This Is Why So Many People Are Chronically Single

[@traelee684]

I'm having a migraine just watching this woman talk. That guy dodged a bullet.

[@LisaFenton-h7f]

I'm a woman--and I feel a headache coming on...

[@grizzyozz2992]

But he didn't though... He reached back out so it seems he's actively trying to be hit by this bullet for some weird reason

[@AlbertCamus1993]

Amen

[@3rett115]

@@grizzyozz2992 They had one date. It's likely she didn't show this side of her, so he doesn't know yet. Hopefully he comes across her SM and sees this.

[@Just_a_Lad]

same

[@BlueBEAZY45]

This women is living proof that it’s definitely better to be alone than settling with anyone’s bs just to avoid being lonely.

[@explorermike19]

No. Not all women are like this. Don't red pill just because of a few difficult women like this on TikTok.

[@BlueBEAZY45]

@@explorermike19 I’m well aware. I’m just saying it’s never ok to settle for someone who does not respect you or never reciprocates what you bring to the table. Never be anyone’s “Plan B” or especially anyone’s door mat just because you’re afraid of being lonely.

[@PatI-zg9gm]

@@explorermike19True, these women are not serious about relationships. Good women are not found on TikTok, various social media, or in bars and clubs.

[@BlueBEAZY45]

@@PatI-zg9gm fact

[@MySimDied]

There was this guy who went into a spa and killed all the girls working there. Is that living proof that it's definitely better to avoid ever being around men? Or was it just one person not representative of their gender?

[@eb_nowhereland]

Her posting her dating experience including the texts is such a major red flag, at least for me. What's wrong about being private about your dating life? Anyways, love how eloquent and calm you are, just subscribed to your channel.

[@Be1smaht]

Not a red flag.... crazy common

[@aluisious]

Imagine whoring out every moment of your personal interactions for clicks.

[@yourcrazybear]

@@Be1smaht "Not a red flag.... crazy common" Red flags can't be "common"?

[@cactusfractious664]

@@Be1smaht It's a red flag. There's just a lot of red flags out there. If I see a woman screen shotting texts posting on social media, that's a hard no from me dawg. Toxic and entitled almost 100% of the time.

[@peterkallend5012]

I've been told that it's a major red flag to not tell a woman your last name so she can run a background check on you (all that comes up is where I live) and follow you on social media. Personally, I think it's a red flag to expect someone to alow you to invade their privacy. When I don't consent, they ask what I am trying to hide. I have to explain to them in small, easy to understand words that I've been stalked and threatened at my own home by "friends" of ex's before, and I'm not going to permit the possibility of it happening again, and if she can't respect this very reasonable boundary, I won't be taking to her anymore.

[@TheRedAnvil40]

Imagine people called each other instead of texting. That'd be absolutely wild.

[@mal723]

I agree. Texting sucks vs having an actual conversation.

[@chappy9472]

I agree with you 100%. To me, too much texting is red flag. For many or most people, they use it as a means of avoidance.

[@havi.1197]

LOL From where? a phon.... oh, wait a minute...

[@chappy9472]

@@havi.1197 no from their foor!! Where do you think from?!

[@mst-pierrem5729]

Are you expecting a VOICE AT THE OTHER END? 🤯🤯😅

[@emiliendavis9563]

He probably missed out on a ton of headaches.

[@xtm-virgo_yt6384]

More like cleared all achievements

[@bhart3321]

Nope he tried again a couple weeks later. Guessing he didn't get any new matches or just down that bad.

[@anticarnistvegan]

A fucking shame isn't it

[@tankbxy7609]

​@@bhart3321 i just can't even comprehend the stupidity of other men sometimes...

[@squ34ky]

@@bhart3321 source?

[@Snhojbar]

Poor woman, I feel for her. She is consigning herself to an unhappy life. She seems to be subconsciously sabotaging herself with manufactured outrage. Constantly looking for , or even manipulating situations so she can feel affronted.

[@kelleychilton2524]

Some people thrive on being offended.

[@rocketlioness]

Something so normal became toxic for her -_- I mean, my guy can be indecisive in certain things and I end up sharing some places to hangout and I book it myself since I know he can be indecisive. He likes that I took the lead and not in a way to put him down. He makes amazing pizzas for me and I plan and get the entire grocery/food items. Love is about giving the way you can. She had no love for him at all.

[@adrianred236]

It's all about attention seeking and the outrage feeds into that.

[@JRoss-zxzx]

She's heading down a path where the box of wine will be jealous of the cats when even they run away

[@thephotoandthestory]

Just watch her video recently about being turned down by a guy for her oral herpes. I'm wondering if she's a comedian.

[@ajtaylor8750]

Oh....this woman again. I remember seeing this video somewhere else, and to say that she's the problem is an understatement. She's the type to start an argument for no reason just because there isn't any chaos in the relationship. She just gives off that energy.

[@IamjustBruh]

Oh absolutely! She looks and sounds like a nightmare

[@DollarCars-y5n]

BPD

[@msp_-_-uk6ge]

Hoe math probably

[@sburns2421]

Fear of being close to someone else because of earlier traumas. She may marry eventually, but will end up making both of them miserable within five years.

[@michaelrodriguez3329]

Better pack lots of Tylenol

[@mattlericain]

The « I didn’t hear back from him » while showing her non-response sent me off 😂😂😂

[@johnvdmeer745]

Never her fault hahah

[@freakinccdevilleiv380]

Unreal!!

[@szechuon6971]

SAME! I was literally thinking: she left him on read, and she thinks this is an own?

[@katiejon17]

I’m a wife and mother to small children and I couldn’t handle the drama of meeting her as a friend for coffee.

[@eray9934]

Agreed. The stuff that set her off about her date would surely set her off from anyone in her life. It's like she intentionally makes her miserable so she can blame everyone else for the way things are.

[@thephotoandthestory]

When I met my wife for the first time in person after two months of talking online, the we ended up meeting up in Best Buy and going to a diner. Every year on the anniversary we met, we go to the diner and write about everything from the previous year on a napkin. I love how easy going she was and how willing she was to just go along with a simple plan.

[@katiejon17]

@@thephotoandthestory I met my husband when he was hired at the school I worked at. We hit it off, and eventually (8 months later) he asked me out. We dated secretly for awhile because we were colleagues (and worked at a school). Our first pre-date was simply going to a trail to walk my dog (and the dog I was fostering). Then our first real date was a home-cooked meal at his apartment (small community and going "out" anywhere would have created gossip). By our third date we were in love. That was 9 years, one wedding, and two children ago! We only get to go out on a "date" maybe 2 or 3 times a year in this season of life. But every evening, after our children are asleep, we talk and laugh while doing our nightly chores (and sometimes bicker). Life is complicated enough, and marriage and parenthood comes with enough of their own challenges - why would anyone want a partner that is high-maintenance and uncooperative?! It sounds like a complete nightmare.

[@tomryan9827]

@@eray9934 the poor waiter

[@stargazer3828]

I think it is totally disrespectful to the guy for her to post his private text messages to her for thousands of other people to see. This is why men now check a woman's social media post before confirming any dates and then they ghost them when they see that they post all their dates on tik tok or instagram.

[@WilkinsMichael]

Beyond disrespectful. She is completely undateable.

[@virtual-viking]

Posing as someone looking for a genuine relationship as a way to procure cheap content for social media is way out of bounds.

[@Portia620]

Agreed and it’s personal and in the world today no privacy!!!

[@Portia620]

Vultures trying to build their careers off of other people’s feelings is sick!! 🤢

[@kdub3288]

I avoid all/any women to constantly post to social media or has a shit ton of pictures of them in skimpy outfits or bakinis. Yea it’s nice to look at, but I’m not about to date someone that wants EVERYONE to see them online.

[@Elgranchampion1]

I am 58 and I am trying to date women in their 40s and 50s and I can attest that it doesn’t get any better, in fact it gets worse. Women as they get older, for some reason just cannot communicate their intentions, or even answer simple questions. It’s just horrible.

[@TRUTHaintHATING]

I hear you I'm in my 40s and dealing with women in there 30s and 40s are worse. Everyone just got out of a relationship and everyone wants to communicate sole on tex. When they nor by u

[@TRUTHaintHATING]

And forget at this age meeting women at the bar. They all think you go around getting women at the bar number. Even the bartenders think that if u wanna talk to them. I'm about to quit the bar. Because of this theory these women making up

[@purplesprigs]

PREACH! I retired (early) to a 55+ community in FL (NEVER do that). As women get older, they get nastier and nastier. I think that they no longer feel physically attractive, so they compensate by spewing hate at men. They greatly outnumber us, and hunt in packs. You would be stunned at how openly hateful they are. "You men are all trash!"

[@dat868]

Plus older woman start to get mean as rattlesnakes. Not sure it's the menopause or post menopause thing or what but they can be difficult.

[@cyberlip666]

@@dat868 I think it's all the decades of built up anger and bitterness towards men and their failed relationships coming out. Any man they get involved with becomes a surrogate for all her past "jerks" and her father that she wished she had told off and said or did this and that too 🤣

[@beowulf__warrior6638]

I really appreciate how correct you are about communication. No one can read another's mind

[@ejays99]

What is with women posting everything and blasting everyone on social media these days? Such repulsive toxic behavior. I once had a girl from a certain social group I was in, ask me out, I politely declined. Later some mutual friends sent me a TikTok that she posted complaining about me, actually using my real name too. Couldn't be happier I said no.

[@Ponchoed]

She needs an audience to whine to for validation

[@J.A.Z-TheMortal]

Social media is a digital drug. Gives easily available but fake attention and validation. That's why they do it.

[@Baalaaxa]

Yup, they want validation, and need to feel better about themselves by putting someone else down. I'm just glad that they do that though. They're exposing themselves for the disgusting persons they are, and it gives us valuable information about people like them, so we can spot the red flags better.

[@xchino0427]

That's some little kid type shit. No mames smh

[@jennalavena]

wow. good for you. a simple no made her feel extremely insecure so she needed others to validate her because she couldn’t do it herself

[@joyceanderson9983]

I love how soft spoken you are. Most KZbin commentators are not, it’s refreshing

[@Moonmonkian]

Most American woman sound so masculine, derisory and forceful.

[@ernie548]

Many do, unfortunately.

[@Bianca-lu8hb]

And no vocal fry!

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

I like that too. There's no SMASH THAT LIKE BUTTON!! or that weird aggressive pattern of talking where it's intended to make the speaker sound like an expert. I used to watch a pottery channel and it was a soft spoken 50+ year old man and he'd talk about his process. His voice was a little feminine but not anything to be ashamed of. All of the comments were "I just put your videos on in the background to listen to you talk, I love your voice" and him replying to every comment "thanks, I used to hate my voice before I got all of these comments"

[@lovepeace8918]

yes love her soft makeup colors too and her boobs look incredibly soft also, I was thinking the same things, how can I meet a woman as sweet as this ?

[@FadiGamingRP]

My wifes an excellent communicator, i really suck at it. I get upset when she asks detailed questions 😅, i am really tired by the end of the day, but you helped me realize i need to work on myself

[@Portia620]

It’s soo important and we understand but commuicate that to her. I’m sure yall can find a way around it. Like maybe at certain days or times

[@crimestoppers1877]

Try this solution? There is an implied duty of the person who implies asking a question or interrogatory to listen with the goal of understanding. Most women fail at this because they ask questions for a different reason. They do not care about your answer they just want control. There are four types of sentences in the English language. The Interrogatory is a demand for action, but has no obvious requirement for her to actually LISTEN.or understand the answer. I predict she will resolve this by keeping you responding to more and more questions for ultimate "triumph". Once you teach her your understanding of these questions, if she continues I would be ambivalent, obtuse and ignore her. This is what you do to control children who play the same game. Someday she might grow up to be an adult? One attitude ALL women hate is being ignored! They can NEVER control you when you are ambivalent. Men who are successful getting the attention of women use this same ploy. Ignore her and they will follow. I don't know why, but I speculate they like a challenge to control men. I'll never know because I do not care. There are plenty of them keeping me "busy".

[@marknewton6984]

Communication is overrated. 😮

[@bartsullivan4866]

My ex wife could never make up her damn mind. I would ask her what she is in the mood for and she couldn't make a damn clear decision like Mexican sounds good, or Thai or whatever. Details can be important depending on the situation will there be a boatload of traffic, do you have to pay for parking, do you want a sit down cafe or something quick. She would get so grumpy and pissed when she was hungry but wouldn't speak up I am really starving lets stop at the nearest restaurant. So details can be important.

[@marknewton6984]

Details are important. Like Who you marry! 😮

[@tommygunn6901]

She's the epitome of she will be single for life. Too many try all these BS tactics, and then when they get the opportunity, they squander it because they've lost their minds. She's done a decade of therapy which kinda is painting therapy in a bad light. Therapy is not meant for life. Leave people like her alone

[@garden_dork]

No ... therapy just doesn't work. Just because you talk about it non step, doesn't give it any validity

[@grgryocean]

Not all therapy is equal. I went to a therapist for 3 years who didn’t make too much of a difference but then my insurance changed and I found a new therapist who called me on my sh*t and pushed me to actually be better. Sometimes people are frankly better off not going to therapy than a poor therapist. It’s why so many people who go to therapy are incredibly toxic.

[@tommygunn6901]

​@@grgryoceanI had to come to grips that therapy ain't for me a few years ago. That's speaking as a veteran with ptsd. That's even including being shuffled around too many times and I basically said "screw it"

[@konsolennerd]

Unfortunately not, she will find some simp to settle with, and then make his life miserable.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

The therapy point is where it's at. It would be like what if you went to a trainer to learn how to properly throw a baseball every week for 10 years. If you don't know how to throw a baseball by then then you're just SOL in life. She will be single for life because she's a broken loser. I do feel bad for guys that cross her pass because she'll wrap them up and suck out their insides like a spider lol

[@dustinalexander75]

This is why so many people are single. It's people like this that hurt people and change their minds about dating. Thanks for this video.

[@Swearengen1980]

You mean the man who waited a week to contact her and then can't manage more than 3 words in a text? And asks her to plan the date, losing any respect she may have had? This is all on the man for being a beta. Men plan dates and a real man knows how to communicate properly. He failed miserably at both.

[@HiroProtag]

@@Swearengen1980it’s two people trying to plan a date with bad communication, you’re definitely reading too deeply into this and need to touch grass, lmao

[@MikeyP109]

It's people like this that have you believing this woman is for real.

[@garden_dork]

Don't you love it when women who have no fathers go around telling what real men should be. A real women is in the kitchen 24/7. Lmao not so funny when the shoe is on the other foot all of a sudden

[@timtim818]

​@@MikeyP109 😂

[@spicybeefsalad]

okayyyyy I came here directly after seeing the video of her getting rejected by a matchmaker and I have to say...that matchmaker is SO good at her job omg. To be able to see this amount of red flags in a single meeting. good for her. no wonder she's so expensive. I hope she's out there living her best life.

[@mariaathena7910]

YES

[@AG-ms7sw]

I second this big time. This woman definitely rubbed me the wrong way after I watched the first video but as someone who is also quite strong minded and opinionated and can (problematically at times) resort to arrogance as a means of self defense, I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt... or at least have a little empathy because I kind of understand where its coming from. but after watching this.... she's just awful. AWFUL.

[@cristian-bull]

and not only that, she was actually respectful: "I feel right now you are not ready" What this woman understood: "you are not deserving of love as you are" 🤦🏾‍♂

[@spicybeefsalad]

@@cristian-bull yep if that's how she takes things from a matchmaker, imagine being in a relatinship with her. that shit 24/7. LIteral Hell.

[@lemonstealinghorse]

@@cristian-bull Because it's true, she isn't deserving of love as she is. She's 38, her personality is revolting, literally what does she offer to a man? This woman would make a man with a lush set of hair go bald within a year. Not everyone is worthy of love, nobody needs to go through all this with her. She needs to get better. Why do you people have such a difficult time telling women they need to get better? Men are constantly told how they need to improve to get results.

[@sithticklefingers7255]

I see that self-sabotage a lot. My coworker puts it this way; nobody (or at least, not most people) wants to acknowledge their failings, so they either date abject losers or sabotage a relationship with somebody “better” then them. It’s a lot easier to say to yourself and everyone “s/he was a loser” than “man, I really screwed that one up.”

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

It's 1000% self sabotage. The only problem is that she gets so much positive affirmations from equally broken people on the internet when what she really needs is a friend who will put her in her place.

[@ezecskornfan]

it's worrying how people abuse fake humility for the sake of not looking like "the bad guy". Grow some soddin' backbone people, it is ok not voice out if you don't like someone if they are asses.

[@sfertonoc]

I suppose. They act like they already are married with the dude under lock and key, balls hanging at the coat rack and getting warmed up to be divorced soon. But give it to her, Courtney seems to read her very quickly intuitively where most guys need an explanation from Courtney and would have no clue.

[@frotobaggins7169]

I don't think it's self sabotage in the least. It's pure entitlement. She sees herself as a prize that she should put all of his effort in to dazzling her with his time, attention and money. When he didn't live up to her lofty expectation she made other plans when she knew full well she already had plans with him. He should have moved on. She is not a prize.

[@zerocal76]

@@frotobaggins7169 Luckily for the world and any single men who live near her, she's well past her physical prime and the more attractive men will be looking elsewhere. Seriously, imagine this lady 10-15 yrs ago. She probably ghosted so many guys she didn't bother saving any numbers

[@bros4654]

There was a third update from her as well. She cut the guy off. He suggested a hockey game for their date, presumably to gauge interest, and she decided he didn't have a concrete enough plan detailed in his text. Like, I guess he was supposed to buy tickets and call an Uber before he knew if she wanted to go, LOL. On the plus side, the comments on her videos restored my faith a little bit. Plenty of people, mostly women, trying to call out the absurdity. So that's something, at least.

[@xchino0427]

Could you send link?

[@ezecskornfan]

oh, so beiing left on read is not now "basic etiquette"? :D

[@KH-nova]

Those same women calling her out probably act the same way irl

[@gregkareem9824]

U didn't answer the question or give a link out.

[@ezecskornfan]

@@gregkareem9824 only youtube links are admitted in comments. Rest are blocked.

[@donjamieson1292]

People. PLEASE stop trying to develop initial communications via text! You can't hear tone, inflection, emphasis and other things that help facilitate communication, clarification and understanding. Until you get to know someone and can better interpret their personal mannerisms... misunderstandings are inevitable. Use your (verbal) words!

[@poisonivy6477]

agreed. major reason why I do not like texting.

[@driftergrey]

Word

[@cristian-bull]

happened to me. It was a mess and we liked each other 😑

[@lopa-u9f]

I only use typed words to setup voice or video calls (I am a hermit living in the middle of nowhere and online is the only way to interact with people), but if there is any miscommunication, I call to TALK, because leaving messages on a device for them to leave you messages on a device is not talking

[@SethPentolope]

Unless you’re autistic. In which case, texting is an even playing field since the rest of that information is difficult to interpret. For those people, texting isn’t much different than talking.

[@driftracerr34]

I don’t have a Valentine this year, so I was feeling a little down…. Then I saw this video and realized that it’s probably a blessing in disguise being single in this dating landscape

[@marknewton6984]

Dating apps are scary...😅

[@Werebat]

My godmother once gave me this valuable saying: “There are worse things than being single - like wishing you were.” So true.

[@Ives1776]

Dating apps give this perspective, I didn’t meet a single woman with hobbies when I was on them and got ghosted far too many times. But real life dating is so damn easy. Met a girl not even trying but just by working with horses. Real life dating opportunities are just a different breed and I won’t settle for less.

[@MuslimTexasMan]

This is very true. I came to this realization years ago. It's much better to be single these days than to ruin your mental health with the damaged people that floods todays dating market.

[@sidmehere2964]

Enjoy your life where you are buddy!

[@rebelandboltman]

I confirmed a date for Saturday with a girl on Friday afternoon when I was in college. She said no, when she agreed before. I'm grateful to have known the day before rather than be stood up on the day of

[@nathansawicky6333]

Dude the number of times I've been cancelled on an hour before hand or just ghosted day of 😂. She sounds like a saint

[@Dr.HowieFeltersnatch]

I just want to know who is raising these women. If I ever have a daughter and found out she was agreeing to dates and then cancelling or ghosting, her behind would be black and blue. Disgusting behavior, and it unfortunately seems to be the majority of girls doing it.

[@SaithMasu12]

@@nathansawicky6333Happend to me as well. Girl phoned me the day after and apologized because she felt bad about it. I said: Have a nice life.

[@trinity6180]

This is the first time I have seen your channel. You are spot on. It is refreshing to see a sensible young woman. I would hate being young and dating in today’s dating climate. I am a 70 year old woman that has been married 45 years. I have watched decades of my kids and grandkids dating. It seems to have become more and more difficult to find the right person for many people.

[@rickyhernandez769]

She wanted him to read her mind, send her an itinerary and then fly up to her balcony on a magic carpet and show her the world. Is that too much to ask for on a second date? Jeez what’s wrong with that guy. 😂😂😂

[@OpLanters08]

😂

[@jennalavena]

AHHAHAHAHAHA

[@RespectMyAuthoritaah]

I am right there with you. The nerve of this guy. Probably slept right through Mind Reading 101. LOL

[@gravityissues5210]

This is the same girl that got rejected by a matchmaker. She griped about it, but even the professionals who had the means to milk her for thousands knew her only one true love in this world was herself.

[@RespectMyAuthoritaah]

@@gravityissues5210 100%

[@deejay7060]

There’s a 3rd update. She turned him down because she didn’t like what he came up with for a plan to meet up. I’m not lying.

[@thepragmatist]

Wow. That is crazy. I wonder if this woman is for real or if she's just doing it for TikTok views.

[@cniht]

@@thepragmatist Her goal is validation from random people on the internet. That's why she's posting it. She doesn't give two bowel movements about a potential relationship.

[@thepragmatist]

@@cniht That could very well be...I have no idea. I don't think it's a great idea to do that.

[@scalp340]

If this woman is posting actual things that is happening and this isn't all made up for clout. The fact that he tried again after she when out of her way to make things so difficult with the Dutch situation, tells me he'll come back again even tho she threw a wrench in the plans again and this is why I have no hope anymore entirely. Online dating has broke people's brains and no one learns anything about the dynamic (each other/themselves/the sexes/red and green flags, etc) as a whole. So good luck, maybe they deserve each other?

[@lot2196]

I sure hope that poor guy sees this.

[@carnivoreforlifepodcast5664]

This reminds me how exhausting dating can be, and why I don't usually bother with it. Being single is a nightmare these days. And don't even get me started on dating apps. Such a waste of time and a killer of happiness.

[@PeterAcrat]

IMO, The "laziness" and blame she is projecting onto him, is actually a clear description of her OWN behaviour and lack of accountability, since she: 1. Used minimal words to convey her meanings 2. Didn't reply to his text. 3. Avoided seeking further clarification on the already-minimal communications on the table ... and 4: She did him a favour and took her 'bullet' elsewhere ... helping him dodge it.

[@JACk79457]

That woman reminds me of my ex & I wish She wasn’t real but it was a miserable two years lol Insufferable attitude of people like this

[@3vamtb]

You can never imagine how horrible this situation is in real time face to face. To carry an entire conversation for 1-2 words responses god damn! It definitely did not work out for me, and I am happy that it didn't!😅

[@lazysnorlax3015]

This is one thing that frustrates me when it comes to modern dating. A lot of people are quite lazy and don't want to work with the person instead expect them to do everything. And on top of that the bad communication makes it 10x worse.

[@EK6O3O]

the 1st women is what I hate bout online dating... people overthinking the situation and assuming this stranger knows what you want

[@Swearengen1980]

No, the woman expected the man to act like a damn man. They're both in the wrong here, as is Courtney. Man waited a week to even text her and all he can muster up is a few words? Everything that guy texted was 2-3 words. Loser with no communication skills. And he does basically ask her to plan the date = weak. Women don't respect that. You don't get the kind of woman you people expect by asking her everything she wants because she'll think you're a bitch and find a real man. Real men make the date, make sure the time works, and tells her where to be if he's not picking her up. She wants a dominant man and she found a beta. Once you're in a relationship or past the initial dating stage, then you can ask her what she's in the mood for. Both of those people suck and neither can communicate well.

[@aross5234]

It’s the same woman in both vids

[@thepragmatist]

Agree.

[@HaleyMary]

I agree. This is why I sometimes overexplain myself to people because I'm afraid of a misunderstanding.

[@dougbarnowski5224]

1st woman what are you taliking about? What did you watch! Its the same woman. Are you that dumb!

[@isidarmitrim]

You know that you are giving incredible advice, even to me 2 years in a realtionship! You can read things in so many ways, so clear communication and comfirming what you think is said is so important!!!

[@TheHaiku2]

He handled that a lot more politely than I would have.

[@sleazybtd]

Don't do that. Don't give her the chaos that she's craving. Best course of action is to just walk and forget she ever existed.

[@marknewton6984]

​@@sleazybtdYes. Move on.

[@hitomukawakami7124]

I’ve been with some women who were unfortunately very egocentric and left me in shambles for a bit, but I am blessed to have had other women who were truly inspiring in the way they carried themselves and cared for me. Plenty of great ones out there! Patience!

[@Lenny_Hondo]

Plenty? Nope.

[@dritzzdarkwood4727]

It's a question of math. Math doesn't lie or have an agenda. If the majority of women act like this, and empirical data seem to suggest so, then logic dictates that there can't be "plenty" since we're now dealing with miniscule numbers compared to the vast majority.

[@hitomukawakami7124]

@@dritzzdarkwood4727 I’m gonna need you to cite your sources. Also, you need to clearly elaborate what you mean by “act like this” and then share with me the data spreadsheets since according to you the math is very clear. Ironically enough, you seem to just be doling out an emotional argument, which is what women are stereotyped as doing. I think what’s happening here is you’ve never been in a relationship and would rather appeal to some elusive, ghostly “empirical data” than look yourself in the mirror and acknowledge that you’re the problem.

[@Lisuuun]

could you describe more details on how her being egocentric affected you? i have the feeling that my ex was also like that and im trying to figure it out

[@robertwilson3866]

A lot of women are egocentric because of how most men treat them. I made an online profile once for a female friend and before I passed it over to her - some of the ridiculous simping messages from guys were incredible. Also most messages just said "Hey" or "hey babe x". Some guys try too hard, some do nothing...

[@ronaldreagan-ik6hz]

you can just feel her arrogance via insecurity in 30 seconds.

[@GusMix79]

You analyzed the video perfectly! 👍🏻 I can’t count anymore how often I had similar experiences with women. These women will be single for the rest of their lives and they don’t even get it. They’re so narcissistic they just can’t think that they’re maybe a little bit the problem.

[@Portia620]

Sadly NPD or narcissistic persons will never change and it’s always everyone else! They are miserable and want everyone else that way too!!!! This lady was annoying and that guy…what did he see!??????

[@AlexTrainsChest]

Courtney is so surprised but being in that guy’s position is 90% of dating for men. The other 10% is girl flaking, not over her ex, using you for validation, or worst of all, thinking things went well after a first date only to get ghosted. And we men go through all that just for the “reward” of potentially getting married which basically means we lose half our shit if she gets bored.

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

Since I stopped dating I completed my car audio build. Time for other projects. Dating is such a waste of time

[@lockyp204]

Most of them are just looking for a man to pay for everything. Nothing more.

[@doom9603]

@@BrianWaller-qe7gr it's really like that. I mean just enjoy the good convos and learning people. Drop the dating shit 😆 If she wants something I think she must make a turn.

[@leonh2044]

Summed it up pretty well my guy. It's rough out here.

[@lockyp204]

That’s a no from me 👍

[@jamesrefalo6331]

I am aging myself, but well over ten years ago, I tried some of these internet dating apps. Everyone one that met with was nuts. Then I said the hell with it, went about my own business, and I met several attractive women just being myself.

[@rs3nlv582]

I’m so glad you bring up these types of interactions… I was left on “read”. Didn’t pursue or push. I’m not going to waste energy trying to convince someone 🤝🏼

[@josephmay4942]

I am a doctor: Pick up the phone and talk. texting is confusing, leave out information and leads to confusion. A person can tell more by sound of the other person's voice. With the tone of her voice, I would have told her: "My mistake, have a great live." Second date, I going to the dog fights, care to join me? LOL

[@hgbugalou]

I hate talking on the phone myself. Texting can be an effective communications tool for something this simple. The woman just put 0 effort into it because she got mad the guy had the "audacity" to make her pick a restaurant. If you are talking about a complex or emotional subject I agree with y our statement, but a phone call is not needed to go to lunch with someone.

[@blad_3]

This video cured half my trauma and self-gaslighting I put myself through thinking I'm the problem.. 😭😭😭 thank goodness this exists and I crossed it

[@norbucso]

I told my date back than I was relatively new to the city so if she knows good places or want to try out one she hasn't tried yet we can go there for a date. She was looking at me weird at first but she knew I was genuine and she liked that she can be a tour guide sometimes and explain the city to me. Now she is my girlfriend and happy to show me around. I take care of her and she takes care of me. It's not that difficult.

[@BethJehovah]

You didn't get to know your new city first? I date the city before I start dating the women.

[@watamutha]

Man if this guy saw any of her viral videos about her thought process, he'd be running for the hills screaming.

[@marknewton6984]

Run,man. Far...

[@Pedsonc01]

Ms. Ryan, you are doing a great service to civilization by your video critiques of the verdant, adolescent behaviors of twenty-first women. I am married 51 years in June of 2024, and cannot wrap my mind around the attitudes and behaviors of these twenty-first century women, or their "requirements" for finding a life partner. Men are human beings and have never (at least in my lifetime) been a "build-to-print" commodity. Please keep publishing. My wife, the psychiatrist, laughs at the women in your videos.

[@daniwanicki]

This is exactly what happened with one of my dates. I offered to drive her way, asked if she knew a good spot, we decided on a spot. When I texted to confirm the date the day before I got ghosted. I assume she found someone else, whatever, but I didn't even get the courtesy of "no I'm not available." I stopped dating completely because being constantly ghosted was taking a toll on my mental health.

[@grgryocean]

I would say don’t give up! I used to get pretty hurt by ghosting but then I reframed and internalized it not as a woman rejecting me but rejecting herself. She doesn’t believe in her ability to communicate nor is she aware that ghosting is immature and can be harmful. The best thing is to take things slow and focus on yourself.

[@TRUTHaintHATING]

I don't blame you. Same exact thing happened to me. And I try to take calculated chances on asking someone out and I still get ghosted. So it's just tiring and starting to be pointless to attempt anymore

[@TRUTHaintHATING]

​@@grgryoceanthey don't care about being immature because they all feel this is the thing to do. I had a fine looking Asian woman do that to me and she was ten years plus older than me. And she was giving me the eye in the bar. So they don't seem Nothing wrong with ghosting us

[@case6189]

Been ghosted practically everytime bro don’t sweat it average chicks nowadays have 30 dudes hitting them up at a time they just pick what their fetish is for the week and don’t bother responding to the rest 😂 my dog is 10x better than these women much less maintenance as well

[@TitansPrince]

@@grgryocean They are 100% aware how harmful ghosting is, have you not seen the videos of them crying over getting ghosted by guys for arbitrary reasons? They just don't care. Any woman who does stuff like that has become desensitized or was likely hurt in the past so uses that to justify future poor behaviour

[@jayboogie1295]

You hit the nail on the head. People act like this girl because they want to stay single. It’s sociopathic to act like that girl. These are the types of people that are chronically single and they go on tons of dates and are never in relationships. She’s even sabotaging her dating life by going on TikTok and talking about/bashing guys she’s dating. If you are a guy and find a girl who is on TikTok bashing guys she’s dating, you would never want to date her.

[@doom9603]

Everyone who is on TikTok is not socially compatible with the world just saying. They're full of Chinese propaganda AND socially destroyed. Also, people who are far too active for non-business reasons on Social Media, should be avoided at all.

[@BigSleepyJoeCooking]

Its not sociopathic its solipsistic

[@christopherjohnson4934]

She wants attention, not affection.

[@AnonymousProPublicaHakr]

These are the ones that accuse people of things they didn’t do -

[@gravityissues5210]

She’s living her best life getting all those butt-pats on TikTok. Never been happier I’m sure.

[@AvivaSingsOut]

YOU are so sweet to make this helpful video for her. YOU also have this classic look and voice so I feel like I"m watching Jane Austin in real time with today's modern relationship issues. Love this.

[@davesmith826]

I've been on dating apps for about a year. The exchanges I've had with women mirror the above very closely, but the typical exchange begins with a woman matching with me (I don't match with them), continues with me writing to them (if they meet my criteria), and ends there - no comment, no acknowledgement, no sign that I'm dealing with anything other than a bot. I've spoken to some female friends of mine and they're adamant these women do exist. They're just looking for validation from random men whom they never plan to meet. Imagine being so painfully insecure that you feel compelled to reach out to complete strangers to gain their attention. Then ask yourself this: why would you do this and not actually meet up? I'll tell you why: these women are *already in relationships* and are using the dating apps to keep their options permanently open. They have no honour, no integrity, and no future with a self-respecting man.

[@davesmith826]

Edit: I just this minute got a message from a woman who reached out to me in early January. I wrote back to her at the time but she never responded. Six weeks passes and she decides to write (I quote): 'Sorry, I had a busy January'. So busy, apparently, that she couldn't spare 30 seconds to write to me to explain she's busy. And now she thinks I'm going to welcome the opportunity of dating her. I am objectively better-looking than her and a lot more successful in terms of my career. On what planet do these bird brains live?

[@rynegade]

The proper dating technique: Create plans for a definite date and general time (eg. Sunday afternoon) a few days or a week before. This lets the person get excited about the date, show you off to their friends, and generally give them something to look forward to during the week. Touch base at least 16 hours before the date (6 pm Saturday for a noon Sunday date). This is to confirm the date when women are most flaky early on, and lets you judge their interest and how to approach the date, romantic, unserious, etc. Set a definite time and location. Women do not like making decisions so even if you are traveling to them, pick a restaurant local to them that has great reviews, and make a reservation. Do not text again! Meet them inside the location exactly on time! You want them to have tiny expectant butterflies.

[@lemonstealinghorse]

Oh ok, follow more instructions than those special Japanese boxes to get a woman like this who's gonna suck all your blood through a straw. Yes, we definitely need to be more methodical to get these insane women.

[@octavianr526]

Very good video, with a very good approach to communication. You are so well-balanced in commenting on that video, summarizing things, and stressing out each side of it. I believe a little bit of humbleness on each side (he and she, men and women), an open attitude to clarify things ("The Dutch" misunderstanding), and a lesser attitude of jumping to conclusions/rejection would be constructive - giving the fact that the first date was appreciated as nice. Of course, if there are gut feelings that something is not right, rejection is a survival necessary thing, but this wasn't the case. Your kind approach of both parts is filled with calm, equilibrium, sincerity, and charm, thank you.

[@chall9704]

Totallly agree - I am stunned he followed up! Some red flags in women you should never ignore.

[@comicus6769]

There's your strong and independent woman right there as she expects him to do everything. He should just hit and run for the hills.

[@marknewton6984]

Forget it. Move on😮

[@jimglass1290]

Another tip: *Call on the phone*. Voices carry 100x more information than texts, and get instant feedback with 100x more. There'd have been no misunderstanding about the second date if they'd talked. The "call" button is right there next to the "text" button. I've seen countless misunderstandings about texts leading to fights and worse that would never have occurred if someone had bothered to hit the "call" button instead. The two of them actually could have had a pleasant conversation they both enjoyed while planning the second date. Why is everyone so addicted to texting instead of calling when trying to communicate with someone else?

[@jlogan2228]

bc texting is easier to manipulate than talking hence why women prefer it, woment talk a big game about wanting a good communicator but they SUCK at it

[@simonbrown8509]

Good point, in various areas of life I see people picking the wrong form of communication. The multiplicity of modern methods doesn't help, of course. But picking up the phone rather than using texts or email, is rarely the wrong choice !!

[@brandoq1236]

so true!!

[@KH-nova]

Yeah right she wouldve just gotten bichy over the phone lmaoo i get your point tho

[@corujariousa]

Thanks for the educated adult and civilized approach you demonstrated in this video. So many things should be commonsense but unfortunately society is shaped differently. Only if we could all be respectful and considerate, without games, sense of entitlement and superiority...

[@thepragmatist]

Honestly, there is no way I would date someone if I found out they were making videos about me texting them. That's an invasion of privacy...OMG. She lives in Philly. I live here as well - born and raised. I promise you we are not all like this.

[@gravityissues5210]

So anyway, mostly all I care about is: how _is_ The Dutch? Is it all that?

[@thepragmatist]

@@gravityissues5210 I've never been to The Dutch but it looks like a great restaurant. It's in a great area. Def worth checking out.

[@Defaultpfpguy]

Good video! I like how you really took apart the whole conversation and analyzed it, really made me think more about the subject. I also find it refreshing from other channels that discuss dating and modern dating that you had a neutral view on the woman in the video wishing good for her despite her making mistakes because everyone does, regardless of if theyre a woman or a man.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you so much for your kind comment 🥹❤️ this means a lot to me!

[@Portia620]

Amen!!! Growth is important

[@jeffisaliar]

I've been through this crap with women. I was talking to a gal, but had not met her yet, and didn't text her a few days because I was slammed at work and she refused to talk to me AND I was the last one to text before that, she hasn't made any attempt to text me so I didn't know anything was up. She just completely broke off talking to me because I didn't text her a couple of days. Mental!

[@BethJehovah]

Gotta move faster buddy. You let her get bored and irritated.

[@bennysworld9836]

I’m glad men have a sympathetic ally. Thank you for being so compassionate, reasonable, and understanding. 🎉

[@bluetickbeagles116]

Yes, many men have a sympathetic ally. We’re here for you, as women. And yes, women can crush relationships as well as men. Both sexes can be destructive and it’s a case by case scenario.

[@bennysworld9836]

@@bluetickbeagles116 that’s very reasonable thank you.

[@KH-nova]

You mean empathy? Compassionate? You get sympathy when someone dies

[@langhamp8912]

The guy is obviously very experienced with flaky women; he (as do all men eventually) confirmed the date the previous day, and when she was ambivalent he tried one more time, then didn't worry about it anymore after a carefully neutral "ok cool" final text. An "ok cool" text can be interpreted in any way she wants to. I do think so many things can go wrong on a 2nd date with ambivalent women, and that's actually a good thing. If she's not moving heaven and earth to get a second date with you, then you can't outspend and out-entertain your way into her interest.

[@txmountainman45]

Exactly. She failed to land her dream man, and she is too clueless to know better! When she fails, instead of learning how to do better next time, she makes a video teaching the sought after men she craves how to stop her from continuing to fail. Thirsty men (losers) then line up to tell her how wonderful she is. Meanwhile another woman is busy landing the man she missed.

[@Skywalker721]

After an “ok cool” text, he most likely views her as a backup plan/recreational only kind of woman. She’s proving she’s not to be taken seriously.

[@garden_dork]

OK cool is just a gentlemen's way of saying YOU BELONG TO THE STREETS

[@kieranmccabe2729]

100% agree with you Courtney. Wish there was more like you. Plus you have a lovely voice

[@EZ3ChordCountry.]

Courtney, you are a real sweetheart. Thanks for being a voice of reason and sanity.

[@ianmasikini6552]

I watch this channel because your perspective and personality are a breath of fresh air :)

[@Emilio.thrive]

Courtney you're spot on!! Period. Love your channel! 😉

[@asdax8311]

When will there be a college major in deciphering dating text messages to take student loans for?

[@michaelstein7510]

That would still be more practical knowledge than some of the electives I took in college.😂

[@aolvaar8792]

@@michaelstein7510 Why is your degree program allowing electives? My University: you will take and pass these courses.

[@ceasetheday87]

This is the issue with communicating via text message instead of verbally whether by telephone or in person. In person is best because you also get the body language. This miscommunication could have all been avoided.

[@Justanothercog24]

Ugh yes. I honestly hate text these days. There's way too much room to misinterpret words, tone, lacks any emotional depth. Whatever thoughts/ feels the receiver gets is just what they project onto the screen. You can cover so much more ground & make a better connection over a 15 min call compared to an entire day consumed with distracted texting.

[@TRUTHaintHATING]

​@@Justanothercog24I agree so much this is the main reason I was stopping online dating. Because I'm not from that error but ppl from my generation started to be on that. And it just leaves you frustrated. So I think that and fake profiles killed online dating atleast with me

[@RespectMyAuthoritaah]

Thankfully, this miscommunication did happen. LOL

[@MySimDied]

Communicating online suits women better than it probably suits guys. Not man bashing here but I always found I could be bullied a little bit in person. I know you say you get the body language but guys will often hear what they want to hear and I struggled with guys who were pushy and with saying no. That's obviously on me, but it's a big reason why a lot of us prefer chatting online. We have more control of the situation and there's more time to respond. Again I think free flowing conversation probably suits guys better, but women have to be a bit more careful what we say, especially in the early stages, so as not to give off the wrong signals and things. So having that time to check the response is better as well and causes less miscommunication in the long term. But yeah, always a danger of misunderstanding when texting.

[@RespectMyAuthoritaah]

@@MySimDied You are truly delusional. When you are online you give away all your female power. Your personal presence, in front of a man, is more powerful than anything you can say in a text message. Men are hard wired to respond to your physical presence. Why give away any advantage you have?

[@ian.swift.31614]

the way I see it with women who expect immediate understanding about things who seem like they want you to read their minds is they're looking for people who are already on their wavelength instead of making the effort to get someone they like on their wavelength.

[@TheBaumcm]

Men and women like this are straight up narcissists, where their ego is the only things that matters. Everything revolves around protecting it and that means you have to bend to them.

[@DavidCartmellDJCartmell]

Saddest thing about modern dating is almost everyone expects the other person to be a mind reader we’re not! Basic communication, understanding and good manners seem to be getting rare these days.

[@lemonstealinghorse]

You mean ♀

[@buybuydandavis]

"let me do all the heavy lifting for you buddy" The sense of entitlement that it is his job to do all the planning to make their second date happen.

[@WhyYoutubeWhy]

He invited her, so yeah, she's right on that though.

[@buybuydandavis]

@@WhyKZbinWhy He took the initiative to suggest they get together again. Is that the way your life works? Whoever says "let's get together again" is expected to plan what you *both* will be doing? The second person has no say and no responsibility?

[@florianlaur5300]

She describes herself as a leader with Alpha energy. Wouldn't a leader take charge and plan the date and do all the heavy lifting?

[@WhyYoutubeWhy]

@@florianlaur5300 Not if she's not the one who asked for the date. She also said in her previous video that she didn't want to take charge all the time, that's why she also wants a guy who is also an A.

[@WhyYoutubeWhy]

@@buybuydandavis He didn't say do you want to get together again, he precisely invited her for brunch.

[@Cmdtheartist]

She seems charming. I really love the spell-casting hand gestures, like a witch in front of her cauldron.

[@toptechtowing6340]

Ya this one girl was telling me she was busy working. 6 hours later I get a text saying I guess you don't care to talk to me... Like what the actual fudge popsicles??? 😂😂

[@accesschilly]

texting is only for making plans anyway. don't "chat" unless in person

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

Then they say “I don’t want a pen pal. Women are such energy wasters just focus on other stuff

[@KevvoLightswift]

Western women are very odd creatures....

[@doom9603]

@@accesschilly which is already sick. Do you need a partner that never wants to chat? But yes I kinda enjoy when nobody is spamming me. 😆

[@bennefib]

Legit expecting you to chase on the chaotic nature of that

[@KartGaming]

Had a very similar situation once or twice while on the market, good thing they showed who they were before I spent my time and resources further.

[@marknewton6984]

Run early. Don't waste time...

[@limitlessperformance4755]

The “ok cool” response at the end 👏🏾. Hes seen this type of woman before and he’s over it.

[@EricMoore790]

Courtney looking into the camera concerned lol

[@selfoblivionalex6262]

I like how this was uploaded on Valentine day lol.

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂❤️

[@flyer617]

I've encountered women like this. I simply saw it as lack of interest in going any further and moved on. Back when I was dating we didn't have texting but talked on the phone which I think is better. This woman wouldn't have made the cut. There are actually lots of women out there (even today!) that have it together. What's important is to get yourself out there and gain experience like this. P.S., been married now for over 40 years; house, family, cars, plane. You can do all of that with the right partner.

[@Capt.Skully]

Omg I'm slightly feeling sorry for myself since I'm single on valentine's. As I'm watching this I'm thinking about my ex who recently dumped me over text on new years eve. And this is the kind of crap she would pull right around 4:05. She would say I haven't heard from you...when I was the last one to text!!! I'm laughing so hard right now because Courtney is my conscience when she pauses the video around the 4min mark because these were my exact thoughts going through it and watching the vid. I am no longer feeling sorry for myself, I'd rather be single than deal with that anymore lol.

[@beerberger5461]

Just remember that not all people are like this :)

[@peterkallend5012]

Yeah, I've seen this woman before. She's a real gem. End sarcasm. She's the type that blames others for her failures.

[@chrismcaulay7805]

Haha, I would NEVER 100% plan anything for a date. I may layout a framework but I never ever did 100% of the work. If she wont put anything in, then she isnt really interested... Im happily married for 15 years btw... So it works...

[@raytracer5726]

If she does not want to make any effort, she's not into you anyway.

[@Ponchoed]

Smart man, you got the early pickings when younger

[@TRUTHaintHATING]

​@jonw999999 facts I played to much when I was young in my life it's about 6 girls I wish I was smart enough to stop playing around. But I didn't and I gotta pick from leftovers that others didn't want. So I rather be single until a opportunity shows up. BTW I'm in my late 30s

[@marcosirsav3860]

I agree with all your points, what I would change though is the first 3 dates, I'd take the initiative to plan from beginning to end, so I check her schedule for availbility, then find a place that works, usually 1st date is neutral for both, 2nd date is closer to her spot so I"d find a spot near her area, 3rd could be closer to my spot. I do find that most women like to not have to worry about logistics of a date, so taking that out of consideration gives them less to think about and just show up and have fun.

[@Justanothercog24]

I'd like to point out that you end up setting the tone for expectations regarding planning future dates & level of effort that way. If you do that for all 3 dates & then suddenly stop without communication regarding wanting them to have input, you'll create room for miscommunication or come off as very wishy-washy & suddenly uninterested. It's better to either tell ppl upfront how you move in dating or maintain consistency you set for yourself.

[@marcosirsav3860]

@@Justanothercog24 Well, you should always communicate your needs and if you'd lke them to plan some dates, then also communicate that. I like planning dates, so Im consistent but not everyone does so def see your point.

[@Justanothercog24]

@@marcosirsav3860 yeah, a lot of ppl really don't communicate well, but it seems a lot of internet advice actively works against communication. All the jealousy or ignoring/ chasing mind games, ppl having their own little code words for casual sex, assuming "if a man/ woman says X, it means Z & ONLY Z", applying wild assumptions or hidden meanings to the most basic things. None of those help. It leaves no room for nuance, treating ppl as individuals & no room for the give & take of communication. I've run into the issue a lot where I say 1 thing, totally serious, direct & honest, but still not be taken seriously because the other reacts to what they have going on in their heads rather than paying attention & responding to what's happening in real time. That's an total recipe for failure, yet many aren't even aware how they shoot themselves in the foot.

[@GregJoshuaW]

This is the good side of KZbin which is rare. Thanks for being a good human being.

[@om617yota8]

He saw where this was headed and pulled the eject handle. Well done.

[@marknewton6984]

Get out early.

[@TheiLUMInatedOne]

“he missed out”. Oh absolutely. He missed out on a traumatic life experience. Somebody somewhere was really looking out for this guy.

[@jackstutz2860]

This happens to me a lot actually, where I'm trying to plan a date while making sure that it's something she wants to do and then women get mad at me or blow me off cause they think I want them to do the heavy lifting. I'm like, no I just want to make sure you're going to have a good time with what we do. I know for a fact that some things I find fun, others might not so I just want to make sure, especially if it's early in the dating scene, that both of us will enjoy ourselves. Anyway, those experiences have unfortunately made me less and less communicative because I'm afraid of getting tossed aside again for asking questions and trying to value her wants and needs. Being left on read is the absolute worst

[@Theviewerdude]

It's a bullet dodged each and every time it happens. The absurd standards and expectations are a massive red flag, they won't stop with the first few dates

[@Dr.HowieFeltersnatch]

Just don’t do that. I think the same way you do, but you have to learn to override your natural manners. Pick a generic upscale restaurant (nothing crazy fancy) that has a decent steak and pasta on the menu. Ask her if she wants to go there on a saturday evening. If she can’t be free that time, and doesn’t offer to reschedule, she isn’t interested. Maybe try one more time a week or two later. After that, move on. Don’t let her pick anything about the first 3 dates.

[@mbtiger93]

Could immediately tell based on the brunch places mentioned this is in Philly (where I live). Have many friends who are single and can confirm anecdotally that dating dynamics here are trash.

[@zfehnel]

I'm a little bit above you in the Lehigh Valley and used to live down in Philly. It's rough.

[@SlyGuyJay]

I don't live to far from Philly and girls expect guys to drop lots of coin at a nice restaurant in Center City, Old Town, etc for the first date. Like no, I'm keeping it simple and we're getting coffee. I'm not making a massive investment until I get a better understanding of your personality, morals, values, and perspectives about life.

[@Cooliewhistles]

I’ve never met a Philly person who isn’t ultra abrasive

[@JohnnyinCLE]

lol, looking at the text in the background, I would swear that were me (if I were available) 🤣 Your takes, as always Courtney, is spot on. Confirming and asking where your date wants to go, is always a good idea IMO. And "The Dutch, Aye" is confirming. No different than if I were to text back "Ah, yes yes" It seems that there are some women who will complain if we don't show an interest, and then by the same breath, will complain that we ask questions related to catering to her. No offense Danielle (the woman on the TikTok), but that was not a good look. It seemed rather manipulative to flake, and I'm sure the guy found a better date. Bullets were dodged with this. I hope the guy found a better date shortly after.

[@BillysFingers]

The last date i went on was very similar to this. I flew 3,700km to her place just for a weekend and got told off for being 20 minutes late. I'd taken two flights and a rental car across a foreign city, travelling all day and she went off at me for being a few minutes late. I spent $4000 on the weekend travel and she was similar to the one in the video. I tried my best... what more could i have done?

[@Daddy2025HQ]

My advice focuses on yourself goals and dreams the table will turn.

[@nightfangs2910]

As a man just listening to her and miscommunication of everything is causing me high anxiety, it's no small wonder why men have had enough

[@Swearengen1980]

Maybe women have had enough of betas who can't act like men and plan a date. There's fault enough to go around for everyone, but in this specific scenario, the man is wrong at every turn, from his pathetic 3 word texts, to waiting a week to message, to screwing up how to be courteous and still plan the date himself. Any woman would have no respect for that man, just not an annoying one like her.

[@MikeyP109]

If you're getting anxious over a tik tok video therapy is in order.

[@nightfangs2910]

@@MikeyP109 been to therapy group and one on one never very helpful, most psychologist are there for a paycheck not much more

[@MariaH20683]

​@MikeyP109 you sound like a gaslighter. Maybe you need therapy.

[@arinael]

One thing i have realised from these videos and conversations is "texting is not a good option when you want to go out with some, i mean social media " as you cannot express your emotions or how you perceive something in text or with words so they can use either video messages or voice messages or just a direct call 🤙.

[@ChrisW1019]

Things like this always remind me of the song, "If you don't know me by now". Unfortunately this happens both after 1st dates and 20 years of marriage. We all need to be better at communication. No one is or ever will be a mind reader, so communicate as effectively as possible.

[@doom9603]

It's less about communication, more about character. Those people have no character 💀

[@marknewton6984]

Communication is overrated. 😮

[@OTCyankee23]

This is why as a man I’ve given up trying to make plans with let alone date a woman nowadays, they either go all passive aggressive like this lady and pick apart everything you say or do, or they agree to do something then end up just ignoring you and blame you when things fall apart. Someone make it make sense. 🧐🤔

[@user-og6hl6lv7p]

Bro it's so pathetic how bad women are at planning dates. I was seeing a girl last year and she decided it was a good idea to suggest re-planning the date 10 MINUTES BEFORE THE FILM STARTED. Does birth control have something to do with this? I refuse to believe well adjusted, healthy women think and act this way normally.

[@drds_815]

@@user-og6hl6lv7p "Does birth control have something to do with this?" LOL, I wouldn't be surprised if that was the case. It also seems like it leads to women being more susceptible to breast cancer. I mean, think about it, it's pumping in certain hormones to disrupt the natural hormonal system of a woman's body. What could go wrong? Plus, I'm sure many of them are on anti-depressants meds also -- which are even worse in disrupting people's normal endocrine system. modern medicine is a fucking joke...

[@marknewton6984]

Never makes sense 😮!

[@mark7166]

I've been married for nearly 18 years (got married at 22), and man... has shit ever changed since I was dating. I hope like hell I never have to go through dating in this strange era of entitled women. Of course, not all women are like this, but it seems like SO MANY ARE. I had a friend who was sort of like this, but she was not nearly as bad. Yikes. I also don't think I could date a girl who had an active TikTok account. No way would I trust that she wouldn't air our dirty laundry to the world, as if anybody but us should actually give a shit.

[@rickglaze644]

Courtney & Team - I wanted to start by saying your production value and content are incredibly crisp and well done. As I watched some videos, I was a bit conflicted in that while I appreciate someone who is great at their craft, it didn't really resonate with me. Took a bit of reflection to figure out why. I had to think back across my own life after 51 years on this planet. And I arrived at my actual problem...the problem that your content does not address. I haven't watched all your videos, so maybe I'm jumping the gun a bit. But after watching a few, and perusing your titles, I *think* I know what my issue is. What I realized was in my younger years, the surface priorities your videos focus on to generate attraction was where I spent my time. The right hair cut, the right clothes, the right demeanor, a solid flirt game, and an emotional indifference that bordered on sociopathic. I enjoyed a great deal of success. What I found out was....all those things...they have nothing to do with who I am. Who I want to be. After a few horror show relationships, I started to revaluate my life and who I was and it became important to me to be a good person. To conduct myself with honesty and integrity. To treat people with respect and kindness. To understand my role in the world in relation to all other people. To hold myself neither above or below anyone, and to lean in hard to the idea that we all have value, we all deserve equality, and we all deserve a modicum of compassion. To work hard, to contribute, to look after the ones I care about and to provide for them a better experience than I have had in this life. To be true to myself and my inner narrative. Now lets pivot back to the lion's share of your advice. What shoes to wear, what haircut to have, how to best present yourself with what you have to work with. But not one thing at all is about....who you are as a person. Your advice and insights are accurate. You are providing good guidance to help men find partners. But none of your content actually address the problem a lot of men actually face. Here is the problem from my viewpoint. I have spent my life figuring out how to be a good person, a positive influence, someone who cares for the people in my life and actively works to build meaningful, deep connections. That is who I want to be, that is what makes me feel good about my path. But as you have abundantly illustrated....those things...they clearly do not matter when it comes to attracting women. So for the men that did the heavy lifting in becoming...A man, we are learning....that isn't what will get you a woman. But the goal...the real goal has never been....getting a woman. The goal is always...how do I find the women that value the meaningful things that are important to me. Ironically, the standard advice is...spend all your time and effort on your attraction game, because substance doesn't matter. When to us...substance matters more than anything. And quite frankly if who I want to be isn't attractive to women...they are not the women for me, because I need to be something more than the guy with a good haircut and clean nails. Its genuinely just not worth our time. I am absolutely sure there are women out there who do fit that bill. Here is the thing...they are probably already married, and my slow coach ass missed the train. Anyhoo....just wanted to present a point of view I don't see reflected in many of your videos. You go pretty light on the schadenfreude clickbait of women regretting their choices, and I applaud you on not dropping to the LCD of mass appeal. Of all the things you get right in your videos and your content creation...that clue to your integrity is the thing that stands out the most to me. Maybe you could cover this particular topic. Might be pretty popular. Oh I suppose I should give my stats, the ones that seem to matter in these situations. I'm 6'3", 215 lbs, top 10% of earners in the nation, mildly attractive, decent fashion sense. I wear grown up shoes, I dress like a grown up, I have a well put together life. I am intelligent and funny, and navigating social situations with great skill is critical to my work. Oh and I trim my nails. :) Its not that I cant follow your advice. I already am there. It's just that...the women I encounter don't value the most important parts of me to me. And that's just....eh it is unattractive AF. And once I get there...I truly just don't care. Its not worth it. My time is valuable as is my mental and emotional well being.

[@smffboe7733]

Good luck! It took my husband 60 years of pickiness to find me, the perfect one. Haha! I’m far from perfect but I’m perfect for him and I check off all the boxes for him and then some. You have a great head on your shoulders because you are looking for someone that shares your values. That’s what my husband did and after two years of marriage we still pinch ourselves that we found each other.

[@mikesecor6074]

like to type much?

[@seiteki4672]

Now you see why we struggle so much 😅😂😂u literally have to get to the point of not caring until they put in the effort to try something with u which again still makes no sense to me

[@TRUTHaintHATING]

Yup makes no sense

[@TRUTHaintHATING]

But the thing is guys are not raised like that so we gotta turn to what girls always said what they hated about some guys.. shit is weird

[@BenCarpenterWrites]

“I don’t know if that’s what happened” muttered under your breath 😂 pure comedy and reality

[@pwilkinson714]

I’m definitely not defending this woman’s immature behavior and poor communication in the 1st video. That said - and this is just my opinion as a dude - if you’re inviting the girl out, you should be proposing a time/date/location days or a week in advance (under normal circumstances). This doesn't mean you always have to do 100% of the planning, but you should at least be taking the lead for the first few dates until you get the ball rolling. To me that is just proper planning and being respectful of people’s schedules. It shows that you're confident, have your life together, and care. To illustrate my point - you wouldn't invite your friends to a dinner party and then text them the night before, "so what time do you want to meet and what should I make?" Well, I wouldn't do that at least! It was nice to see she was able to communicate better in the 2nd video. In my opinion, after she said she likes a solid plan and is free Saturday, the guy should have responded with a proposed plan for that Saturday. Instead, he said he would “plan something as we get closer.” I guess this dude just isn’t much of a planner - but IMO that’s a lame response. She just said she’s free Saturday so now you’re going to make her hold her schedule open the entire day until you come up with something? If he wasn’t sure if he could commit to Saturday, just say “I am not sure yet if I’ll be free, can I let you know by Wednesday or can we plan for a different day?” Or something like that. So the dude here could really work on better communication himself.

[@xonmatheus]

That's an amazing video Courtney. Right on point.

[@JefeC]

Fav for women, being proactively nice with an act of service, fending off other dudes or being aware, admitting fault because most smart people know what’s right and wrong

[@PoiosAftos]

Poor guy. He was out and went back in willingly... 🤦‍♂

[@rickmenasco322]

Yes, this dude dodged a bullet. With that said, how 'bout we use our phones for the thing it was originally designed to do, like make a phone call. An actual voice to voice conversation could have prevented any confusion.

[@Blahzay-m84]

amen to that; texting is a sure fire way to miscommunication.

[@doom9603]

Even with calling this wouldn't have changed. You just hear the other person lying to your ears. It's all the same - the medium doesn't matter, only the characters matter. A lesson I painfully learned.

[@Blahzay-m84]

less texting clears things up for the sane among us. in this case, youre right, it wouldn't matter unless you had tape on her mouth, and only you were allowed to talk and just get a head shake when you were understood.@@doom9603

[@Justanothercog24]

​@@doom9603if you assume everyone is going to lie to you, you set yourself up for failure when you come across someone who communicates directly. You'll end up reacting to what you assume rather than what's happening in reality aka self-sabotage. Plus, applying past experiences to everyone else you barely know is a form of baggage (unaddressed trust issues) to make ppl pay for things they had nothing to do with.

[@doom9603]

​@@Justanothercog24 Oh I never said everyone is lying all the time, I said the medium doesn't matter, as people who do lie would lie anyways. Lets put that straw man aside, yes I have trust issues and yes I apply my experiences on new people, as humans tend to work the same way. BUT there is always the chance for a good person to prove that they're great and doing good! 🙏 Oh and yes, I had/have hard times to distinguish whether a person is trustworthy or not. Eventually I figured out that worthy people will stay and bad people will go. People loving you will show that. Don't waste your time on the other half. I tend to call it healthy distrust and distance. Trust must be build up over time. It's not my job (or yours) to assume that there is trust from the beginning. If the other person does not want to do that, the other person is wrong. 🤠

[@howtoactuallyinvest]

I like the way you say hi everyone at the beginning of every video

[@mrvee5395]

Man is down bad if he's still pursuing her.

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

Most guys as in 80-85% of guys down bad. Want proof? Just walk into a eos fitness, or any gym tonight(valentines day) and the make to female ratio will be 9/1.

[@inconnu4961]

Preach! Head to the choppers, we must save our bro! LOL

[@doom9603]

@@inconnu4961 Bro Army, get out the bomberrz

[@Jake-pk4xe]

I've noticed that a lot of people in the dating scene right now are terrible communicators. If both sides would just communicate what they actually want instead of playing sexy mind games or trying to seem really cool to the other party, I think you'd have more effective relationships.

[@Swearengen1980]

They both suck at communication, but in this case it's hard to hate on the woman. The guys here can get all whiny because they're not real men. This dude waited a week, can't type more than 3 words at a time, and he did in fact immediately lose her respect by asking her to pick a location. She expected him to act like a man and to plan the date without asking her because that's how real men do it. And Courtney is being a hypocrite here. She's said in the past that a man should plan the date or women lose respect, now she's pretending he was only doing it to be thoughtful - BS.

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

Women are the worst. They say “able to hold a conversation “ but they always give you one or two word responses when you wrote 2-3 sentences.

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

@@Swearengen1980but here’s the problem if a guy types more than she does it comes off as “needy” and she loses interest. One of the many reasons why I walked away from this shit show. I’m tired of them losing interest simply because I said a buzz word that triggers them, I wrote too many words, I showed interest instead of just being nonchalant about her. Bunch of dumb fucks that don’t deserve my time

[@gogirlanime6176]

I agree Jake, woman here.

[@garden_dork]

Both sides? Funny when a man makes a mistake it's 100% his fault but when a women makes a mistake ... some magical way it is also the man's fault. This type of thinking breeds the same problem you currently discussing. SHE was the bad communicate. The guy was doing everything he could to take her out.