Thou Shalt Not Chase - Brutal Acceptance (so called avoidant)

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[@vincewarren1271]

Don't waste your time on the ones that don't like you. Pursue the ones that do. Took me too long to learn that. You can maybe eventually sway some of the ones that never liked you into liking you, but it's better time spent on the ones that already do.

[@kmarie7051]

Exactly. The guys who have to play games to try to control and keep a woman interested(usually narcissistic and psychopathic men) is usually because they have nothing of substance to offer a woman themselves and know they couldn't keep a woman just being their selfish man child selves.They have no empathy, no affective resonance, no way to truly connect and bond to others so the best they can do is to try control and manipulate. They don't have very much to offer at all to a relationship - and they know it. They're primitive or basic; they are almost infantile and underdeveloped in many respects. They don't have very much to give at all, so they are most comfortable and feel safest in relationships where they're not required to do so, because being asked to give is threatening when you have zero ability to do so. They are hoping to hide that because they know that relationships with other people will not continue if they can't. Their hope seems to be that they can charm, bamboozle, shame, or abuse other people into not seeing it or caring about it. And it often works, for a time. It doesn't work forever though, because it is impossible to hide that you cannot perform at an adult level in relationships. As soon as the relationship moves past the superficial, people begin to see it. They may not realize what they are seeing, but they see it. This is why narcissists want control over other people and situations. They have to try to stop that from happening.

[@Steve-q3b1s]

I agree man! Even with friends and family.. I was super close to my brother but he changed after he got a woman.. I understand it changes when you meet someone but don’t forget the ones that were there for you.. I would text and call just to get ignored.. I’m done bugging him I will let him be..

[@vincewarren1271]

@Steve-q3b1s if he's that whipped he'll most likely be back. He'll get tired of the control.

[@kmarie7051]

@@Steve-q3b1s maybe get your own life and family and grow up and let your brother do the same...he doesn't owe you anything. I wouldn't be surprised if people chose not to e around you as much because of your negative and cynical attitude. When people get married of course they are going to change from being single because they now have a partner or children and that's their main priorities. It happens with most people who get in relationships that they no longer hang around with their friends like they did in high school or collage. Even if they weren't married they would still be changing because we all do in our lives, well those of us capable of maturing and growing do anyway. People grow out of it and most mature adults don;t want to be doing the same things they were doing in their teens and early 20s still as they get older. Your parents likely did the same when they decided to have you, and your grandparents before them. There's men on here who move half way across the world to marry a woman and don't see their families back home for years at a time because they have their own families now. Just because you haven't been able to have your own doesn't mean your brother has to fill that void. People grow up and have adult responsibilities.

[@Steve-q3b1s]

@@kmarie7051 You aren’t worth the time too bad KZbin deleted my comment before to you..

[@lds6182]

The more you chase the more they run

[@frederico-d3l]

so true... women are turned off by desperation. you can be a 6'2 handsome man. but if you push a date too soon, sound desperate for sex... she will suddenly go cold and not even answer your calls or messages anymore.

[@BigGamingBossMan]

you'd think it was obvious based on the literal definition of the word "chase" but I guess men are just fucking stupid these days

[@IvanChristopher.]

Rejection is Gods protection

[@Insight-music]

Which god?

[@Rileyed]

Jesus would say you didn’t reject me my father rejected you

[@Scorned405]

Just like God protected Asheville NC?

[@Rileyed]

@@Scorned405 talking about when people reject you.

[@rogerdodger6025]

@@Scorned405 Yes

[@JeetKuneDoBelgrade]

I had a situation where a woman rejected me, I smiled at it, wished her the best and walked away and then she started stalking my socials media for months, watching every story, more so than my closest friends, but never once did she initiate contact. One day I simply decided to remove her as a follower and never looked back. Some women want you to chase them for validation, but they never intend to see you. Recognize it, don’t chase them, once you shoot your shot and they reject you, just silently walk away. And never accept anything less than a direct contact. Very beautiful women expect you to break your back to earn their time, but don’t ever put them on a pedestal. Treat people as they deserve.

[@Monkofthecaribbean]

Bruh you remind me of my autistic friend lol. Just cuz she looks at every story you posted doesn’t mean anything. Some people (especially women) use social media everyday so obviously she’s gonna run into your stories more than your close friends.. 🤦‍♂️

[@Kookbandit]

Exactly what I needed to hear again after getting ghosted recently. Never chased. It is what it is

[@askmartinez6409]

Have to have self respect for yourself. If you’re pushing & and don’t get any indication of the same feeling. Respect yourself and move on.

[@abemartinez9623]

“ choose the one who likes you and not the one you like”. Can’t negotiate attraction. Your effort is better spent with somebody actually likes you. even if that means she’s not as a good looking, you need to open your eyes and your heart to people that are seeking you took a long time to learn this and once I did it, I had to good relationships in the past five years. Gentlemen don’t always have to chase the hottest woman in the room go for the woman who is looking at you too. And that original quote I heard from a pimp on soft white underbelly of all places.

[@DLG24]

Men, let's get more money this week💪

[@andreflavell3453]

we are in strange times gents . not the time for chasing women. they are never yours just your turn . woman with addictions avoid at all costs and women with hi body count . no single mothers . i’m 61 now live on a yacht with my dog . chase your dreams

[@rogerdodger6025]

No mudd sharx either.

[@andreflavell3453]

not sure what that means

[@masteryoda498]

As a man if you have to chase vvomen, it’s a wrap, it’s over, she has to be more into you, than you into her.

[@Axz-xw2zz]

Excuse me sir but that's utter bullshit, it completely depends on the level of rejection or attraction she'll have towards you, and in many cases she won't even know herself, a woman will almost never chase you because she is used to be chased by men, even if she could potentially be attracted by you. So no, try your best to get on with her and only then if she's reluctant you'll have to drop it. Many couples exist because the man had to chase and sometimes even insist to get with the woman and in the end she likes him and it ends well. If you want to be single the rest of your life yes just wait her to chase you, you'll wait a long time. Love is a fight, as anything in life.

[@masteryoda498]

@@Axz-xw2zz No it ain’t bullshit, you only approach a vvoman IF, and only IF said vvoman gives the green light to do so.

[@Andrew_406]

Those are the men that get cheated on… the ones that chased and chased and she finally just settled for him, cuz she knew she could still find her happiness outside the relationship/marriage .. u can lead the horses to water but can’t make em drink 🤣

[@Emma-ox4ki]

@@Axz-xw2zz those guys are hopeless

[@tommyknocker111]

Gotta let it be natural. If you're chasing, you're tryna bend reality to your false conceptualisation. It just won't work.

[@cei1948]

If a woman wants you, you’ll know. Go on with your day and life as god intended. Don’t waste it have fun.

[@burtongrimes2227]

Exactly. The woman that want you chase you. Men don’t need to chase and that’s where most guys get things wrong. Yes let them know you’re interested enough for the pursuit but leave it at that.

[@michaelchege6110]

This man is under rated this is the best youtube channel by far i like his content not that red-pill blue pill . I watch all your videos number 1 fan

[@pyramidhead138]

i was taught growing up that men are supposed to chase women. and i tried it at 17. i quit at 27 now that im pushing 42, ive quit the hunt. i leave the chasing to the simps

[@Dan-ul1hd]

This is the most real dude on yt

[@My_Spiritual_Journey.]

Yes 😊

[@unclejacksbigstronghands4892]

Very true words here. I’m 49 and I wish I learned this 25 years ago.

[@Zack_Oro]

Problem is women are in competition with each other for attention or 'bodies' now so 9/10 they will just lead you on even if they dont like you at all. They will never stop playing the game & it's up to you to be smart enough to decipher which can be impossible sometimes.

[@metfreak100]

Its actually easy when one realizes what genuine desire towards you looks like

[@jao999]

@@metfreak100bingo

[@MuscleBandit]

​@metfreak100 Yup, one of the most important metrics to keep in mind when hurting and confused. We owe it to ourselves not to feed supply into the ego of the immature / player type of women.

[@aryyahuwilliams-me1mz]

from the looks of dating and relationships, i dont see anything thats worth chasing. its a disaster.

[@PerryNight-gc3fp]

Thou shalt not Chase I learned that a long time ago you're just going to degrade yourself.

[@GANGULENCE]

😂

[@EseShad0w316]

If a woman has genuine desire for you she'll chase you, though you'll have to be chasing your goals.

[@KristopherStidd]

Thank you for putting things into perspective. I love growing. Thank you again for teaching us all great wisdom, in a time much needed LFA ❤❤🎉🎉🎉

[@Brandon-t6k]

Love it when he says shoot the shit with ya😂

[@abodprince1141]

Thank you for making me do the best descion in life. Starting from today!

[@elbartoyoutube2915]

Spits out the best man philosophy like the dishwasher guy from The Movie Waiting 2005 😎💪🏼💯👊🏼

[@lightoftheworld417]

Unfortunately no woman has ever excessively sent me messages, or showed up at event where I'm at.

[@claytonelofgren]

I agree with you. Or if not a stalker it’s more so harassment to a degree. Women should be more clear if they do not want to go out again. They will often say they’re busy with work let’s do next week and just hope you don’t reach out again. Instead of saying no. It’s always after 2-3 dates and you could have even slept with them and also had what seemed like a good date. I have had girls come back 6 months or a year later shockingly. Usually you just have to disengage with them that way they might ready out in the future or you can reach out way down the road. It sucks but only way that works in that scenario

[@tedknight1676]

I defintely understand that one very few woman will like you.

[@robrob9050]

Ok parallel with animal world, cats are more interested in services you provide, not you. But there is exception in cat's world too, had cat who was genuinely interested in me, liked to play, stay, very social type of cat not being there just for food and sleep thereafter. Similar, there would be woman who will like you not for services, but also for company, having great time. But those who find this type of woman are equivalent of winning the state lottery or finding gold nugget in river.

[@BigGamingBossMan]

And don't let it get to your ego when you do meet them. The few women that like you does not mean you are objectively attractive

[@BigGamingBossMan]

Don't just "not chase" don't bother period. Don't ask girls out ever unless you're 100% sure that she likes you that way and you'll know if she does. Live your life normally and ethically, treat yourself and others with respect, accept that you are not entitled to anything, and go about your days with no expectations. Maybe you'll find your person, maybe you won't. There's nothing you can actually do to make it happen. It is out of your control entirely. That's why chasing, approaching whatever you want to call it makes you look like a fool. If she wants you, she's yours. If she doesn't, for Gods sake just leave it

[@gmtully42]

Comment of the year

[@THEMANMINDSET1971]

My dawg respect

[@Dscubs23]

Great content as always man. Been watching for several years. Enjoyed watching as always

[@FirstnameLastname-pe5ib]

I'm from the same generation & it's true. We didnt chase women at all. Maybe because we met women in person. If you met a girl at a party or something & then started following her around, you would be labeled a stalker at best, get your ass kicked or arrested at worst. Now that some guys are constantly online, they exibit this weirdo behavior way more. Everyone knows they're the "creep". Girls talk about them all the time. But these guys are none the wiser, so they persist. They keep liking photos into their 30's and end up forever alone, blaming women about it. Lol

[@metfreak100]

Absolutely beautiful advice

[@deF4vlt]

Love the honesty of this guy. I thought all of these guys were the same (red pilled). Although I agree with some red pillers, I resonate more with this guy!

[@sunshine-q2w6n]

Hello! Im the girl from Greece. Keep going 💪

[@codeman9145]

I seen a video of a self proclaimed “pimp” (like what you seen in the Friday film with Kat Williams). Someone asked his advice on women. He said “Don’t date a woman you like, date a woman that likes you”. I’m paraphrasing but something to that effect he said

[@gabrielWachong]

If you gotta chase you already lost.

[@RobGordon35]

Amen, Brother!

[@noseltda4685]

Excellent video 👍

[@清宮克己]

this video’s take really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in the book Magnetic Aura from Borlest

[@rickygilbert7204]

Well done video! LFA, keep up the good work my guy 💯

[@mikepaul396]

another brilliant video. the stocker was me. but not in a bad way

[@BrutalOrc]

Man I wish I could spend so much time outdoors in the sun as you.

[@Thebatsign]

Facts brother

[@danielwalley6554]

Have been on both sides of the equation. Always felt bad for the women who clearly wanted me but I wasn't interested in return. It's tragic in a way - you could see how happy they were when you were around, how hard they'd try to create opportunities, but all for naught.

[@KONGDADDY69]

If she wanted to she would

[@aymenbensaid2554]

Ask the girl about her relationship with her father and if you’re aware enough you’ll know if it worth it ( if it worth it keep it with dignity, a single rejection you take your legs and you start walking )

[@smokingcrab2290]

My wife has almost too good of a relationship with her father where she listens to him over me. It can be bad both ways

[@KainKustomGarage]

Thanks Brother!

[@yellowquantum4240]

Great sound advice brother , don’t settle for a salad 🥗 if you want a steak 🥩 kind of thing .

[@SadamiItou]

this format really suits me

[@DorMeles]

Love these vids...the oxytocin example lmoool...so true...beware of that oxycotin addiction!

[@郝立承]

really liked this video

[@silentwalk1768]

Well said agred🎩👌👍🏽👍🏻

[@Andrew_406]

The brick wall was cool, but these scenic country views are 🔥🔥🔥

[@blockaderunner]

I can always count on my wife to reach out for me. Had to go to another country to marry her last year but she's always there for me, always on time.

[@kimlawson9869]

Pursue selectively

[@Surfsup448]

What’s up Brotha ! 😃

[@IvanSladoja-tj5cx]

Greetings from Australia, l love your Sunny's. What brand are they?

[@ssonicr1]

Nice video! Btw very cool sunglasses! Can you give some details where can I get a pair? Thanks in advance.

[@LFA]

Did you not see the link in the corner of the video?

[@jamessutton9874]

In other words If you are chasing her it means she is running from you.

[@龔靜宜]

best!!!

[@-glitch-8195]

I agree. I’m very direct, but not rude when I reject a guy. Still, some guys will throw insults. I noticed it usually comes from guys that get bullied by other females, yet have a bunch of energy when they know you’re polite. Sometimes it’s cause they believe they can create a connection through their abrasiveness. No, thank you. They also complain that women are not direct with them or don’t make it clear. However, their ego is bruised when you respectfully say you’re not interested. It’s easy when there’s mutual interest. Less guessing, tension, & overall negativity. Once you experience that, there is no going back.

[@jagosevatarion8822]

A lot of men dont know the difference between politeness and showing interest.

[@smokingcrab2290]

I know when a woman doesn't like me. It's obvious most women won't even look at me.

[@dalewhite4759]

LFA has the monopoly on cool Psychology .. stay calm men they are testing your game

[@Seanshank_Redemption]

Yah man

[@goblinzl1]

dont chase unless she sits on your face.

[@CharlotteLinAttorney]

as a woman I don't agree with this fully. I am actually extremely shy and if the guy likes me and isn't doing all this to be persistant then there is no way in hell I would go chase him on my own, just because I am so shy and scared. so you never know

[@LFA]

Thanks for the feedback. I’ve actually discussed that in other videos. This video was really not related to the aspect of “chasing” Chasing typically means you’re choosing someone who isn’t choosing you back.

[@mikeh8498]

2 self respect rules.. I don't chase women and I don't compete for em.

[@CompleteControl99]

💯

[@wdchapman1969]

The best way to make a woman interested in you is to act like you are not interested in her.

[@LFA]

For me it’s the opposite. When they find out I’m interested, they get super interested.

[@sircefiro]

I don't think many guys are chasing now are they? I thought the opposite

[@williamchevalier2224]

It was

[@Emee5324]

This girl takes ages to reply a text but sends me funny reels in the meantime and I just decided to not reply them and even lose contact with her as she already rejected me once but I wrongly accepted to be her friend for some months. This just came to an end as I’ve decided to set boundaries and finally understood that if she ever accepts me is because her life would be miserable.

[@starkeymorgan4142]

Unfriend. You won't regret it.

[@sampearson2102]

good man , you showed courage bro

[@Teer_tv]

👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

[@chechetalks6119]

Recently got into this channel and started watching some LFA's older videos. Some 2 - 4 years ago where it talked about women shit testing (specifically testing a guys interest level so the woman goes dark a hot minute). Since then the narrative on this channel since then has changed a bit so my question might be irrelevant. So for the sake of entraining my question.... How can you tell when a woman is shit testing you, leading you on, or just ain't interested. I have multiple situations on both dating apps and just meeting a girl at a bar (they approached me) who will initially show high interest, get there number and talk a bit, then just disappear. Are the shit tests really relevant now? And if so, how can I tell when to peruse and when to call it quits. I do have my limits when pursuing so I ain't just out there messaging a girl constantly.

[@kalasatwater2224]

Stopped doing that

[@PerryNight-gc3fp]

You learn the hard way

[@mikepaul396]

a simp is a foolish desperate guy.

[@neillcann1609]

There are some women they play hard to get but they are top tier

[@LFA]

watch the video to find out!

[@samweirich5973]

Boyos, the only thing you should be chasing is money and adventure. And if you meet a woman along the way, then great. If you don't, oh well, that's life. Even if you don't have a family you should still build wealth to pass it on to somebody someday. I'm building wealth to pass it on to my nephews and nieces in case I don't end up having kids.

[@MarcoSimple1Videos]

👍

[@colinreidcr]

I dont chase

[@spinedctr]

If a woman is interested, there won't be much doubt, she'll make it obvious but not blatantly obvious. If you are having doubts or wondering if she is interested or not, and hoping that maybe perhaps she is? She's not, you're wasting your time and you'll look like an idiot, move on.

[@Foldylokx]

What do you mean to let her go?

[@J1M1F]

If you’re asking this question, you have no hope.

[@ivanmatic6116]

Wish her good luck and move on

[@Lemon-rk9hq]

@@J1M1Ffacts

[@zeusmoran6417]

If you’re a 10 get you two 5s or a 6 and a 4. Point is, they may not be the hottest but if they like you enough you never know, they may give you the best time

[@ZenPepperClub]

Im delusional for sure !

[@CryptoTaurusMoon]

There are legitimate avoidants, and there are girls who lost interest. Both are worthless

[@岡山萌]

this format really suits me

[@YasuoKuroki]

this video’s take really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in the book Magnetic Aura from Borlest

[@松雪陽菜]

really liked this video

[@สุนพรัตน์แซ่ห่าน]

best!!!