WHAT WE WISH WE KNEW BEFORE MOVING IN WITH OUR PARTNERS - TMI PODCAST KE - EPISODE 10

Episode 10!!!
Moving in with a partner whether a boyfriend or a husband comes with a lot! From making that decision, to the planning, to actually moving in... A lot!! Then there are the expectations vs reality when it comes to the day to day issues. From petty fights to getting used to their weird habits, it takes a lot of getting used to. On this episode we discuss our why we chose o move in with our partners when we did, what it's been like and what we have learnt so far. If you are currently living with your partner, let us know some things you wish you knew before you took the plunge. Once again that you for being here and supporting us... let's chat in the comments.
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[@virginiamuthoni3746]

Personally I prefer moving in after marriage. I don't wanna do wifey duties to a boyfriend.

[@khatunyishidambasi5220]

Oh yeah, you can say that

[@itsme_Andi]

I hear you. Like, what if I wash and cook and we don't end up together? Also, I'm lazy AF. I would rather eat snacks just so I don't have to clean utensils

[@rachellarry5803]

Louder please!

[@sharleenmagetto5051]

It always feels like unajipeana kama fuliza... without even consent of family...just doesn't feel right

[@RahabGachigi]

Precisely!

[@iamfaynjoroge1657]

Life has no manual . Write your story + follow your rules!

[@beatriceamundi4000]

This girl Lydia is sooooo mature,like I love how she has positively approached this topic considering she's in that particular position...just wow!

[@RosaliaShiweva]

The way Lydia Loves Mike right now is the most She will ever love him. There is no waiting of tomorrow to love him more . I love that

[@NicoleFabulous]

And if there’s something we have learnt since COVID, life is short.

[@fezilesithole5882]

I just want to say that I admire how mature both of you are, you said your piece without projecting and Lydia said hers without defending her decision. I love friends that can have uncomfortable conversations with so much respect and grace for each other.

[@carolinenjoroge1195]

👌👌

[@Pink_dots]

True

[@wacukamwangi]

Agree with Lydia. Deep down you will know if you are okay moving in. I moved in with my now husband when l was 23, a year later did our traditional wedding, he later proposed the same year and now 3 babies later. I never regret my decision to dates. You will know when it's a-okau

[@nzilanikimani7139]

I secretly moved in with my partner, but we didn’t have the hard questions. I wish we would have, it would have saved us a lot of small small unnecessary fights. Then a baby came along the way, and later a wedding came. I wouldn’t do it exactly the same way but I still love our story. I love how mature this conversation was, what would I change? I would move in with him when I was a little bit older, with the same man, but a more mature me.Because moving in requires a whole other level of maturity.

[@lynnieeve]

Never fallen in love with Murugi like the way I did after watchingthis episode.You are the kind of true friend every lady out there needs.Kudos to both of you for having this difficult conversation with so much grace.

[@megchery5608]

Murugi munyi is right, just don't do it (if your end goal is marriage.)

[@mollykabuteh7144]

First of all, having just watched Lucifer, Lydia is giving Mazikeen vibes, the vicious type of love... Also, saying that we won't do certain stuff like moving in because "what if we don't work out" is almost cowardly. Because there's very few things that we do in life with absolute surety... Lastly, address me in soft tones...I've been given a shout out🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@raychealndegwa119]

This right here is the type of friendship we all need,where we can openly differ about things.The way murugi explains her reasons is the same way your mum would advise you on such a topic.I loved this one alot

[@anitajillsway3840]

I really enjoyed this 🤗🤗 I’m 23 and I feel like I’m getting mature and viewing things in a totally different way from before. Love you both ❤️❤️❤️

[@achieng726]

How addictive this podcast is

[@dianahonyango.5750]

I knooooow

[@ShirleenNgoya]

Mehhnn 😭🔥

[@mosehmonique5920]

🙌🙌the fact wekiii

[@levinashon22]

Ikr... I tune in as soon as it is posted..

[@katsn9304]

Omg lydia I wish you all the best I did that and I thought I was sure of risks then kids boom then no ring wish I waited hahah 😅 you never know a person till you move in together men get comfortable they benefit more love the topic I am with Murugi here same ideology

[@carolynekyaa8539]

Thank you for this.When I moved in with my ex the first month was fireeeee.Then we started fighting baby came and we broke upand since its been tough. Things I learned 1.I need to work on my temper(I asked God to help and so far am certain when the right one comes.I definitely am mature now to handle stuff without raising my voice.) 2.Talk about things esp relatives (We fought a lot about his niece. He loves the niece so much that he would die for her. 3.Marry your friend.My Baby daddy was not my friend because after we parted ways how he treated us Mhhh I would not wish it on anyone. 4.Breakups happen its life..But always know what part you played. It is painful to part ways with someone but somehow the pain settles. Thank you!

[@justbeingmeciru]

❤

[@krystyntyrone3949]

You guys have made me so mentally prepared.majority of girls need these talks

[@njerikimani648]

Lydiah being so sure about her attachment with boo😪😭❤❤

[@JK-ju8jl]

after 2 months ............mmmmm

[@antonettewambani805]

I haven't even reached midway the video but am so in agreement with murugi completely

[@JK-ju8jl]

same here

[@vanessajorgembanze8089]

Obviously this topic is going to sit differently in different cultures. In my culture (Mozambique), it is rare for people to get married before living together first. There is even a law that says that if two people live together for 2 years straight, they are automatically legally married. For me personally I feel like moving in before marriage is way better, it’s like a preparation stage before marriage and kids, I love the idea that we can be boyfriend and girlfriend, creating deep bonds before we get into the kids part. Conclusion: I’m with Lydia on this one

[@kihiuwanjira6921]

Such a deep conversation here... I would say, maturity is what matters coz weve seen couples separate even after a huge wedding while others stay together despite not following the formalities. Each persons script is different.

[@berylabungu3178]

Usually, the both of you kinda have similar opinions. I particularly love this episode because of the differing opinions coming in sync💕. And I love how Lydia is so free spirited, enjoying now, and determining the script of how she wants her story.

[@justherke]

I think the buck stops at who you are moving in with, what place you are at in your communication and what you want out of the relationship space. Because while we may say marriages dont break as often...the truth is that the only place they are not broken is legally. People are single parents and single in marriages all the damn time. Unhappiness is rife in this spaces. In fact marriages may bring the reality of the bias of expectation of financial and domestic roles even harder and faster, because of the illusion of permanence. The one up that marriage has is the fact that matters of inheritance and succession are much smoother in the institution. (which you can cover with legal contracts).. but the net difference seems negligible especially emotionally . As long as you think about it and have systems to have your ass covered and most importantly don't get children, whether you move in or not is negligible in effect. It may probably be advantageous to figure out if your partner is the right fit.

[@jessicamurray707]

Omg. I agree with everything girl.

[@likanari]

I like how Lydia discussed this topic so discreetly and maturely. All the best girl.

[@roselynewanjikuofficial5491]

I honestly feel like we've turned Dating-Marriage inside out coz I feel like in dating is when we should look for other ways but sex to love each other and to connect while dating so we can understand if really we wanna be with this person for the long haul. Also, I feel like the reason why would move in with their partner before marriage is fear of commitment honestly and it stops you from growing all the way coz you have reservations what if we build together in this way only for them to want to marry the other person?

[@Daisy-Ke]

Murugi moving up and down on the seat explaining the wig lines point is everything for me. I'm laughing out loud

[@rosegichia700]

I moved in with my boo 5 months ago. We had a whole serious talk about finances, chores and all a whole month before committing. We are now planning our traditional wedding and I wouldn't change a thing. It all depends, you have to all be on the same page.

[@winniewangui9661]

I love this topic it's no informative, I'm in the move in what's up group, personally I did it intentionally, because I was once married to baby daddy, things didn't work, so I promised myself next time I'm in a serious relationship I'd rather live with a person first to know them well before making it official, if it doesn't work I move on swiftly. My opinion though.

[@evejojoh95]

I agree wth u gal

[@tabby_teacher]

I just hope Lydia moving in with Mike after just two months will not end in tears......I totally agree with Joan....no moving in before marriage

[@JK-ju8jl]

I love Lydia so much but i screamed shut up so many times .

[@xoxomacx2539]

It’s two months of official dating. They have been together for a minute.

[@priscillah4831]

Looks like you saw it coming, as it did end in tears.

[@tabby_teacher]

Lydia will find a better man who will love her 4 who she is .....

[@nginamutuku2680]

If they don't shout "i love you" in a conversation like Murugi leave😂

[@ruthbandele9737]

Love from Nigeria!!! Episode 10!💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

[@slymwende_17]

I Claim and receive Lydia's positive view and perceptive on things. So mature and self aware 😍

[@kevino3881]

When I grow up, I wanna be like Mike.....He got it good

[@wanjiru7419]

They just broke up about one month ago 🙄

[@kevino3881]

@@wanjiru7419 Whaaat????!????

[@wanjiru7419]

@@kevino3881 Yes kindly watch the latest tmi podcast 🥺sad I know

[@drvundi]

Google maps says I have 50 minutes to get home! How perfect!

[@justmyworld2542]

Lydia today kwani you don't fewww like🤣

[@terriwangui]

🤣🤣🤣

[@naomithuo6505]

Never do wife duties for girlfriend prices

[@rachellarry5803]

True

[@Blissfulbloombycate]

Facts

[@awinoshealtiel8403]

I'm in my early 20's and so armed more now that I've watched this episode. I'm that girl who has her own mind and does her own things and honestly I love this person because every single thing that has happened so far or that I've done is measured to my own standards . This pace is amaizing you guys.TMI❤️🔥

[@Essykiarieh]

This topic today really resonates with me at the moment, moved in with my boyfriend a couple of months ago. I can say we have had most of the discussions you guys are advocating for and I try as much as possible not to comfortably fit in the shoes of being a wife yet before he puts a ring on it. It was difficult at first but I can comfortably say at that state that Lyd I talking about. That aside I have learnt quite a lot more on this topic that I didn't know! It's defo TMI!

[@esthermumbi3598]

Murugi is such a shouter!! But we love you for that..

[@tracybaraza174]

I got almost all the questions right. Especially Murugi's.

[@mikegitau3252]

Once you move in together, that's a marriage before the actual marriage

[@mariemartin593]

I really love today's topic,av related with everything u've said,am approaching 3 months in a marriage and its really hectic dealing with my husband's irritating behaviors...I.e after oiling himself,he won't close the lotion bottle top,he would leave his wet towel on the couch,drawing maps there____av struggled with that but we are slowly overcoming it___I agree with murugi___alot of compromise is needed!

[@jacklinewairimu3204]

Ooooooh i feel u😂😂😂 lakini wacha nicheke tu

[@mariemartin593]

@@jacklinewairimu3204 Aki its not funny___if u ain't yet there,pray urs to be kinda perfect of which thats rare____but if u get exactly like mine____u'll give up in a week!

[@jacklinewairimu3204]

Am laughing bcz if i cry, it'll be for long. Ni kucompromise tu

[@mariemartin593]

@@jacklinewairimu3204 I get you now___sio rahisi___sometimes wat feels inside its like an active volcano,I just pray God for grace🙏___coz I really want this

[@mercywanja254]

The towel one..😂😂😂me too babe. even after 3 yrs of marriage 🤦

[@mimianslet2450]

I’m single but I enjoyed this episode

[@jenwm]

I love Lydia and I hope this works for her because men change. They are in the honeymoon stage

[@sharleenmagetto5051]

I don't think they change per se... I just think their real character comes to light. The mask eventually falls off

[@sheeba8334]

And so in marriages no blue print to this life

[@dr.ohuruc.1511]

Can we leave em wig lines out of this please 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂that killed me

[@lizz202]

Dont i just love this gal lydiah...she talks like her mum..

[@amandawambui8063]

Just found this channel and I love it here wow❤

[@wangarimwangi7395]

We cannot re-write the book. Marry them then, just learn while in there, why move in, why is the exit still open, jus saying. Good luck to y'all though.

[@sharleenmagetto5051]

Feels more so like experimenting with yourself which is unfortunate

[@Kakwasi]

Moving in is never a good thing for a woman. You will always get the short end of the stick. I know you're are too in love now but what's the future?

[@luzskin254]

Murugi looks extra beautiful without lashes she doesn't need them

[@boneyekagwe2091]

"short end of the stick" pause and say no pun intended.

[@mimaraha]

Joan seriouuuuusly, ati MAKE UP LAW!!Wehh, ile kichekoo nimechekaaa, wuuiiiii,just made my night

[@wanguigrace2957]

I am so relieved to know that am not the only one who is always ready to break things off with their man when there's a problem😂😂😂😂

[@itsme_Andi]

And then there are some of us who start to pull away when shit get serous because we fear losing our identity. 😂 😂. Ah. They should do an episode about self sabotaging if they haven't already

[@-sue-unwind]

Murugi looks so much like Mukeni here🥰

[@RosaliaShiweva]

Damn I am just here to learn... about everything other women are doing. This is really. Preparation for my next big thing.

[@tricialiakamula8532]

Me too

[@doreenk.arinawe]

i follow Joan too much that i knew all answers to her questions.

[@njokigithua376]

me to sis, me too🤣🤣🤣

[@cynthiachepkurui6174]

Good job murugi munyi and Lydia km keep enlightening us

[@berraineortiz]

wow am not married but am learning a lot you guys are awesome

[@olphaonsare6030]

How composed Lydia is👌👌

[@silverwanjira]

I'm a single mom now but av been in a come we stay rship. And guys why didn't you tell me,lol..men can be chameleons. Damn..I'm done. This guy expects me to prove for him coz apparently I'm "lucky " to have him.he claimed

[@hyllarisymon5511]

hahahaaaa men chameleon

[@lorrecco]

Never forget that you are the prize

[@jacklinewairimu3204]

Eeeew ati lucky to have him..

[@Qoieli]

swipe left gal... run

[@sharleenmagetto5051]

That's narcissistic behavior...if he is so full of himself let him marry himself then

[@ruthkiruki7333]

Living with someone feels like increasing the level of intimacy that you share with that person. IMHO, it should be done the right way and what feels natural to you! Just cause you had a baby or rent will be cheaper is not enough justification.

[@SafariByHal]

hahahaah!!!! I won this game more on Murugi.. Lydia I need to be intentional with you.. I love you ladies

[@WanguiGathogo]

Pause for heartbreak took me out. Aaaaah, 😂😅😂😅😂😆

[@sandiekiggz1237]

😂😂😂😂

[@tinamuchai]

🤣me and Lydia same WhatsApp group I moved in with my guy 2months after we met

[@nic9416]

I think I'm a non living thing cause all living organisms are In bed but here I am watching TMI podcast at 3 am 😂😂😂😂

[@favourmuchai5811]

If there's also half a mark Lyd needs to get the half for USIU university that Jo attended 😩😩 much love ladies ❤️

[@feliciaayiecha970]

Aaahhh!! Happily an Inbetweener! 🤗❤️

[@annwambui5310]

I am loving this discussion.Much love

[@rispermacharia7291]

Such a therapeutic duo

[@faithnjoki1471]

My opinion, moving in is always a disaster. Last year my ex moved in with me because his baby mama could not stand his ass. First mistake, moving in with someone with baggage, he came with so much entitlement. He avoided all these conversations even about money, who was to do what. Needless to say he wanted a good life he wasn't contributing to. I have an 8-5 job and I would come home and he wants to eat chicken. Chicken he has neither bought nor cooked. You ask him to do dishes he says even his mum knows he doesn't like to do dishes, he won't do laundry either neither will he pay someone to do it. Ni kukula na kulala na vybes. He was a lab tech so in between the week he would have at least two off days but I will come home to a dirty house and no effort. Wueh taking in a stray is difficult and men can be immature. I'm with Murugi on this one. Lydia I love you to bits.

[@angela_TV01]

Thank you for this topic I enjoyed it❤️🇦🇺

[@judithbosibori5628]

this was amazing and this 2 pple are actually my friends I got more than both of them good talk guys

[@doreensheila5349]

Day one n I love your content,,, ❤️❤️

[@juliejewel3374]

I want to say the truth but🤐🤐….Murugi Munyi,Thank you.you understand “kwa ground” vile kunaenda.i will wait…

[@sophiegathio4566]

Yes ..I was right on JO's favorite color...ORANGE 🧡

[@khatunyishidambasi5220]

Forgive me but two months you don't even know that man. Trust me! Girl you are just in love. Honeymoon face.

[@stellajillan]

Wueeeeeh you ladies are really educating me❤️💖💖💖❤️💕

[@missfuraha]

Great episode as usual, I conquer with all the points and learnt alot too👌

[@Muthonimwai]

Always informing us girls this conversation was 💯needed in my life,you tackle the topic so well and deep ❤️

[@edithwangui2750]

Amazing tips, taking notes

[@iameloho718]

Where are u ladies from 😍😍

[@jaelmemo7479]

Kenya❤

[@ThePatriciaPatrick]

You guys speak so much truth❤️❤️❤️

[@annexismuriu]

Great topic loved it. The awarding of marks was unfair though. Lydia should have got half a point too for getting one Uni right 😂😂

[@nemsywanjiru1401]

Loving this 👌

[@constancemutua1070]

Turns out i know Joan better than Lyd does. 🤗🤗🤗 I was like easy peasy...

[@Michelle-me6sg]

Great content!!!

[@maryzawadi4226]

Damn why am I looking forward to these episodes.. They are so addictive and eye opening wah!

[@deeteatime1821]

Much needed conversation.

[@njerikimani648]

We're here for more teaaa😍😍❤💫 Its definitely TMI💖

[@SafariByHal]

University of Cape Town!!!

[@ascarakinyi]

Thee best just subscribed

[@alice_wahito]

Premier gang 🤩🤩🤩

[@karennyongesa7006]

Right on time!😇

[@sonniecharity2353]

I got all of joan's answers🤣♥️

[@becomingaisha]

Okay content 🥂

[@sharonshisia1943]

Eish am loving this already

[@hafsayussuf8291]

I just love you two❤

[@nassuunadalphine7713]

Murugi looking like mukeni here

[@hayaashraf3404]

And now lydia and mike broke up :/

[@faithwangeci2519]

I come here with a book and a pen

[@zamzamtoo9126]

This is a very good conversation