Did Father's Harm Excuse Son for Killing Him? | Anthony Templet Case Analysis

[@bossyspaghetti]

I saw the documentary, and it drove me to tears. That poor boy was traumatized and isolated to the point where he absolutely thought this was the only way out. I hope he can recover from this horrible abuse and learn to assimilate into society.

[@browniehendricks3726]

I agree

[@WillPage]

I hope so too. I doubt he will be okay though, poor kid.

[@davidmuir7711]

Doubtful.

[@kevinbaird7277]

Denying a young person an education is in itself a reason to remove that obstacle the young person's life, adding all the shameful mistreatments the lad suffered then it is no wonder he felt the compulsion to end it, sometimes being violent is the only way out, it is not ideal but in this instance even the prosecutor had a heart in making the 'punishment' a stepping stone to enabling this young man to rebuild his life, I wish him every bit of good luck I can muster.

[@nawaspj7122]

@@kevinbaird7277 My dad tried to do this to me as a child. Luckily, he didn't succeed at completely preventing my education. I was able too work and go to college on my own but it took so much longer and I couldn't compete with peers who had family and money. Nevertheless, I went to a UC school for English and thew top Art school in the world to finish my MFA. I'm proud of this but I was also held hostage as a child then financially as an adult he stole from me and stuck me at home for a while. Its also impossible to make friends when an abuser has overwhelmed your sense of self.

[@Amanda-el9dx]

Very sad story how Bert virtually kept Anthony away from the rest of the world and deprived him of an education. When asked if he could write, Anthony told the police that he can write all the letters. That is what a first grader would say. Very heartbreaking

[@lenkacfk7155]

This is why the American system of unsupervised homeschooling is so dangerous! Either ban homeschooling, or put some checks and balances in place!

[@kasjo5529]

I noticed when he said that. I thought that was a odd way to answer that question.

[@someonerandom256]

About half of the states have sufficient regulation for homeschooling, meaning that they have moderate to high regulations in place. The other half scare me.

[@icturner23]

That’s such a devastating detail. I hope that he can catch up and adjust, but I’m worried that he’ll be damaged for life.

[@MrsTruthTeller]

@@lenkacfk7155 Legislatively, theres currently a big push for home visiting in education.

[@Zaddy-Lu]

One of the things that people with normal childhoods have little to no concept of, is how different someone with an interrupted childhood is/can be. Being raised as a prisoner, with no input from anywhere but his dad for years of his childhood, he did not have the same capacity for problem solving as someone who had an education and/or decent parents would.

[@exrobowidow1617]

I would amend your comment to "education AND decent parents." I think the "decent parents" part is slightly more important. Education of a morally bankrupt person makes them more dangerous. Someone who had decent parents, and is emotionally and mentally OK, is likely to get along better in life, and can catch up on the intellectual stuff later as needed.

[@FernandoTorrera]

I was viciously sexually assaulted at school I even had ugly purple green bruises everywhere around my rib cage. Guess what happened nothing the teachers said he was a shy sweet kid it could never be him and I had no proof the bruises were from him. Sometimes I did want to grab scissors and start slashing because I was at a loss what to do.

[@salmonjanet]

@@FernandoTorrera not to be rude, but to be totally honest... If what you are saying is true, then sorry no one stood up for you, or you for yourself.

[@etmup80]

Omg YES, I just said the exact same thing! I was screaming this at the TV the whole time! I didn’t get a chance to finish all of the episodes, but I never heard this fact mentioned there or in this video and it was so frustrating and upsetting! I watched this to hear how it ended and I’m super relieved he didn’t have to serve any time at all!

[@alisonmercer5946]

@@FernandoTorrera you would be the type of murderer that could be rehabilited and not a danger to anyone else unlike these sadists who rape n torture n then murder people and then get patheticlly low sentences. Sorry that happened to you

[@DustyMayT]

When you said you didn't believe he was guilty of any crime, it brought me to tears. I feel so bad for Anthony. Growing up, I didn't trust children's aid or the police either. Abused children are powerless. They can't risk seeking help, being discredited by their parent's lies -- and then facing the vengeance of their abuser for reporting them. I hope he is able to fully recover and live a healthy life.

[@sherielowe4256]

Dr. Grande is awesome.

[@greenbrain8725]

My thoughts exactly. That poor, poor kid. That the police asked Anthony whether his father abused him, in the presence of the abuser, is stupid. I hope Anthony comes across this video and gets good vibes and support from the comments.

[@patg14]

Imagine calling the cops for help when all they've ever done is hand you over to a monster.

[@DasAntiNaziBroetchen]

And then people judge you for taking matters into your own hands, or for not solving the problem the way they tell you to, from the comfort of their own privilege.

[@pnojazz]

You couldn’t be more wrong. Cops do welfare checks every day. And Anthony was a juvenile! Just stop.

[@vaporosoez]

Something all domestic violence survivors are familiar with

[@KoolT]

So sad

[@markmike7933]

Like the "cops: make up the law. Dont put the blame on liberal politicians where it belongs

[@lisamccaffety-scott3761]

Agreed. On all points. Tantamount to raising a child in captivity - no life skills, no understanding of the outside world, no sense of individual agency- not even knowledge of his own birthday! Upon watching the documentary I wonder if his “lack of affect” is better described as limited vocabulary and never being properly socialized to how people express. Poor kid was a victim from day one. I’m amazed at his escape and hope he gets a real chance to enjoy life on his own terms.

[@icturner23]

No, I think it’s more like he had learnt to shut down and hide all feelings, in order to minimize abuse from his father.

[@warmcozy]

@Lisa McCaffety-Scott - I'm glad you caught that. He's got a tough road ahead of him because well socialized people tend to be judge mental of people who are not as well socialized. It can be very difficult. In addition to not being well socialized due to his father’s abuse and isolation, I think the commenter above is correct that he learned to shut down and hide all feelings.

[@TheLoveweaver]

He was so isolated. No Social Skills what-so-ever.

[@katiestevenson6232]

Frequent dissociation in response to almost constant abuse will also result in a flat affect.

[@warmcozy]

I’m concerned about the impact on his development. I sincerely hope he has a healthy support network.

[@mewgiah8057]

Throughout the documentary, you can see Anthony struggle to show his emotions, due to Burt's years of neglect. You can see it with his eyes, where they dart back and forth - and he looks like he's on the verge of crying, but doesn't know how to express it. This is why the ending of the final episode is so powerful. Seeing Anthony finally break down in tears after a year of being free. It definitely broke me, and I started weeping as well. This poor child was stolen from his mother. He had his happy childhood and family taken from him. Burt was a monster.

[@sorynvala]

It was such a powerful ending, I agree!! It's like now that the whole thing was over he finally felt safe enough to begin to express emotions. Growing up with someone like Burt, you learn to hide and suppress anything that might set them off...and you never know what is going to set them off 🙁

[@alucard6919]

You can tell at some point growing up Anthony just shut himself off from the world to escape his dad.

[@ixizn]

This is why it made me so sad when people were talking at times about how he “had no emotions”. Of course I was waiting for more information and watched it open-minded, but right from the start the way he acted didn’t come across to me as “empty” in a way that someone who lacks empathy might appear, but as someone who’s traumatized, in their “shut down”/freeze response and completely dissociated from their own emotions. I grew up in a household where you could never know when someone would explode over the tiniest thing, and yet it was nothing compared to anything this poor guy had to go through, and I was still also completely numbed out by the end of my teens because feeling any feelings wasn’t safe (or if I did feel them, the anxiety was so intense I couldn’t handle it and didn’t want to live). The ending just broke me. I cried along with him. He has to be carrying so much grief and sadness that he now has to go through, and I’m happy he’s hopefully in a place he might be able to start working through it, however small steps he’s gotta take. Seriously wish him all the best and that he has a great support team that can help him heal and find peace.

[@UrbanDecayLova247]

They definitely hit all the right beats with that ending! I’m glad with who was behind the camera because not every filmmaker would’ve chose to end it on him crying. A different person might think the “high note” was him finding out he wasn’t going back to jail when the true “high note” was seeing him finally release his emotions.

[@laurenmay2098]

I am 57 and cried like a baby, I thought he was never going to recover, no emotions whatsoever. But at the end, he let his guard down and cried. He is free from the monster who abused him so badly.

[@slconley]

I feel like this poor kid was so terrorized that he felt he had no other choice. As a kid I ran away many times and was always returned to my parents. There was a long history of horrific abuse and the police still returned me. I was also “homeschooled” so I couldn’t report the abuse. I finally successfully ran away right before I turned 16 but it was so hard to get away partially because I was also very isolated.

[@HolyMoly432]

God bless you!

[@wanderlust3292]

Are you well now?

[@bubbabroad9051]

I am sorry. It is infuriating to me that homeschooling in the U.S. has no checking up, that impinges on freedom?! I don’t understand why social services also never checked on him. 😢😠 Bless you and thank you for your story

[@ED80s]

Glad you finally escaped and hope you are well. I agree. Homeschooling should be followed up with. The students should have to take basic skills tests etc

[@skepticalbutopen4620]

Sorry to hear that.

[@OneMeanArtist]

As someone who survived growing up in a home with an abusive, sociopathic father, imo the mental abuse is far, far worse than the physical. Broken bones and bruises heal, but the mental torment, humiliation and grooming stays with you and changes you for the worse. I am in my 40s now and still dealing with issues from my traumatic childhood. I can say I know what it's like to be pushed to the point of pulling a trigger. You never think that would ever be you until you're in that moment. Thankfully I didn't, though thb the dark, injured part of me sometimes wishes I had.

[@Ac2091-x1f]

Grew up in the same environment and neither is worst. Bruises do heal but you never forget,wish it was that easy.

[@HolyMoly432]

There is a lot of humiliation in broken bones and bruises caused by your own father. Physical abuse is mental, emotional and physical abuse all rolled into one. God bless you.

[@angelarch5352]

Same here.

[@esme68]

I left home at 16 beacuse I came so close to killing my mother, her mental cruelty knows no bounds. She's a malignant narcissist so can't stop what she's doing. After I left her house to live at my friends home my younger brothers became her targets.

[@ozgal6929]

@@Ac2091-x1f that ís your opinion.

[@user-ic9qm8mb4t]

There would never be enough windows in the house for Anthony to escape from his father. I think he was Doomed to kill or be killed. His father was a monster to anyone entering his life. It's unthinkable that this boy was ever left in the custody of his completely unstable father. This boys life was the worst kind of scary.

[@exrobowidow1617]

Just reading one or two accounts of how abused women managed to escape their tormentors is enough to convince me that you were right about never enough windows. Reminds me of this savage bumper sticker: "If you love something, set it free. If it doesn't come back, HUNT IT DOWN AND KILL IT" Meant as a joke commentary on a popular saying of the time.* Unfortunately true of some abusers. *The original sentiment was something like, "If it comes back, it is yours. If it doesn’t, it never was."

[@lilybeth71dld57]

Good point.

[@FernandoTorrera]

If he ran out the window the dad would have picked up the gun and shot him or get in his giant Mac truck and run him down. Like where the fuck would he go? None of the neighbors really knew them would they have opened the door for him?

[@kennethkunz2449]

Excellent analysis. Anthony is truly the victim, and now will have to go through life with deep psychological scars and disorganized attachment issues. Heartbreaking for this young man.

[@rosiebottom3870]

Poor Anthony must have been terrified in those weeks after stepmom left. Dad at home all day doing coke and drunk and irrational. Like being in a cage with a tiger. I found this so sad. His face so frozen and expressionless. His tears at the end seemed like a breakthrough and I hope he's getting help.

[@janinemccartha1811]

Hi Dr. Grande. This sounds like my ex. Always drunk, raging, threatening, cheating, religious cult, etc. There's no excuse for him to have been abused just because some idiot was a loser & didn't want to live right. I hope he has a good life now and good riddance to his trashy father or whatever the loser calls himself. Thank You for another on point analysis Dr. G. Peace & take care, Love, Janine Smiley🤩👑😎🙂😀🌝🌞🌚🌛💯🆒️🎶🎵🚘👞👠👟👡👑👒

[@joannamiller9698]

Glad to see Dr. Grande standing up for a child, who was defending themselves.

[@pembrokelove]

This case reminds me so much of the “battered spouse syndrome” cases, and I’m glad that you address how it is that Anthony could have seen his father as a threat even while he was on the bathroom floor, bleeding. There is enough evidence of the abuse and surveillance to suggest that Andrew may have seen his father as omnipotent, all knowing, and certainly still a threat to his own safety. I feel very badly for Andrew; having money is no guarantee that abuse is not happening within a household, and people need to get over this idea that if it’s a nice house and the kid is given things, they much not be being abused. That’s ridiculous.

[@PandaCoasters]

The possibility of being murdered needs to become the norm for abusers. They are remorseless, and sending a heavy message about what will happen to them as a result of their rage should be sufficient.

[@careip]

I think it may have the opposite effect. The abuser might just murder the person they're abusing to thwart their own impending death if they feel threatened themselves.

[@PandaCoasters]

@@careip "Don't kill abusers or else they'll become more abusive" You might be a doormat, but I'm not.

[@careip]

@@PandaCoasters not being a doormat. I'm saying I'd get the abuser before he got me.

[@Lo0nex_]

@@careip this is actually what happens to some ppl who touch kids, they're curious for years then end up touching one in an impulsive moment. they didn't think of the consequences beforehand so they murder the child

[@bwktlcn]

I don’t think it would. A bully bullies until he or she is stopped, either because they face legal action or run into someone who makes them stop. They don’t outgrow it. The bully in 2nd grade may grow up to be the guy who terrorizes coworkers, becomes a corporate psychopath, etc.

[@StuePitt]

Having grown up with an abusive and controlling father I can understand how Anthony felt threatened and cornered and even pursued his father to shoot him again. Although my life was not as dire, I can still understand how Anthony must have felt in that situation. He was really just trying to remove the threat. Not surprising, though, that the police expects the son to think rationally after years of abuse, isolation and intimidation.

[@moniqueloupe8867]

Ok, so you're going to be isolated, humiliated, threatened, and beaten for 10 years. Ok now, think rationally. 🤔

[@moniqueloupe8867]

@adrienne omg girl, don't get me started on cops....

[@joycecoletta7699]

@@moniqueloupe8867 Unfortunately, we have arsholes in all areas. In Florida, we have many officers that have rescued and adopted children they saved from horrific homes. I thank God for those...

[@moniqueloupe8867]

@@joycecoletta7699 That's really great Joyce.

[@Hay_Bay]

ALWAYS SPEAK YOUR TRUTH!!!! Let this case be an example of the bravery, faith, and courage Anthony showed.

[@wabbajackwabbajack6932]

This is the main problem with the way some of our laws are written, the only way for Anthony to be considered completely lawful would be if he tried to run away out the window... Problem is: he's the one being hunted at that point. No way to follow the law without creating a window of opportunity for his dad to find him and do God knows what to punish him for running away. As you said the threat needed to be neutralized. Simple as that. Plus the authorities already demonstrated they were willing to put him in his dad's custody, what reason would he have to believe they wouldn't just immediately return him to his dad after taking his weapon? Even if that's not what would have happened from his perspective he had no reason to trust the people who paired him up with an abuser in the first place and no friends or contacts or even basic English education enough to communicate what happened. Plus he didn't have the education to know there was a law that says he was supposed to run away and that's not common sense or intuitive knowledge so I don't see how he can be responsible, doesn't seem to be much of a danger to anyone that's not abusing him.

[@kathykaveh1471]

Exactly!

[@theresalally1620]

Totally agree!

[@bebe8842]

Exactly, spot on! Abuse, of all kinds, but in particular of this type, so inhuman, so permanently done...... all victims should be considered, treated and convicted from a complete different point of view and not as ultimately criminals! This is another level of crime that was 'created' and 'built' in those victims, victims who had no chance of not becoming who they became.

[@dariajefferson589]

Yes, being a

[@scottphillips181]

Crazy sad situation for the boy. Life time of frustration leading up to a breaking point

[@adrianj3198]

Some people seem to think that just because a person does not pick up a phone, look down at it and dial 911, wait for them to pick up and then express their fear to them (what is happening etc) that points to guilt. I intentionally phrased it in that way to try and convey that in certain instances, picking up a phone and dialing 911 could potentially cost them their life or grave harm. Most of the time an attacker does not say “oh you’re calling 911? Okay I will stop and wait until your done to continue on with my attack” Of course if it’s possible, call the authorities. If not you gotta do what you gotta do

[@charlotte-mg9wj]

indeed, the vast majority of people who are killed by an abusive partner are killed when they try to leave.

[@synthiamcbride7194]

I fully agree. About a year ago, at midnight, someone banged on my front door. I yelled through the door to ask who it was. I got a garbled answer. So I then yelled I was going to call the police. The man yelled back to do that. So I called the police. It took about 40 rings before I got 911 to answer. It took another ten minutes for the police to get there. They checked my yard and neighboring yards. No one was found. My point is, if Anthony had called the police and waited 15 minutes until they got there, his father could have found a weapon and killed him.

[@skreemqueen7520]

Absolutely! I’ve also heard many 911 calls where the operator acts annoyed by the caller too. I can’t imagine being in that situation.

[@daybreakdragon]

There is also the question of did he even know what calling 911 really means? He had no education, cant tell you his own address or birthday. he wouldn’t know how to call 911 without being taught to do so. If he was taught to call 911 why would he trust the phone that Burt used to track and keep tabs on him?

[@synthiamcbride7194]

@@daybreakdragon Good point.

[@lindaouellette6656]

Slightly reminds of Gypsy, the girl who’s mother kept her sick all her life just for sympathy.. Gypsy tried getting away and they brought her right back, so what alternative scenario were they expecting? the poor girl got ten years for killing her momster and she was just happy to get away from her… I hope this poor kid has the best life now.

[@doctorposting]

i thought of gypsy too!!

[@roflynn5859]

Gypsy Rose’s mom Dee Dee had a mental illness called ‘Münchhausen by Proxy’ (now called FDiA, which stands for Factitious disorder imposed on another) Many people get Münchhausen(FDiS/Factitious disorder imposed on self)and Münchhausen by Proxy(FDiA) mixed up. Münchhausen Is where you fame illnesses on yourself. Münchhausen by Proxy is where you fame illnesses on someone you are the sole guardian of.

[@idacoetzee]

Anthony got the first and last chance to defend himself from his lifelong tormentor, Anthony is not guilty- he was defending himself it was his only option to escape.

[@dariajefferson589]

Knocked this out of the ballpark!!! He was emotion less up until the end and after he had been reunited with his love ones, it was touching to see him cry!!! Being a child protection caseworker and the services that they provide, we rely on individuals sometime to let authorities know, that this abuse is going on. I have removed children for less than this. I have been exposed to child abuse, child neglect, and failure to thrive. In which this is a classic case. I am truly glad that he reunited with his loving family.

[@NameName-rk6ov]

Can we take a minute to recognize how messed up the court system is. This man beat up his wife, goes to jail for it... then gets temporary custody?! It's horrific. This kid literally LIVED in fear! This child was not a threat. His father is psychotic.

[@AdoMatic-dj6wp]

You're confusing psychotic and psychopathic

[@evil1by1]

For some reason the courts don't see domestic violence against women as being any cause for concern for the children. Absolutely sick that animal abuse is taken more seriously than violence against women. If you get convicted of animal cruelty, you can absolutely use that to limit a violent man's custody because of the association between animal cruelty and violence against humans. But I guess when it concerns women its nbd. You see this logic more and more, just because he beats his wife doesn't mean he'll beat his kids. Make it make sense especially when the children are also female

[@pinkmissmuffett]

I fully understand why the boy did not escape from the window or use the phone. At times I have been too terrified to make a more rational decision when faced with my abuser.

[@nimue4325]

And if he did escape through the window, the police would likely return him to his tormentor who would be the one more likely believed.

[@thehoneyeffect]

Poor boy, Anthony suffered unadulterated abuse, the father underdeveloped his son in order to control him. This was lowkey self-defence against a sociopath

[@TK-ib7rm]

The part in the documentary when Anthony said, "It's easier to control a stupid person" that gutted me. Anthony new his father's game by then and I'm sure he felt like their was no way out.

[@charlottefasi3557]

Great phrase: underdeveloped his son in order to control him.

[@lindakluth5611]

What that poor boy went through was horrible. I hope he can have a better life now and get some help to go on. It's horrible to have to live like that.

[@AleksLazar]

So the prosecution of Anthony in a way validated his belief that he would not get help from the police or the justice system. At the same time the justice system had to do something and giving him 5 years to complete high school etc is probably ok, but just have to wonder how much they screwed up the rest of his life making him a felon. Clearly, no one in the system cared much about his wellbeing

[@entropicflux8849]

the system isn't about creating well-being in people. it's about turning non-productive (economically) people into a product. people who think the system is supposed to help people reveal their own sheltered upbringing.

[@troy3456789]

The conditions of the plea deal include expungement of his record. A high school education the first step in being a functional member of a western society. Just the first step.

[@Hhe448]

Oh look two privileged white guys who never did time or had any negative interactions with police talking about how unfair “the system” is. Lmao.

[@troy3456789]

@@Hhe448 police are more likely to kill unarmed white men than any other demographics. Read a book or get educated.

[@howiegruwitz3173]

If you don't like it, leave.

[@kyledamron]

Self defense I know following him to the bathroom makes it look less like self defense but hearing the whole story, self defense.

[@lnc-to4ku]

What an powerful and moving video, Dr. Grande!! Bert was an absolute monster who failed Anthony in every possible way and made him live in a constant state of fear. As you said: Anthony was trying to neutralize the threat. Also loved when you said "No! I don't believe he was guilty of any crime." ♡♡

[@lelanestrydom1358]

This case hit a very personal nerve.... Life really is just not fair.

[@LiveLifeMichele]

Why did no one follow up after he got custody of Anthony? He should’ve been seeing a doctor, give documentation of how he’s homeschooling his son but no one followed up on any of that. They should’ve especially because of the custody battle between parents. The system failed him at several points.

[@kikilo9647]

He wasnt homeschool, the stepmom was the one teaching him without any state program or education plan. Now as to how the heck the courts granted him custody with all the reports he had for DV and other crimes is beyong understanding for my mind.

[@nmartin5551]

There is no system that looks after the disenfranchised. Look at the abuse that is rampant in the system. That system cannot even police itself, much less than private citizens. This is sort of like believing that criminals won’t get guns if the law says they shouldn’t have them.

[@breakingbadheisenberg9703]

Anthony was kidnapped by his father from Texas, his mother spent countless hours and money in Texas court ,she even got court orders that Anthony's father not be allowed to be anywhere near her and he had been convicted for abuse and spent time in prison , but Anthony's father went to court in Louisiana and the court gave custody of Anthony to his father , not knowing he had been convicted in Texas for abuse. At the time those 2 states didn't share information so Louisiana court knew nothing of Anthony's fathers previous convictions .

[@mommyharris1111]

IMO his biological Mom was too quick to give up on finding him. I’d never let my son just go and stop looking for him. There is something not quite right about her story. What do you think?

[@Loyaltoafault210]

@@mommyharris1111 agree.

[@kathiestevensdesigns9385]

I think if Anthony went out a window, his dad would have shot him in the back as he was trying to run away.

[@sweetheartmegz]

Agreed. And honestly now that we know everything, Anthony probably had no idea of where to go. No friends, hardly ever left the house, no real family or how to find his Stepmom. It probably wasn't even a viable option.

[@FernandoTorrera]

Or run him over with his huge truck

[@Patriot_Lady1776]

What a monster Burt was. I agree Anthony wasn't guilty of anything except being the recipient of physical and mental torture.

[@jamesbowman6925]

This young man was definitely justified in killing his father. He is a hero. All victims of abusers or children who witness the abuse of their mothers at the hands of their fathers (or stepfathers or mothers' boyfriends) should do the same regardless of whether there is an "immediate" threat. With someone that dangerous, the threat is continuous.

[@jamesbowman6925]

@@RA-wp6th A person is not free of an abuser until that abuser is stone cold dead. If he hadn't killed his father, Anthony would either be dead himself or living in constant fear that his father would get to him and kill him. If someone kills his or her abuser, as far as I'm concerned it's justifiable homicide-full stop.

[@VonDutchNL]

@@RA-wp6th Yes.. in this case he WAS justified. That so called "father" brought destruction everywhere he went.. nobody could escape him, the authorities didn't do anything. The world is better off without that clown. Sometimes it's a "me or him" situation, and this was 100% the case with Anthony.

[@janedmunds4218]

Absolutely self defense, I agree. He was failed by his defense lawyer -- for one of many in a long line of adults who failed him. Poor kid, bless him

[@EloquentMess]

I don't think the defense lawyer failed him, I think he did the best he absolutely could. He got the best deal possible with the DA. The one who failed him was the DA.

[@roxanaa.8048]

You are confused. His defense lawyer actually saved him from life in prison and he did all what he could legally do.

[@volodyanarchist]

A lawyer has no choice and must present all the deals to the client. The client then decides the course of action.

[@andrewcutler1380]

The hell? His defense lawyer was a hero. Did you even watch his mock trial and how hard he had to fight to get a 2nd degree murder charge which carries life down to a negligent homicide charge with no jail time? Lazy armchair critics who don’t understand the law here.

[@gRinchY-op5vr]

@@roxanaa.8048 he did it all for free too! His defence attorney admitted to growing up in an abusive home himself, so didn't care about being paid for this case he just wanted to help another abuse victim get the most fair sentence possible. I think he did the best he could

[@charwest9449]

Anthony was not guilty. It was self defence for his life. Bert took Anthony to ruin him, which he knew would hurt his mother. Bert was a psycho. The only reason he got custody is that Anthony's mother couldn't afford to fight Bert legally. Forcing his complete isolation, denying him education, Bert had essentially kidnapped Anthony. Anthony knew he would track him down again if he tries to leave and return to his mother. Shame on the justice system for their numerous mistakes in this matter. Anthony needs a good lawyer, and to sue for compensation.

[@inconceivabledark]

A tough life for anyone. Your parents are the ones that you are supposed to trust the most, not fear the most.

[@lisamh9037]

Just watched this a couple hours ago. I do feel for the kid. Thank God his step mom and bro experienced what was going on. I think the reality of his whole crappy life is really hitting him now. Thanks, for nothin' dad.

[@midgeymidge9403]

When the police talked about Anthony being emotionless, all I could see was a deeply traumatised young man, holding it all in. At the very end of the documentary when he at last started to cry (after he was 'safe') looked like catharsis. It was heartbreaking to witness.

[@aeleceashley8458]

I almost couldn’t finish the Netflix docu. Absolutely hurt my heart. That poor kid. He absolutely remembered the police taking him from his moms where he could play outside and oubviously feel loved. It will take him years to feel safe enough to feel real emotions with that dark father. Emotions aren’t safe around someone like that.

[@thelocalmaladroit8873]

No winners in this story. Hopefully Anthony and his Mom can be reunited and finally be safe together. Compelling commentary Dr Grande!

[@JadeC]

They did reunite at the end. But he was so numb it looked like he didn’t really wanted to be there

[@lindaouellette6656]

@@JadeC to be fair he doesn’t look like he wants to be anywhere, he has hidden his emotions all his life so he has no idea how to act in any situation.

[@brandonhinrichs4393]

You just gave a 20 times better closing argument and then his own lawyers possibly could have

[@moniqueloomis9772]

Did you watch the Netflix documentary?

[@THE-id1by]

No he didn't

[@Violexie-wb7op]

I also have a narcissistic parent. When they are trying to break into your room, they don't want to talk.

[@sunnycatc6491]

Thank you Dr. Grande. I agree, I'm amazed that Anthony was able to gather his wits and courage to erase this POS from the planet. I was raised by 2 abusive, controlling parents but home schooling was not a thing back then, so I was able to become educated and have outsiders keeping an eye on the situation...abusive narcissists don't like to look bad. I escaped by working my way through college and never looked back. I hope Anthony and his Mom can recover and be happier. PS I think he had to be charged with SOMEthing; I'm glad he got away but it's generally not recommended to go around shooting people 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@Jared_Wignall]

Very sad story. I hope things will get better for Anthony. Keep up the great work Dr. Grande!

[@katja6332]

I don't know the law regulations in the US, but it's highly understandable why he did it. I believe societies fail in those cases, bc the problem started long before. How is this possible for a man to imprison his own son, beating his wife up and nobody "knew"... For example this home schooling, why is there no minimum requirement for testing the child every year by public education to make sure the child's development is all right? In Germany, bad things happen as well, but every child needs to go to school and teachers are advised to observe the development of the child and talk to parents...hence, many things will be come to public mind.. Just saying.. All I can say is that if I were the judge, I wouldn't have punished Anthony. But would have probably advised him to get trauma based therapy for years and the public has to pay for it.. Because society failed him and now has to balance it out..

[@allydea]

Yes, this is something that is incredible to believe in such an advanced society as US is. I live in NL and here, the first year of their life the children have monthly appointments with a doctor that checkes among other things for any bruises. After the first year, there is a yearly evaluation for mental, emotional and physical developments including any signs of physical abuse. If you don't show up at the appointments the police shows up to your door.

[@oh_ze]

@@allydea NL is the Netherlands?

[@allydea]

@@oh_ze yes

[@sarah2.017]

The father moved a lot, and if he never told anyone that he had a son, there's not much anyone could have done. There's a Canadian documentary from the 1980s called "To A Safer Place" which is about a family that experienced horrific physical and sexual abuse, and in this case, after the mother left, the children WERE GIVEN TO THE FATHER. I had wondered how that could possibly have happened, especially in the 1960s, but then I saw the mother interviewed. She was quite obviously mentally challenged, and he could likely tell that he thought she would put up with whatever he did to them.

[@katja6332]

@@sarah2.017 I am reacting to the "there's not much was anyone could have done". Yes I believe you that's true for the US. But nope, not true in general.. . It's about keeping track of the development of the child by the state. Obviously society has failed and better laws can be changed and/or implemented. For example, the moment a woman is pregnant, she gets a "mother pass" ( n Germany) and has to see gynocolist and child doctors after delivering the baby if she misses only one of those (we call it U1, - U2, erc) or even delays it for a week, the doctor will tell law enforcement (!) and she's in trouble. They take it really seriously. If she doesn't follow those rules, she risks losing the child to child protection. She needs the mother pass and has to get the documents done from the doctor. Highly regulated from the start. If you are a mother, you know here that you can't fuck up things or somebody can come and blame you. And Germany doesn't joke around with this. (okay, we have different social security systems as well, a mother has nothing to pay for those check ups, Which is only fair by the way and every woman should have this..) Same with school etc. If society allows home schooling, fine, but there should be legal procedures on a tightly weaven basis to check up on this childs development on a bloody regular basis. If it s lagging, nobody checks on children and how their development goes and leave them alone with parents. Never ever a good idea. Many parents are good enough though but a few are super dangerous with bad intentions and some are incapable for whatever the reason may be without bad intentions .. and society must try to filter them out. It's a matter of how much freedom you give to parents and trust them and how much a society ignores forensic statistics and psychological evidence on child development.. Still, bad things happen to children in Germany, but it's not possible to isolate them like in this story. You have to kidnap a child to do that to him and then if the victim kills the kidnapper he won't be punished by law for murder. This is just impossible here. Children are the most vulnerable and need protection from society as well. We cannot truly trust anyone along the way. To be fair, Germany has had scandals with the catholic church and child molestation on a huge scale. And we can't control Rome (Vatican). And we had major problems with some left winged schools who have weird philosophy about teaching children and their sexuality and many teachers were attracted by the philosophy because it gave them maximum freedom and they were sexual predators (!) and the left political groups supported their weird ideas. And now, 40 years later the sexual abuse victims have broken their silence and schools have been shut down entirely. Bad things still happen..

[@cosimavonliebenau8317]

I would be interested in hearing about Burt’s childhood. Wonder what/who turned him into such a monster. Familial misery and abuse gets passed down from one generation to the next. I would love to see appropriate parenting classes on the school curriculum.

[@BenSwagnerd]

While appropriate parenting classes is a nice idea, I think it kind of indicates that people SHOULD become parents. I feel like that is a dangerous road to go down, and culture needs to change so people only have kids if they really want to be a good parent. It shouldn't be an opt out situation. It should be an opt IN situation. For example, my parents had kids just because they got pregnant and didn't use birth control effectively. Then they abused us our entire lives (im the only one who has done a family cut off, my other two siblings are still caught in the cycle of abuse).

[@cosimavonliebenau8317]

@@BenSwagnerd I get your point, but being taught physics at school doesn’t mean you’re being steered towards becoming a physicist. Appropriate parenting is about empathy, guidance without overbearing, not imposing your own ambitions on the kids, not massively overreacting to your own stress, frustration and boredom, i.e. it focuses on human flaws - useful in so many life situations, not just parenting.

[@debra1363]

Perhaps Burt suffered abuse as a child,but he was not KEPT A PRISONER his entire life.

[@sonnylol2222]

This was one of my first thoughts. His behavior and parenting reminds me of my mom’s stepdad growing up, they had similar control problems and not advancing the children in the home academically or socially. It turns out her stepdad was severely sexually abused (raped/molested) as a little boy by multiple men and had a general terrible upbringing, so perhaps him having such fear and no control as a child pushed him (my mom’s stepdad) to feel the need to dominate and feel in control. There’s no valid excuses for the adult decisions and behavior either the stepdad or Burt enacted unto their children, but their childhood certainly had to be a gateway.

[@pamelapacific943]

Yes breaking the "cycle" of child abuse is the answer.

[@seizuregirlllll]

The part when he cries at the end, that gripped my heart

[@lydiadavis7810]

People that didn't grow up around dangerous parents often don't understand it. How constant some abuse is or how much damage emotional abuse can do. I totally get why it happened & I blame the abusive adult. He killed himself IMO.

[@detour7790]

I believe Anthony feared for his life and neutralizing Bert was the only way for him to survive. It is sad that the legal system continues to abuse him.

[@suhanhwang9988]

Moral of the story: keep kicking the dog and it will bite back.

[@SaneTXJane]

I agree @suhan…but in this horrible case, it was more than ‘a man kicked the dog and so the dog bit him’… I’d say it was more like ‘a man kicked, abused, tortured & starved the dog and so the dog had to eat the man in order to stay alive’…IMO😢

[@Kotorichan]

I doubted about AJ not trying to escape from the window or call the police until they showed how Burt never allowed him to have friends -so if he escaped, to who?- and how the police had failed both him and his mother. This kid really thought he was alone, even his stepmom and stepbrother were gone.

[@nawaspj7122]

After my mom died, my sister and father began to create conflict with my friends. My sister even had sex with my best friend to pull him away into a relationship. Then dad began to assault my gay friends and they didn't feel safe around me.

[@Kenna198]

I was skeptical in the beginning also, until I learned the entire story, poor kid

[@Loud2013]

If he escaped he'd be called a run away, returned and abused even more. That happens all the time to abused children. God help that poor kid.

[@nawaspj7122]

@@Loud2013 Exactly. This is how my mother perpetrated sexual abuse. No one expects a frail woman to be doing things to a kid but these women do exist. I called her mom.

[@Loyaltoafault210]

I may have to watch the doc again but what was the thing about the job? Did he never get to actually go to work? Wasn’t that “his boss” on the documentary?

[@volodyanarchist]

I really support alternative education. Being an educational worker i know how much negativity exists in school system... but the key to alternative education is *education*. Depriving a human being of mental growth is one of the most horrible things one can do!

[@2007cgarza]

Watching the Netflix episodes simultaneously. Bert reminds me of narcissists I've known over the years, so no surprise to me there. From what I've seen, my perspective, I don't blame Anthony at all. I also hope Anthony can now get the help he needs. Regarding the opportunity to make a call from the bedroom or windows that could be opened, um, when you are in hyper "crap" mode, no? Hindsight is awesome for some people. I also can attest that emotional abuse over time is sufficient. If a black eye or bruises are what you need to see what was happening, you are very priveledged, please be very grateful that you have not had to deal with this kind of stuff. Anthony needs help to regain what he lost in terms of education, childhood, will still need surveillance or counseling around the loss of emotions he was taught to have, but he isn't someone who should be in a prison with hard criminals.

[@angelarch5352]

Thank you for this video. So much of this story is personally familiar to me, minus the shooting part. As an adult It it taking me a lifetime to recover from the similar treatment-- even as an adult, and purposely creating physical distance between me and my abuser, the trauma continues to effect my life in negative ways which I have great difficulty to overcome. I wish the victims of this abuser to have greater luck in their future to manage their own trauma.

[@Locutus]

If he didn't even know his address, what good is it saying that he should have called the police?

[@augustineayres7195]

They could have traced the call?

[@lozencolorado3326]

Neglect like this can be 1000000% worse than abuse on the psyche of a child. I'm glad he escaped and I hope he can reconnect with his mother and recover his self esteem and happiness. God bless this kid.

[@LN-fi1nf]

I absolutely love that there are people who understand how cruel and evil people can be without the need to only want to find goodness in everyone. Not everyone has goodness.

[@mercuryangel9223]

These kind of life stories confirm how little resources victims have to get help. The grandmother, mother and this kid could not get anyone to help them. They all continue to live a life of abuse and violence as if that it suppose to be normal.

[@bubbabroad9051]

Yes, THIS is what gets me! It seems he fell through the net in regards to social services and how was that dad able to retain custody?!

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

It can happen because of the enablers. There are always enough to cover things up.

[@rachaelbrugmans4309]

@@oOIIIMIIIOo without the enablers, youd have a clear and obvious social issue that governments dont want to pay to solve, so no, it would not change anything to remove them. It would just become an open fact that people get away with private abuse and it's illegal to do anything about it unless they engage in that abuse in public. Open Helplessness would become the new face of domestic violence. Or vigilante justice, which is akin to winning by quitting on being civilized, in my opinion...so its losing. There would still not be anyone checking in on victims, without a funded agency to hire them and give them rights to do so. Understanding a problem thoroughly, and solving said problem, are 2 very very different things. One is point A, the other point Z. Lots of stops in between. Enablers are just one stop.

[@Saturn08]

As a child who was abused by my bio-dad and my bio-mum didn't do anything to help, the police and social service (england) did nothing to help. They would ask my abusers if everything was okay.... lime what do you expect the answer to be? They lied and lied and lied. When I was finally removed, damage was done. I had been sexually and physically abused and neglected. My heart breaks for Anthony

[@Ali-kb8gr]

I've been waiting for your take on this Dr.

[@Riana.dS.]

Dr Grande's summary is very interesting. Anthony Templet was an extremely unfortunate child, and later young man, who suffered severely at the hands of a "human being" who was supposed to care for AJ - Totally unimaginable what AJ's young mind experienced and had to cope with - He certainly had a horrible start in life, which he had to endure up to the age of 17 years. It was wonderful that AJ came to know Jarrett Ambeau AND THAT members of the public were generous with both mental and financial support to assist AJ during a very difficult Court Case, and beyond. Stay stong AJ. If you have times where you feel "a bit lonely or uncertain about life", please confide in a reliable person to assist you to keep growing stronger. We love you and wish you just the very best for a long and very happy life.

[@jomama5186]

I feel so bad for Anthony. So terrible what happened to him. 🙏❤️

[@someguy7424]

There are very few situations where I think killing somebody is justified. This is right on top of the list.

[@penjim2013]

Hello Dr Todd, Having lived through a similar situation (but without the guns) I spent all my time walking on eggshells because of my partners eratic behaviour. He could be as nice as anything and at the click of your fingers, would become a monster, smashing up both myself and my home. Even though I reported him to the police, being a fairly typical DV victim, I withdrew the accusations. I finally planned for a friend to pick myself and my cats up, when my partner was at work....I can therefore empathise with Anthony because I had taken to hiding knives around the flat, although I don't know if I would ever have had the courage to use one....but we all have a breaking point, I just got out before possibly reaching mine. Thank you for your insights into this case....It's given me things to think about. Penny from Christchurch. 🇬🇧

[@pamelahawn9300]

I was abused by a patent also...I was allowed to go to school, the school must have noticed some kind of abuse, but did nothing. I was bullied in school by the children becauze i was socially awkward and wore outdated clothing. I ran away once and went to a church party for children and said parent came and got me so I was again under persecution. I was "saved" in this church and wonder why they didn't "help" me. As an adult today I question why noone did anything to help me... I was kicked out of the house for "minor infractions" six months before I turned 18 my senior in HS. I went to social services to vet financial aid and she lied to them and told them i ran away. I did not finish HS because of that and ended up in an abusive relationship because in ND it is way too cold to be home's outside. Said BF was having affairs on me so I couldn't escaped his abuse. I was physical beaten, emotionally abused and financially abused. IT was still better than living at home. I DID LITTLE really to deserve this. I had 2 brothers who committed suicide to escape her. One at 16, and the other one at 21. When the 16 year committed suicide he told her he was going to do that she said GO AHEAD, so he did...my 21 YO brother was also severely abused. Him and I were her main projects of abuse. She lead step Dad number one to molest me as a child because I was available and she didn't want to have sex with him. I became a hairstylist to some of the wealthiest business and thrived. My parent started hanging out with me again. I now see the pattern of how when I was successful she would be close to me and when I had problems at home. I started studying Personity problems and noticed one day when we were on a trip and I wet pants because she wouldn't stop. After the studying I have done, I recognized the devil eyes and the smirk. I started asking her things AFTER more bad memories came to light about how abusive she was. She poisoned 3 rabbits and one dog that I loved. My remaining siblings were not abused as much so think I am crazy. She targeted me and my deceased 21 YO brother. She dished out all of his and my food so I was always VERY thin and as I look back on it she dished out ALL of the food and him and I were both under fed. I did not change and grow for 2 years in grade school. She refused to sign me up for free lunched because she was too proud. She finally signed me up when " her favorite children" started school. My lunch was always a peanut butter sandwich on week old bread and the 3 cent carton of milk. To this day I can't eat peanut butter sandwiches. She was married 3xs my father ran away to escape her. My first step father became a drunk to escape her and she divorced him. My third psgep father was a good man and after I have been through therapy I think he stayed to protect his step children. She ruled him completely. He also started drinking although he did NOT drink in the beginning. I didn't know She was the perpetrator until studying Personity disorders. I have been on medications for 20 years now, but after 3 years of weekly counseling appointments My meds have been reduced a lot. I was diagnosed with Bi-polar but now it is considered that I have C-PTSD. THE MEMORIES ARE FLOODING MY BRAIN LIKE A BLIZZARD IN MN. I AM RECOVERING NOW BUT AT 68 I SEE HOW MANY OF THE BAD DECESIONS THAT RUINED MY LIFE WERE CAUSED BY MY VERY BAD CHILDHOOD CHOICES I MADE. THE SHOW ON NETFLEX WAS VERY DISTRESSFUL SO I HAD TO WATCH IT A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME. I don't know why the court system doesn't recognize how these people use their "children" to get even and believes the lies the NPD uses to get even with spouses during divorces to get out of paying support. A decent loving parent doesn't have a chance against these demons. When they tell someone about the abuse they are putting up with they are considered to be the crazy ones....

[@rejaneoliveira5019]

What a sad story. This is Anthony’s second chance, I hope he receives adequate help and is able to rebuild his life. Outstanding review, as always. Thank you, Dr. Grande.❤️

[@cottontails9003]

Hello my lovely friend. I believe all the systems, let that poor boy down. 😢❤💙💚💖🌷🌷🌷

[@rejaneoliveira5019]

@@cottontails9003 I agree, he was failed by everyone since a very young age. It’s heartbreaking 💔

[@cottontails9003]

@@rejaneoliveira5019 Thank you my friend i feel its worse , when it's a child, their potential to work out something is delayed, (this is a generalize theory )until the brain reaches its potential at 25 years.

[@christinebuckingham8369]

This young man was basically a victim of Domestic Violence and lifelong Emotional and Verbal Abuse and Child Neglect. He was severely abused and in my opinion it was a tragic self-defense. Thank you for your compassionate assessment of this tragic case of lifelong child abuse.

[@taylorqueensbury170]

I felt a kinship with Anthony. My parents were religious and strict. I felt like I just had to wait for my life to start. If my parents ever allowed that. But, that was on good days. On bad days I felt hopeless. I felt nothing would ever change. My days were spent being yelled at for no reason, given belt whippings and pushed into walls and furniture. I feel that if you take a child’s ability to live without fear, a child should be able to defend themselves.

[@someguy7424]

I’m sorry you had to go through that. It’s good that you know you didn’t deserve it and have empathy for others in dysfunctional relationships.

[@xgurl10]

I understand what it's like to be in a controlled religious environment. I left and never looked back. I will never let anyone jeopardize my freedom again

[@allinaday9882]

This a comment in response to Dr.Grande channel and viewer response s. Many people I used to know did not believe evil exist in the world. Thank you Dr.Grande for showing that it in fact does, in a safe and intelligent manner!

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

They chose to be ignorant.

[@conorfitzmaurice8959]

Poor young man had no real existence at all. I hope they do a thorough review of how this was allowed to happen. Thanks for keeping the great videos rolling out.

[@titasantiniE]

Anthony’s face at the end, his tears, the melting of his hard defense….it was miraculous.

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

Oh my God! Anthony had a terrible 😞 upbringing. To say that Bert ( Anthony’s father) was a control freak is an understatement. A number of 8 cameras in their home? Monitoring Anthony’s phone. Abusing your loved ones.. I hope Anthony is okay and has a better quality of life.❤️

[@earthling148]

So glad you came to your conclusion, I totally agree. Anthony was so abused he had no choice

[@Mike-yg8ig]

11:57, the Doc always interjects some timely humor into these vids. I think we all like the Doc, I was anxiously awaiting his opinion on the boys guilt or innocence, he did not let me down. "He did not trust the police". The kid was on his own. Had he not taken matters into his own hands he would have set himself up for years of further abuse.

[@teresaestevezalvarez664]

Or worst he could have ended dead at the hands of his father.

[@Mike-yg8ig]

@@teresaestevezalvarez664 Yeah, some sick bastards in this world.

[@Mike-yg8ig]

Yeah...

[@Puppies5678]

Thank for sharing this information, a very sad story about Anthony,, , hard to believe that nobody really helped this young boy during his ordeal while growing up,, very sad

[@theresalally1620]

I was going to ask you to do a video about this? I watched the Netflix documentary.I feel so sad for Anthony 😢🙏🏻I for one,am glad he was not sent to jail! When he was being interviewed and starting to cry,I was sobbing 😢Another great job Dr.!

[@lisamh9037]

Me too. Poor kid. AND HIS POOR MOM /REAL FAMILY. What a nightmare they had to live with thanks to a controlling idiot.

[@harlequinn55]

Excellent summing up. I watched the documentary. Dana Cummings, a woman who knows nothing about abuse. Expecting him to just come out with ‘I was abused’ in the police interview and saying there wasn’t any reports of abuse… hello? Does she even know how abusers work. He’s hardly going to take a kid he’s abusing to the hospital. She honestly ground my gears!! 🤨

[@almakehlerbrown3935]

I just watched this documentary and couldn't agree with you more Dr Grande! The justice system failed Anthony.

[@interestinginfo6765]

Such a good documentary. I am so proud of the AD for her wise and empathetic decision. When Anthony was crying at the end (2 months after he had been released) I knew there was nothing but hope for this beautiful young man who had been through more than any human being should have to go through all at the hands of his sick and demented father. I’m rooting for you Anthony!!!!!! And I am so very in awe of all the beautiful people who stood up and fought for him, starting with his female co-worker who got the ball rolling to his incredible lawyer. Faith in humanity restored.

[@ronpudding9598]

Absolutely agree. At first I was questioning if it was necessary for Anthony to pursue Burt and shoot to kill him but as you point out Burt often carried a gun and had guns strewn all around the house so Anthony felt he had to kill Burt to protect himself.

[@gloriaelmore9092]

Thank you Dr. Grande, your analysis is well spoken. You are absolutely right in my opinion. Such a sad story. So very sad.

[@amimi92]

Thank you for this analysis! The case initially seemed to be negligent homicide at best and second-degree murder at worst but as Anthony's background came to light, I absolutely believed he couldn't mentally fathom any other option other than neutralizing the threat to his life. The fact that he understood that at the outset and was still imprisoned while awaiting trial before the charges were reduced is sad. I'm glad he was at least given the resources to have a normal life after all the abuse he endured.

[@dapsolita]

Just reading this comments is a huge testament to how many people have suffered this type of parental abuse.😪 Clearly, this is why society is such a mess.

[@danparish1344]

My mom is narcissistic and grounded me for all but the first six weeks of my Junior year in high school over having a single bad grade in a class. It was so agonizing. I lost most of my friends and was constantly being told I was going to be a failure by her, shamed for doing normal things costing her money like school related functions and even eating food.

[@reversalmushroom]

My heart breaks for him losing so much of his life.

[@saintmay1952]

Not really.

[@reversalmushroom]

@@saintmay1952 Why don't you feel for the son missing out on his childhood?

[@ZYX84]

Hi Dr. Grand🧩e..I just happen to be watching some of your older KZbin video posts. I took a break for a moment, and I came back and it looks like there’s a new one from you! You’re so consistent and diligent… I highly respect you very much so OK you be safe wherever you go Dr.🥰

[@Handlebar-MustDash]

Did you ever cover that shooting a while back where a couple were arguing with a guy over snow shovelling. The single guy went in his house, came back out with guns and blasted them dead in the street.. Scary watching the CCTV.

[@s.a.b.i.]

That's one I'll never be able to forget. Absolutely horrific.

[@kjellfridmathew9446]

Yes, he covered that case a year ago I think it was titled Snow Shoveling Murder Suicide if you search on his page

[@didamnesia3575]

It is perfectly reasonable for anyone living with a physically abusive person to eventually act to save their life. If I was a juror, I would never convict an abused person for killing their abuser. Abusers should expect to be killed in their sleep if they are abusing a smaller person. Don't want to be killed, then don't abuse.

[@annazaman9657]

The documentary was so sad. I hope Anthony can live past this and be happy

[@ellisv75]

From a moralistic stand point, he is guilty of nothing and I think you would struggle to find some one who feels he really should be subject to anything other than help.

[@lalalovengun]

I hope Anthony gets all the healing, support and love he can get. So unfair what the justice system did to this innocent young man.

[@ashleyparks1738]

The dad got away with horrible crimes against multiple people for years. The cops and district attry should be sued

[@Kai...999]

I think this is the most firm stance I’ve seen Dr Grande have on a case. Which I of course agree sigh.

[@HadassaMoon144]

He was firm on the George Floyd case as well

[@someguy7424]

@@HadassaMoon144 True, but I think 99% of Americans were firm on the George Floyd killing. There were plenty of disagreements on other issues related to the killing (defunding the police, the manner in which people protested, etc.) but VERY few people thought Derek Chauvin was in the right.

[@stantheman4964]

Anthony was pushed to far, ran to his room and made his stand. It's common for people who kill loved ones who abuse them that when they snap and strike back they don't stop till death, this is because they don't want them to be in pain or suffering.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

No, this is not tbe reason.

[@stantheman4964]

@@oOIIIMIIIOo ok what do you think ?

[@EarlSmith2469]

Bert reminds me of my father. You were spot on, Dr. Grande, thank you!

[@wildechild5]

I still don't have a date tonight 🤣😂. Thanks for the videos that are fresh and new stories. I have never heard of this case. Love your jokes too.

[@szendrich]

I totally agree with your assessment. First time I've heard about this case, but from your description, it is loudly clear that the boy acted in self-defence. I feel so sorry for him. Not only did his father destroy his life, he destroyed his character for many reasons, chief among which was depriving him of a mother figure, a nurturer and loving influence, depriving him of an education, social isolation, and the worst was to have the law enforcement defend an abusive father and turning on him for defending himself. This poor boy's life is ruined no matter his 5-year probation. The scars of his upbringing will never go away!

[@kyxxit3664]

Anthony, Are you reading this? Go and live a full life. Learn to make space for the emotions you were never allowed to express. The only way out is through, you can't go around. You are a beautiful soul, he never took that from you.

[@denasewell]

The average person has no idea what it is like to live with an abusive tyrant who has abused you day in and out and scrutinizes ever single aspect of your life...with zero teachers...siblings or even a friend....you are isolated with no where to turn...a man who stands behind the door when police come to serve papers.Everything you watch is controlled who you text even when the car is turned on and off...I am so glad Anthony's attorney was able to advocate for him....Justice was served.I hope Anthony can heal and make a normal life for himself and that the cycle of DV in his family for generations is finally broken.