TMS - How To Feel Your Emotions to End Pain

I often get the question...how am I supposed to feel my emotions. Or, how do I feel my emotions when I am surrounded by people. I can't yell at them or cry in front of everyone all the time. What do I do? Tough questions, but I try to tackle them here.

[@beachknc218]

This is the most important lesson to get rid of TMS pain and symptoms. Gotta FEEL those undesirable, uncomfortable emotions and PROVE TO YOUR BRAIN/MIND that IT’S OKAY. THAT YOU ARE SAFE! Thank you Dan for reminding us.

[@PainFreeYou]

Absolutely.

[@cdracos1]

A week ago I decided i was going to wake in the morning and connect with my emotions in hope that I would have just one pain free day. I felt myself waking up and while I was in a relaxed dazed state, I began to remember old sad memories to the point where I could actual feel the sadness. I stayed with the sadness for 30 seconds or so and thought to myself " OK I feel you , you don't seem to be moving on, so I guess its time for me to get of bed". I kid you not guys, the second I sat up in bed I physically felt those sad emotions rush down my body , straight into my lower back and translate itself into the actual pain I've been dealing with !!!. I was very disheartened that this practice had actually put me in so much pain this early in the day . However it did something so much more important for me, it absolutely with out a doubt proved to me that my pain was emotional pain translated into physical pain !. And it was pretty fascinating and cool how it was able to start as images then feelings then catch the elevator straight to my back. I actually manifested it my self. This experience was the turning point for me. Its been 2 weeks since discovering Dan and tms, I'm doing much better.

[@PainFreeYou]

Good stuff Chris. Yes, when we connect the dots like this, it's so much easier to lose the fear because we can see clearly that it is emotions. No need to be afraid. Feel emotions, soothe yourself, be indifferent to the pain. Live your life. that's the recipe.

[@pattyboucetta1897]

cdracos1 Wow!

[@kerribachand253]

I have felt this before too--what changed for you, moving forward from that negative experience to doing better now? Was it just staying with the sadness as long as you needed to vs as long as you wanted to?

[@lisabignell1234]

@@kerribachand253 Yes I would like to know the same!!

[@lisabignell1234]

@@PainFreeYou Hi there, do you have an e-mail address so I can ask a specific personal question related to this topic? I promise it will just be one e-mail because I already see a trauma therapist but am still in spite of that, really struggling in this area where the emotion is perpetually stuck inside. The grief. It doesn't leave no matter how much I let myself feel it.

[@reinab8168]

I honestly forgot my father used to be abusive and angry until you said the word dad! I have alot of ptsd and am a recovering addict who is trying to deal with my repressed memories and experiences. I am so glad I found this video.

[@lewbiedoobie]

Good advice. Keep it up. I’m a 60 year old male and I seem to resonate better hearing this sort of advice from a male perspective. Father committed suicide and died in front of me when I was 17. I did the opposite of what you describe for decades and paid the price in anxiety, depression, career, lost relationships and other ways. Wish I had heard someone like you 43 years ago!! Thank you.

[@PainFreeYou]

Sorry about your loss. Tough stuff. Never too late to turn things around.

[@momof3498]

Oh my this is exactly what I needed to hear!!! I love your videos. As a homeschooling mama of 3 kids the stress can get high 😂. And at times I wondered if I would have to put them in school in order to heal ( which I don’t want to!!) everyone says keep stress low so you can heal and it felt like there was a missing piece for me. I do try really hard to keep stress low for what I am control. I’ve just started teaching my kids how it’s ok to have ALL the emotions and even mommy lays down on the kitchen floor to get some good deep breathes and ground 😂. You are such a blessing. I can’t thank you enough for all your videos

[@charlottewilliams7866]

I am grateful to hear a man describe this topic and process. I am a mother of three adults. My youngest son has had strange gut issues and now back pain issues. Colonoscopy and MRI both say there is no pathology. I have to wonder if those issues are due to repressed emotions. As his big sister says, "X is so nice all the time it's no wonder he's sick! He never gets angry with anyone no matter what they do!" I'll share this video with him as well as a Dr. John Sarno video and one from The Crappy Childhood Fairy about her Daily Practice. I am grateful for each of you!

[@LucaAnamaria]

Thank you so much for emphasizing that emotions are a private affair that we have every right to feel--that we don't have to act on them immediately or all the time. And thank you for the reassurance that we don't have to flip our lives upside down in some dramatic fashion to honour our feelings. Part of what was stressing me out was the thought that if I felt everything, I'd have to act on everything and make huge changes across the board in order to stay in integrity with myself. It's good to remember that I'm only human and I can take my time implementing so that I'm not overwhelmed. I can even take my time feeling, as long as I'm not running away and stuffing down my emotions.

[@PainFreeYou]

Emotions are a normal part of life and not something we need to stop or avoid at all costs. Feel them so they can pass. We don't have to lock them up or share them vigorously with those around us.

[@ETallent]

"It's ok, Dan, you're safe...but use your name. Not mine." I was listening so intently to you, and didn't even realize it until you said that. Burst out laughing, and tried not to wake up the family....yikes! :) These are excellent tips. Thank you so much for taking the time to make these videos. I appreciate the comprehensive help over a wide range of topics. It's a little overwhelming at first...these videos help make things more understandable. I find that I am able to digest so much information much better in smaller bites. Excellent resource.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks for taking the time to give me your feedback on this and my other videos too. Thrilled that I'm able to provide some help to others that I wish I had 20 years ago when I was deep into my journey with chronic back pain.

[@SteveParrish]

However, if your name is Dan, proceed as directed! 😆

[@imachristian5064]

God loves you so much that He sent His only begotten Son to die on the cross for our sins(John 3:16). It may be hard for you to believe, but He actually came for us! If you ever feel down or sad and feel like none of your teachings are working, please pray to God: The God of Abraham, The God of Issac, and The God of Jacob. I am sure He will fill you with His peace and give you all you need!

[@ellynhernandez6026]

Same E I did the same lol 😂 I started laughing as well

[@LL-pk2uu]

Yup, I calked myself “Dan,” too-lol😂!!!

[@risshuudale2018]

Thank you for this. I have been trying to feel my emotions but until I watched this video I was trying to figure them out mentally; justify and rationalise them. But after watching this and spending some time being aware of my sensations; I feel a deep hollowness in my chest. And I realise that I am sad, really sad. This is a breakthrough for me.

[@PainFreeYou]

Fantastic. Glad this helped.

[@SunnyBunney]

I go to therapy once a week and really all I needed to hear was this! Thanks Dan ♥️ 🙏

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad you found this helpful.

[@TOSUnbound]

That was so weird. I yawned when I started trying to feel my emotions before you even said you might yawn or get tired as a defense mechanism. The mind is so powerful.

[@PainFreeYou]

That's wild!

[@inge1095]

Hi Dan, it is Inge from Holland. Recently did the paint test. Scored 50. I am trying to feel for about 2 weeks now. It is hard. Your film of today abortus feeling your emotions really helped me. Feeling safe. Not thinking. I started feeling warm, Hot lava inside, mu stomach had a stone Ball. All of a sudder I started stamping my feet and pushing, boxing with my arms. Go away, all you People who told me I am not good enough, ding things wrong, never answered back to them. My stomach is softer now, feeling tired, tears, enige for now. Listened again to this video, really clear,. Thank you so much. Inge Kotterman

[@PainFreeYou]

You are very welcome. I'm thrilled my videos are providing you help.

[@diggerdiggy33]

I suddenly get it. Really good explanation, thanks

[@margaret1054]

I've just discovered the TMS concept recently, having read a couple of John Sarno's books. Your video has been so insightful, particularly in clarifying the difference between 'feeling' and 'expressing' your emotions. I have had a very painful realisation today, triggered by a certain person - and my first thought was that I should 'have it out' with him - not something I was looking forward to doing. Your explanation has made me realise I don't need to do that, but more to acknowlege the presence of the feelings to myself. Thank you. I look forward to watching more of your vidoes.

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome - really glad you found my videos. I have a facebook group too called Pain Free You. Come join our community!

[@margaret1054]

Will do..thank you!

[@davidalanglaser]

Sarno said that feeling the emotion isn't as important as knowing it's the cause. He made the analogy of a covert operation who's cover is blown. I tell my brain that I know what it's doing and I'm not gonna fall for this. I fight my brain tooth and nail. I still have my bouts with back pain, but thanks to Dr. Sarno, they are no longer lengthy and debilitating.

[@PainFreeYou]

That's awesome. Thank you for sharing this often forgotten nugget. Brilliant.

[@chrisnewton2325]

I've had 4 years of constant bizzare anxiety and pain symptoms all unexplained. My worst is 24/7 blurred vision which came out of nowhere. Even though I suffer daily I feel hope listening to you and I feel stronger already and have hope that my pain and vision will return to normal one day so thankyou

[@caymanKR]

try taking zinc or a food supplement with algae oil, which contains dha. at the same time, avoid gluten from wheat, spelt, barley, rye, etc.

[@Brandi.731]

I feel like I need to listen to this every single day, maybe multiple times a day, lol- to fully let it absorb into my subconscious so doing this just happens naturally! Very good advice. Thank you 💕

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful!

[@PainFreeYou]

Check out my fast start playlist too: DansFastStart.com

[@Americancadet]

I don’t know if you see posts to videos this old. This seems like the most important information about TMS resolution. Thank you for this material.

[@PainFreeYou]

You are welcome!

[@arianarubytemple6008]

I have just discovered your channel. This is my first video. As someone who had been suffering with fibromyalgia I am going to try this. I know I have decades of suppressed emotions inside from a childhood of emotional abuse. I am subscribing !!!

[@PainFreeYou]

Welcome Ariana. This one video encapsulates the core concepts I teach over and over. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo If you are unsure what TMS is or how the mind can create symptoms labeled as Fibro, watch this video at: PainFreeYou.com Lastly, if you want to determine if your symptoms are TMS / Mindbody created, take the pain test at: DanBuglio.com/paintest

[@hhhunt777]

listened to this twice. makes so much sense! At 67, stuff has happened --sad about angry about, etc. Can't change the past. But do need to acknowledge the hurt.

[@PainFreeYou]

Feeling emotions is just one part of the equation. My full set of suggestions are in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo

[@Jessica.Souths]

And I honestly feel - I'm very spriritual and deep into meditation and inner healing, but since finding you and Dr. Sarno and really going into my feelings and giving them space, acceptance, my presence and awareness - that every time I feel my feelings it's like they configurate something small within me. That they rearrange my setting equipment in some small way to better be able to handle the situation and not just be stuck and feel helpless and hopeless. They truly are messages and friends helping me evolve. So yes you have to go through the emotions to get the updated software 😉 Even though it can feel overwhelming and scary some times. Life is just so fascinating. Grateful for your work.

[@loriewert5267]

I am so grateful to you Dan! Keep it up please! I could listen to you for hours on end. I started doing this approach about six months ago but would end up stopping. I seriously started back on it only about 5 weeks ago. I see now some things I wasn’t comprehending before, but I am now, thanks to your easy explanations on it all. It seems everywhere I went, trying to get help with this TMS stuff, was costing me money that I don’t have. You are easy on the pocketbook, and may I add, not so bad on the eyes either! Lol. God bless you!

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you for the kind words. I plan to keep going with the daily videos. At some point I will have a full online course and membership support area to give people additional help if they wish. But the daily videos will continue for the foreseeable future.

[@Bcke14304]

I agree, Lorie, on the financial expense for therapy, doctors, etc. I know this is an old comment from 4yrs ago, but I just discovered Dan a couple weeks ago (2024:). I’ve been spending $500-$700/mo with a trauma-informed therapist, EMDR, neurofeedback. As much as she has helped me, we can’t sustain that expense. Just decided yesterday to quit the therapy and go full time pursuing TMS concepts & mindset. Even if I join Dan’s PFY group coaching, $100/mo is a STEAL! ☺️

[@mark5368]

Hey Dan. I get so confused my the complexity of this process. I lack an imagination which make it difficult to pretend or fake my feelings. Today I took your advice and start to resume activities that I haven’t done in over a year, wash the car. Wow, I was so dizzy. I took a two mile walk, which I do every day but trying to fake or pretend the spinning wasn’t happening failed. It just fed my anxiety. I feel unqualified to fix my issues. It’s easy for me to understand the will to live issues many people have. My anxiety will be my undoing. It’s so powerful.

[@PainFreeYou]

I have never encouraged anyone to fake emotions or make believe symptoms are not there. This video is over 4 years old. For an update on my concepts, watch my fast start playlist. DansfastStart.com - watch, take notes, implement, repeat until well. That's the roadmap.

[@mark5368]

Wow, you are organized. I will do what you recommend. Thanks for not giving up on us tough cases.

[@michaeldave1239]

This is truly an OUTSTANDING video Dan and I do not say so lightly. I have been through therapy and one of the best counsellors was a group counsellor who repeatedly tried to tell me this: "Feel your emotions. Say to yourself - I know what I know and I feel what I feel." He said further to distinguish between mental states and emotions when he asked how I was feeling and I said I was confused. He said "Confusion is a mental state. Emotions are not mental states. Joy, excitement, sadness, rage, anger, irritation, anxiety, fear - those are emotions. Don't think about what you're feeling. Feel it. Let yourself feel what you're feeling." Its been many years and I haven't learned from his advice so I'm glad I got the same lesson from you! Very helpful! Please continue making these videos and continue to be open and frank like this. Its a rare delight to find people who have the courage to be honest, open and real.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you Michael. I post a new video every single day. DansKZbin.com

[@dashhound4770]

Dan is my hero ❤ he has got me through some of my worse days

[@PainFreeYou]

Thrilled to be able to help.

[@larryc1964]

Dan, thanks for the insight from a guy that was down a lot longer than me. I’ve been basically in bed in groin and hip pain for almost 3 years and I thought I was bad. I just realized I’m dealing with TMS lately after an aquaintance told me to look into TMS. This after lots of doctors and imaging that showed nothing. Your manner is soothing and is helping me so far. Thanks much

[@PainFreeYou]

Very cool. Glad you found the videos. If you understand TMS and accept that your pain is from TMS - then there are really two things left to do. Feel your emotions and get your mindset right. Here's a review of TMS processes: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pWGnhGqBZa5-hdU And here are two videos specifically about mindset. This should hit the main points: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p4LQh6WmdsqJaMk kzbin.info/www/bejne/aoKofqWrnZ5-a5I Dig in. You are on the right track and can get better much faster than you realize.

[@WildWave]

How are you now ?

[@larryc1964]

Wild Wave ha , I’m actually still disabled.

[@SquareEarth1]

@@larryc1964 Hi Larry, sorry to hear your pain is this bad. My wife suffers TMS (still a long way to go), but she ended up in a wheelchair for a few months as the pain was too much to walk. Scans, doctors etc found nothing. She then started believing that the pain was emotional (after reading a Dr Sarno book and learning about tms) and forced herself to walk. A few steps at first and gradually got walking again. However, the pain is now everywhere else in the body. Still functioning though. I highly recommend reading Dr Sarno books, or Steve Ozanich and even Nicole Sachs on KZbin. You need to believe 100% that there is nothing wrong with your body. You may need psychotherapy, especially if there is an unresolved sub-conscious emotional issue. A lot of childhood trauma can affect you later in life. Good luck to you.

[@Shavakti]

Hi Dan, this video was so helpful to me. Your explanation was brilliant. see what emotions I have been repressing now. Thank you!

[@PainFreeYou]

You're so welcome!

[@birdienumnums1]

I felt tearful ... its great that its this simple.

[@lsh-zi2lc]

Thank you so very much for this, Dan! I finally get it....Give myself permission to feel the emotions....In my 61 years I had become a master at suppressing my emotions learned in early childhood. It's so automatic I don't know i'm doing it. Great insight, thank you again!

[@PainFreeYou]

You are very welcome!

[@unityconscious]

Dan, thankyou, the word "humble" means, having or showing a low estimate of ones own importance. Not so...... Honoured is more like it Dan, you're good at these explanations, demistifying both Dr.Sarno and Dr.Schubiner, and a host of other concepts. Thanx again.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you very much.

[@skaa456]

Your explanation about feeling your emotions is the first time this has made sense to me. Thank you.

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome.

[@jknell5031]

Months ago I was doing Silva's Mind Control for a childhood PTSD. I was counting down slowly from 100 to 0. I couldn't believe how relaxed I'd get. I've been a knot of tension most of my life. One day the countdown felt so good I speed-walked for over 1 1/2 hr and even felt good the next day. As I counted I would also cry, shake my hands, even laugh. But 3 days later after counting I got up and fell against the wall. I wondered if I had a stroke because I was RELAXED from my head to my waist. I was shocked and confused. When I closed my eyes I saw a horror show of images beyond my control and ended up in the psych ward for 2 days. 2 months later, I found Sarno's "The Mindbody Prescription" I had lost years ago and began to address all that tension that has been freeloading on my psyche. By the time I got through the introduction I wondered would I need to read more. Good Luck to All with this. BTW, YT has many amygdala relaxing audios that seem to address unconscious fears.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@betsaification]

At the right time for me to hear this video Dan you rock 🎸 ❤️ Thanks 🙏🏽 😊

[@luisqsk]

I've been secluded in my house for 31 months releasing my extreme emotions. Thank god for my parents. Emotions don't stop comming out from me. I reccomend you start now if you wanna live life to the fullest.

[@PainFreeYou]

Have you determined the cause of your symptoms? If you'd like to understand my take on how pain or chronic symptoms start and become chronic, watch the video at PainFreeYou.com and then download the free self assessment to see if your situation falls in line with this mindbody / stress illness reason for symptoms.

[@suzanneshephard2743]

This is the best and most accessible video on feeling one's feelings, that I have seen. Thank you!!

[@ellynhernandez6026]

Dan I’m so tired of this pain 7 months with this pain it’s So hard, thank you for this video

[@PainFreeYou]

I'm sorry you are struggling. If you haven't yet spent time on my getting started page, please do. It walks you through what causes pain, how to see if these concepts apply to you and a path forward. www.PainFreeYou.com/start

[@eliseg1574]

This is about the 15th video I've watched tonight, trying to let myself cry over recent trauma that I know I haven't let myself feel enough. This is the first one that sort of worked. The part about not "thinking through it" really shifted something for me. Thank you for being a stepping stone on this path for me.

[@PainFreeYou]

Really glad this is helpful for you. :-)

[@faithnorks]

I love listening to you Dan. You are calm, wise and explain it in simple languagge.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you Susanna.

[@sharongonzales-wq1qt]

OMG😊. I had just watched your other video yesterday about pain and emotions. And I meant to ask you how do you feel your emotions and then this morning I woke up and here was your video. Ha ha Thank you thank you thank you you’re such a down to earth Teacher and I’m going to practice feeling my emotions. I’m one of those people that look up to think about it. I thought I was feeling all the feels before but obviously not since I do have a lot of pain. It makes it more challenging to do my work as a body worker. Thank you, thank you, Dan! 🙌🏻✨😮🙏🏻

[@PainFreeYou]

Understand about being a body worker. You ARE in the right place.

[@susanagamez-morris3597]

I’m in the middle of Dr Johns book. It’s been a revelation. I don’t really suffer with much backpain, but I have pain in various parts of my body, and I’m going to apply what I’m learning to deal with my emotional pain throughout my body. It’s a whole new way, of looking at yourself, looking at your pain and looking at your emotions. If I can address Repressed emotions, that will be a major thing for me. I found Your video thought-provoking, and I will continue to apply myself in this new way. Thank you.😊

[@PainFreeYou]

The way out is mapped out in this video:kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo

[@JacquelineWadsworth]

Absolutely resonated! Thank you 🙏

[@saralawlor780]

Very very helpful and easy to listen to, thank you. 🙏

[@amiradancer3846]

Thank you Dan for showing so much compassion for all of us.❤️ Just listening to this video, allows me to access my emotions. "Make friends with your emotions". and the idea of "giving a hug" to our emotions is so so great!. I have the "you're tired take a nap" brain thing, and now each time it happens, I sit with myself for some time, and I ask myself "what do I feel", and whatever comes up I say "welcome to you". It does not always appear as an emotion, but often as a sensation in my belly, and I stay with it as much as needed. I do this everyday, not resisting what is happening. And not taking a nap, is like a big victory for me. Bless you.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you. Thrilled at your victories. More to come. Keep at it.

[@michaeldave1239]

@amiradanceer3846, I got this idea of making friends with your emotions from a Buddhist teacher too. Apparently, this is a standard concept in Buddhist thinking i.e. to actively WELCOME all thoughts and emotions that come to you without judgment. An example is suppose you feel a sudden craving to have your favorite ice cream while you're on a diet. Instead of judging it as a bad emotion that you must resist, welcome it by recognizing it. Say "Ah, I want salt-caramel ice cream because I love the way it feels in my mouth! I am salivating already. I love the milky texture, the contrast of salt and sweet taste, the cool and buttery feeling it brings. Thanks tasting mind for reminding me!". Notice this doesn't mean you run out and get ice cream but simply acknowledge the presence of the sensation and how it makes you feel. You're already half way there to not let your emotions dominate you!

[@fathimohamed9322]

I have been searching for a such content for a longtime , this is very beneficial thank you 🙏

[@PainFreeYou]

You are welcome.

[@goldysandhu5288]

I have found this method alot helpful i was having pain yesterday and within couple of minutes i was relieved when i felt and acknowledged that feeling of sadness and i start crying i am really grateful to you cheers

[@PainFreeYou]

Cheers!!

[@sajidaprescott4000]

i agree. when there is pain identifying the emotion that is stuck in the body gives a sense of relief. its like the pain is satisfied with my effort and it can relax a bit.

[@davidless57]

Dan I stumbled upon your KZbin channel today, what a difference it made me feel listening to you! I feel my self again, no pain today, no depression, or fear or the feeling of being broken, I finally felt myself again after many weeks of discomfort. I actually went cycling which I’ve been fearful to do. I knew my two choices were the Sarno principles (again after a successful recovery from back pain 10 years ago) or PT and stretches which I’ve been doing without much improvement. I will listen to your coaching everyday and go back to my excersizing on a daily basis, maybe no cycle racing yet, lol When this pain came on suddenly 8 months ago I started re reading the Sarno books, but your youtube coaching is much better and realy hits the ball home imo, I know I will have some tough days ahead but tms is the only thing that makes sense and now I have your coaching as a great tool. Thanks again !

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful David. Watch my playlist to get a deeper understanding of what is going on and what to do about it. kzbin.info/aero/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H

[@williamscattin588]

I could only listen to the first ten minutes because my mind activates a very strong resistance. There is also a huge internal conflict between the very high desire to feel my emotions and the very high fear to feel them. So the best I could do this time was concentrating ten minutes upon your communication. I appreciate your explanations and the fact you are encouraging because it is something very hard for me, to connect to my emotions. I realized that for decades a super strong mechanism has been created in my mind in order to repress the presumed painful emotions, well even the not really painful ones too, and to distanciate myself from them - I mean, little by little through years and decades, to feel less and less emotions - that is to say to build a very thick"carapace" (is it the same word in English?), well the thick mobile home that the turtle wears all the time.

[@PainFreeYou]

Despite what this 4 yr old video says - feeling emotions is only ONE part of recovery. Since perceived danger creates symptoms, teaching the brain we are safe is the solution. My fast start playlist is a literal course on what's going on and what to do about it. DansFastStart.com

[@baljinderbhopal9035]

Thanks for this and please carry on doing videos. Doing the work on my TMS I sense more and more the body= emotion response to my subconscious. I am so used to stepping over stuff in order to survive. Welcoming all the emotions I smothered as a kid as guests is a great suggestion.

[@PainFreeYou]

The plan is to keep on doing daily videos. I've been at it since March 26th. Haven't missed a day yet.

[@2rhythms]

I agree.. to some of us trying to feel feelings can be quite confusing because we are so not used to just feel.

[@noonespecial4171]

Thank you. In Buddhism we are encouraged to 'have tea with Mara' - Mara being delusion, anger and greed, to not fight but accept this visitor and be curious about what message is there, what the belief is etc 🙏

[@TrueLoveLovesAll]

Wonderful :) Christianity teaches that we don't only need to forgive ourselves, but we need to be forgiven by God as well. I know Guatama Buddha ignored the Gods, but do you feel the same? What do you think about heaven, do you think humans build heaven?

[@ChrisSaenz13]

Thank you this is very helpful! I needed the reminder that the emotion is detected best by feeling vs thinking!!

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad it was helpful!

[@sunshinencoastlines]

Came back around to watch this one again. ❤️ Thank you for all you do!

[@PainFreeYou]

Welcome back!

[@BrookedeRosa]

Revisiting today. Great video

[@jannekeboer8514]

Thank you very much for this explanation. I think I have always put my emotions in the cellar. Thank you for this. I do understand better now that I must allow them in my house Love you Dan. Janneke from Netherland

[@PainFreeYou]

You can do this. kzbin.info/www/bejne/pZPQen-lZ7NrsLc

[@johnt890]

Thank you. Have read Sarno’s books and just finished The Great Pain Deception today. Then found this video. Back pain and calf keeps going numb.This was very helpful. Will also watch the videos you recommended below.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks for the kind words. Take a look at all the videos. I've got hundreds. kzbin.infovideos

[@pattyboucetta1897]

BlueDog, same pain and numbness in calf. Doing the work with Dan’s videos. Taking one day at a time.

[@ShiningAchilles]

Hi Dan I'm new to your channel but ive long suffered with nocturia. I followed along in your video and i went from stomache turning tight pelvic muscles and fatigued to back to a state of calm. It's high time I practice this more. Thank you for the video!

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful! Feel free to check out my fast start playlist for a deep dive on how things work and more importantly, what to do about it. kzbin.info/aero/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H

[@ShiningAchilles]

​@@PainFreeYouDefinitely, will do! Thank you so much for the resources :)

[@christieharrison560]

This was an extremely useful video Dan. I was not told about the difference between feeling your emotions and expressing your emotions so now this makes so much sense. I thought they were the same thing so I just didn't get how you could do that on a daily basis. I am going to make a point of checking in with myself and trying to see what's going on for me with my emotions moving forward. Thanks again Dan for putting together another HUGE piece of the TMS jigsaw puzzle!

[@PainFreeYou]

Fantastic.

[@sajidaprescott4000]

thank you so much. this is the most helpful instruction of how to manage emotions that i have heard yet.

[@PainFreeYou]

You're so welcome!

[@carissa5575]

thank you so much for explaining this. I really didn’t understand how to feel my emotions until now. ♥️

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Laur2727]

I just want to express gratitude to you for doing this. The curable app & your positivity & calm nature has really been helping me. Thank you!!

[@PainFreeYou]

Wow, thank you!

[@mariachiblues]

ive repressed my emotions for so long thru various behaviors, sex, food, retail therapy, sex, sex, sex, that now that I'm trying to learn to feel them I don;t even know how to start, this is helpful, thank you, but its hard when on medication, when medicated you tend to feel little but the sweet relief of the norcos kissing your brain

[@PainFreeYou]

For some, medications help greatly, others not so much. But they can make us feel less emotions. The good news is that "feeling our emotions" is just one of several things to do in order to end our symptoms or pains. My suggestions are summarized in this one video. Get as many of these concepts dialed in and integrated into your life as possible and you should begin seeing relief and then full recovery. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo

[@melherron1]

This information is SO HELPFUL for me! I even enjoyed the tone and energy in your voice. Thank you.

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad it was helpful!

[@dkaur454]

Sir make the videos on how to deal with the pain when it started during physical activities time? Or when you overthinking, negative thoughts. Or whenever someone tease you , insulted you 😢

[@PainFreeYou]

The solution is all the same for your scenarios. SAFETY is the solution. DansFastStart.com will explain what is going on and what to do.

[@dkaur454]

@@PainFreeYou thank you for the reply all the time and all your videos

[@ziggy33399]

Yes, this was a good talk. (For me). I was told by my doctor that Ketamine wasn’t covered by any insurance. It’s $450 and MUST be given over the entire course of treatments. The doctor suggested TMS instead. He sited it was cheaper, and pushed me toward it for insurance purposes. I’d like the KETAMINE because I took what was called “magic mushrooms” 🍄 back in 1972 and it was very helpful to me then. It worked magic and I felt so very calmed and centered after wards, when I had was given to me by real Indians, unprocessed and difficult to eat (although I rolled up a “family” of them in a tortilla, poured Leche on them to help with the taste …) eventually I vomited and off to the experience I went. Granted, I was outside so the experience was not inhibited, but if I’d died then I knew I’d lived a full life. I want that kind of boost now. On perhaps, a smaller scale. ❤it’s my entire bucket list. 😂

[@PainFreeYou]

I cannot speak to ketamine or mushrooms, but the work I teach helps people get rid of all sorts of pains, symptoms and even mental health challenges. My fast start playlist will help. DansFastStart.com

[@tuulafai4046]

I do this type of work with Jake White who does somatic experiencing but more like the Peter Levine healing ❤ trauma work - it’s so helpful to pause and feel our emotions when they come up throughout the day

[@PainFreeYou]

Very nice.

[@julieairdlifecoaching]

Brilliant video!

[@nfernandez11163]

Dan, this information is incredibly valuable and useful to me. I have meditation for at least 2 years now and some of the practices touch upon this. My issue is pelvic pain and I have learned that if someone or something is the trigger for my symptoms I get physically away from the person or thing. I will actually tell the person, doesn't matter who it is why I am separating myself from them for the time being. If it's one of my dogs I put him in another apartment where my partner's office is until I feel better. I also ordered one of Dr. Sarno's books and look forward to reading it and listening to all of your videos. God bless you.

[@PainFreeYou]

Teaching ourselves that the people are not truly dangerous and do not need to create symptoms is the way forward.

[@murrij]

This is SO me. I'll do it tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes. No more though. Thank you Dan.

[@luisqsk]

If you can leave emotions unfelt for tomorrow, you are not enough in pain. Just know one day your body will not give you an alternative.

[@jillc7692]

Just stumbled upon your video. I subscribed you have a great delivery and humanness. Can’t wait to look at your other videos. Thank you

[@PainFreeYou]

Welcome aboard! Focus on the most recent videos to get my latest ideas and suggestions. kzbin.infovideos

[@sveeny]

This is one of my favourite videos from you. I combined this knowledge with the "which specific emotion is causing my pain" but still am not 100% sure about one thing: Can I just sit and feel/acknowledge random emotions that might come up (even though you don't know why they come up or what they're related to) or do I have to go through my entire past and try to detect what emotions arise if I think of specific events, relationships, people, etc.? Because that's so damn difficult for me. I have a really bad memory when it comes to such things and its almost impossible for that reason even though I tried countless times.

[@PainFreeYou]

Recovery is not just about emotions. No analysis is needed. kzbin.info/www/bejne/fKrcgpuCf8ucbrM Recovery is all about safety and recovery from fear. kzbin.info/www/bejne/jITQhZhur7WLnpI kzbin.info/www/bejne/e6ucdq1qbrJrf8k kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4TWfKF3nKappLs

[@wmurthy]

Dan - I was watching this today and an interesting revelation about myself struck me. I realize that I have a tendency to distract myself by repeatedly checking the cell phone. In this age of smart phone addiction, unconsciously we may be using the cell phone to divert ourselves from being present in the moment

[@PainFreeYou]

Cell phone addiction is a HUGE distractor. For me too. Great topic idea.

[@elpresidente1158]

@@PainFreeYou This is one of, if not the biggest distraction I’ve been facing till date. Please Dan, is there anywhere you addressed it already? I’ll be glad to be redirected there so I could find tips to help withdraw

[@PainFreeYou]

@@elpresidente1158 I have not tackled the cell phone addiction topic yet. Two things - awareness and a decision to put it down or turn it off. It doesn't need to be any more complicated than that.

[@YungDreezy]

Just read the book 'Running on Empty' and I'm trying to do the 'get in touch with your feelings' exercises. Stumbled across your video because I was 'in my head' as you described here: what am I feeling? Well, nothing. I do feel a pulsating sensation in my stomach, which I noticed before when trying to do meditations. My mind is a master in distracting me, sometimes I think: how the hell did this thought pop up? Completely random thoughts! At some point, I felt a slight tingling sensation in my stomach and feet and the pulsating went on at different rhytms. I think it's a skill that I need to develop indeed, I will not give up, I feel like this is key. Thanks for the information!

[@noonespecial4171]

As a child I was not allowed to have my emotions that required parents to spend time with me to hug and soothe but they were always there to yell and hit. It's rough and always begins with the guts, I feel sick then all these old memories come up. You are correct that I have tried to think my way out, not feel and that makes the body feel worse.

[@voidheir9793]

Thank you so much Dan, I'm probably going to listen to all of your videos. I just discovered u yesterday and u already helped me alot I'd say. Thank you again.

[@PainFreeYou]

There's an awful lot of videos. If you want the fast track, I have an online course that puts all my recommendations into a 15 video course that comes bundled with weekly group coaching and support calls. PainFreeYou.com/join for details.

[@brittanythomson5206]

Amazing speech... nice calm voice to listen to! Well done!!

[@greenhornedrhino3046]

Very helpful soothing thank you

[@kerryfaden94]

So relieved to hear you again- so important to acknowledge the anger snd powerless feeling- once I did/ was able to notice what causing real pain besides mind body stuff- in touch snd feel grateful! Keep posting!

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful! Glad you found the videos helpful.

[@rhondagallone5908]

Yesss, this was very helpful!! In fact, I’m going to journal and feel ALL the emotions NOW!! Xo

[@PainFreeYou]

You got this!

[@ip3043]

I looked at the Zero Pain Now and it costs a fortune, for me anyway! That's okay because there are other things that help and one of them is to reset the nervous system and thankfully I have some tools and resources for that but I also very much appreciate videos like this, thank you.

[@PainFreeYou]

You don't need the most expensive programs to get better. The core of what Adam teaches is in his $27 book. But as you say, it's just one of many tools available. Thanks for the kind feedback.

[@ip3043]

@@PainFreeYou Thanks very much I'll check the book out!

[@bernynavidad889]

@@ip3043 The same with me! I contacted SIRPA Spain and they wanted 200 euros for the 1st online consultation, and 100 euros for each of the next 6 video calls. So that was it, couldnt afford it!

[@cherylwilsherlimberlife7210]

Hey ip can you share your resources I would like to reset my nervous system, stuck in freeze shutdown for years

[@ip3043]

@@cherylwilsherlimberlife7210 Sure check out 'The Community Resiliency Model' on the Trauma Resource Institute website and and their free iChill App which is a guide to using resourcing skills to reset the nervous system. you can download to your phone and also use on your PC. www.traumaresourceinstitute.com/ichill.

[@tina_820]

Running from my motions since I can remember. Done. Now I embrace them.👍

[@JohnMoseley]

Thank you. Feels like it answers a big question for me. A few years ago, I found Hilary Jacobs Hendel's book, 'It's Not Always Depression,' and it changed a lot for me, because it offers a brilliant method of accessing emotions through the body. It's about a form of therapy called AEDP and a central assumption is that anxiety isn't an emotion, it's a way of blocking emotion - a very similar idea, as far as I can tell, to Sarno's ideas about a lot of chronic pain. Why would you choose anxiety rather than emotion? Because it offers the illusion of control (I must be better!) where emotions feel like a loss of control and are often about things you can't really control - and tha'ts what's really unbearable, e.g. a child experiencing the death of a parent might ward off sympathy from others in various ways because otherwise they might be moved to give way to grief and this would be an admission of the devastating loss. AEDP says, we're not kids anymore, we can handle these experiences; some of them might still feel overwhelming, but we can access them in little bites - titration, as Peter Levine puts it - and then pull back if necessary. So it advocates doing a little negotiation with yourself: can I set aside the anxiety and see what deeper feelings are there? Then you sit and pay attention to your bodily sensations and don't rush to name what comes. It's wonderful because you never need to be ground down by anxiety again. But, after the business of accessing the emotions bodily, I got a little stuck because I assumed - and aI think Hendel's book kind of reinforces this assumption - that you then needed to act out: imagine screaming at the person at whom you're angry or whatever. And I don't find this works terribly well. I had lost track of the body and all the experience could simply be there: the emotions come up, you feel them, you let them do what they want to your face etc. maybe you even cry or even laugh, but you let it pass, there's no obligation other than that. I do recommend Hendel's book, though. It helped me a lot and I imagine it could work well with Sarno's ideas.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you for sharing your experience and the book recommendation.

[@lisbetnunez5279]

Thank you 🙏🏼

[@PainFreeYou]

Any time!

[@emilyzena7070]

Thank you so much for the work you do.

[@PainFreeYou]

My pleasure.

[@seles1991]

You’re an absolute legend. Thank you for your service

[@summersun2828]

I'm a great believer in not bottling up the way I feel. If I need a good cry, I will cry. If I'm angry or upset I will sit with that emotion and allow it to wash over me until the feelings leave. The very feelings do leave a physical mark on me like shaking with anger or cause a headache but I know that it's transitory. The worst thing we can do is ignore those emotions and burying them as repressing them will only manifest in ill health.

[@connievedal2640]

Good and helpful reminder and learning from you. Hello from Norway😁

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@ladelostruquillos]

I love this video Dan. Thank you very much. It is very difficult for me to feel emotions, this help 🍀

[@PainFreeYou]

You are very welcome.

[@hhhunt777]

EXCELLENT!!!!

[@1973julies]

Great description of feeling emotions. Very helpful. Thank you 🙏

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad it was helpful!

[@goldysandhu5288]

Thanks mate your vibes brings seeds of happiness and positivity its really helpful the way you taught how to feel emotions

[@PainFreeYou]

My pleasure!

[@BrookedeRosa]

Very helpful as always Dan! I’m glad I checked for a video on this. I was going to ask you for one in the group.

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome, thank you!

[@OneRemixRaoul]

I want to start this process but feel like I already am in my emotions a lot. I listen to angry music and rock out and listen to sad music and feel sad. I’ve done this for years so it doesn’t seem to be helping. I learned from you that we shouldn’t go back to specific stories in our past for emotion pondering but should feel the emotion itself so back to my music question I am kind of confused how to go about this. Thank you.

[@SYW12345]

Thank you for this video Dan

[@PainFreeYou]

My pleasure!

[@radhika5101]

Thank you so much for all your help

[@PainFreeYou]

Happy to help

[@tayl3334]

I just started this process and your verbage has been so helpful. Thank you!

[@PainFreeYou]

I'm so glad!

[@arianarubytemple6008]

Yes this absolutely resonates with me! God bless you!

[@PainFreeYou]

Same to you!

[@irmareitz701]

Great video and makes such sense. I’ve been struggling to ‘feel’ what’s going on in my body and you have just made the ‘How to’ so clear. I feel like there has been a breakthrough and I’ve been able to get in touch with some painful memories and been able to feel the emotions connected to them.

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful!

[@johngabriel3181]

Thank you. I've been trying to get to the bottom basics and you hit it on the nail.

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad it helped!

[@Mojokiss]

I'm on a long path of recovery. I stopped writing songs, because I was ashamed of my emotions and then my anxiety and pain set in. I used comedy and sex to avoid it. I am now reversing all that and learning to cry and feel, not just talk, not just admit I have problems.

[@PainFreeYou]

Emotions make us human. Glad you are learning to reverse the feelings of shame.

[@Mojokiss]

@@PainFreeYou :) :) :)

[@deycza]

Thank you

[@PainFreeYou]

You're welcome