10 SECRETS for a Happy Marriage!

[@thefehrs]

Beautiful video, we have been married for 34y my husband still opens the door for me and holds my hand, I think it's the sweetest thing. The more selfless you are the better the marriage but the most important thing is to keep God in the center above all❤

[@thisgoldenhour]

That’s beautiful, Kathy ❤️ thanks for sharing!

[@chelseafailla9887]

To anyone else who has a husband who doesn't fit the stereotype of "wanting sex all the time in all the places" - you're not broken. Maybe you as the wife are the one who would like to be intimate more often and times when your husband is tired of unavailable you feel like a failure because of the largely taught "women need to be ever available for their sexual husbands" - you're not a failure. Every marriage looks different - do your best to have open conversations about it and figure out what works best for the two of you ♥️

[@tnctnc5972]

I know what you're talking about here as in the beginning of our marriage my husband to was more like this we went through a very good counseling and I would strongly encourage this as our marriage change so much he was very locked up in his heart without even realizing this but our sex life is so different since ,please do know I realize everyone is different but if this could help someone then I want to share !!!

[@annarocha3254]

Thank you so much! My husband is a wonderful man but he can become so focused on other things that he can genuinely forget intimacy. That doesn't make him less of a man and it doesn't make me less of a woman.

[@chelseafailla9887]

@@annarocha3254 you're right

[@dominiquejones1091]

And in this note hormone levels for men are often forgot. Womens hormones change and need attention, so do mens.

[@Sarah-psalm127]

This is beautifully said. I can't even tell you the a ount of pain I suffered feeling there was something wrong with me because of this. The idea that " men want it all the time" ( which is a lie) made me feel like it definitely must have been me. I hope other wives that are going through that heed your advice here and don't take it upon themselves like I had.

[@janicegordon3705]

This was a great video, Steph! I am 64 and my husband is 72. God has been so faithful to us. Marriage is a gift.

[@alittleheavenonearth]

❤amen sister

[@MrNorthbees]

Loved this video. My favorite peice of advise we received was that the tide goes in and out. Sometimes we're in a phase of marriage that seems slow and boring and then another stage we're we're feeling connected and its fun to be spending time with each other. So if you're in a phase where the tide is out ( maybe you've just had a newborn and there's not much sleep and lots of tension and uncertainty about how to navigate everything) don't worry the tide will come in again where you get more sleep, laugh together over things your child is doing and all of a sudden you're feeling a great connection with your spouse again 😊

[@prairieflowermercantile]

My partner and I got pregnant 6 months into dating so we have had to learn a lot along the way and with my daughter at 19 months I was finding it hard to fall in love with the process of homemaking, mothering, being a good wife, etc & I was really really overwhelmed and my partner starting becoming dissatisfied with the home so I knew I needed to change but your videos are really helpful and I think my struggle with these things was more an unknowing of how to do it rather than a dislike so day by day I'm getting better & learning to love at being a homekeeper and I'm really grateful because motherhood and marriage and taking care of a home are so precious. thank you and blessings.

[@nikkita1688]

Im 10 years into that scenario. Dont you ever quit. ❤

[@cocojosie007]

I love your content. These chatting videos are on a whole different level. Really appreciate &respect what you're doing.

[@kathyesargent9088]

40 years for me in July. A great marriage, wonderful husband. We are very blessed❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@barbarapeterson8030]

Hello Steph, married with two sons, 2 grandblessings. We have been married 35 yrs and together 40 yrs. TO GOD THE GLORY

[@thisgoldenhour]

That’s amazing, Barbara 💗

[@vjowell]

Just finished the book Heaven by Randy Alcorn. This was a comforting book and is thought provoking. Thank you for you Christian witness. I’ve been married for almost 38 years and it is a journey. Marriage gets better with age.

[@angeloverturff7323]

One of the major issues I have seen in young marriages is when children arrive the wife puts them first ahead of her husband. And not just the newborn years, it continues on throughout the children's lives. The wife becomes so focused on being a great mom, she forgets that she is a wife first. Then when the children grow up and move on, there is nothing left of the marriage because the husband has been neglected for so long.

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

I've been married for 3 years and we're about to start trying for a baby this year. Thank you for posting this; it's something I've never thought of!❤️

[@pixxiestrength]

Valid point. Although I have seen this happen with spouses who became parents for the first time in their 40s too.

[@BeeHappy968]

I’ve always looked at it this way: Husband came into my life before our children. Without him I wouldn’t have our kids whom I love so much. It’s similar to man…How would God feel if a man started neglecting Him after his wife came into the picture?

[@anjaliawate1734]

Husband 1st always n always

[@anjaliawate1734]

As he is 1 St baby..

[@mrsj5890]

This was very encouraging to me. I have a new resolve to be a support to my husband and to keep the flame of love burning brightly. Thanks so much for taking the time to share with us. God bless you and your family!

[@thisgoldenhour]

That’s wonderful! Thanks for being here 💗

[@michelesusanne1]

I think the best way to be an encouragement to our children and other couples is to lead by example-model a Godly marriage. There are so many unrealistic and unhealthy social media and TV examples. Married since 1991. Great ideas, Steph 🌼

[@thisgoldenhour]

So true, Michelle ❤ actions speak louder than words!

[@alittleheavenonearth]

That’s a loooog time sister blessings ❤❤❤❤

[@ozarkview928]

We just went through the Love an Respect series on dvd as a church. So enlightening even after 40 years for us . I love your advice on practicing saying how you feel and defusing it before you dump it on him . Very wise .

[@thisgoldenhour]

That’s wonderful! I’d love to go through the series again 😊

[@denisebrann8563]

Thank you for taking on this subject. I am on the farther end of middle age and while watching this video I realized how I have taken my husband and marriage for granted. Thanks for the reminder to start (and keep) putting effort back into this area.

[@crystalm9733]

Wow I’m not even 8 minutes into this video yet and it’s already blessing my marriage! ❤️ Thank you!! 🤗

[@lisamcdonald7125]

This was such a good video. You really covered some great topics. We really need to invest into our marriages. About a year ago I really started praying for my spouse and our marriage and us coming closer together and God has so answered my prayers. It takes an effort but its so worth it. God be abundant to you ❤

[@alittleheavenonearth]

When god is the centre ❤ that’s a true marriage

[@cathywhitney5974]

For me and my hubby we may go to a little angry, we always I love you just give till morning to understand what you’re saying to me. Most mornings I usually understand what my hubby was trying to say to me or the other way around. After 43 years we have found what works for us as a couple. The last 2 days my wonderful husband got a yard of dirt and we are putting grass on bald spots on our yard. He has work so hard, yes I helped but he did all the heavy work. My husband is amazing guy. Sometimes we argue just so we can cuddle as our grown children think we are yucky for doing that! Because it’s always a stupid thing we are arguing about. You put your foot down to heavy! What ever! Is what I usually say. Well stomp your way over here your man needs a hug. Great men give you joy over just walking ❤

[@momof3498]

😂may all your ups and downs be between the sheets!!😂😂😂 that’s the best answer

[@joscelynpease6656]

Thank you for speaking of and representing a Godly happy marriage. It is refreshing to hear positivity vs. the constant push in media to portray it as something so dreadful. I am fascinated in how you believe that some relationships will still be there in heaven but not the most important one with your husband? It seems to go counter to everything you are striving so hard to build. I believe our families can be together in that form and it will be one of the greatest blessings heaven can offer.

[@maresadavis8135]

You are such a beautiful, intelligent and Godly lady. I admire you so much. This is such a wonderful channel where you can reach so many and have such a positive impact on their lives. Keep up the good work. I am in my 37th year of marriage but it has truly been a difficult and rough journey. God has been faithful and gracious that's for sure. God bless you and your channel. I enjoy it so very much. Watching from NC.

[@jjzook8033]

I so much agree with the farm lifestyle being an opportunity to spend more time together! I feel like some of our best conversations happen over milking time! I totally loved this video!

[@alittleheavenonearth]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 love it

[@tijo.mrs.fox1998]

I absolutely enjoyed this video! I have been married to my wonderful husband for over four years. We will be celebrating our 5th anniversary at the end of June. Thanks for sharing on this subject. I was very encouraged!

[@alittleheavenonearth]

Happy anniversary ❤❤❤❤

[@itsalliemac]

I love the boundaries you have created. I don't know what Josh does for work but what would you say about your husband having to work one on one with a woman sometimes. Or having to text and call this woman, but it being for work. Thank you!

[@jenniferreisler3272]

I love your perspective, and how open and honest you are. This is so helpful thank you so much ❤

[@jennifercarlton670]

Thank you ❤ Love this!! This has been encouraging and will help our marriage going forward.

[@susanpunako8590]

Hello Stephanie. This was a truly an informative conversation about marriage. Thanks for putting a lot in perspective for young and older and all seasons of life it’s all applicable.

[@christisjoypinson5599]

Oh YAY!!! I am SO excited for this video!!! I am not yet married (still waiting on the LORD 🤗) but I love learning all I can to succeed as a wife and am thrilled to hear your perspective. May you continue to grow in the sweet grace of Jesus in your marriage, your family, and your own soul! 🤗🙌🙏🏽💖💐

[@thisgoldenhour]

Aww blessings as you wait, Christis ❤ that’s amazing you’re already learning ways to support and honor your husband.

[@christisjoypinson5599]

@@thisgoldenhour thank you so much! The LORD is soooo faithful! 🤗💖

[@-living4jesus4ever-]

This is SO GOOD!! Amen, Sister!! All great words! 🎉

[@thisgoldenhour]

Thank you ❤️

[@odulcina]

I have find this video very helpful and true and I truly needed these reminders right now in my life/relation with my husband where we slowly started to be too selfish and judging and I don’t like!

[@ladybugmom10]

I agree with everything you said except for never going to bed angry. Sometimes you and/ or your husband need to sleep on the hard feelings. Just getting a good nights sleep can bring a different perspective to a disagreement and you’ll both be in a better mindset to actually have a productive conversation about the issues.

[@herronr]

As long as you verbalise that decision

[@lifenlunacy5833]

Honestly this was just what I needed to hear. Thank you ❤

[@thisgoldenhour]

Thanks for being here ❤️

[@citahostetler8737]

Love videos like this!! Thank you for sharing❤️ Marriage is such a beautiful thing and it’s been the biggest blessing in my life🥰

[@alittleheavenonearth]

Sure Is sister ❤❤❤

[@Nocturnal_Lorena]

Learnt so much. Thank you for sharing your wisdom! God bless you & your family! 🌸

[@bettiegross1767]

I agree with this. I talk and say positive things about Ron.

[@hannahwise304]

So so good and encouraging! Very tastefully done. Thank you

[@thisgoldenhour]

Thank you, Hannah ❤️

[@courtneyycarterr]

I love everything about this! ❤ so much wonderful advice and you covered everything so graciously. Well said! 🥰

[@sarahsheartshome]

you did a great job tackling this subject!! Very good and very Biblical. Thanks!

[@thisgoldenhour]

Thank you, Sarah ❤️

[@RaquelWitmer]

Such a good video, Steph.

[@jhamilton200328]

Love the honesty in this video, so refreshing!!! Love your channel ❤

[@thisgoldenhour]

Thank you so much, Jennifer 💗

[@lindabrown545]

Hey Steph I really enjoyed your video on this subject it really made me think on how I need to do better as a wife...thank you for sharing... love your channel ♥️

[@rgrey8781]

I loved this video and submission to the husband can be understood by a women walking with the Lord as in proverbs she is all out doing everything in the market place too but at the same time at home she is a home maker. It is beautiful to share your thoughts & opinions to your husband but in the end let him lead because God is his head and he is answerable to God. I have seen in India women are running after their career to make it big & to have money as the main goal but in all this children and marriage has suffered & led to numerous divorces and extra marital. I would love to share this video to my unbeliever friends trusting their hearts would accept it. God bless you❤️

[@fabhairwithbritt980]

This is so good. Thank you!! I loved your advice for newly married couples “may all your ups and downs be in between the sheets” 😂

[@nkanyisongosi6202]

Thanks a lot dear ,God bless you & your family❤🎉🎉

[@kelly-annegray2614]

Dear Steph... Thank you for this beautiful video! My husband and I celebrate two years on April 3rd. We have a 14 month old who has been very challenging... It's made our marriage a bit trickier, but it is our top priority! I love the secrets you shared and feel both convicted and encouraged to bless my marriage more!! With love from South Africa, Kelly

[@alittleheavenonearth]

The beginning is always like that especially with new born 🫣!! But it gets better sis ❤❤❤❤❤ trust me !!! Was actually in South Africa 3 months ago on a mission trip ❤❤❤ definitely a blessing

[@MadeInHome_]

This was so refreshing thank you!

[@SamBebz]

I needed this. Thank you.

[@mommyditzandfam]

If you are a working it’s hard to do all this stuff for him, after working 8hrs. You will be an exhausted wife going home to your husband. I wish I am a housewife like you. But I appreciate all your advices it’s really inspiring and motivational

[@gabyb4190]

Being a housewife is also exhausting and a very difficult thing to do because you’re never really clocked out 😉 always so much to do to attend to husband, raise the children and hold up a house but beautiful thing to do nonetheless 🩷

[@mccreightville4925]

Beautiful, tasteful video! Thank you for sharing a godly perspective!

[@rubycase6829]

Thank you for this video! Your so sweet! Love the content you put out. May God bless you and your family!

[@thisgoldenhour]

Thank you so much, Ruby ❤️

[@anniedrosham7299]

I just found your channel and wow its been a blessing to me

[@thisgoldenhour]

Thank you, Annie 🫶 Welcome here!

[@kaitlynslice673]

Loved this video. So encouraging!! God bless

[@autumnrosemusicofficial]

Thank you for your encouragement!

[@Countryheart22]

Very well said! ❤ good advice.

[@bettiegross1767]

Ron and I have been married for 53 years this February 12

[@wendyouellette]

Congratulations! My husband and I will be celebrating our 51st anniversary Easter Day!❤

[@jamiemichelle483]

Love love this video! Thank you so much for all of the helpful marriage tips! Love your channel!

[@alittleheavenonearth]

Such kindness ❤❤❤❤❤

[@SydneyMorganBeauty]

I needed this. Thank you so much 💕

[@thisgoldenhour]

Thanks for being here 💗

[@lifenlunacy5833]

What even is a perfect spouse? You are awesome

[@jennybeck2625]

Love all of this!!

[@isabelt.3377]

Hi, sister. What about when the husband does not want more children, but the wife would like to try for a last one? Time is running out, and I already regret not having had another before my last one, now 2, there is "too much space" between him and the previous two. It is not desperation, but it sure is sad, I am kind of mourning. We don't use anticonceptives nor other barriers, but the idea freaks him out, it is sad to me.

[@bettiegross1767]

Absolutely!

[@bettiegross1767]

We do the affection thing too

[@missapril2520]

You are so lovely and your advice is so valuable.

[@thisgoldenhour]

Thank you, April 💗

[@christinahelmuth1507]

This is such a solid video!🥰

[@lindasmith5190]

Wonderful advice

[@aminadjebili7771]

Love the tips! was curious to hear your thoughts about the whole basic mom look of leggings and oversized sweatshirt that you mentioned in a previous video!

[@SarahsOctoberHome]

Loved this vlog , Steph!🥰

[@thisgoldenhour]

Thank you, Sarah ❤

[@cindyruss3405]

Today is my 37 wedding anniversary. ❤

[@alittleheavenonearth]

Happy anniversary 🎉❤❤❤

[@bettiegross1767]

I don’t compare him with anyone else

[@gailfirenze4760]

Just Thankyou. 🙋🏼‍♀️🇦🇺

[@lovelifementoring5399]

Loved this 😊😊😊

[@TheImperfectReader]

I could not click those fast enough.

[@TheLightHouse7]

Just found your channel and subscribed! Loved the video!

[@thisgoldenhour]

Thank you! Welcome here 💗

[@alittleheavenonearth]

I am one your subscribers!!! Haven’t seen you post ❤🤷‍♀️

[@Aztecadr]

I love your videos and your advice..i agrer with that you say and I want to become a great wife. You're an inspiration.

[@thisgoldenhour]

Thank you so much 🫶🏼

[@JennsRetro]

Great advice ❤

[@catrice7126]

One thing that happened to me was I had uterine cancer and had to have a complete hysterectomy I can't take hormones because they can make the cancer come back My husband is supportive but it is not the same You never think this can happen to you so get ck ups at least once a year

[@alittleheavenonearth]

❤🙏

[@Leo_34409]

We can be married in Heaven ❤ no worries!

[@herronr]

Mark 12:25 and other gospels. Although it’s not talking about marriage in heaven because the Bible doesn’t say anywhere that we go to heaven when we die, rather the opposite, for example: No man has ascended up to heaven” (John 3:13). “David is not ascended into the heavens” (Acts 2:34). Jesus is returning to earth to set up Gods kingdom (mentioned so many times in the Bible and was part of the gospel preached by Jesus and the apostles) so we do not need to go to heaven if he’s coming to earth to raise the dead. The Bible says the dead have not yet been rewarded (so definitely not in heaven by most religions standards) “These all died in faith, not having received the promises, but having seen them afar off and were persuaded of them and embraced them” (Hebrews 11:13).

[@MimiMimi-is2zs]

Hello beautiful woman. Thank you for everything you do. Can you add Croatian only for cc translation? It would mean a lot and make it easier for me as a faithful companion. Thanks in advance 💟

[@bettiegross1767]

You are right but I have failed in this area

[@johannahiggs4274]

Also, I think as women, we most certainly do not always have to be available sexually for men. That's something that is much up to you and when you want it as it is for him. I think this is probably not a good value to be putting out there for women.

[@zzzzipy12]

Great advice!

[@alittleheavenonearth]

❤

[@KatieB-qv5jl]

Enjoyed the video!

[@alittleheavenonearth]

❤

[@akferren1]

You’re very lucky.. I hate being married.. one of the biggest regrets in my life

[@johannahiggs4274]

These are all things that you are going to do for him, but what is he doing for you to make you happy?

[@hilltophomestead1328]

What about Matthew 18:18-20 though? "Whatever is bound on Earth is bound in heaven". Where do you find a verse about not being married in heaven? That makes me sad. Fantastic, encouraging conversation otherwise.

[@herronr]

Mark 12:25 and other gospels. Although it’s not talking about marriage in heaven because the Bible doesn’t say anywhere that we go to heaven when we die, rather the opposite, for example: No man has ascended up to heaven” (John 3:13). “David is not ascended into the heavens” (Acts 2:34). Jesus is returning to earth to set up Gods kingdom (mentioned so many times in the Bible and was part of the gospel preached by Jesus and the apostles) so we do not need to go to heaven if he’s coming to earth to raise the dead. The Bible says the dead have not yet been rewarded (so definitely not in heaven by most religions standards) “These all died in faith, not having received the promises, but having seen them afar off and were persuaded of them and embraced them” (Hebrews 11:13).

[@herronr]

Matthew 18:18-20 doesn’t have anything to do with marriage either. You need to read the context

[@loydaestherhernandezhernan227]

❤

[@ilachild7731]

Where do you find the link to the Christian friendly sex positions? I cant find it

[@bryanquiroga3912]

My problem is how undertand women .They changed their mind every second and somethimes they get mad for every small detail.

[@livpan8889]

Your entire video is about making your husband happy. Where are the tips on how you can make EACH ANOTHER happy jointly. Pretty lopsided marital advise. AND if you never say no to your husband sexually, how will he ever know when you don't want to be sexually engaged? Aren't you entitled to autonomy over your own body?

[@LorryMLewis]

Lordy! What I heard you say in #2 "Be Interested in HIS work and things that are important to HIM". What??? That needs to be corrected to say "Be interested in EACH OTHER'S work and things that are important to EACH OTHER". And this theme was in every "secret"! The secrets to a happy marriage are never one way dear, and you missed this very important key point terribly. I am so disappointed in hearing you say it that way. You sound like you are from another century! Whoa! :(😵‍💫

[@rachelhutchinson8321]

These were great But it seems your husband has a problem or you baby him? I man should be able to browse a website of women in underwear while choosing an items for you! If he can’t do this without crazy thoughts then there is a Big problem!!!

[@narrowpathfarm]

Trying to understand you’re question/comment. Could you add punctuation? :)

[@user-bn7dg2km2d]

Maybe he just prefers not to look at other women in lingerie except his wife? We live in a hyper sexualized society, so of course anyone going against the norm will be looked down upon or misunderstood. I find it refreshing.

[@taylorwelleford8163]

Absolutely love this!! Thank you!