To Hell And Back Season 1 Episode 5

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[@sinehope_]

Seeing and hearing myself speak for the first-time since my speech changed. I understand why my confidence has been so low. I'm sorry I'm not audible

[@nefefefulu9760]

Don't be sorry dear u are a strong lady wishing u all the best justice will be served don't loose ure confidence satan must not win

[@User326-y3q]

You held this interview very well sisi, Please don’t apologise, I’m so sorry for what you went through.. I hope you can one day realise that none of this was your fault and stop blaming yourself.. You’re beautiful, I want to hug you so tight, When you cried my heart broke💔.. I’m SO SORRY sis wami 🥹♥️

[@AyandaMore]

Thank you for telling us your story sisi❤️❤️

[@boldlyowamie]

No mamma you did great and i am soo proud of you❤️❤️

[@kwenasekwakwa-zafirovski1843]

I'm hearing you quiet well. Very well done Sisi!

[@gabrielthuu]

Women these interviews are done for y’all to learn and be in charge don’t be the NEXT survivor!

[@MelaninofSA]

Such a valid comment ❤

[@startingover7217]

Women can only do so much. Start holding these abusers accountable.

[@ScissorN]

They also done for man to see the damage they have done to woman..

[@keneilwemakwapa1823]

Yes sir

[@thandothando2779]

True, but also for men to learn and hold each other accountable. If you have a male family member or friend who is abusive. They need to be called out. We can all learn and do better🌸

[@sphelele4918]

He used military interrogation, rendition and torture tactics on her tiny body. She went thru what sounds like Guantanamo Bay. Water boarding, sleep deprivation, being presssured to confess to things you didn’t do just so you can sleep, slammed and smashed around physically ???? He abused his training and treated his intimate partner - who is so much smaller than him - like a combatant! She’s a not just a gbv victim. He needs to be charged under martial law for WAR CRIMES not just gbv. Put satan UNDER the jail And we hear you loud and clear sis. You’re so articulate and beautiful. May you heal and heal and get justice

[@elvisndlovu1232]

We no longer need SABC or DStv, Owamie and MacG are here to give us the best

[@CbosEasyRecipes7]

And those channels keep repeating episodes, it's so bad! You don't know what are you paying for!!

[@othusitsepereko5896]

Very true

[@lindelanimadilonga9902]

Absolutely 🎉❤😊

[@Bee-dp3st]

@@CbosEasyRecipes7Yoh! There’s literally nothing to watch anymore!

[@hildamavuso1620]

you are right

[@helloworldrio]

Those saying they are having a hard time following the story, please listen with patience. The poor woman is struggling due to her condition. I think she’s really trying her best and doing great. I hope she finds justice 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@Sunshine._23]

Right, but the host has tried her best to guide us. Bottom line is that we got the message.

[@gailainsley6939]

I thought it was only me struggling to follow it but yes, due to her condition, I had to give her grace.

[@nomcebobuthelezi944]

It's hard to follow the story yes but she clearly can't help that, and at least Owami tries to narrate it back so we understand the timelines. Let's show sympathy a bit.

[@starcaron8282]

True and if you listen attentively you’ll get what she saying and the backstories she’s giving

[@nomcebobuthelezi944]

@@starcaron8282 exactly

[@esthermani6376]

Yes. Brain injuries affect how you think and speak.

[@sinehope_]

I had been recently admitted and my motto skills had not returned, I had no idea it was that bad. My speech is better now

[@PpqNdoni]

Unless he said let me video call, I would never divulge that info to my boyfriend or anyone cos it is not important info & it wud be taken out of context

[@thandekamtshizana2]

I’m 23 and this podcast is so important to watch as a young woman and informing ourselves of the dangers we face and how to avoid them

[@deyojvincey1568]

Literally left my bf for beating me up and claiming it's cause he loves me too much and shouldn't leave him like everybody does(including his parents-long story) , this interview made me aware that I made the best decision of my life. Thank you so much for telling your story cause I have been contemplating if I made a mistake by leaving him as he has been begging me to get back with him cause we can fix things and love each other

[@boldlyowamie]

No never go back

[@kwetsephetla3597]

See those men with abandonment issues? Very abusive and will always use their sob stories to justify their behaviour and guilt trip you into staying. Well done for leaving baby❤

[@esthermani6376]

Bless you for having the strength to leave. ❤

[@Lusandav]

Don’t go back please

[@thandekangubane3494]

Run for your life!

[@luxo5660]

As the father of girls, i try as much to learn from these women's experiences as im preparing to write them a manual, especially, signs you're dating an abuser😊😊😊😊. Unfortunately, for this episode, i couldn't learn much, as much as the presenter tried to dig deeper. Everything happened suddenly, and questions not answered. She must thank God she's still alive, hope she gets well, and justice served.

[@sinehope_]

Teach them to listen to their instincts, that first red is every reason to get out.

[@DeeDiva777]

I think it is not intentional. Remember she is recovering from brain damage, hence the story is not as coherent as usual.

[@ItsMeYourfavorite7]

Honestly that’s the main reason I watch these shows. I want the interviewer to ask them the “hindsight” and “looking retrospectively” question. I remember Oprah would always ask victims this because that’s where the real lesson and take away is

[@AyidaMarken]

you should also read the book titled "why does he do that?" its about domestic violence and what to look for etc...

[@ItsMeYourfavorite7]

I think paying attention to how a man speaks to you is important because it always starts there before it becomes physical, it’s always verbal then emotional first….I think

[@zee94280]

Eish, I’m worried about what she will do in court. It’s difficult to understand what happened especially what the guy did to her. I hope this interview will help her prepare for her testimony in court. I’m glad she’s seeking justice though. ❤

[@zintlevellem3009]

Eish Sisi, I'm glad you said it. I didn't wanna seem insensitive. Thought exactly that. But wanted to go through the comments first just incase I was over thinking it. I don't think she was nor is ready to speak about what happened.

[@thuliendlovu719]

From a lawyers point of view, this is deliberate because there is only so much you can give off regarding a case in court in most cases.

[@Vv-fl2rm]

You reaching over and holding the hands of the story tellers when the interview gets difficult is such a heartwarming authentic move Ninja

[@gailmokwatlo]

So heartbreaking. I feel that the guest has not fully gotten to a point of being able to fully relay her story. Owamie had to be reserved in her interviewing and one can sense the effort to not ask questions that may be upsetting but are necessary to get the full picture

[@nomfunekonosilela3895]

Also we mustn't forget she suffered brain injuries and she said she has been told it will progressively deteriorate so possibly her memory and soeech are being affected.

[@claudiamolebugi981]

May God see her through and receive healing for all her ailments..

[@beatriceameyin613]

You're right. I feel the same too.

[@nomafmaroga6827]

This episode deserves to be taken to higher places to fight for this woman. We need this guy to work for this lady for the rest of his life.

[@sazi7128]

He needs to be behind bars, and all his pension funds must be given to this lady.

[@mariamabusela3145]

This is just so sad and inhuman to what happened to this lady.

[@permathobela7457]

I concur dear. No one is above the law 😢😢😢

[@sanelisiwetonga7939]

To be honest I also felt weird when she said she shared a bed with her step uncle. He could've taken the couch or the floor to accomodate her as a visitor.

[@moe_ramz]

Like 👀

[@sjozana]

Some families have healthy relationships. Just becuase you could never with your uncle, doesn't mean that men who are safe cannot with their neices.

[@ThobileMacaws]

@@sjozanawhat you’re saying is very important and true and a dialogue we should have as a society. I’m the only sister and for a long time my youngest brother stayed with me and my husband. He was only 17 when he changed his first diaper of his nephew… at 21 he was changing his nieces diapers and guess what? When we go out on date nights he’d stay in their room until we were back… now at 27 he’s a father and does exactly the same things for his son. He still bathes my children whenever we visit my mother’s house and although initially I was never comfortable with it, but my husband helped me realize how important instilling trust and building healthy family relationships is.

[@sinehope_]

I was comfortable sharing the bed with him. I was accommodated very well, he would have even booked me a room had I not been.

[@EmmahMtshwene]

The way she put it out it sounds like it was not the first time she shared the bed with him

[@esthermani6376]

Her ex boyfriend sounds like a malignant narcissist and a psychopath. His lack of empathy and his violent ways are just shocking. Many men in the military and police force are proven to be abusers (the stats show that abusers are attracted to positions of power). This is heartbreaking because there are so many women in South Africa going through this. The police and the justice system is also horrendous!! Thank you to the guest for relaying her story as best as she could. Living with a traumatic brain injury is no joke. I wish this man a life in prison with no parole. I have no doubt that he’s done worse and has gotten away with it.

[@neomalete5832]

One thing I love about this segment is that it's really exposing our incompetent justice system

[@elvisndlovu1232]

A round of applause for the Queen, she gives us high quality content

[@pheladinare2876]

Thank you Ninja for directing her towards clarity because it was really difficult to follow the timeline of events under the circumstances . Sne may God bless you ses and thank you for speaking out ❤

[@boldlyowamie]

She was struggling but i did understand her ❤️

[@thando_tlng]

Thanks OWAMI❤

[@sinehope_]

Thank you

[@neosjournal_]

She needs to be protected at all costs..😢

[@Munei_Twin]

I'm already heartbroken by just reading the title 😢

[@startingover7217]

💔💔💔💔💔

[@ncesh434]

😢

[@kwetsephetla3597]

I wanna watch it but I’m not sure if I’ll be able to handle it 💔

[@elvisndlovu1232]

I'm representing all the male Ninjas that love umgosi, however today asikho lapho, we are all here to listen and learn

[@NtsakisiNuun]

I'll be so worried the day I don't see you on the comment section 😂😂😂. You are a real ninja ❤🎉

[@elvisndlovu1232]

@@NtsakisiNuun 🤣🤣🤣 me and you same WhatsApp group, comment section is full of fire🔥

[@chloebadass9526]

😂😂😂😂

[@talkativelindy2531]

😂😂

[@mondeentlehadebe3041]

I sympathize with you Sne You speak in codes Honestly it's very hard to follow But i think you did the best you could under the circumstances For the fact that you gathered enough strength nd courage to come to such a platform That on it's own...says you're a Hero Given the fact that you dealing with a monster Nd the system is failing you Just bcoz their all colleagues Nd wud rather fail you than to call one of their own into order Aagh Sies I don't trust police I've never trusted them Nd this is the reason why I hope the is justice for you If not in this world I hope the God Almighty who sees all,hears all nd knows all will come through for you I know karma is a bitch Nd it won't be any different when it comes to you Just hang in ther My heart goes out to you❤

[@zwad3423]

From someone who used to be in a relationship with a military man, they go through alot because of the job and sometimes its affects them mentally too but that does not justify what he did to you, am so sorry this happened and I hope you get justice.

[@startingover7217]

I hope one day she'll stop blaming herself. No one deserves to be abused under any circumstance. It's non-negotiable! 😢💔

[@neomalete5832]

The fact that this man had the liver to beat you up in front of a police officer says a lot about the power he thinks he has shem, he really thinks hes untouchable untouchable 🥺🥺

[@joycekabila8573]

Imagine! The audacity this guy has is just unbelievable! Smh...

[@anittanxusa]

So proud of you ❤ these are realities we would’ve never known. ❤️God bless Sne as well, she seems like a lovely soul

[@boldlyowamie]

She is😭

[@user-sk4uk5ml7o]

Hello everyone, if we have a lawyer or anyone who can help this young lady to get Justice - please help. We will forever be grateful

[@dineomsfit]

Can't something be done with our justice system? Are we supposed to keep quite just because someone works for the law

[@esthermani6376]

We have to organise and put pressure on government. That’s why NGOs are the institutions that get things done in this country

[@sinehope_]

Dare you go against a service man, you are the culprit. My only sin is fighting for my justice

[@rachelntini4252]

Honestly I don’t understand and you keep going back no one is above the law especially when there’s so much evidence.

[@kenodiaazania202]

Is there a petition we can sign? Can I please have your email?

[@thandothando2779]

You are handling this interview very well O👌

[@thatotlhowe]

All I can say is Owamie has improved alot on her interview skills, she's patient, compassionate, and just extremely understanding. Me on the other side, I kept cutting the interview to check other social networks cause I just didn't get it. Glad coming back plays ads again for sis to get her coins 😊

[@boldlyowamie]

❤️❤️❤️

[@thando_tlng]

😂😂😂😂ayiii vele

[@thando_tlng]

​@@boldlyowamiebig ups OWAMI ❤😭

[@kwetsephetla3597]

True. This is really her niche ❤

[@ShazzyGossip]

True she nailed it man🤞

[@vuyomtshali]

Yhooo ay mna guys I'm shocked and out of words, this man is dangerous I'm really scared. I'm so sorry Sne wishing you a speedy recovery. Thank you Owamie for being patient with her and narrating the story, you doing great ❤❤❤.

[@tshwarelorashilo8563]

let's improve the sound on your sets Cici Owamie great interview by the way, your platform gives normal people a place to tell their stories and reach millions.

[@boldlyowamie]

It was Raining ❤️

[@beatriceameyin613]

Yeah, the sound a bit noisy from the background

[@NakaMonxo]

You're definitely bigger than me lady. Me on a wheelchair?....I would sing like a cannon.I would name everyone from police up to SANDF high ranks.

[@thando_tlng]

😭

[@sinehope_]

Let me get my speech back. I'm naming them 1 by 1

[@thabingxakata]

@@sinehope_ 😂good one mama, name them ❤️❤️

[@DanielMaponya]

Exactly!

[@DanielMaponya]

​@@sinehope_don't even hold back.

[@Elegantly_Wenzi]

Normally military personnel are not tried in civilian courts , they have a court at sandf so this is where she should be going, I can also assist in putting her in touch with the senior generals at SANDF

[@neliamagumula2911]

Thank you. Did you manage to assist her

[@HolisticHealth-sd2ye]

Hi wamie...i love you so much. Can i make a suggestion?, would you consider doing a short course on psychology particularly on childhood neurodevelopment and trauma, or read relevant books or make use of online resources. I feel like if you truly understand the dynamics of human nature in that respect it could add an extra layer of value to the incredible value, validation and support that is already here. Dont forget that SABC and MULTICHOICE are watching you right now, give them all the reasons to say OWAMIE is our girl.❤❤❤

[@boldlyowamie]

Thank you mamma noted ❤️

[@philasibonge.mkhize]

Love this!

[@masingitashelly2270]

Good advise, I would have stopped the interview Owami is so patient,at first I was not following what this lady was saying.

[@Savebygrace-it]

Too many discrepancies in this story l am super lost 😮😮. How women protect their abusers will never be understood.😅😅.

[@mbalimzobe6183]

I love that advice honestly Owami is a natural that would benefit alot🙏 thanks sis❤

[@nteballengmosetlhe3397]

I just watched this podcast ànd have never been this confused. The series of events just all over the place, I don't think she was ready to do this interview. So many omissions, I mean why agree to do an interview if you are gonna withhold information? Kuningi! I kept going back because I thought had missed some important parts. I wish well her well and may she find justice.

[@sqrd3536]

Well done Sne for staying this long to tell your story! Well done girl!❤👏 What I can suggest have a lot of patience throughout this case. Don't let it define your daily life. The guy might not live long, destiny will give you justice. Women never mistake a relationship based mainly on physical urges for a real one. It is an awful situation to be abused by someone that you mistook for a future husband and yet that person saw you as a tool to use. Never go for just looks, money and physical contact. Know someone from where they've been in life and how they got here today.

[@esterhango2104]

DR Nandi can come here and tell us about her story with Bester once they release her

[@boldlyowamie]

I beg😂😂

[@thando_tlng]

😂😂lol

[@blessingnickiwe4454]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@DeeDiva777]

Can we not use this platform for criminals lol.

[@mahlejogee9710]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@simphiwer8970]

I think this lady needs a hug. I am thankful that she is still alive ❤

[@RayOfLetsatsi]

This was difficult to follow, chronologically it didn't flow well. I do hope she gets justice, this man sounds really dangerous.

[@AyidaMarken]

Her story is so heartbreaking, there is a book titled "Why does he do that?: inside the minds of angry and controlling men", I highly recommend you all read it.

[@henriettambedzi3794]

Such a smart well spoken lady... Oh my God I'm so shattered by the damage the ex did... worse the evil the whole justice system is partaking in... Where do we run to Mudzimu Wanga...

[@lesley_lezley]

It is never advisable to do such interviews if she’s still going through court and might have to testify. She’s very hard to understand, her story is all over and I feel some things she said should’ve probably not been said (uncle situation, which is a bit weird honestly).

[@graceooko3778]

The uncle part wsd veeeeeery wierd

[@melbamothiba9804]

I also thought the uncle situation is weird and the friend for over 20 yrs guy

[@Reset_With_Louisa]

💔💔joooo for the first time I don’t have words. Sending you love and light mommy❤️

[@sinehope_]

Thanks

[@QueenDee1207]

Joooh💔 I was so impatiently in the beginning until I get to the middle of the story .this is sad ke kwatileeee!!!😢 I hope now that it is a year later justice was served n ir getting healed darly

[@hadassahfirst1478]

Hi Owamie, thank you sesi for doing this podcast. You really tried your best in bringing the best out of this interview, irrespective of the make gaps the story had. - ) It was difficult to follow the time-lines and locations of the story, and kept bringing it back to alignment -) Sne had so many grey areas which it appeared she wasn’t sharing (and us the listeners expect the police to figure her story out 🤔🤔) -) The picture I’m getting here is that our sister somehow was willing to do exactly what we are condemning the police for, that is, covering up for uSathane -) I understand the guesthouse room was far from the normal setting, but when someone finally came to her rescue, she lied, saying she had an allergy (and we expect the police to somehow sniff the real untold story of GBV) -) Her own family also, she told them she had an accident (and d legal system must also sniff that it wasn’t an accident) -) Guy visits Kzn after the incident, and Sne is going to meet him (and us d listeners expect the police to enforce the protection order, on a person that Sne is willfully meeting after the incident, with her family not aware of d torture as she puts it) -) Doctor will not be called to witness as long as the J88 is well documented and injuries well outlined) -) On arrival to Ladybrand, Sne was hosted by malume, but I wonder if malume was even told of what happened, or he was also told it’s an allergy 😰😰 - ) The laptop story and money is also another grey zone. What I can say is that falling into the hands of a narcissist is an unfortunate situation that usually leaves the victim maimed both physically, emotionally and mentally, and it seems that what happened to Sne. My lovely sister Sne, therapy is what you need right now. You come first, before justice. Some battles can only be fought when one is in a tight frame of mind. Heal first! With a story like this one, with so many gaps, it’s likely not gonna get the attention we feel it deserves. You have no witnesses bcos you told everyone around you a different narrative from the actual incident (of which it will eventually appear to be a smear campaign for uSathane). There are cases where innocent men were destroyed by a hurting or disappointed or bitter woman….then, how do you convince the justice system that the narrative you are giving is a true one and not that of destroying uSathane? If ever you get a lawyer, please open up to them, to avoid getting that lawyer embarrassed in court when undisclosed information pops up. May we all learn from this story. She’s sharing it to help us also, bcos no-one is immune to life’s problems as long as we are on this earth. Please pursue therapy, I believe there’s still hope for recovery. You are in our prayers cc. 🥰🥰🥰

[@bongythwala9840]

I thought it was me alone that I noticed that ,she is Mixing so many things ,and it like she forget another things and mix with another I didn't get how he touture her .but thanks to Owam She try but ahh.

[@bongythwala9840]

❤ true she's Mentally distabed this one she is not ok ,as a police officer , ngingacabanga ukuthi okunye unamanga n uyazi ukuthi kungenxa yakhe yikho enjena afihla kubantu ukuthi ushayiwe.

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

This analysis is the best so far yet I haven’t even watched the interview to the end because it needs so much focus and attention to detail what happened to her.

[@noxzienocturnal4544]

The laptop story was confusing as hell, the pretending to apply for a loan, the "maneuvering of finances" to him being "very good with his finances", the lady was a cop but all of a sudden wasn't really a cop. How do you keep in contact with someone who has proven to be so dangerous to you? Are those laptops worth your life? This was one very hard interview to listen to.

[@noxzienocturnal4544]

​@@bongythwala9840 Mina ngisola ukuthi bekunzima ukudedela uguy. Ngeke ulokhu ufuna ukuhlangana nomuntu ocishe wakubulala.

[@matanato01]

@Owami thanks for being patient with usisi and helping fill the gaps.

[@NhlanhlaJacqueline-if2hk]

Body Owamie,, I've been watching ur show,, ever, but hey Qinisile took my heart,, I so love her,, I wish to meet her 1day,, I'm in Joburg, interesting show, cc, love it❤️

[@starcaron8282]

She’s expected to get worse ?😲 and the case is not getting any resolve while there’s clear evidence kanti what kind of justice system do we have in this country 😳😳😳😳

[@sinehope_]

My first visible stroke struck me in court, they asked I continue, I ended up in hospital. My hospitalization was questioned and deny the sequence of events. SA judiciary for you

[@Sukoluhle88]

This is not only for women to be aware but for men to be better individuals

[@elvisndlovu1232]

I love the vibe that Owamie and Sne have, it's so cute

[@sinehope_]

Thank you😘

[@elvisndlovu1232]

The guest is is an excellent story teller 🎉

[@thabsilechamane3774]

“He does have a second name,satan” 😂😂😂 that one killed me. I thank God she survived and she’s here telling her story. And to you Owamie I’m so proud of you my Ninja ❤

[@boldlyowamie]

Thank you my Ninja🥰

[@darkhorse9277]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂and the quickness with which she responded.

[@tumi2610]

​@@darkhorse9277😂😂😂😂she was ready

[@OnlinewithMathuto]

Great work Owamie. All the best Sne, you're in my prayers. When's the next master class sisters?

[@lihleigama]

I don’t think it’s the first time Satan did this…and he knows he is able to get away with it.

[@esthermani6376]

He sounds like a narcissistic psychopath. Zero empathy and such a propensity for violence.

[@khetimthembu8465]

Same. & he’ll continue doing it

[@matanato01]

I really hope there’s a special place in hell for abusers😢I’m so sorry sisi,and please don’t blame yourself.It’s not your fault

[@mbalin7132]

Sne you are very brave. Well done on standing up for yourself and telling your story. This satan guy will account for all he has done. He may think that he is high and mighty but every dog has its day. As for you my sister, you are in my prayers. May the Lord remember you

[@modikiramaisa4619]

Dating the wrong person can really change the trajectory of your life for the good or the bad . This is scary I almost want to die single 😂😢

[@maybe_maybelline]

Me too sis okarr il die single shem,no ways men are the pits😢

[@abulelegxala8691]

We are living in a dark world and it’s so scary 😩😩 Sending love mama 🫂❤️

[@noziphongubane2971]

My heart is sore 💔 I feel for Sne. She needs justice ⚖ and she must get it. This guy sounds like a monster. Yoooh 🤦🏽‍♀️ 😭😭😭😭 I'm so scared of men especially in uniform. This case needs media attention so the justice system can do it job

[@lincomback7935]

I pray for God's healing over you young lady. May justice prevail. From what I have seen the justice system in SA is failing women, but I pray God finds justice for you. 'The curse of the Lord is in the house of the wicked: But he blesseth the habitation of the just Proverbs 3:33'. This is my prayer to everyone handling your case. Thank you Boldly Owamie for highlighting such issues. May you be blessed beyond measure ❤

[@charmaineMonama]

Her story is so painful, and with the way her case is being handled, I’m left speechless. This goes to show that many of our South African servicemen are not dedicated guys. We need more like Sergeant Benneth Mabunda, because wow. I pray she gets the justice she deserves.

[@thabangmakgatouncensored2023]

God will grant you justice dear. Narcissists can pretend but that won’t last for long.

[@yolandangcuzana8010]

Really sympathize with her and sorry she had to go through this❤

[@TheSecretePlace]

Wow, Owamie I like how you controlled this interview. It almost went off on several occasions. This is really heartbreaking, I think now ladies doing a background check on someone before being with them is the way to go.

[@MelaninofSA]

Owamie God has a purposes for your channel ❤there is a reason why this lady came to your master class when this channel was not even a thought

[@boldlyowamie]

True ❤️

[@neomalete5832]

@@boldlyowamie I love how patient you are with her ❤️

[@SayItAll002]

I am scared for her safety after this, honestly this man is capable of anything together with his friends in that department. I hope we can all learn from her sad story.

[@mimieloliwe8035]

Owamie am speechless, I cried throughout da interview 😢our justice is failing us🤞seeing women go through this is 💔💔my sister u're brave & Dnt let any1 tell u otherwise. Lies have short legs, God is in control u will get your justice. Keep strong, keep going we love u ❤❤❤❤ tnk u for sharing your story. Owamie tnk u for da awareness, God bless u 🙏🙏🙏

[@thembimabaso4614]

Can we gather as woman and get justice for this woman.

[@SisLinaM]

Queen Ninja baby I don’t know how you sleep after these interviews sana. Please go to Alison and take some course that might help you nawe sana ukwazi ulala. I’m just saying that because I know how it can be to help people and you endup with a painful heart🫂 I love how you let uSisi narrate her story and I feel like we need a part 2. Maybe in your connections someone somewhere will be able to help and umthetho udlale indima yawo

[@mogauledwaba9629]

Guys can we all just share this video to expose this law people

[@thobekilemhlongo5884]

This is so painful.May you healed sissy and get justice.Your are beautiful ❤

[@jabunxumalo2111]

So sorry for what happened to you Sne, we pray that you get justice 😢😢.

[@PpqNdoni]

Sne needs to be protected😢 The guy needs to rot in jail.

[@VJASK93]

Let’s pray for this queen ❤🙏 I also pray for her safety because in the military everyone knows everyone so people might know who she talking about and it might get back to him

[@NoxoloMhlanga]

Oh my heart is so broken😭😭😭😭 I wish I can help but I’m still a law student😭😭 oh sis Sne I’m sending you all the love and light❤️❤️

[@nomsamdluli5342]

I don't believe that Bheki Cele is the kind of man to protect women,umbona umbheka nje

[@valencialekawe6323]

This is heartbreaking 😢 couldn't even finish as tears were rolling down my face i can only imagine the pain u went through. Sending love ❤️ and light to u my sister

[@lillianletlaka5868]

I speak healing over you young lady, next year this time you won't be sitting on that chair 😮😮. Pray for yourself ask God to heal you

[@MelaninofSA]

I’m glad you came on here and parting this lands in the right wats for you to get help mama❤ we believe you and you will get justice ❤

[@Ingoduso]

From now on ngiyashayana, nobody should mess with me, no man will torture me, I refuse🤞🏾

[@thoesibanda7769]

Don't get killed please

[@CbosEasyRecipes7]

I am so sorry for what happened to you dear, please do not blame yourself. Everyone is responsible for their behaviour, he is responsible for what he did 🤗🤗🤗

[@darkhorse9277]

Unfortunately the chances of this lady getting justice are very slim. If you know Ladybrand all the law enforcement agents including immigration and the magistrate court are *close" everyone knows everybody. Ladybrand is more like a village than a town. Government officials are intimate and socialize and hang out at the same spots and are neighbours coz it's so small. She has to find a way for the case to be handled by people from outside of Ladybrand or intervene somehow.

[@MizKayb]

I'm so sorry you had to go through this

[@sinehope_]

Thanks

[@lindiwezuma-ch6xx]

You did well with the interview darling, outspoken smart and beautiful.We pray U get the justice u deserve

[@zandilezabengunigumede3069]

Am here for Owami skills that are improving a lot am a proud of you Ninja, Am so touched with her story it's heartbreaking am sending love to you my ccter❤❤❤

[@boldlyowamie]

Thank you ❤❤

[@vickyitenyo.]

I'm sorry for what you went through! HOWEVER, You must learn to be accountable. Admit that you allowed this man to do all this to you. Even in this interview, you're CONSTANTLY protecting this man! We as women MUST agree that we allow these men to treat us this way. We allow it! I've been through domestic violence and after alot of introspection I had to admit to myself that I CHOSE this man and I ALLOWED him to take him through everything I went through. You need to heal, you need to forgive yourself and then you need to learn how to love yourself better! Get well soon. ❤❤

[@paulinerauwe0085]

You need to understand why it happened to her. Wait with the accountability. Her background is the cause of this. She does not have the tools to get to that place where she can learn to make decisions. Accountability brings blame and that will kill her further. She already feels bad for choosing to stay.

[@tholangmoeketsi6093]

Yhoo this is heartbreaking,you are power Sne to even share your story this bold...The justice system contuining to fail the people it has promised to protect.I hope you do get the justice you deserve ,ncese sesi🙏

[@carolchin2336]

I really hate victim blaming and I’m not placing blame on her but there’s so many unanswered questions in this interview. I would love to know more about her because it seems she’s carrying a lot of trauma that she’s experienced prior to this relationship. It’s heartbreaking because the damage was not only physical but mentally also, I pray for full recovery and restoration of everything that was stripped from you dear.

[@I_am_Gee_]

Contact her, it is clear that her condition is affecting her ability to express herself. Try listen to her do understand

[@nomhantumali6202]

I'm also a domestic violence survivor and he didn't believe when i left him .... wish you all the best my darling, one day God will give a man that'll appreciate, love and respect you

[@patriciamotsamai3850]

I'm traumatized at the eye popping scenario

[@lebogangsegooa3128]

We love you Owamie 😘 Hope to be on your show one day 🎉🎉

[@LillianGMD]

Twenty minutes in and sometimes I realise why some victims are victims in the first place. I don't know if it's the brain damage or if is she just not honest. I am not saying she is lying. I am saying she wants to tell her story but she is withholding a lot of information for respectability politics. So far, from 21 mins, uSisi had two suitors: Sathane and Mr I've-known-him-for-20-years. She did not date Mr 20 years or give in to his advances. We know nothing of Mr 20 years, we don't know if he works or has a life and I don't know why Mr 20 years was mentioned in the story. uSisi meets Sathane at Game looking for a hosepipe in her mother's hometown. uSisi did not actually have a proper first date, she just hooked up with him, that's why she mentioned a 1 night stand all of a sudden becuase Sathane was going to be deployed to Musina and it was going to be a long distance relationship. Sathane is in the SANDF, and he is Zulu. It is safe to assume that he most likely a clean looking guy, millitary men tend to have a lot of discipline, they are in good shape, they walk straight and walk tall, they have good posture and they are very masculine presenting. They are in the military. I understand why she would be attracted to him in the first place. I wouldn't judge her for that. She claims she was love bombed and how she got money from him but there are no details about what she actually got from him and what he did for her. So I will take as, after that 1 night stand, he did not abandon her and forget her. He gave her a lot of attention and sold her dreams like he wants to be a committed man. She took it as if he wanted a relationship and that is not wrong of her. You hook up with a man within a few weeks of knowing him, he leaves to go to another province and you are based in another province. uSisi is based in Joburg, the guy is from KZN and he could be anywhere at anytime because of his work, he could have easily treated her like a 1 night stand but he didn't he kept calling her her and giving her attention. Sathane is calling her everyday, video calling her, giving her a lot of attention, getting jealous whenever she mentions a man like a coworker and step uncle and such. uSisi has her own money, she had a job that took her places and she got to travel around SA with her job. She was still employed during the pandemic (this story is from 2021), working from home, saving money from all the commuting she won't be doing and such. I am getting the idea that she did not want a man that would provide for her. And you know working black women, the moment they deem themselves to be financially stable they get to the stage where they want a man who will complete the picture, a man with a job and such but they don't have standards for such a man. Owamie actually interviews ALL LOT OF WOMEN who have no standards for men like uSisi and they just want men for the sake of not being single and these men scam them. I can tell Owamie does not want to push further but she is an experienced interviewer and an active listener and she knows how a lot of these financially stable black women think. Their lack of standards and self-esteem is what makes them victims of these men in the first place. Black men are not that hard to profile if you pay enough attention. At 23 minutes, she talks about princess treatment but she is actually talking about how her stepfather treated her and raised her. Her step father raised her as his own daughter. While talking about her step father, she mentions that she shared a bed with her step uncle. I will say it now, this lady has already told us that she is not in her twenties and she is a whole 'mam khulu', she is not a victim because she was young, naive and groomed. No. This grown woman told a man she was in speaking terms with that she is sleeping in the smae bed as her uncle in her uncle's house. Who the hell shares a bed with their uncle? She does not have boundaries on her own, and she is not privy to social and cultural norms at her big age. It is abnormal to share a whole bed with your uncle, let alone a step uncle, unless you are one big family in the sharing the same room, you would still let the uncle sleep on the floor. The uncle knows that he is not related to her in any kind of way, other uncles even molest their own blood nje. She told us that and this was before the whole brain damage. At 25-30 min, u guy calls her to see him the Free State. They booked to go to a place in Ladybrand for a weekend. Ladybrand is a small place so they didn't do much, so you can image what she meant when she said the weekend was great. Now, Mr 20 years is back in the picture, given the stunt with the step uncle and Mr 20 years, uSisi does not have boundaries, she still talks to a man that has been courting her for years. You can imagine what the conversation is like between a grown woman with no boundaries and a man who has liked her for 20 years. At 40 min we know that he has confronted her and tortured her. And she has 'confessed' that she was cheating or exploring her options. But why the abuse? Why not leave her and such. This is where the money part comes in and this where most black women get caught by black men. This man knows that uSisi is beautiful, she works well and she has a good life going on for herself so far without him and he knows has options. She has a whole other man that talks to her, this Mr 20 years. I said it earlier that uSisi got nothing but attention and dick from u guy because she drove all the way to the Free State to see him after that one night stand and all of the calls and attention and dream selling. After beating her up, he demanded that she drive him back to the millitary base. Then he does not want her to leave so he holds her laptop ransom and demands R15k. The man was broke vele. This is a woman who does not mind building a man or going 50/50. The man knows she has 15k to give in the first place, he has been through her phone, so we can assume he has seen some some bank notification SMSes, we all get then. Remember, this a beautiful educated woman who has her own life to live and her own assets. This is a man in the military who gets deployed to god-knows-where, he is in the bundus most of the time surrounded by other millitary men, he doesn't have the opportunity to meet women like her. And he struck gold when he met her in that small town. He usually meets uneducated women that he can abuse and leave whenever he feels like it. God knows the number of women he has tortured when he was away from home. So why did he abuse her? I mean, she is such a catch, she is pretty, she has money, she lives a privileged life. This is that type of woman that would need to be protected. However, this is what happens when you have low self-esteem as a woman, when you have no boundaries and you don't know your worth. You either date men who have not achieved as much as, you thinking that your education and money will level the power balance or man will a appreciate you when you are better than him. We know these women, she is one of the. She thought her degree didn't matter because she has a man, she thought her car isn't a big achievement because now she has a man, she thought her assets didn't matter because now she has a man. But these women FAIL to recognise that they are too good for these men and they make themselves accessible for these men and these men do not know how to appreciate them. Sathane knows that he will never meet a woman like her again. So what did he do? He can't buy her things and fly out her for baecations to keep her. We know nothing about what Sathane and what he owns, so let's assume he has no property and assets. He knows he can't do anything to keep her so he used what a lot of abusive men use to keep women that are too good for them but have low self-esteem and low self-worth. Sathane is a millitary men, you just need matric to be in the millitary. We don't know what he has achieved for himself ever since he joined the military. He made her a victim, he treated her like she trash so that he could make her good enough for him. If you stumble upon a lambo, and you know you should not have a lambo because you don't deserve it. You don't know how to appreciate a lambo and what it can offer you what do you do? You devalue it and treat the lambo like trash. You want to show the world that even though this is a lambo, this is trash because I treat it like trash. But unlike cars, women need to be aware of their achievements and worth. They should have strict standards and boundaries for men. Otherwise you will give access to men who were not supposed to have you and be with you in the first place. These men won't know how to appreciate you, or keep up with you or keep you around them. They will use violence and threaten you, devalue you, publicly humiliate you so that they can convince the world that you are trash and that they should get away with treating 'trash' like 'trash'. Look at Keke Palmer. But this is my essay just from 47 min of wtaching this. Let me contiinue watching it and see what else she'll say about uSathane. Remember we are 47 min in, she has already been devalues, victimesed and abused and she nows herself the way he sees her. I am not surprised she is protecting him, DV victms do that.

[@amogelangcedriccedric2433]

Did that woman just say the prosecutor said she was using her tears to favour her case? the poor lady is blatantly being denied justice. At some point she was even asked by the prosecutor to withdraw her case? WHT!!! If the prosecutor is of the opinion that s/he the case is not worth prosecution he should issue a certificate to that effect to enable the complainant to pursue private prosecution. This is a standard procedure. The fact that she had been asked by the prosecutor to withdraw her case questions the credibility of the assigned prosecutor. He must have been threatened against the prosecution of the case because this is unacceptable. I really hope she get a good legal team on her side to push for a proper prosecution of her case. She should sue that guy for the injuries she has sustained attributable to that guy's conduct. the fact that a matter is being prosecuted does not bar her from proceeding with civil claims against him.

[@noxzienocturnal4544]

It has been three days that I have been trying to get through this interview because I really wanted to hear her story, unfortunately it was so incoherent that there are so many questions left unanswered. Another thing was her trying to make light of some moments but I think that was mostly for herself than for us the audience given that she blames herself. I would've liked for her to be more forthcoming but given that the case is still on going, it's probably for the best that she didn't divulge too much. I hope she gets better and that doctors can find a way to stop the progression of her brain injury.

[@Jaca-2Lindy]

I decided to stop because i am finding it difficult to follow

[@mizko1407]

@unfiltered kedi I know you are watching. Congratulate your friend. Say something about this series. Can't just be saying negative things only all the time

[@zanele3374]

Bathong 😂😂😂😂

[@boldlyowamie]

Bathong😂😂😂😂

[@mamawegirlz4309]

😂😂😂😂

[@rose-maynyamombe1407]

I've shared a bed with 3 of my male friends (at different times) and we were soo cool. I've also sometimes slept in my uncle's bachelor pad with him sleeping on the floor. Trust is everything.

[@KanyaS7]

Owamie, please advise this lady to properly rehearse before she'll have to testify in court.. If he has a Great legal team, they will tear her to sheds on the stands. Remember, legal processes don't consider emotions and feelings like we do..

[@lauremoleka1950]

Yes but they do consider disabilities, which she now has

[@vuvumofficial]

This case needs to be taken to high court....

[@jessey141]

I'm so sorry y😢😢 you're very brave and thank God you're here. Please don't apologise you spoke well and thank you for sharing...you're helping many people ❤❤❤