This Is Why So Many Women & Men Are Chronically Single

[@tomdrummy4984]

She said it……….you emasculate a man when you make him feel “ less than” he was before you met him. You are supposed to build up a person you are with, not knock them down

[@MikeIver-y3e]

Knocking down, tearing down, cutting down, putting down. All fingerprints of Satan. Leave her. Dump her. Ditch her. Divorce her.

[@Billy-bc8pk]

More importantly, a relationship isn't a competition. Most [W] want to compete with men to be men. No guy wants that.

[@asura8495]

it's not even emasculating, it's just having a bad character in general

[@rbfarrell1]

@@tomdrummy4984 the amount of w-m-n crap on their husband's is pretty much all. Big reason we tell men not to get married is because the law is on her side. And if she gets bored or upset she will divorce grape him.

[@KennethFabritius]

But it is female nature to poke and prod and tear down the male. She *THINKS* and *FEELS* she is "testing" if he is the real McCoy... but really it is just the imperfect nature of human evolution, it has instilled in many of us piss-poor survival strategies. A trait/behavior doesn't have to be a benefit... it just has to NOT be a detriment (it has to NOT get you killed) before your procreate and pass on your genes... THAT'$ iT. That's why there are so many flawed and stupid strategies and people who keep proliferating down through the ages.

[@10onpump5]

I was with a woman for 4 years. My paternal grandmother passed away, and my grandfather gave me her engagement ring and wedding band, as well as the ring off his finger to one day propose to my future wife. The girl I mentioned was not interested in the family heirloom (we had open discussions about marriage & she knew I had the ring). She said it felt dated, but also swore she didn’t care about the value of a ring, it was the thought that counts (the Diamond is 1.5ct). I got my grandfathers permission to take the stones out of my grandmothers setting and have something customized; a way that we could make it more modern and fit to her preferences. Well, the truth eventually came out that she didn’t think it was a big enough diamond. That was the final nail in the coffin; I learned all I needed to from that one conversation.

[@Doberman_6773]

I hope you preserved the original ring and were able to reset the stones as they originally were. Wow. Just. Fucking. Wow.

[@10onpump5]

@@Doberman_6773 it’s still in its original condition, thankfully. It’s a beautiful ring.

[@cjanquart]

Certainly dodged a bullet there man.

[@javierst.martien4232]

Run far way from her!!! You got lucky!!

[@homiesenatep]

You shouldn’t have taken your grandpas and grandmas rings those things have invaluableness to them, meaning that you cannot sell or give it away

[@Strive1324L]

As a hard working blue collar man, I get sickened when women always judge a guy based on income.

[@michaelmarusic8499]

👍🏻same here, I’m a plumber and that seems to be a turn off for most. Would there point of view change if I say I have a job that pays me over 100k

[@spirit-smithentertainment-89]

I agree

[@alexandermacneil4430]

Women always judge a guy? Is that all women? Do all men judge women based on their physical appearance? Wisdom is understanding that women nor men are a monolith. That there are malicious men and women out there. But there is also a lot of good people...good-hearted men and women too. Why do we let the bad apples spoil the bunch? Why do we not learn from our mistakes and ignore or fail to identify the red flags that some people present that screams "this person is toxic and will manipulate, exploit, and hurt you"? Nah, let's just blame all women! Put them all in the same basket! Take no accountability from our end. Let's just blame all men! Let's continue to be enslaved by our pain, our trauma, and our ego! Let's continue this cycle of hate!

[@alanyuan8565]

I think it's sickening with these lazy white collar workers that judge blue collar workers as lazy/ stupid based on income.

[@Strive1324L]

@@alanyuan8565 True, but what they don't know is that life isn't fair. People have different results, regardless of how much or little effort is put in.

[@Kal.El1]

A woman who is solely focused on your bank balance is not a giver but a taker. A taker depletes your spirit, erodes your peace and drains the joy from life.

[@Myrslokstok]

They are focused on a galaxies of stuff.

[@ShayMarie.00]

1000%

[@johnlehew8192]

Yep, if both the man and woman are givers, that makes for a long, happier marriage. Two takers won’t last long.

[@DominiqueBeninca-o2y]

Women who have money usually won't share.

[@matejmazur01]

Women never had the capacity to earn as much money ever in our history. Problems will ensue...

[@andi8489]

my ex had more and shared without a problem. but also, she cheated.

[@KennethFabritius]

@@andi8489 Because she innately saw you as "less". It's how they are... all of them... pure EViL.

[@urgamecshk]

She shared without a problem ​@@andi8489

[@tylerdecker6994]

Shallow

[@The_Vegan_Punk]

Here’s a bit to keep in mind when it comes to a successful person. When Men become successful, they think how it will benefit their family. When a Woman becomes successful, she feels she no longer needs a Man.

[@Patson20]

That's because women are biologically driven to be as selfish and manipulative as possible. It's also why we need to go back to the old social rules that kept women's darker nature in check. This is why even the first book of the Bible features a warning to all, that If you let women lead they will bring ruin to the world.

[@michaeljensen4650]

This entire narrative is bullshit. Most women earn less than 60k a year and are heavily in debt. The women they are talking about are a small minority. Only 18 percent of people in the US earn more than 100k per year. That is for both men and women. The majority of women who make these demands of men cannot match or beat the income of the average guy. No one would want to date someone so shallow, selfish and materialistic regardless of their so called status.

[@JosephOday-y8i]

90% of men are single because they are invisible to 90% of women. Those same women say 90% of men are trash because they don't fit the preferences of those women. 90% of women are single because they are all sharing the top 10% of men who meet their impossible standards. Those men have options so they don't need to commit to any of those women.

[@robertfreestone414]

Ipso-facto-lutely!

[@WilliamWang-c9m]

No she usually wants a man but has a hard time getting one she likes, then settles for some loser yes man to marry who dries her up so she can be like "still got it." Be happy you're a man and stop complaining about women. Just be picky and there's still worthwhile women out there. They might work at Starbucks but I'd rather that than a corporate "girlboss" any day

[@thethesaxman23]

The pitfall that so many women fall into is they assume men want the same things in a partner as women and in order to show off those things (money, status, security), they neglect the things that men actually look for (personality, affection, support, etc)

[@genericname4168]

You’re implying women want relationships purely for money and status? I’ll stay single

[@KennethFabritius]

Loyalty is the #1 thing men look for. Nothing else matters in a woman if she doesn't have that.

[@KennethFabritius]

@@ed5308 So when did she divorce you?

[@KennethFabritius]

@@ed5308 RON BURGUNDY: "I don't believe you..." *lights cigarette*

[@michaeljensen4650]

The pitfall that so many men fall into is thinking that pathological behavior is normal, that this is just female nature. Wrong. It is Narcissism. Gold diggers fall into the dark triad personality profile. Watch those red flags boys or you may end up in bed with Amber Heard.

[@ajtaylor8750]

How much money a woman makes doesn't matter to a man who doesn't value it all that much. The same goes for men as well. Money is just a way to help sustain your life, not a way to define who you are or your worth in this world.

[@CourtneyRyan]

❤️

[@thenorseprincedarksavior7536]

Exactly 💯

[@DDD11239]

True, but I prefer a woman have a career. If not, she's a liability.

[@nickcalderone75]

Exactly! But yet, ALL social media glorifies and specifies that money and status are ALL that matters and women consume social media nonstop. This has become the sad truth. It's sickening.

[@lakerskid2013]

Exactly. I wouldn’t care if a woman made more money, is taller than me, or weighs more than me (I’m 220 pounds). What matters the most is loving me for who I am, being faithful, and having respect there.

[@wisdomandy9361]

If you want to look at a man based on his wealth, don't be mad when you're looked at as a sex and beauty object. Unless you're both very traditional and bring traditional behaviors, sure.

[@sumairshirazi]

Exactly 💯

[@DDD11239]

Exactly. Also, men should be very aware when gold diggers fake their bedroom pleasure. Heck, even if they enjoy it, they'll fake love.

[@dat868]

Women view men as ATM's and success objects but we aren't allowed to view them as sex objects.

[@PRdude]

It's crazy how there are women who just don't get these things. So thank God for the women who do.

[@CourtneyRyan]

😅

[@tommygunn6901]

If they don't get it by now, just let em be and leave em alone

[@DDD11239]

​@@tommygunn6901 True. Make first date questions as detailed as possible. Don't waste more time than needed (unless you want her only as a bed buddy).

[@michaelhamby3056]

I am dating a very wealthy friend. It’s not about either one of us having more wealth than the other. We both have very strong Christian values. It’s all about what we see in each other. It has been absolutely wonderful.

[@PRdude]

@@tommygunn6901 Yeah, some of them, you just have to let their delusions and arrogance be their undoing. Some will even learn without it coming to that.

[@TravelEntity]

I'm an old guy. My parents were born just after the first world war. What seems to be missing in today's conversation in relation to money is the two aspects of it. The offensive part (the getting the money), and the defensive part of it (the stretching the money). Making money doesn't give you anything if you can't use it properly. This can be with investing, not buying stuff when it can be made at home or repaired. If you see the couple as a team, things are fine. If you fix your expectations of who does what, there will be problems on the horizon.

[@SoulTouchMusic93]

Women these days only look at spending your money, not maybe making you a packed lunch so you don't spend two hours of labour on food.

[@justacoginthefkery]

I've been saying this for yrs. If you give an irresponsible person 1 mill, they could easily be broke within a yr with very little to show for it. That's the way a LOT of ppl are these days & it goes for both sides because so many have become hyper-materialistic & think that acting flashy matters. A person who makes good financial moves can easily live comfortably & build financial security with 50k/ yr or even less. Most ppl I've met who are focused on impressing with materialism are either broke, deep in debt & on the verge of losing everything.

[@ForestWW]

I swear, if every girl had Courtney’s kindness and common sense, no man would be alone, haha. She’s the voice for the gentlemen.

[@Kevin-qf2hs]

Don't be fooled. Courtney married the stereotypical tall, conventionally attractive guy that society deems attractive. She's no different than most women who look for the same.

[@jacksonripper-mp8dr]

​​@@Kevin-qf2hsyeah, she is doing this to grow her YT business.... These naive people don't know that girls like Courtney in real life go for that one guy who earns 6 figures, has muscular and tall bodies and blah blah.....

[@Kevin-qf2hs]

@@jacksonripper-mp8dr I know, everyone's a dating coach these days, they have figured out they can capitalize on many men's loneliness and despair. They aren't looking to provide actual, pragmatic solutions..

[@brandonmusick77]

​@Kevin-qf2hs Shocking. Courtney is a very attractive woman. It's not at all surprising that she chose a handsome successful man.

[@jigsawkramer4175]

@@brandonmusick77 I think it's best to give advice to this extent that Courtney is giving, only if you follow it practically in your real life..... If you are doing the exact opposite of what you are propagating to other people, the weight that your words carry starts losing their value.... Just my opinion.....

[@SEAN959_]

Ive been binging on your videos earlier today and you truely are a blessing....I really like your unbiased view on things Keep it up court🙌

[@CourtneyRyan]

Aww thank you so much. I’m glad you’re here 🥰

[@SEAN959_]

@@CourtneyRyan no worries💯

[@biasedknowledge]

The victim mentality you discussed, where some women assume men are intimidated by their success, reminds me of the self-serving bias. People tend to attribute failures to external factors, like "men can't handle my success," instead of looking at internal factors that might need improvement. I worked with someone who had the same realization - she learned it wasn’t her success that was the problem but her tendency to use it as a power play in relationships. Your message will resonate with so many!

[@dver89]

Men want (1) peace, (2) respect/admiration, and (3) kindness/fun/sex/good conversations, in that order. I would date a woman who makes more money than me if she were fit, mature, respectful, and kind. What emasculates men is not acknowledging or being grateful for what they bring to the table. What turns men off is either (1) the self-obsessed "I-require-princess-treatment 24/7" attitude or (2) the "boss babe" attitude.

[@Rainbow_Task_1A]

Spot on.

[@michaelsix9684]

too many women become the men they want to marry

[@Thomassina1]

@@michaelsix9684 Good observation. To be fair many women don't know to leave the boss babe at work, they bring it home.

[@jacksonripper-mp8dr]

Mature men like you don't exist bro, you came to the wrong planet....

[@Myrslokstok]

Yes but you don't know what she is in 5 years, you might only be a placeholder. Dosn't mather if you makes moore in the beginning!

[@ibereprof]

You articulate words very clearly, so your diction is understandable, and it's very pleasant to listen to your videos. Some content creators don't pay attention to this, so we feel like they're talking to friends in a basement. On the other hand, you're aware that you're talking to hundreds, thousands of people in different parts of the world, and you make sure that your videos are clear

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you so much 😊

[@caffeinatedinsanity2324]

Honestly I am grateful that on youtube, we got someone who does unbiased analytics on relationship/dating issues, like you do.

[@rbfarrell1]

Lets not forget she married a millionaire.

[@IsaacBlencowe]

​@rbfarrell1 Might need to check yourself man. Sounds like you're projecting your own shadow and hang ups around money and women onto her. I suggest the internal work on yourself before openly critiquing a person you don't even know. And is providing genuine and helpful information from a pure intent. Your comment says to me you have likely been hurt by women or have your own hangups around women and your own self worth. I encourage working on yourself it will help shift those things ✌️ May even lead you to becoming a millionaire yourself and attracting a women like Courtney.

[@rbfarrell1]

@@IsaacBlencowe I am a multi millionaire.

[@caffeinatedinsanity2324]

Married to a millionaire or not, I'm not sure what difference it would make in order to refute what I stated earlier.

[@IsaacBlencowe]

@rbfarrell1 Fair enough man good on you ✌️ I do see however you have been commenting negative comments towards Courtney and women for a while now. Sounds like you may have the monetary side sorted but perhaps not the inner side. Not judging my man. Just observing and providing some insight. I'd suggest a book called Mens Work by Connor Beaton. May be a good book for you. Take it or leave it man ✌️

[@TheBlessingReport]

That fashion and outfit is fantastic

[@GreyWind86]

Women between 18-24 don’t care about anything but height and money.

[@Varonno]

And preselection. If other women chase him, they also desire him.

[@Varonno]

@@AbelQuintana-n4b I believe Chris Williamson speaks about it with a bearded former MMA guest

[@KennethFabritius]

@@Varonno I hate Chris Williamson. ¢HAD never had to work a day in his life talking about "juss max bruh... juss max and girls come bruh..." What an idiot.

[@az_3kgt714]

nah its 18-graveyard.

[@JohnSmith-qk7zj]

*18-44. And you forgot 6-pack & c**k length.

[@Markjw25]

Social media has really killed loyalty too because it's so much easier to cheat. People are so obsessed with trying to 1-up each other. "Oh Kimberly's boyfriend took her to Hawaii. I'll get mine to take me to Paris. If not, I'll ask one of my backup guys to take me instead".

[@Teamshmo]

I left a comment saying a similar thing. Most girls are in relationships strictly to brag and try to make other girls feel bad about their lives. They don't care about the guy at all. They just want a guy someone else wants to say I got him and you don't. He buys me this and that and you girls don't get it. The second another man starts buying their friend more stuff they look at you as less then even tho you didn't do anything wrong

[@KennethFabritius]

You can't kill something that never existed in the first place.

[@tommygunn6901]

That's why I think women that say "I want him at my level" are a joke. Just because we aren't making half a million, doesn't mean we suck. And they need to quit saying we're intimidated by success. That's been debunked for a long time! Just like men dating women just for looks and just being an ATM are a joke as well. Have some freaking self respect! Just have integrity and do what you say you're gonna do!

[@dontokoi30]

*400k girl has entered the chat*

[@cjanquart]

Bingo!

[@papabird4425]

When the dollar collapses, we'll see who is at who's level.

[@crabbubbles1161]

Just because a WOMAN has an insatiable appetite for money doesn't mean a MAN should. They want to shame a guy because he doesn't base his being around $$$$. It would be like a guy who's an expert car mechanic going 'I need a chick who can get on my level with cars'. It's just all EGO with these types of women and they 'disqualify' a guy if HIS ego is also not as massive as hers.

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

@@papabird4425when the 💩 hits the fan we will see who’s on who’s level. When I got enough to save myself now women will want me. Nope too bad save yourselves ladies you’re on your own

[@AchmedComedy_]

The problem I’ve noticed with women who are high-dollar entrepreneur types is that they can’t separate their work persona with their private lives. At your business being fierce and unyielding is a great trait but bringing that home to your man is the ultimate death-knell. It’s like a man bringing his gym aggression home… both worlds should be sharply separated to have a healthy relationship

[@HolyRainbowism]

Women with lots of money are usually insufferable and impossible. Wait, it just occurred to me, this applies to women with less money too.

[@Baltimorelax]

Exactly.

[@midnightrambler8866]

I was talking to a woman and I asked her what she did for work, she said she drove a delivery truck. When I told her I was a custodian at a school. She immediately stopped the conversation and never talked to me again.

[@dontletyourdreamsbememes]

That's harsh. I hope you didn't take that too personally. It's a respectable, stable job. These days, having a job at all seems so rare on apps.

[@crabbubbles1161]

The irony is a guy can have a basic job...yet STILL have more money than women! How is this possible? Because guys control their spending much better than women typically. A woman can make 100,000 yet her bank account is always tapped out while a guy can make 30,000 and be flush with money. Women are just insane honestly. They are beyond reasoning with. Not ALL OR THEM of course, but you know what I mean in general.

[@Herozonex200]

I feel like courtney is the only women on KZbin that understands men. I tried telling my sister and other women on how to attract us. It's that simple. Courtney DOES IT EVERYTIME! Everytime she uploads a video. All women needs to do is dress really good, smile, be very friendly while speaking. It's not hard. Telling a man while bragging how much you make isn't a turn on.

[@chadbailey7038]

I’m a big fan of Codee Sanchez. So fun to see her featured on her channel. I appreciate the conversation!

[@CourtneyRyan]

This was my first time seeing any content from her but I liked what I saw! ❤️

[@JuanVega-ns5ok]

If you have time, I’d like to see a follow-up “where are they now” video with the women you had on a couple/few years ago that had somewhat unreasonable male requirements. Those were interesting, eye opening videos. An update would also be interesting.

[@philaman1972]

Your videos continually underscore the brilliance of being single. 52m never married and no kids.

[@nguyenphungHEQ]

read the forbidden book Magnetic Aura on Borlest, and you'll see the secrets they're keeping from us.

[@kenyattamiles4751]

Unfortunately, until the day i die i believe most women will judge you on how much money you make. IMO

[@stevec3526]

They judge may status. Wealth is a major part of status.

[@Shreadington]

My wife's a Dr. I supported us during med school. We make about the same now. She's the boss at work BUT is so happy to get home in her feminine traditional wife/mom roll. If women and turn off the boss babe and let the man lead it'll be a success regardless of financial contribution differences. Happy King, happy Kingdom.

[@CourtneyRyan]

I love this so much! Thanks for sharing 🥰

[@Shreadington]

@@CourtneyRyan you bet! Married 21 years in December. It's our dedication to open communication on all topics that's made it successful.

[@mafp22w]

What is the common denominator in two industries, education, and health care, that are a disaster that is falling apart?

[@bambooqueue9093]

What kinda Doc's? And how has C19 effected y'all oath and practice?

[@tjvista8177]

It felt like countless women right now don't want to lose power at all costs, even if it meant destroying genuine relationships in the process.

[@ForceAlfaF1]

Two things for the guys. Coffee dates. They're an amazingly good filter for which women will waste your time and your money. A woman that won't go on one just wasn't in to you. Money should only be a discussion deeper than casual conversation once the relationship is moving toward "The Serious" any woman that rushes to talk about it should be regarded the *EXACT SAME WAY* she would regard you if you were rushing her into bed -- the same standards apply.

[@ForceAlfaF1]

@MonessaLeigh Wife and my first date was a blind date -- just going out for ice cream. How did she win me over as wife material??? Glad you asked. She treated me like she wanted to be there. She made it a point to actively have fun on the date rather than waiting for me to impress her. This is literally all that Men want. Really! WHAT A REFRESHING EXPERIENCE!!!!! 35 years later, I still think this and it is among my fondest memories

[@travelingadler]

Oh yeah Ive been asked my credit score really fast before by a women. I ended it right there and said thats it sorry. My credit score is far from low but now a 1st conversation subject.

[@BGLEE001]

Mu wife and it's first date was over lemonade that I made 🤣

[@Swearengen1980]

@MonessaLeigh I'm in Florida, surrounded my nature trails, springs, etc. My first dates have almost always been activities. If she doesn't like being outdoors, it won't work anyway, but it's gone over well every time. I've found women (and myself) appreciate not being stuck at a table. If you have a nervous personality, walking/hiking is a good way to redirect that energy. People have opportunities to absorb or discuss what's going on around them if they're not good at conversation. It's always a win. I always have backup plans if it goes well though. I've had dates where we walked and ended up walking for 2 or 3 hours, then I suggested eating. If it was summer, we went and got cleaned up and met back up. Ended up being 12 hour dates. Maybe it's easier in my 40s, women aren't as narcissistic and shallow as college aged kids.

[@Swearengen1980]

@@travelingadler I see stories like this and can't fathom it. I've been on 40+ first dates, several of them turned into 3-4 month relationships, some were just 2-3 dates, and I've talked to more than that in just the last 4-5 years. Not one single woman ever asked me how much I made or what my credit score is. Not one "horror story" like what I see claimed in these comments, which often sound suspiciously like they stole from watching Whatever podcast. Not saying it doesn't happen, but the amount I read it sounds so unusually high that it's hard to believe unless every commenter is living in NYC or LA.

[@RonaldMutebo]

One thing people tend to forget is that life fluctuates for everybody. Today's top G might turn out to be a waste broke guy in 3 years coming, while today's peasant might turn out to be a rich King in 7 years coming tomorrow. The motivation therefore should be love, not someone's current status, coz what happens if status crumbles? So many women end up regretting for having rejected some broke or struggling guys today, who ended up becoming millionaires tomorrow. Our lives are ever moving, always evolving. So you can't really ever tell someone's state of life or status because it's never permanent.

[@chri14a4]

Courtney Ryan really has been a voice of reason throughout my years with depression and experiencing loneliness. I just have to work up the courage to be flirtatious, but it is difficult for me since I have autism

[@jager6863]

On the ultra wealthy end of the spectrum, the majority of women billionaires inherited their wealth or gained it in divorce and they struggle to find a mate afterwards, as billionaire men go for the young girls, because they don't care about your money. In the lower income tiers, self-made women are going to adopt male characteristics to succeed in business, including being disagreeable and not deferring to men being leaders in a relationship, everything becomes a negotiation. I meet a lot of these self-made woman and they are frankly insufferable and will not bring peace to a relationship, offer support or willingly adopt a traditional role. This is why 40% of women either are single or will be. You want to put career ahead of marriage, family and children, then enjoy your "equality" with it's reward of cats, box wine and dying alone. Guys are choosing to stay single or go abroad to find wives and that trend is going to continue. Not being mean or bitter, just being honest.

[@Rick_Cleland]

You look identical to I guy I used to know called Joe.

[@briannyob7799]

Another reason might be that they have no interest in being an unpaid domestic servant.

[@rbfarrell1]

Strong successful men usually believe in themselves and their abilities. Strong successful w-m-n want a strong successful man, but the w-m-n want to control everything in the relationship. Sorry, but successful men don't need a mother they want a fun ,fit, and feminine w-m-n that compliments his life.

[@mafp22w]

Truth!

[@tjvista8177]

Lack of integrity in women within the West is seriously overrated, though they're going to find that out the hard way. Plus, the way these women treat men like trash nonstop despite having successful careers is going to make the rest of the women look bad long term.

[@PalaciOriginal]

It's incredible how many years now I have watched Courtney's videos to hear a well thought out, logical and emotion free discourse on a particular dating topic. Courtney, thanks for all the videos, advice and information. It is refreshing for me to hear from the point of view of the woman and confirm my belief that men need women, women need men and we must work together, sacrifice and compromise. The zeitgeist of the age has been lying to both sexes for years, the algorithm forces us against each other and ultimately, we may all end up lonely, bitter and sad in the end if nothing changes.

[@JohnnyAlvarez-n9i]

Greed destroys everything....it creates distance between people and destroy unity and maturity and love..... greedy people are inmature people

[@steelcitysportsfan1436]

As a guy we are not at all intimidated by a girl's success. What's more importantly is that she values me and appreciates me as a guy as do I appreciate her as a girl. And that she values my personal held beliefs such as religious beliefs.

[@LatimusChadimus]

It's true because outside of men who have never spoken to women outside of their immediate family, there is no intimidation. We are either discussed it, annoyed or not impressed.

[@eBoard3R]

*Looks like a videography upgrade, colours look cleeeean* 🤙🏽⚡️🤟🏽⚡️👌🏽 Great topic 👏🏽👏🏽

[@coconuts1517]

We don't need to mystify too much, women will always look at men through money, and men will always look at women through youth and beauty. There is no one who will change that.

[@andersnielsen6044]

BS.. It is just because you do not live in a developed part of the world.. This was the way it was back in the patriarchal past, like 75 years ago... :D

[@jinenjuce]

It's not so much that we're intimidated, but we're also assessing two factors that are more poignant when it comes to dating/marrying successful women: 1) Is she planning on sharing all that money she's making in the relationship, or is this a "what's hers is hers and what's his is ours" situation? 2) Am I coming home at the end of a stressful work day to peace, or to yet another person that's going to be combative and argumentative with me?

[@Madchris8828]

I have a family member who works in finances who says he sees a lot of "this is my money" coming from women but with men in those relationship it's "our" money. He isn't allowed to see her money at all.

[@truthbetold6496]

I am 52 been single for the last 11 years, the main issue is that i am active love to move and all women i met so far are not, they are lazy couch potato, also lots of them are single moms with huge standards so i been rejected more than enough times to finally realize i would be miserable anyways in relationship. I the past 2 months 2 women ask me out and i refuse, i guess after being single for so long you lose this love and relationships it just fades away

[@spasovskizzz]

Brother, you found peace, do not sell it out for a cheap coochie. Play with the pay to play options to meet your needs and go on enjoy life with your friends. Ocassionaly have a short adventure but nothing serious

[@paulrenis8930]

I wouldn't be insecure. What matters to me is love, trust, respect, and knowing that at the end of the day she is the person I want tonrush home to, knowing thatbwe can talk to each other, help each other be the best that we can be. Help each other get ahead and reach our goals. A relationship in my opinion should not be about status. We are all human those that seek status or go for someone with money, mynquestion would be what hapoens if he or she looses all that money would theybstick around.

[@ricci8497]

When women take the attitude of the money they make is theirs and the money he makes is not just his but hers as well is it any wonder men get annoyed especially when they hit rough patches and the woman won't step up when needed.

[@az_3kgt714]

or the 1 that is stealing money away from her man as an escape fund while hes working 3 jobs just to make ends meet till hes about dead from overworking. Only to find that most of his problem were caused by his "wife" stealing $750 a check so she can run if he suddenly cant provide. While killing him the entire time.

[@BellaVita100]

I had kind of been hard on Cody Sanchez in the past, but I stand corrected....total respect for her now.

[@PRdude]

There go the polka dots again. The red nail polish is cool too. :)

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you! ❤️

[@GJones247]

Most women who make good money have to have characteristics that men who make money and work the same jobs have. Most women try to date men that "are on their level" but they forget that they have to turn that switch off. Men can be goal oriented and straight forward but also and then come home and be the husband that they need to be. When women work these high-level careers, it takes some much energy to be in that mode, they typically have a hard time turning it off and on because reigniting that flame is hard to do day in and day out. Men choose women based on where they are going to be; women choose men based on where they are. This is why women crave validation. The issue is, Men who are going to be future husband and successful want wives and mothers. Women who a career oriented, are offering what the man already has and show no sign of what he wants for the future. Men can't play the guessing game, they have too much too loose if so.

[@Billy-bc8pk]

Dude, 100% agreed. So well said. You nailed. The short gist of it is that men don't want to compete with women in the household.

[@Varonno]

I call it leaning into testosterone. I also think it’s a reason there’s such a low birthdate in some countries and areas. Women seek fantasy and fulfillment. The fantasy is a lifetime pursuit and men provide danger and safety/protection. Fulfilling desires is a daily thing and if a person doesn’t know themselves they’ll be searching outside their psyche. With a secure mindset you know home is always where the bone is

[@HaliComet]

Money is a form of power, and having power reveals one's values and character.

[@TrekBeatTK]

A man will never care about a woman’s income because ultimately her money is always her money and his money is “our money”. When her money is “our money” then maybe it will matter, but it will still never be ATTRACTIVE. Men are drawn to pretty, loyal, and a good attitude.

[@andersnielsen6044]

There is nothing called your money in a healthy relationship.. !

[@didamnesia3575]

I'm 46. I've played the trumpet since I was 7. Just bought a guitar and a bass, amps/pedals, signed up for lessons. I can't remember the last time a woman told me she started learning a new skill that isn't yoga. Boring

[@az_3kgt714]

and lets be real shes doing yoga because she wants her ass in the air lol

[@user-ke5md1ho8h]

Yep, spending big $$ on yoga mats, outfits, shoes, etc just to give up a month later.

[@tjvista8177]

I also want to learn more skills that interest me, especially if it helps improve my chances in success in life.

[@Kevin-qf2hs]

Most guys ( and girls) learn new skills to improve their success with the opposite gender, whether they are consciously aware of it or not. This is why girls do Yoga so as to get a nice body and increase their chances of getting picked by guys, similarly lots of guys ( especially the introvert types) learn to play instrument to be noticed by women. This is a well known fact based on what hobbies women find attractive in men.

[@aaronburdon221]

Chris Rock got it right when he said "Stop competing. Her success is your success and your success is her success. You're both there to serve. You are in the service industry." You serve your partner by having loyalty, dignity, honor, integrity, and many other things. Men generally excel in certain things and women generally excel at other things. These gifts mesh to create one flesh in marriage.

[@gordongekko2781]

No mention of hypergamy? That's the biggest factor here. Women prefer to date up. So, the more money a woman makes, the fewer men meet her criteria. Worse yet, there isn't a cap on it, so the men at the top are desired by ALL women. In other words a millionaire might date a female executive, but he's just as likely to date a teacher or a cute barista. So, the competition for those men is unlimited. Statistically speaking, the higher educated a woman is, the less likely she is to ever marry.

[@nightknightlegion1273]

Love Codie! Such an entrepreneur and life guidance.

[@bgrimlan]

There's an old joke that never dies, it is because it holds truth to it. "The man's money is our money. Her money is her money." This is why men don't care what a woman makes, we hardly ever benefit from it. We get so confused when women use their salary or job status level as a badge or has some weigh when it comes to dating qualifications. It has absolutely no bearing in our attraction towards women, it's why a millionaire will date a McDonald's worker, as long as she adds positivity to the relationship, she builds him up and makes him want to do better for her, etc. Men don't need a lot of materialistic things to make themselves happy. What pushes us is the people we love (family, wife, GF) and want to protect at all costs whether it's physical or financial, etc.

[@hamilton7128]

Yes!!! I struggle with this shit so bad. I feel like shit bcz I don’t make a lot of money and society says I’m worthless bcz of that

[@brandondegraaf]

Most of my long term relationships were with successful women. They all dipped their toes into the provider role to some degree, by for example taking me out to restaurants or buying me clothes. It never came naturally to them, like they were role playing being a man from a woman's perspective. And they seemed to resent me for it. It was a weird dynamic. Women who figure this stuff out will procreate. The rest will eliminate themselves from the gene pool.

[@Stoogie]

I'm single because i was born with Autism and got cptsd which is now SPD(the worst condition to be against romantic relationships), + OCD so i dont want to touch others, no emotional/social triggers in my brain due to autism when near others, and cptsd does the rest.

[@jesusprofessor314]

Thank you Courtney. My wife has a PhD in Engineering from Harvard, and it was a tough road for me accepting her higher earning potential. She has been nothing but gracious about it, and there were a few years in our 35 year marriage where I earned more.

[@pennstatefan]

😊l believe that a woman, instead of looking at the end result of man's success and wealth, she should review his character and the journey he took to get there

[@JohnnyAlvarez-n9i]

Your absolutely right. Q marriage or partnership is a union....is not about competing against each other it is about a healthy relationships... developing into Better people and a better community.... especially the people in the church... as well there all competitive and comparing their lives.. that it's destroying relationships and churches too.. creating strife and pride and ego and arrogant people and jealousy...when a person is jealous and doesn't feel appreciated or valued they mistreat people and greedy people destroy unity and maturity and love

[@flatcat6676]

I was at a professional networking event not long ago. One of the women, who is ten or eleven years younger than me, was showing a lot of interest in me. She seemed nice enough, was fit & attractive, and seemed to have a pretty good head on her shoulders. She also has two kids from a previous relationship. I pretended like I didn't notice her flirtation and went home to my farm, my dog and my cats, and my camp fire. What a nice, peaceful evening that was😁

[@KennethFabritius]

Why pass up such a great dame? I'd have just said: "hey, you're adorable... just ditch your worthless little bastards, put them up for adoption and you then I might have a future together..." 😃

[@katenicholson4152]

I did the same thing with a man 10 years older than me. 😅

[@flatcat6676]

@@katenicholson4152 Knowing your own boundaries, what you are willing to accept when it comes to the baggage your intimate partners bring into a relationship, as well as valuing and guarding your own peace is incredibly important. Everyone brings baggage, of course, but only you can determine what kind of baggage and how much of it you are willing to accept.

[@Baltimorelax]

Bravo! Stay away from women.

[@Kevin-qf2hs]

She's a single mom, that's why she was flirting with you lol. They are self aware to know they have low SMV in the dating market

[@OctaneWood919]

It's not the fact that someone is successful that can be off-putting, it's just that it is usually followed up by using it as a platform to say they don't need the other person in their life. It doesn't matter what you do to be successful, just don't use it against someone else.

[@tmoney3231]

I have never cared about how much women made or their degrees. I dated fast food workers, nurses, etc I care more about how she treated me. I have been criticized by women about my job and how much I make by women hundreds of times. I Love Codie Sanchez though she is a savvy businesswoman

[@thenexusagency]

Codie rocks!! I watched this and while back and thought wow she nailed it. Sure wish more women understood this. Thanks for doing this video 🙏🙌🙏

[@Fenrir190]

"Now I can be a partner... I'm not a cost center, I'm a profit center"... That bar hit like a ton of bricks 🙃

[@PS109VanBurenHigh]

From this retired psychiatrist's perspective, your perspective and advice is honest and true.. Right on the mark..

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you 🥹🤍

[@gerbenhoutman9348]

I would marry a woman who out earns me. I would watch her carefully though to make sure she wasn't impressed by the disparity in our income. Promises can be easily broken if made in the heat of the moment. Promises like, I will still respect you if I make more than you do, or I can love you even if you aren't taller than me. The typical woman is going to want a tall and wealthy man. Tall meaning at least a few inches taller than her, wealthy meaning a higher standard of living

[@radumateuca2398]

In a messed up world, you bring Light, Courtney! Thank you for your interest in good values and truth!

[@CourtneyRyan]

🥺🤍 you’re so kind, thank you

[@radumateuca2398]

@@CourtneyRyan thank You ❤️

[@JuanVega-ns5ok]

It’s nice to see a woman who embraces her femininity. You look wonderful. I like a woman in a dress.

[@Awakening_With_Love]

👏👑💚Great content & perspective! I love Codie Sanchez & absolutely believe that every partners needs fit into a balance that compliments each others vision to build what they would come together & define as success🏆 We all have various thoughts, beliefs, & what we value more than other things. Balance imo is key.

[@asdax8311]

Simping. Straight up simping. The moment you give away your power for approval, you show emasculinity.

[@jager6863]

Then the woman won't respect you and either leave because they are not happy or just cheat. Traditional roles evolved for a reason, ignore them at your peril.

[@hightechinspector2280]

Even if men aren't simps many women will eventually bail. Our disposable, social media, upgrade to the newest version of what they think is better is real.

[@Steve-Seinfeld]

I live a minimalistic, modest life. I don't care how much a woman makes, I do care that she has feminine energy, is respectful to others, and has good morals and values.

[@hoceinali4283]

The problem is not the insecurity, the problem is; when women make more money than men she show off and drags it in any argument, a man normally doesn’t buy clothes for himself to provide his wife and says nothing, but opposite side, she’s gonna treat him like a slave.

[@akumacode]

Wow, Cody really nailed it. She understands

[@nickcalderone75]

Exactly! But yet, ALL social media glorifies and specifies that money and status are ALL that matters and women consume social media nonstop. This has become the sad truth. It's sickening.

[@Tony-x1o]

Very good video! I think a lot of people were not taught or advised, on judging someone as a whole person, not just what they can provide them. As a result over 50% of Marriages end in Divorce. That's what happens when you marry for the wrong reason.

[@alexandermacneil4430]

I think we need to acknowledge the influence and impact that living in an ultra-competitive capitalist society has on our perceptions on what is ideal and the values we demand from our prospective romantic partners. Companies spend millions of dollars on market research and advertising meant to exploit our insecurities and vulnerabilities. Insecurity is big business any way you slice it. society sends us messaging that further reinforces these impactful and toxic beliefs that men are only valued for what they can provide materialistically speaking and for women, their physical beauty. We need to build emotional intelligence and emotional resilience in folks to limit the negative influence of marketing and advertising.

[@CourtneyRyan]

🤌🏼

[@DDD11239]

Well, 350,000+ years of modern history shows that transactions--regardless of the complexity--have always been apparent.

[@pace1195]

Great, how do wo do that? Families are more broken than ever. Broken families have little emotional intelligence. They have only various "attachment" syndromes. Those who are not broken have their children wrapped in so much metaphorical bubble wrap by helicopter parents that their emotional resilience is non-existent.

[@alexandermacneil4430]

@@pace1195 There is no specific, "one size fits all", simple solution to this complex problem. I don't have all the answers. What it comes down to imo is education and awareness and having that knowledge be accessible and digestible to the most number of people. The reality is that for some, they don't want better long-term emotional and mental outcomes for regular working class folks in society, that doesn't align with their usually financial interests. Why would someone who sells poison want most of society to be cured? You have to understand the predatory nature of certain businesses and business owners. One thing I see a lot of people fail to understand is how relative in its infancy the academic and scientific domains of psychology and human biology are compared to other realms of knowledge such as mathematics. What we know about neurology, the brain, hormones, genetics, and psychology of humans has grown significantly in the past several decades. We still have much to learn. The double-edge sword of that knowledge is those who would intentionally or accidently exploit that knowledge to further their own interests, that sometimes lead to negative long-term outcomes for others. An example is all the money tech companies poured into marketing research (based heavily on neurology and human psychology) to create addictive social media algorithms. We've learned how even "toxic" emotions (and that's more context-dependent) can be addicting for a lot of people such as being fed a constant loop of sensationalized rage-bait content. The more we learn about humans, our vulnerabilities, the more they can be exploited and manipulated. Emotional intelligence, self-awareness and introspection, and emotional regulation are skills more paramount than ever for those who want to succeed and prosper in a more complex world. It aint getting easier. I have compassion and pity for those who don't have the genetic makeup and/or proper nurturing environment to be able to succeed in that pivotal area of life. Such folks are going to be less resilient and more easily manipulated and exploited by others. They are going to have a more difficult time navigating certain aspects of life. They are going to be resentful and angry. I'm not sure we have the resources available or political/social will to help those people specifically...

[@alexandermacneil4430]

@@DDD11239 True, but what has changed is the amount of knowledge Humanity has obtained regarding our own physiology (brain, neurology, hormones, genetics etc.) and psychology over the past few decades and cumulatively overall. With that knowledge comes the power to produce long-term positive and negative outcomes for people. Knowledge is sometimes a double-edged sword. It can be used to exploit and manipulate.

[@drewc3784]

Salary doesn't matter in its own right, but high salary careers (sales, law, finance, etc) often select for personality traits men don't find attractive. Overcommitment to work, low agreeableness, low conscientiousness. Men get enough of that at work from colleagues and clients. Most aren't going to sign up for more of the same at home. I work in finance and have known plenty of women who earn 6-figures. Perfectly fine and capable coworkers, but I would've never considered one of them as a romantic prospect.

[@LordHolley]

A quality man of strong character can't be emasculated.

[@DracontineFire]

You're either based or in denial, those words from from both extremes. I'll go with the first because perhaps you don't realize this

[@LordHolley]

@DracontineFire Like Courtney said, the topic is more nuanced than what's in this video, but in general, if a woman dishes out mental abuse towards a man, it's emasculating. A confident man won't accept that type of behavior, imho.

[@DracontineFire]

@@LordHolley based 💯

[@BOSSDONMAN]

Another aspect is that the government has absolutely destroyed and debased the currency with the hyperinflation we've seen over the past few years. This has impacted all age demographics, but it's particularly been biased against those in the 18-32 year old range (i.e. primary dating age).

[@j.davila4523]

All by design perhaps?

[@MrMockingbird1313]

Hey Courtney Ryan, I went on a date yesterday with an older woman and it quickly became clear that she was only interested in my income, did I own a house, was the house paid for, how many bedrooms, did it have a basement and other such questions. It was a very strange Twilight Zone experience.

[@alemusic97]

I think still limiting your expectations to someone who is a protector or provider robs what a relationship is or should be. It's two people that like each other's presence. They like talking in depth about anything and everything, making each other laugh, and bonding over small and big things. The butterflies in the stomach feeling when they grab your hand. That is what women and men should be looking for. And then naturally everything else will follow after.

[@JHuggins2010]

There’s going to be a lot of old, lonely, angry, bitter people in about 35 years. How saddening the state of dating has succumbed to.

[@blakeharrison3972]

Men care more about DTI than money in the bank when it relates to finance, but if a woman has her act together it’s kind of nice, I wouldn’t classify it as intimidating

[@arneilmarquez]

It is a reality that a mans ability to monetize is tied to his masculinity. It's not the main thing but it is an unfortunate truth. Belittling a man for any reason wether it be his monetairy status. How physically strong he is. Height etc etc doesn't feel good at all. But as men we're supposed to take it. But what is very un-attractive in a woman is if they are in competition with a man. "I make 6 figures, how about you?" That kind of attitude in a woman is very un-attractive. To me. And a girl that makes money isn't UNATTRACTIVE to me but it doesn't add to it. I don't want to date a girl who's a bum. But I don't need to date a girl whos a lawyer or girl boss either.

[@pugbuddykachoo]

I have a friend who used to take women to Taco Bell on their first date. He said he did it because he wasn't interested in a woman who expected money to be a central focus in any relationship.

[@freelivefree7221]

We as a society valorize CEOs to an extent. A CEO is an "alpha male." Well, their are CEOs who are henpecked by their stay at home wives. Their are men who do working class jobs who are respected by their wives as leaders. My grandfather did not make a lot of money but he was in someways a leader. This also goes for women too. Many feminists think being a female CEO is the ideal "strong woman." Nothing against women in positions of power, but I've known traditional women who were very strong. My mother, mostly, stayed home with me and my brother but when she needed to be she was a force of nature.

[@EllenGreidinger]

Warren Buffett and Bill Gates are not "Alpha Males." A combination of work ethic, analytical, creative, and people skills leads to advancement. Intensity, opportunism, and risk-taking are also part of it. These last three traits have a tinge of "Alpha" about them, but "Alpha" doesn't describe the CEO that well.

[@blaydenjayben]

Yep I usually explain that to women too my mother raised 7 kids (in the 90s, with a special needs child) and was a first generation migrant. These modern women can absolutely fucking kick rocks if they don't think that's real strength.

[@728huey]

I was surprised to see Codie Sanchez on your video. I thought it was going to be about entrepreneurship and buying existing small yet profitable businesses, as this is what she specializes in.

[@stevewilliams6667]

As a mechanic, I make a good living.To look at me during the day you wouldn't think so.I couldn't care less what women think of my job or income. Currently with a woman who makes more than me and she always said never judge a book by its cover.Men develop yourself to the best of your ability and forget what women think and never simp to them.They dont respect it.

[@burtongrimes2227]

Exactly mate. I’m a painter, I paint houses. Yet I’m dating woman who work in cardiology and own businesses. Woman don’t care.

[@EricJGonzalez]

Men marry women who they can build with (family, business, etc). Women who make a lot money may be signaling that they prioritize career over family/marriage. This is especially important if he wants kids and she's more concerned with career progression and taking a "motherhood" penalty.

[@angelacosta466]

I think monetary reasons is the biggest cause of divorce. Money doesn’t determine your worth as a human being, it’s character and behavior. You can have a lot of money and be a terrible person to be around. A lot of people are hesitant about getting married or starting a relationship because it becomes transactional, and you can lose things you worked for if it don’t work out.

[@mafp22w]

Money has always been the number one reason for marital fighting.

[@Guigley]

Many people also have a very wrong view of marriage going into it.

[@ChiefCedricJohnson]

Ecclesiastes 11:3 “If the clouds be full of rain, they empty themselves upon the earth: and if the tree fall toward the south, or toward the north, in the place where the tree falleth, there it shall be.” King James Version (KJV)

[@gunner2636]

I love how calm of a person you are courtney

[@DDD11239]

I'm sure she's not always calm. She's not a robot.

[@gunner2636]

​@@DDD11239 Yeah

[@Jay-ef2ii]

Comment: Great Video Clip on that lady explaining the situation between men and women. This is why many men prefer to marry someone who is 19 and from the projects than marrying some Woman who graduated with a bachelors' degree from UT Austin. This a topic that has always existed, but Covid 2020 really enhanced this subject even more for the worse. This is something that is not going to go away. This topic may be talked about, but it will never get solved because women and men want to be the ones in "control" of the relationship. This is also a reason why some older women who are attractive at times seek young inexperienced men (for love). September 30, 2024, USA

[@Barbie-yu9ym]

I really appreciate your perspective Courtney💕I agree it’s important to not only view men as ATMs. Nice video.

[@MegaUltraSuperDuable]

If income is brought up on the first date... Then there will be no 2nd date from me! If my date try to value me based on what i make.... I will leave without a response!

[@Darkest25678]

How much money a woman makes absolutely matters. Gents! I encourage you to start a relationship with a woman who makes more and make it your goal to earn more than her at some point. Once you did break up and on to the next.

[@pq7185]

My parents marriage went to heck when my dad went through his first layoff. It was always bad whenever he got laid off after 50. I've been debt free other than college. I got my STEM degree and wiped out my student loans with my life savings and money earned from my 2 summers of internships. I don't think I can afford to be in a marriage unless save/invest enough where I can lose half and still retire and it won't be with an American. The experiences I had dating in Asia was completely different from the US and I met plenty of modest wifey material

[@x-man5056]

Excellent Courtney, thank you. Love that dress.

[@f1passion384]

Let's be honest here, it's all about looks. No one who seeks to date is trying to find the most sexually repulsive person they can. Rather they would like someone they are physically connected to, then is that person financially responsible (on the surface/first glance) then you get to the real part of are they kind decent etc etc. but people don't want to address this because it breaks the self imposed delusion of what we want, what we desire (fantasise) and the reality of facing what is in front of us. Men rate women on a bell curve. Women don't do this they grade men from 5-10 with those at 5,6,7 as undesirable. So 8,9,10's are the ones they want, with only the top 10% of these being acceptable. So when you work out that 70% are discounted immediately and only the top 3% are desirable it means you have 100 women running round after 3 guys, and we wonder why women say "I can't find a guy".