"This Was A KEPT SECRET By Monks" - How To Achieve SELF-MASTERY in 2023 | Jay Shetty

[@TomBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[@0286andre]

and what piss me off and get the benefits is the older people who already in relationship that's why their relationship last longer because they take the energy and sources of the other relationship that they just broke up

[@dubsdolby9437]

😴

[@neetabeeta6927]

Wait did you say you have causal sex during your marriage? Just asking for friend...no judgement just unclear when you said it.

[@pauladee6937]

Podcasters please say you don't post WHAts App fir bit coin.. Because there's a pleage

[@victoriadumond6980]

ONE CODE BOOK IS DEFINITELY IS THE CONSTITUTION OF THE USA. WALKS TO NATURE IS A GOOD THING NOT TAKING A CEL PHONE .

[@funnytv-1631]

Everything you want is within you, the strength,the courage and the persistence to change your life. You have to look within and find it.

[@pattyboucetta1897]

I’ve heard this over and over but I just don’t feel it inside me. My mind creates the negative but not the positive. :/

[@scottk1525]

" *Self worth doesn't come from affirmations or positive thinking; it comes from breaking through barriers you didn't think you could break through.* " Never has this lesson been more important than in the age of "choose happiness" nonsense. Respect needs to be earned, and self-respect is no different.

[@Tom-Travels]

At some point in my 20’s I realized that each Saturday night I was regularly spending the equivalent an entire working day going from bar to bar - not to mention the way that drinking affected me the next day (and likely throughout the week). You can accomplish a lot if you cut out alcohol.

[@felixh7132]

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[@prettymotivatedtv]

💯❤

[@kenleb1224]

I think affirmations and some positive thinking will definitely help you break through those barriers. Most people out there repeat their negative thinking and break through absolutely nothing.

[@scottk1525]

@@kenleb1224 I don't. I think they're useless and empty if they're not supported by reality and by your actual behavior. And that's at best. At worst it leads to delusion. If somebody else, looking at your life objectively, wouldn't say those things about you, then you shouldn't be trying to kid yourself into thinking they're true. Earn those claims, then you won't have to say them to yourself in the mirror to trick yourself into believing them. The believing part will just happen naturally.

[@mediabreakdown8963]

34:03 I had to learn this lesson the hard way. I went down the rabbit hole of positive thinking and self love-without putting in the hard work. I loved myself into inaction and mediocrity. I loved myself right out of a job-with people who genuinely cared about me. ❤

[@yvannareyes]

I am going through this right now. I just turned down a job because of it. I’m turning to God and realizing that having a healthy amount of fear and stress is actually good. The first verse I saw when I opened my Bible back up was God’s “Reward for Obedience”

[@twonrichpo1126]

This definitely resonates.

[@beatadomjan-jarvis8489]

WORD. Solitude is where it's at when we want to learn about true LOVE within. Once we have achieved complete peace, satisfaction, confidence and happiness with ourselves, only then can we give love the right way to someone else. PURE. UNCONDITIONAL. Thank you Jay, for confirming that!

[@ArchitSach]

I've been following Jay for a while now and he hits the spot every time. Such a nice humble reminder to prioritise understanding yourself! Every good relationship needs two INDEPENDENT people who are willing to support each other - NOT two dependent people who will break if the other one leaves - this becomes unstable and frustrating for both parties, extremely quickly!

[@mohamm3d312]

So true brother!

[@storyarch1084]

@@mohamm3d312 not rly lol

[@storyarch1084]

I think some level of dependence is acc. very healthy!

[@rajeshpatel1128]

Well said man, self-realisation before God-realisation

[@rajeshpatel1128]

@@storyarch1084 stop hating Top g!

[@jenniferhumby4449]

With kids you never regret having them but possibly regret not having them. To each their own. I’m watching you both and thinking about how you would be wonderful parents just bc of your thinking. Also though the impact your children could have on the world. Just by being raised by emotional intelligent parents and ppl who worked out their stuff. A lot of us don’t do that and all your shit from childhood gets brought up and we have to heal ourselves while raising children and it’s hard. Healing is hard either way and so is being a parent.

[@rjreddenbaker4351]

I am up between 3 and 4 AM every morning and guard that time jealously. It is also my creative time. I like others around but prefer the solitude not only for introspection and examination, but for the ability to go in any creative direction your mind takes you.

[@twonrichpo1126]

Complete feel u on that shit

[@pambalakhan6020]

Love all of Jay’s answers & his response to some of Tom’s question. It’s a humbling to see jay being so positive about,well,almost everything

[@alannajanae7123]

Listening on spotify and I had to come to the channel to comment. I LOVE the discourse that you and Jay have. I first discoved him on your first sit down and have been following ever since. I've recently gotten the Calm app and love starting my day with the Daily Jay. I can't be the only person who would love if you guys did a mini series together. The way your conversations flow is so natural and I love the perspectives you share and how you disagree. Keep up the amazing work! 👏🏾 🧡🧡

[@Un0rthodox475]

The part about trust speaks to me a lot and has helped me understand why I tend to distrust anyone who gives me unconditional trust upon meeting me for the first time. I also feel a sense of uneasiness with the idea that I could dissapoint this persons unconditional trust for me.

[@ZahraFit]

This is such a beautiful discussion that many people need to hear! Absolutely enjoyed listening to this and will be sharing with as many people as I can.

[@GoranBStankovic]

Great discussion. Thank you both. 🙏 I almost never commentin social media, but I have to this time. The story about Buddha and a flower is very powerful because majority of us think about finding love as finding someone to love us, but love is not about taking it is about giving - how much love are we able to give. And loving your children and getting back that love is totally different dimension of love one is unable to experience in any other way or relationship. It is more like blessing. My wife and I tried for 20 years and now we are proud parents of 11 year old son, so I know what am I talking about. If that isn’t your final decission, you shoul have a child. That would be the best possible way to find your real purpose, love, blessing and much more.

[@Bawkr]

This channel is so amazing. Can't keep it off of auto play lately. Been absorbing this passively & gardening something else which I have never done. Also took some notes from these videos, I don't think I've fully implemented anything except for diet which I started prior to the videos from watching doctors videos.

[@Ascending_Leo816]

It's so important to know how your body reacts to incoming information like it needs to be taken care so quickly. I have ADHD and lots of stress problems. But I always know my thinking is off from the real life moment things.

[@beanelson7350]

I love how exciting Jay gets when he is talking from the Heart. I get the same way. I just push more people to have these type of conversations. Just love this conversation between them. 😊

[@twonrichpo1126]

Agreed n I def love those conversations more than anything too

[@Ats_RO]

I appreciated how you guys respectfully disagreed on some things and used those moments of difference in opinion to teach. Wow!🙌🏽❤

[@paulaa.storey3304]

I love it Tom, the lack of ritual in our lives is a problem.

[@paulaa.storey3304]

Could you please share some of the books that you are reading?

[@markwatson5984]

What a phenomenal discussion, thank you both 🙏🏽

[@felixh7132]

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[@susanmiyashiro2828]

Mark Watson, what hit me was living a strategic life with a spiritual lense . This was such an enlightened message.

[@sibabalomthembu]

What you guys talk about is really fascinating some of the things you have spoken about have made me think a lot harder and deeply about what I want in life in general so shout out to you guys continue serving

[@jlynn468]

Tom, think back before you got it together or at least the pathway there. That is why quiet time is stressful for a lot of people. I'm there right now. I've started popping my airpods in even in the store so I don't have to think. Not good. But recognizing it is. Baby steps. Imagine your life is in chaos. Then sit alone with your thoughts. It is overwhelming. It is fear! I'm working on facing that fear. It is difficult.

[@travisjohnson8968]

These are some really heavy perspective changers hitting me about 'trust' right around the 1 hour mark. Thank you for sharing this conversation🙏✨

[@pattyboucetta1897]

So glad this came on my feed this morning. Every morning it’s my body that starts up. Eye flashes, shoulder pain, ear ringing - and I know it’s repressed emotions, negativity, fear, and the worst part is I feel like I can’t change it. I’ve studied Joe Dispenza, Eckhart Tolle, David Hawkins, Dennis Simsek and I can’t seem to change my thoughts and bodily issues. 🆘...!

[@dr.jefflaflamme7884]

Have you done Hawkins letting go technique?

[@Tom-Travels]

It may not make sense that by sitting and doing nothing for fifteen minutes a day, you will be healed.

[@colinestephens2404]

consider not repressing your emotion but instead acknowledge then, reflect on them ( cry, scream if you need to) then replace them with something that you truly desire, remember a clog toilet will not go down just by flushing, sometimes a plunder is needed- we are who we think we are, no more , no less, who are you?

[@dadsaid101]

Started following Jay even before his book Think like a Monk, and I always enjoy his charisma 😊

[@barbararuanoguimaraes-coac2121]

Two man with amazing comunication skills. Inspiring. Thank you!

[@endlesslovingmovement]

Great that Tom called him out on that "10 minutes" per week thing. I believe that daily practice is essential to build a solid foundation in self-awareness.

[@JensStendahl]

Wise words love that video. I work in a mental institution and have often thought, what is the difference between a thought and hearing voices... If you say your thoughts, you are okay, but what if you have heard the term voices since childhood, then you can end up in the closed ward

[@Tipsandcoffee]

I was married 35 years till I became a widow, we got married barefooted, in simple clothes and with our family and friends. We had our hands bound for two days, and we drank wine. It was beautiful.

[@CandaceSellsLA]

Two great minds sharing great ideas. If one can master oneself, one can master anything 🌟🙌

[@TDiamond777]

discipline 7/10 Working w/ Mentors now & constantly watching & listening to self help! including books

[@freethepeace4117]

I was waiting for a second visit of the Monk him self ☺️ Thank you Tom 🙏🏾

[@dumezwenimpofu9168]

Perfect combo, I have always loved it when Tom interviews Jay. From the first one to this third..all your interviews require one to grab a pen and a note book

[@deecastillo7133]

Love Jay Shetty cuz he says things i can relate to n gives great info! Love his "wish"!!! His compassion for everyone is amazing n i feel the same way.

[@garyking6862]

Tom, you and Jay slipped over into the 5th dimension with this one. Wow!!! I will be drawing from this interview for a very long time. Thank you.

[@lornabee10]

Enjoyed every moment of this conversation. So good. Respectful. I appreciated the varying perspectives and found value in both. Thank you both for the dialogue. It was well worth the investment of my time. Thank you Thank you thank you

[@terriblue9792]

I met Jesus.. a totally different thought from the life that I was living. I’ve learned that all wisdom comes from Him, whether you know, love Him or not. I love listening to Toms guest and this one here, Jay is a favorite.. Don’t stop seeking at the monks.. He might just be seeking Jay and Tom too🥰

[@saraharcher9901]

How much fun you’re having is way more important than how many people are there!!

[@oyamamdleleni]

This was a very enlightening interview Tom, I loved the questions, the engagement and the thought process. Very intrigued by the last bit of the interview, I would love to see more of it, talking about the after life, consciousness and what we believe about being Spirit having a physical experience. Loved it thoroughly👊

[@corrinelewis1842]

I love that jay said I’ll take back how I said that bc it put it in a box and made one things he was wrong where he wasn’t where as there’s so much depth to go at your pace

[@MATGO]

Truly amazing stuff... that statement about the rose is absolutely brilliant!!!! Salute to you both. Continued success to all.

[@oznetyoutube125]

Like and Love. To Like is to be a Florist, To Love is to be a Gardener. Enter Your friendships as a Florist ( see their beauty ) , Enter Your Relationships as a Gardener ( grow and maintain their beauty).

[@ellechristie1111]

I LOVE this episode! I’m just finding the awesomeness of Jay Sherry. This is good.

[@charyannecoronel6327]

I wish that, I could have his brain. 😂 I love the way jay talks and think amazing!

[@parvathynsp]

Loved the discussion. Usually Jay talks and the other person agrees.. but this conversation was different. There were many counter points and the resulting conversation was really really interesting

[@jdreamhunter]

I love this: "The more you spend on your wedding, the more likely you are to divorce earlier". We didn't have a wedding, so I guess we are forever.

[@Ascending_Leo816]

Great dialog today. Alot of different beliefs of how it works in real life situations. Im also married 30 years with 10 years of courtship. We didn't know what we were doing but we did it together and made things work. These days there to many people getting lost in other people's stuff. Be your own family and teach your family values and traditions. All the other stiff doesn't matter

[@raverebel_gg]

was funny to see how you couldn’t understand how people would be scared to be alone with their thoughts, goes to show how strong your mind is! I know a lot of people who hate meditating because of scary experiences or thoughts they have when they try to meditate. Kind of a trippy idea but totally a thing!

[@kristinwornum7126]

Really great interview, I would find myself scrolling around on my phone while listening, a little adhd to be frank, but I will find myself getting hooked back every time. Really moving stuff, Tom you did it again.

[@druidangel5754]

New set up I like it helps you communicate and connect better , and allows you to have a fluent “ just hanging out talking “ feel to it and guides you into a rabbit whole 😊

[@jayedwin98020]

Jay, you were my "random" voice today. Thank you!

[@vbiddy]

The last 10 minutes needs a part II. I have so many questions. Would love to hear more about Jay's hypothesis.

[@JesseBooth01]

Look. I think this is a hard truth. People are time poor, and sitting there, BEING IN YOUR OWN HEAD, when you are someone with mental health issues like myself, it is extremely daunting but it is important, otherwise things will NEVER change.

[@oznetyoutube125]

Job suffered unspeakably, but never lost sight of The Greater Good and He was the only Man ever to be called Gods Friend.

[@6FootVampire]

Tom doesn’t understand why thoughts can destroy you, because he has not experienced sufficient trauma to know. The thoughts can be unstoppable. Its like bathing in ice but YOU dont have control over when you get out. Tom, you should have more people on who knows about trauma.

[@Nora-et6et]

Loved your perspective on marriage Tom, I wish all men had that level of respect and commitment to honor the marriage.

[@pieceofmind8421]

❤ thank you. I love you both for what you do. I’m so grateful that I get to spend time with you like this without ever even knowing you in person I’ve learned so much from the both of you as I watch a lot of both of your stuff along with Joe Dispenza and Mel Robbins, you’ve all had a huge impact on my life. Along with The School of Greatness and Ed Mylett.

[@zynlove6867]

Im here to learn from Jay, love his response to the masculine feminine situation. I agree, souls. I am so glad he got to say this because anytime ive heard this podcast its one thing i cant get down with how he defines sexes so strictly. Imo humans are JUST vehicles for souls with all sorts of energy. That is from a spiritual aspect. I see you Jay.🕉🙏🏼

[@yohan9747]

Tom: "I don't understand why people are scared of meditating". Tom, you often say you don't understand human reaction to some things and very often I do know why. When I hear you say this, I hear judgement. Like what some things people do is litteraly crazy. I am not scared of meditation but some are because meditation will stop your hamster like thinking. Meditation will give you clarity and maybe you are scared of clarity. Some people are scared of the truth because they feel they cannot handle the truth. You don't understand those people because you have not been through tough times that challenges your core beliefs about how life works.

[@lluiszardoya]

Man I REALLY enjoyed this episode! Can I suggest you bringing Dr John Demartini in the show?? 🙏🏼❤️

[@lenderzconstable]

This guy was on your show when I first discovered you. I wish my limits were further. I’m feeling it hard that I’m not doing well what I set out to do with new job and two classes. All are suffering. I fear I might have to start at the beginning again….

[@JL-sw3sb]

Meditation does not give me peace. Sitting still and breathing does not stop to give my mind a break. Meditation with movement works better for me to break away and reorganise my thoughts.

[@leeleeg.1242]

What type of meditation with movement? Like mindful walking?

[@ramdasshetty2856]

Your mind is so disturbed thst you cant even stay still. You need to meditate for longer

[@moonolyth]

@Ramdas Shetty Qigong,Taichi, Kuji kiri, all focusing physical montras, most important breathing, all gestures, movements, to the same end ? Go figure.... PS, this guy 3yr vet Monk, is an entrepreneur first. Regular Joe Smo.

[@ramdasshetty2856]

@@moonolyth BUT HE IS GIVING FULL VALUE FOR FREE THROUGH HIS VIDEOS AND PODCASTS. SO I AM HAPPY IF HE EARNS MONEY THRO ENTREPRENEURSHIP. HE GIVES SO MUCH TRANSFORMATIVE MATERIAL FOR FREE THAT I DONT GRUDGE HIM HIS WEALTH

[@acmb6763]

I think people are afraid of their thoughts because if they find out something negative that needs to be changed, then they HAVE to do something about it, and change is terrifying. If you pretend you don’t know what’s wrong, and if you can blame other things other than yourself, you don’t have to change.

[@ramdasshetty2856]

JAY IS RIGHT. PEOPLE ARE AFRAID TO BE WITH THEIR THOUGHTS AND THAT IS WHY PEOPLE DRINK ALCOHOL EVERYDAY, TAKE DRUGS EVERYDAY, SMOKE CIGERETTE KNOWING IT KILLS, BINGE WATCH TV, MOVIES, DO STUPID THINGS. JAY IS ALSO GIVING THE SOLUTION. THANK YOU JAY

[@scottk1525]

I don't think fear has anything to do with it. I think people just don't feel good, and get bored too easily.

[@thoticcusprime9309]

False, I despise humans, and I watch anime to keep to distract me from my plan on destroying humanity until I get the resources

[@thoticcusprime9309]

@@scottk1525 I dont get bored or fear anything

[@scottk1525]

@@thoticcusprime9309 Want a cookie?

[@moonolyth]

Hier self is to explore for the self, and there are paths that feel and look like something they are not, including mind altering invitations, although they can be used as tools so long as the I intention is appropriate and calibrated. For every higher choice, there is a lower as above, so below.

[@VSCNDED]

I would love to educate you guys through my experience and millions of other people that share the same insight. Tom there is an afterlife, and the best part about it is that we can visit it before we pass. We often neglect the power of guided meditation, binaural frequencies, creating the “OHM” sound from within our ROOTS. I got up to 2.5 hours of deep meditation before I was able to train myself to leave the physical & return. This practice is called Astral Projection or OOBE.

[@ShawnnellBatiste]

Those trust levels got me!! So true!!!

[@gracejasinthpriyadarsini2489]

Admirable speech l love and appreciate my favourite speaker Jay genius l love his speech very much.

[@TheOneJone_Done]

Hi Tom, I really like your work. The podcast's are really pleasant to watch. I learned a great deal, about, practically everything. Watching your show's. I really hope that you like making them, as mush as we like watching them. You really had a big impact on me, and I am really looking forward for the next episodes. Love your work. And Thank You. :)

[@j2j_5675]

Self love or love period is about perspective. Everyone has a different journey in life. No one loves the same because of perspective.

[@dinomiles7999]

First learn and feel comfortable with sitting alone in the darkness WITHOUT your cell phone in silence for 3 hrs. Then you are on your way . Start with FEELING your beingness .

[@anastasiauglear4716]

Manifesting to find a man with their mindset 🤞

[@jdreamhunter]

Tom, I want to binge-watch all your amazing interviews! I guess I need a year in solitude.

[@susanmiyashiro2828]

What a powerful message. I love the flower analogy❤❤

[@comfybella3503]

one of the realest conversations so far ...merci xx

[@schutzi2282]

Stopping this video is a good way to start living better.

[@thoticcusprime9309]

lmao

[@innosanto]

Why?

[@mpsorr]

The thumbnail to this suggests there's no limit to Jay Shetty's bangs. (j/k I kid... totally love these guys!)

[@snejdimitrova8501]

Thank you guys ❤

[@ayaazarm3478]

Just started listening and I feel it’s going to be great, happy Tuesday, stay hard

[@rajbeer1580]

Me too ✨

[@kelvinH577]

$240,000 profits,on the current market situation Surely there is great Good in serving God!!!

[@kelvinH577]

@tamirageelen7363you're welcome friend that's true! Most errors people encounter in the market system today is as a results of poor orientation and methods needed for winning

[@kelvinprincewill3884]

This is the wisest thing I've ever seen today 👌

[@kelvinprincewill3884]

Presently In any country there are developers who make wealth. So I see all of this doom and gloom, but there will always be individuals who make much funds, because people always want homes

[@francisakpati1120]

Indeed crypto is the best investment, earning 3x my salary soon I won't work anymore...everyone should start taking part in it.

[@gulzaibpakistan7778]

haan tum log sahee ho. dijital sampatti ke baajaar mein pravesh karana pichhale saal mere saath huee sabase achchhee baat thee

[@farmazony6373]

Love this episode from 1:18, really awesome, never heard two guys talking about something like this 🙃💓🤩🙌😋

[@simonzak1407]

Awesome. Just what I was ready to hear this relaxing Saturday morning-hey, what about finding a special space to sit with myself and an timed alarm, without external stimuli?

[@lauragiosh-markov586]

Really rich discussion!

[@patkielkowskigolf]

I wish that the struggles you are already going through bring you profound self value

[@msbeecee1]

I love how Tom challenged Jay on being too easy on people 🤣

[@1percentmind]

Great video, love all the insight shared about meditation, Life, Love !

[@kylefer]

I'm not sure if this would be good for me, I watch KZbin videos like this as I drift off to sleep so that my brain isn't allowed to wonder because when it does, it goes to places so dark that often I'm quite surprised I could even imagine it, if a KZbin video stops playing after I fall asleep then it will go to those dark places in my dreams or on my waking thoughts, it's ideal of a video is playing from start to finish, at times I have dreamed that I am talking in these podcasts during the silent moments. I might try this but I am honestly deeply afraid of where my mind might be allowed to just linger and I think that that would actually detriment my mental health to allow it.

[@nickm2400]

Great information

[@CandyLemon36]

The compelling narrative of this content is deeply impactful. A book with congruent themes was a defining life event. "Dominating Your Clock: Strategies for Professional and Personal Success" by Anthony Rivers

[@bliss252]

Solitude is literally my thing. In fact I'm hoping to one day come across a job that nobody wants to do because it requires periods of solitude so I can swoop in and get paid lots of money 🤞😅

[@pambalakhan6020]

Lol

[@shyneray250]

It's always a Huge service to us for these 2 to sit for a conversation together! I agree with Jay that both of them are quite similar in a lot of ways!!

[@superk6487]

I’m confused Jay..I meditate to silence my mind because my mind never switches off unless I meditate. Yes for the 1st 5 minutes it will chatter but once it knows I’m listening it goes quiet.. That’s what meditation is for me! That complete self awareness that my mind shuts the fuck up because it knows I’m really encouraging it lol..

[@TheCuriousGenius]

"It'" is the $h*t ! Love it! ❤️

[@zonadaworks]

Doomscrolling cats.... I feel SEEEEEN, ha ha ha ha ha. Really appreciate and am grateful for the info/ideas on your channel.

[@andyzmuda7552]

I LOVE BOTH OF YOU SOO MUCH

[@nabilizzat2048]

Hi Joe Gomez!

[@PureMethod]

If someone deal with OCD, eating disorder and anxiety, is it even possible to have meditation? I feel like it may cause panic attacks with overloaded thought...

[@thechosendrum5313]

Great discussion!

[@teemupalviainen]

45:00 this is so funny to hear, since I'm here down a rabbit hole that began with a Westworld episode named after a Chinese book. Such an innocent looking small thing can change the course of life...

[@victoriahangula382]

I am so grateful for the selfless , clarity, & humble sharing of this great souls.more of such topics can heal the youth from their fear and insecurities to flower into loving and valuable world citizens. Om Shanti.

[@kellybuch8526]

I think it’s the people who don’t like who they are as a person who can’t be alone.

[@INTELLIGENCE_Revolution]

Ok. I think solitude fits into our individualistic societies. But it doesn’t fit into collective cultures. So how do you reconcile that.

[@ramdasshetty2856]

You are thinking wrong. If one has to know themself then they have to be conscious about themself all the time finding solitude even in a crowd to learn about yourself so that you can feel the kindness, compassion, love for yourself while learning the side thst needs transformation. When you know yourself through this process and then getting into relationships to help others go through the same process so that those relationships become an adventure