Tips For Moving On From A Toxic Work Environment | FRIENDLY SISTERLY ADVICE

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Hi y'all! Today I'm sharing some advice for how to deal with a toxic work environment until you're able to remove yourself from the situation, ideas for how to get away from the situation in public accounting (03:29) and questions to ask future employers to attempt to identify potential team culture (08:31). Grow through what you go through!
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[@brendaechols2228]

Its true. I know people who got out of a toxic job and found a new job where they were shocked that they were treated so well.

[@janetn7640]

i did the same resigned in a month i found a worth paying and a job with proper systems and it was surely GOD

[@Joshdifferent]

💯

[@KD-wz8tp]

My situation was so bad that I quit without a backup plan. I just couldn't stay and be attacked daily. I was being systematically torn down. It was amazing to watch it happen. Even with speaking to them about their behavior and my experience. It was insane. I had to escape for my mental and physical health.

[@TemetNosce_Matrix]

Well said KD! Your feelings matter. I'm going through the same at the hospital. I'm isolated and not valued. Everyone complains and is underpaid. Lots of gaslighting! Debating whether to give two weeks or quit.

[@KD-wz8tp]

@@TemetNosce_Matrix , do what is best for you. Your mental health is serious and important. 🤗

[@TemetNosce_Matrix]

@@KD-wz8tp Thanks 😊 Putting in my two weeks on Friday.

[@KD-wz8tp]

@@TemetNosce_Matrix 😊🙃 I’m so happy for you!! May you be well received at your new place! We work so much being reasonably happy at work is important. (I was lucky and eventually found a wonderful place with very welcoming people.)

[@TemetNosce_Matrix]

@@KD-wz8tp I appreciate you KD! I agree with you 100% I'm glad you found a great place to work :)))

[@misbahshaikh1024]

I'm a doctor but I was made to work as a receptionist.. I totally lost confidence in me. It was really toxic. Today I took this step to resign for my mental health.. though I don't have another job in hand, I had to take this step. I hope I'll get a good job next 😇

[@Kristinjesuslove]

I’m a nurse and need some advice

[@Tina_45]

Being a receptionist in the medical field is just agonizing. Currently am one, leaving officially on the 20th. Its been rough!

[@aboutmi5776]

I was not valued in a job I had been in for a year. One of the boss just trust in her secretary only. So she has the power to say whatever fake reviews to the boss. Another boss i served, just screamed my name every few minutes for a lot of meaningless task like printing out an email and asked me to copy five times. (Why not print 5 copies then???😑) He just wanna keep "ordering" me even nothing to feed his ego.... I left my job with compensated my salary then leaving immediately.

[@reoagilereomorake9345]

I relate to this so much… I’m s candidate attorney and am being made to be a receptionist. It’s extremely dehumanising and demotivating. I’m resigning next week

[@sondrahaywood4781]

I’m still working at a toxic job, but I have a interview today somewhere else! Wish me luck. It has been hard to find a new job because my toxic job tore my confidence to shreds. I felt like I wasn’t worthy of a nice workplace. I’m moving through that thought process though and getting myself into a better environment. Coming home from work being so drained and stressed affected motherhood. I’m excited to let that stress go

[@YahushaisYahuah]

how did it go?

[@sondrahaywood4781]

@@YahushaisYahuah I ended up quitting after a last straw incident and by a miracle I found a really good job like 4 days later, I got really lucky though

[@felixtrinidad793]

@@sondrahaywood4781 yassssss

[@dorcusmandabe2938]

​@@sondrahaywood4781 wow lucky you, 🙏 to find something better too

[@billycorgan5199]

It's sad how a lot of co-workers and managers bully they act like children

[@mrsjade30]

I quit today because my boss aired out my personal business as to why I called out (medical reasons) and showed photos of my text to the staff. Humiliating. Not tolerating that unprofessionalism. Goodbye ✌🏽as a manager I would assume they would protect their employees not expose them 🙄

[@Nekosenpai24]

I had to do some research before saying this, but I think you can also sue your boss for airing out your personal business (especially when it comes to medical reasons) without your permission.

[@billycorgan5199]

Wow I think that's grounds to sue I believe they're not supposed to show any medical if I'm correct I believe that you can get them with a class action lawsuit a little thing called Hippa

[@tinafurler8279]

I just went threw similar I was so upset.

[@kenechukwuamanda]

I'm about to put in my resignation from a toxic environment. Kinda scared because I haven't gotten another job but i have faith things will be better.❤️

[@valeriaarellano5564]

How did things end up going?

[@kenechukwuamanda]

@@valeriaarellano5564 I got another job days after finally leaving them. Everyone is so nice and the pay is so much better.

[@5starsx]

They will believe in yourself trust God and universe everything will line up for you ❤

[@shanelleellis2540]

Amen

[@Beautyfromashes0124]

I needed this i just put my notice in

[@Obiwan-ik2tw]

Thank you so much. I am about to leave the toxic work environment, but the big issue is that I got depressed. I know that it is not my fault. Micromanagement and lying made me walk on the eggshells. That is why I was looking for a life wisdom. Thank you for your honest story.

[@mikeshirleyforever]

After a very long time coping with very unpleasant, two-faced individuals and putting blame on me for certain things by simply doing my job, I bided my time and I knew the situation would not change. It was sad for me because I absolutely loved my job to pieces and it was so fulfilling. It was the people, new people especially who were put into job roles that they didn't have much experience with. I had learned a lot to take things by the chin and work was a good distraction by coping with the negativity around me. New temporary staff were also treated so coldly and I tried to make them feel welcome. I even built a nice rappore with one of them and we made each other tea, which was such a nice gesture to get through a stressful shift. But my workplace didn't believe in introducing new starters to us and the work ethic was very tough. It was hard to switch off when leaving a shift because I became too depended on to do tasks that many couldn't do. I had to make the very tough decision to find a new job but thankfully it is similar to what I am doing. I kept my intentions quiet and I didn't proclaim that I had enough. When I got a new job with another company, the hardest part was giving my resignation to my current workplace and their reaction. I left in good faith and whilst I was taken for granted, I really wanted to do well and it was a shame that toxicity and bullying was a wake up call for me to look elsewhere. It was favouritism that sadly happens in a workplace. Those who are not happy in their jobs, please keep trying to find somewhere where you are valued and I hope good will come to you. If you do your best, God will do the rest. ❤

[@JohnDoe-sl6di]

If wfh becomes more of a permanent thing there will be much less toxic behavior. Workplaces are usually proxies of high school

[@Nectarine333]

Try middle school

[@zxxacry8172]

This is very true

[@THEDOORIZCLOSED]

This is what I want to know: How can you spot a toxic work environment BEFORE u get hired? This is why my resume is so screwed up! I always get jobs and then find that its toxic or im underpaid or someone on my team treats me awfully so i leave.

[@cuteprincess441]

Yes!! Good idea! So many people are angels in the interviews, and then you get into the workplace and it's a total nightmare. Glad I'm not alone.

[@WithStephie]

If y'all figure out the secret, let a sis know!! 🤣🥴 sucks that true colors only come out after being there for a bit.

[@tanyatulisar4955]

It helps to do some research or connect with ex-employees or people working for company you are applying for and get their feedback.

[@AbsoluteMdot]

@@cuteprincess441 Yes!!!

[@melinoesedah9762]

I found Jennifer Brick's channel. She has videos that cover this topic. I also found reddit videos called How to Spot Red Flags During the Job Interview. It's a completion of people's experiences with companies that turn out to be toxic. There's another video called How to Spot Green Flags during Job Interviews. It's how to spot good companies.

[@maddybeagle5379]

I was going to quit after labor day and they must have found out, *letter was on computer and was asking payroll some questions*, and fired me so I wouldn't get the holiday. I think the problem with moving on is that you don't leave sooner.

[@lex6794]

I don't know why I put up with what I did? However I finally understand it is time for me to go.

[@diamonddiamond6977]

God I pray I get to work in an environment free from toxic people ... Am so broken and feel sad

[@morgancurtis237]

I wanted to let you know that I just passed the CPA exam last week and your videos and seeing your perspective on being a woman of color in accounting really kept me motivated. I love how candid you are when you talk about your experiences in the workplace. Your voice is so valuable to me especially because accounting is such a male dominated industry!

[@worklifekenzie]

I use these questions and techniques when looking for a new opportunity. Once I get the job I keep the interview notes and look at the answers at least once a quarter during the first year. If what I’m experiencing doesn’t match up I bring it up in conversation with my manager.

[@WithStephie]

That's great McKenzie! I love that you review your original expectations after being there. Great advice 😊

[@AnthonyManzio]

@@WithStephie Quitting makes you loser and letting lazy low life win. Never in my life.

[@user-pt3bw9vh3i]

How relatable. Thanks for the video. Yes, focus on the job and plan for exit. That’s the best solution to it. Most important part is keep your sanity and true self intact. Staying too long in that environment will have bad implications not just on your career but probably your overall well being.

[@natashasterling2806]

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[@SuperBacon360]

People if you are stuck in very toxic job where it is hurting your mental health and you have to quit right away, don’t just quit right away. Go on medical leave, take time off and then quit. Use all your resources as much as you can and then quit. Take care of yourselfs. In the end it is just a job.

[@janetn7640]

CORRECT

[@misotofu5789]

It’s not just a job because in a job, you’re associated to work with them systemically, so it’s not at all avoidable. People aren’t machines, dude. And people don’t always have the privilege to quit.

[@SuperBacon360]

@@misotofu5789 I understand that some people don’t have the privilege to quit but nobody is forcing them to stay at their miserable job neither. For example, I hated my previous job so much that it made my life miserable, but instead of complaining and being angry all the time, I made the choice to get my education and to apply to other jobs. Now, I work for an organization that I love. So in the end nobody is forcing you to stay and work at your miserable job. If you stay and work there, it was your decision to stay and work there…I’m just telling people that there is hope and that there are better work environments that people can work for.

[@misotofu5789]

@@SuperBacon360 congrats, I just did the same. Yes, It’s a risk to take. I am in a better place too, work and an education.

[@JazzGaming26]

I've been through this before with only my group of co workers would say negative things about me. It got to a point where it didn't effect me anymore but I decided to ask for a better position so I don't see those people as nearly as much and I'm happy with what I do now.

[@gracemat9474]

I deserve so much better, God will bless me with so much more

[@YahushaisYahuah]

that toxic manager I had, she had a women wrapped around her fingers and controls her. She uses her as a right-hand man and tries to ply into the hearts of her employees, gets information from them, and then later uses that information against them in any way that they can. Both of them have a weird and nasty relationship as far as work ethics go. I was the butt of their joke for three month and I was put down constantly in a mean and very condescending way. If i spoke on this type of abuse my job would had been done for because its that toxic manger and her right-hand man's word against my own and the evidence provided on cameras. Im glad she fired me. I never felt so happy to be free from it all.

[@AbsoluteMdot]

Currently dealing with a toxic work environment. One of the ladies is very insecure and jealous and always makes snide comments that clients love me, I have been working here the longest and mimics and copies my phone mannerism. Anytime anyone new starts she clings to them like a leech and manipulates them and tries to turn them against me, Gossips about me and gives me backhanded compliments. She quit 3 times than begged for her job back. She should be fired but the owner is desperate for employees. Recently she went to the officer manager and made up a lie and tried to get me in trouble and it did not work because nobody believed her. I am sick and tried of it.

[@WithStephie]

So sorry to hear you're dealing with that 😔 rise above the pettiness and hope you'll be able to find productive ways to manage it for the time being 💗

[@Nectarine333]

Omg this makes me so mad. This is such unnecessary bullshit on her behalf

[@RogueOregon]

Im going through it right now. Very toxic workplace with a ton of racist and homophobic remarks sprinkled throughout.

[@aurorabustillos3507]

I’m starting my new position on Wednesday. I grew inpatient with a manipulative coworker and the toxic director.

[@janetn7640]

SAME HERE CONGRATS i did the same resigned in a month i found a worth paying and a job with proper systems and it was surely GOD I START NEXT WEEK IN PEACE

[@jossslinnn3574]

Step thank you so much for sharing!! Love your positivity! Keep up the great work 👍🏼

[@Blue-ke9fu]

The video we all needed yessss

[@Bluesnakes333]

You make me feel like I’m not alone ❤thank you so much. Best of luck to everyone who is dealing with stress, I pray things get better for us!🙏❤️

[@ALXSSA]

omg thank you so much for the tips! much needed 🙂💕

[@chocolate-soulja40]

Omg!! I got 3 days left in my toxic work environment! I start my new job Saturday. Im finally getting away from 3 coworkers & a toxic Big Boss!!, that should have been fired a long time ago! They got one that tells the Big Boss what to do!! She starts drama with everyone. Me & her got into a screaming-cursing🤬 match 2ys ago. Then me an this guy-(coworker-my, fault🤦‍♂️) slept together which I highly regret🤢 then he became my second boss😵‍💫 Then they just hired an ASSHOLE😵🤨 he wants to be a manager & if that happens!! Its going to become work-bootcamp!! Im glad im leaving that shit hole behind!! I feel so much better😅 since im leaving all that mess🤮

[@danielbell99]

Great advice. You’re very articulate

[@CaptainPygar]

Thank you for this. To me it’s really important how others are treated and can I proudly say I work in this place. No work or person is perfect. But I more gladly sell cars (while I think people should buy less cars) with a good team that treats customers with respect and dignity. Than I would work for a seemingly noble non-profit that would actually be toxic workplace..and the work would not actually benefit the people it should.

[@mariaguadalupezamorasantos8244]

Que alegría ver tu vídeo hoy stephie milla😘💖🎉

[@KK-tz4wk]

I really need it! Thank sis!

[@kendraharer5753]

You are right on time! TFS

[@lyrankittentarot]

I love you for this post crying because of this situation xo

[@WithStephie]

Hope things get better love 💗

[@nia6849]

My toxic manager set me up for failure so he can blame me.

[@connyrapolai6189]

Im going through this! Im out immediately

[@leahmckinney3250]

This happened to me too. I called them out on it in front of everyone in my own way and they were not happy.

[@johnsteinbecksghost2378]

Same thing happened to me. Why do the worst people always become managers?

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

@@johnsteinbecksghost2378 Because power has a way of attracting bad people on a large scale. It’s rather odd.

[@aauln]

🙂 your advice is always on point!

[@WithStephie]

Thank you 💗 hope all is well!!

[@surajitbarua453]

I want to leave my restaurant job but I am not getting any jobs anywhere at the moment which is holding me back there. Everyday I feel sorry for myself because my coworkers (who are all from the same country except for me) leave all the physically demanding work for me and runs home. I would say they lack humanity.

[@choosetoshine2610]

Excellent content! Thank you for shining the light on toxic working conditions. New subscriber. ❤🎉❤

[@greenrain7942]

wow. i was sooooo down.. then i watch this .. like💡 thank u so much

[@the_sober_drink]

So timely! Thank you

[@cge5769]

Great video and great advice!

[@drsundipshenoy2471]

Thanks for your Sisterly advice. ☺️🙏👏👍

[@guidofeliz8384]

Here's my situation. I am also stressed out. I needed to request a transfer. I could not handle the site anymore. Waiting for my boss to find me a new site. I had to leave the lawfirm account. Too much drama, too much politics. Putting a dead mouse inside my security blazer with an attached threatening post-it message is the straw that broke the camel's back. It is a toxic environment. I worked there for almost 2.5 years. The silent treatment became unbearable but the dead mouse and threatening note did it for me. Monday night was my last day. I am now a man without a site anxiously waiting to start working at a new location. People are really mean which is the main reason why I love to be alone. Thank God I have enough sense to save money for a rainy day. I hope to be at a site in the next few days. You say?

[@BlackAnt27]

Listening while completing my Application of Intent...6 more classes to go until I’m CPA eligible! Wish me luck!

[@WithStephie]

Wishing you all the luck! You got this!

[@princekimmangrobang3833]

Hello Stephie! I’m an accounting major and am taking accounting 101 this fall sem. I just had my first exam and I got a 78/100. I feel really sad about the score I got because I knew the material and I studied for it. I feel like I’m going to be a bad accountant 🥺🥺🥺🥺. I mean enjoy and love accounting, it’s just that I’m really bummed because I didn’t get the score I desired for the first test. Could it be that the way I study is not very efficient or effective? I’m hoping if you could share some tips on how to study effectively and effiently in accounting and how do you recover from a bad test result? 🥺

[@billycorgan5199]

Many places they talk crap during interviews lol work places are a joke I have worked for them and found how bad they are after. I have tricked employers to telling me who they are by having them explain to me the most difficult situation one thing i hate is when they say we want someone to come in and own it that to me from my experience means that there is no support from management there and a red flag not to work there

[@joaquinromolor8413]

Your correct, corrective thinking.

[@cheyennesapunk]

I’m currently working in a place that is terrible, they left me to open by myself 2 weeks ago and I’ve never been trained to open, so after half ass opening at 7 in the morning they ask if I could stay until 11 at night and I declined only because I had important personal business to deal with. My boss proceeded to bitch me out and take me off the schedule for two weeks. I’ve learned today that I am CLOSING BY MYSELF WITH NO TRAINING AFTER TWO WEEKS OF BEING OFF and I am BEYOND done

[@ENFPerspectives]

Wow. People Are Caaaraaazy. How could that even be possible to close without training. Hope things worked out

[@DJ-yn5li]

I recently got promoted to an Accountant position from my AP role. I used to love working when I was still working in Accounts Payable role. My team members are nice and my AP manager is so down to earth and supportive. My work schedule was very flexible as well. I got paid hourly working as AP. Now, I'm miserable going to work everyday ever since I got promoted to the accountant role. I feel like I'm not a right fit for the job. I'm constantly working over 60+ Hours/ week (salary position) working with multiple clients and my new manager is toxic. I really want to go back to my AP position but I'm not sure how my manager will react considering they have been training me over the past 2 months and me demote myself back to AP role. Please help!

[@fan-jc3vg]

So what happened??

[@lizfraser4543]

I feel like my toxic environment is not toxic enough to quit. My boss quit, the avg turnover is 4 months and we can't hire anyone. How can I leave when there's almost no one left? It's a dog rescue so It's also and emotional job that I love outside the people.

[@rahkeembattiste5854]

Find another job we’re u can be happy and grow. And please move to another state. Work from home. Travel work remotely use your beautiful brain s and explore what future got in store for u. U guys and women are brilliant brilliant and smart u can start your own business. U have believe in your Selves 😊🎉🎉🎉💯💯💯💯

[@billycorgan5199]

I am drowning in negativity I have had one toxic work environment to the next for the past 10 years I'm so drained I literally am drinking this week to forget how bad it is it's like most companies need to be sued.

[@johnsteinbecksghost2378]

It's hard to spot the toxicity right away. Companies sell themselves so well in the interviews. But surely there must be some decent companies out there?

[@jazmynjasinski1636]

Busted my a$$ for my position just to work for this new manager who disrespects women, minorities and is homophobic. He’s a bully to me as well always swearing and being straight out mean. I requested a transfer and was denied. Sad to leave the company but I found someone who will match my pay 😊.

[@BrianaBudgets]

My coworkers are grinding my last nerve but I don’t know if it’s them or if it’s just me being temperamental .😐

[@TearraBu]

What do in a case where the boss os the toxic one toward everyone, and you feel like youre walkinh eggshells and every other day theres a new enployee because someone either got fired or left. And you cant go to HR becuase HR is the owners mother. And you spoke to boss about there behaviors aka verbal and sometimes physical (a spank). What do i do? Im highly paid mostly because ive been the most consistent worker and all the load falls on me ive only been working there for 2 years. Ive started looking elsewhere. Im at the point where i just want to walk out mid shift 😩 or go and study for a different field or maybe a trade for the time being.

[@TearraBu]

I need help please.. Oh I'm from the Carribean btw

[@mdebrahimchowdhury8061]

The best way to deal it like man, give them lesson by talk that how you felt.

[@AyseG2SJMS]

"Which is work and not other dumb bullshit" makes me laugh😂💀

[@WithStephie]

🤣😏

[@HeavensAudventure]

🧡🧡🧡

[@ashleyc8303]

If im told this place isn't big enough for 2 females does it mean they are difficult or toxic??

[@WithStephie]

That sounds toxic to me.... difficult would be like different personalities learning to work together. I'm sorry to hear if that is what you're dealing with 😔

[@meenam300zx]

I don't mind being toxicated by you!!

[@WithStephie]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 best lines ever 🤣

[@joseperez-ih7hi]

Fade out the audio in the intro.. it cuts out too soon and it will make sound much better !!! Great vids

[@WithStephie]

Thank you for the tip!

[@mariaguadalupezamorasantos8244]

Extrañamos tus videos stePnie😥😢😭

[@WithStephie]

Awww muchas gracias 💗 life got busy but I'm getting back on it!

[@positive_vibes_2427]

I felt 8:40!

[@okyggtty]

Your husband is one lucky man.