THREE LEVELS OF VETTING A MAN IN RELATIONSHIPS by RC Blakes

We are discussing the three stages of vetting a man through a relationship.

[@hermelynlatouche4302]

An inconsistent man will consistently make a woman insecure.

[@victoriaodili-akpom4019]

Exactly what happened to me

[@mmakgotso_tines]

‘The players are old but the game is the same’ 🔥

[@superwomanette]

Preach!

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

@@mmakgotso_tines They got the same old line, and game. Most of them want you to be their mother. Single feels so good to me, I'm living my best life.

[@antoinetteadame0526]

I practice a dating methodology of No kissing no sex no sleepovers and no exclusivity for at least 90 days. I also talk to two or three men at a time. The men that are ok with this stick. The ones that don’t like it fall away. I use observation before selection.

[@heiditugers]

I vet so well that they don’t make it past the 1st phone call.. lol 😂🤣. I have learned to ask them test questions before ever meeting them in person. This has saved me so much time and tears. Amen about the demonic church men. Learned that lesson too. The dating world is war. Stay armed and stay alive.

[@ruthezenwa2308]

I thought I was alone on this table. Most times , just first time conversations and we are done. Recently i was questioning myself, thank God I’m not alone 😂

[@ShariElisa]

What are the test questions?

[@ruthezenwa2308]

@@ShariElisaabout their vision, relationship with God, their values and belief system, their perspective on infidelity, what is acceptable and what is not? When a man sees nothing wrong with another man cheating and I get unclear answers. I become more careful. When a man is low effort, calls once or twice during initial stages and expects me to take up the chase and start checking on him , i back off.

[@JoannA-sweetly]

Not online dating!

[@ruthezenwa2308]

@@JoannA-sweetly I try online dating too

[@cfleagle1]

Both of my marriages I picked men I thought were my type. Spent no time vetting. Boy will I do it differently in the future. If they can't communicate, there's no relationship. Totally agree.

[@DanaWill__]

Pastor Blakes, please consider doing more live videos where you’re interacting with your audience. It was so helpful.

[@msm3668]

3 Levels of Vetting: 1) the 'attraction' level; instincts, energy, conversation and the pursuit of you 2) the 'interest' level; deeper compatibility, analyze associates (iron sharpens iron); family dynamics, consistency and decisiveness 3) the 'commitment' level determines if it is worth the price; this is it, OR NOT! His visions financially, provisionally and of security are key. Thank you, Bishop!

[@favouronyemelukwe5007]

The 3 levels in the dating process:- 1. The attraction level (observation- intellectual and spiritual) vetting.

[@favouronyemelukwe5007]

2. The interest level :- Deeper compatibility and understanding of his life's context.

[@favouronyemelukwe5007]

3. Commitment level :- Is the relationship spiritually relevant or viable for me?

[@lwarfield52]

Thank you. 🌷

[@sadieashby2266]

Thank you kindly God bless you and yours

[@DarleneTaylor-ph5zr]

Bishop you give the best analogies. "Looking for my type is like buying a car because it has a shiny paint job". LOL, but true

[@janellamurphy5665]

1. Attraction Level Assesment observation👀 shifting from emotions to intellectual level! . Manners, respect for others!! Colossians 4:6 . His Energy!! Environment Proverbs 17:22 . Conversation!! Engaging look for depth👂🏾👂🏾 . Track the spirit of his words. . The man should keep the conversation! Check his pursuit of me . Interest Level. . Analyze this man's friends! Determines his character!

[@bridgettetraveler658]

There's no fool worse than an old fool. Just because a person gets old doesn't always mean they're better ppl. They might just be better at the game playing. We have to watch pray & vet potential lovers & friends. There are a lot of wicked ppl in this world!!!

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

I don't feel attracted to any man that scares me, trys to control me, stalks me on line, in person, and uses his position to try and destroy my life. Thank God for his word, counseling, and trusting my gut. I'm staying single until I finish my counseling, and God sends a man that restores not destroy. I'm successfully single, and proud of it.

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

Innuendos

[@RedFeather11]

Amen sister. Me too. I am not attracted to any man doesn't make me feel safe and secure. God bless us with men who are good for us and we are equally good to them. Amen. 🙏🏻❤️

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

@@RedFeather11 Amen

[@irinanikole3181]

Believe not every spirit but try every spirit. You are not supposed to take anyone at face value.

[@marilynbradley8487]

"The attraction Level" Observation : Manners Vibes Conversation Pursuit of You

[@kimsummers9791]

I met my ex in church and discovered he was a Demonic Narcissist. And now he has our daughter in bondage But God delivered me from hell on earth 🙌🙌😇 I’m praying constantly for my daughter deliverance 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@SweetTreatsBy_Marie]

How old is your daughter?

[@latinagibbs2770]

A majority of people who go to church and claim to be Christian are full of s@#$

[@suzettemurray189]

Same for me except we didn't have any kids together thank God. I left him then divorced him many years ago. I found out that he died three days ago. I pray healing, strength and deliverance for your daughter 🙏

[@kimsummers9791]

@@suzettemurray189 Thank you 🙏🏽

[@kimsummers9791]

@@SweetTreatsBy_Marie She turned 20 in June. He alienated her from me at age 16 when I left. And he forced and manipulated her into staying with him.

[@jesuslittlegirl2710]

I LOST MY JOB WEDNESDAY SEPTEMBER 18, 2024 , KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS ALWAYS ✝️📖⛪️🧎‍♀️🎤👍🤗👌🎊😊🙆‍♀️👋🤝😷👩👏🙌AMEN ✝️

[@hishandywork55]

This is the most spiritual, practical, intellectual, and comprehensive counsel on vetting a relationship I have ever heard in my 55 years.

[@whatsyourflavshaveice4768]

Me to🤦🏽‍♀️🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@janellamurphy5665]

Bishop please continue to address these issues about correcting vetting of men!! We queens really need this!!!

[@ileneyoung7404]

Bishop Blakes, I can't express enough how helpful you are to me. I just wish I had this information years ago in my life. I am 60 and paving forward. I do understand that we're I go from here right now, is what counts. It is unfortunate that I did not have any men tribes during my growing up. My father died as I became a young adult. I was unable to form that relationship as a mature adult. I appreciate the content of your dialogue always and forever more.

[@denisemakilingroar]

I wish I would have learned this long ago.

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

I know better to neglect my own self worth when l was very toxic l have slowed down doing dumb things it was affecting my health little bit

[@pamelafletcher1212]

This was such a needed and valuable message. I was able to evaluate a relationship that I recently ended. Thank you for letting me know, thanks to your messages I could end it with minimal pain.

[@randiking5275]

This was a great video! This topic is so important and so many of us really do not have these skills, such as vetting. The mistakes are really painful. I really appreciate you and this topic. Thank you for thinking of this.

[@lucybendolph]

Thank you so much for this Awesome Wisdom and Teaching I truly pray you feel better soon Much Love To Mrs. Lisa and You ❤❤❤

[@jussjess2829]

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[@lisabrown7409]

what happens if a man has no friends or associates, that you have seen or met? he is always by himself, working or with family in his 60's??? no energy, no conversation, doesn't have a life plan. I say runnnnnn

[@marilynwarbis7224]

Yes, "the vetting process even in the attraction mode". And to do this from the start actually protects us from the enormous pull of our own sense of attraction to him with lack of strength to resist it.

[@deborahfranklin9370]

You are valued Pastor ❤

[@ChanaMoses2024]

GD bless this bishop. He is does great work. Your lectures helped me a lot.

[@missrd395]

I am.going to the gym now. But when I am home.... I am going to need pen and paper for this one!! Excited.

[@rosiebest6603]

Thank you Pastor Blakes. You have taught me so much, for ever grateful xx

[@irmabryant6979]

You’re doing a good job touching on all the subjects we need to know. It would be cool if you talked about men over 50 who are STILL playing games ….

[@barbaralandsaw7949]

There ya go, the shiny look of the paint.

[@lindatucs2044]

Thank you sooo much Pastor such vital information I so appreciate it 🙏amen 🙏

[@renellewoods1472]

Love these questions …. Don’t forget to know your own answers ❤️❤️❤️

[@msm3668]

I appreciate you, Bishop Blakes, so much.

[@Didi-fr5ic]

please discuss why it is not a good idea for a woman to move in before marriage please

[@janellamurphy5665]

Yes!! I think this should definitly be addressed. NO HUSBAND PRIVELEDGES FOR BOYFRIENDS PERIOD!!!!

[@raem1688]

Great advice, this is a Master Class!

[@scheherazadewherry1410]

Great teaching Bishop...God Bless You❤

[@tiffanynichols2174]

This was really a great topic. It really resignated. I have asked a few of these questions and have received positive feedback back and negative feedback.

[@dr.annettewright-smith4520]

What if he doesn’t have any friends?

[@cocoteeeie]

No friends at all Is not a good sign. You went to school work and through adulthood and didn’t make one friend. Why?

[@Empowered-e1j]

NEW CONTENT: Once you go through the vetting process, interest is there, attraction is there (but keeping that in check) we are on the same level spiritually…BUT….I don’t believe he will be able to lead. He is meek. That is good. But he is passive and not assertive about anything. He will not make decisions about anything but always throws it back on me. “Whatever you want is fine” is his answer. NEW CONTENT part: How do you tell a man that you can’t continue with seeing him (“vetting process” ) because you found a hard stop when it came to no leadership, passiveness etc without emasculating him? We met at our church. He is a wonderful man but not very masculine. I’m not talking physically, I’m talking actions and behaviors. He just wants to be told what to do anytime we are together. So how do I say “See ya” without crushing him? Thanks for sharing the wisdom you have learned!

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

I was struggling with broken consequences before

[@loannebhold]

Great video Pastor. I want to show this to my niece when she gets older

[@mmakgotso_tines]

How long does the vetting process last more or less? seeing that there’s a need to check out his circle of friends during the interest vetting stage

[@rosehamilton2665]

Truth that the Bible says the devil goes to church so your so right mr Blake 🙌 ❤

[@KatieMelvin-cf5qi]

This is true ,I've dated and was so shocked with his attitude and personality! He was about 55yrs. Now he's 75.I am out running!

[@2rythm797]

I need to hear this like right now. this is right on time, praise the lord! thank you pastor!

[@beautifuone5492]

Bishop use the AI robots for sentence structure and word usage # ChatGBT

[@lemon3102]

Hi, hello . Hooe this comment reaches you. I have fail to order the book father daughter talk of amazon. I want to by it for myself as much as for my daughter as we are both going through the same, having absent fathers.

[@ChantelMilgram]

Glory!!! After so much struggles I now own a new house with an influx of $360,500.00 every month God has kept to his words,my family is happy again everything is finally falling into place. God bless America 🇺🇸🇺🇸

[@x0eugene0x]

Hello!! how do you make such monthly, am a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 😭 of myself because of low finance but I still believe God.

[@ChantelMilgram]

Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested CHRISTINE EVELYN MACKIE brokerage services.

[@ChantelMilgram]

She's a licensed broker here in the states 🇺🇸 and finance advisor.

[@ChantelMilgram]

After I raised up to 825k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my 10yrs old son's brain surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.

[@12chosun]

I've always wanted to be involved for a long time but the volatility in the price has been very confusing to me. Although I have watched a lot of KZbin videos about it but I still find it hard to understand

[@Nikita_848]

The frequent advertisements are very disruptive

[@msm3668]

This (as they ALL are), is a keeper, FOR REAL!

[@daniellefinnell3797]

28:32 Run Florresteen Run!! 😂😂😂 too funny, but sooo true. Thank you for this ❤ very much needed!!

[@irenegaitho2603]

hello dad❤much love from Kenya

[@KCRoyale]

Men in the church as just as bad as the ones not in the church... How much leniency should we give these men over 40, they act like they have not a clue.. most are divorced, and starting over.. so its hard to see cause we can tell if its irresponsibility or just they got taken to the cleaners in the divorce...

[@gwendolynpatrick6539]

GOD said trust no man.

[@irinanikole3181]

It may be life-threatening.

[@denisemakilingroar]

Innuendos

[@janellamurphy5665]

That is my same question my male tribe. Thank you for answering this for me😊

[@JolyTematio]

This was awesome Bishop. I love such content as I'm in a season where I'm reader to find my life partner

[@nancyregina6790]

I asked my Mom ' whst was it like when you were dating? She gave me the best answer. She said ' If I didn't like him from the start I didn't want to waste my time & I didn't want him to waste his time and I can buy my own lunch thankyou' Wisdom. Don't collect those red flags. Thankyou Pastor Blakes. Great Message. God bless you.

[@nancynall6698]

@@nancyregina6790

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

I don't understand why l was ever in a toxic relationship it didn't last long

[@favouronyemelukwe5007]

I'm trying my best to hear the audio ... okay! It's back hallelujah!!! Thank you Lord Jesus 🙌🏽🙏🏽

[@brinnyfelicia]

Dear Pastor Blakes, can you make your advice here into a book? I will definitely buy this one. I have the FatherDaughter, Soulties, and Queenology. I would love to have this advice as a book. Please think about it.

[@CoachHC]

This was good. Thank you Bishop.

[@Mimichellee]

Are you a pastor or a relationship coach I’m confused

[@Dr.K.Harris]

This was great! Would definitely love a part 2 that doesn't repeat what was here but add even more unique ways for vetting!

[@nieshageorge7167]

Please give us a part 2. I really needed this and love your content. Your platform has helped me soooooo much. Thank you for all youve done. May God bless you

[@araminta5706]

I WISH I listened to this before I got married. Thank you always Bishop...your messages are ALWAYS on time and in time. Blessings to you and your family.

[@dianedorney5147]

You were too distracted reading comments that took a lot of time....

[@tiffanynichols2174]

1. The attraction level

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

The lord bless me with a cat

[@DawnRuth-rp8lc]

Hello Pastor, you are so right. I love you and Lisa blessings.❤

[@HummingBird_Circle]

You always seem to deliver the right message. I think if you continue to just go with the flow, God will send us the message. We need to hear. Thank you!🙏🏽

[@irmabryant6979]

Good stuff!!! Thank you. 💯👏🏾

[@beautifuone5492]

The attraction level

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

Thanks!

[@kimberlystorks5185]

Love you pastor and I appreciate you so much.I have grown so much just from you're videos

[@kendallclarke22]

How do we sign up for the email group??

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

I stay Washington terrace Raleigh NC

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

My biological daughter my birth daughter she is adorable but she adopted but she california at least they doing more for her than l can

[@janellamurphy5665]

Bishop Blakes I am watching the video playback today now. I love your teachings and sowing seeds of Wisdom to us Queens❤❤. Thank you so much, we Queens need to learn these things!!!!

[@janellamurphy5665]

We need to ask more questions of men before going to the next step👂🏾👀Amen!!

[@sharellerodgers5526]

This was sop good i took 4 pages of notes!

[@evapreston924]

I pray you feel better Bishop💕 thank you for showing up every Monday one of my favorite days knowing I will hear your wisdom you share 💕

[@whatsyourflavshaveice4768]

His words carries a spirit!🙌🏽

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

At least they still let me talk with my biological daughter that's a blessing

[@lydiabaidoe9098]

No sound please

[@CalmitaCoppage]

Yes we can hear you

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

It was very inconvenient l was such a great catch l probably shouldn't never been cheating

[@deborahfranklin9370]

I welcome Part 2. I would love to know about basic decorum and tips of couples in ministry. And have Lady Lisa on the platform.I am in ministry, and I'm currently vetting a ministry friend of @11 years. Or please let me know if you offer 1 time sessions at your church.. Thanks Sir.

[@silenceshae7121]

I’m not feeling the reading of comments ..I still like your channel ..but it’s throwing me off ..

[@ileneyoung7404]

Yes, Bishop Blakes is a resonated conscious effect.

[@shangaziciru]

Please talk about Narcissism from a spiritual point of view. 1. Is it the Jezebel Spirit? 2. How much of it is demons? 3. How much of it is mental health? 4. How much of it is conscious, malicious volition? 5. Narcissist parents, the effects on young & older children. How much of it is hereditary? Keep up you great work! Love you guys lots! Blessing from South Africa! ❤

[@gealove3007]

Pastor I have a problem. What happens to me is by the time I’ve vetted all this, because it takes time, I’m attached to the person … which makes everything harder … what can I do?!

[@tiffanynichols2174]

Yes we can hear you

[@mysteek_1111]

When you choose someone you choose their behaviours, actions and values. So vet those before you let someone in your world. Coz if they don't align they will disrupt. Evaluate their life choices, professional choices, health choices and that will tell you what you co-create with him.

[@peggyboss4960]

Hi Pastor. This was great. Regarding content, what about spending about an hour with a question and answer format? More like a private mentor session for women?

[@aishahadjoua5485]

Thank you Pastor Blake's! I appreciate this wisdom and teaching. May the Lord Our God Richly Bless you and yours. Aishah

[@marisolrivera5255]

Fact you need to vet use discernment and test questions his morals character respect and intentional to marriage and not clowns with a crown. I ask questions and vet because it saves time and energy. Intuition and energy don't lie

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

Amen brother

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

Please pray for me l gotta have oral facial surgery

[@jameelaferguson6856]

A Muslim, but I find myself listening to you every week they broadcast are similar but different