THIS Is Why You're Obsessed with A Situationship

[@RoxyinLV]

Came for the eyebrows….stayed for the message.

[@nenarose1383]

😂 me too

[@NycoleJanae]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@kaeb091]

😂

[@LvndrBeez]

😂😂😂 same

[@Camryndawn22]

💀💀

[@katiejobe7013]

Intermittent reinforcement patterns are addictive and very dangerous….they’ve studied it in mice. It’s a power dynamic 😢 You become addicted to the little high you get from the limited interactions and reinforcements…. You never feel fulfilled, you’re in actuality “addicted” to that next hit of “love” It puts a person in desperation for that next feeling. It’s very dangerous to your mental health. (From personal experience❤) Sending love to all of you. This is a great channel and relevant topic. Thank you

[@EdelweisSusie]

You've hit the nail on the head. I remember Steve Harvey saying that men are all hunters - they like the thrill of the chase - so the trick is to carry on with a life of your own, make him think you have options - and watch him chase you down!! The less access he has to you - even by phone - the more you will fuel his interest. Trust me on that.

[@alicjaalvena1120]

@@EdelweisSusie you just described TOXIC men, not men. good luck playing with those. dont come back crying tho, when one breaks your heart.

[@Fresh_Baked_Bread_Is_Life]

@@EdelweisSusie this is true but most of these men completely fade out once they catch you.

[@involuntaryanalysis]

@@EdelweisSusie You are the definition of more trouble than you're worth.

[@northofyou33]

Fully addicted to the hits I get from him. And he is also addicted to it.

[@Mojohead20]

Never have I felt so insecure , anxious and depressed as I was whilst in this situation.

[@KarebelleMissKarebear]

Ugh, This hits! And as such I was thinking 'there must be something wrong with ME, get right already' Hope you've found your way right out of this situation too.

[@Ummesfaisal]

Even men feel this way? I thought it only happened to women.

[@SK-no2pp]

If someone acts like your partner but refuses to use titles, it's because they aren't ready for a relationship, want to keep their options open, or aren't sure about you. Titles define a relationship. There's no ambiguity when there's a title, which is why labels scare people who aren't read to commit. Relationships are about actions AND words. When it comes to relationships, actions don't always speak louder than words. One is not more important than the other. The important thing is whether someone's actions align with their words. To avoid using a title, people might say things like let's just take it slow, I want to enjoy what we have, I like things the way they are, I don't want to get hurt, I don't do labels, it's too much pressure, I'm not ready for a relationship yet, the timing isn't right, let's see how things are going in a few months, etc... But when a person is ready to commit, comfortable with intimacy, and sure about you, the way they act will align with the words they speak.

[@EdelweisSusie]

So true. Another thing to watch out for is when a man makes you constantly jump through hoops: they'll say things like "Well, I need you to establish a relationship with my child(ren) first, that's important to me" or "You don't have children of your own so you need to acquaint yourself with having to accommodate a child's needs (ie sports days, school plays etc) first" - see what I mean? In other words he's keeping you at arm's length whilst getting HIS needs (and those of his child(ren)) met whilst giving you NOTHING in return and making you feel as if you're having to pass a series of 'tests' before a commitment will be offered. I was put through this for 5 years - then he abandoned me anyway.

[@JS-tx9jy]

​@@EdelweisSusie What made you stay, when he gave you nothing? But I'm glad you're out. It sounds as if your relationnship with him was more harmful than fulfilling

[@fionadale1011]

Don't make it fancier than it is, they're just sex pears who want to have their cake and eat it too. The jokes on them because they wind up alone

[@Sherri-w9b]

That perfectly described my say it loosely relationship with my ex off and on off and fighting oh my God the fighting I can't do it anymore I allowed it for a couple years but no more I learned from him how to love and respect myself so in my mind I have to thank him for that because for 63 years i allowed people to use me basically a doormat but no more

[@ddanielsmc]

​@@EdelweisSusiehe should've focused on the relationship between you both. This would be more than enough to give a good idea of family fit. The majority of women would be fine in that context. Sorry to hear he messed you around. I hope you have the relationship you want in the future.

[@IAm-qf2xb]

Oh my goodness. Using the euphoria of limerence as a soothing mechanism. Well that hit hard didn’t it?

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

😮yes

[@comediccheffaith]

U r so pretty but one day u will look back & say “yep…eyebrow blindness”

[@ivana5618]

Her eyebrows look micro shaded. The boldness is temporary, they will fade and shrink you have to go through an "ugly" phase.

[@moscamuerta]

The f u care tho

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

​@@moscamuertaBecause it looks wrong and unsuitable for her face. Go back to her older videos with her older eyebrows, she looked balanced. Now she looks off.

[@monavanderwaal4723]

@@comediccheffaith true, as funny as it looks i think she had an eyebrow treatment and is a real HUSTLER and still making videos to public. actually i give her props for that 😂😂

[@moscamuerta]

@@DiamondsRexpensive who cares how she looks? She's giving psychological advice, its not a make up tutorial. Grow up, anyone can do whatever they want with their face

[@nategubbins8871]

I am coming out of a limerent situationship and it is so eye-opening, so much is clear now, and I am so annoyed to have been so wrapped up.

[@whitneyangelie3682]

Uhhhh I’m really not trying to be mean I stg but you are so pretty and those brows are…. A LOTTTTT 😳

[@sarahbelle2]

Was that REALLY necessary.

[@keyonak8657]

Not gone lie I clicked for the brow comment. I knew there would be one.

[@yourhighness7104]

@@keyonak8657 I also clicked for the brow comment

[@whitneyangelie3682]

@@sarahbelle2 Yea, it is necessary . As a girls girl, you’ve got to gently let another woman know when something is reallyyy wrong w something (changeable) about her look that she doesn’t seem to be aware of. . This is so bad that it’s all most anyone can focus on, and would be really embarrassing if no one said anything and just let her go on w out knowing how bad it is. I’d want someone to do the same for me 💯

[@bohemianbeauty92]

@@whitneyangelie3682 maybe the eyebrows are intentional! For more views and comments bc she’s so pretty and they look horrific

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

I’m so glad everyone is letting your beautiful self know that you’re in a very toxic situationship with those brows. But if you did them for engagement you’re a genius.

[@ameliam1396]

I guess that’s what’s going on here. So so smart!!

[@alaneofmyown]

For engagement 😩

[@kaypurcell9113]

Ok yall I know what everybody is thinking, just listen without looking. She's actually trying to give us some good advice.

[@Brix33333]

Her work is amazing yet I think I’d want someone to tell me if I were in her shoes. Brow blindness is real and these are leaning towards shocking.

[@marinas8331]

“She’s actually trying to give us some good advice” 😂😂😂

[@joshuaa8248]

What are you talking abot?? She's pleasant to look at

[@chrissy9876]

Hi sweetie, youre so pretty and adorable. Can I lovingly suggest a tone down on the eyebrows? Gosh I don’t want to be that person, truly I say this in love and kindness and just… they take up all of your face. They’re too thick. You’re way too pretty to have to look back on photos and see these like this. Genuinely said lovingly and wishing you good. ❤

[@whitneyangelie3682]

Omg I’m so glad I’m not the only one I literally thought this was a joke vid of how not to do brows when I clicked, that’s how shocked I was… But it’s just makeup thank God and an easy fix and she’s really pretty regardless

[@sunshine12038]

​unfortunately, I think it's permanent make up. I'm not sure it can be undone.

[@juderangi261]

The eyebrows are so distracting.

[@Brix33333]

This was a careful and tender way of expressing this. I definitely agree with you.

[@iarab.1588]

Passive aggressiveness in its finest form 😂

[@missqable]

Could you please make a video about sex? Because I believe for many people struggling with situationships - sex is a primary source of attachment (especially for women). It's pretty impossible to meet that need yourself or through your close circle. And yes, sometimes the person in situationship xan make you feel seen and special on the intimate level

[@afraglynn]

I was convinced it was a limerance until i found out about Narcissistic behaviour. I was obsessed with a guy so much, I couldn't properly function, never happened before. I thought i had some kind of midlife crisis or something, i didn't even know him that well and he wasnt even particularly interesting. I removed myself from the situation, worked on myself, trying to understand from childhood trauma point and also about NPD, we reconnected eventually, mutual friends etc. I observed him, listened, he was doing exactly the same things , i cant diagnose obviously but behaviour was like a textbook. Although the experience was deeply confusing and extremely painful at times, ive learnt so much! We have to take time to understand ourselves to see what others are actually showing us. Thais and this channel has been an immense help! Thank you so much!

[@EdelweisSusie]

So glad things have worked out for you. Same here - I hadn't even heard of Narcissists or Limerence before I found Thais's channel and suddenly a whole new awakening has taken place in my psyche and I won't make the same mistakes ever again. Good luck.

[@moonlightstargem1006]

I had emotionally immature parents growing up. And i am adopted which made it worse. So i accepted men who were emotionally immature. And i didn’t realize this was the issue. Being put on the back burner and not prioritized. Feeling used for sex because they treated me like i had nothing else to offer. Feeling worthless and dumb. Because this is how my adopted parents treated me. I am single right now as i choose to be because i will no longer allow people to treat me like i don’t matter or use me for superficial reasons

[@michelledehaen8997]

I hope real love comes your way 👊👍

[@Heyjennydee]

wow thank you for sharing. I’m not adopted, but otherwise my journey has been very similar to yours. I always knew logically it probably would have some effect in my life, but i never actually sat with that knowledge and really thought deeply about it until just now reading your comment, but wow. 🤯 me picking emotionally unavailable/immature men probably does stem from both of my parents being emotionally immature/unavailable…. Sounds like i have some trauma to unpack! Woohoo! 🙄😂 but seriously thank you for sharing 💖

[@julierose4730]

🙌🏻

[@alaneofmyown]

❤

[@Michelle-qq4sd]

Work to become secure to avoid a situation-ship.

[@sterlingforbes3872]

In order to walk away I had to block them on everything and pretend they died. Been 2 months and I'm still crazy in love with who I thought she was.

[@voiceofthenewagebroker4675]

I enjoy your 1:30 content and your energy but those eyebrows are off the chain! You’re gorgeous

[@missqable]

She is in your head, it's not a real person

[@joshuaa8248]

Pretend she's dead???? Lol!!! Good one ill have to try that one.

[@debbiefloresbrown5317]

Be crazy in love with yourself.

[@SincerelyYoursNadia]

I clicked the video because I thought the eyebrows were a joke 😂n she was playing but listening and agreeing with the message💯

[@mlong506]

Remember, if you ask for needs to be met and the other cannot meet them, staying around won't change that. I got addicted to the friends with benefits. And consistently abandonded myself for 2.5 years. He wanted an intimate friendship, but that wasn't enough for me. And as guilty as I felt, in the end, I had to walk away from him as he became FWB with someone else and couldn't understand why I didn't want to stay friends.

[@lunawhilby1967]

Girl I really don’t mean to be rude, you seem really nice and smart but your eyebrows are stealing the scene😬😰

[@oambitiousone7100]

I had a young man take over my thinking. He wasn’t that remarkable but I ruined my marriage for him. I was lacking a LOT of validation and he was genius at manipulation

[@aspegel5281]

Makes me think of that scene from Eyes Wide Shut where Kidman and Cruise are smoking pot in the bedroom, and she brings up about someone who made her feel like she couldn't breathe and how she would have thrown it all away for that man. She says this after Cruise explains that he doesn't get jealous because he fully trusts her. It was an intense scene. I'm glad you were able to pinpoint what it was that was missing, and it's also important for you to find your authentic self so that no one can ever manipulate you again. That takes a lot of growth work and self-love.

[@EButta71]

Did your marriage ever get back on track?

[@oambitiousone7100]

@@EButta71 No, it ended. My body utterly rejected my husband. I had been tolerating no spark or desire for years and then found someone who lit me up in every way. My husband was not able to be that person for me. He never was. And he wouldn’t tolerate taking the baby steps to see if it could be salvaged.

[@EButta71]

@@oambitiousone7100 damn you sound JUST LIKE me Sis wow. We have two small children 7 & 2 so I'm actually afraid to divorce because of them but it's been discussed. How are things for you now post divorce in terms of your own financial stability, any regrets, and finding healthy companionship?

[@FeliciaStands]

@@oambitiousone7100even tho that person didn’t work out he served his purpose your marriage was over b4 that person appeared it was a blessing in disguise now go get your happy life❤whatever that means for you

[@chericeprsn7674]

Being told he is infatuated with me, the compliments, the stares, the way he looks at me in awe, the distance he will literally drive just to see me. The money he's passed up on to be by my side.... made me feel important and prioritized.... His words... things like: "I can't believe you're divorced.... How did i even find you? You don't feel real... it's crazy how you make me feel, just being in your presence"... "I will never leave your side. I want to be in your life at whatever capacity you allow me to" Surprisingly, he is Fearful Avoidant to a tee!!!. I am Fearful, leaned avoidant for the last 3 years of my marriage. Totally anxious with him... all of the pinned up emotion poured out onto him big time... The Limerence is mutual. It doesn't feel healthy. But I'm submersed. Another thing, he has a love for cars. He builds them from the ground up, he has a boat that he spends weekends on, going fishing, and he is great with his hands. He wears the same hat and shoes nearly every time I see him lol... all of those things are identical to my daddy... whom i was 'extremely' close to. He passed back in 2004. My life has never been the same. Unknowingly, his presence sprinkles pieces of my dad on my heart and it often takes the edge off of the pain of his absence. Their hands even look similar. It's a bit scary.

[@cecilang9721]

I know. Mine is similar and I just realized he is my father to a T, except kind and attentive when we are together. Unlike my abusive real father. It’s like I get a daddy redo. Of course there is no such thing. It’s my subconscious playing tricks. It’s crazy feeling.

[@keonao.3215]

What’s the issue?

[@Liquorsnurf]

Situationships are gross.

[@Megan6772]

I guess it's my age and experience but I just don't understand why so many women struggle with them. It's so easy to spot from a mile away. Who has time for that? Not I.

[@alaneofmyown]

@@Megan6772 right. Some people just can’t spend time alone and have to get laid. Running from their self

[@Liquorsnurf]

@@Megan6772 me either. I want true connection. But I was never a one night stand guy. Always long term relationships.

[@Liquorsnurf]

@@alaneofmyown I had to force myself to not date. It’s been over a year now. ( had much healing to do after my divorce). Now I don’t know if I ever want to again. It breaks my heart.

[@jiminisafairy6243]

⁠@@Megan6772 it’s definitely age and experience. When you’re a young adult you’re experiencing everything for the first time so you can’t rlly “spot” anything or know right from wrong. You don’t know how dating works and why boundaries between dating and friendship are important. You don’t wanna have serious conversations about your feelings, you just want to have fun. You also prioritize dopamine chasing more than doing the right thing bc of underdeveloped brain. I used to serially look for validation in situationships and I learned my lesson when I slowly realized I wasted 4 years obsessing over one guy who never wanted me. I guess I just didn’t rlly believe in dating or it seemed almost unnecessary. Why date when you can just get that validation quickly without getting close and taking them to see your family? Only after that experience you realize wow that was so disappointing and damaging. It luckily brought me here, learning about myself. Right now I know being deeply known and loved and wanted openly and respectfully is wayyy better, but I also know back then I simply wasn’t ready for that and the men in my life had their own major issues. That’s another reason I didn’t want to date them. needed to heal first and the situationships are simply a sign that I had unmet childhood needs.

[@Rossi.K]

I stopped being a victim to situationships when I realized how icky it is to be that desperate for someone to love you. When you understand that you're only obsessing because you can't handle rejection and how annoying that would be if someone put you in that position, it makes you never want to do it again lol. Also those power dynamics of someone watching you squirm to be with them while they're just like "eh, I'll just string you along until I'm bored" like they're a puppet master makes me cringe so bad 😭 Any of those guys I had a situationship with, I have ZERO interest in now. It's almost like they don't exist. I guess the good part about being avoidant now is that I can't emotionally connect to people enough to even have a situationship lol. Couldn't imagine.

[@daniellediaz2516]

The avoidants are the ones that initiate the situationship.

[@EdelweisSusie]

I went through the same - see my other replies. I was strung along for 5 years, made to jump through hoops, behaved as if we were in a relationship whilst actually there was no offer of commitment - and then one day, after a mental breakdown, he was gone. The one thing I've learned is to just get on with your life when you meet a man and start dating - and let him have LIMITED ACCESS to you. Men are hunters and like to chase what they can't have.

[@B52_BuLLDoZER]

​@@EdelweisSusieplease stop making this a man thing, woman do the same, trust me I have been there multiple times. It is you and I actually accepting the behaviour, get clear on your needs and expectations, communicate them, set boundaries and if they can't reciprocate and leave you feel unfulfilled and unmet: leave with your dignity and accept they aren't what you would like them to be. Reality is hard and frustrating but sticking around wishing and hoping is a waste of time, let their actions speak for them, not only their words. Much love, hope you will find the love for yourself and that in that way eventually find someone who will love equally as you know you deserve. I know I am still on my way learning this as well, so don't think I know it all and live accordingly, just stating how we should all go about the difficult matters of the heart and mind❤

[@lafemmerowena]

perfectly said!

[@lamaelcharif1523]

Thank you, Thais, dear! Your online presence is a breath of fresh air. It feels like you're always there. Your support is priceless. Thank you, sweetheart!

[@Rlove8687]

I’m obsessed with those eyebrows

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

You have been the only therapist that could help sonetimes. I think she is brilliant actually.

[@kellyd220]

Never clicked on brows so fast!!

[@marzipazi7498]

Honestly I almost never took this lady seriously because her eyebrows are whack! But what she had to say makes so much sense never seen it like this before wow!

[@sarahbelle2]

Rude.

[@Kitten_Mittons]

​@@sarahbelle2honest. More noble to be honest.

[@lilyjane1011]

All her videos are great!! ❤

[@monavanderwaal4723]

LMFAOOOOOOOO

[@Heyjennydee]

AGREED!! i hope she takes note and tones those bad boys down, bc she probably misses out on a lot of subscribers due to looking so crazy 😵‍💫 Then again, the only reason i clicked on this video was BECAUSE of those gigantic brows, so maybe she knows what she’s doing 🤷‍♀️😂

[@sarahoshea404]

I’m 3 months out of a situationship that I was preoccupied with for 3 years. I still cry every day, but the acute pain and anguish is lessening and things are becoming more clear. He never loved or valued or prioritized me, and I gave so much more than I ever got. A lot of my pain from this whole experience comes from the way I betrayed my own self.. how I allowed myself to be treated. Situationships are awful. They drain you of love, trust, vitality and security. Thais, your content has been so valuable in this healing process, especially in those first few weeks of no contact. Thank you so much for your videos and for everything you do. ❤️

[@mariancrole]

Dear Thais, this comes from respect and appreciation, and I am thankful for your content that allowed me to grow and process different processes in my life. I feel confused when I see what I see of your relationship with image. Clearly you are beautiful as you are, and your level of make up makes me question about self-acceptance. Who knows if I'm projecting something personal, or just my personal tastes which have nothing to do with you, but still, I really feel that with a more natural image it would feel more aligned to your competences, skills and mastery 🙏

[@moonlightstargem1006]

I wish someone would tell me that more often. Remove yourself from a situation if it is not healthy or not working for you. I was encouraged to give toxic men a chance & it only hurt me in the end. I ended up more bitter and heart broken and feeling used and discarded because I couldn’t say no to people. And they ended up raping me & coercing me & peer pressuring me to take drugs. I would have rather taken drugs if it was MY CHOICE. Not pressured into it when i wasn’t ready for it. People can be ugly selfish and cruel. I’ve tried to make friends but people end up using people like us in the end. So we cannot get too close to people or let people in all the way

[@mysteriousme3006]

This is true

[@xxisolde]

Painful but real watch. Thank you! 🙏🏼

[@gemwebb]

Your course FULLY FOR FREE sounds really good for gaining clarity on our childhood wounds or unmet needs. #clarity ❤🎉

[@Jennyfenty-n1b]

Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.

[@Mia1827]

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

[@Ballerina11AA]

Yes, I understand the comments but she has beautiful eyes!

[@jlynnmenzel]

Sometimes people can put themselves into situationships that don’t exist. I’ve had people latch onto me and a future relationship they wanted even when I set boundaries and made it clear I was only interested in moving slow and building friendship. They seemed to (said they did) get high when they were around me, and when I wouldn’t (couldn’t) answer my phone later on, their high nosedived into an abyss. They’ve been heartbroken by their own dreams. I’ve been this person in the past, and now I see other people who do this. People need to take responsibility for their feelings and their healing.

[@MelBlossom]

I'm so grateful people are talking about this. I thought I was just crazy.... nice to hear it happens to so many people so no. I'm not crazy. I'm having a common reaction no one explained or how to get out of it.

[@alaneofmyown]

Thais babes. Your channel is heaven sent and has been an important part of my self development journey. I’ve shared your tips with others. Thank you. I feel like it’s my duty to return the favor. Brow Tips 😎 your brow arch looks great. It’s really just that the width is very wide, almost like an animated Square Block look. Maybe thin them in the front just a tad. I recommend “Keila Roque” or “Smitha Deepak” KZbin brow tutorial videos. Very helpful. You won’t be disappointed!

[@lulusworld2703]

I find women fascinating(being a woman myself)...Why? Well there is a very well known male therapist/doctor online with extremely bushy, unkept eyebrows and no one has ever left any comments on any of the videos he was on regarding this. (I am a big fan and seen most, if not all his content).And yet if a woman has eyebrows that perhaps stand out, so many women leave comments about it. We, tend to be so much harder on our own sisters when it comes to looks!Thais is beautiful regardless how she wears her eyebrows and is really brilliant as a communicator and content provider. If truth be told, having always had thin eyebrows myself all my life (and not worried about it either) I am in awe of anyone with thicker ones than mine, as I am not someone who feels comfy plumping them up! Thais,absolutely brilliant segment! Thank you.🙏

[@angelface889]

😂😂😂😂😂 the brows though please reminds me of me back in the day 😂🤦🏻‍♀️

[@LauraMcCullough83]

Thia’s you’ve such a beautiful heart and an incredible mind and ability to communicate. I got alot from this video. Thank you.

[@alice-hp7dh]

Yes you're right. I now understand that it worked in that sense for me. And even if I do have ( few) people interested in me for companionship, I don't like them and felt nothing such as the intense amount of attraction, passion, respect, value, love and care that I feel for him. Yes I reckon that I put so much expectations on him but I know for sure his flaws and don't matters. 🤷

[@maet1664]

You are absolutely beautiful, the eyebrows are distracting from your natural beauty. The colour is a bit too light and ashy and the shape is too large and uneven. Please go and see a professional makeup artist, they can teach you how to do it the best to accent your gorgeous features. I’m only saying this because I spent many years with terrible eyebrows and wish someone told me, the eyebrow blindness is real! I saw a makeup artist with nice brows and asked for help for shaping and filling them in.

[@instagamrr]

My most deeply unmet need is financial. When someone provides for me financially, I feel like they love me, and I’ll tolerate all sorts of bad behavior just to have that need met

[@chocolateprincess2656]

Maybe you should meet your own financial need lol

[@instagamrr]

@@chocolateprincess2656 wish I could but due to health issues, I’m unable to do so reliably

[@bbrittanyy1]

@@chocolateprincess2656some of us are providing for ourselves financially but still have this weird correlation between “someone providing financially/someone spending money on me = they love me” It’s a psychological thing that has to be worked through.

[@Katrica670]

9:58 I know lots who don't even get any need filled in those "relationships"! 😩

[@simpleton2090]

Don’t worry about what others say about your brows. You are beautiful; they just want you to fit the norm so they can feel comfortable looking at you. You rock and you are very intelligent & kind for sharing this info. Thank you for giving me further insight into the work I have to do on myself. My situationship left me expect Ing a baby, he told me multiple times he wanted to be there for the baby and even told me he loved me then one day just…..walked away and never even told me why. Hasn’t said a word to me in a month . He is genuinely a terrible terrible little man. If I can pray that no one ever go through what I’ve just went through, that would probably be my most fulfilled prayer ever. People like this do not deserve the love or attention from anyone until they stop being such monstrosities.

[@RikaMakara]

Come on! The brows are shocking! Let’s start being real, Miss Faketon. There’s a way to be real and honest while still being kind. But you’re being fake and a liar because you know you were just as shocked as everyone else.

[@s7929]

I just wanted ti see the brows in action.

[@NunayoBisnez]

My limerence object initiated our interactions (mainly friendly convos at work), started scheduling or requesting that I schedule lunches with us, almost always instantly answers calls and texts, and lets me tell him everything with no judgment. I even told him he was a limerence object, which he then Googled and read the definition out loud to me (so embarrassing), but he still was totally jovial and fine with it. He has pretty much given me mixed signals since I've known him, which is so wild to me. It's also confusing because I would not like the reality of dating him because he'd drive me nuts due to the differences in our personalities, because we work together and he's very friendly to all of the women at my job. I'm now looking at meeting other guys to see if any of them can be as responsive and interesting to me as my LO is.

[@DaintyAbby]

Thai, I love you very much and I find all your videos, website etc very helpful but please allow someone to do your brows.

[@KrystalWest-t2y]

I have heard of limerence but never clearly understood it until now. Thank you

[@PrincessJas24]

No I’m triggered because I used to do these exact brows but in jet black 😢 you’re gorgeous girl!!

[@artisticagi]

11:11 takes 21 days to build the subconscious mind and get it to meet your own needs

[@dweight7891]

Angel numbs!!! 👼

[@LynzLuv888]

Wow!! This just blew my mind! 🤯 so accurate it’s scary. thank you for sharing this. Very insightful 🙂

[@Abi-rk5ce]

Lord have mercy. Them eyebrows.

[@Crystal4ya]

The brows are not giving mama😂 But that’s one good message 🔥

[@Anastasia-Sol]

Thank you so so much, this was super helpful🙏🏼 this video was sent by Gods!

[@agirl3902]

Thank you for this message!

[@adularescent]

Girl to girl advice, these brows aren’t right babe ☹️

[@julesbee3277]

New subscriber!, very interesting video. This really resonates in my life right now.

[@deniseanderson367]

Deeply known, heard and protected

[@IWillBeSaved]

What is happening above her eyes?!?! Is she aware?????

[@spacecat8511]

So…I thought I was in limerence with someone for a really long time. Heck, I think they were afraid of the same thing (from me, within themselves.) But…something that was lacking for me that basically every definition of limerence is dependent on: the preference for an idealized fantasy version of the object of limerence than the person themselves, and that just could not be further from the truth for me. What I wanted was to finish vetting them out to see if they were someone I could indeed be safe with emotionally as a friend or not. I also had several core wounds regarding my past with being bullied and not being allowed to like someone and being accused of being a flirt when all I wanted was to be friends with people triggered all at once. Which yeah. It did all blow up in my face. But what shocked me is that the person I wanted a friendship with (who I also have a crush on, who I suspect likes me back even if they don’t feel like they’re in a position to act on that-nbd for me. If we’re friends and I don’t have to worry about the friendship, then I’m fine) didn’t abandon me to that mess others dumped onto me as their scapegoat, and actually cleaned it up alongside me then put in the work to resolve both our fears causing misunderstandings. So…for me I don’t think what I felt was limerence. I think it was having my FA/cptsd activated and not knowing how to handle it internally with how badly I’ve been treated socially/platonically, and as someone asexual + demiromantic just…not having the experience within myself for how to cope with romantic feelings beyond whiteknuckling them to try my best to make sure the other person didn’t feel pressured by them and if they did pick up on how I felt, they had the reassurance that I valued them above a friendship, and a friendship above romantic attraction. And well. What I ended up needing was to accept this was part of my own self-work for my own attachment and to regain being able to trust, forgive, work through conflict and misunderstandings, and to trust my instincts with social interactions and that I can actually read people/situations with far better accuracy than I’d been conditioned to believe. After all this-as much as it absolutely SUCKED-I think I’m doing much better mentally/emotionally internally, and the friendship I wanted all along with this person is actually going to be okay.

[@nicholeb2746]

Eyebrow blindness

[@arcosiancosine1065]

lol idk what she was thinking.

[@annegachanja3468]

These are absolutely nuts! like what is she thinking?

[@lvr956]

I feel that they were botched maybe tattooed/micro-bladed and just need to wait until they fade off? :/ she knows.. or not..

[@anastassiyahendeles4699]

Why don't you all mind your own esthetics instead.

[@nicholeb2746]

@@anastassiyahendeles4699 soyyyy

[@ej9618]

Good content! You are beautiful… if the eyebrows make you happy then keep doing what you’re doing but I would hope someone would tell me if I seemed to have the dreaded “eyebrow blindness” going on. lovely woman no matter what though!

[@johnmaus4408]

There are two sides to titles and labels. If a person is a professional in their field of medical or mental health they need to fill out insurance for billing and for other health professionals. For the layperson the use of tounge twisting conditions that few understand is most useful for other professionals. For lay people it's a different language and needs to be dummed down. The problem with mental health titles is that they sting to label or be labeled. I feel they have a place but are most often misused by lay people. The reason why is there are two versions of each situation in relationships. When another partner isn't given the opportunity to first have the projecting party be vulnerable and clearly communicate in a effective manner and then be given an opportunity to respond in same its broken right there. I have studied on and off for 45 years and intensively for 3 years to understand why my wife of 34 years walked away. Her behavior most represents what I have learned from Thias as a Dismissive Avoident. I wasn't looking for a label. The longer I study I see covert narcissistic behavior as well. There is so much of her that is truly a good person but these other behaviors are part of her unfortunately. The negative part of labeling is that often the labeler is not able to take personal responsibility for his or her shortcomings. They wrap and pack the partner as defective. For me it's not really important to assign a lable. Only that her behavior was painful for her and myself and our family whom she has triangulation against me. I feel sad for our entire family. Beneath that anger lied a deep pain. We need to understand that and make our space. Often a club of perfect people forms. I know I will always do my recognizable part. Good luck to you all.

[@dweight7891]

The Video: 🤞🗣️✨🧘🏼‍♀️ The comments: *E Y E B R O W S*

[@elenahauser6617]

😆👌

[@Reyrey_xo]

So happy for this mental food. Very beneficial ❤

[@stillpril8942]

I came straight to the comments and yall know why...

[@user-ee5om8wy7u]

Limerence is just another word for "having a crush". But if love can be so addictive, maybe it's best to avoid any sweet/loving treatment in the first place. In a similar way, we should avoid hyper-palatable sweet treats (that we tend to gorge on without breaks not only on Halloween or Christmas but whenever it's in front of us). Simply avoid those addictive treats or the environment full of them in order to prevent developing diabetes or obesity. Hyper-palatable, hyper sweet, hyper-loving, hyper-flattering, hyper-good anything --- STAY AWAY from all that! Intensely GOOD things, unfortunately, are bad for our health. Give up on love! Never look for loving people again! Instead, search for respectful in their communication with you and responsible/conscientious people.

[@instagamrr]

I’ve watched so many videos on limerence, and they never resonated until this one. Shit, I just got called out 😅 But I also feel free!

[@00mylovey00]

Thais you're so beautiful and i feel terrible pointing this out for all to see. But please have a professional do your eyebrows, trust me you won't regret it! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@IsabelSmith31]

What's the difference between limerence and the anxious avoidance trap

[@tevatev7454]

My love, your beautiful and your eye color, GORGEOUS! But these brows… need a fixing baby girl. Respectfully, with love. 💗

[@alicjaalvena1120]

i already knew all of that, deducted it all myself. doesnt help at all. if i could have said needs met, i'd not need a limerance. but i simply cant. its like telling starving people, dreaming about food, to just go eat something. like... wow. genius solution, i bet they havent thought about it.

[@ashyasin]

Agreed

[@slick_Ric]

sounds like you don't have a concept of what it looks like to meet those needs for yourself, or you expected instant results whenever you tried. it requires (non romantic) relationships within which to practice asking for certain needs to be met, and also showing up for yourself in ways that you're probably not for example for me one thing that perpetuates my sense of abandonment & keeps me going for women who also abandon me is that for many years I've neglected my sleep quality. staying up late, squeezing in one more task every day because "who cares" "I'll be fine with 3-4 hours", is one of several things in which i neglect myself. i yearn for a partner who cares for me and wants to be there for me, yet I'm not even caring for or standing up for myself, for my health and well-being, in such a basic way as sleep. this is one possible way we don't meet our own needs. thus we go around emanating a low sense of self-respect to others, and likewise we are attracted to people who will treat us the same way we treat ourselves. it begins with asking of ourselves these types of needs and meeting them consistently, and learning to ask others to meet certain needs that they can reasonably meet in our friendships/connections

[@alicjaalvena1120]

@@slick_Ric stop projecting all these traits on me - you dont know anything about me and my situation, yet you wrote a whole psychoanalysis of my person. that's pathetic. restrain yourself please.

[@whitneyangelie3682]

@@alicjaalvena1120 Dude watched a few psych KZbin vids and now thinks he’s Freud 🤣

[@jupitersun1975]

How soon will this kick in? Is this something that can happen the second you meet someone. Like your soul knows this person meets your needs and becomes instant the second you physically see each other.

[@debbiefloresbrown5317]

I literally abandoned myself for this person. It got to the point where I had to choose- it's either him or me. I chose me ❤

[@victorkroud3642]

Definitely advice that can be implemented! Thanks

[@bohemianbeauty92]

What’s wrong with the brows?

[@queen_oftheNIGHT]

I’m so over romantic love and thinking a partner will be a great vessel for my love. I can give this love to the entire world instead and make a difference that way..romantic love isn’t the answer .. finding your purpose is.. because you won’t be happy in an unhealed world 🌎 PEACE ❤

[@Queensley]

So these eyebrows are real 😭

[@Nataliexgiselle]

So helpful thank you!!

[@debbiemayhay3921]

It’s really hard for me to concentrate. I just have to listen without watching

[@Gg-oh9lm]

sorry sis couldn't even focus on ur video but someone must say this, idc how much hate I get but sis pls your eye brows are screaming for help. They are literally crying for life. Take it positively.

[@lisabrown9532]

Can't believe how many vile women are on here

[@kaypurcell9113]

You know what. That's not what we came for and I appreciate how she's trying to help us. But you're absolutely right. They were actually distracting. With love and respect

[@northofyou33]

The eyebrows and the eyelashes. Very distracting. You are naturally beautiful and do not need to do all that to your lovely face.

[@dannycolwell8028]

What about limerence with someone who is actually emotionally available and being sweet and kind to you? Why am I obsessing over someone who isn’t manipulating or mistreating me? There’s no danger but the danger is perceived.

[@irresponsible9251]

She knew what she was doing with that thumbnail

[@generaldvw]

Kicking to the curb...yes.

[@T2Master01]

She said she will see me soon! 🥰🥰😍😍

[@Joanna.Swiderska333]

Wow thanku so much❤

[@crazyphoton5111]

For me ig it was also because he was a guy which didn't creep me out, seemed attractive, had his own back atleast it looked like that, was confident,perhaps a bit respectful, caring(at least initially) like asking how I was etc and driven towards career, childhood validation would also come into play and the rejection part.

[@Stacey-fv1dk]

THANK U THANK U this explains so much

[@MedusasSnakePit]

The eyebrows ma'am.

[@just-anillusion5893]

Such a beautiful face....nearly destroyed by those eyebrows😱😬

[@hambalamstudios6885]

It’s because you’re seeking validation and approval.

[@ElisavetKondylidou]

Just came to saw the eyebrow comments to feel I’m not the only one 😅

[@jillianhajdasz9752]

Wow. I suddenly see exactly how I have been with my DA ex. Holy cow.

[@devastator1975]

U need a moderator so they can get rid of the criticism ❤ great video

[@DolphinsPlayingInAquaMoonlight]

No, she desperately needs to listen to the criticism. It's well-meant and should be a huge wake-up call for her. Those kinds of brows can destroy a person's life, because no one will take her seriously. Such a beautiful woman, looking like a clown when she doesn't have to look like that. Her natural brows are perfect as they are. She is also giving off huge insecurity vibes, unhealed vibes. It's hard to take her seriously when she is trying to teach others to be secure, when it is obvious that she is not secure herself. No confident person with respect for themselves would paint eyebrows like that and go out looking that way in public, unless it was for some kind of prank or some kind of costume party. So she really needs to see all this constructive feed-back, because it's the truth.

[@Paolablanton]

My real obsession is with those eyebrows....

[@Katrica670]

In the beginning it was said that you don't even know him so it's not love. Is that what a situation is?

[@Katrica670]

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