Is Husband Enabling 590-LB Woman's Unhealthy Habits? | My 600-LB Life

[@elizabethrobertson4542]

That was so rude of her to put all the blame on him. He's probably enabling but not only out of loving her but fear too. Imagine how angry she probably gets if he says No. Definitely more to the story

[@dingo1666]

Or, as she mentioned, he needs her dependent as otherwise he feels not good enough to keep her. He needs to know she won't leave once she loses weight for starters. Then he can say 'no' and doesn't need to keep her obese.

[@elizabethrobertson4542]

@@dingo1666 I understand but I feel like we're not getting the full story

[@oAgL214]

100% she's removing all accountability from her, she's a narcissistic woman. I really hope that man realizes she's the issue. Can't even imagine how he feels. How will I blame my husband for my decision to not love myself? My body! Our body is out temple and we must be aware that everything we do with it, we're 100% responsible for.

[@elizabethrobertson4542]

@@oAgL214 I think this is a common trend in the people in this show. All obese, all making excuses, all blaming it on someone else 🙄

[@oAgL214]

@@elizabethrobertson4542 💯

[@AndiSchneider]

She’s an adult who needs to step up and take responsibility for herself. No one is shoving the food down her throat, and there is no doubt in my mind that she will give that guy hell if he doesn’t bring her what she wants. She won’t change if she doesn’t do it for herself. It’s really easy to blame everything else for your problems. Time to grow up and be responsible.

[@ruenaomictin5022]

Truly right 👍

[@VampFaye]

A successful surgery candidate should be strong mentally, as well as physically. 2 months of counseling isn't going to help the long run.

[@wickedhouston5538]

@Marilyn Willett yeah but do you have a job?

[@patriciamercer9960]

Exactly

[@Ass_of_Amalek]

time to -grow up- shrink down

[@leyaine4806]

Doctor Now should be Tammys doctor. He’s so brutally honest doesn’t care if it hurts your feelings.

[@nyaluv143]

I’ve been saying this for so long . She needs him !

[@jazziehuggins7764]

Um.......did u watch season 1 of them? He was her doctor

[@mrs.h2725]

He kicked her manipulative arse to the curb.

[@nyaluv143]

@@mrs.h2725 omg I wish I could see those episodes ! Dr.Now does not play!

[@999shosha]

I heard he kicked her out of his program pretty early on or rejected her to be in his program

[@FelixRosas10]

Aw man, I know Chris in real life. He delivers meats to my dad’s restaurant. The nicest guy. I hate to see him going through this, but I really hope the best for him and his wife.

[@PatricenotPatrick]

Felix, tell that man to leave that Chumbucket @ $$ gorl. There’s way too many single ladies out here who would love to have a supportive man. If anything he probably lose weight too not being around her and her cravings too.

[@laurencasey2075]

Right she just was harsh. Poor guy!!!

[@kumapark2105]

Tell him there’s other women that will act like adults

[@ripeager9338]

Good luck with that, from my experience telling someone you've been discussing their relationship with strangers who watched them on a fat TV show talking negatively about his wife will usually get them to listen to you

[@notjenny2638]

Chris is good looking dude

[@babyangelrae4235]

If your partner isn’t committed to a healthy lifestyle that isn’t their fault. You have to be responsible for your own happiness.

[@katiethomas5889]

I would also say that she should get a different boyfriend if he interferes with her health, but that means she has to be emotionally strong.

[@TheHardestPill]

Is that nicki minaj in your pfp 😭??

[@SarahKDB]

@@katiethomas5889 it's her husband, not just boyfriend. Better to work on it together.

[@katiethomas5889]

@@SarahKDB I agree it would be easier

[@babyangelrae4235]

@@TheHardestPill haha yes it was. Da queen

[@志瑜杨]

I feel like the therapist should’ve been slightly less accusatory towards him and more accusatory towards her. She needs to take accountability for how she got to be this way.

[@pinkpugginz]

shes not the one driving herself to the store. shes laid up in bed. he has to learn to say no or leave the relationship

[@志瑜杨]

@@pinkpugginz he’s not forcing the food down her throat, either.

[@helenvertannes691]

@@pinkpugginz she's not laid up in bed. Where did you get that from?? Just because he acts as an unpaid chauffeur. If he didn't do what fatso wants she would be wasting far more money on takeaways. She can walk better than I can

[@jacqueline6135]

Therapists who specialize in eating disorders don't put any blame on patients. That causes shame and is a key component to eating disorders, especially binge disorders.

[@jacqueline6135]

@Chocolate Bunny That's also just part of addiction.

[@Nina-fc8ey]

It is HER fault for shoving food down her gullet. NOT his. Yes he is enabling, but she needs to take responsibility. She is an ADULT.

[@Jerseyboondocks]

Her gullet lol sorry don't hear that one a lot

[@vintage1950]

It’s easier to blame someone else.

[@rzum81]

Even if he gave her too much food she needs to learn that she doesn’t have to eat it all.

[@gracendungwa9211]

The gullet got me there!!

[@Nina-fc8ey]

@@gracendungwa9211 lol

[@meditateonthis2697]

It’s always so one else’s fault, right? If she wasn’t married, she would have to blame someone else!

[@oAgL214]

Exactly.

[@lalaluvzbookie]

Her shadow

[@jesuscarrillo3705]

She would blame her loneliness

[@inlonging]

If she wasn’t married someone else would be her enabler, of course… people when they get this big tend to get a lot of assistance from friends and family in acquiring food.

[@ericrivera8410]

I saw a clip of her ordering enough food for her entire office at work

[@chriss6356]

I love Dr. Now. He doesn't take any BS and when they try to end the conversation, he keeps it going until they admit their problems.

[@debraressel6641]

He repeats himself alot. He says the same thing over and over as if they will hear him eventually. I like how he always throws, " Do you think you can do that", in there at the end. I wonder what he would say if they said No!

[@labellamaffia]

Labelling every partner or family member ‘enablers’ is a really unfair way of shifting blame. For the most part, they’re mostly victims of emotional abuse at the hands of an addict.

[@thedisobedientdaughter]

Some people truly do selfishly enable. It's codependent on both sides. He admitted he needs her disabled to feel needed. He doesn't see a role in her life outside of that. It's a real problem in many relationships and it's just as toxic and abusive as the other person's behavior, even if it's quiet and insidious and with a smile.

[@orlandojohnson5742]

Ikr! Who told her to eat everything in sight!?!?! We are all grown ups and can turn down more food being offered! She’s the guilty party flipping the script on everybody else! I felt bad for him! He wants her happy & he’s trying hard to be there for her!! And this is the thanks he gets! FORGET HER! She’s the weakest link…. to a sausage link!!!

[@ITI-xi5zx]

I'm sorry, but addiction is a disease. the stigma that your comment is placing on addicts is exactly why addicts don't seek/get the proper help.

[@booskie4316]

@@ITI-xi5zx It seems too convenient to just absolve people from all blame and say that it's out of their hands because they're addicts. Everyone has the capacity to become an addict, but not everyone does. Non-addicts learn to cope in healthier ways and the onus HAS to be on the addicts to cope in healthier ways. Only the addict himself has the ability to end their addiction and blaming the people near them for not treating the addict in the perfect way is BS. Addicts take everything from the people around them and rarely give anything back. It's healthier for other people to cut themselves out of the addict's life or give them minimal support.

[@jeanroger4738]

@@ITI-xi5zx if you abuse your children as an addict does that excuse your actions? Addicts don’t just hurt themselves they hurt the people around them. There’s no excuse for hurting the people that you care about. It doesn’t matter what your addiction is. That is still your doing and your own responsibility. Seeing how you hurt others is probably the best motivation to get help. Every addict I know who got help did it for the people that they love. You can’t let addicts blame their actions on an addiction. It leaves the disconnected and makes it easy to brush off responsibility. “I’m sorry for hitting you. It wasn’t me it was the alcohol.”

[@mr.honesty5115]

She’s full of excuses take responsibility for your life, yes he plays a part but she is to blame.

[@endofaneraoutnow3473]

Exactly! At the end of the day, she’s the one who crams the food down her throat

[@bellasmith9404]

I hope she is reading all these comments and grows up to take accountability for her actions or from what everyone sees as inactions. That man deserves better

[@justicett0]

@Marilyn Willett you don’t either

[@kateg1570]

I love the victim blaming that goes on here. Vulnerable population class of overweight women gets full blame. So easy to blame the person already being blamed.

[@shadysorkin9214]

@@kateg1570 That's because she's an adult and it is 100% her fault. If her husband isn't willing to support her new lifestyle then she should leave.

[@lloyddobblerNJ]

@@kateg1570 she physically brings the fork/spoon to her mouth, therefore she gets the blame. If he was force feeding her or trying to convince her to eat the greasy hamburger then she'd be a victim, but that's not what was happening. She' was victimizing herself.

[@Maerahn]

Hmmm... having been through a lot of therapy myself over the years, my feeling is... if you're aware enough to KNOW that your husband has a problem saying 'no' to your demands, then surely it's at least *somewhat* on YOU to reconsider all those demands you're making and... well, not make those demands in the first place? Otherwise you're basically saying "I want my husband to have enough self-control for the both of us, so I don't have to."

[@blueanima8623]

That. That thing about self control. You summed it up really well; I was trying to work out exactly what was getting to me about her and that was it.

[@chrissy.saturday]

Yeah she definitely takes advantage of that with him

[@lululovesyou7618]

No, no, no. The misery, guilt, anger and emotional abuse an addict can inflict on household members is incredible. "Get this or- I will just order out costing us money/ hurt myself/ you don't love me/leave/I'll hurt myself..."

[@anthonygreenfield123]

Same in my fam. My moms is obese. Has a huge impact on the family.

[@waypay1]

Not to mention the incessant screaming. Eventually you give in just for a moment's peace.

[@anthonygreenfield123]

@@waypay1 My mother too, she would get angry with foam on her mouth when I refused to buy her sweets at the grocery store when I was 15 years old. Still haunts me

[@VampireSexGoddess]

I'd call their bluff.

[@thatvalensteingirl]

​@@VampireSexGoddess There have been bariatric patients on the show that were not above self harm and calling the police to report that their S/O or caretaker was abusive. one guy ripped out his stitches to get more pain meds because he was an addict and they weren't feeding him the pills like he was used to

[@kekeshawr]

I don’t know how old she is, but she’s way too old to not know how to take accountability for herself and her own actions

[@oAgL214]

🙌🏻 age doesn't determine maturity unfortunately. I know 60+ year olds who are extremely immature people.

[@EHFAR87]

Come on… she can’t even carry her own purse 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@endofaneraoutnow3473]

@Marilyn Willett oop

[@limegreen1548]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@menace85]

She can't carry her own purse and walk...gawd dammit

[@PatricenotPatrick]

@Marilyn Willett girls like you give us such a bad name because y’all complain we’re oppressed and masculinity is so toxic when they don’t applaud your OF or BBL then make childish remarks like that. Insulting his masculinity and then complaining about it later. Go sit your mArGiNaLiZed self down, sis.

[@PatricenotPatrick]

@@endofaneraoutnow3473 and you go sit down too, all your videos are th0tt3ry, BBL Beasties, and finessing. Just got the whole street walker starter pack 😩

[@betterbetty3542]

She’s incredibly manipulative and won’t take responsibility for HERSELF!

[@jacqueline6135]

If he's bringing her the food, that's something he's responsible for. All he has to do is say no.

[@olivetaylor4514]

If someone is manipulative, you can’t just say no, which is why she commented what she did.

[@ericrivera8410]

@@jacqueline6135 there was an earlier clip.of her at work after breakfast as soon as she came into work she order enough food for the while office and while she war working as a receptionist she ate it ..she said the first thing she looks forward to when she gets to work her husband isn't enabling her there.

[@jacqueline6135]

@@ericrivera8410 Yes, Eric. It's called addiction. That doesn't negate the fact that her husband is still responsible for the food he brings her.

[@ericrivera8410]

@@jacqueline6135drop the condescending tone you're not schooling me on anything I lived with some one for two years with a food addiction I know first hand what it's like to live with someone.like that he wasn't addicted to fresh fruit and salads and had trauma in his life like I had his life parents spoiled him never bathed once in the two years I lived with him She has a job if you watched the whole episode as soon as she got to work she bought enough food for the entire office and ate it while on the phone as a receptionist at a doctor's office ironically ..her hisband wasn't enabling her there

[@onethatdoesart5650]

Are enablers a problem? yes. Yet they are also victims of the person using them for their own gain. Shame on her for blaming him when shes 80% of what makes him enable her. I could only imagine how mean she gets behind closed doors.

[@lesielottayenny5480]

She's the one to blame. Don't put all the blame your husband. You are responsible for the food you eat.

[@stephanielake71]

Exactly

[@justicett0]

@@RottedRowan both of them are big ,both of them are adults if she wants to eat healthy then she will

[@7YBzzz4nbyte]

The food in the US iseems to be too much around processed fast food and soft drinks. Maybe you guys don't even learn how to cook food from scratch in school? We had that as a topic in high school.

[@raigenhuss7030]

She sounds so manipulative. I see her guilting him into getting her crap food. I bet she doesn’t yell. She probably says things like “don’t you want me to feel good? Don’t you love me?” Ew. Disgusting. Take responsibility

[@vallyhaze]

I noticed her husband is holding her purse for her the entire time. He wants to serve her in any way, and unfortunately it’s toxic when he’s enabling her to eat. :(

[@Valoelify]

@@peripheralwatchers Agreed.

[@angelnumber2002]

Tru

[@Pax_Mayn3]

As soon as the cameras off, "can you go get me some deep fried butter"

[@riod43]

Why go through the effort? Just get her a bucket and a spoon.

[@niam6730]

I almost spit out my coffee, this is the first comment I read 😂

[@ReincarnatedStargazer]

Some of these people on the show had to leave their spouses because they were feeders. I can't say this is the case here.

[@melonie33artist23]

No fried butter 😂😂

[@ironrevenger9386]

Absolutely SAVAGE 🤣

[@RS-xf2yr]

She can’t take ANY accountability!

[@phillipholland6795]

what woman does

[@depressivschwul2377]

@@phillipholland6795 how did this become about gender?

[@stephanielake71]

I have watched this show for a while and not many do

[@phillipholland6795]

@@depressivschwul2377 my bad, i know a lot of women do but a looooot never do

[@phillipholland6795]

@@RottedRowan "psychological profiles" made by who exactly ? Lol

[@Maxigirl5523]

She blames her husband instead of taking responsibility for her own actions. She got to be that size by eating vast amounts of food, which she put in her mouth.

[@ShaynieB]

You took the whole contect in what she said wrong. She said he doesnt like to tell her no, because he wants to take care of her. The doc then said doyou feel like if she got better, that she wouldnt need you any more? The doc then said “does she need to be sick and dying for you to feel like you have a role in her life” and thats when he shed tears and said “I don’t want to lose her”. So,he knows what he is doing. Its not her fault.

[@KatieBellino]

She's being unfair placing all of the blame on her husband. He clearly has some food demons as well, so she needs to help him as much as he needs to help her.

[@metalmamasue3680]

AbsoIuteIy spot on. Until peopIe take accountability for their own actions, nothing will improve in the long run. Stop pointing fingers at others and grow up. Handle your own things Iike a grown up. BIaming everyone and everything outside of yourseIf is a cop out.

[@villalba874]

He is not enabling her...they were enabling each other.

[@RyeDomaine]

It's crazy how I've seen so many of these shows that I see he weighs 300lb and I'm like "oh 300, that's not so bad" as if it isn't still morbidly obese 💀

[@Ass_of_Amalek]

is that morbid already? that's like the average fatness in america.

[@CH-jj8wk]

@@Ass_of_Amalek 21+ stone is AVERAGE?!? My dad was at 15 stone (210) at six foot and was already obese

[@Ass_of_Amalek]

C. HC I don't know stone age units.

[@happywifehappylife2739]

@@Ass_of_Amalek 1 stone = 1 jelly roll

[@hadilayyad6147]

@@CH-jj8wk How is 210 lbs for a 6 foot man obese? Maybe slightly overweight if it’s not muscle but I don’t think that’s considered obese.

[@jademoon7938]

I find the addict/enabler relationship too often results in the addict blaming the enabler and outside entities sort of reinforce that. "Just stop" is like the easiest thing to say in the world but addicts are f*cking nightmares when they don't have their stuff. I know from first hand experience. It's a terrible position to put someone in and often the only answer is to split from the addict, tell them to come back when they're ready to treat you like a partner and not their b*tch that they can scream at and threaten to get their way, and you'll consider it. Otherwise, it's new horizons for both of you. Seriously, a lot of the time it's better for everyone to just start fresh alone than try to fix a relationship that is dysfunctional at its very core.

[@farneciamiller4772]

That nurse always looks so over it lol

[@LMAOBLACKPEOPLE]

She’s probably thinking about when lunch time is, remember she does this all day everyday not just when the cameras are around.

[@debraressel6641]

I know! ALL the nurses seem disgusted. Once in awhile they could smile! 😁

[@waynedome148]

@@debraressel6641 yep it wouldn't hurt to smile, it's easy

[@georgettethomas2540]

When you are overweight all your life and make lifestyle changes to loose the weight. When you finally loose the weight it psychologically plays on your mind not to overeat its a constant battle smh.

[@dingo1666]

Or, once you lose weight and look and feel soooo much better, healthy eating becomes more 'addictive' because the outcome is so positive. It's only if you don't give a damn about your health and looks that the decision not to eat crap is a 'battle'. Neurons in your brain can/will rewire, but only if you train them and want to change.

[@VampFaye]

@dingo1666 Not if you've had solid mental health treatment to address the issues PRIOR to the surgery. Not just 2 month's worth. Many codependent morbidly obese patients gain so much life after surgery, their significant others can no longer assert so much control over them, and it becomes the tipping point for the relationship. The partner will sabotage your hard work or just find someone else they can have rely on them.

[@crystalmeier6579]

Very true. I was 233lbs when I was 34. I went on strict diet and exersized. Hit my goal within 17 months. I'm 59yr now and 110lbs. I've had a severe eating disorder ever since. Two times it got so out of control that I was hospitalized at under 90lbs. I know that the fat lady I see in the mirror isn't real. I know it's all in my head. But it rules my life. 😢

[@crpton24]

That psych was toxic as fuck. He just gon sit there and tell ol' boy that its his fault his wife can't meet weight loss goals? That had to just be for the show. Dude loves his wife and I'm sure that she goes bananas when he DOES tell her no. I'm sure his life is hard as hell too because he has to take care of someone that blames him for their situation.

[@beckstyles3467]

ya

[@ChristinaQueenHeart]

The spouses of these people just need to leave them on their own for 3 days when they get like this. So rude. They raise all hell if they don't get what they want but are quick to place blame everywhere but on themselves. They think they can do more than they can bc everyone is doing for them. Those days alone will show them just how f'd their life is without others in it.

[@wut-dah_7212]

If you know you get angry and demanding when the supposed enabler tries to tell you no, then you can’t turn around and say it’s all their fault.

[@tammiesmukbangs2471]

WOW! She literally threw her own husband under the bus and watched him get run over. She’s a grown ass, old ass adult! Take responsibility for your own actions love. As for the husband, yes he needs to start saying no but it is not his fault at all. She is her own enemy and SHE IS THE REASON WHY SHES THAT BIG. Wish I could tell this to her face, she needs a bloody wake up call!

[@awkwardsean5141]

There are no enablers in life. We enable ourselves.

[@志瑜杨]

There are definitely enablers in life. But yes, we should have the most control.

[@mandolinman2006]

Wait a second? She blamed him for giving into her unhealthy demands, the quack sided with her, he walked out feeling like garbage, and she walks out having done nothing to address her issues? Whoever that therapist is, and I'm trying to keep in mind this is only a few seconds of one session, is quite bad. He beat the husband up for giving her what she wants to be healthy. Also, notice at the end. She didn't say anything about 'we', it was all 'me'. His thoughts are on her happiness, however misguided. Her thoughts are on her happiness. He's being left out of it.

[@JOHN----DOE]

The counsellor didn't "side with her." He pointed out an unhealthy dynamic for the benefit of BOTH. The guy needs to understand why he's an enabler, and you could tell the counsellor hit the nail on the head. Even if he were to leave her, he'd be prone to do the same codependent dynamic with someone else if he didn't realize the meaning of his actions. They both need to change. She just needs to change a lot more.

[@8213apice]

I can’t stand that therapist. He over talks over people and is not very compassionate.

[@Ass_of_Amalek]

in every clup I gave seen of this show, the doctor says nothing useful to the pateint, and then gives the feedback for the patient to the camera without the patient in the hallway. not the most realistic setup.

[@MissX905]

Dr. Paradise is just in it for the $ likely. He doesn't help the patients really.

[@moosehead1183]

Lousy therapist..maybe he shoulda asked her how she would respond if he did say no. Therapist basically blamed the man for his wife's voluntary eating habits. Even if the man refused to get her goodies, then she'd just get them for herself..it's not like she's immobile. She has only herself to blame for the weight she carries.

[@LeMarais88]

I read the comments first before watching. While she should admit to not accepting responsibility for her own wellness by telling her husband “no thanks,” she seems more soft-spoken here and less combative when compared to other people I’ve seen on this show. They seem to have a loving relationship overall meaning no hollering at each other but yes, the relationship is too much based on stuff like food and clothing. It would be nice to see them enjoy a stroll together more than the acquisition of stuff. I hope they can work as a team to lose weight.

[@helenvertannes691]

It's not soft spoken, it's that pathetic little girl voice so many of these HUGE (and they are truly huge) women affect. Sickening and manipulative

[@sunflowerm6967]

I love how Dr. Now stands firm and never bends. They act as if they can talk over him as if he's hasn't been doing this for years and has heard all kinds of excuses.

[@rachaelbrowne2402]

I’m sure he isn’t holding her down force feeding her.

[@hannahparker8287]

People with addictions always want to blame someone else!!! Addiction is a choice! You choose to do xyz! take responsibility 🤦

[@annanicholson4670]

I was 400 lb and now I am currently 169 and it took me a lot of praying and a lot of willpower if I can do it anybody can do it

[@greensteelusallc7862]

Don’t blame your husband. You tell your husband what you want to eat. And then you demand on him but me while you’re at work shoveling food down your throat these people just the rudest people I’ve ever seen on national TV such as KZbin

[@AmberTris]

She needs to take responsibility. If he was bringing junk food home without her asking for it, I can see how that can be enabling or him trying to sabotage her progress to keep her dependent on him. But her asking him for bad food all the time and forcing him to say no to her shifts the responsibility to him and off her.

[@darlinglove81]

He really don't need to be with her.

[@sherlymartinez177]

Tbh!!!

[@oAgL214]

💯 he deserves better!

[@darlinglove81]

@Marilyn Willett someone who will genuinely love him for him.

[@nicholinaplange4750]

She’s an adult; don’t blame anyone.

[@ruthlundy4497]

Dr Now keeps it real , no excuses no bs just straightfoward honesty keeping the person accountable no matter what .No he doesn't deserve the verbal. abuse he needs to set limits.

[@rein2430]

He has to be tough on them, it might hurt their feelings, it might piss them off, but for many reasons he has to be this way with them.

[@patricialong5767]

Do these heavyweight people realize how very fortunate they are to have such supportive people around them??

[@yahzea]

Why is Dr. Now interrogating me too? 🤣

[@analea6531]

That therapist is trash 🗑 he just helped her put the blame on him This is why I hate the concept of enabler because it gives people who already fail to take accountability the chance to blame it on someone else. Girl you a whole adult with full possession of all your capacities, it’s your fault nobody else’s. He didn’t shove the food down your throat. He’s maybe not as helpful as “he should” ( even though he doesn’t owe you a damn thing) but still it’s your body and your choice. Just learn how to give up on what you want now to have what you need Your HEALTH

[@cherryonasundae]

The therapist is not trash he is correct that he is an enabler!! Yes she needs to take responsability but these people have a severe ADDICTION!!! It’s like giving a heroine addict more heroine every single day!!! No therapist is gonna say “yeah that’s a great idea keep doing that!!” Enablers are real and they need to change too

[@analea6531]

@@cherryonasundae the first step should have been letting her know that she’s the first one responsible for this situation and that she needs to learn how to say no and make right choices for herself before acknowledging her husband’s role in this. I never said he was a saint but nobody is responsible for a grown person’s weight. It’s your own choices that lead you there and if you don’t take accountability you won’t lose any weight

[@cherryonasundae]

@@analea6531 do you really think that the therapist session was not edited or cut? This session with the therapist in the video lasted about 3 minutes.. a real session in real life lasts over an hour not to mention this was probably longer because it is filmed!! Obviously there is stuff that we are not seeing in this short clip!! Yes firstly it is her responsability but secondly the enabler needs to be addressed.. alot of these men actually have a “big girl fétish” if you watch 1000 pound sisters you will see all her boyfriends have a big girl fétish and want their partners to stay fat and will leave them if they start losing weight.. that’s another type of toxic enabler

[@analea6531]

@@cherryonasundae first I only talk about what I watched, I know the session was longer but I don’t know what the therapist said and I don’t want to assume stuff so I still think he’s wrong for not acknowledging her role in her weight gain. They left the office on her taking zero accountability so either the therapist also enabled in thinking it’s her husband’s fault or she didn’t understand anything he said. Then of course there are feeders I don’t deny it I watch 1000 lbs sisters. But everybody still has the last word when it comes to what you eat that’s what was missing in this clip, her understanding she’s the first to blame. And she even said she doesn’t want the surgery so either she’s self sabotaging herself on purpose or she takes zero accountability.

[@cherryonasundae]

@@analea6531 it’s not only the fact that the session was longer.. if you know even the slightest thing about television production, you know that the producers have a large amount of video content and they cut and edit everything down to this 3 min clip.. so they obviously edited out other portions and kept the most interesting/controversial parts of the session.. if they showed the boring or mundane parts why would people be interested to watch?? The producers purposely chose to show this clip and not the other parts, that is very obvious You should not be blaming the therapist but should be blaming the producers instead!! They edited the show to show this part lol

[@ourtruth216]

She’s snobby and rude to him. Seems like she doesn’t even want him but using him. She didn’t take any accountability for anything, up until her last sentence “I need use to work better so I can get better “ no so we can get better together.

[@NativeWarrior88]

I feel like the husband thinks that if she loses all the weight, she will leave him. That's a huge fear! I absolutely love that Dr Now forces them to make the choice and puts the ball in their court. That's the only way to make ot truly work!

[@sheilap9854]

I Love Dr. NOW He's Like If You're Not Going to Follow His Instruction Then Why Come? Great Question ❓❤

[@CH-jj8wk]

But he is also obviously struggling with his own weight...even if he's enabling, this is not his fault. It's your life; your responsibility.

[@shirleylangton7967]

The counselling is so useful in the couples dynamics. Most of the bariatric patients have psychological issues that hold them back. I'm so happy that this is available to them in their weight loss journey.💌💌

[@emmyhope26]

Some of these people need to be sent to a cabin with a mini-fridge full of pre-portioned meals and water. Someone can check on them once a day.

[@tinahyde98]

She could start by carrying her own damn purse 🙄

[@briann3523]

Its ridiculous when people can’t take responsibility for themselves and instead lets blame others!!

[@TheFitnessPlaylistt]

What in the world, why is she not taking accountability. I am glad I have found way to get over my food addiction by looking for other ways of dealing with my emotions. I went down this path when I was a kid and I got up to 250lbs. Weight loss is possible, but if you have a bad food addiction, it’s not as easy as some people say. I am a healthy weight now, and I’m almost done with my 100LBS weight loss journey. I share my journey over here on my channel. If you don’t think it’s possible, it is. Anyone can lose weight and improve their lives. Please don’t wait until it’s too late. It get’s harder the longer you wait to make a change!

[@jnx6359]

So he literally just told her what she already knew which was that when she asks for something he’s gonna say yes and that he needs to start saying no.

[@taywiththelongnails]

Therapy should be a requirement from the start. She has a lot to unpack before she’ll be successful losing weight and keeping it off long-term.

[@carriee.9712]

From a Carrie to another Carrie, you’ve got this girl! Put your faith in yourself and then you can do anything. 💜😊

[@chadd7660]

I'm always surprised when they don't lose weight and they say they've been working hard.

[@bethoneybee]

I've said it before & I'll say it again. Dr. Now's staff looks miserable.

[@roderickahairston9935]

I work in healthcare it’s miserable

[@ruthfoster7939]

Always liked Dr now cares about his patients without an ego that is like I am Dr hear me now he is one that gives input without telling patients you are bad

[@alexramirez9589]

I understand not having a fully supportive partner, and how hard it is when you don't have someone helping motivate. But at the end of the day you can't depend on others to be your cheerleader. You have to be your own cheerleader and take responsibility for your actions. Is he at fault? I at least think a tiny bit in a way. But the one that is most at fault is herself (like 98%). She's a grown adult that makes her own choices. It's time to grow up, and start fighting for yourself

[@beautifuldurian]

First minute and I think they are already not a nice couple. Put up her leg on chair without any thing below to protect the chair seat! Other clients and patients are going to sit on it!

[@ruthlundy4497]

Blaming others for our problems is sadly all too common.. The saying " when you point a finger at someone THREE are pointing back.at YOU" is very true. She needs to put her ADULT pants on and take charge of herself if not, he may just split for his own sanity .

[@howey935]

Why’s it down to Chris? He’s not the one forcing her to eat. Why won’t she take responsibility for been greedy and lazy

[@ameleiizane]

That woman is just playing. She literally said everything the counselor said before going in. Instead of wasting everyone's time, and blaming her husband, they just need to eat normal portions of food. It's not that hard. Stop eating so much. She clearly doesn't want to lose weight.

[@amynewberg]

Not defending her for blaming her husband. But sometimes it’s more than that. Maybe it’s hard for her to stop eating.

[@ameleiizane]

@@amynewberg She doesn't even have to stop eating the foods she's eating. She just needs to stop eating so much of it and control her portions. That shouldn't be so hard. She's not even doing that. She doesn't think she needs to stop. She's only pretending just to appease her family. Otherwise, she would be losing weight.

[@xCharismatix]

@@ameleiizane Research and studies have shown over the last decade or so that obesity is a multifaceted calorie storage and neurochemical issue. Very little of it is dependent on willpower, especially at a weight that woman's size. There is a reason obesity has shot up so much in recent years. I suggest you look into concepts like metabolic adaptation and dopamine reward circuitry with regards to hyperpalatable foods.

[@ameleiizane]

@@xCharismatix I don't need to look into anything. She needs to stop eating so much. The end.

[@xCharismatix]

@@ameleiizane How unbelievably naive and close minded. That type of thinking is why the obesity situation is getting worse.

[@shy_sorai]

This is so weird. Is she saying that if she was single she wouldn't get herself a cheeseburger delivered to the house? I mean, what? 😂

[@murphyville]

She needs to hold herself accountable

[@nickycotton6137]

She hasn't gotta eat the Burger! Jeez she probably threatens him if he doesn't give what SHE WANTS! Making out he'd leave if she didn't eat! Like he's force-fed her 24-7 with a Gun to her head.

[@juanitacarranza8449]

Boy the counselor was amazing he gives you the hope and help you need and he got to the root of the issue he really cares ❤

[@debraressel6641]

I think Dr. Paradise is awesome. I would go and see him if he had an office where I live.

[@Avarcirith]

My mom's friend got weight loss surgery, dropped over 200 lbs, and as she puts it, "another 250 lbs" in the form of her husband. Apparently he fought against her decision to get weight loss because he has a fetish for obese women, and he not only was enabling her weight gain over the years but was encouraging it. Apparently he's dating a morbidly obese woman right now and repeating the damaging cycle all over again.

[@dsmith5685]

I don't think counseling will help her as she is not ready to change. The excuses will still be there. She is the one that is eating the food, not him.

[@xMorganbrittnyx]

People can't and won't give in or enable you if you aren't actively enabling, excusing, and hurting your own self first. You can't call out someone enabling you without holding yourself accountable first.

[@imtired2983]

Oh my gosh I can’t. He needs to start by letting her carry her own bag. Even if she had to drag it like a cavewoman

[@jpmia2510]

its really hard for me to understand how someone can eat until they are disabled whenever I gain a little weight I start to feel bad and immediately do something about it yet these people eat themselves into oblivion its crazy how addiction works

[@alexisrose4221]

at the end of the day it’s up to you to say no

[@getin3949]

GREAT counselor, just in that short period of time he hit on very useful and simple solutions.

[@slj5055]

He even carries her purse everywhere. He doesn't let her do anything; it's such a sad dynamic in most of these relationships. Theses guys need these women to be totally dependent on them. They sabotage there weight lose.

[@TheRealdal]

They should come into each appt with a food diary of what they ate every day at every meal. They don’t see how much they are consuming unless it’s on paper.

[@user-hx7mi7ml8u]

If he “always gets her food,” she can always say, “no.” She put a bunch of crap on him. He’s just a nice guy that can’t say “no” to a woman who won’t say “no” herself.

[@sammy_brooklyn]

Enabling bad habits is not showing love. Showing love is supporting while helping them face reality so they can grow in life.

[@medievaltorturetechnician1980]

I love how it's always someone else's fault, like he's the one who made her eat and get fat. SMDH

[@kathymeza3444]

I have had an eating disorder my whole life but even if someone. Brings me the food it still comes down to my hand putting the food in my mouth.

[@paulpach]

Why is it his responsibility to say no to her (and put up with the probable tantrum)? It should be her responsibility to say no to herself first and foremost.

[@katieedwards5926]

Why does it always seem like people are supporting this whole “it’s the partner’s fault” thing? YOU’RE AN ADULT PERSON, HANDLE YOUR OWN LIFE.

[@nykiasmith7404]

I mean if she asked for it don’t be mad at him she’s having him enable her

[@angelmason5108]

You cannot just wobble in there and okie dokie and bullshit Dr. Now!.... This man has heard every excuse and lie in the book! He's ten steps ahead of you.

[@cherylgriffin9242]

My boyfriend he used to be that way always bringing me whatever I wanted but now he knows that I'm trying to I weigh 270 lbs I'm trying to lower my weight and he tells me he give me options that are healthier

[@Godwinpounds4333]

Hello Cheryl Griffin, hope you’re doing great?😊😅

[@2006glg]

This is why I've never done relationships with big people. Who you associate with and their habits eventually rub off on you. It's inevitable. You might think you'd rub off on them if you're healthy but in most cases, that does not happen.

[@awxuh]

she probably threatens to sit on him if he doesn’t get her more food 😂

[@chocolatebunny4625]

So sad but so real in so many relationships…. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@helenvertannes691]

She is not housebound, so the only person to blame is herself. It drives me nuts when people blame everyone else. Prime example "my family wants me to get this surgery". So it's their fault. Total and absolute bs. I lost 5 stone over 25 years ago. I've now put 2 and a half stone on from breaking my humerus and not being able to even use a microwave, but I live on my own. So takeaways it was. A lot harder, but it's coming off. As well as age I'm also disabled. I see these lard arses blaming everyone else, a lot of the time using silly little girl high pitched voices. You are an adult your responsibility.

[@ambarocuud9622]

She doesn't seem She really needs the help. She just taking it all as a joke and detached

[@abbyschenk1970]

I find it insane that she’s almost twice his weight and yet she certainly doesn’t look twice his size 😱😱😱 the human body is so strange

[@tamara09090]

Yes, I thought there was maybe a 50 lb difference. This show got me thinking he ain't that big at all🙈

[@TheCoExister]

She’s the one who’s honest and saying her adherence was only like 30%. She’s saying she’s the problem as well

[@shabdekhsaboon1048]

Idk why she keeps saying “us” as opposed to herself. I bet when she wants a cheeseburger and he asks to share, there aint no “us” involved