@ranjanaluwihare1511]

Your absolutely right Julia. Society pressurises to achieve goals to be content & happiness? On the contrary, we have to put the intention out, & begin to let go! Goals are achieved when the season is right. Thankyou Rx

[@uniquelysunkissed4653]

This was so helpful & gave me a new understanding of the ego.

[@buildonkindnessandwakeupmi2554]

Your videos are always on time. Thank u for what u do!

[@juliakristinamah]

Always! Glad it connected.

[@gloriakurkowski101]

Julia, you are making such a major difference in my life. Many thanks for your coping skills. Better then medications.

[@garyvelasquez187]

This was REALLY helpful!! Thank you!! Good stuff.

[@djfingersflores]

allowing yourself to be open to learning is a BIG ONE.. Peace !

[@darnellye1487]

Thank you. Everything makes sense 🙏

[@RavenMadd9]

Thank you Doc!

[@zajacik282]

Every time I am about to watch one of your videos, Julia, it's like I am choosing the 'red pill'. The unpleasant truth is about to unveil.. Although it sucks realizing that many of these negative mindsets relate to me, understanding what it is and what caused them will help with my positive transformation, I am sure! I cannot thank you enough. I am guilty for not 'liking' all the videos that I like but since I came across your channel a little while ago, I have been binge-listening to one after another..and re-listening again. I like your positivity and it's amazing how things you say make so much sense. Even when they don't at first :) Thanks Julia! ❤ P.S. I am going to be more consistent with putting 'likes' so more people can benefit from your advice :)

[@hollykay4947]

Thank you so much for your work! I appreciate all the insights!

[@davidclark1412]

I love your interpretation of human nature.👍

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks friend.

[@latrecelockett4930]

Thank you Julia for these free videos

[@raularmas317]

Yes! Growth is painful, but this is a pain that leads to a broader perspective, to expand as JK mentions.

[@walkbyfaith2917]

Oooohh this was good teaching...#7 a game changer😉👍🏾 Thank you! On my journey of transformation!!

[@mocab8784]

Thank you for these Ego videos Julia.. I have really connected to them and have learnt so much❤️ thank you for doing what you do.

[@juliakristinamah]

I'm so glad they've connected Monica. Was there something in particular and created a bigger shift for you?

[@mocab8784]

@@juliakristinamah For me personally the biggest thing was realising my error in allowing the behavior of people to mean something personally about me and letting it affect my sense of self instead of realising their behavior is based on them. This was huge. And that I don't need to react or defend that. I also overthink a lot and stress myself over things before they even happen as I'm the type that likes to know what to expect before hand, and realising now as you said that you will always have your own back and should trust in yourself to handle uncertain situations. ❤️

[@jeremycordova7630]

You are so helpful and truthful thank you so much!

[@seacaster]

It is all helpful. You describe beautifully the process. Thank you. Blessings!

[@LeleKim1]

I'm happy to be here. I'm coming for second time to listen again so that I can try to implement. I think this video is awesome. Thank you.

[@lilidutrey5491]

Thank you ! You are a great person.

[@cascadea]

Enjoying the process!

[@debramcfeely2127]

Hi, I’m Debra and am so grateful for your videos offering positive growth for myself and countless others ❤️

[@bobotron88]

Thank you for sharing your expertise. Very insightful/helpful video ❤️

[@grashawnoffical1542]

Not unnoticed, you are very connected just keep doing what you are doing.