60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma - Part 35 - Intrusive Thoughts

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[@danae-rain3019]

I'm 64 and was a victim of child abuse. This is my major symptom right now. Endless rumination and intrusive thoughts. It's driving me mad.

[@averieway]

Same. It's so tiring.

[@edsal26]

@@danae-rain3019 Think about excepting yourself and your fifty year old trauma. You’re never going to think about it and say to yourself “oh ok now I understand, I’m good now.” What happened is in the past, leave it there.

[@thadmatson4754]

I ruminate on the way a cashier looked at me. How some work collegaue may or may not have replied when i said hello. Why a friend i was close to 35 years ago was uncomfortable about something I said one time back then. Then ruminate on why im ruminating over it so much. Its very tiring I agree!

[@pennyrobertson6118]

I’m 62 & also experienced years of childhood abuse. In recent years I have found some relief from this by practicing Buddhist teachings & learning mindfulness. It has literally saved my life. Have you tried meditation? I now practice meditation for 25 minutes every day & this has helped my mind & symptoms of CPTSD in a profound sense 😊💜🙏

[@RobertaFierro-mc1ub]

I try to stay busy and active so I don't let my mind wander. I'm a bizzy bee half the week and the rest of the week I'm so exhausted that I can't get out of my ez chair. It might appear as if Im recovering from domestic cleaning mania. I'm the same way wirh shopping.

[@thinker646]

Every three MONTHS? How about three times a day? Sooo glad I'm here!

[@Pnoman73]

I heard "Every 3 months" and was jealous of them. 😅 I'm every 10 minutes. So glad to find this channel. This is like a REAL therapy session, not the fluff on KZbin.

[@thinker646]

​@@Pnoman73me too. I had to go back and replay that section! To be sure i heard correctly.

[@jillvaughan6701]

How about intrusive thoughts on a loop? Daily. Every 3 mos!?!?!

[@Endee21]

@@thinker646 more like 30 times a day :(

[@valerieparris3178]

Learning to let them roll or bounce off and not let them make you feel bad is part of overcoming these thoughts. Recognizing they are not yours is also important to letting go of guilt from them.

[@claudiaplotner3037]

I am so relieved to know this happens. It can be overwhelming....down right paralyzing...scary.

[@dailylifeexperiences560]

Thank you Jesus This is so on/in time!

[@tiffytoo]

@@dailylifeexperiences560 I'm here to can Jesus sent me lol

[@dailylifeexperiences560]

​@@tiffytoo nice to meet you. Amen

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

This is so totally me. Thanks for normalizing it (not that there's anything normal about it).

[@dailylifeexperiences560]

I see areas that I've overcome and grown in many ways. However, some of this is relevant now.

[@phunkylollypop688]

Deeply informative and thought provoking as always. Thank you, Tim.

[@pixie3458]

Definitely multiple times a day, realising how much worse than I thought my ex husband was. Struggling with the guilt of staying too long

[@brythefry2785]

Dude... this is what no one ever understood . I didnt know others would. Know about ut or talk about it

[@epiphilosophy]

"Man, like every living being, thinks continually without knowing it; the thinking that rises to consciousness is only the smallest part of all this--the most superficial and worst part--for only this conscious thinking takes the form of words, which is to say signs of communication..." - Nietzsche (GS 354)

[@emilykellen3441]

Try about 20 times a day. I have been through unbelievable trauma so it makes sense. This helps so much for me to understand why this happens. I always knew there was an explanation for it but couldn’t find anything like this to explain.

[@dreww1818]

A big thank you, Tim, for your videos! They are so helpful!

[@howard1beale]

My intrusive thoughts stopped as soon as i did EMDR therapy

[@terryfelkins912]

What is that? I really dislike abbreviations for things!

[@howard1beale]

@terryfelkins912 it's specific therapy for ptsd and cptsd. ( you can Google them lol) and it's EYE MOVEMENT DESENSITIZATION REPROGRAMMING.

[@MrAllstar]

@@howard1beale What does that entail?

[@howard1beale]

@MrAllstar it entails finding a qualified therapist who has done emdr training. The sessions involve you having an image or a memory that you look at in your imagination while watching the therapist's pen moving laterally ( sideways) and up and down. I can't explain how it works or why it works, but it does. It's been around since around 1990. There's a book called Getting Past Your Past by Francine Shapiro, who discovered it. What I liked about it was that you just have a few sessions.its not long-term, endless navel gazing. In fact, you don't need to talk at all. You tell the therapist the memory or the intrusive thought and after each session that particular memory or unwanted thought just kind of evaporates. So you can still remember it but it's no longer controlling you

[@show_me_your_kitties]

​​@@MrAllstarit's dumb and can be done with meditation

[@adrianaghimfus7832]

Thanks!

[@Lyrielonwind]

Putting other people's problems first is what I just found out in the dream that I woke up with today; some unknown person told me about a song that he couldn't remember the authors so, after he sang to me a little it resonated and I started to search on the Internet but everything I was finding it was in chinese. I can't understand chinese! I was in my dreams in a loop hole about something it wasn't even my problem 😮. Frustration woke me up and I was thinking how stupid that was I was losing my rest with that. 😢

[@susannluckmann7705]

Most thoughts that seem to torture me come from "the enemy" and- if I notice- I thank God for his mercy and I am glad, that he forgave my sins. If I don't notice on time, they can ruin my day, because it turns into a vicious circle. Make it a habit to thank God for His way to help us. The devil is a cunning creature and all he wants is to torture our souls and pull us away from God. Hold on to the Lord Jesus Christ and find peace in Him.

[@Betternow1974]

I really needed this video. I believed these thoughts and it has effected my life.

[@Perspari]

Amazing, thanks Tim

[@gordongraham7]

I always feel seen when I watch your videos. Thank you.

[@katarinamilanovic2167]

This was extremely helpful, so many things are clear now. Thanks so much 🙏 ❤

[@rationalevidence9095]

Take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ.

[@smithsfan425]

But if at the same time you focus on every single thought that enters your mind and try to fix it, that’s OCD haha.

[@dailylifeexperiences560]

This is so point on!

[@laia_constelaciones_terapia]

Don't forget about ROCD (relational obsesive compulsive disorder) intrusive thoughts, they're directly related with complex trauma. For example, intrusive thoughts that compare your partner with an ex, doubting about your relationship, finding flaws in you partner,...

[@henriquelago4545]

Marvelous!!!😊

[@brythefry2785]

Love this channel bruh

[@ATLAS_LOST]

Hi Tim, I get intrusive thoughts around suicide. Never acts of aggression against others, only myself. These emotions seem to get more loud if im stressed. Do you have any tips for managing these please?

[@HisAmbassador7]

Excellent as usual- thank you Tim. 👏 👏

[@jgannon1637]

Incredible.Thanks. Love.

[@Catherine-Terra]

Is there a big difference between intrusive thoughts and intrusive visuals. Like the flash of a picture. For example you get a quick visual of yourself falling on the sidewalk and breaking your front teeth off? Thank you for this video.

[@MarciaDeCastro-z9r]

Good mention, this happens to me too

[@Catherine-Terra]

@@MarciaDeCastro-z9rI would love to hear if it’s basically the same as a thought in terms of origin.

[@MarciaDeCastro-z9r]

@Catherine-Terra I had an accident years ago. IMO I think that maybe a hidden fear of some sort. I trust that I am protected and guided, I am safe.

[@postmaanful]

🙏 thank you for your effort

[@terryfelkins912]

I’ve had all my life! Make them go away!

[@matilda2]

What about constantly thinking "he doesn't love me" "he hates me" etc would these be intrusive thoughts?

[@smithsfan425]

Any unwanted repetitive thought can be considered an intrusive thought.

[@laia_constelaciones_terapia]

Yes, there are also intrusive thoughts related to relationships. You can Google "rocd intrusive thoughts", ROCD is an OCD subtype (relacional ocd) that involves intrusive thoughts focused on the relationship or on the partner.

[@robbingcars9140]

I wish I had heard this ten years ago when my intrusive thoughts were at their worst

[@bernadette2722]

How do I get healing?

[@daman7129]

@bernadette2722 start journalling your thoughts, you can pick up patterns that way.

[@Lyrielonwind]

If you can pay a therapist try a trauma informed therapist. For some people meditation helps but not for everyone and the same with mindfulness, EMDR, somatic therapist, etc. We all are different. I think that usually you need a battery of tools to heal or manage symptons. Usually, a holistic approach is needed. Don't get discourage if something doesn't work for you. Sometimes, like in meditation, you need time to get better at it but sometimes you just can't. It was hard for me when I was in fight and fligh. Later on I could do it better but no matter what you do be patient with yourself because nothing works right away.

[@CamStubbs]

Usually, yes they do win

[@Falloulla]

Going through it right now. I tried to be present for my partner and cat. I try to not make it take my time and life

[@comnandmentsdeadlysins]

Was just thinking today about nipping negative thoughts in the butt. I have a case of dragging butt physically butt my mind is wide awake and ready to run. Have faith all I am truely intended to do will be done on divine timing. May all have a Great Give Thanks Season.

[@sharicoburn5475]

These thoughts sound like a side effect of a lot of medications

[@HisAmbassador7]

When thoughts I don’t want comes into my mind I always say “I hold that thought captive into the obedience of Jesus Christ“ which is 2 Corinthians 10.5 in the Bible. They always disappear as I just hand them over to Christ. 🌅

[@jamestregler1584]

Or the flip side ; wanting to do ?🧐

[@adamlutton7951]

I have developed disassociation disorders thanks to intrusive thoughts.

[@GloriaWatkins-c2u]

Howbout no thoughts. But bad people surround me killing me softly.

[@rationalevidence9095]

Any know if this guy believes in supernatural stuff? like demons/God's spirit giving you thoughts (not your thoughts). like in the bible when God or an evil spirit influences people.

[@aciddiver1978]

Its really sad that some people think they have to live "perfect" for God to still love them. This is the whole purpose of what Jesus did on the cross. He died for our sins, sickness and shortcomings. So when we receive him and get saved, we cant come out of salvation again, unless we want to. We are not under law anymore, but under grace. But we have to receive Jesus.

[@show_me_your_kitties]

Puke

[@dranmac]

Very misleading the reductionistic approach stemming from the belief the self is an epiphenomena of biology. What a pity. An example of the opposite point of view: there is a purpose in that voice. Like punishing ourselves, because of guilt. All after all, coping mechanisms, adaptive strategies.

[@Meandmymirror]

Very disappointed. I was excited to watch your video on narcissistic fathers only to find out it’s “members only”. I am on Social Security disability and don’t have extra money for things like that. I guess I will be unsubscribing.