Jay Shetty: This MONEY Conversation Will SAVE Your RELATIONSHIP! (No One Talks About THIS!)

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Jay Shetty is back to discuss love, relationships, and the often tricky subject of money. Him and Lewis dive deep into the complexities of financial responsibilities in dating, unraveling the intricate ways we assess value in men and women, while dissecting societal expectations, gender roles, and the power dynamics that influence our views on relationships.
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:03:21 - The First Date Dilemma
00:06:36 - Splitting the Bill on Dates
00:09:38 - Contributing to a Relationship
00:13:13 - Attracting What You Use to Impress
00:16:22 - The Confusion of Wanting and Seeking Safety in Relationships
00:19:44 - The Addiction to Drama and the Search for Safety
00:22:59 - The Power Dynamics of Money in Relationships
00:26:13 - Gender Roles and Financial Success
00:29:43 - Knowing Yourself and Your Strengths
00:33:03 - The Five Aspects of a Relationship
00:36:02 - The Importance of Money and Time in Relationships
00:39:21 - The Value of Stay-At-Home Moms
00:42:41 - Dividing Up Rent and Relationship Dynamics
00:45:56 - Having Uncomfortable Conversations in Relationships
00:49:07 - Having Honest Conversations In Relationships
00:52:21 - Financial Contribution and Relationships
00:55:44 - Navigating Finances in Relationships
00:58:35 - The Complexity of Relationships and Prenuptial Agreements
01:01:43 - Creating Clarity and Peace with an Agreement
01:04:53 - The Importance of Vulnerable Conversations
01:08:10 - Four Check-ins for a Meaningful Relationship
01:11:24 - Working Through Challenges in a Relationship
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[@lewishowes]

Thanks to my good friend Jay Shetty for this impactful conversation! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share your biggest takeaway. And make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again KZbin.com/lewishowes

[@tracydavis148]

Please stop with the Generationalizations ... and say Some or Many ? My single ness has nothing to do with what you're single due to the fact that I'm a believer in Jesus and the man that is suitable for me has to get the approval of the Holy Spirit.

[@syuscalow]

the must duo I need to watch!

[@tinuvi]

I'm right on ready for this conversation. Tinu from Ghana🥰😇

[@Clint.Abrams]

Really enjoyed this 🎉

[@hustleandmotivatebynate]

Relationships communicate connections being openness honest and understanding without judgement

[@tinuvi]

I desire a man who is tidy, leads a comfortable life, diligently works to provide for his family, communicates effectively, values peace, and approaches situations with objectivity.

[@iamaninvestor2086]

Tidy is the first thing...interesting

[@alainstout]

All I want is not so demanding just a good woman

[@mequable]

I actually wouldn't want a too tidy of a person. On the other hand, I rarely meet men skilled in emotional intelligence and communication and I'm starting to realise I may not be moving in the right circles.

[@sheejaeldo9311]

My favorite guys on this podcast. You both make people's lives so much better with great insight to life. Thank you.

[@Carol-sx6rg]

Well that can be if you are the same I guess. 😊 Im together 25 years with my man. Married kids, he works fulltime outside the house, I work full-time inside the house. We communicate about practical things but when it comes to: what do I want and want do you want in your free time ? We just don't match so good. At the moment. Because you go true fases i think. Money is a big party pooper I experience! It can give my husband a lot of worries. Not fit me and I'm certainly not a spoiler of money. We do oke. But my advice; don't go for the charming man with a lot if money. See how he deals with your desires, and his own. What makes you most happy and do you match ? Also with boundaries, spiritual thinking, raising kids. And never take the other for granted in what she/,he does.

[@MandyJRoss]

If you’re reading this I pray you receive the highest form of love. You deserve the best.💗🙏🏼

[@VeronicaG_777]

I desire a man who is humble,has self confidence not ego but self confidence,self love and self worth, who has family values that loves and respects me, my kids friends and family as well as his. I desire a man who values happiness, love, peace a man who is faith based and has an open mind and open heart, someone who I can grow with as an entrepreneur. A man who helps around the house, a man who takes accountability for his own action's, a man who doesn't look down upon other's ❤

[@anneflanagan9242]

Good Morning! Always love listening you two …as you know ! We all think you Rock! My Question this morning is WE would love to see a Podcast on HOW & WHERE to meet someone that would align with all these aspects .. Our Heart, Our generosity, how we communicate with, Values etc.. would love to hear people’s thought of finding a platform to meet people of substance. Thanks for listening too!

[@sonyamoreno6918]

ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOU BOTH TOGETHER ❤❤🎉🎉🎉

[@tyronenurse1314]

Very dynamic conversation very realistic and true full

[@kimradcliffe5337]

Yes yes yes!!! ❤wow❤. You guys hit it out of the park on these discussions. I love listening to you guys discuss these somewhat awkward topics. I’m a 57yr young single (divorced 10years) mum of 6 amazing adult kids who is finally opening her heart to love ❤️ again and am deeply touched by your points of view. I chose to stay at home for almost 33 years and am still supporting my youngest son at 20 who has ASD. I cried listening to the survey you shared Jay and then your discussion around the value of being a stay at home mum. Wow. So deeply grateful on so many levels for your perspectives in opening up this subject and being so vulnerable to talk about these topics ❤. This has been an incredible listen. I’ve shared this KZbin link with my 33yr son who is entering a new relationship with more awareness and consciousness living ❤. Thank you 🙏 to you both and thank you to the amazing women at your side ❤so grateful

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@_perspektiv_]

I love when you both create content like this. I always know it’s going to be really good gems 💎 - This video helped me realized what I truly desire from a relationship, and how my past relationships failed and why I seemed to always chase instead of focus on self love and allow the relationship to come into myself through detachment. Not allowing the ego mind to take over. I loved the part where it was mentioned about getting material things or altering something physically to attract the person who will love you for those things 🤯 It’s deeper than physical objects, physical appearance, and Love. It’s the understanding of one’s self And changing beliefs Through subconscious reprogramming. Thank You 🙏🏽 for your work guys!

[@lewishowes]

🙏

[@tulakaraliasrealtor2933]

Thank you guys for your wisdom! It is a pleasure to listen to you!

[@coisinhasdalaisa]

The wisdom you share together is amazing! I learn so much from you.

[@gabbyt22]

I love seeing you both!!!! Thank you for making these episodes together! 🙏🏼👏🏼

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@Shuffletraveler]

This conversation was amazing. Thank you for this knowledge and awareness you give to the world, it makes the world a better place! ❤️

[@laflakax]

Thank you so much! I love this video so much. Such a topic! 🔥

[@kobusnortje6492]

Thank you so much, I needed this insight. I am a widowed dad of 2 boys, 2 and 5, and it is super tough. My wife and I had all of this figured out so clearly, also started out with very little and built each other up to great heights. Now we have inherited enough for us to be comfortable, but I also have a fairly high earning job. At the same time I'm raising these two boys alone to the best of my abilities. Really struggling with dating as I don't have much time, and not getting the peace and harmony I expect from it. I know I should have patience and not expect too much, but this gave me much needed perspective of what I can expect in fairness. I can provide really well but I need a loving woman's touch.

[@ninag7900]

This is so so Good! Everyone should be having these conversations. And If you are with someone that pushes back and are closed off to having them - big red flag 🚩already. Can't wait for the upcoming "awkward" conversations 😁

[@jvincy32]

I love this dynamic duo !!! This is actually giving me a better perspective. I was married 17yrs and to look back is to say boy I wish I done this better. This give me hope for a better future..

[@cheryladriennem.7814]

Guys! Thank you for this!! The conversation & communication is the key. Keep it coming ❤

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@sarahsimpson9848]

When it comes to communicating in relationships people just clam up and cant express themselves until it is too late or broken up. Great advice and wisdom.

[@virginiag5580]

Jay Shetty yes!!!!!! Thank you for another great episode. Love him & Radhi 🙏

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for being here!

[@emesezitasomoskeri1876]

I was following you guys separately. I always interested in all your topics and appreciated you wisdom,now together is amazing. This kind of conversations are so inspiring and insightful. Thank you for your great work and please keep doing it.

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@alessandrogarciawoodwindre1250]

Great conversation guys, thanks!

[@amandasymon4363]

Lots and lots to contemplate - Like you said - Relationships are ever changing thus the need to keep communicating with your partner honestly - Great podscast 🙏

[@lewishowes]

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[@AngedAmour326]

Thank you so much for this!!

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@anqi6458]

This is the conversation I want to listen to when 2 men are talking! Nice deep dive of sharing responsibilities in a very practical realistic way.

[@lewishowes]

Thank you!

[@lilibethnieto55]

Thank you for unraveling the truth and core of all relationships. Having clarity in all aspects that concern the relationship leads to peace and lasting union. Thank you for navigating this tricky topic about serious relationship. Appreciate you both Lewis and Jay. ❤

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@lauraleff608]

Fantastic, guys!! Well done!!

[@shanacavanah4285]

👏🏼 YES! I have learned so much through both of your guys KZbin videos. The biggest takeaway for me is learning how to feel safe within myself because I did also grow up in a household without safety and love. I was always looking outside of myself and cousins figure out why I could never find it until I realized I didn’t even know what that felt like.

[@lewishowes]

🧡

[@jvincy32]

💯💯💯

[@vickibazter3446]

❤ 🙏

[@cparker7431]

You guys both have fantastic insites and really play off each other in your conversations!! Jay hit it ! Safety, low stress, peace, connection. I think you'll always have highs and lows in life and a safe choice or trust doesn't mean boring...in your 50's its a challenge Lewis hit the security around money....what if he had money and gets ill or loses his money?

[@daanbuse]

Thanks this is profound ❤

[@rikkiola]

Love this, feels very raw, authentic and unscripted. Compelling viewing. Thanks for your vulnerability and sharing

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for being here!

[@ChristineKatongo-gp3py]

This was amazing educative conversation

[@louisesanguine1693]

Beautiful ❤. All in context

[@frederiquemichiels831]

Thank you so much Lewis & Jay for these perspectives. Listening to the conversation made me realize and learn a lot about myself and why things did not work out in my previous relationships. ❤❤❤

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@luisafarfan9258]

Thank you very much 🙏♾️🌻😇, everyday we learn new things 😊

[@lewishowes]

🙌

[@expandwithhannah]

These conversations are so cool to see the inside of your lives. Love this series!

[@lewishowes]

Thank you!

[@sherryj738]

Absolutely love seeing you two together again

[@lewishowes]

Thank you!

[@farializ]

Love both of you guys!!!! Two men full of greatness, my life has changed for the better because of your wisdom and teachings, thank you ❤💯❤

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@souljourney937]

Thank you for this conversation....it's very eye opening and very knowledgeable! ❤

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@kameliajaber58]

YES.... so great Thank you both for these conversations. 💕

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@yulyglez5592]

This is a great conversation , even when I can’t understand everything because my English isn’t perfect. I think too many people need to learn about those things in the relationship. Thank you guys for sharing your point of view ❤❤❤❤

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome! Thanks for watching!

[@farializ]

Great interview and very informative! You two gentlemen are so amazing and authentic. Love seeing you guys together so powerful, thank you 💯❤️

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for being here!

[@galina6707]

Gorgeous and useful conversation👏👏 Thanks a lot guys!! You are so beautiful! Love your wisdom 🌷🌷

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome! Thanks for watching.

[@natymackenzie6699]

What a wonderful conversation! I really liked this “Awkward Therapy” Episode … this is my first, and I’m hooked. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you Lewis and Jay 🙏

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@irisgunn-me3cg]

Great conversation! Thanks

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@Woodlyne00]

More of this, please!!!!

[@larinaballerina]

Great conversation. We need to speak more about this!! Thank you to my two favourites!

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@DominionAnako-bb7ry]

Having a conversation is all about being engaged, listening, and responding to each other. It's important to show interest in what the other person is saying and ask questions to keep the conversation going. You can talk about shared interests, ask about their day, or discuss current events. Remember to be a good listener and give thoughtful responses. And most importantly, have fun and enjoy getting to know each other better! 😊🗣️

[@ericrobinson9340]

Upvote this. It’s intimate relationship 101, no google needed!

[@danielpinero81]

Amazing episode both of you are really cracks! Thank you!

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! 🧡

[@aissatouweber]

Same to you shetty Love the Power of your mum and of your wife too❤

[@annaverner4793]

That's just amazing! thank you so much!

[@32icee21]

Much gratitude to you both thank you guys for the information in this conversation

[@lewishowes]

🧡🧡🧡

[@pedroarroyo345]

Ohh this is gonna be good

[@MagroMelanina]

You two are great! Both understand life, love, peace and relationships. The disney princess part was my favorite.

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much for your feedback. 🧡

[@amandasymon4363]

Safety every time. Create safety in yourself first - I agree. Shame I didn’t work this out before.

[@basraabdi9479]

World's best two mentors!

[@lewishowes]

🙏

[@MarianellaSierraMoreno]

Absolutely loved it!!

[@lewishowes]

Thank you!

[@juniperstardust5549]

Jay Shetty is my favorite guest in this show, he is truly unique and has a unique look on things, that is what we need the most in our current time. Thanks for the great and eye opening content ❤❤❤

[@suzannedianetti702]

It’s Jay Shetty’s show. ON PURPOSE with Jay Shetty, but whenever Jay and Louis are together it’s amazing!!!!!

[@juniperstardust5549]

@@suzannedianetti702 I thought I was watching school of greatness

[@juniperstardust5549]

​@@suzannedianetti702This is the school of greatness ❤❤❤

[@GodisGracious11]

One of my two favorites coming together 🙌🧡🙏🏻🏆

[@lewishowes]

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[@tinuvi]

Great decision Jay👍

[@Karem.milian]

Yessss my two fav people together ❤

[@lewishowes]

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[@user-zh5cz6kz1m]

Check ins. Nice. Great idea!

[@anubhav_lal]

Loved the discussion! Thanks guys, insightful interation..I will ruminate and share it and discuss it with my partner and I hope everyone does it too :)

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@PaigeSquared]

Regular series! 😊

[@crosscountrymtb3351]

Jay, WOW!!! I couldn't agree with you more...I think we are on the same page!!! 👏 Lewis ... I understand why you want to be a breadwinner...totally.... but sounds like it's also an ego thing for you ..... like Jay said "we don't know what's coming for us..." imagine you got ill or were unwell for a very long time or for the rest of your life...or there was a war....and you could no longer work or earn.. how would that work with your current partner?... you would have you let go of your ego. Think about it.... sometimes we have to let our Pride go and let other ppl or your partner take care of us...even if it's financially or emotionally. I think it's the biggest challenge in life especially for men - to let someone else take care of you financially (should there be a need). You have talked about how you have grown- but you will grow even more when you let go of your pride and ego. (Not saying "ego" in a negative way btw... most men have egos.... I have been working on this too myself for a while).

[@rukiaatta8461]

It was interesting. You two have such a nice chemistry .

[@greicegomesdesousa5263]

Bom dia! Amooo esse podcast, tem sido muito bom vê tanta gente maravilhosa passando informações valiosíssima para melhor minha vida .obg lewis por tudo🙏👏👏👏👏

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@tinuvi]

'The woman's loyalty is tested when a man has nothing.... and man's loyalty is tested when he has everything.... hmmmm

[@fastrabbitcrochet]

I thought that’s a great quote to remember. Never heard loyalty broke down like that

[@FirstnameLastname-pe5ib]

Jay Shetty would make a good roman character in a movie

[@jumeldaetienne7581]

Yes, Fair play Great movie

[@chilombe]

Great podcast... It let to me watching the movie Jay refers to (Fair play) : loved the ending...

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@karinabarahona6483]

I love this ❤️

[@tyronenurse1314]

It's very educational and informative. Lessons to learn and build positive attitude towards relationships. Do you agree?

[@lewishowes]

Thank you!

[@luffyd.monkey4925]

Being true is dufficult, but is the only thing you need in a relationship.

[@jumeldaetienne7581]

Great content

[@portiapotter7513]

Yes…this was a great conversation. My biggest takeaway was having regular check-ins with your partner throughout the year. Jay Shetty mentioned four. These check-in could have saved a lot of marriages/ relationships!

[@lewishowes]

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[@nazihabentoura8426]

My two favorite coaches

[@lewishowes]

🙏

[@sky-163]

I agree with whatever you 2 said.

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for being here!

[@tyronenurse1314]

Jay the point with the lawyer and doctor relationship is simply for better for worse , in sickness or in health. These are the basics of lasting love !

[@queenofpossibility325]

VERY INTERESTING

[@lewishowes]

👍

[@aissatouweber]

You are great❤❤❤❤❤ Lewis you understand life you love peace you love Harmony you are greata You are whole

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much for your kind words 🧡

[@kevinhawthorne5257]

Great Video!

[@lewishowes]

Thank you!

[@craigosterberg5045]

Thanks

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@raqueltorres6380]

A faithful gentleman no hidden agenda

[@lisabishop8298]

Dear Lewis I want to give you my apologies because I felt a draw to a man called David and I feel bad that I didn’t try to get to know you better because your presence brought me so much peace and honesty at this time I guess because things feel so painful for me emotionally I am walking away from men in general for a while but I really wanted to get to know you because I have never been around any man that has brought me peace. Please be blessed 😇

[@hayleyprice8345]

Yes I didn't have the conversation with my partner when he moved in

[@katnez]

I want boring safety. I just told my daughters I was a high value woman & they know the reasons why. I have inner peace along with morals

[@user-fv6ke8vv2z]

Life is stressful enough- without worrying about a relationship / it’s also about continually meeting expectations / If you find yourself stressed financially… simply stay away from it , but don’t feel guilty about renting a lady , in order to avoid loneliness or depression… / Just my own thoughts 😊

[@onlyfabuliz9424]

Yay my 2 fave 🥳

[@lewishowes]

🙏

[@christinaleilupo8343]

It’s very different in different country’s!

[@marifee6535]

If both put values in a relationship.. Shouldn't be a big deal talking bout whos paying who...(Give and take.)..❤ I growedup and raised doing farms with a family my father all the way provide everything while my mother taking care of us ...living simple life has a lot of #respect#serve#communication... Thank you for a wonderful episode...🫶yall both...

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@fharag1732]

Lewis ❤

[@tamartamunanemsadze7750]

Some people think about real things is life, such as have a family and kids, so these things are tangible. Men should step up.

[@sowhatdude111]

I wish you’d gone on a tangent at 22:42 to talk about how to heal that “safety wound”. I am in need of insight on this topic and have no idea where to go for it.

[@megliz993]

Absolutely I'm scared all push them away, I don't know what true Love looks like I always been the giver I would love to meet a pure and genuine Man.i know I deserve a healthy and wealthy secure relationship . I sound like a self help tape. Lol 😅

[@landenlamoly]

So good

[@lewishowes]

🙌

[@user-zh5cz6kz1m]

Cultures, the beliefs, etc. Pretty hard topics.

[@user-zh5cz6kz1m]

Very interesting

[@lewishowes]

👍

[@radbehedalati3279]

Hi❤

[@tinuvi]

Overvaluing and undervaluing👌👌

[@veronikag8998]

Where can I find an episode they did on polyamory vs monogamy?