Cruise Main Dining Room: What to Do (And What NOT to Do)!!

[@Mark-me8uj]

Thank you for the reminder of shared table etiquette. It's not the time to bring up whatever fractious personal opinions one holds. It's a time to celebrate meeting new people and sharing your commonality and enjoyment of the cruise. For anyone with "that" loudmouth at a table, don't be shy about going to the host and asking to be re-seated. You'll be glad you did.

[@terrifromm5085]

Excellent video. I once cruised solo and was seated at a fixed-time dining room table. My table mates never showed up so my waiter took my order and I was served, sitting alone at that big, empty table. A lovely couple was seated at another table and their table mates never showed, so they invited me to dine with them. We had a blast.

[@enjoyslearningandtravel7957]

Thoughful of them to include you

[@PortsladeBySea]

Lovely story. It’s good that you met each other and had a great time 👍

[@ephennell4ever]

Always nice to run across thoughtful and considerate people, isn't it? It's become so much less common than it was 3 or 4 decades ago!

[@chustlerm]

I'm confused, if someone is cruising solo, why would dining alone be a problem

[@enjoyslearningandtravel7957]

@@chustlerm dining alone wouldn’t be a problem, sometimes it’s nice to be alone with your book maybe but sometimes solo travelers enjoy conversation with interesting people or talking about a variety of interesting topics or simply the cruise itself

[@Kaiwaza]

I’m a solo cruiser and I ALWAYS do open dining. On a rare occasion, I’ve been seated at a small table by myself (which I don’t mind at all), but generally with four or five others. I don’t really want to sit with the same people every night.

[@bryantsteury8910]

As someone who went on a cruise several months back and shared a table with a couple other, well, couples, it was so nice to leave politics behind for a change. And God knows there was PLENTY to talk about such as where each of us was from, families, pets, etc. There was no reason to let something as divisive as politics ruin a good dinner

[@paulgerrard9227]

Cant agree more. Most people think its just dinner. Lunch can be surprising on a cruise. While some seek burgers and pizza the dining room can surprise with salad bars and quality dining v the old buffet. And be very attentive and quiet

[@cindywilkinson1610]

My pet peeve is the 1 person, sometimes 2, at the dining table who monopolizes the conversation. It's enough to make us switch tables.

[@chuckmeadows1581]

Thanks Gary! Another great video. I especially liked your points about NEVER talking religion or politics while at dinner on a cruise. Thats one "sure fire" way to ruin everyone's evening! Respect to all, and malice towards none. Great video.

[@tonysicily2687]

“Everyone’s…” Never ruin mine. I can wax lyrical on the joys of Harris or the Eloquence of Trump with the best of them. Your assigned table companions are not your friends or family. You will never see them again. Why get upset or let them ruin an expensive holiday. Just waffle on about whatever makes the meal go better.

[@michaeltoma1023]

I have found that requesting the table for 2 has dual benefits; it gives you that personal touch for me and my spouse but also, since the other table for 2's are so close, that you can meet people without feeling you 'have to' chat with them.

[@TwentyEightStreetMedia]

Thank you! You answered my question before I can ask it! I’m going with your plan!!!

[@mariegilbert8766]

Yes! Great point.

[@johnlandry9365]

Yes - so close - its not actually a table for two

[@paulgerrard9227]

When you choose a table for two you can also have others very close.

[@AllySa33]

That's not a good thing in my eyes. We prefer to dine alone and I dislike the feeling of people being on top of me.

[@sheilakauvar5499]

As an addition for your friends and anyone else, my significant other and I (suggested by good friends of ours) always requested a table for 4 in open seating. Each night we got to dine with a set of couples and once, a single woman, and it was great. We weren't stuck at an 8 - or 6-top and got to meet some wonderful, fun people. Sometimes we even met up again by plan, for the next meal. Hope your friends discover a love for cruising!!

[@sharonsmalls6846]

I experienced something close to this in 2017. I cruise with nurses from all over the United States. Every night at dinner we were expected to change tables and network with other nurses. It was exciting meeting nurses from different specialties as we embarked on a new specialty.

[@Fred_Z]

Totally with you. We never reserve, we head for the dining room we like and take what comes. Sometimes we wait in line and meet interesting and charming people from all over the planet, sometimes we ask to be seated with others and get the same result: even more interesting and charming people from all over the planet. We go cruising to have new experiences, including meeting new people. Why else go?

[@crazyt1483]

I aggre. One night I wanted to so something that was at the same time as our fixed slot so while the rest of my family went to the main dining hall I went to the buffet and they only had tables for 4 free so I sat at one and ended up with a random couple and got chatting to them and enjoyed it

[@sharonsmalls6846]

@@Fred_Z Indeed! I'm comfortable meeting new people and engaging in conversations with strangers. I have gone to the MDR and the buffet and met lovely people. I'm the person in public striking up conversations with strangers. Lol!

[@tjharmon891]

I cannot imagine wanting to eat with strangers

[@plum_colored_dahlia]

Gary, my compliments; you present so well and your content is consistently relevant and valuable. You’re a good example of what it is to be a consummate professional. I’m happy for your success and wish you all the more. Your work is very much appreciated.

[@danquaylesitsspeltpotatoe8307]

Searched for gay cruising and ended up here!

[@heluce174]

Agreed!

[@tomballard4794]

I have only been on one cruise and I went with a group from my wife's job. We ate in the main dining room most of the time and we ate as a group at the same table. The staff helped me out on what was going one with ordering. Things I do remember is don't touch the dinner rolls. Just point to what one you want. Lobster night was different also . The waiter would take it out of the tail cut into bite size pieces and then put butter on it. I thought he was going to feed me too. A little over whelming for a newbie.

[@PearlandBranch]

We made the mistake of skipping the main dining room on our first cruise because our personalities didn’t mesh with who we were seated with. We ate at the buffet for most meals as we didn’t know we could just say something. When we did go on our last night (I just couldn’t do the buffet one more time) the waiter asked where we had been. I told him our troubles and he explained we could have just said something. They would have moved us, no problem.

[@Lloyd1885]

Interesting that would be my fear too...being stuck on a table with a retired golf bore, or one of those types who are never interested in anyones conversation but their own.

[@michelejames8695]

When I used to travel with a big family mealtime was always a wonderful experience. But as I got older and cruised with one other person sitting with a few other random people was a NIGHTMARE. I remember some strange people. On one cruise after two nights me and my friend just ate the crappy buffet and we hated it. I wish the cruise lines were more understanding that not everyone wants to meet new people in such a forced way and have many more smaller tables.

[@katierowen3166]

One thing I loved about fixed time/same table at dinner is the wonderful bar server would immediately bring me a Diet Coke starting on the second night. And when I expressed a love for the chocolate chip cookies our lovely head waiter would insist on bringing me a plate of them each night (along with any other dessert I ordered). On this same cruise my Mom and I ran into our head waiter who was helping out at the grill during lunchtime. She was upset because she had accidentally left her case of reading glasses at the table the night before. He excused himself and five minutes later he returned with glasses case in hand! Just those lovely little things. This was on Carnival by the way.

[@aaronsugar7228]

If you opt for fixed dining, keep the time zones in mind. On my first cruise we booked the 8pm dining time because my wife and I were used to dining later. We didn't take into account that we were from the east coast (US) and the cruise left from the west coast and travelled further west. So the first few nights we were eating dinner at what still felt to us like 11pm.

[@yaowsers77]

Great point! I never thought of that.

[@rosemarysmith5967]

good point, opposite for me, from west coast going east. later dining time may make more sense so not having dinner at 3pm

[@karenreilly9425]

I always eat in the dining room with a group it makes it more festive and I always make it a point to dress up just a little. When we traveled with the family my children were small so we did the first sitting because that worked for them. We also shared tastes which my kids enjoyed. Another thing before you go on a cruise make sure your children and you have excellent manners it goes along way and it helps them fit in to the main dining room. I always got compliments on my kids manners because I told them if they didn't behave they couldn't come. Another point is to try new things in the dining room, if you are not sure how to eat it ask how and the waiter is always helpful.

[@CarboneCat]

On both cruises I went, it was was fixed dining in the main room. On my cruise on the Celebrity Eclipse, my party of three were seated in quiet remote section of the dining area. Not only it’s the same staff, but it’s also the same people around us. My man planned to ask me for marriage during that cruise. With the help of the Guest Relation staff, the Cruise Director and the Maitre D, the proposal occurred in the dining room, right before dessert. The Maitre D brought a covered plate to our table, lift the lid to reveal the ring box seated on a bed of red rose petals. When my man popped the question, a musician duet sang Love by Nat King Cole after I said yes in a colorful way in my native French Canadian way. My now spouse has to do a thumbs up to show that it’s all good. After that event, the dynamic of the cruise changed. The party at a neighboring table shared their decadent birthday cake with us. People who witnessed the event and were on the same excursion than us, talked to us. On the very last dinner, patrons came to shake their hands and congratulate us.

[@angelareimann6433]

A sweet memory shared with so many well-wishers ❤

[@suerobinson844]

We eat as many meals as possible in the main dining room. Set time, same table and staff. We have made life long friends this way but not always. I prefer to choose from the varied menu each night having different choices. I'm pescatarian and find a variety of lovely food. Only travel with Princess Cruises

[@travelingwithmikeandpam9074]

This is great advice! Going on a 1st cruise is very important to make the right choice! Thanks, Gary, for the tips! When I try to explain cruising to people & they are still confused, I have them go to your channel.

[@thomaseboland8701]

Anytime dining reservations can be a scarce resource, especially on larger ships at capacity. Therefore, those reservations are often taken by the first people on the ship on emarkation day as soon as they get on the ship. This is similar to show reservations. While assigned dining times might seem restrictive, you won't have to fight the hordes for reservations and seating every evening. This is an important consideration. Another issue not addressed is that you are more than welcome to skip out on the MDR even if you have assigned dining time if you wish to try one of the specialty restaurants, or the buffet, or room service. But if you are at a shared table, let the MDR dining staff know that you won't be there and that they can serve the other folks as needed without waiting for you.

[@paulgerrard9227]

Its actually a choice when you book. RCCL cruises require gratuities are prepaid for tye choice. But can also have limited choices so late booking miss out

[@nibzee]

Another great video with great advice. I was on the Queen Elizabeth and there was a lady on our table who had a number of food allergies. The assistant Md would come by each evening with the menu for both lunch and dinner for the following day to show her. It allowed her to select meals from the lunch menu to be served at dinner or if there was nothing that suited her, then they'd discuss off menu suggestions for her. The bonus for the rest of us on the table was that we'd also get to see the other options and we could do the same. There were some dishes on the lunch menu that I selected for dinner, and surrounding tables were surprised to see the dishes that we were eating. It was so refreshing to see a line that took these dietary requirements so well. It also emphasises one of the tips you repeatedly make, treat the staff well. When you do they will often go above and beyond to make your experience better. Once they get to know you then your friend get's his hot sauce (a man after my own heart) or my mother gets the extra butter she likes without asking, but with a polite nod and a smile. Keep up the advice, it must help so many people navigate this interesting and diverse world of cruising.

[@GunnerHillTX]

Nice! We've actually had wonderful service from Carnival MDR staff as well. It's not always about the amount of money paid. Treating people well makes a difference. :)

[@HeatherTravels]

On our latest cruise, we only ate in the main dining room. We've just found it to be an overall more positive experience than trying to eat in the buffet or other "quick" options. We had some excellent conversations with the crew working in the main dining room at lunch on a port day when the ship was almost empty of passengers. I have never had any issue getting our seating time changed or getting a table to ourselves when we request it.

[@tipsfortravellers]

I agree !! On my last HAL cruise we only ate in the buffet once (on embarkation day) as that was the only option at time we boarded

[@monicaterzic]

@@tipsfortravellers do you have to wait a long time for the food to arrive? Personally I don’t like waiting.

[@warpedweft9004]

it's also good for portion control!

[@roundandroundmyworld]

I just came off my first cruise on Princess using the Medallion app to book dining times, and noticed an interesting fact. Times could be reserved on the hour, twenty past, and forty past, from 5:00 pm to 8:40 pm. When I booked at the top of the hour, I could count on a lineup at the entrance as the Maitre d' got the guests seated, party by party. After two nights, I shifted all my times to forty minutes past and -- no waiting! I walked up and got seated instantly, every time. Everyone else was so locked into the pattern of doing things on the hour, and life got much easier when I broke out of that pattern.

[@ArliaHoffman]

Great advice!

[@DJN881]

My husband and I and another couple recently cruised on the Ruby Princess and signed up for set dining. We did not sit at the same table every night but were in the same section, so we had the same waiters each night, but perhaps a different group of people depending on the order in which we arrived. We made friends with several of them and enjoyed this arrangement very much. We made friends with the maitre d and even the chef, who prepared gazpacho just for us. This cruise provided a very pleasurable dining experience.

[@chriswilliams6568]

That is weird, because the set times are at the same table with the same guests, and why we like flexible dining as we can go when we want and get new dining companions every night, unless we arrange with others.

[@ssjwes]

With a good wait staff and chef that could sound charming. Over a small stay becoming friends with the people serving you. The dining experience would seem more personal.

[@leocatcruises]

I travel solo and like to dine alone so I don't need to listen to others telling me how much they know about cruising, how many they've had, their families, jobs etc that t don't care about at all.

[@sct4040]

Am I allowed to sit alone at the MDR? Should I make a reservation for 1? Going on Princess soon.

[@sct4040]

I also hate small talks.

[@roundandroundmyworld]

@@sct4040 I'm right with you there. I made a good contact with the maitre d' on the second night out, and from then on had a reserved table for one at the same station every night, even though I was on anytime dining.

[@ej2953]

What you need is a table where everyone brings a book to read. Do people read while they eat on cruise lines?

[@josephjperry9834]

My wife and I went on a Viking River cruise a few years ago. Because I have dietary restrictions I became friends with the Maitre D. We would meet just before breakfast and look over the days menu. He was very well trained and I enjoyed the Danube River Cruise very much.

[@BernhardSchwarz-xs8kp]

Great contribution - always focusing on the reasons and the consequences of the various options for the viewers to make up their own minds rather than trying to present their personal opinion as the ultimate solution. Top professional approach every single time. Thank you!

[@fredgarvin716]

08:53 We know, James Buchanan. He's come up in conversation more than a few times at our dinner table also.

[@SassyFrassy4]

😂😂😂

[@brendabott2863]

I have never been on a cruise but watching your videos has made me think next year I am gonna do it

[@717dash_cam]

There is the possibility of asking for smaller portions of certain dishes if you would like to try a few different things, or if you aren't sure you'd really like something so you can have something you know you'll eat and something you want to try. It never hurts to ask.

[@marioncrichton4387]

You can also ask for a lighter menu which is not offered but is available on request. Lovely dishes like a prawn salad, particularly if you are not so hungry.🌈😁🙏

[@noahjay2002]

These are great tips. Most people don't know the main dining room is open for breakfast and lunch too

[@Cocoatreat]

I know…..a lot of us know…..it takes forever in the main dining rooms!! I can go to the buffet & get what i want & be done in less than 30 min……in the main dining room breakfast is always over 1 hour!

[@travelwithdebandnick]

One thing i totally loved about the main dining room was that it is so elegant :) it's like being in a 5 star restaurant on land :) right down to the waiter pulling out our chairs and laying the napkin on our lap :) my fiance has never experienced such level of service before any where so he was surprised when they treated him like royalty :)

[@johnlandry9365]

Which line was this?

[@scottulbrich5376]

@@johnlandry9365 NCL does this, pretty formal service without having to dress formal.

[@travelwithdebandnick]

@@johnlandry9365 p&O australia :)

[@purpleh2786]

That's why we love Princess Grill on Cunard. We DO experience this level of service in good restaurants on land, so we enjoy experiencing it at sea too. We take breakfast lunch and dinner in the restaurant and never use the buffet. So much more civilised. Maybe that sounds snobbish but that's what we like.

[@fionamckelvie1526]

Breakfast in the main dining room on the QM2 was wonderful.

[@Paradise-on-Earth]

I'd like to think that I would know all about it, and still each clip brings me SOMETHING new. Fascinating, and I love learning from you! Thanks a ton, as always, Gary! So appreciated!

[@oliverstemp9132]

I watch this even though I’m not going on a cruise, this channel is great

[@madieh1597]

I think it is important to understand the wait staff wants you to be happy. So if you don’t like something or it’s not cooked right don’t pretend it is. The staff is happy to get you something else. Plus it may be a taste that will come up again later, like a certain spice or herb, and then the staff can be prepared and give you a heads up when ordering so you don’t have to be surprised again, assuming fixed dining.

[@tipsfortravellers]

Good points !!

[@beachblythe]

On Holland America guests with dietary needs can get the next day’s dinner menu the night before. This way the meal can be chosen and adapted to meet the passenger’s needs.

[@tipsfortravellers]

Good point ! Thanks for posting this!

[@warpedweft9004]

They did this for my daughter on a RC cruise. She has a true dairy allergy, not just lactose but to cassein, which means no cream or hard cheese either.

[@COLINJELY]

As a Solo Cruiser I like fixed dining. On a recent cruise we had four of us on the table, the Old Men of the Sea. ALWAYS treat your Mess Steward and your Stateroom Steward with respect, they will make or break your cruise

[@ryanvargus9456]

Good advice! I no longer sit next to any aisleways in dining rooms because I have been brushed and even elbowed by people passing by the table way too many times. Absolutely annoying when you are trying to enjoy a meal and feel someone making contact with you as they pass by your table. For me it is now a wall or window seat or I come back when one is available. The first thing I do is give the dining room main host $100 tip right from the get go to make sure I am well taken care of. $100 buys a lot of influence with staff on cruise ships.

[@GunnerHillTX]

So far we've been allocated good tables on all but one of our cruises, and luckily a polite request during the first dinner was all it took to get a nice booth from the second night on. We always give our table team something extra on the last night but have still always been treated wonderfully. We're just polite, friendly, respectful and appreciative. 'Do as you would be done by' is just the way we roll. :)

[@maryalice578]

On Celebrity in both the main dining room and Blu, my husband and I were at a table for two, but seated close to other two tops, always with the same waitstaff and generally the same couples. It is such a nice blend of our own table and having dining companions.

[@jenniferlevine5406]

Excellent tips Gary. I really enjoyed this video. I always do anytime dining and very often if they can the dining room staff can put you at least in the same section so you have the same servers. Also, I love the dining room for breakfast and make a point of going there. I think it is faster and I really hate having to hunt for a seat in the Lido or self serve food area. It's one of the only things that sets me off on a cruise! So using the dining room for most meals solves that issue for me.

[@g.belanger8302]

Hi Gary. Many thanks for including the names of the ships in your footage. So many times when I see your videos I ask myself what ship(s) the footage was taken from. It’s great to have that reference now!

[@andoru]

I met some people at the end of the cruise who were complaining about eating at the Windjammer for every meal for 10 days... they had no idea that the Main Dining Room was included. And also, for some reason, thought the shows in the main theatre cost money too. They'd missed out on so much.

[@andreatuckman1084]

We always choose My Time Dining. On Royal’s app we can select a time that works for us if we choose it earlier than cruise day before the popular times fill up. We can also request the same servers and table nightly if we’re happy there. We recently cruised on Explorer and enjoyed it so much that when we cruise aboard her again next year in Europe we will request the same servers again. Also, something you didn’t touch on on was tipping. Even though we prepaid tips, we also gave an additional tip to our servers who went out of their way to make our experience better than average.Our head waiter, as example, delivered chocolate covered strawberries to our cabin as a gesture because I thought a fish dish was too rich for my taste.

[@bernicetodd9717]

I'm confused and curious. Royal has My Time Dining but have to pick a set time?

[@andreatuckman1084]

@@bernicetodd9717 you don’t have to choose a time. You can show up whenever you want but you may have to wait for an available table. Depending on what time you show up the wait can be lengthy and if you want a specific size table that can be difficult too.

[@user-yj3ob9kd3l]

The wait staff may not be there next year. They have 6-9 month contracts and may not renew on the same ship.

[@w0mblemania]

As an Australian, tipping gives me the utter heebies. We just don't do it here. I'd rather it was just included in the fare/package. Better yet, I'd rather the staff were paid properly so they didn't need tips.

[@PSTXFL]

After several occasions being burned sitting with strangers (such as sitting with someone pontificating their monologue, or sitting with people constantly complaining about food, service, their cabin, etc.) we always request a table just for ourselves and our companions. In these times of Covid we don’t want to catch anything during the cruise, not sitting with strangers is the better option. Also, even though not required, we mask up in elevators and crowded areas of the ship.

[@johnp139]

And that actually makes you feel safe?

[@sullennessa3819]

I love how accepting anti-maskers are of other people’s opinions. Thanks for the reminder.

[@flexiblestrategist9922]

@@sullennessa3819 I love how the defenders of other people's opinions don't comment on the actual video and how much time Gary has spent on educating us on cruise ships.

[@warpedweft9004]

@@johnp139 If that's what they want to do it's not up to you to ridicule them. Leave people alone and let them do what they feel is best for them and their health, not what you think they should do. It's not harming you if they wear a mask.

[@annasutton8078]

Best cruises for smart casual on smaller boats. Also open dining, hate set times.

[@StevenSeven]

Excellent information as always. We don't like to eat at the same time everyday or with the same people so, we prefer "anytime" dining. If we can't get that or if we get stuck with late seating, then we eat at the buffet or grill. We have taken entire cruises and never went to the main dining room. NCL is our preferred cruise line because of their "freestyle cruising". We have never had a problem getting a table for two whenever we wanted one. Love your channel!

[@lilemmyRA]

As someone with significant dietary restrictions, I find this very helpful! Taking my first cruise in 20 years this summer, so I was really worried about this!

[@lynnstlaurent6789]

I have multiple food allergies and take almost every meal in the main dining room. I also visit the maître d as soon as I embark to touch base about my allergies. I traveled with MSC and had my own waiter! I recently cruised with Celebrity and had no issues. My waiter was very careful.

[@sheranlanger247]

Same, there are loads of things I can't eat and the buffet is a nightmare for me 😢

[@johnhaller5851]

I cruised with a person with allergies about 25 years ago, and we had one of the head waiters (there was more than one) assigned to our table except on his day off. He took very good care of our person. My understanding was that there was a dedicated chef assigned as well. We never saw the maitre d. We tipped the head waiter, and asked him to pass a tip to the chef. Remember to set aside some extra tip money, the extra service deserves compensation, it may not help you since the tips are paid at the end, but it helps the next person. At the time, tips all went into envelopes, with electronic tipping, it’s probably both simpler in general, but exceptions like the cook may be harder.

[@liorajacob8094]

@@lynnstlaurent6789 between serious peanut and soy allergies, and kosher restrictions, we have yet to try a cruise. Any suggestions as to which cruise line would be able to accommodate us without resorting to kosher 'tv dinners'?

[@Anne_GG145]

@@liorajacob8094 I came back recently from a 10 days cruise on the Celebrity Silhouette. I have several food allergies and mist be gluten and lactose free. They have been amazing at the MDR, making sure I had safe a delicious choices. They made me choose on the menu for the next day to prepare a special plate. They have non-dairy milk choices at the buffet. I recommend them! For kosher options look at their website, I believe you need to make a request weeks before cruising. Other companies I read about are Disney, Holland… Carnival has a new system fir food options.

[@kathryncashner3294]

Dealing with allergies or dietary restrictions depends a lot on the cruise line. On some lines, the head server or one of the chefs will walk thru the buffet line with the guest, explaining what would or would not be appropriate to his/her needs. When you decide what you want, they will obtain it from a fresh container that has never appeared on the buffet line in order to avoid cross contamination. The advantage of the dining room is that not only can they assist you in deciding what is appropriate, but they can prepare your food "just for you" in ways that can substitute ingredients that you are allowed to have, etc. or can make totally different items that do not appear on the menu but meet your needs. I totally agree that the MDR is easiest in allergy situations (and the food is usually better than the buffet as well.)

[@NancyD2]

My sister-in-law told the cruise line (Princess) she was gluten-free. Our waiter would NOT let her order anything that had any sort of gluten in the ingredients. She got a separate menu too.

[@devotchkac8365]

​@@NancyD2 is she GF by choice, and tried to order something with gluten? As someone with Celiac disease this is one thing I am concerned about before I go on my first cruise. I have also worked in many restaurants and unfortunately one negative part of gluten-free fad dieting is that it isn't always taken seriously by restaurants. Preparing GF food in close proximity to gluten containing foods for someone with celiac requires extreme care, if someone is GF by choice they can eat from a buffet without worry. I watched another video from a couple about dining GF on a cruise, they do not have Celiac and they pointed out that in one instance the chef was upset when they ordered the regularly served fries (likely fried in same oil as breaded items, unsafe for celiac) instead of waiting for fries prepared in dedicated oil. I find it a bit funny that gf by choice are getting 'called out', instead of celiacs being taken less seriously. I'm sure they treat every GF as if it is Celiac, which requires a lot of extra work and level of care and is usually handled by a head chef...then they find out the person could have just ordered a regular meal without gluten ingredients, they might be a little annoyed. Thanks for coming to my TED talk, Celiac sucks! 😅

[@NancyD2]

@@devotchkac8365 I'm 99.99999% sure she was trying to see if GF would make a difference in her arthritis. I have friends with Celiac. Like "That MF tried to kill them more than once" Celiac. It is NOT to be trifled with. I also have friends with allergies (one with wheat, one with barley) and going GF is the easiest way to make sure they don't accidentally get dosed. One will just ITCH everywhere for DAYS. The other will be needing their epi-pen. People who are GF for "funzies" or because it's The Thing annoy me. And I don't have any particular food issues. I mean, other than eating too much of it! But I'm on "alert" as it were, when I'm eating with my friends to be sure they don't get cross contaminated.

[@sharonm.2453]

​@@devotchkac8365 I know a couple of people (not many, but a few) who are actually gluten sensitive. This shows up a lot with people who have ulcerative colitis or Crohn's and the like. Gluten and other foods can be triggers. People can also be diabetic and try very hard to avoid starchy and glutinous foods. What I do believe though is that the people with celiac and nut allergies have probably done the most for advancing the proper labeling of foods and creating a much more accepting culture when it comes to special diets. This was just so unheard of not too long ago.

[@devotchkac8365]

@@sharonm.2453 for sure there are non-Celiacs that also don't eat gluten for medical reasons, it may be less risky for them when it comes to cross contamination but they still don't eat it for medical reasons. My biggest issue is people that say they are GF, but then order a carrot cake for dessert (that happened to me as a server, and I was biting my tongue and rolling my eyes *so hard* in my mind)

[@Quoodle1]

In addition to getting to know your table-mates, it's also fun and useful to get to know your waiters (of every level). Where are they from, what do they like, family, etc...

[@tipsfortravellers]

Great and important point! I agree

[@carolineg3079]

Recently cruised P&O Iona. It was all flexible dining (join the virtual queue when you are ready) and tick shared or private. Shared generally quicker. I travelled solo and on night 3 met dome other great solo travellers so we dined together for the rest of the week. Never waited more than a few minutes even at peak times although if you are part of a very big group that can be more challenging

[@iamthestig1]

We've done that before. Mostly dined at The Quays. We did the main dining a few nights as well for a change. Anytime dining is a pain in the arse.

[@Giggirl]

That’s why i love the new SAGA boutique ships, only one sitting and you can stay as long as you want at your table as no one else is coming. We also ask for a fixed table as my mother prefers that. I especially love the fact it is all inclusive, including most drinks & they are constantly topping your wine up at dinner & lunch if you’re inclined 😬 The dress code is strict, evening dress after 6pm and smart dress in all dining rooms.

[@Mleencihols]

One of the best cruise critics...I learn so much. Since I cruise 3+ times per year, he has been invaluable. I always book 'any time' since I like the flexibility and the variety of table mates.

[@d60guy]

I love the main dining room. Always a pleasant experience

[@pamlaminsky8905]

If you do have food allergies (as I do). I get the next night menu after dinner and choose what i would like to eat so that its prepared so i can enjoy it. It’s wonderful not to have to worry whether I’m going to get sick.

[@VITRAVELINGTHEWORLD]

I always do anytime dining, and if I get good servers I like, I request those servers and have never had a problem. The lines always give me the same servers

[@bradh3139]

Another excellent video, Gary. Thank you on behalf of novice cruisers, and more experienced ones who need gentle reminders. For instance, i’d be rather confused with Celebrity’s rotational system. The only addition I can think of is, if you’re at a table with others, don’t fart. And if you do, always blame your spouse. Or ask if everyone else’s shrimp cocktail appears “off” also.

[@HOlsen789]

One other dining room etiquette tip is to wait until everyone at the table gets their starter/main/dessert plate before you start eating.

[@craighellberg4366]

I love the tip about not talking about politics or religion. I am 62 years old and have never known anybody on opposite sides of those subjects and have it ever be good.

[@alisam4649]

Same. I don't care how much you love your side of the political spectrum. Not interested.

[@sarahcox1805]

On the topic of food allergies, Holland America has been absolutely fantastic for me in that respect, especially at dinners in the main dining room. Not only did they ensure my food was safe, but it was also delicious and interesting, not just the bland, boring allergy-safe meals some places serve.

[@karenvonbargen4472]

How did you handle letting them know? I’m going on HAL in February 2023 and am finally going to see if they can accommodate my weird dietary issues but I’m not sure how to start.

[@playme129]

Hello, Gary! These are all great tips. I been on more than a few cruises, mostly on Holland America Line, and the only one I never thought about was "to go". Really like your channel.

[@tipsfortravellers]

Fab! I always have a great time on HAL. Thanks for watching the channel 😀

[@christineflaherty7044]

Another benefit of earlier dining is it allows you to dine leisurely and still comfortably get to the evening entertainment.

[@susanhlavaty9500]

We also do my time dining. We make our reservation for the same time each night. We request the same table of two. We have the same staff. If our table isn't available we are put in the same station with our waitstaff. We love it.

[@MaryJeanMartin-po5mi]

Our maitre'd and waiters on our recent Viking Expedition through the Great Lakes were so fantastic. I really wanted to bring them home with me.

[@JonathanKobler]

My wife and are planning our first cruise and we are enjoying your videos. Currently we are looking at Cunard’s QM2 New England cruise. One comment you made about table manners, my Southern Belle mom always used to tell me that the three things a gentleman never discusses in polite company is Religion, Politics, and women. This I have found is the key to dining without acid reflux. :D

[@bianca24601]

Thanks Gary, sometimes it these tiny "basics" that are the most confusing because cruise lines assume a certain level of knowledge...which 1st-timers won't have.

[@tipsfortravellers]

Yes, I agree. It is often forget that for many it is a first time ever or on a new line and it doers keep changing....

[@kevelite862]

I hate sharing a table with strangers 😂

[@ej2953]

I've had some of my best meals sharing a table with strangers.

[@Boppity-Boo]

They're only strangers for the first night. :)

[@TamarLitvot]

I wouldn't mind it for one or two nights, but not something I want every night. And I'm a political junkie -- it would be dangerous to put me at a table with others.

[@PeterMossUkulele]

We very happy to share our dining room experience with Fellow cruisers. Touch wood I haven't had a bad one yet.... The only thing that frustrated us was some of the larger ships had 3-4 specialised dining choices and seemingly some of our table would decide on a whim to use one of those - without telling anyone!!!! - So a couple of times the rest of us waited and Waited and finally gave up. We made them purchase the wine the following night. lol

[@iangill8984]

I think a good idea is go with the flow and dont get stressed. Dress code, check before you book and dont fight with it, when you book it is an informal contract but important to those about you. Most of all enjoy whatever happens, you are being cosseted when the most people are suffereing hardships.

[@jasonkurtzhall5375]

Love your videos. You have a very calming and engaging voice. My wife and I are looking to take our 1st cruise this next spring. Only took us 45 years. Anyway, thank you for the info.

[@tipsfortravellers]

Thanks for watching! Great to get you finding them helpful. Excited to hear you’re going to trying cruising 👍🏻

[@tomcollens4621]

Cunard is moving to flexible dining. That’s what we have in the Med in Oct ‘23. Previously, we struggled with the set dining, which we hated.

[@cdever5]

We have only cruised Carnival, and we always choose anytime dining. We put our names in, and choose whether to share a table or dine alone. We go to the bar and get a drink and sometimes by the time we get our drinks our table is ready, but most of the time shortly after we sit in the atrium we are notified. Our most recent cruise we had virtually no wait to be seated. Now on Carnival they do not regulate elegant night, but I have not seen anyone dressed too "bummly" either.

[@cbpd89]

I've only done one cruise, we only ate in the main dining room for dinner. I think next time I'll try it out for breakfast or lunch as well.

[@donaldhackler5242]

Great video! My wife has food allergies and we advised Oceania in advance, and the main dining room staff were fantastic to work with.

[@enjoystraveling]

What I found useful is going sometimes to the main dining room for breakfast and lunch if I want some social contacts since I often travel solo and they will put me with a table usually people I don’t know, but often I have a good conversation with them. Of course, if I don’t feel like conversation, I can go to the buffet, but I find, although I have more choices in the buffet it’s a bit more chaotic, especially as a single, because you have to sort of save a seat with your sweater or a book

[@kelleymcmahan6457]

Perhaps letting the Maitre 'de know ahead of time about mobility needs for table spacing. Another thing I am very aware of is that being left handed, I try to select a seat with nobody on my left as to not bump into each other.

[@kevintunnicliffe2181]

I wish that eight or more years ago when we took our first cruise we had this video to help us. In truth, we were so intimidated by the dining room that we ate in the buffet until some new American chums initiated us into the club. Okay, that perhaps says a lot about us but the point is that this video would have prepared us and enabled us to enjoy the experience more. Well done once again. Perhaps a word about the Speciality Restaurants and the fact that they charge a fee for many of them, depending on the cruise line would have been useful too.

[@fluffytail6355]

Why were you intimidated by the dining room? Have you never eaten in restaurants? Of course the Specialty Restaurants charge a fee, it's common knowledge. If you don't know, you can ask your travel agent or cruise staff how it works and they'll tell you. Be an adult and use your words!

[@debbiekeltz-wolk7691]

I have a food allergy (almonds). I always travel with Royal Caribbean. At the time of booking we made sure to fill out the special guest form. When we got onto our cruise we spoke to the people in the dining room and let our waiter know. Night one I asked if there were any desserts that were safe for me to eat. I was told the gluten free cake. The cake came and it had almonds on the outside of the cake. Had I eaten that I would have ended up in hospital. Your friends need to be extremely careful with their food allergies. The head waiter came over to apologize but that could have been a disaster. We ate elsewhere after that.

[@paulgerrard9227]

Allergies are a life issue. Im sure you already know and check. Cruises are not a exception. I would never assume

[@debbiekeltz-wolk7691]

@@paulgerrard9227 Obviously you don't have allergies or you wouldn't have posted such a stupid comment. It's not always obvious when an allergen is in a particular food and that's why it's important to be able to trust when you are told that a food item doesn't have almonds that it actually doesn't have almonds or any other allergen that you have specified. Educate yourself before commenting next time.

[@DaveP668]

Whilst it is many years ago when P&O were launching the Ventura sized ships we opted for freedom dining and they allocated one of the two dining rooms. We found on larger tables you may have to wait for the table to be filled before orders would be taken, or worse you would be sent to a table where everyone had been seated for a while and had chosen their food. If this happens ask to be moved so you don't feel rushed. This never happened on Princess, but you could choose either restaurant and if one was busy you would be sent to the other. Hopefully with the introduction of pre booking apps etc these issues are now ironed out. We quickly learned to go to eat at about 8-8.30 so we could have a table for two. Fixed time dining can be an issue if you go early sitting and end up late back from a trip, as happened to us in Rostock. We had 20 minutes after a full day out to shower and change for dinner.

[@leannewhite755]

We always go for 'anytime dining' and always have our same table in our preferred location.

[@brianwinters5434]

My family cruised for many years and it was great to know the wait staff.

[@serendipity6988]

I would love to cruise again but as an elderly female travelling alone I find it challenging to go to the dining room. I usually have to go to the buffet. I would also like you to do more videos for solo travellers. By the way I really love watching your presentations. I live in Australia but your advice is always useful. 👏👏

[@enjoyslearningandtravel7957]

A solo traveling alone can request to eat at a table with other single travelers

[@icedteamama176]

Why just buffet? You have every right to go to main dining room and sit by yourself or with some strangers (as you wish)…enjoy!

[@nocturn791]

@@icedteamama176 - unless you have anytime dining you are likely to be allocated a table. There are unlikely to be tables for one. Solo passengers should also expect to be allocated "social" seating which means being grouped together.

[@icedteamama176]

@@nocturn791 never traveled solo before but I would think can request table for one in MDR at set time (early or late)

[@nocturn791]

@@icedteamama176 - tables for one are unlikely to exist outside the buffet. I respectfully suggest dining alone defeats the purpose of the cruise which is supposed to be a social experience.

[@barbaralynch5139]

The fixed dining is much better for those of us with food allergies. Also be aware that you will be there for about 1.5 hours...not a "quick" or "fast" meal...so if you're going to an evening show, be sure you give yourself plenty of time to eat. If you have young kids who can't sit still for long...you may want to get them dinner at the buffet or hamburgers/hotdog place, drop them off at the kids club, and then enjoy your dinner at the MDR.

[@chriswilliams6568]

Why do North Americans want to give their kids junk food. I have twin granddaughters in Barcelona and they love gourmet food as much as their parents. Start them off with good food and they will eat well all their lives.

[@Caroline-se7gh]

@@chriswilliams6568 That's a bit unfair. They were just giving suggestions for a quick meal. Buffet isn't necessarily junk food, there are lots of options.

[@chriswilliams6568]

@@Caroline-se7gh sorry if you think that hotdogs and hamburgers are not junk food. ( that was mentioned at another place, not the buffet).

[@Caroline-se7gh]

@@chriswilliams6568 They said buffet OR hotdogs and hamburgers.........and to be fair they didn't say they thought it was healthy or anything, just that it gave the kids an early meal (Maybe a treat for them) and the parents had a nice evening together! Also, depending how they are made, hamburgers can be good....lean meat, salad etc.... But, apology accepted!

[@1978sjt]

Royal Caribbean (on the Quantum class at least) have 4 Dining rooms with different themed decor (Menu is the same for them all). 2 of them are used for guests who have selected a dining time, 1 is for anytime dining that the guest have made a reservation, and the last one is for anytime dining walk ups. As such I've only ever seen inside one of the dining rooms (Silk), because my partner and I don't want to be locked into the same dining every night, but also don't want to que for 30-60 mins.

[@danielintheantipodes6741]

Thank you for the video! Good to know about letting the waiter know if you won't be dining. That would not have occurred to me. Have a fabulous day!

[@marjoriemurch1142]

Always take a picture or note of table card for employee comments after.

[@denizalgazi]

I highly recommend the NCL Bliss for Graham and Pete's Alaskan cruise. It's all about the Observation Lounge which is fantastic!

[@Anne_GG145]

Thanks for your videos, always full of precious information! I just came back from a 10 days cruise on the Celebrity Silhouette. At the main dining room, I gave my list of allergies on the first day. They have gone above and beyond to make sure I had delicious, safe dinners every night. How great it was to relax and and enjoy each meal with my dining companions!

[@Lloyd1885]

Love your videos Gary... I find them really interesting regarding the whole cruising culture, even though I have no interest whatsoever in going on a cruise.

[@annesmith5192]

This was very informative. When we booked with Cunard, the early dining slot was filled up. On our first night, I approached the maitre d' and explained that my husband is diebetic and so he has to eat at certain times. He graciously found a table for us in the early dining slot. The tip I have for dining is don't spend the time bragging about your fabulous life. It bores the rest of us to hear about your holiday home and first class travel and six months in Italy. I know there's a fine line between talking about travel and being a bore. But please at least try.

[@Alphacentauri819]

When people don't have a rich inner life, they "need" to brag about their rich outer life, to feel like they matter. I used to be put off by people like this, but I now can see a huge internal deficit and wish they had more love/authentic connection in their life. That depth of connection and belonging takes away any need to ego posture. Most of those people aren't well loved.

[@annesmith5192]

@@Alphacentauri819 You're right.

[@warpedweft9004]

I don't like the first question being what do you do for a living followed by a tirade about either your job or theirs. Thank goodness we're now retired and can avoid answering.

[@robertferguson9944]

Another thing we would add is when dinning in the MDR always remove your Hat! Whe were on a Princess cruise in January and witnessed a gentleman who wore his baseball cap the entire time he was dressed very casual and his partner was dressed to the hilt. It might have been formal night,also. No matter, it looked very tacky. All of your videos are very interesting to watch.

[@JBM425]

Sounds like one of my brothers-in-law.

[@johnp139]

He was probably bald and embarrassed. Do you discriminate against the hairless?

[@fluffytail6355]

@@johnp139 Why do you assume he was bald and didn't just have poor manners?

[@sharonruffi6375]

Perhaps he had undergone chemo & was uncomfortable with his bald head . Do not make assumptions .

[@russemerson1358]

I was wondering which table manners to use? American? European? Especially regards to hands in laps. Your conversation advice is spot on!

[@erikagholston6610]

I'm going on a cruise soon. I will advise my travel companions to watch your videos on dos and don'ts.

[@cijmo]

I'm Canadian but I was ON a cruise during the 2016 election. (It was the first week of November). I was solo and just one other person at the table - I have no idea where she stood because we talked about many things but I just thought about the number of people on that ship who were wound up tighter than a drum at that time either one way or the other.

[@jacquelinsiegel]

We generally only order 1 appetizer and 1 entree each, sometimes skipping an app. When dining with others who order multiples, it makes for a VERY long dinner if the wait staff wait until everyone is finished with their apps before bringing anyone their mains. We revently started asking the wait staff to treat the two of us as if we were sitting at a table for two and serve us accordingly (after explaining to our tablemates and getting their approval.) That usually works. We finish eating in a reasonable amount of time and if the table conversation is good we'll stay seated enjoying our tea while others get their courses.

[@enjoyslearningandtravel7957]

I sometimes order two appetizers but then I don’t order a main meal.

[@bradh3139]

On a recent Holland America cruise we were at a table of eight as part of a large group. One gentleman usually ordered two entrees and two desserts. The staffed flawlessly keep the entire table moving seamlessly with no significant delays.

[@chriswilliams6568]

What is it with North Americans that they feel they must dine and dash instead of enjoying the ambiance and lovely conversation.

[@michaelsladek9819]

Great content as always Gary! One thing I would say is tip your waitstaff and the maitre’d. It is always appreciated!

[@tipsfortravellers]

Absolutely

[@ericl29]

My 1st cruise we had a 4 top with a couple on their honeymoon. It was awkward. Towards the end of the meal, they politely said they will not be dining with us again & apologized. We said no apologies were necessary, this was awkward for all of us. We laughed and then went ask to have tables for 2.

[@happytraveller2122]

I’m finding in the main dining room, that lately in our last few cruises, that the staff are really really really going on about how we need to give a good review and all of this stuff. They just wouldn’t leave us alone and wouldn’t even leave the table area. It was so uncomfortable we never went back and only eight in the buffet or other places.

[@warpedweft9004]

We noticed that too. we've even had staff telling us all about their personal life, leading up to the inevitable request for a large tip.

[@JohninRosc]

Many thanks for all these hints and tips. My wife and I are going on our second cruise in a few months time (first one was ten years ago) so they are really useful.

[@sdmakeupandentertainment]

My mom I request early dining table for 2 works out great. We made it to our show every time.

[@donkiml5805]

We have had 2 unique dining experiences out of our 6 cruise experiences. In 2012 on our Royal Caribbean Baltic cruise we were treated to a table for 2 by the window every evening in the anytime dining room. They told us it was our table every night because we were kind and interested in the staff’s backgrounds and heritage. We were treated with utmost personal service. In 2018 on our Celebrity cruise to Australia/New Zealand the anytime dining room was crazy busy with long lines starting even before 5:00. The buffet on this ship was outstanding with broad international meals. Love cruise food and desserts!

[@RagingCanuck]

Your fellow passengers on your RC Baltic cruise must have been an insufferable lot for the crew to have rewarded your kindness and empathy with a permanent window seat! We had a similar experience. We took a cruise that was completely forgettable except for two things: the stars must have aligned in such a way that only the most dour, critical, nasty people ended up taking the same cruise with us; and the dining room crew were run off their feet responding to the endless demands and complaints barked at them every night. Since we are neither demanding or critical, our service was impeccable - in fact, our table (for two) would be surrounded during dinner by servers and busboys, chatting away with us. The maitre d’ often joined them! Frankly, our apparent popularity became kind-of embarrassing. It was only upon disembarking did we meet some lovely people we had never encountered on the cruise - they had been so intimidated by the toxicity of those on board, they’d taken all their meals in their cabins!

[@scottulbrich5376]

@@RagingCanuck Yes, it used to be called common coutesy, but it doesnt seem to exsist as much these days.I seem to get along with the crew more than most of the other passengers,take care