How To Get A Woman Obsessed With You

[@ToddVDating]

Perhaps a controversial topic and set of techniques, but these principles are so powerful and important I just couldn't resist sharing them with you.

[@michaelhurin]

thank you so much!

[@benmd9081]

Thank you very helpful

[@koroglurustem1722]

thank you brother. I definitely needed this. I am looking for a life partner. Used to message girls back very quickly and kept texting.. certainly after few weeks of texting things stalled. Thanks again bro!

[@mezzuna]

Hello Todd, hope you see this. Thanks for the content over the years and for the system which cost next to nothing when it was released. I have a question I never see around game, maybe it's been answered. But I haven't been aware. If I am rejected by a girl I see in my loose social circle. after asking her for a drink a couple times (I know cringe, the 2nd). How should I treat her? I just try and be civil as I don't want to look butt hurt and I am that kind of way anyway. But I don't really want to be chatty with her either. What is the best way to act socially in this scenario? I also think it's not good to game in your closeish social circle anyway as repeated failures like this will dlv you? Sorry for massive comment

[@bolt9110]

@@mezzuna 1) Firstly, she'll clearly demonstrated you are not her first priority: "she had better options from her pov", so that instantly disqualifies her as a girl for anything Serious/Long Term... because she would only get with you if her "better options" don't work out. And you don't want to commit to a girl who thinks she's settling for you, because the second a "hawt" guy gives her attention, she'll leave or cheat, because why wouldn't she? her actions (or lack of it) has shown your not the best she thinks she can do. 2) Secondly, as such you should only treat her as a short term plate if you do get with her. 3) So only invest your time/effort/resources in her to a level in that, even after all your attempts, no sex happens, so you don't resent her. 4) You're time is better spent finding a girl who has Enthusiastic Desire for you, rather than trying to create it in a woman who by her words/actions is not wanting to escalate. EDIT 5) Chasing a girl who is not interested is a COPE, to avoid having to face rejections from approaching New girls. Use all that sexual energy that your wasting on obsessing over her, and the next cool thing you could say to get her interested, as fuel to approach new girls. 6) Obsessing is like heroin. When you catch yourself doing it, distract yourself. Focus on what is really happening in your life at that moment. Don't let your body get flooded with the chemical rush from "your next master plan to win her". Distant and disengage

[@hamdinho1426]

Falling in love is not something someone does to you. It’s something you do to yourself when they are not around.

[@chad1405]

Deep af

[@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027]

unhealthy love is emotional, healthy love is logical

[@fleepss2407]

true

[@TTGTanner]

Damn, did you come up with that?

[@chad1405]

@L.D. 50 KEKW

[@bigneiltoo]

Remember: don't PLAY hard to get. BE hard to get. That's done by having a purpose and wanting your space.

[@dkm1900]

Whats a good minimum because i feel like the more you have your space shel just think oh he dont want me and will pull away.

[@marcomitsilverserver]

I swear thats why I hate texting. I can be naturally charming but when it comes to texting it seems like you have to be cautious of every little step or you might catch a landmine

[@grryph]

Couldn’t agree more man it’s wack

[@stellarhope6954]

1.scarcity/ absence. 2.variable rewards / occasional dissappointment/unpredictable,/ some negative 3.make them work for you/ be hard to get/ disqualify them / push away after they invest / unkindness occasionally 4. texting gaps- dont close the loop, keeps them uncertain. dont double text/leave them on read 5.Frame self as the prize, they chase. Frame the story of "us". 6. Preemptive freezeout. Pull away at a high point before sex, makes them chase.. 7. Leave the loop open

[@mevio4665]

Are these advices working from your woman's perspective?

[@everydaytherapist7315]

@@mevio4665 They don't work as a woman once you already know the game. In fact, when it appears we're aware of the insecurity that creates the tactics. It has a kind of backfiring effect.

[@mevio4665]

@@everydaytherapist7315 Thank you for the honest feedback. I would rather prefer to be liked for who I am , than for the role which I'm playing and it's not me.

[@everydaytherapist7315]

@@mevio4665 I think some scarcity is good though, and to have a person know that they don't just "have you" completely. Human nature doesn't seem to respect when people appear willing to stay at all costs. But for women who have most likely had this kind of "game" played on them their whole adult life, it's refreshing when a man is just proud of his feelings and confident in his ability to express himself. A person who risks rejection actually looks more attractive because it shows that they know their value even if they get told no.

[@mevio4665]

@@everydaytherapist7315 You're indeed a great therapist as your name suggests and it's very kind of you to reply so promptly. I'm taking note of your advice and I like your caring approach. You deserve many more viewers on your high quality content channel Many thanks! beautiful guru!! 🙂🙂

[@christopher-xi2ey]

I'm using it for evil

[@ChristianMuslimTalib]

😂😂

[@Mojorisin3699]

😈

[@MyNameisRevenant]

Time to get my revenge for all the years i got rejected.

[@kekmanjx2561]

What did he think was gonna happen when he gave away this information 🤣🤣🤣😅😅

[@chuchipie]

U have to have a state of heartlessness otherwise eventually it will hurt u

[@caliraver81]

He's describing exactly how I treated a girl whom I didn't consider girlfriend material. And she's obsessed with me.

[@keltecdan]

So what does it matter that she’s obsessed over you but you don’t find her to be girlfriend material? The only thing to do is just have her as a fling.

[@kushagrai7472]

same

[@KRAZEEIZATION]

Enjoy it while it lasts because a women is usually looking for the better prize and there’s lots out there. They don’t be long forgetting about you when they get new dick trust me.

[@karenkaren9913]

So be honest with her, tell her it's just casual. Don't give her hopes. Honesty is something that only grown up men can afford.

[@caliraver81]

@@karenkaren9913 yeah I told her I only want to be friends multiple times, but she still has hope. That's just the way it is

[@toppledgod]

George Bruno nailed this, I paraphrase 'You can tell alot about a woman by her hands, if they're 'round your neck things are not going well'.

[@lucasgrey9794]

Around your neck in what way exactly?

[@abdelhamid6674]

i think he means like strangling you lol

[@CrimsonIzanagi]

No shit

[@onnol917]

@@abdelhamid6674 woooooosh

[@bobbyg2241]

Women like it when you strangle them a little while having sex.

[@jonhutchinson2902]

I lived through 6.5 years of this. Is definetly does work and it becomes very toxic and very difficult to get out of.

[@krejziks3398]

Yep, nothing feels better than being desired, it's literally better than sex.

[@thebenevolentsun6575]

Perhaps not to this extreme but alot of it is true. People need space.

[@nahumgonzalez5087]

Teach me

[@eldersimonproduction]

“I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back and some people do and I really appreciate it.!!”

[@poleag]

People do all these things instinctively when they have lukewarm or mixed feelings towards someone. So the Inner Game version of this is to understand why you should, in fact, be indifferent towards any given potential relationship. And there are good reasons why you should be indifferent. For example: 1) whatever sexual attraction is there will fade, 2) the other person certainly has major flaws that have yet to reveal themselves, 3) you haven't invested much, 4) there are all kinds of horrible life-changing consequences that could result from a relationship going sour. If you were truly able to convince yourself that these things apply to EVERY potential relationship no matter how good the person seems (and they do apply), then you would be able to reduce your overenthusiasm and do the things described in this video without even trying.

[@kamui1769]

This comment gets the award for "Most Based in 2022" 🏆

[@mura0]

this is spot on.

[@michaelmerriam1979]

This is brilliant

[@salb3361]

I've experienced this recently and my reaction was to give him the space and latitude. He came back and left again and pulled the same "technique." After weeks of no contact I realized that I finally lost interest. He came back again but this time, all I can give is silence for good. He did regret his actions as the role seemed to reverse but it is much too late. It wasn't my intention to, but I just can't with these games so I wished him well and let him go.

[@itsmebougie]

What I’m noticing with these techniques is if you’re living a balanced and healthy life, these techniques will come through naturally. You will honestly voice concerns of the relationship. You will be busy and not be able to see her/text her. You’ll negotiate a common story. You’ll include space in the relationship, practice restraint, build the relationship slowly and build comfort when apart. You’ll create positive experiences with the other person. I want to think of how I can be a person that does these things naturally, and practice being that person.

[@OffGridInvestor]

This is all assuming the woman is not into drama. Which as emotional creatures, MOST ARE.

[@DnVFMVs]

Hoes before bro cmon

[@loveispatientloveiskind2205]

Yeah just be properly caring and kind, too many men have been abusive cheaters, then there's the rapey type. She just wants you to be a proper decent human being

[@myusername3162]

Nature goes with the flow, figure out who you are, then figure out what you're good at, then begin making choices. Teamwork is an almost necessary part of life so after a while of you doing you , friends, business partners , and chances for romance begin to come.

[@lashawnhill]

Yep instead of being deceptive and intentionally try to hurt her.

[@antmarino1]

This only works on women that haven’t done any inner healing work. The reason is, these techniques are activating their unworthiness wound and anxious attachment and then the relationship will be a wound-mate dynamic. Relationships should be built on love, devotion, constancy, values and communication.

[@karenkaren9913]

Well said. Emotionally intelligent, confident women wouldn't fall for this. And also would avoid men that try to play games with them.

[@alexanderwindh4830]

Exactly. Any confident or mature woman would not allow this. My ex was addicted to me. But she didn't care about anything but having someone to be with her that wasn't cheating.... So.

[@antmarino1]

@@Joetoy90 unfortunately 🙏🙏

[@user-ds5cr9iq4v]

Exactly! Had a guy do this and knew he was playing game. Decided to focus my attention elsewhere

[@grandblancchiropractic5368]

This is great game to get insecure girls. No high value woman would fall for these military grade weapons. 😂

[@MatthiasGleichmann]

I cannot stress enough how good this guy is. Pure Gold content. Thank you Todd.

[@princepacifico1512]

I read a quote saying "anything that is freely given tends to be taken for granted ." I think it's true. That's why toxic ex and abusers always comes back when u walk away from the relationship. They get comfortable taking the good person for granted and their good deeds despite their abuse. So when the abusee finally moves on they now cherish the thing they thought they would have forever

[@MrDragosh201]

Comed here to learn how to make my girl obsessed. Found out she does all of this shit on me :)) I hope she's not a psycho.

[@Paul-yk7ds]

A lot of this stuff (like not responding or becoming distant at times) is natural behavior if you're just not *that* invested in the other person yet

[@MrDragosh201]

@@Paul-yk7ds se told me that she's in love whit me.

[@Trump-A-Bad-MF]

@@MrDragosh201 focus on her actions not her words, women lie

[@gougouga]

@@MrDragosh201 this behavior is often caused by past traumas like toxic parent, look up avoidant attachment style

[@MrDragosh201]

Update she was a sociopath lmao

[@sircasticd1427]

you are describing the toxic roller coaster that narcissists apply in a relationship.Yes it is addictive and there are studies over it but it is still toxic and it rarely ends well. Healthy people do not play such mind games and healthy relationships are not built over this. Do not apply if you care for the other person. It is extremely toxic and damaging

[@iforgot799]

I agree, I'm trying to think about a more benign, constructive versions of these techniques.

[@lauracortiva]

Agreed! This is terrible advice for those who value themselves and are interested in spiritual growth.

[@sircasticd1427]

@A not only a woman but a man as well. I'm a survivor of this behaviour and i'm 1 year now on therapies.

[@adriaan9944]

Literally

[@tomsutherland7076]

agreed ... some of this is just plain f**ked up

[@JohnSmith-zj9wo]

This was important for me to see. I can see how if you wanted to torment a person you could effectively do it this way. If you do most of these techniques without telling a person that's what you're doing, you're going to make them really upset and feel really small and uncared for. Oh how romantic, you've addicted them in a way that no doubt makes them feel manipulated. I've thought girls were doing this to me before and it made me unbelievably angry, and not in a pleasant, playful way. Don't use this on people if you want the best for them. Go out and date and empathize instead of watching youtube videos on how to win friends and influence people.

[@timetraveler6949]

Thank you

[@BillWiltfong]

Tell your girl that you can't manipulate her unless you make yourself her only source of happiness. Put it back on her to manipulate herself. Girls love tasks.

[@youkai7838]

I needed this comment, thank you. I still haven't watched the 10 secs of video

[@rizzamaeong]

​@@BillWiltfongit is still manipulation. And it is wrong.

[@jaydawg2616]

Have a lot of money, only way to fly.

[@codederick6920]

Great vid, Todd. 2 questions: 1) how do you create an “us vs the world mentality” with your girl? Is this just a matter of using the word “we” a lot? 2) how do you create open loops? Is this just a matter of occasionally saying ambiguous/vague things to her?

[@iDropPhats]

The “us vs the world” mentality comes from alignment. Your goals and aspirations, your actions and habits should be congruent with what you both want for yourselves, aka you should both be willfully taking the necessary actions to achieve your goals. Achieving things together and setting mutual goals is also a good method because in order to be on the same team, you have to be after the same thing. People will align with those who desire the same results or achievements, especially if accomplishing it with others will reduce the difficulty of the task. Now, I don’t do this with women, I’ve been seeing multiple women for a while and don’t have the need for such tactics. HOWEVER, my advice is coming from a very extensive sales background where I need to instill the exact same mentality into my prospects to close them. Align with your prospect’s goals and vision, help them believe in their goals and vision, transfer the necessary confidence and certainty into them so that they believe they can achieve their goals, and meet them where they are emotionally, in your tone, and in your cadence throughout the interaction. Pace and lead them with your tonality to get emotional agreements and instill buying confidence, all while bringing them to the necessary logical agreements to complement the emotional side.

[@prashunpcchakraborty70]

@@iDropPhats Could you illustrate with an example?

[@iDropPhats]

@@prashunpcchakraborty70 Put yourself in a position that allows you to help her achieve her goals. Remember, always position yourself as part of the solution, not the problem. If she wants to get in shape, tell her to come to the gym with you daily. If she wants to excel in the business space, build your knowledge base and aid in her in her endeavors. If she wants to get a promotion, keep her accountable and help her grow as a person so she can get the position. In doing this, she’ll see you as a problem finder and a problem solver. You get what you want because she’ll most likely see you as a pathway to her goals. If you instill that kind of mentality in her, for one she will look up to you and two, she’ll feel more compelled to do things for you. She will feel the need to return the favor in some form or fashion. That’s basic human psychological behavior. Does that make sense? It works, for the most part, in the same way with everyone, this is just an application to a woman.

[@prashunpcchakraborty70]

@@iDropPhats That does make sense but a friend of mine is in the same spot he's the problem solver but he's starting to enjoy that role a bit too much. He solves her problems and it feels like there's not much joy in the relationship. She's dependent on him but I don't think there's a man to woman sexual attraction there any longer because he isn't getting any.

[@iDropPhats]

@@prashunpcchakraborty70 It’s a fine balance, you don’t solve every problem there is. There’s supposed to be disagreements in a relationship, that’s the only way you can grow together with someone. But you don’t solve so many problems that they’re dependent on you to do so, that creates an absolute need, and you don’t want that. Solve just enough problems for her to achieve what she wants to achieve mostly on her own. If you’re doing EVERYTHING, then it’s a one sided relationship where you do it all and she sits back and gets comfortable having to take little action. It’s a very fine balance of providing empathy and accountability, but keeping your distance and never really becoming *too* much of a provider. That just leaves you open to being taken advantage of and walked all over. Again, this only really applies to traditional relationships. If you’re seeing multiple women, don’t worry about doing a whole lot of providing at a medium to high level, if any.

[@AmbercoolPhotography]

This is 100% true. Been subconsciously doing this since 18. Not methodically; was just myself.

[@LOGOASSASSIN]

Very true, excellent advice as usual. On a meta level avoid setting patterns, humans are subconsciously searching for patterns all the time.

[@marcokuhner2445]

Once it’s a pattern it’s toxic

[@adammm321]

What's he done to his hair

[@abesalgado2083]

@@adammm321 lmao

[@ihelpyouwitheverything4720]

Many girls get pis.sed when ure unpredictsble. Many want it all planned out

[@marcokuhner2445]

@@ihelpyouwitheverything4720 I mean it would piss u off if ur girl was unpredictable all the time as well right? It’s about doing it in a good way. She can trust you to surprise her, but at the same time knows, she better respect your boundaries

[@annadata]

This is pure gold. Pretty much life-changing advice. I'm glad I stumbled upon this video. Thanks Todd!

[@xlortiz]

Todd's the greatest!

[@AuroraVillanuevaa]

Me too!!

[@darshanpatel.1782]

Kya yeh kaam karti hai, bhai?

[@loveispatientloveiskind2205]

Maybe you think that kinda thing works, I find it's either 'love at first sight ' or not too interesting.. but the guy flirting by, being sweet, well mannered and showing her you find her interesting.. is great. Too many guys are drinking too much alcohol, very off putting if he's slurring and shows weak out of control, red flags

[@scottstone1475]

Come on bro..life changing...

[@thewedge8823]

I did that very last step, she text me out of the blue "we need to talk" then I said whats wrong? she wrote "I don't think this is working out anymore, you almost never text me, only when I text first, I'm very upset right now etc" and instead of me using this to my advantage I just text her "sorry you feel that way, I understand, good luck with evrything in your life"... and that was that lol

[@MisterBlackout]

"I know you feel strongly and you want me to reach out more and I appreciate how good you are at communicating but you have to understand that i'm busy building my future. Sometimes I legitimately can't text back despite wanting to. Your consistency is an extreme sign of loyalty to me and shows that you're serious i'll hit you back when I can. Thank you ❤️" Something like that might work depending on how she really feels but don't waste a good woman if she's actually good.

[@cliffdariff74]

what exactly was so funny (you wrote LOL).. seems immature.

[@TiaraAyim2]

Girl dodged a bullet right there.

[@rememberingme983]

Good training video for budding narcissists and psychopaths. And typically it is the perpetrators that suffer more than the victims. The victims are more likely to learn from the experience and develop, while the perpetrators perpetuate their loneliness and isolation.

[@bolt9110]

The last technique "the dread of not knowing" is a typical terrible male behaviour in a failing relationship. It shows a man is fearful of his partners emotions. Avoid becoming needy or supplicating (walking on egg shells). It will serve you better if you 'don't care just a little', because you'll put your needs first.

[@paul_romero_]

Be careful on that disqualifying part.....I just did that (on my own. It was an honest thing that I said, before I had even heard of this lol) and she took it to heart and left me in the dust! lol She's seeing someone else already 😂

[@zziz6137]

Exactly, same with being absent and not being too available for woman, they can and will quickly move on to the next guy and forget about you

[@bier1921]

Idk what women you guys are dating but they sound pretty cheap.

[@pochcalpadlos]

Imagine both people doing this game and basically never make out, just ignoring each other and hoping one person will chase..

[@k98_zock_tv47]

Thats me and one lady. Since 13 years. For fuck sake. She is a "natural" in it haha

[@ihelpyouwitheverything4720]

I had this happened milliooons of times. I remember when nobody knew what ghosting was. Now everyone are aware of that dynamic.

[@oglow100]

Bro I have to admit, this video is like literal magic. Probably the most amazing video I've ever seen about dating

[@nishanttn]

These types of hot and cold techniques work really well on someone with a dismissive avoidant attachment style. You go on a date and have a good time and then suddenly disappear for next 2 or 3 days. Leaving them on read, leaving them hanging cold and dry after things are going well and then you become hot again, start showing a lot of interest and love etc etc. All this emotional roller coaster ride works really well and allows the mystery to build up but at the end of the day you’re just playing games and not a clean healthy way to build a relationship. But this works..

[@Greyvend]

This is brilliant. It's not some obvious well-known BS, but true valuable, hard way experience gained information. Thank you so much Todd. I immediately realized some of the recent mistakes I made. Much gratitude.

[@jayjones9225]

This video is so well done and lays out the rationale and the drawbacks of this strategy perfectly

[@inesnathaliengoua]

i think the idea is keeping a level head. dont give someone all your time. you need to also work and sleep. i value a guy that makes time for me and that respects his other priorities. you cant be on the phone all the time or together all the time. but you can also find ways to enjoy each other without being 100% lockin on one an other all the time. for exemple face timing while doing other things, being at home but doing 2 different things. coupled with getting alone time and time together. it gives you time to miss eachother, time to build a shared eperience/live.

[@DjPyro2010]

I'd rather lose her for being too unapologetic/unyielding than keep her for being too nice

[@MisterBlackout]

Law #3 of the pimp game. Don't chase, Replace

[@christopherartalejo1101]

Simpler explanation please

[@MisterBlackout]

@@christopherartalejo1101 He would rather lose a chick by being himself rather than acting nice to keep her.

[@Trump-A-Bad-MF]

@@ghosthusler he's preached the gospel many times and most never paid attention 😤😤

[@ihelpyouwitheverything4720]

Lol

[@mwanzafitalpha9827]

10 things to quit for all Strong Men: 1. Caring about what others think 2. Not believing in yourself 3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business) 4. Not prioritizing your health 5. Wasting your precious time 6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it) 7. Chasing meaningless relationships 9. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 🥩 10. Wasting time by scrolling social media 11. Nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!) Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list............

[@GrupoMaton]

Good list…Never knew about #11 🧐 just looked into it and there’s some great ideology behind it thanks for sharing bro

[@B_B463]

Point 11 is actually real in regards to mental weakness and inconfidence? Can you refer me to your source? I wanna read more about that

[@cahnrad]

#8??

[@treasurewuji8740]

@@cahnrad number eight is taking advice from someone who cannot count😂

[@joshramsey3169]

#8 got skipped because he was beating his meat and laughing at those who believed him and don't. Guys who don't, think they're better than you and manicure their nails. Oh, and can never satisfy a woman

[@andrereis3896]

What an incredible video... I cant belive how much work Todd puts into this... Honestly he is been my go too for a long time now! Never misses! And I love your Text and Dates course!

[@CSsinneR1]

You must be a secundary account 💀

[@joncarbone]

I'm doing this to my ex I'm trying to get back. It is driving her a bit crazy. But I'm only doing it so she appreciates me in the end. She got too comfortable living with me, started being rude and distant. Now she's texting me love songs, brings up good times together.

[@redridgemedia3771]

Legend !!!! Keep swinging that axe brother lol

[@KingCol]

Todd never disappoints with the topics 🔥

[@chucke2319]

I thought I knew it all and you just hit the nail on the head, thanks for informing the community I really enjoyed this video

[@johncarlson6472]

This video reminds me of why I'm not in any hurry to get back in the dating game. What he's neglecting to say here is, if you run this tedious, self-regulating game on her, she may be obsessed with you, BUT ONLY FOR A WHILE...UNTIL IT DOESN'T WORK ANYMORE. Let's get real, ok? there's an unspoken standard of expectations she has for you, and that standard of expectations isn't static, it's fluid, and growing. Western women will constantly, selfishly push you to "level-up" in the name of "I'm just being supportive." What a crock. But watch out. Make no mistake gentlemen, if she feels you're not "hitting the mark," (for any reason), things can get ugly, and she can "move on" with zero remorse, guilt or shame...and do so with rapidity, it'll shock you to the core. That is her strength.

[@TEuUs88]

Damn thats the best comment on here, nobody else mentioned that. I made that mistake, didn't hit the mark and now she is gone, she moved on. Thank you for that I needed to hear it.

[@johncarlson6472]

@@TEuUs88 As a side note, more and more men are migrating to the Philippines, Thailand and some Latin Countries where women appreciate men and know how to show their appreciation. Unlike Western women, these exotic, genuinely feminine creatures don't push men to "level-up" for their own selfish agenda in the name of "being supportive." Imagine being with a woman you don't have to constantly run "game" on, where you can just be you.

[@louvega8414]

Delivering 'How to get a woman obsessed with you' with the warning, "Please use this for good", with a straight face deserves a thumbs up, whatever the content was...

[@iSpitboxer]

Alot of these strategies are absolutely how you should go about most relationships to obtain power. However, it works more towards insecure and self conscious chicks. Alot of older well established women will recognize the games and bounce because of them. Unless you're gorgeous in which case all of this works all the time. I should know.

[@nb1598]

Freeze out very kindly “I definitely respect you, but I am sorry I can’t hide that I am kinda turned off by the situation” if she doesn’t like that, say: “just give me one minute please, not really a big deal” and change the subject by nice but keep some noticeable distance -it’s true and it works for me

[@fernandogigliotimossi3872]

Todd is amazing. He knows the canon perfectly. Great master. I'm from old days when I went to a Julien rsd seminar when I lived in the USA. Now back to Italy and after years I still have abundance. Julien style was over the top, wich matches my personality, but to normal people go for todd v all the way. The guy is a genius.

[@thomascanellas5476]

Todd, you should write a book.

[@kanyon6539]

Such a great video, I learned that I’m being too positive and always around. She hardly responds anymore, I get it’s a long distance relationship but I thought she would want me around.

[@badjoj015]

About the outro, a good human being wouldn't do these tactics, we all know that. But it sucks that some of us have to balance out our "nice guy-ness" to use these on the girl we want to get with I met a few women where i didn't have to do these toxic traits in order for me to do the things i wanted to do with her That was mainly because both of us werent toxic nor did we have any toxic tendencies, meaning we were raised healthy Never did i ever thought about what she felt nor would i want her to feel, aka zero emotional manipulation What i'm trying to say is that you could still be your BEST-SELF without wanting to do these toxic tactics to get the RIGHT girl for you "oh that wouldnt be fun at all", if toxic is fun for you then so be it. Her emotions and your emotions will be on the line and people will get hurt

[@risy95]

I don't want anyone to get obsessed with me, but implementing some will be useful. I want to communicate to a woman, that I'm not yet sold on her, so she has to prove. She seems to expect the same from me, literally everytime we talked she mentioned a different person wanting to meet her. Honestly, I have no experience with women, thanks for the info!

[@ranceshepstone]

Came across this randomly and it’s brilliant. What you described in this video is exactly what I did with my wife without even realizing it ❤

[@grandblancchiropractic5368]

R u still married??? Happily???

[@ranceshepstone]

haha yes! we've been together 10+ years didnt marry until last year.@@grandblancchiropractic5368

[@philomelodia]

The wife. “so, that’s how I wound up with you. You bastard! Where are we going for dinner tonight, honey?” 😆

[@sarahsmith3016]

This video just makes me realize how desperate some men are 😢

[@MNorbert89]

because of you

[@PiotrPorebski-y7t]

It's not not desperation, it's willingness to learn to be better.

[@StevenCantu]

Absolutely agree. Be careful what you wish for!

[@livingbymoonlight6075]

You’ve always been a wellspring of knowledge and wisdom. Thank you, Todd.

[@Rai_Koroshiya]

Yeah, dark side of game requires love. So true.

[@nathanepimetheus8530]

I will put these into use as soon as they are needed. That leads to my question however: how do we know when a woman is worth our time? How do we uncover their true self?

[@adapt-or-die-trying]

Damn this is some deep af game that Todd is giving for free, I feel like I should’ve paid for it lol

[@TheBeansChopper]

Are you for real lol

[@eddyalonsomoramorales6069]

Just Talk to your average narcisist And would know🤡🤡🤡

[@renga19]

Todd is a master at speaking in general.

[@diesel4ever273]

This is a lot more believable and realistic if you're looking for something serious than what many people say that we should treat girls as if we didn't even care about them and they're worthless for us. I basically treat girls the same way I'd like to be treated. I'm not looking for uncertainty, I'm looking for something serious and stable. If I want strong emotions, I'll just full throttle on my bike, in a relationship I want something certain where we both respect eachother and have no doubts

[@aland1868]

Excellent video! This is some legit high level game knowledge. My only question is when mixing it up with the occasional disappointment, in addition to the tactics you've mentioned, would that also include disagreeing with her particular lifestyle choices (music tastes or personal ones like clothing choice) in conversation?

[@allahbless2278]

Probably only if it's a negative. Shitting on her music/Movie preferences would leads to nowhere positive. Just nothing or negative

[@inesnathaliengoua]

I would say dont try to orchestrate disappointment. but be ok with disagreeing and expressing yourself, dont just do everything that will make her happy. have boundaries respect your needs too. Talk about those things with her every once in a while to maje sure you guys are on the same page and you both know how to best respect and care for each other. because things arent static. We want to get along but again if we people please its just boring. Not sure if it makes sence.

[@loveispatientloveiskind2205]

Yr just going to annoy her by being negative like that. Just plan outtings, she'll find you so interesting then& irresistible!!

[@moeclash238]

Yeaaa, hell yea. Not disagreeing but like teasing her lightly. This one girl said she likes Canadian poutine I told I don’t like it. African poutine taste better 😂😂 stupid and silly but it works.

[@ray.deathray]

Hell no. Occasional disappointment comes from you being your own person with your own likes. It's not about insulting what she likes - that's just being an asshole and a total red flag.

[@gabriellainfirmierecoach]

I forwarded this to a lot of female friends I have , thanks for letting the world know about mind games , on the other side of the coin however, if they use these techniques, men will know why they are ghosted by good women and will only attract insecure ones because when a real woman figure this game out , she will leave the game instantly without a warning thanks for the truth that is intended to manipulate love

[@user-sf5iq2fl1l]

Women do this naturally, men dont.

[@zippyer2_yahoo]

Real shit

[@ibrahimmohamedmaalim5568]

Bro u are on point but plz be precise u talk alot

[@exystenze4719]

had one girl obsessed with me last year... the validation was great i ain't gonna lie, but goddamn did it take so much effort. And it did turn into a pretty toxic situation in the end lmao

[@ThorMaximus]

Yeah, truth be told there. When they get obsessed you’re potentially heading for a problem

[@beasthaven1571]

@@ThorMaximus why

[@nathand.384]

Bro for real.. i used these crazy ass tactics and this girl literally rang my door bell without tellin me she was comin

[@mminniear984]

I had a girl threaten my life after 2 mos of dating her because I broke it off. She would drive past my house and I’d random texts from random numbers for months talking all kinds of shit. This can be dangerous! 😅

[@raphaelklietmann5529]

Yes, most of those technics work really really well. But I have also seen women (especially the damaged ones like borderliners etc) using them VERY well. I also then thought: "where the hell did she learn that from??" The answer: from nowhere/nobody. It was just part of her psychophatic/antisocial behavior... that is the dark truth about all this.... believe me!!!

[@snoguy7181]

What this brother is saying is all facts, but it is insane how much mental gymnastics we have to go through to get someone to love

[@loveispatientloveiskind2205]

You don't. All you have to do is be respectful, kind and caring. Text and phone properly... don't play stupid games with her. Make plans with her, eat with her, respect her privacy and ask her what she likes. She'll be nicer to you that way. But if it's not working that way, she maybe an alcoholic nymphomaniac who will always share herself about. Depends what you want

[@floki5605]

@@loveispatientloveiskind2205 Hot girls get bored with that type of behavior because they are constantly showered with attention. Maybe if you're pulling a 6 it'll work.

[@loveispatientloveiskind2205]

@@floki5605 pulling a 6... I'm English, I don't know what that means?? Seriously, ask her if she is sexual with more than 1 guy... or you're going to get Herpes etc., girls are taking revenge on male gamers... proper relationships are about loyalty etc., she'll only give that if you are not messing with others

[@eddyalonsomoramorales6069]

​@@floki5605 then keep atracting hoes Alpha 🤷🤷

[@synthsin75]

"Swimmy, swimmy, splashy, splashy, sexy, sexy" That's either a Eddie Izzard reference or an amazing coincidence.

[@frartenzo]

This is basically like training a neurons petri disk to chase a stimulus except that's is often done by girls unconsciously on guys.. You opened the playbook and reversed the situation so it can be used to build strong bonds in positive relationships for guys with girls too and on purpose, that's genius!

[@brianshanahan3878]

I've been watching a ton of videos like this but yours really stands out. Excellent insight and advice!!

[@jerryesque3747]

I honestly believe some guys did these methods without even knowing it. They probably didn't believe it would work, and didn't see that victory was there.

[@keltecdan]

I think you should preface that all of these tactics only work if she’s already physically attracted to you. If she doesn’t find you her type physically you are not going anywhere because I’ve tried this with women and it didn’t work because they didn’t find me physically attractive to begin with.

[@localppcartist]

This works!! This girl pulled this ALL of shit on me, I believe she knowingly did this...and I did SOME of this... unknowingly. It became toxic, she triggered my past trauma, my nervous system was on high alarm telling me danger! that then brought on a self awareness. I started with therapy and really got into why I failed at all her crap test. I feel like an idiot. My final words to her was to get lost, and that she used me and is manipulative. Narcissistic games.

[@Mr.Moneybags40]

todd i’ve taken your advice for years to heart and you’ve woken up the “ neo” in me and have made me see women in a whole new light like a scientist , but regarding the freeze out, altho i understand about not being reactive , my question and feeling about that is , isn’t not punishing her for doing something to you…isn’t that just inviting to her it’s ok to behave this way towards me ????

[@emreyuce4800]

Todd is simply saying dont freeze out if she refuses your escalation etc. Other than that he recommends to stand your ground firmly but calmly whenever she truly disrespects you and crosses the line in all his relevant videos.

[@JADSPRO]

There is an important point is be humble and keep it under control with girl you like, not fall in love, not make a fantasy and idealize her to become weak. Think about that she is not the one, there are so many other girls which can be more beautiful and like you either.

[@bigtaco4362]

If you are beginning to understand relationships, this video can be a good start or a bad start.

[@moosehead4497]

I say obessession isn't a good thing because ive been there and what goes up must come down and i always had a feeling it would end eventually. And it did. And it was not a great relationship. Overall.

[@DamageDann]

The Preemptive freeze out is GENIUS. It’s almost trolling.😅👌🏻

[@adomede]

1:50 2:04-2:35 5:20-6:22 (6:13). 7:12. Disqualify/push (8:30), when she’s a little invested in you…. 10:20-11:50.

[@peterschiller2451]

Why is she obsessed with me and I have no feelings anymore for her. Before it was the other way. I loved her and she was not interested.Why can't both have same feelings at the same time?

[@user-ww7ir1ml8m]

Putting her on ice for bad behavior when reactive just becones mean at some point especially if she starts getting concerned and you keep ignoring her. At some point you have to come back into the scene and answer to her question why did you go distant or why are you upset. But if you tell her directly, she will likely apologize, correct the behavior, and be more respectful of you as a man and, consequently, will increase her attraction for you.

[@johnrkean]

I dated an alpha female and while I used these techniques on her I noticed she would try these same tactics on me. She thought like a guy and tried to get me to chase her. Most women I have dated are not this good at understand the mind games. It's very effective when a woman tries to convince you she is the prize while at the same time I am trying to do the same thing.

[@johannesswillery7855]

I have dated alpha females as well. One thing is certain, they want to be conquered and spanked.

[@jackssmirkingrevenge9365]

lol im experiencing somethin similar atm. dunno if its alpha female or brat or what tbh but she reels you in with the submissive sweetheart nature but pounces on any weakness and regularly tries to assert her power - even though giving her what she wants would actually turn her off - so she dont even want what she thinks and tell you she wants. figure that out🤣🤣

[@brittanyparistx]

Can confirm these are good. 😆 Especially impressed with “the story of us.” This is super powerful for us ladies.

[@mrretired2715]

Hey get out of here! Men only secrets!

[@brittanyparistx]

@@mrretired2715 🤓🤣

[@mrretired2715]

@@brittanyparistx you could be my testing person? Lol

[@tinasolare]

it is kinda strange what happened to dating nowadays...me as a woman, I'd say only one thing - these guys will use it for evil. One type of women will get hooked and then they will be healing after narcissistic abuse...for years...and they won't believe in anything real afterwards. Another type of women will ignore and forget those guys in second as soon as they feel smth wrong and some games started. so it means this strategies work only with vulnerable, nice girls...those who have a low self esteem or haven't got enough love while being raised... so the most gold hearted girls..who can love. Who are able to love deeply... Those stupid manipulations will work on them and break them in the end. But what the point in this? To make both men and women players... egoistic? narcissistic? In psychology it is called trauma...when someone plays cold and hot, puts her on a pedestal and then devalues. Shit...this world is completely crazy.... Honestly...

[@GenesisReveal]

If you say "We need to talk," she might preemptively break up with you. lol

[@joeyluckow2490]

As a spin off to the last one, texting her “we should talk” before asking her to be your official girlfriend seems like it’d be pretty strong. She builds up the anxiety that you’re about to dump her but instead you go total opposite. No way she says no then!

[@joshwilliams6517]

Corny

[@loveispatientloveiskind2205]

Well yr best friend maybe telling her, if he's horrible to you. Don't worry, I'll take care of you instead. So it might be just an annoyance that yr trying to wind her up. Your brother might offer her a better easier deal. She wants to go to lovely places with you, to share your life and happiness. She's got enough stress already. She wants to be happy, not constantly on edge, life is already stressful enough. She doesn't need more crap!

[@ashbennett261]

Super corny!! Dudes is desperate out here

[@babymookie7176]

Fucking cringe dude. Nah let the chick push for commitment.

[@anteep4900]

wow thats simpish lmao

[@MyLatinLife]

Todd has been following Hoodville

[@chris99103]

I really have a hard time to wrap my head about the conecpt that you have to be a dick to people for them to love you (LOVE&OBSESSION). This actually may hold true for people with Borderline, Bipolar or Narcistic personality disorderbut most sane people would just move on if the payout is random and hit & miss. This describes rather stormy relationships and I definitely had my fair share of them when I was young. So now if Im into getting to know a new woman and the payout is not positive 7-8 times out of 10 (with one negative and one/two neutral maybe) I just hit the road. Not interested in acquiring emotional problems and people playing games.

[@philomelodia]

Perhaps this will dispel the confusion. He’s not a love Coach. He’s a get laid coach. His advice helps guys get laid. It doesn’t help people start relationships that last a long time. He’s basically describing what you need to do to have a fling with someone.

[@tixeright9120]

I was thinking in that pool / huttub situation, instead of chasing a separation, the better move would be to leave the hot-tub, dry off, get dressed either nicely if you're going somewhere, or in something relaxed if you'll be going to bed or the gym soon, and either have her come looking you, when she has that (oh shit I'm alone feeling) or else bring her a coffee or a cocktail while you have one yourself. In any case, switching things up, getting ready to do something different, creates the urgency of now, and if a woman is going to initiate, it's always going to be from a sense of urgency, not a relaxed state. A relaxed state it's your move. That's why they always be trying to initiate when a guy is giving them 'game over' vibes. That's why they boomerang between their exes when they didn't meet a good quality Mr. NEW NEXT, because even though she kicked them out the door, or they kicked her out the door, she treats them like prequalified credit offers!

[@kendotcole2185]

Been doing this for years. This man on point fellas, pay attention.

[@SammyCee23]

This is the most lethal video Todd has ever released

[@curiousfishie]

There are no games in a healthy partnership. The end.

[@kukicksazz]

What happened to authenticity? This is drama.

[@richardmartinez5040]

Yes, I got her obsessed with me, but what was I to do??? She was the key to saving the WORLD

[@theadorakelly]

If you use tactics to get her “obsessed,” you’re no longer allowed to complain when you eventually drive her “crazy…”

[@peterk3556]

Love is not a choice only to give people Happy emotions But love is so strong

[@erik041982]

FOR US SIMPLE FOLKS.... Just because a chick isn't texting or calling you DOES NOT MEAN SHE ISNT THINKING ABOUT YOU.

[@erik041982]

Females make no sense at all.

[@John-nd8bw]

Sounds like ur friend zoned bro ​@@blockaderunner

[@papajoeknows8355]

Very high quality content… impressed! 👍🏻

[@frankdavf4599]

if you do that intermitent reinforcement you can umbalance the situation. Turn your partner in an all giver and you in an all taker(that is the Narcicist game) and you ll get bored and unvalue the other person efforts to be with you.

[@John-nd8bw]

But u still getting what you want lol but I get what u are saying 😂

[@lancecharlestaylor]

On the subject of negative obsession backfiring I’m currently holding my baby that I had with a girl I wasn’t into who was obsessed with me who messed up with her birth control 😬😂

[@michaelhurin]

Todd, can you please explain the phenomenon like why girl fall in love in guys that are emotional cold and do nothing to pickup. Like in twilights or other movies? Why women look at this as high value?

[@MisterBlackout]

Women like a certain degree of ruthlessness. Women like leaders. Ruthless leaders are often the ones that survive and get the job done. Twilight was a movie and a book. I will say that they dig the mysterious dangerous guy that can build some comfort. I was raised around actual criminals so I have seen it in real time. It's more exciting for them meeting someone intriguing and then figuring out that they are badass.

[@edgaral]

that's easy, because as he spoke about it on the "Gambling game example" those guys rarely give the girls attention, they're too focused on themselves Also the Alpha look, where his face shows seriousness and not laughing like a small child every 5 seconds like he is excited for everything But don't get it wrong it's also because those guys can pull it off since they have attractive faces, an ugly dude will not pull that face, it will instead look like he's angry or else

[@michaelhurin]

@@edgaral why its high value for evolution?

[@Trump-A-Bad-MF]

@@michaelhurin he has the good genes she want to get to her offspring And then get a more "warmth" guy to raise those kids

[@marcusappelberg369]

You don't text women. You set dates or hang outs. Texting is a path to the Darkside, and I don't mean that in a good way.

[@hotbot4219]

When you far it wont work though

[@timetraveler6949]

Why is it a path to the dark side?

[@songxingmu]

Obsession is not love. After the people get over the obsession they will be gone. Or when the day they have you they will get bored and looking for another hunting