TMS work - Hold an Emotional Open House

[@Dragonbuni]

Hi Dan, I tried it by closing my eyes and visualizing the emotions coming in the door like they were m&m people, went back and forth between this and writing down the emotions and what they had to say. It was a pretty long list and then I thanked everyone for coming and said bye at the door. I think it went well, I felt less heavy in my chest afterwards. Then did a 10 minute meditation. So far so good! Thanks!

[@PainFreeYou]

That's awesome - thrilled that you are putting these ideas into action. Love it.

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

Open house great I woke up this morning and I felt an emotion very strong not pleasant found this video soooo helpful thank you Dan love you Lenneke 😘😘😘

[@estherkessler582]

Thank you Dan for posting these videos. They are honestly super helpful in explaining a lot of these intense concepts surrounding TMS and healing. I am pretty new to all this but after hearing about Dr Sarno’s work and listening to these videos, I feel that I am starting on my path to healing. Thanks again and please keep posting!

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you for your kind words Esther. I will continue posting daily, but I have a couple hundred videos you can go back and watch as needed: kzbin.infovideos Enjoy and thanks again for your comments and kind words. You are on the right track.

[@christieharrison560]

Woaaaaah this was a powerful one for me Dan. After learning for years that emotions = physical pain due to my migraines and headaches (which I now know isn't the truth) I have been so scared to feel my emotions. Any emotion - Happy or sad because I have learned that any emotion = physical pain. How ironic when it is in fact the opposite to this. After my husband separated from me I was forced into the worst emotional state of my life. I felt every single emotion under the sun which forced me with a therapist to start feeling them. As my divorce goes through I know I am still pushing them to one side so I am going to try this practice with the open house. I love this idea. When you first said this open house I literally saw a Halloween/spooky house in my mind but I have just tried it and instead visualised this beautiful house in stunning surroundings with tea, snacks and me as the host. It was a pleasant experience rather than a fearful one. It was actually a pleasant experience and better than I thought it would be. Still hard to convince my brain that emotions are safe but as with everything else Dan, I know with time my brain will get the picture. I am going to add this open house to my morning routine of watching a couple of your videos then going on with my day. THANKS DAN!

[@PainFreeYou]

Please keep in mind that emotional pain does not HAVE to create physical pain. It may have in the past, but once your brain learns that emotions are normal and safe, you will be able to get the brain to disconnect emotions from pain. The way forward is to feel your emotions so the brain learns they are safe. Exposure therapy to emotions. The Emotional State video in the course in the membership area explains this.

[@christieharrison560]

@@PainFreeYou Thanks Dan. Yes this is my new belief... emotion doesn't equal pain. But I need to convince my brain of this as I know it is stuck in the past but I am reassuring it of my new belief. I'll check that video out again. Thanks Dan.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@christieharrison560 No, emotions do not have to equal pain. Feel them to prove to the brain they are not dangerous.

[@christieharrison560]

@@PainFreeYou God it's so hard as I am really scared of them but bit by bit I will get there.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@christieharrison560 Emotions have no meaning. They don't mean you are weak, crazy or out of control. Emotions mean that you are a normal human being. Expressing emotions is sharing with other people. Feeling is an inside job. Feeling is required to teach the brain emotions are safe. Sharing/expressing them is not required to get well. Decide that emotions need not be scary anymore. 🙂

[@cf2278]

So yep, me :) I have now realized I let my fear of emotions and the resulting pain slowly pull me away from my job, friends, family, travel (exactly as you stated in your video) physical activity and romantic activity. They all became triggers for my pain because my brain was trying to "keep me safe"... I am excited to try the Open House! I am also feeling a little sad because I walked away from many things I enjoyed over the yeara. At least I know why now though :) Will follow up.

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful!

[@andybreedlove]

How are you getting on? This comment is exactly how I feel.. what’s helped, what’s been useful, please. Kindest 🕊️

[@barbaram4954]

Thanks, Dan! I will try this technique. Hope the emotions come to my open house because I’ve had difficulty accessing some emotions, particularly anger. I just discovered you a couple of days ago and have enjoyed your videos very much.

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad you are finding the videos helpful. Also look for the emotions anonymous video. That may also help you access some of the emotions.

[@andybreedlove]

@@PainFreeYoucan you link this vid please?

[@PainFreeYou]

@@andybreedlove kzbin.info/www/bejne/e2HXaJSmj950iNE

[@marjabot6789]

Thank you Dan, it's very clear! I'll try this the next days! I really enjoy your video's !!

[@anneluciebrusadinsetrakian628]

Well you are describing a lot of what I am living. But I decided to go own with life. I reach out more. I drive more. And I am successful, my friends are receptive and welcoming (but I am the one reaching). I try to do things. I feel my emotions , sadness , anger. there is nothing I can do with family. So i have to feel the separation, it is about learning to accept. Shift the focus to people that accept me more for who I am. And my tension headaches increased. I choose to have a life but the body is not on board.

[@PainFreeYou]

The body is not in charge. Headaches increasing is just evidence that the BRAIN is still perceiving danger from the increase in living life. You can teach it to change it's danger response and eliminate the pain.

[@privateperson5769]

Such a good idea/concept. TY.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you.

[@cheryllarue3713]

I like this. I have done this. I know my body has this moment of the emotions knocking so I grab a journal I have and write it out as I feel and that way I hear them and can read it back and hear it and release it.

[@PainFreeYou]

Really glad you like this concept. :-)

[@mariachiblues]

that "tangent" was exactly what i needed to hear, dan. thank you.

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad it was helpful!

[@sarahgrossberger537]

I really like how u care so much and share your profound findings

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you Sarah.

[@avk1391]

It's an interesting experiment. I think I will try it. I'm glad you discussed "guests"

[@pattyboucetta1897]

This is great. Love the humor. I’m doing this work today.

[@PainFreeYou]

Keep at it!

[@sjstone7337]

Dan- love your theory of an open house for emotions, it immediately opened up a channel or dialog with the subconscious. In fact, the more I think about it the more I love it. Brilliant.

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome - thank you.

[@lisastyron]

Thanks Dan. I found this very helpful!

[@diehardpatriot3]

This is good. Thank you. I like this concept. I also like how it is scheduled, so there's no need to invite the emotions if they will do you a disservice in a social situation. We can invite them in private.

[@PainFreeYou]

Open the front and back door and allow them to visit. :-)

[@diehardpatriot3]

Pain Free You one question though Dan. In times of high stress or negative emotion , I get spasms. Is this because my brain hasn’t learned that these emotions are safe & it’s trying to distract me ? Or is it because stress makes the symptoms worse

[@diehardpatriot3]

For example, one time I was in a family argument that was very triggering to me , and in the middle of it I had a spasm

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

Before very difficult to feel emotions now they pop up ever day amazing I am human and emotions are safe... Also I notice that my symptoms are going up when I feel.. It is all part of the journey right?

[@PainFreeYou]

If symptoms go up when you feel emotions, your brain is still perceiving emotions as dangerous. We can TEACH the brain that emotions are actually safe by actually feeling them. kzbin.info/www/bejne/j57CgmyIhpKLd8U

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

@@PainFreeYou thank you for showing me another video 😘

[@mollymccormick8360]

I love this!

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome!

[@alexanderserviceshow-to]

I love your videos

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you!

[@KitRamsey610]

Excellent video

[@KitRamsey610]

This video offers a new perspective. Hold an open house. Brilliant.

[@jojocjow377]

Thank you Dan. When I do my daily practice, are the pleasant emotions welcomed too? Or just the unpleasant emotions? Btw, love your videos.

[@PainFreeYou]

Feel all of your emotions. But if all you are getting are the pleasant ones, the negative emotions may still be repressed. Feel them ALL.

[@jojocjow377]

Thanks for your reply. I felt some unpleasant emotions, such as sad, frustrated; at the same time I felt happy, grateful when I had a good day. Hope that's fine.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@jojocjow377 Don't over-analyze it. We aren't in pain due to happy emotions. But as long as your emotional discovery practice allows you to feel the dark and ugly emotions, it's fine to mix in the happy stuff.

[@ijordan9960]

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[@nancybiscello4141]

Hi Dan...I'm about to start Emdr therapy, I cannot get to my emotions...I need a kick start to them..I think it is because I cut them off from childhood ..due to experiencing a severe trauma..

[@PainFreeYou]

Have you done the exercise explained in this video? If not, I would highly recommend it. It will help you understand why you are struggling to feel your emotions. The reframing exercise may help open the doors for you. kzbin.info/www/bejne/j57CgmyIhpKLd8U

[@goldysandhu5288]

Hi Dan i feel the sensations in my body and i mostly feel anxiety in between my chest it feels physical is that a right way to feel the emotions is it necessary to name the emotions as well i do it twice 15 minutes Daily practice do i have to exceed the time as well

[@PainFreeYou]

Everybody is different. If it seems like you are feeling your emotions, then that's just right for you.

[@mreudeco]

Fantastic

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad you enjoyed it.

[@ondineke]

How does the journalling work for TMS?

[@leedsholistichealth5700]

If you journal about past traumas/negative experiences it can help to diffuse the charged negative emotions attached to these experiences. In so doing it can provide clarity and bring a new perspective to situations that often keep subconsciously plaguing us or stuff that we might ruminate over. Dr Sarno explained how negative repressed emotions can cause symptoms when the mind deems it necessary to protect us from these ‘dangerous’ emotions that may ‘explode ’ into consciousness. When we journal it is like we are validating these negative , scary, dark emotions and so the mind now understands that it does not need to protect us from them by sending us ‘distraction’ pain/symptoms. x

[@bethhenderson9154]

So like when I have the emotion of sadness..should I "say to myself" WHY Im sad or should I just acknowledge that I am sad..period

[@PainFreeYou]

Just feel sad with no judgment. You don't have to do anything - just feel it. You likely already know why you are sad. Just feel it.

[@alandry6872]

Will try it!

[@mariachiblues]

is "trapped" an emotion?

[@PainFreeYou]

It certainly feels like one.

[@kaylaryder8371]

it's rumi the quest house

[@kaylaryder8371]

ha ha ha yes by all means invite mercy her gorgous twin compassion hearty humour black humour comedy horror may i laugh 'til i pee pee my panties invite no such thing as alone Love Mikayla