Wife Mismanages Potentially Valid Self-Defense Claim | Jema Donahue Case Analysis

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Dr. Todd Grande

Dr. Todd Grande

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@roberttalbot1658
@roberttalbot1658 Жыл бұрын
At least she "took out the trash". He won't be around to ruin any more lives.
@Earthbound369
@Earthbound369 Жыл бұрын
No big loss.
@Kangaroojack1986
@Kangaroojack1986 Жыл бұрын
1 less career criminal
@205ken4
@205ken4 Жыл бұрын
Yep! Including herself. Both were nothing but scum that we’re all better off w/o.
@paulx3827
@paulx3827 Жыл бұрын
she has to be punished for not doing it sooner,25$ fine on probation,that will teach her
@robertkrepek2561
@robertkrepek2561 Жыл бұрын
Yeah F that N.
@Violexie-wb7op
@Violexie-wb7op Жыл бұрын
I knew this was going downhill once Dr. Grande said she met him in prison. Lord why. 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️
@bunnymad5049
@bunnymad5049 Жыл бұрын
I did prison ministry for 5 years. Goodness me, those males can be charming when they want to be. I had one, my very first time in, ask questions and I was concentrating so hard on giving vague answers yet he managed to work out where I worked and wrote to me. I was floored and it was a good lesson. He was getting out soon and wanted someone to come out to, to help him go straight etc. I took the letter to our ministry leader and he helped me further re answering probing questions and told me to chuck it and never write back. I did exactly that. Another was nice and charming - yeah - I'd still have NEVER let him out, but the parole board did and within 6 weeks he murdered a young woman. They let him out early "cos he did a course". Like ... 🤦‍♀
@Violexie-wb7op
@Violexie-wb7op Жыл бұрын
@Bunny Mad wowwww thanks for sharing that wild story. And yeah these people have nothing to lose and everything to gain so I'm sure they look for vulnerable or kind and naive women to attach themselves to.
@19katsandcounting
@19katsandcounting Жыл бұрын
She learned early on that she cannot trust authority including her parents, or most people in general. Her survival strategy was to be nice to get by, to get basic needs met, and not expect more. And always stay vigilant, she didn’t have the luxury of focusing on herself. She carried this into adulthood, because this doesn’t just go away without serious reprogramming. That always attracts psychopaths, and gives too much confidence in dealing with them. You learn early how to live with them and are comfortable with it. Until one day your survival instincts are triggered.
@Buzzbuzz444
@Buzzbuzz444 Жыл бұрын
Very well said
@shweefranglais7900
@shweefranglais7900 Жыл бұрын
Sounds about right.
@laurenmorgan9946
@laurenmorgan9946 Жыл бұрын
This is me
@ruthokelley5833
@ruthokelley5833 Жыл бұрын
This incident shows how a person traps themselves and can see no way out! These individuals were damaged people feeding off each other’s weaknesses…at the bottom of the emotional entrapment, no logical reasoning was available to process…no love or hate was present…just a broken person with a gun to fix the problem! Heartbreaking…
@MrStringybark
@MrStringybark Жыл бұрын
One important point to me was that she didn't plan it beforehand otherwise she would have researched the best way to take advantage of the BWS laws and acted in a way to take advantage of them.
@coffeecat086
@coffeecat086 Жыл бұрын
Why in the freaking world would someone bully someone for being raped? I was a victim of bullying for disabilities which I get because kids can legit be frightened by it, but I’d think knowing something horrible like that, I’d think the kids would be sad and upset for her
@benjamindover4337
@benjamindover4337 Жыл бұрын
Because its common for women to have sex, regret it, and then later declare it was rape, causing the man to suffer undue punishment.
@coffeecat086
@coffeecat086 Жыл бұрын
@@benjamindover4337 I understand in the situation where both of them are adults, and that makes it sketchy af to take true case’s seriously, but she was a child and didn’t want it reported. Mostly though , she was a child. That’s the disconnect that is weird to me.
@benjamindover4337
@benjamindover4337 Жыл бұрын
@@coffeecat086 she later had a baby at age 16.. so at what point does one stop being a child?
@lostandfound5145
@lostandfound5145 Жыл бұрын
@@benjamindover4337 the human brain doesn’t stop growing until age 25. Just because one system is partially functional does not mean the animal is through adolescence
@finallyanonymity
@finallyanonymity Жыл бұрын
@@lostandfound5145 are you saying that every man having a sex with woman under 25 is a rapist and should be thrown in jail?
@renee1961
@renee1961 Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry Jema went through that, and at 13!
@daniellavaladez7820
@daniellavaladez7820 Жыл бұрын
And I can’t believe she was bullied for being raped, why the fuck does our society choose to blame the victims instead of the rapist? I feel so sorry for her, no one should ever go through what she did.
@vorynrosethorn903
@vorynrosethorn903 Жыл бұрын
Bloody travesty what happened afterwards as well.
@claudinejames7731
@claudinejames7731 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Dr. Grande for covering this sad but enlightening story. My first husband was a beater. One time he almost killed me, our landlady had to pull him off. I had lesions and my head was completely black and blue, both eyes swollen shut. That happened less than a year into the marraige a few months after the birth of our first daughter. He continued to hit me, not to that extent any more. But what lead me to tell him to leave was one day when I came home earlier than expected and found him naked in bed with our nine year old daughter. This completely shocked me. Our other daughter, now 50 years old has a wonderful relationship with her father, who she told me had also sexually abused her, although not to the extent as our youngest daughter was. I can't stand the sight of him and have not spoken to him in 40 years. I know I have trauma shock from beatings from my father , a light weight boxer, and from a football player when I was in university whom I had one date, he beat me unconscious, I was in and out of consciousness for a few days. I wanted to kill my x-husband for many years for what he did to our youngest daughter. I was fortunate to have had good friends and therapy. Still, I wish he was dead. My little girl was so small at age nine, this still breaks my heart. I am married to a completely non-violent man now for almost 30 years, surprised I could have a relationship. Thanks to God and good people we can get well.
@ernestoperfekto4055
@ernestoperfekto4055 Жыл бұрын
theres a high chance hes still abusing children to this day, u need to report him even if its tough
@almightyyt2101
@almightyyt2101 2 ай бұрын
Thats weird - your saying he definitely abused both kids they both acknowledge it - he never faced consequences and yet he has a great relationship w them both?
@GrumpyCat-mw5xl
@GrumpyCat-mw5xl Жыл бұрын
Seems to me she killed him because he was stalking her and wouldn’t leave her alone. There needs to be better ways to stop this kind of thing before it ends in someone getting killed.
@trevor244
@trevor244 Жыл бұрын
Well you explanation really trumps the doctors. Have you actually listened to what he was saying.
@GrumpyCat-mw5xl
@GrumpyCat-mw5xl Жыл бұрын
@@trevor244 do you listen to grande?“ it’s just a theory my opinion” there are other doctors in the world.
@trevor244
@trevor244 Жыл бұрын
@@GrumpyCat-mw5xl your right but I did like the way he said it.
@GrumpyCat-mw5xl
@GrumpyCat-mw5xl Жыл бұрын
@@trevor244 grande is a very intelligent man. IMO
@jenna6082
@jenna6082 Жыл бұрын
I am only three minutes into this and I already feel terrible for the childhood Jema experienced.
@lf9341
@lf9341 Жыл бұрын
Me too but she chose that crackhead convict over her children.
@standupp698
@standupp698 Жыл бұрын
Finally crawling in bed for the night and having lots of anxiety and tension. Couldn't get relaxed, so clearly I typed "Dr. Grande" into the search bar for instant anxiety relief. You do so much more than educate and entertain. You have talked me to sleep many times. If you had a second channel dedicated to reading bedtime stories I bet you would have a really good following 😊
@bthomson
@bthomson Жыл бұрын
A channel that although it covers true crime often still provides reason and clarity!
@205ken4
@205ken4 Жыл бұрын
I have bad anxiety in the mornings and Dr Grande’s videos help me also
@standupp698
@standupp698 Жыл бұрын
@@205ken4 something so calming about his entire personality! He is my comfort channel.
@205ken4
@205ken4 Жыл бұрын
@@standupp698 I agree 100% I literally save watching his content for morning time b/c that’d when my anxiety is at its highest
@mattblom3990
@mattblom3990 Жыл бұрын
I had a narcissistic ex who used to say "hate is closer to love than calm". For some people, sadly, rage and violence are strong emotions and acts that they can relate to and a calm, caring love doesn't appeal to them.
@bthomson
@bthomson Жыл бұрын
Wow! This is sad but true!
@lulumoon6942
@lulumoon6942 Жыл бұрын
How revealing... And hope you're healing from that relationship.
@bigbettybloom9107
@bigbettybloom9107 Жыл бұрын
Yupp, I have toxic family members like this that I absolutely can’t stand being around. They love drama. They thrive off of it. I honestly don’t understand it.
@patsysmothermon7861
@patsysmothermon7861 Жыл бұрын
I can't help but feel sorry for this very confused lady !! She was So Abused by this Monster !! He really deserved what he got, in my opinion. He was Pure Evil !! 😈
@kyreeseq
@kyreeseq Жыл бұрын
As much as I value life and would be okay with him rotting in jail, this is still self defense. He introduced a gun into the situation, the same gun was used against him - that is very much what they teach you in self defense classes. I can see she made up a lot about how it went down, but I kinda feel like she just didn't have it in her to admit she had enough, he escalated the situation and she shot him when she had the chance. That is what got her the manslaughter charge, in my personal opinion. Appreciate your insight as always!
@DarkPhoenix7745
@DarkPhoenix7745 Жыл бұрын
I know her story had some holes but tbh I just can't bring myself to care one bit when someone abuses a person for years and then they finally get what they had coming to them. I would never convict someone who had been abused like that.
@ember1794
@ember1794 Жыл бұрын
You said it perfectly! I just can't bring myself to care - Good riddance
@bobbymoore8
@bobbymoore8 Жыл бұрын
Your opinion will have been different if the victim was white and the culprit black.
@ember1794
@ember1794 Жыл бұрын
@@bobbymoore8 No, why? My abuser was white
@hhlagen
@hhlagen Жыл бұрын
Agreed
@Violexie-wb7op
@Violexie-wb7op Жыл бұрын
Yeah same dude 🤷🏾‍♀️
@hayleybourgault4114
@hayleybourgault4114 Жыл бұрын
What a coincidence! I just watched an episode of I am a killer on Netflix last night. Her story was one of them. I don't know why people think that they will get away with murder. They rarely do. Thanks Dr.G. for all your hard work.💜
@kyuubifox33
@kyuubifox33 Жыл бұрын
Wasn’t murder. Was self defense.
@michelleayala02
@michelleayala02 Жыл бұрын
It was murder
@mario-qi3yw
@mario-qi3yw Жыл бұрын
Good day Dr Grande😊I agree with you on she had every right to claim self defense.
@mimidebrose
@mimidebrose Жыл бұрын
You are doing a very awesome job Dr. Grande! You put out more high quality videos than any other channel. Thank you!
@shethingsd
@shethingsd Жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande, is there any child equivalent to Battered Woman Syndrome? I watched a review a couple of days ago where it had the two youngest children put on death row, a brother and sister who made several attempts to tell parents, teachers, and investigations by CPS and police which didn't help them at all. They were being sexually abused by an uncle who was a registered sex offender and living in the home with the father and her sister. They planned the murder of all three adults in the home as they'd asked father and girlfriend for help before. It ended up they only killed the girlfriend and then got scared. They didn't tell their defense attorneys about the abuse because they'd told so many people before and no one helped them. I've never heard a defense for children. But they are more vulnerable than women because if no one believes or will help them, they really can't just leave unlike an adult woman who has more options. I think of the Melendez brothers. Of course, they didn't reach out for help like the children in the case I am talking about. The children in that case ended up having some changes to their sentences and got out at 29 and 30 years old or so, I believe. They were 13 and 12 when they murdered their dad's girlfriend. Any insight would be great.
@shethingsd
@shethingsd Жыл бұрын
The children I was talking about is Catherine and Curtis Jones.
@bruceyung70
@bruceyung70 Жыл бұрын
I love your channel! Thank you, sir!
@leylamoody3177
@leylamoody3177 Жыл бұрын
Excellent analysis, Dr. Grande! ❤️
@redjasper9458
@redjasper9458 Жыл бұрын
I know my thoughts are extreme on this but I think if there is a restraining order and that person is violating it then you have every right to pull the trigger as much as it takes to get your life back.
@angelinparadise7282
@angelinparadise7282 Жыл бұрын
I agree with you. Once the retraining order is given, since its proven it was the other person who violated it, anything that happens later should be considered self defense.
@Danielle-nz9tn
@Danielle-nz9tn Жыл бұрын
You meant if a person IS violating the restraining order, right?
@redjasper9458
@redjasper9458 Жыл бұрын
@@Danielle-nz9tn OH YES! That's a typo. My bad.
@Ipetam
@Ipetam Жыл бұрын
I agree. A restraining order is a piece of paper, and you're trusting that the person on the receiving end will respect it. To me, if you've gotten this far that you need a restraining order then this person probably doesn't respect you in the first place. Restraining orders are useless when it comes to actual safety.
@hdm6897
@hdm6897 Жыл бұрын
Having a relationship with a convict period is a no go !but Leaving a convicted felon you just met with your children is totally preposterous and completely irresponsible; what an extremely dumb decision !
@Danielle-nz9tn
@Danielle-nz9tn Жыл бұрын
Yep! And thinking he was rehabilitated? How?! From his stay in prison!?? Yes, we all know what a positive rehabilitating place prison is!!! 🙄
@fardrives
@fardrives Жыл бұрын
Really great take on self defense! I don't think many people are losing sleep about an abusive crack dealer.
@205ken4
@205ken4 Жыл бұрын
I’m not but I wouldn’t loose any sleep over her type no longer being with us either 🤷🏻‍♂️
@hindisikhnewaalaa
@hindisikhnewaalaa Жыл бұрын
@@205ken4 Why does she seem to you an expendable undesirable?
@lf9341
@lf9341 Жыл бұрын
It's infuriating that she let him watch her kids.
@OneBadAssMoMo
@OneBadAssMoMo Жыл бұрын
@@205ken4 what makes her disposable?
@kyuubifox33
@kyuubifox33 Жыл бұрын
@@205ken4 That’s a nicely polished bad take you’ve hit there
@kellyanni5092
@kellyanni5092 Жыл бұрын
Perfect timing! Thanks Dr. Grande😉
@bellyfulochelly4222
@bellyfulochelly4222 Жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande, I'm so grateful that you just read the ads from your sponsors now. I like to fall sleep listening your soothing voice, but the standard ads usually wake me up, which defeats the purpose. You reading the ads maintains that ASMR-type flow, helping me to fall asleep and stay asleep. Btw, thank you so much for tucking me into bed every night these past couple of years. Know that you are providing an invaluable service to scores of insomniacs out there! ♥️
@missybishop4996
@missybishop4996 Жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande your speculations are my daily enjoyment. I appreciate you!💓
@SilvioManfredDante85
@SilvioManfredDante85 Жыл бұрын
I'm not surprised by any of this!
@seanledig1431
@seanledig1431 Жыл бұрын
I like your show, but if I were on that jury, the only things I would find her guilty of were tampering with evidence and mistreatment of a corpse. In cases of battered spouses, it's no uncommon for the abuser to exercise extreme control over the victim, hence why she didn't flee the house when he called her to the basement. As far as the gun not working and then working, that happens all the time, particularly when you have a cheap gun and/or cheap ammo. Common crooks aren't known for using quality weapons or for taking care of them. Lastly, while some parts of the story don't seem to match up, in a struggle, things change in fractions of a second. Also, someone hyped up on adrenaline or certain drugs, like meth, can keep moving even after suffering a fatal injury. Just my thoughts.
@daveatkins3568
@daveatkins3568 Жыл бұрын
What’s up DOC G ! Putting ‘‘em out late night. Happy New Year’s buddy 🎉😎✌🏼
@kristenmeza4295
@kristenmeza4295 Жыл бұрын
I saw this in Netflix’s ‘I am a Killer.’ A lot of these killers have one thing, stories don’t add up.
@lulumoon6942
@lulumoon6942 Жыл бұрын
That makes sense!
@ledzep3692
@ledzep3692 Жыл бұрын
I knew them both. It was hard to watch because I know for a fact that Jemma was a meth addict. They both went to Pennsylvania to kick the habit. When they got back to knob Noster, she got back on meth. He was frustrated with her continued use of the drug. She murdered him because he didn't bring meth to her. Her continued lies just prove that she isn't remorseful.
@tlove5287
@tlove5287 8 күн бұрын
I just seen her episode on Netflix and there NO WAY that's was self defense !!! The evidence is point blank speaking for itself ...if he got shot that many times expecially in the mouth ....there's no way he said what she said!! No way !! And she had him buried where everyone does dope...she is guilty and Its crazy people actually believe her 😅
@walkerpantera
@walkerpantera Жыл бұрын
my eyebrow raised when she said he left her upstairs to go to basement after he locked the door and windows...with what....deadbolts??? my first thought was wgy didnt she just go out the window OR if he locked the door, how did she get out to go to the basement when he supposedly called her down there? she was an idiot for getting involved with a freshly released convict anyway.
@jaxsmith1204
@jaxsmith1204 Жыл бұрын
"She was an idiot for getting involved with a convict" Why? She was no better than him lol. She was a drug addict and loved the drugs he supplied. She was with him for a reason, she's no angel. Her self defense story is a lie. That "convict" was the victim. Remember that.
@Family4ever_41
@Family4ever_41 11 ай бұрын
I agree. I scrolled through so many comments to find someone who wrote this. I'm not saying that abuse didn't happen, but am I the only person seeing holes in her story? Besides the prosecuting attorny??
@Sofiaode18
@Sofiaode18 8 ай бұрын
@@jaxsmith1204She was a rape victim on a self destructive path, you have a whole lotta empathy for a POS man but not her.
@rejaneoliveira5019
@rejaneoliveira5019 Жыл бұрын
I watched this case on Netflix and I was hoping you would cover it, so happy you did it! Thank you for the comprehensive review, Dr. Grande.❤
@roberttalbot1658
@roberttalbot1658 Жыл бұрын
Dr Grande, .... I miss your jabs at the "Garbage State" of New Jersey. Please for your fans, please put in the occasional jab at N.J. ! 😃
@ninachkah13
@ninachkah13 Жыл бұрын
As a Jersey resident who loves this state, I very much enjoy the jabs as well!
@ninachkah13
@ninachkah13 Жыл бұрын
@Strummer Cash I love that! Thank u! To be completely transparent, I've had a very awful day and I thank you for putting a smile on my face :) many blessings for the new year ahead 🙏🏻
@nimsa2000
@nimsa2000 Жыл бұрын
Hello 👋 good Dr. Grande 😀 thank you for posting, I love ❤️ your speculations and analysis ❤️ have a great Doc!
@MEL2theJ
@MEL2theJ 17 күн бұрын
Back to watch again. Thank you Dr. Grande 🙏
@MrStringybark
@MrStringybark Жыл бұрын
This is what happens when you can't afford a decent lawyer.
@bthomson
@bthomson Жыл бұрын
"Decent lawyer" I think I'll just let that sit a moment?
@user-xg3uy6hq9g
@user-xg3uy6hq9g Жыл бұрын
women's shelters help you disappear
@grumpyoldlady_rants
@grumpyoldlady_rants Жыл бұрын
Exactly. I believe Kyle Rittenhouse would be serving life in prison if not for the hundreds of thousands of $$$ the far-right donated to his legal defense.
@kswindl
@kswindl Жыл бұрын
What? How so?
@MrStringybark
@MrStringybark Жыл бұрын
@@bthomson Now, now, don't be pedantic. Surely, there must be at least one.😂😂
@HeleneLouise
@HeleneLouise Жыл бұрын
What a beautiful background with the ambient lighting and cactus motif. Very artistic.
@hotsauce1646
@hotsauce1646 Жыл бұрын
Love and responcebility are a strange combination when it comes to a abusive relationship. It always gets out of hand somehow. And it does not have to end in murder for most of the time one person in this type of relationship gets a life of terror and fear . It's easy to say " just walk away or just don't go for any person with this abusive trait. But it's not that simple. Abusers know who to pick and sweet talk themselfs into your life , by the time you get hit it's to far into the relationship. It takes a realy strong minded person to leave then and there if that first hit comes. And beleave me those are rare.
@brandyjohnson8953
@brandyjohnson8953 Жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande, look into the case known as the chalk gun killer , Fort Worth , Tx. As far as I know no one has posted about it. It's pretty interesting
@michellecolombo9087
@michellecolombo9087 Жыл бұрын
As almost ALL homeschool parents will say: Forced Association is NOT Socialization. As a homeschool mother, my kids are very social with people from babies to elderly, not just kids their own ages. Oh yeah, they also graduated college before they graduated high school. Just sayin
@THE-id1by
@THE-id1by Жыл бұрын
Aren't families forced associations?
@angelinparadise7282
@angelinparadise7282 Жыл бұрын
@@THE-id1by good point. Also, in the real world you will meet people you will have to put up with, or be forced to associate with. I'm not against home schooling, but I think it's important to enroll kids in activities where they'll also be around people they dont like and who dont like them.
@julianhanna37
@julianhanna37 Жыл бұрын
Yeah so ur kids have no friends, very healthy for them, it's not because they can talk politely to old people in a store does not mean u did ur job, my life long friends i met at school we've been an inseparable group of 5 since almost 20 years, how in the hell are your kids supposed to have friends and or survive in college
@user-ty3dd2ez8o
@user-ty3dd2ez8o 18 күн бұрын
That's so sad that they don't have any friends the same age as them . Education is important but it's just as important to be able to integrate with others.
@emilyk9388
@emilyk9388 Жыл бұрын
I’m from rural Missouri, not far from some of the locations cited. There are probably as many meth houses as there are “houses of the Lord.” I’m guessing she may have concealed his death to avoid losing access to her children. Even with a legitimate self-defense claim, she may have been trying to avoid drawing attention to conditions or behaviors that could raise concerns. In the same way, her homeschooling could have been implemented to shroud abuse. She may have kept questionable people in her life and around her kids because it’s what she had modeled for her and/or her judgment was seriously impaired by substances. I feel for her suffering, but I can’t support her choices.
@Violexie-wb7op
@Violexie-wb7op Жыл бұрын
Well said, agreed.
@damnmuggle
@damnmuggle Жыл бұрын
Gema talks about that she was abusing drugs etc and has been taking classes and doing programs while in jail
@madalfromuk4729
@madalfromuk4729 Жыл бұрын
Two points 1 how did he get in the house,2whos gun was it ,I think he was entrapped into the house
@lulumoon6942
@lulumoon6942 Жыл бұрын
Former DV/SV Victim Advocate, including of teens. I can confirm bullying is common, including of adults! 👀
@gailkelly4651
@gailkelly4651 Жыл бұрын
Hello Dr Grande...this is a strange one. As always I love reading your videos and seeing you. Thank you for your analysis of all these cases. ♥️🌷
@spiritualtruthseeker1947
@spiritualtruthseeker1947 Жыл бұрын
I think that Jema lost it after years of abuse. He would not go away and had intimidated her into taking him back multiple times. She felt helpless and just took him out. She likely thought he was going to kill her when he came to the house, as she probably did every time he violated the restraining order. He’s not much of a loss to society and if he wasn’t dead, he would have ultimately killed Jema or another woman. This may seem cold, but I don’t care.
@armyantlocsta
@armyantlocsta Жыл бұрын
I knew them BOTH….but especially Jema.
@MandaPanda0929
@MandaPanda0929 Жыл бұрын
Really weird I just watched the Netflix series I am a Killer with Jema's story. This is such a strange case, because I do believe he was very violent but her actions afterwards weren't the best. I feel bad for her and think her sentence though is justified, it was manslaughter- not murder just in the fact that she had a restraining order against him and he brought a gun to her house. Great analysis Dr Grande!
@candicane1
@candicane1 Жыл бұрын
Here’s a take away: If you kill someone and claim self-defense, please report it immediately to the authorities. If you don’t, you’re doing a cover-up and they can charge and convict you for murder!
@queenasmerrose3644
@queenasmerrose3644 7 ай бұрын
Right I don't understand why they buried him instead if calling the police
@sacmom3
@sacmom3 Жыл бұрын
Hi Dr. Grande. Could you please do an analysis on George Santos and his many lies?
@AliValentine143
@AliValentine143 Жыл бұрын
Hey he did it for you! Thanks for asking it was more interesting than I guessed it could be. 😀
@sunnycatc6491
@sunnycatc6491 Жыл бұрын
Happy New Year 🎉 to my fellow fans of Dr. Grande, and to himself. Now, this title isn't the most catchy, but of course I'll watch anyway. 😉
@bedlambikes
@bedlambikes Жыл бұрын
Dr Grande, how about the case of Mandy Stavik?? It'd be great to hear your analysis.
@georgemonde8237
@georgemonde8237 Жыл бұрын
She knows how to pick em
@jenz5607
@jenz5607 Жыл бұрын
Jema may have experienced dissociation that is not uncommon among children who have been traumatized and who continue to be traumatized in adulthood. She really may not have a clear picture of the events on the day of the shooting. Many abused women live under the constant threat that they will be killed. Psychologically it makes sense that when they are attacked, they engage in "overkill" as all of the years of terror are released at once. I hope her and her children receive the care and compassion they deserve.
@theresabromar5415
@theresabromar5415 Жыл бұрын
An excellent comment.
@MachineGunKali
@MachineGunKali Жыл бұрын
I love listening to this man. His calm voice and intelligent use of sarcasm. Plus I learn so much. Annnnnd his facial expressions don’t change. 😂 Also, I know worked with a man who was Javon’s friend. We were at work one day, and during downtime, we were watching an episode on this couple. My coworker said “she didn’t have to kill that man like that.” I asked him “was he actually beating on her?” he said “Yeah but still.” 😒😒
@acepilotson3331
@acepilotson3331 Жыл бұрын
Classic case of “if you lay down with dogs, you’re bound to get fleas”. Who could’ve ever seen it ending like this, except everyone. 🤷‍♂️
@grumpyoldlady_rants
@grumpyoldlady_rants Жыл бұрын
If there was a protection order against Javon and he entered her home, wouldn’t laws like the castle doctrine or stand your ground be a valid defense?
@michelleayala02
@michelleayala02 Жыл бұрын
I just watched this episode on Netflix and I have to say, there are a lot of holes in what she’s saying. Something of things she said he was doing and saying seem near impossible. I can’t imagine someone shot in their shoulder can restle their “victim” to the ground, while thrashing their arms. The other thing that doesn’t make sense is if the hun jammed when he supposedly tried to shoot her, how all of a sudden she was able to shoot him? And where is the mark on her head from him hitting her over the head with the gun? How was he able to point the gun at his left ear if his head is right next to hers? And of course she paid someone to get rid of his body. Who is believing this story??
@j.h.6081
@j.h.6081 Жыл бұрын
As a mom, having a guy who's been released from prison watch your kids sound like a horrible idea. Dating him in the first place doesn't sound much better.
@lostandfound5145
@lostandfound5145 Жыл бұрын
My thoughts too, I cringe to think of how he treated those children 😢
@lostandfound5145
@lostandfound5145 Жыл бұрын
@Pat Luxor the only correct way to handle a pit bull is with a 9mm at close range 😉
@Faristol7
@Faristol7 Жыл бұрын
J.H. Spot on. I don't feel sorry for anyone who makes terrible dating decisions and imposes violent partners upon their children. I feel sorry for her children, but not her.
@dankadesign7462
@dankadesign7462 Жыл бұрын
@@lostandfound5145 agree and i know what you mean but having pit bulls dogs i know how great they are and should not be compared with this human trash.
@DottieMinerva
@DottieMinerva Жыл бұрын
And letting him watch your kids alone.
@NBF1865
@NBF1865 Жыл бұрын
At least he won't hurt any else justice served 😉
@ammantophori
@ammantophori 5 ай бұрын
Yep that's Missouri
@justinv588
@justinv588 6 ай бұрын
There is an easy explanation for the gun misfire. If it was a double action only semiauto, a round can misfire and when the firing pin hits the round again, it will go off. I've had it happen a couple times with my gun.
@KoolT
@KoolT Жыл бұрын
LISTEN to the ending people. Love IS NEVER VIOLENT
@sambennett7606
@sambennett7606 Жыл бұрын
Cover the Margeret Kastanis case please!
@dianajane6185
@dianajane6185 Жыл бұрын
Great analysis, Dr. Grande. Thank you.😊
@ninachkah13
@ninachkah13 Жыл бұрын
Here early for one of the only rational, and still fabulously hilarious people in these youtube streets
@HollywoodBazzey-nu5oe
@HollywoodBazzey-nu5oe Жыл бұрын
Doctor Grande you is a boss you explain this whole situation perfectly because the people in the comment section their take on the situation is one-sided
@AnnaBelll.e
@AnnaBelll.e Жыл бұрын
This is so sad.
@werewally3156
@werewally3156 Жыл бұрын
One way to clear a misfire in a rimfire pistol, if it has a double action is to simply squeeze the trigger a second or third time. The primers of .22 rimfire ammunition can fail, id say maybe at least two out of a box of 500. It happens.
@rayross997
@rayross997 Жыл бұрын
Please cover Jane Stafford, her story is told in the KZbin available movie Life With Billy.
@kyuubifox33
@kyuubifox33 Жыл бұрын
Her being found guilty of manslaughter was a miscarriage of Justice. Her abuser should have never been in her home with a court order against him. End of story
@mitzi66
@mitzi66 Жыл бұрын
What a terrible situation to be in! Who wouldn't be scared of not getting fair treatment by the law, and who would be thinking straight after that? The poor woman chose the law by getting a restraining order, but it didn't protect her, sounds like she didn't have a choice,good riddance, I'm sick of violent men! She should be free!
@hrdley911
@hrdley911 Жыл бұрын
Great life choices on her part...
@SweetUniverse
@SweetUniverse Жыл бұрын
A temporary restraining order? How about a permanent restraining order? Is that possible??
@kuroneko7022
@kuroneko7022 Жыл бұрын
Why the hell was she hooking up with a drug dealer who was in prison when she has two children??? These women make some helluva decisions when it comes to relationships. His killing is no loss to society but now she’s separated from her kids and has a felony on her record for life. smh
@SandyRiverBlue
@SandyRiverBlue Жыл бұрын
What are we doing as a society if a convicted rapist only gets 120 days in prison?
@mathewbowyer2221
@mathewbowyer2221 Жыл бұрын
Hey Dr. Grande, Could you do one on Brian "The Liver King" Johnson and male body dysmorphia?
@mm7886
@mm7886 Жыл бұрын
I watched the story on Netflix. After watching the show I think law enforcement and the DA should have used self defense. Jema shouldn't be in prison. Because Jema had a restraining order against her abuser. He knowingly and willingly violated the restraining order, trespassed into the home, attacked her, threatened her with a firearm, assaulted her and he said he was going to kill her. She fought back and he died. But the DA ran with manslaughter/ battered woman syndrome instead of agreeing to self defense. When it should have been a clear as day self defense and Jema should not have been charged with anything. The DA got it wrong. Jury got it wrong too.
@rickshelton1955
@rickshelton1955 Жыл бұрын
Typical relationship in these circumstances
@barbieblue3336
@barbieblue3336 Жыл бұрын
Some people I think mistake jealousy & desire for control for "love " - what was her parents' marriage like? Will re-eatch to see if you addressed that.
@Arizona_lilly
@Arizona_lilly Жыл бұрын
Very true home school especially teenagers should be in public schools
@sydneyfairbairn3773
@sydneyfairbairn3773 Жыл бұрын
Jovan did not consider all the possible syllogisms that applied to the facts.
@EdugeBDroN
@EdugeBDroN Жыл бұрын
I guess her mom didn't restrict her enough..not to get knocked up.
@tiffanystarbeck2279
@tiffanystarbeck2279 Жыл бұрын
I just watched her prison story! Wow! So many bad choices.
@carnifaxx
@carnifaxx Жыл бұрын
I think it's important to have BWS aside from PTSD and commonly understood self-defense, because one of the risks when the abuser reaches their victim is not that they would harm the victim, but that they wouldn't - they are very skillful manipulators and the victim knows that and their own weakness toward this behaviour. Like we from far away may of course see it as a completely rational choice (they abuse you - go away), but unfortunately reality doesn't work this simple way. My point is that even though the victim of domestic abuse may not feel threatened by immediate violence, they may still feel very threatened by their own weakness in contact with the abuser and their inability to leave this actual situation in some kind of self-controlled manner. Like if you were a puppet, you cannot just unhook and leave when the hook is still present - you need to cut it off. It may look like overreacting and not a self-defense but how can you explain this thought pattern to anyone when just few years ago home violence was not considered a big deal... and some people don't get what's the problem even today.
@schrecksekunde2118
@schrecksekunde2118 11 ай бұрын
sounds more like "homeschooling ruining a person's social ability to react to extreme social stress" - as so often.
@jasmincampbell8105
@jasmincampbell8105 Жыл бұрын
The behavior afterwards makes me wonder if he was invited there by her; they continued a romantic relationship even after she left him.
@zOOmzity
@zOOmzity Жыл бұрын
Could you please analyze the case of Jennifer San Marco, who killed 7 people and herself in Santa Barbara County, CA in 2006? What possible mental illness could she have been suffering from? Thank you.
@CowSaysMooMoo
@CowSaysMooMoo Жыл бұрын
Can YOU analyze it? What did you determine??
@allencollins9951
@allencollins9951 Жыл бұрын
Dr Grande can you do one on Danny Pelosi
@shellyharry8189
@shellyharry8189 Жыл бұрын
He had it coming
@christopherhernandez271
@christopherhernandez271 Жыл бұрын
Self defense from long term abuse
@annmarie2964
@annmarie2964 Жыл бұрын
🥳 happy new year
@flowerjpotter1629
@flowerjpotter1629 Жыл бұрын
In cases where there's a restraining order but the person turns up with a deadly weapon, it would be much fairer if deadly weapon turned on the abuser meant no charges, but that's just how my head sees it.
@richardthompson5810
@richardthompson5810 Жыл бұрын
Why/how did she fall for and marry such a person in the first place? It sounds like she ran with the wrong crowd from an early age.
@SweetUniverse
@SweetUniverse Жыл бұрын
One of my friends ended up in a relationship like this one. He put her in the hospital twice. When she tried to leave him she hid out at her parents' house. He arrived with a baseball bat and tried to kill her father. Thankfully the police arrived first. I don't think it's right to blame the female in the relationship. Some relationships start out normally. Jealousy can rear its ugly head, along with control issues. Pregnancy can bring out the worst in the husband. Sometimes there were no problems until the wife became pregnant. In my friend's case, the death of her ex-bf (at someone else's hand) was the only thing that saved her. Leaving doesn't help if he finds you and tries to kill you and/ or your family. I'm more interested to know how a person becomes so mentally ill/ violent.
@lostandfound5145
@lostandfound5145 Жыл бұрын
I am a survivor of a 15 yr marriage to an abusive man. I have done a lot of work to understand these relationships so that I could make sense of what I went through. One thing I learned was that these things never spring up out of nowhere. The abuse is always there, the control is always present. Abusive behavior is the result of a personality disorder. Most commonly a cluster B disorder. The brainwashing that occurs can be very subtle but I don’t think healthy individuals get into such relationships, they see the warning signs and leave. Every single survivor I’ve met had a toxic upbringing (often with a parent w/a cluster B PD) and they were accustomed to having their feelings invalidated and they existed in a constant state of feeling unworthy and wanting to “prove” their worth to their partner. It’s brutal, spending years trying to be perfect and believing you’re failing every time they fail to regulate their own emotions. Being responsible for someone else’s emotions is impossible and exhausting. Being an abusive person is often a symptom of cluster B personality disorder. This is caused by upbringing combined with certain personality traits. In my experience abusive people are wholly irrational and incapable of taking criticism or acknowledging wrong doing in a true capacity. They convince themselves that they are the victim and not the perpetrator. Their depth of denial and delusion is frightening.
@kdawson8981
@kdawson8981 Жыл бұрын
@@lostandfound5145 this is the second reply I’ve read of yours on this video. Your insight and genuine care for this situation is amazing! Idk what you do for a living, but I’m thinking “Lost and Found for president 2024” ??? 😊
@rastabincoolie1
@rastabincoolie1 Жыл бұрын
I was with you up until you said something dumb like " dont blame the female in the relationship". Do better. In situations where women are the victim then yes you are correct. But blanket statements cover and hide the issues rather than examine why they might be.
@fullmetal_neet2288
@fullmetal_neet2288 Жыл бұрын
Did you friend move in a prison inmate too?
@dianemorton2222
@dianemorton2222 Жыл бұрын
I feeĺ this story is so sad. I feel the verdict is too harsh. I feel home schooling is not for all. I feel she needed better social skills. This story is sad. Prayers for this family.
@TheEMC99
@TheEMC99 Жыл бұрын
Sounds like he chased down his death and got his due reward.
@KmacQuinn
@KmacQuinn Жыл бұрын
BWS is a major liquor store chain in Australia - Beer, Wine, Spirits.
@lostandfound5145
@lostandfound5145 Жыл бұрын
😂 Battered Wife Syndrome 😂 that is a funny coincidence 😂 In such a dark way.
@KmacQuinn
@KmacQuinn Жыл бұрын
@@lostandfound5145 Ikr??? Considering the connection between alcohol and DV
@lostandfound5145
@lostandfound5145 Жыл бұрын
@@KmacQuinn go there to get your BWS and then go home to pass that BWS down to your wife 😂😭 there is such a connection between substance abuse and intimate partner violence, too. Very sad stuff, really. Especially when children are caught up in the whole thing. But if we can’t laugh at some of the darker stuff we’d all weep too often!
@KmacQuinn
@KmacQuinn Жыл бұрын
@@lostandfound5145 I agree. My sense of human can be dark, I understand :)
@TheMetalCrafter
@TheMetalCrafter Жыл бұрын
No one has ever committed murder being smothered by love and affection
@mathewbowyer2221
@mathewbowyer2221 Жыл бұрын
On one hand: that story she told the cops is obvious bullshit. On the other hand: I can't see why she'd make up such obvious bullshit instead of just saying "the abusive ex broke in and I lit him up." The latter is not only believable, but a guaranteed get-out-of-jail-free card.
@ZYX84
@ZYX84 Жыл бұрын
✨ Hello Dr.Grand🧩e. So very good to see you. I always appreciate your very forthright & thorough analysis. You deliver them each evening with respect & with a dignified sense of humor.❤ Thank you Dr. Grand🧩e.✨
@Violexie-wb7op
@Violexie-wb7op Жыл бұрын
Agreed 😌
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