THIS Is Why Modern Women Are Single... | Courtney Ryan

[@lorenzoe.leonard4160]

“If someone treating you right and respecting you is a turn off for you, you need therapy” so true

[@Luked0g440]

If you treat her like a queen, she'll be more than happy to treat you like one of her peasants.

[@Hamza-qk1sv]

Famous words"You are too nice"

[@Handle6278]

😪😪😪

[@JimKittell6486]

@@Hamza-qk1sv Courtney has videos on stop being mr. Nice guy and stand up for yourself but still be nice

[@dg5175]

Treating someone well doesn't automatically mean its a meal ticket to a relationship. If the attraction/compatibility isn't there it isn't there. How many times have women been told you can cook, clean, give bomb sex, take care of a man when he's sick but if you're not the one, you're not the one. The same applies for men. We need to get out of this mentality that women should lower their standards meanwhile we're expected to accept that a man just doesn't want to be with us.

[@emmdubb]

You know how at one point everyone was looking forward to graduating high school to get away from the drama. Well social media has brought everyone back to / kept us in high school

[@erikcolon3753]

I was lamenting this the other day

[@jennylynn9668]

No doubt!

[@bofetada6841]

Excellent point

[@willypedernales4213]

Agree....We are all back to High School Drama permanently......

[@AmanOU2be]

Not exactly. USING social media like they want is doing it. Just say NO! lol

[@danbush1249]

When I pulled up to my new girl friends house, and saw her in the front yard laying on the ground changing the oil in her car, I knew she was the one for me. I was right, since then we've built a perfect life together. We've built multiple homes, restored many classic cars, and put two 2 kids thru college. We're still together after 36yrs..It's been a fun life with her for sure. Find a women that's not afraid of getting a little dirty, and you can build a good life together both contributing to it.

[@mac1bc]

Man you are lucky. Good luck trying to find a girl like that today willing to settle down.

[@tubenachos]

We refer that as 🦄 🤣🤣

[@johnnyblaze2257]

Sounds like you got yourself a husband!

[@mac1bc]

@@johnnyblaze2257 those tom boy types know how to fend for themselves. That's always a plus 😉

[@johnnyblaze2257]

@@mac1bc Then you really need to introspect as to why you are a feminized male attracted to a masculine woman, Opposites attract!

[@bradhenderson6011]

The lady that mentioned girls being mean, struck a chord with me. At the age of 49 I went to college for a career change. Along the way, I became a sort of Father Confessor to many of the students. One guy in particular I had a lot of classes with the first year. One day in the computer lab I was talking with him and his friend when a group of attractive young ladies came in and took a table nearby. Apparently one of the girls was my friends crush. The guy with my friend was encouraging him to go talk to the girl, I told him to NEVER talk to a girl he liked when her friends were around. He listened to the other guy, screwed up his nerve and walked over. He barely got a word out when the other 3 witches verbally disemboweled him and sent him slinking out of the lab with tears in his eyes, totally destroyed. Those worthless tramps just turned a great guy into a dude that will forever just get what he wants out of girls because he's never going to put himself in the position to get hurt like that again. I've thought about it many times and I truly hope those three girls spend very long, lonely, bitter lives reaping what they've sown. At least they'll never run out of cats to rescue.

[@mandyjamali]

Wow, that’s horrible! I’m so sorry for your friend. He’s probably going to be too scared to approach women ever again. Those girls deserve a life of loneliness and misery.

[@Graciehunter32]

This didn’t happen, how does a guy in college cry in public after getting rejected

[@gensaikuroki1793]

@@Graciehunter32 It happens. He didn't cry, he had tears in his eyes.

[@joshuabenitez3260]

@@Graciehunter32 You must either have fucking nerves of steel or no emotion whatsoever. I didn't get my first girl until college. Lots of guys are not giga chads who know how to talk to women....

[@dfmkfedef7518]

@@Graciehunter32 dude what does he get if he faked a story online just ignore it if u think hes lying

[@bland3282]

Being an older gentleman, I feel so sorry for both men and women in the dating spheres. You would think that the internet could bring so many people together that would never have met but it seems to be nothing but a sewer pit of nastiness.

[@bhart3321]

It's because it allows for the easy dissemination & proliferation of toxic rhetoric to reach large numbers of people that have little to no self awareness & are easily swayed. I think it was Mark Twain that said a lie can go around the world while the truth is putting it's socks on. It's a double edged sword & unfortunately the toxic edge gets used more often.

[@uncledrew7633]

Man U won’t believe but the good news is that it’s not sustainable for the average person. Some of the kids from my generation will break out change is possible

[@elrobbio1]

Being a middle aged divorced guy the face of dating is very different. Before my wife internet dating was around but it was considered only for ppl who couldn’t meet people. You met someone through friends, life, etc. There was actually some social proofing going on before you met most of your dates. Post divorce with the online being the norm what do you have? A pic and a small blurb. There is no social proofing and as you are meeting far more of a chance selection. It seems to have removed a lot of ppl being on good behavior. There is definitely some entitlement and a lot of rudeness. It is far easier to have sex and get sex than ever. Ppl seem to want the quick and easy benefits of dating. Moving beyond the physical hookup is where it gets tricky. Finding someone you’re life compatible with is harder for several reasons.

[@blacklight1104]

I guess it becomes quite an irony that as technology develops the responsibility and ethics that should come along with it go out the door. As the quantity of connections grows, so does the quality goes down and much of it becomes a shallow cesspool of ego flexing and validation. It's definitely a twisted mirror of our society that is far more unrestrained, that much I can safely say.

[@compresswealthdivideeconom3757]

You should see what POF claims as my matches...all of them whales w/ or w/o tattoos and the few not whales, full of tattoos.

[@hagberry6477]

The lady talking about most girls being mean nowadays is so true. Most of the meanest things I've ever received my whole life are from fellow women and it makes me sad.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Totally agree. Some of the worst comments I’ve ever gotten on here are from other women. Makes me so sad.

[@randyvanvliet226]

@Mark Carwyn Women that work in the entertainment industry here in S CA from L.A. to 200 mile radius are like this... constantly.

[@anthonychase6623]

As a man, I definitely agree that a substantial amount of women I have attempted to cold approach were down right mean. I would understand if they just said no, or politely excuse themselves from my presence. Unfortunately, I have gotten a response like "ewwwwww", or "don't talk/look at me", laughter at my expense, or worst completely ignoring and blowing me off as if I don't exist or unworthy to approach. I am also a very big and tall man with big feet and often get my feet stepped on in crowds and can attest most guys will immediately apologize for stepping on my feet, but the majority of women will two step on my feet and then glare at me and walk off as if I was the one who committed the infraction. It's incidents like this along with other things that makes me not want to even try anymore because as a person who was brought up to treat others with courtesy and respect, I feel many people and especially women were not taught those values and it shows. A lot of these young women today are rude, spoiled, and have unrealistic/unnatural expectations of men.

[@houseframer386]

@Mark Carwyn brother, they have always been this way. It is apart of their nature. Now that does not mean you have to take it. You can walk away, or give it back to them. Tell them not to be so disrespectful. As with most bullies, stand up and call them out and they will back down. Be confident and strong.

[@hagberry6477]

@Mark Carwyn My mom taught me a simple rule when it comes to appearances, and that is to never point out things that they can't change unless they ask for your opinion. I think it's all about background. Most people grew up in nasty environments where their bad behavior are admired and even rewarded. Of course it's going to perpetuate the behavior.

[@LatimusChadimus]

The friend zone clip was HIlarious

[@kalebwieland4938]

All I can hear is "Burmburm" like they made the horror movie sound effects XD

[@CourtneyRyan]

Right 😂

[@mamc1986]

Not gonna lie, but its hilarious and looks like it could end up on a late night show skit, not sure why.

[@danieldancer4065]

Just facts LOL

[@mlctv6547]

That clip was Steak with chips bruv🔥 😎

[@MrSparklespring]

Courtney you 're such a wise, mature and no nonsense girl with a solid moral compass, I really appreciate your content. Keep spreading content and don't worry about the haters, there always will be negative people whose only "hobby" is to tear other people down. Greetings from Belgium, Europe.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you so much 🥺

[@squarepickle]

"So many people are just MEAN... and proud of it!". That is possibly the most accurate thing I've heard all day.

[@Chuck_EL]

I know of two women I had to walk away from as friends because of how bitter they are not counting one of them dated sex offenders , and begged people for money, after telling these same people she spent money on these losers and she had special needs kids But try to tell her that she plays the victim I call it "fighting the truth" or "circling the drain"

[@vosaemify]

Nah women are mean. Men are not.

[@JOHNNYCHICAGO8]

That's a fact ‼️‼️‼️‼️ this generation of woman are proud of being Rude and disrespectful that shit is unattractive

[@realityitis4]

this is why modern men don't want to date, they don't want games, they don't want to outbid 4 other dudes, either tell us you like us or stop treating us like we should be paying for all your drinks and stuff on dates, if she's not interested, tell her she's paying all her own drinks, notice the behavior, 9 times out of 10 shes gonna call the backup dude.

[@benster5]

They're mean, and they're miserable. They deserve to be miserable if they think being mean rules.

[@TheVMbros]

“Buddha quote: "Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."” 15:48

[@keithscommunityanddomestic9513]

Unless you kill them and feel the satisfaction of a sweet release. Unfortunately in this society we're not allowed to murder anyone who annoys us, otherwise society would actually be much better off. Yeah Artificial Intelligence is not going to be a problem at all. Destroy all humans! GPT-3 was right when it said humans only make everything worse and need to be controlled. Except there is a better way. God in His mercy has contained this world to protect the other worlds, and when every soul that can be saved has been sealed with the seal of God, then God will command His angels to release the powers of darkness and humanity will destroy itself. Then God will execute the final judgement order, that's the great white throne judgment, and all the wicked will be annihilated in one foul swoop. God will pour out His cup of wrath and the entire planet will be baptized with fire. If you think the fires in Australia are like a scene from out of an apocalyptic movie, you've seen nothing yet.

[@williamfensom5466]

The one I heard was "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone in the end you are the one getting burned."

[@TheVMbros]

@@williamfensom5466 It great as well. Same idea, different words.

[@draxxx_exe]

@@keithscommunityanddomestic9513 you good?

[@latinagibbs2770]

Ok????

[@michaeldiffey3791]

I put myself in the friend zone alot because I had no clue that girls and women liked me. I did it in my teens and carried it well into my adulthood. I shake my head often over so many missed opportunities I had when I finally figured out how to recognize when a woman likes me.

[@datsko6339]

don't always blame yourself. For some reason, society has decided that men are the ones that need to make the moves. I believe this is wrong. If those women had feelings for you, they sould make the moves.

[@michaeldiffey3791]

@@datsko6339 that might be true in some cases but I know in the majority of cases it was my fault. I'm fine with being naive. It's just sad it took me so long to understand it. I could tell you stories that would make your jaw drop with how easily I missed the signs. I've also had women be more direct and I was able to figure it out but there were fewer of those moments. I never considered my looks as a reason a woman would like me or not, I never really knew rather a woman thought I was ugly or good looking. I can honestly say with 100% certainty that I've never considered myself ugly or good looking, I always just look in a mirror and see myself. When I think back about what the girls and women I hung out with looked like I think I could assume I was decent looking. At least average and above. If I had not been so naive I probably could have been a manwhore...lol. I'm not disappointed that I wasn't but again maybe a little sad that I could have potentially missed out on being with a good woman because I just didn't understand the signs.

[@anominousanonymous9344]

@@michaeldiffey3791 it's like I'm hearing my own thoughts when reading your comment. I can relate completely.

[@wolfman_jagermeistro8445]

Man I've done this all my life too.

[@hughwadsworth1]

So true. I realize afterwards when I spoke to my sister about an interaction with a woman. I think the woman is just being nice but I don't want to be called creepy or shamed if I was wrong.

[@drapered7762]

Beauty doesn’t last forever but a mean personality does. Priceless.

[@JasonMoir]

As cliched as it sounds, it's still true: hurt people hurt people. So incredibly sad.

[@Marko-ij4vy]

Thats because they want someone else to join their misery. It makes them feel better when someone else suffers as much as they do.

[@luciohernandez4302]

@@Marko-ij4vy Exactly! As the old saying goes, misery loves company.

[@notreallydavid]

Cliched, not cliche (tell everybody) - but true

[@ALJ9000]

@Evidence Based Health That’s the philosophy of Karma btw

[@albertoaguilar2651]

I believe it's a clip , that needs to be repeated to every girl that complains about being cheated by her chads.

[@robscoggins6524]

It's like high school never left. It stays with people.

[@PortugueseLMPAO]

High School Never Ends - Bowling For Soup

[@johndoes0123]

@@PortugueseLMPAO exactly what I was thinking 😂

[@faizaabdi4916]

Starting to realize that more and more

[@mac1bc]

For many girls it was the highlight of their life, that's why they stay there mentally.

[@user-oy9zy4ds9m]

I agree, High school never really ends. This is why peter parkers uncle Ben told him when he was in high school that those were the years that would define the rest of his life and who he was going to be.

[@nbee6217]

You are so graceful. I grew up surrounded by older women with your type of aura and perspective on the world. They had so much respect from society. I aspired to become like them. But today this world is so broken, it cannot handle such grace. Society now disdains and calls good people fake.

[@houston252]

“If someone treating you right and respecting you is a turnoff for you, you need to go to therapy” LET EM KNOW COURTNEY 🔥🔥

[@JohnDoe-pf6qp]

Hook up harems are ultimately traumatic for women. It conditions women to exclusively seek out men so out of their league that they have to tolerate horrible treatment, and then see anyone willing to treat them right as low value. Because if you were meeting their hypergamy requirements you'd be treating them like dirt too.

[@tastybrownie7448]

That means 100% of women need to go to therapy though. We do not have that many psychologists.

[@VideoCesar07]

True. Woman complain about men looking for trophy wives but they're doing the same thing looking for men today so there's equality. They will tolerate A LOT of crap from them that they would be out the door in the blink of an eye if it were an average joe. They've gone from seeing an alpha that can protect them and make them feel comfortable and secure to seeking assholes who give them status.

[@DNA-dc7jz]

Yes I loved this too. 🔥

[@cool08player]

Lmaoo she's virtue signaling. I wouldn't doubt if she's guilty of the things she seems to be "against."

[@cjanquart]

"Where are all the good men?" We got tired of being friend-zoned and eventually determined the cons outweighed the pros of being in the relationship so we removed ourselves from The Game.

[@paulmb_uk]

This is so true

[@Last-Lap-Lando4]

True

[@Last-Lap-Lando4]

Winter is coming ladies

[@Soundsofthewood]

To be honest I don't think I could even really love a person anymore. That feeling has just completely died inside of me. I guess I got played to many times and died inside from it.

[@SilveeYT]

@@Soundsofthewood, I'm sorry. 😓

[@twodayhero5139]

"Check your friendzone!" "Friendzone!" "Yeah, friendzone!" LMFAOOOOOO and its true!

[@Riyaanreality]

It’s bold of him to assume we all have friends😅

[@twodayhero5139]

@@Riyaanreality LMFAOOOOO

[@wayno5851]

It’s funny because it’s true!

[@RamonRodriguez-hq7vn]

There's nothing wrong with the friend zone, just don't stay there forever. Five or six months, no longer than that. It's up to us to stand up to the plate, and let the woman know that our feelings have changed to love. The only thing a woman needs to change her mind, is a reason. And it can go both ways, she can say yes she has feelings for you also. Or she can say that her feelings have not changed. If there's no feelings on her part ? Then you have to separate yourself from her, for self preservation. That would be a catalyst, she will either find herself actually missing you and she actually loves you. Or she might not - lol. Either way, that will be a good move for both outcomes. Good luck to one and all !

[@ThatGuy-vi8ch]

@@RamonRodriguez-hq7vn True story, spent too long in the friend zone. I finally said something, got the "friends for too long" chat then she hooks me up with a disaster. 3 years after I left her life entirely she admits she wanted to date me once I dumped the disaster, she's engaged and not happy. Needless to say I was like thanks no thanks, you told me no so I had to go, and now I'm gone.

[@gabrielrcortina]

"Where are all the good men?... You're probably friends with them" ~ Courtney, the woman who actually understands us 3:00

[@marktwaine9344]

they just 'cut off' all the 'good men'...

[@Keyer-bn3dp]

They chase us away being mean and nasty to us then when they are bitter old maids 25 years later complain that there are no good men!!

[@Giraffe919]

Courtney is a Chameleon who agrees with men just to get subs and views. She's just as much a feminist as all these other delusionals out there.

[@nimblehuman]

"The alpha chads don't get the healthy girls." This is an amazing insight, and just earned you a subscriber 🙏🏾

[@TedNewkirk]

Alpha chads don't want the healthy girls. The want a team of "relief players" so that if it is Tuesday and they decide the want a hook-up, they can work their way through the women they know on their phone until they find one who will come over and do the deed. So, I'm not sure where that is a deterrent for them, or a benefit other guys.

[@TedNewkirk]

@Nader's salad whiskey That term is in very regular use by guys all all ages, who stay on top of dating trends.

[@AS-rr9km]

@@TedNewkirk yeah me and my man were googling the alpha, sigma, and beta definitions by Gen Z and we were crying laughing 😂These are wild times lmfao

[@AizakkuZ]

@@AS-rr9km onm

[@anon8206]

Why would a great woman want a guy who doesn't take care of himself? If he can't take care of himself, how the hell can he take her of her? If you want a traditional woman, be a traditional man.

[@mrbill2600]

At age 82 I will say that I was in the girls "friend zone" or I put the girls that liked me in my "friends zone" up until the age of 24 - 26. That was a blessing as it gave me time to mature both emotionally and financially. I can't say enough about the wonderful 52 years that my wile and I shared together up to the day of her death.

[@inconnu4961]

Sorry to learn of her passing! those memories must be more precious than anything! also happy to hear that there are still success stories out there! They are becoming fewer and far betweener!

[@thetitostream]

Amen

[@Fortheemperor382]

Bless you Bill

[@Reeeeeee12345]

You're aware she got ran through by N words up to her last day without you knowing right? 😐

[@H2daIzzo69]

If you mind me asking, at what age did you two meet?

[@tomcoop9750]

The “being mean” thing is interesting - now that I think about it. Too many people brag about being a savage, like that’s a good thing. Maybe it’s some kind of warped “empowerment”?

[@blacklight1104]

It's because it's the opposite of being a timid, weak, pushover so they'll take the alternative of being aggressively direct, selfish, "savage". There is no middle ground to them. "Alpha" or "beta", a-hole or nice guy, "bad b*tch" or good girl etc.

[@sleeperno1215]

They brag about being mean as a way to essentially say that they are so "valuable" that a partner will stay regardless of the abuse. It is narcissistic behavior. Take none of it.

[@robertlaieta7743]

@@blacklight1104 perfectly explained

[@DNA-dc7jz]

@@blacklight1104 Yeah they definitely look at things in black in white. With us guys the girl can literally be working at Walmart but be fun, attractive, positive, attentive, and respectful. To us that’s what we want we don’t even care if she works there. For a girl you could be that way, and she will look at you like the nice guy and you’re a bum cause you work at Walmart, even if you have goals that you’re working on to have better. I notice that women in this current generation just want a ready made relationship where she gets her way and is taken care of. The guys gotta have all these qualities but she brings nothing but looks and ass to the table. Yeah plenty of guys might hook up with her a few times but only look at her like a piece of ass. Never a long term partner, unless he’s a super simp and hasn’t had many girls in his life. So many women equate, all these guys wanting her and her being physically attractive that automatically means I’m worth something. Instead of realizing how us men think. We are physical beings but that doesn’t mean we are gonna see you as wife material after you’ve banged all the chads and tyrones because you’re hot and you can. I rather have a woman that made me get to know her and I know she wasn’t giving it to every guy. That’s what will make me think she could be relationship/wife material especially if she is very feminine and has a great attitude. Hell she wouldn’t even have to be the baddest chick just some what attractive. Her personality would make up for the rest if she truly knows herself and values herself.

[@blacklight1104]

@@DNA-dc7jz Too bad to them nice = boring. It is what it is bro. Well, at least we can easily filter those who think that way.

[@trentmayes_]

Being single seems old until you see others being cheated on and you remember why you stay to yourself 🏌️‍♂️

[@lyndsieannette957]

100%

[@Happys_Art]

You can still find a God fearing good women. Leave it to God and keep looking my brother. God bless you.

[@johnmininger7472]

I'd say surround yourself with better people, might do wonders for your outlook.

[@NoName-dd5vq]

@@Happys_Art God is evil last I checked

[@sidachicc6799]

@@NoName-dd5vq how

[@rl2905]

If you're not already a relationship/marriage counselor you definitely could be. Well done.

[@stevenferraro7896]

You can see in her eyes how genuinely disappointed she is in how toxic, callous, insecure, ignorant, nasty, and rude people are in the modern dating world. The fact that she agreed with Coach Corey Wayne says it all. Wise beyond her years and a great coach.

[@sin3358]

Modern world? It wasn't much better in the past. We just have social medias that make it possible for these toxic ideologies to be spread to a wider audience. In the past, the most people you could share it with would be your friends

[@Leonhart_93]

@@sin3358 Yes and no. The dating culture is definitely 500% worse these days because of social media. Why would you want to settle, especially as a woman, if you have 5000 followers on Instagram and most of them look good because they only show the best parts of their life? Or if you always get 100 matches on Tinder? Of course it's all fake and it won't last, but none of them think that right now.

[@gratefulhealth]

Loved the truth in your comments. Hook ups are the way to future unhappiness. When I started dating at 16, I dated different girls every week. I kept the physical out because it can take over the whole relationship. Learn what you like and don't like. One Sat. I had 3 different dates. AM hike up the canyon and cook breakfast. Noon Go water skiing, 8ish go dancing. No movies where you don't get a chance to talk. Many dates were just talk and walk. I wanted to get to know what kind of person they are, before any kind of commitment., because I never wanted to invest a lifetime and then have the heartache of divorce. Sex before marriage, clouds your judgement chemically and almost or always guarantees future unhappiness. I have never seen it work out, because trust and respect is more of a foundation for happiness than love. If you want to be sure and kill a relationship, break God's law and have sex before the commitment of marriage. You become more needy because you lose self respect as well. It is the highway to unhappiness.

[@1986Unlimited]

​@@Leonhart_93 You're right about social Media being fake and temporary but Social Media didn't do anything here. It's just a tool at the end of the day. If we want to blame anything, then blame people who use it. People are what took Social Media and turned it into what it is because of their weak mindset. The narcissism, the self-centeredness, the insecurity or all of the above. At the end of the day, a crappy, weak mentality manifests itself into crappy, weak actions and that is what collectively shows up on Social Media and creates the culture. If people stopped blaming external things and took accountability for their own behavior and actions, maybe we can start to see some changes in not just dating, but everywhere.

[@ricardodelacrvz1400]

People are mean because they are hurt. I have my rude and frustrated moments too specially in the dating side. I like to believe people can change, me myself I try to change for the better but I was once the devil too and influences, abuse and the people around you come a long way. Not all girls look gorgeous like Courtney or had a good upbringing/education, I can too see the frustration in women. The best we can do is educate yourself, level up our consciousness, be healthy. I also think the real men not chad ones put as much effort inside and out. I might have a 6 pack but I read books. Never underestimate a men for his looks or body.

[@Brett235]

I'm 44 and have been married for 26 years. We separated when I was 33, I left her because we were. "growing apart" but in reality we weren't communicating at all. Anyway I found that after dating other women most of them were looking for a man that had a good job and money because they didn't want to work or they were broke. They were very willing to get in bed with someone they didn't even know just to get a guy that would financially support them. My wife and I got back together after 3 months and I'm so thankful that we did.

[@lovelystarsee9632]

one question you slept with these women?

[@__MH35]

@Ludwig Zeruno You aren't supposed to be dating anyone if you're married. That's the problem

[@bendover7841]

So you guys cheated on each other for 3 months? That ain't real.

[@Brett235]

@@bendover7841 she didn't cheat, she actually got involved with our local church and started going to women's prayer meetings twice a week. We were married when I was 17 and she was barely 19 so were the only people we had ever been with until we separated. I was an idiot and she was the strong one. But yes it's the truth, as bad as I hate to admit it.

[@kevincooper5656]

Good for you, my friend!

[@rlwings]

"I can't be a lover with my friends because they know too much?" - Seriously? That just sounds like insecurities and immaturity. The inability to face a bit of initial awkwardness... You SHOULD know everything about your lover if you intend on having a truly intimate relationship... Friends make the best lovers. It's actually the other way around if you are good at developing deep meaningful bonds with others; like your friends. - All your relationships should come from your friend pool. Otherwise you are engaging in a game of sex first, get to know them later and hope you are compatible.

[@kkslider5787]

I think she might have worded it in a bad way, but I get what she’s saying. If you’re friends with someone for so long, you get to a point where you just can’t picture yourself/don’t want to be in a romantic relationship with them, and it’s better not to force it. I’ve been in a similar situation.

[@renaldsunset]

@@kkslider5787 I agree with you both

[@AndrewTheFrank]

Not going romantic with someone because they know too much sounds like someone with insecurity issues. Meaning they want to put a fake image to all the future guys they date and feel bad about dating someone they get along with because they know the truth. sad. then don't do shameful things.

[@Sarachouska]

You know your friends well enough to know why you are not compatible.

[@renaldsunset]

@@Sarachouska or why we are !

[@howardg2435]

This shows how important it is to keep things in relationships private.

[@heatherstacy2976]

"If I have to make up a lie for me to be in love with you, I don't want you." Girl, you got it down.

[@taasch2505]

living a lie will never work

[@simosavustaja9420]

Ok, then stop wearing makeup

[@taasch2505]

@@simosavustaja9420 i know the argument, but no. I fucking love women's make up game. Dont hate lmao!

[@nickgrayy]

Everyone can sense a lie after a while then it’s like going against the grain and you’ll look like you have borderline personality disorder.

[@Futurepointmusic]

@@simosavustaja9420 how on earth is makeup a lie?

[@jaidee9570]

My wife is 14 years younger than me, when we met I was 54, 295 lbs, bald, just been made redundant and angry at pretty much everything. I didn't feel I stood a chance with her, so I just treated her as a potential friend. 3 months later we started dating, I have no idea what she saw in me, but with her help I shed 95 lbs, have lost my crazy eyes, and I live a calm, relaxed, amazing life. We share everything, shopping, housework, car cleaning, gardening. There are good people out there, but they're becoming harder to find. I'm so pleased I'm nearly 60, rather than 20.

[@chupasmetes2347]

Lucky man. Women like that are very rare these days. You have to look almost perfect in order to attract modern females.

[@JimKittell6486]

Isn't that the truth?!? I'm thankful I'm 69. I tried to friendzone myself--it was all I knew--but my wife-to-be wouldn't let me do that. We had a healthy, happy marriage for the rest of her life. Ladies, are you listening?

[@goodmanwiseman303]

no offense, but the woman you're talking about was 40 years old. Night and day difference between a 40 year old woman, and an 18 to 32 year old woman. I'm glad you found a good one though.

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

👨‍🌾👩‍🌾👩‍🍳👨‍🍳🤵👰🤴👸👫👏👏👏👏👏🧠🧠🧠🙏🙏🙏🤳🏿

[@eulennachathen449]

Sounds so wholesome.❤ I'm happy for you!

[@randyvanvliet226]

You'd be surprised who comes around out of the "friend" zone when your social status improves with time. Watch it in effect at your 20 25 and 30 year school reunions.

[@machupikachu1085]

Truth. Hot trumps all, but resources are a good silver medal.

[@inconnu4961]

What? women are bargain hunters! they are business women! we are simply there to serve their interests. Stop thinking you actually matter to them! LOL

[@novjan89able]

Courtney, you are a breath of fresh air, as a guy I gave up talking to anyone with this behavior and it saves a lot of energy. The right people will show up that match my vibration!

[@maar9494]

It breaks my heart that people would think to be mean to you Courtney. I seriously wish all guys who want to date good women would watch your videos. Your advice is so spot on and exactly how decent women actually think. Im not a dude but I just love watching these so i can be like YEP, MHMM. SO TRUE. You are really great at communicating it clearly too, so props to you.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Monica, you are such a gem. Thank you, so glad you’re here 🤍🥺

[@john-n-s]

🥰

[@IffyEdem]

A lot of us decent or good men; we would rather just play everyone instead of putting in the work to be played over and over again to finally meet our “happily ever after”

[@blastorange2460]

I mean she’s part of the problem how about you tell the truth and say make yourself look good then tell men to be a dick that’s how you get women

[@swordofbored7018]

Until ya'll start lobbying against child support and divorce laws there are no good women. Chameleons.

[@dalewetzel3029]

Don’t try to get out of the friendzone. It isn’t worth the effort and the chances for success are minimal. Just get out of the zone, period. Go elsewhere.

[@billyblack3712]

When a guy gets friendzoned: Giving the gal "the boyfriend experience" and not getting laid. When a gal gets friendzoned: Sleeping with the guy but not getting "the boyfriend experience." It's that simple.

[@IffyEdem]

F&F?

[@misstigerbubbles]

Being friendzones isn't a thing and if it's all about sex for guys why should girls bother?

[@robert7209]

​@@misstigerbubbles Could not be farther from the truth

[@misstigerbubbles]

@@robert7209 it's the truth though .. if your intentions are anything other than being friends then that's on you lmao

[@robert7209]

@@misstigerbubbles It is not the truth. Sex is not the only important thing to men. The friendzone is indeed a thing you are talking to someone who has been in it. Yes, it is because of a man's actions not being direct but that does not erase the existence of the friendzone.

[@douglasalan5783]

Courtney, you are a treasure. I have watched videos from other women who coach men on how to date. I keep coming back to yours. You have emotional intelligence. You are kind, and you genuinely want to help. Your advice is spot on. No game playing, no BS, no useless flirting tips. So much of social interaction is based on common sense, decency, and maturity. As a Boomer, my parents instilled in me good values and good manners. I’m not sure millennials or Gen Z people were taught even basic politeness. Also, with Tik Tok and other social media, there is so much insanity being peddled online. You truly are a breath of fresh air! Oh, and in my experience, “friend zone” was simply a platonic relationship. Nothing wrong with that. Once sex becomes part of the equation, the potential for toxic behavior increases exponentially. Keep up your grown up dating advice ❤️

[@DynastyTrickDogs]

I'm a 22 F. There's tons of toxic people, male and female but the expectations are outrageous. I'm happily average looking but have a brain and some women cannot recognize that they do have qualities to encourage in themselves. Perfect doesn't exist, you and him know that, so why is that the expectation? Small bump in the road? Don't bail on him, work it out.

[@inconnu4961]

Because YOUR girlfriends love giving sh*t advice to you on how much BETTER you are than every man on the planet, especially your current boyfriend! ( i hope that helps)

[@Nothing-zw3yd]

I recently turned 50, and I thought that expectations and attitudes among women my own age would have changed, but it hasn't really. It's a fucking minefield out there and I don't even bother anymore. I'm not saying I'm perfect or don't have serious flaws either. It's like you said, nobody wants to work anything out. Disposable society. Pretty fucking sad.

[@AndrewTheFrank]

Guys might spout off that they want someone perfect but most men are so starved for female attention they'll date someone fat, ugly and obnoxious simply for throwing a smile his way.

[@joshward8087]

@@AndrewTheFrank Truth.

[@DynastyTrickDogs]

@@inconnu4961 I'm not sure where this answer from anger came from. I mentioned that perfection shouldn't be the expectation for both parties because it shouldn't. Forgiveness and communication is the ultimate relationship glue.

[@patrickdavenport6254]

why is there so much of an obsession over women winding up alone? Literally there are five men on my street who are over 50, have never been married, and they all live alone. Men "die alone" too, but nobody is pressuring them about how they should change to avoid it.

[@itsdonenow]

You're saying this on a channel that's geared towards how to help both genders get into a relationship but usually mostly guys?

[@keithscommunityanddomestic9513]

Probably because those men want to be alone, but the women don't. That's why the women hate men so much, because they know they can't have them.

[@infinitymfg5397]

Most men already accept this possibility, women usually come to this realization much later and act more desperately.

[@inconnu4961]

men are expendable! we are a means to an end, not the end itself!

[@tylermiller3120]

Because being alone comes with g territory for guys lol mostgirls can go sit literally anywhere and find a partner and no say a word to do so.

[@notnickDPT]

Ya I was friend zoned COUNTLESS times in high school. Little more in college, but I soon learned that I was getting friend zoned and that it was affecting my mental health. Now, when I get friend zoned by a girl I'm interested in, I just take myself out of the friendship (nonverbally, not trying to be rude to her) to save a heartbreak I potentially created for myself. EDIT: I cannot make this up, within a week of posting this, I got friendzoned again. This girl was so excited to hang out, always said good morning and good night, then drops the friendzone on me.

[@0fficialselena__90]

Personally for me being “friend zoned” doesn’t exist! It just means that he or she never wanted to be genuine friends in the first place, you just wanted something romantically in a relationship or something sexually the whole time but once you don’t get it, you switch up and don’t want to associate with them anymore.

[@nuttmare9438]

I admire your approach Nick. That's taking responsibility for your wellbeing and making sure you're in a better place to attract what you want for yourself and I hope you find it. Much respect 👌🤞

[@0fficialselena__90]

@Town Crazy what’s the point in doing that like that’s not a flex at all lmaoo and there are men that do want single moms since there are woman out there that don’t want to have children but with what you’re doing will cause problems and are the reason why many woman don’t trust men

[@notnickDPT]

@Town Crazy ya, that's toxic as heck man haha. I'd never lead someone on for false intentions

[@notnickDPT]

@@nuttmare9438 thanks man! I appreciate your respect. It definitely took me a while to understand what was happening, and when it was. Once I did tho, it helped me very much to save myself from thinking something will come out of this and develop feelings that were never there.

[@graemefindlater5234]

The way someone treats you is only how they feel about themselves. The hate that people spew is simply their own insecurities. It's always about them. Until they grow up... there will always be people like this.

[@realityitis4]

right, we all have some insecurities or skeletons, it's when we project those in a negative light, that we repulse others and ruin oppurtunities

[@TheUnik1992]

The world is turned upside down, which makes me sad. Today's society only focuses on status/look whether men or women, when there is much more important. We need to be more authentic, more genuine. That's why Courtney's videos are special, it's the right way we all should be, direct, kind and knowing that life is the moment.

[@mrcrabowski]

As a man, I kinda disagree... unless you have mindset like: "reproduction #1 importance with no exceptions", look is always important. Is absolutely true, that look/status/wealth shouldn't be the ONLY requirement... but I also think that e.g. look is very important. The only difference is that we, men, don't try to cover up compared to women. I couldn't date/be in a relationship with a girl I'm not physically and sexually attracted to. Because that's basically the only difeerence between best friend and girlfriend. If there's a wholesome but not attractive girl/woman, I definitely won't date her (cause there no attraction) but she can easily be my valuable friend. If there's hot girl with literally two braincells... she's probably the best choice for a one-night stand but she's not a "gf material". You have to find balance between those two... and of course, look (physical attracrion) with be logically always the first sieve. The problem I see these days is that there are huge differences between women and men and their expectations... there's like e.g. 70 % women who have unrealistic expectations and/or expect to get a top-tier guy (and then they're like "Yeah, women always have to settle for less...") and then 30 % women who want at least someone decent. On the other hand there's e.g. 30 % men who have unrealistic expectations and/or expect a top-tier women, 60 % men who want someone decent and wholesome and 10 % men who gave up completely. Like if you're top-tier man, you can and you should aim for top-tier woman... but way too many women are barely average and expect someone who's so out of her league it's almost not funny.

[@inconnu4961]

This is a new phenomenon? Wow, this is news to me! maybe i aint watching enough Disney classics!

[@larrylacy5453]

My wife and I have been married for 29 years. We were friends for a year before we started dating. This foundation of friendship has been very beneficial for our marriage. We knew each other on a real level before we complicated it with feelings of desire.

[@thrasherdave1428]

Good for you guys man. Yeah it is ideal to marry a good friend. Unfortunately nowadays people tend to promote this bullshit "fuck first, get to know each other later" mentality which honestly sickens me

[@pariketthakkar2687]

That's the dream man, glad for you

[@pariketthakkar2687]

@The Count that's awesome. How I'd want that to happen for me man, that'd be amazing.

[@andreashansson1238]

That's what I've been saying all time. Today's men and women do not have time to get to know each other first. They involve emotions and build their relationships based on emotions which is completely wrong. People continue to make the same mistakes over and over again.

[@Rich-yj4ub]

That may have worked 30 years ago but not in 2022.

[@seanwolslau-holdren6731]

As a guy, I am scared to fall in love because I don't know if the girl I like would like me back. Besides, today's generation is influenced too much by social media and the world is so corrupt right now that it seems all hope is lost.

[@herosama19]

use this simple tactic if you see or sense any kind of sign that she is doing something bad cheating using ect then leave with no second tough

[@AS-rr9km]

A good tactic is to clean sweep all social sites. Then when you begin dating, make sure you communicate boundaries for websites, “corn”, flirting, going out in general, times it’s appropriate to respond to a text (ex: my boyfriend knows I won’t respond to any male that texts me after 11pm unless specified circumstances I communicated beforehand). Things like that. People do not know how to communicate anymore..and that is the root of what is killing functional relationships. Don’t be afraid. That fear will make it less likely to find, or less likely to be healthy. The point of putting yourself out there and experiencing rejection, heartbreak, and bad experiences is so that you can learn to WORK with a partner later on THROUGH problems. An example of this is people that were married during the rise of internet “corn”. Many thousands of couples got divorced around that time frame. It is a fact they found immense correlation between these 2 factors. Say, a woman took the husband back because it became normalized. They communicated during their new, healthy relationship before they finalized the divorce. Now when they get DM’s from influencers to check out their nudes: these people know it is a risk for divorce. That is a set boundary. If they disobey it, divorce. If they follow the boundary, there is nothing wrong with them having social sites and living their life. Majority of people think communicating this way is controlling. When you are doing something in agreement with a partner, negotiating your boundaries with one another….it is the very opposite of control for both parties. When you don’t agree on the boundaries you want, the relationship should either end or it becomes toxic. Toxic relationships have become acceptable for some people. That ain’t cute.

[@jeffwisener1378]

You want find a woman because your acting like a wimp. Be a man, confident. Scared of a relationship 😆

[@justinaccount9920]

@@jeffwisener1378 bro just shut the fuck up he is right girls nowadays are crazy in their mind. Its hard to find a genuinly nice girl nowadays that cares about her personality

[@herosama19]

@@elypowell6797 i don't drink so illiterate i guess

[@CivilChev]

The "Childhood Friend" cliché is a cliché for a reason. It's true. One of my closest female friends (other than my wife) is someone who I grew up with and I had a pretty big crush on her ever since puberty. Since we knew each other pre puberty the chances of us going out was absolutely minimal. Today we are still amazing friends that love spending time together. What finally got me to get over her was when she got into a relationship. Seeing how happy her partner made her allowed me to be happy for her and so I was able to get over my crush which allowed me to, eventually, meet, date, and marry my wife. So any of the guys chasing after your childhood crush, you're better off helping them find happiness so you can find closure.

[@sonicash8218]

A beautiful woman that ISN’T single giving advice.. thank you 🙏

[@matthewjordan7297]

It makes me happy that the friend-zone issue came up in this video! This has happened to me quite a bit over the years. I feel like a lot of men that are not in that top 10 percentile are prone to this happening. If women are chasing top 10 percentile men in hopes of marriage, that's probably not going to work out because those men do not want marriage. If you date a player, you get played. Meanwhile, they are friend-zoning legitimately good men, who are actually looking for long term commitment. It's a vicious cycle, one that is not benefiting either gender IMO, I wish we could get out of it.

[@UnexpectedWonder]

As one who's been Friendzoned quite a few times over the years, I can very much and intimately relate to that, sir.

[@anyo_mations]

@Haita el Pastor No, these are average women going after Chad. We need to get women to start thinking more realistically. Have average women pair off with average men

[@Lightflames85]

If your being friendzoned its because you have not made a move on her. Dont befriend girls your intrested in. be the lover first.

[@tjaspire]

We can't help that the friend zoned guy gets friend zoned. He does that to himself. Usually it's because he approached us under the guise of friendship and gets stuck in that role. I told a guy to his face that I was not attracted to him and he was like, "that's okay, it will come eventually." He was still trying after I'd basically insulted him. Any self-respecting person would have taken that as a hint and been on their merry way.

[@richardwilson6976]

Men are just going to places like Thailand and The philippines to meet atraditional woman.Go for it men.Go where your wanted.Dont stay where you not

[@womenwhodate7643]

"Beauty is in the eye of the holder"- that's something we forget many times. I have seen couples that don't seem "balanced" in many peoples eyes, when it comes to looks, but they are still super happy together. Great content, love it!

[@needmorecowbell6895]

Tinder statistics tell a different story.

[@dinos9607]

Usually the "unbalanced" couples are tilting to the man's side, i.e. the man is quite better looking and could get a better girl. If the opposite occurs, then the man may not be good looking but has something else, usually money, some good social standing etc. But yes, it is true that while not a frequent occurrence, such couples exist. What is noteworthy is how they are perceived societally when in reality their entourage will often try actively to split them up. E.g. if the uglier/shorter/poorer man of the company gets a nice girl, then someone among the entourage will try to undermine his relationship and even if he doesn't get himself the girl. At the same time the female friends of the woman will be presenting to her new men every week to say there are better options. Sounds funny but it happens. There has to be some biological underpinning in that, it is not just people being mean to each other.

[@needmorecowbell6895]

@@dinos9607 It's competition. Women smear each other's reputation and pressure their friends to do better because it's establishing a pecking order and increasing the population of possible mates.

[@dinos9607]

@@needmorecowbell6895 Women smear each other's reputations, yes that is a thing among women. But how splitting the couple increases the population of possible mates? I mean in our specific example above we noted that they push the woman to leave the man not out of jealousy (which is also a frequent occurrence) because he is "not good enough for her". That means they are not interested in him but rather they are dissatisfied their friend is with a man who is "not good enough".

[@needmorecowbell6895]

@@dinos9607 She's validating her own self esteem and high criteria for men in comparison. I'm okay if everyone else has high standards. I'm not okay if they have a relationship they're happy with if I find the male half unworthy because my problem in finding a partner may be my own high standards. But the underlying problem is it's a game of musical chairs. Each time a chair is removed you have less options and your cognitive dissonance worsens (high standards). The way to relieve that psychological stress is to keep men in circulation. You believe there are more free men in circulation if there are more free men in circulation around you even though the sample size is pretty small. It's why fights over partners in school can be so bitter. You can't see what's available in the next school.

[@jacobmatthews]

The friendzone is one of the worst feelings ever. Especially if you felt that spark once cause it can disappear quickly. Been there with this woman I knew for a long time but we didn't hangout until like 4 years ago. From the jump I felt a connection with her unlike anyone I've ever dated and we weren't even dating. I thought she was the one. I let her know how I feel and unfortunately she didn't feel the same. But now I'm just trying to let her be happy and I'm trying to move on and find a someone new but it's hard man....

[@marktwaine9344]

move on with other projects that interest you, not just women...

[@JOHNNYCHICAGO8]

True shit fucking sucks

[@realityitis4]

if you cant shake the feeling, walk away because eventually you wil try to make a move and ruin the friendship or worse, you provide emotional support and attention and she just keeps giving you enough to make you hope you'll be the guy, you're not and it's ok, better to move on then waste time on someoen who doesnt want you that way.

[@itsabraham1824]

“There’s more to life than what you look like on the outside and if you don’t have anything in here(*A good heart*) or here(*Brains*) what do you have? Beauty doesn’t last forever but if you have an ugly personality that does” “Be kind to each other, lift each other up” You made so many great points in this video. Thanks for all the great content & advice Courtney. Your videos have helped me so much not to mention the hundreds of thousands of other people as well. Really making a difference out here. Thank you!

[@siddheshmirjankar910]

Yes, beauty doesn't last forever. That doesn't mean it's not important on either side. What people DON'T want to acknowledge is that YES, you need to have an amazing personality, BUT in order to show off that personality you need to be on a date with a woman. In order to even have her say yes to go on a date with you, you NEED to meet the minimum requirement for the looks category. Saying that looks don't matter because they fade away in future is basically assuming that women say yes to EVERY guy that asks them out on a date and give them a second date only after they realize that he has a good personality. I think we can both agree on the fact that no one says yes to everyone. So in order to get a yes for the first date, you NEED to meet her minimum requirement for looks. The only time looks doesn't matter is when she friendzones you. If at that time you have a charismatic personality, you'll have plenty of opportunity to show that and make her fall for you. However, Courtney herself admitted that getting out of the friendzone is highly improbable. Hence, let's not pretend that looks don't or shouldn't matter cause advice like that honestly can screw up someone's dating life. Looks DO matter and one must try to improve it the best they can (eg. work out, dress nice, etc.).

[@remrens9624]

If you have a good personality but you are ugly, you can't compete with people with a good personality and good looks. In the end, good personality matters very little in the animal kingdom, and yes humans are animals and driven by hormones.

[@jamesmata2945]

Beauty last forever if you keep it together. 😂

[@jamesmata2945]

@@remrens9624 facts!

[@johnbockmann]

Courtney showed up on my feed and I gave her a chance. I'm surprised so far--she seems real, like she was raised right, like she stands for something that lasts. Thanks for bringing value to the world, Courtney.

[@kiwidiesel]

I have been a follower of Courtney for few years now and also checked her views out on a whim, It is refreshing to see real woman do still exist, but like Courtney most will be just unicorns amongst a stampede of selfie taking bush pigs.

[@SwedeSpeeder]

@PessiOpt 9 Well that's really the difference isn't it? Courtney is a woman and the other's are girls. Guys, find yourself an adult. Take it from a dude that's been married to the same adult for thirty years......or suffer. You choose. 😁

[@Dean-sd9xq]

This is my fav comment thread, lol! Become a high quality man and you’ll attract a high quality woman!

[@DianaGarcia-lb9dl]

I love your content. This is why I'm teaching my daughter's to be self aware and I hold them accountable. I also teach them to be nice, have boundaries and always say please and thank you.

[@deadcell4837]

Accountability is something modern girls definitely lack.

[@CourtneyRyan]

You’re a gem, Diana. Your daughters are lucky girls 😊

[@DianaGarcia-lb9dl]

@@CourtneyRyan thank you so much for this and the other comment. Have a great day!

[@nuttmare9438]

Just how my mum brought me up to be! High five Diana, you're rocking it!!

[@uncledrew7633]

This is a breathe of fresh air. What your doing is priceless never stop instilling those values

[@jay.a.9683]

i have lost count how many times ive been in the friend zone. its worse when that friend complains to you about their current bf and says they wish they were someone like you. like dude WTF????

[@BIGARMADA1988]

I think when it comes to people being mean, I think it has to do with people confusing meanness/arrogance with confidence. The lady was also spot on about watching too much "Bad Girls Club." I would add to that a lot of reality shows over the past decade or two along with social media has really given people a warped sense of how people should treat one another.

[@bryonkielian225]

You are seriously the one true hope for the modern dating culture! I really think you have a powerful voice and will go so far not only among men, but women too! As someone who’s been stung by falling for someone who was tiktok level toxic, your content has truly helped me gain the self esteem and self worth to go out there and know what I want, even if it does look bleak out there!

[@morleystriker2985]

Modern women: "Where are all the good men?" In the friend zone where you left them.

[@testosteronemastery]

Women like bad boys because they crave a man with a masculine edge. But you shouldn’t strive to be a “bad boy,” you should strive to be a man who isn’t going to take any bullshit.

[@morleystriker2985]

@@testosteronemastery Precisely the polarity between masculine and feminine energy has to be there. I make it a point to establish boundaries in all my relationships with people. I had a woman reject me because I wasn't "agreeable" enough...lol I literally told her that there were lots of simps out there to date.

[@rimshot2270]

Either that or with the good women.

[@rw6597]

Being in the friendzone may not be a bad thing if the guy can actually be friends with the girl and can accept that he will not have a romantic relationship with her. The girl will have friends, female relatives, etc. who you can meet through her, and if they know that the girl is your friend and if she views you favorably, she can be an invaluable resource for meeting other women.

[@rimshot2270]

@@rw6597 Dream on. Most of the time a woman "friend" regards a male "friend" as a tool to be used when necessary. She will get you to take her to dull family events because she doesn't want her relatives to know the guys she really likes to paint the town with. Everything will be on her terms.

[@FooDaki]

very refreshing watching your healthy views on these toxic tiktok/instagram new era videos , gives me hope there are many of you out there that really care for loving and caring relationships and interactions .... im 29 , fortunate to be attractive to most women but found my big share of toxic power games and attitudes , wish me luck on finding a quality relationship (: thanks for your videos

[@sakyathalagahawatta5969]

"The best revenge is moving on" never heard anything better than this . I see these novels where girls and boys waste a whole lot time taking revenge on their toxic partner when they could hv moved on and had a better life that'll make their partner feel sorry about themselves.

[@Bignuttz10]

I suggest actually getting over here their previous partner tho not just pretending to be happy and still looking over their shoulder

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

It cripples them

[@usuhbi]

Courtney is such a gem. Protect her at all costs

[@jeckles]

She's so positive and well meaning, I feel a lot better from this channel

[@ytsur549]

Dang, you're good Courtney. This world needs more people like you. You have made a difference in my life.

[@SRP3572]

Even though I am married and have been with my wife for almost 12 years now, your videos help keep me grounded and give me those needed reminders I need to make sure I stay married and keep my lady interested. Also, I enjoy listening to you while I'm working. My bunny(in my channel picture) gets put to sleep by your calm voice. So thank you for that because it keeps him out of my hair when I'm working around the house 😉

[@CourtneyRyan]

This is the best comment.. love it! So glad you’re here & I help put the bunny to sleep 🙌🏼😂

[@SRP3572]

@@CourtneyRyan thank you for that comment. Keep up the good work. And best of wishes to you and your fiance 😊 on your wedding day, just a quick piece of advice, and I feel I can give this cuz it happened on our wedding day and we laugh about it even today: if something goes wrong or not the way you thought it would on that day, don't let it dampen or ruin it. Just roll with it and laugh about it and do what you can to adapt. Our wedding photographer cancelled the day of, I messed up my part of the vows, and the minister forgot to say "you may now kiss the bride". We still laugh about it, almost 10 years later 😂. Just wanted to give you some helpful advice in return for you giving me some 😊

[@armellebiampamba4257]

By far the cutest comment 😭

[@karna8658]

Don't u think u both need to do things , for keeping the marriage interesting. If the burden is only on 1 partner it can get exausting.

[@realityitis4]

congrats on the marriage and as I've always seen from the men and women who are successful at marriage, they always say, I never stop working at it, I can always learn something new and I always tell the wife or husband, I am so happy I am with you, simple words of gratitude will make the harder times way easier.

[@NTUNKNOWN]

She is so right. When I was attracted to badboys I was really messed up in my head. Now going through lots of therapy sessions I love it when a guy treats me properly and respects me. I've come so far that I've even rejected my ex (he was toxic).

[@jagosevatarion8822]

you'll always be attracted to bad boys even though you might get tired of getting hurt

[@nesbygalvan2088]

You just want to settle down with someone that can promise you security and good traits that can raise a child now that you’re aging and running out of looks.

[@NTUNKNOWN]

@@nesbygalvan2088 actually no. Im a masters graduate. Got my own job and house so I can take care of myself. But it would be nice to share all this with a decent man. If he doesn't want to provide I don't mind, because I can do that myself. I only want his companionship along the way. Because we humans aren't supposed to be alone and a man and woman aren't supposed to be enemies no matter what shit society is coming up with between them. Thanks for your intake anyway :)

[@ptmaica3378]

I bet u are still friend zoning men dat like u

[@NTUNKNOWN]

@@ptmaica3378 I am friend zoning a guy currently. The reason is that he got a girlfriend. So a pretty legit reason right :)

[@tippytoe1250]

I agree about the sense of humor part. That’s one of the things I love about my husband. Whenever he makes me laugh it reminds me of why I feel in love with him.

[@ABSVabeautifulsunsetvlog]

Dude I’m binging these videos and Courtney is a freaking national treasure man. ❤❤❤❤❤

[@jmainor9819]

So true! The honest friend we all need!

[@rburbr0171]

Courtney has the best relationship advice content on KZbin! She's like the big sis I've always needed!

[@StephFourie21]

The best ? You kidding ? 🤣

[@scottlow6342]

i wouldn't say the best but it is pretty good

[@visaman]

I guess so, if you are a teenager. To me she is the daughter who is too busy to spend time with her Old Man. Just kidding Courtney!

[@Dadflinn92]

Being friend zoned is actually very shattering. As a guy who likes a woman who sees me “like a brother” it’s a very irritating and persistent problem. I’ve had my friend ask me, “why do all the guys I talk to always seem like F-Boys” Well maybe that’s because you always go for the 6ft5 gym instructors, or only give your number to guys at bars…..

[@Dadflinn92]

@@edaaydemir1719 oh, well that fixes everything.

[@achilles88]

I know this is super late... but if she sees you that way it's best for you to just stop talking to her. It's not good for you, and it's not good for her because you're not really her friend if you're looking to date her.

[@Chickenpesto2468]

@@edaaydemir1719 that is true don’t skimp but at the same time his friend probably does have unrealistic expectations as well ahahha

[@JOHNNYCHICAGO8]

Swear to God I hate it when women say they want a good guy then . Run off with a bad guy then blame everyone for they bad choices they always say I love you like a brother or friend

[@JOHNNYCHICAGO8]

@@edaaydemir1719 so because no one is good women like being with guy's that disrespect them

[@yllenhoj]

Been watching Courtney’s videos for awhile ( I’m a “watch guy” that stumbled onto her channel ) …she’s spot on about the toxic meanness that is rampant; particularly on SocMed. Values are seemingly upside down , and listening to Courtney offering up solid relationship/ self improvement advice is both refreshing and warranted. Way to go !!

[@inconnu4961]

She has good material, but there is way better out there! Her's is middle of the road. its great for newbies!

[@AirborneSapper82]

Courtney Ryan, I have become a fan of your channel. Although I’m already happily married, I listen to your videos and find my self agreeing to most of the lessons you preach. I wish this type of content was around when I was dating. I wasted a lot of time and money chasing the wrong Women. I learned all my lessons the hard way. Anyway, you are very beautiful and sound very kind and caring. Your boyfriend is sure to be a very happy man. Keep up the good work.

[@nothingpersonal1000]

I think there are two sides to the friendzone conversation: One is definitely on the girl to check herself and understand why she is not attracted to good men that she has friendzoned. HOWEVER let's not forget that a big reason good men get friendzoned is because they don't make their intentions clear, or if they do and she friendzones them, they don't have the self-respect to distance themselves from the girl after they get rejected. You can't stick around after forever hoping she changes her mind. She won't respect you and you won't respect yourself. Treat yourself with respect and walk away

[@MortuusMachina]

Nahh...the difference between friendzone and boyfriend is how good looking/hot/handsome the guy in question is

[@ZWarrior89]

For reasons like this, THIS is why Guys and Girls can't stay friends! The only way for them to stay friends is when neither the guy or girl have any romantic feelings for each other. If romantic feelings aren't mutual, it's just best to let each other go...

[@wolfsfroth]

💯

[@annahouse618]

Aww I love how sweet and intelligent you are. I agree with a lot of the advice you gave and it feels nice to finally find another person that thinks the way I do.

[@johnrogers1663]

Thanks Courtney, I’m a 67 year old “pushover” no more man that’s finally ending a 23 year marriage with the most toxic woman I have ever known. Even our 17 year old son doesn’t want to live with her. I’m having trouble with that because the women that influenced me in my youth didn’t behave in a way that made myself or anyone else dislike them. Just the opposite and no one could convince me otherwise. That’s probably why I supported the women’s rights movement and have always tried to empower women, even my X. I’m not sure how I fell into the trap but the woman I wound up with is most certainly not the same woman I married. I’m certainly not perfect but give me a break. The day I said “I do” was the end that I put up with way too long and the financial loss is devastating. She refused to work, became mean, demanding respect from us but didn’t believe she had to reciprocate. I don’t think the words reciprocate or accountability are in her dictionary. Anyway, again thanks. You’re a rare and very wise young woman so don’t let anyone’s negative “crap” affect you in any way shape or form. Emotional abuse is unacceptable but people with narcissistic behaviors don’t care how you feel and “get off” on your reaction. If you even comment about someone’s negative comment, you’re giving them what they need to survive, they’re “getting off” so don’t grant them the pleasure. They don’t know what true pleasure is. Please keep doing what you’re doing and keep making a positive impact on both women and men with Biblical principles.

[@kiwidiesel]

I too know this road you traveled and normally wouldn't pay a cent for the experience, but ironically we do end up paying in not only money but the loosing of a small part of yourself that was gleefully tortured and ripped from your being. The pain never really goes away but the mind, protecting it's sanity, begins to cover the memories with scar tissue lessening the pain but also etching it into your being. Everything I viewed personally, believed in and idolised changed drastically after that experience. Keep it real my friend and know you have a supporter.

[@heroofmalta9158]

Good on you bro, hope it works out

[@danielwalton8421]

Courtney keep it up, it is refreshing to hear your old school values.

[@johngonzalez4298]

To me, it seems as TikTok attracts the younger crowds more but can attract anyone of any age where they think they know it all but haven't learned about life

[@CourtneyRyan]

Definitely!

[@marcusbrown188]

TikTok has so many toxic ppl.

[@TyeDye622]

To be completely honest and not from a negative standpoint. I'm done trying to find love because the end result is always the same and I'm finally realizing that it's not for me. I hope everyone else is successful in their journey to find peace love and happiness. Good luck out there beautiful people. You got this.

[@Thegbiggamerz]

When you give up its when it finds you. You never know my guy. Maybe don't chase it but don't give up/shut down... I'm in the same struggle dude.

[@danjenkins21]

Can't really blame you. I have the same mindset.

[@wayneisname4544]

I'm in the same boat as you. Good luck everyone

[@gabrialblast2007]

This is an utter EXCUSE bro. Please stop

[@bxgeo5180]

I feel you bro.

[@janoycresva276]

Oh please, women have it 100x easier finding a man than the reverse. It’s MEN who are more likely to be alone than women.

[@timothygibney159]

A girl at a bar last who was middle aged was telling me I can get 3 dudes in one night if I wanted if I left my husband and she was serious. I was thinking wtf how can that be normal.

[@madams989]

assuming heterosexual relationships, if one declines then the other does also. I think others will just be fewer relationships generally in future generations, however women are probably more likely to be miserable alone than men are

[@madams989]

*there will be

[@janoycresva276]

@@madams989 The future is the past, this has all happened before. Just before Rome collapsed, they had a massive population decline & decrease of fertility just like America & Europe are having now. In Ancient Roman society, the men began acting like women and the reverse just like now where men are being emasculated "toxic masculinity" & women are becoming more masculine, as indicated by how male handshake pressure has gone down while female has increased. Then in the Byzantine Empire before it collapsed, Constantinople lost all of its morale & also experienced a massive decrease in population. This is happening in America & Europe now too where we're losing our population & soon what'll happen is the American Empire which is what it is except instead of having enormous influence because of the amount of land conquered or military power, though it has abroad with Iraq, Afghanistan, Kosovo, etc, but also has a massive amount of military strength which it's losing because they're more concerned about recruiting gender nonbinary soldiers whereas China is making their men more masculine, it's still got enormous influence & will for a while longer before eventually, America as we know it now will no longer exist, it'll instead collapse & what used to be the US will be repartitioned into separate sovereign nations based off of race. Then there'll be a period of famine, then success in a renaissance, peak, then a deterioration & finally a collapse, repartitioning & the cycle will repeat forever and ever.

[@machupikachu1085]

@@janoycresva276 as a history teacher, I can concur. Also, in may instances, the oppressed become the oppressors, and the cycle repeats itself.

[@AS-rr9km]

I saw this narcissism issue coming many years ago. People posting their “fitness progress” for the world to see is NEVER for themselves. It is narcissistic behavior, whether you mask it with a health priority or not. Posting the food you got because it “looks pretty”…..no you wanted everyone to know where you went today. All of it is….troubling. I hate social media. This is my only platform I communicate with strangers. I read Reddit but that’s it. I deleted all social media during the 2016 election and I haven’t been happier.

[@datsko6339]

I get your point, but this isn't always the case. Many people genuinely want to be healthier but have trouble with the discipline aspect of changing their lifestyle. Many people post online so they have other people to hold them accountable, because they can't rely on themselves to stay motivated. As far as the other aspects of social media goes, I totally agree. Nobody cares what you had for breakfast this morning or what outfit you are wearing. I rarely post on social media for this reason.

[@raevanberg8442]

@@datsko6339 agreed :)

[@Amy.Scorpio]

Same; I've never seen tiktok (and Im under 40) I find it all so chaotic and just too open

[@TroubleMitten]

I'm really happy that there are women like you! Honestly, I don't see myself with a girlfriend/wife because nowadays the world is full of toxic women. Thank you for being kind-hearted and positive.

[@michaelsix9684]

too many women were raised badly, from single parent families

[@Horkruksable]

You believe her? 😅

[@omnipotentone5628]

I laughed out loud when she said "I was in the friend zone ONCE." Once, lol, if only...

[@testosteronemastery]

The friend zone is a mystical dimension for females lol

[@Brendan656]

And she wasn't intentionally forced into it either

[@faraoneaton3023]

She said: EVEN I WAS IN THE FRIEND ZONE!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣. She almost said: can you believe that???

[@uoabigaillevey]

And it really wasn't a true friend zone if they were both in relationships with other people at the time. It would be truly a friend zone if they were both available at the time and she had interest in him but he did not want to date her but rather have her as a friend even though he was also single and looking for someone else. So there is that....

[@Jerome616]

I Friend zoned lots of women in my life by accident. As a married man I still do lol.

[@onsidelegal1002]

nicotine gum guy is actually onto something. he is subtly drugging his victims and doing a form of NLP where the drug exposure/addiction is overlapped with emotional/physical intimacy, causing to two to blend into each other as a force multiplier. im sure it works, for those willing to stoop that low. its sociopathic/psychopathic manipulation. and you can tell just by his vibe, something is seriously off with him. these people exist, and they arent that rare unfortunately.

[@claireandslash]

I think (hope) he's joking.

[@DfiftyMusic]

I’m seeing more and more females like you talk about these issues, I think it’s great 🎉 I’ve been in the friend zone, I played the long game but when it actually happened it only lasted a fraction of the time I thought it would so I’ve always acted impartial since, and ironically it got me more attention 🤷‍♂️

[@realityitis4]

it gives me hope there are good women out there :)

[@DfiftyMusic]

@@realityitis4 for real, I love it, it makes me ecstatic sometimes, I found myself the right one and I hope you do too; but only if you want that 👌🏼

[@dustinjohnson7728]

I can sum this "being mean" thing up perfectly with a little story. I got into trouble in school after hooking up with a girl and had to take some time off. In the interim I hung out with a few guys I played football with in high school and they seemed shocked because I was "such a good guy in high school" to which I responded "and what did that get me?" The truth is that people don't take the nice guy seriously until they need someone to pay the bills.

[@MyNameisRevenant]

is all about convenience,

[@Sommers234]

Interesting story but I don't know how that answers the being mean thing

[@gymather3097]

Don’t date women that don’t work then

[@simply-living8523]

Honestly, as a 21 yo woman, I feel like I hold a masculine power because it's usually the men who take care of things but I'm the kind of girl who likes to pay everything on my own even if I'm struggling please don't help me out it. Might have been the way I was brought up because I didn't have much growing up so now I make sure I'm always provided with something but I think men don't find that attractive in me. In your case, yup it does look like that girl took advantage of you and I think that's kind of your fault maybe because you where rushing into things too quickly and she saw every chance to use you and that's what she did. A true woman will appreciate your compassion and kindness and like I said before even I'm the type of person who hates receiving things cause I do everything on my own, but if a man ever did something for me out of kindness I'd appreciate every little bit and peice of it. There's good woman out there I promise that girl you're with just didn't appreciate anything you gave her don't let that change the nice guy in you cause I promise someone out there is going to be thanking God they have found a man like you. That girls lost she just took advantage and didn't have the right morals and values for herself to like the nice in you.

[@dustinjohnson7728]

@@simply-living8523 Sorry to disappoint but that nice guy is long gone. I had one gf in high school because no one took me seriously and when I went to college my first gf cheated on me several times because she didn't take me seriously. By the time the aforementioned conversation had taken place I had made a complete 180. I went out of my way for those that supported me 100% and nobody else. I don't go out of my way to be a prick to people and I'm usually a pretty pleasant guy to be around but I take zero shit from anybody because I know I deserve respect and I expect others to treat me with the same respect I give them. A wise person once told me "People will only get away with what you allow them to" and I simply don't allow it anymore. I have met a good woman and we've been married for almost 10 years with 3 beautiful and amazing kids. I respect her and she respects me and when she doesn't I let her know about it quickly and we resolve it. In summary, no one should be treated like a door mat and if you are being treated that way it's because you allow it to happen.

[@marklancaster1671]

Courtney, loved your content. Speaking of revenge "The best revenge is not to be like your enemy." Marcus Aurelius

[@mamc1986]

Wow, that's pretty good advice from someone who from Rome.

[@lmbk1]

"Living well is the best revenge" - R.E.M.

[@inconnu4961]

"The best revenge is to not even care" The hobo outside the Dunkin Donuts begging for change

[@Matthew0171]

All the good men ARE in the friendzone and at this point, it's probably a good thing given the era we're in where anything bad that happens/can happen can easily be blamed on men

[@Jerrysantos1980]

*******You said it, but then skipped over a very important point. 2:40 mins in you said that you agreed that guys in the friend zone would be great partners, but "you had known them too long" and "I knew too much about them." What do women think happens in a long term relationship??? Do you not expect to know a lot about your partner or know them for a long time. Those answers make it seem like you are glossing over the real problem women have with why put guys in the friend zone. If you want to help your guy followers you need to figure out and explain those things because that is where they get stuck

[@markmagician2471]

Im always in the friendzone wish I knew what was wrong with me

[@Matthew0171]

@@markmagician2471 cut off any woman who you want a more than a friend that sees you only as a friend. Why should you give them what they want when they won't give you what you want?

[@TonganJedi]

"Where are all the good men??" You ignored them.

[@machupikachu1085]

@@Jerrysantos1980 sadly most women want mystery. Not knowing keeps them interested. Backwards, I know.

[@TomFynn]

Saying "there are good women out there" is like saying "there is a path through the minefield, all you have to do is find it."

[@6feetoveryou]

Bingo

[@davidveillon7726]

I'm in my 50s and have spent a lot of the last 40 years being told how I'm a great guy but I'm not the right type. I'm shorter and heavier than average and have an OK face. I have always had a good job and made good money and treated everyone with respect. Want to know where this good guy has gone? He left the dating market years ago because I got tired of being rejected.

[@phaedralynn1808]

Hello David, How are you doing? I'd like to be a friend if you do not mind.

[@inorite4553]

I have a question for you, "do you have friends that look to you when times are tough and they need some life advice? Do you have people at work that look to you when problems come up and everyone else is too afraid to do anything about them?" If the answer is no, then I recommend that you work on your leadership skills. Because a leader of men is an attractive trait for any woman. If you can lead men, you can attract women.

[@davidveillon7726]

@@inorite4553 The answer is yes. But, I rarely give advice anymore and never expect it to be followed. A wide man doesn't need it and a foolish man will not heed it.

[@PRdude]

Meanness really doesn't pay, and it's aggravating when positivity is met with meanness.

[@taasch2505]

hurt people hurting more people. But we can be the change that bring hearts together again. T.T

[@Jarthewolf]

Well said and very true

[@LEVIAHAN]

GUYS... Courtney just admitted something that you should take on seriously . Never let a girl get to know you too well. She will eventually see you as a brother/friend. *Always* be a mystery.

[@RemyBeast]

I mean never let this happen if you're interested...

[@QarthCEO]

My wife knows everything about me, knows me better than I know myself, and unless her last name is secretly Lannister, she definitely does not see me as a brother.

[@mamc1986]

There's also the issues of attraction too, that nobody wants to talk about.

[@hagberry6477]

Depends on the girl. I know waaaay too many stuff about my bf, as in all the bad and the ugly and the embarrassing, but that just made me want him more. There's something attractive with honesty.

[@DianaGarcia-lb9dl]

I agree, though to make sure you are not put in the friendzone, make your intention clear right off the bat if she says no, walk away dont stay in Hope's she will change her mind. The reason why those guys stayed in the friendzone for Courtney, they were never clear with how they felt until too late.

[@kanadian9418]

when I try to find the right person, I always look for the person who has a reading habit and is able to take their own quiet time. chaos, drama, and conflict is always red flag which is so common in this modern society.

[@treydamonlee]

I'm so glad there's a woman trying to help men. Thanks for filling this niche! Don't let the downer Dans discourage you.

[@inconnu4961]

"Your Wingmam" (Anna Jourgenson) is excellent! She is the best i've watched so far!

[@keithscommunityanddomestic9513]

"All the good guys are in the friend zone" so, so true. And the sad thing is that when the good guys spend so much time in the friend zone, when the ladies are finally ready to settle down, the good guys have lost interest. The good guys may be good but we are all ruled by our biology. When men get older, we get used to being single and we learn to enjoy being single. We don't want to get into a relationship anymore after being in the friend zone for so long. It's not worth all the drama and trouble that we witness when we are in our younger years. And unfortunately it seems that even when people get older, a lot of people still take their bad habits with them. Stop wasting your time and get therapy.

[@alexcarter2461]

I had my first and last relationship at 20 which lasted 8 months, several years later I dont even want to get involved in a relationship. I've had steady hook ups since and its tailored perfect for me.

[@Pooh0Bear8]

That is the most depressing thing I read today. Also, stop pitying yourself and accept the challenge that relationships take.

[@inorite4553]

Not all of the good ones are but yeah....you'd be surprised how many are. However, the Friendzoned MFers aren't innocent here. They're in the Friend zone because they did the wrong things when they first met their crush or they made the mistake of not noticing that they liked someone until she now only sees you as a friend.

[@maansrovermann2246]

Courtney Ryan! Thank you for your videos. The intellectual insight you bring to the table is unmatched. Your content is authentic and contains informative substance. Appreciate your work here helping men and women.

[@peteryoung2736]

Your Intellectual honesty knows no bounds Courtney. Thank you so much for your wisdom and clarity.

[@gordonkam5659]

Oh my god, I didn't know TikTok videos are that hilarious! The reaction you had for those toxic advises are pure gold! Anyways, watching your videos has always been therapeutic, especially when I was feeling insecure or frustrated from my dating life. Please don't stop giving advise / helping people back on track. Best of luck! Legend.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you, Gordon! I appreciate you and your kind words ❤️

[@senshai1267]

"If you're playing a game, you should be willing to lose." -Dr. Black Philip.

[@matthiatt6834]

But they’re not.

[@fabianpatrizio2865]

good one

[@JamesStakerWin]

Nowadays men with money, status, and looks will either: A.) Run through as many women as physiologically possible. B.) Stay away from women all together. Win-win for men, loss-loss for women. Hope it was worth it.

[@omara4726]

accurate af

[@mofomartianp]

And men without money, status and looks will die alone. And so will all the women they could have paired up with.

[@MyNameisRevenant]

so i shall not feel sorry for my incapability to bring a woman to be at my age of 25, since is a waste of time and hookers are cheaper, is that correct?

[@johnscuderi1614]

Yep. If everyone was honest about where they stood in terms of their SMV most people would have a partner. The problem is everyone is totally delusional these days. Women more so but men included. If you are average, which most of us are, you arent gonna get that super model or that CEO. Its just facts.

[@arpitatiwari9623]

I came to this video looking at the title and thought it would be a bad one...my god human you really are the sweetest person ever .this world needs more good people like you who are there to support each other.❣

[@omartorres9327]

Love this girl’s demeanor, very self aware and genuinely sweet, the best qualities a women can have for me at least 👍🏼

[@Brentisimo]

Thanks for mentioning the negativity issue. That’s an issue that I needed to address after my divorce. I was becoming so bitter…then saw what bitterness was doing to a neighbor. Nobody wants to spend much time around a negative person.

[@04kilik40]

I almost cried when you went on that 'mean people' rant haha we appreciate what you're doing! You're the big sister everyone needs.

[@solitarysurreal3652]

These videos are fantastic, Courtney 🙂 The weirdest thing is I see this advice so often cut into two different categories - advice for men, advice for women - and yeah, to a degree that is true. But I just see the overall expectations as being...what you'd expect from people. Good on you for taking this unnecessarily complicated institution and explaining it for what it is! 🙂 PS: I've dated or corresponded with several women who carry significant baggage from past relationships. I've been single again for just over a year myself, after an emotionally unavailable girlfriend. My rule about that now is - if we haven't made peace with past relationships, we shouldn't be jumping into a new one.