How to Achieve Ultra High Performance | Dr. Michael Gervais on Impact Theory

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Tom Bilyeu

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@trymberger6546
@trymberger6546 6 жыл бұрын
Wow, the most impactful interview yet for the stage I'm at: Let yourself and others feel the pain. Push your emotional agility through being vulnerable. Love others, but don't give a shit about what they think about you. Condition and training your mind through mindfulness/being in the present.
@SiimLand
@SiimLand 6 жыл бұрын
05:30 Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional
@MsMaxineee
@MsMaxineee 6 жыл бұрын
Siim Land!?
@rosemarietoussaintmd4334
@rosemarietoussaintmd4334 6 жыл бұрын
I agree that pain is an inevitable experience and suffering is an optional i.e. Suffering is why me, what did I do wrong to cause this pain? etc
@toestemp
@toestemp 6 жыл бұрын
Argue that with Buddha
@israellasure8721
@israellasure8721 6 жыл бұрын
SHEESHH
@thegamingsoundtrackarchive8426
@thegamingsoundtrackarchive8426 6 жыл бұрын
I agree with Siim Land on this. From my experience, it seems to me that mental and physical pain is completely unavoidable if you want to do anything worthwhile in life, but you have a choice whether or not you become a victim and suffer from the pain. You will experience the pain no doubt. But you can choose to feel sorry for yourself and cry, and be in misery and be a victim. Or you can experience the pain, and say OH YA, THAT'S GROWING PAIN, AND DAMN IT IS GOOD! Pain should become your good friend. Of course, it takes time and conditioning to gradually improve your ability to choose otherwise and stay in a good place, but it is completely valid and true.
@axxent2
@axxent2 6 жыл бұрын
'The reason people change is because of pain; the reason we grow is because we get uncomfortable'. 🙌🙌🙌🙌 Loved this! Thank you Tom & Michael!!!
@MrG__2
@MrG__2 6 жыл бұрын
Tom is a masterful interviewer. He asked the follow up questions that I was literally thinking. Appreciate you sir
@TheWsteed
@TheWsteed 6 жыл бұрын
100% Agreed.
@Chris-iu3vl
@Chris-iu3vl 5 жыл бұрын
Should you become an interviewer maybe? =)
@purorichard6770
@purorichard6770 5 жыл бұрын
He’s been pretty good at that in general, but in this one he truly nailed following the rabbit-hole his guest led him to.
@StephenDix
@StephenDix 4 жыл бұрын
genuine curiosity. And not the scripted pre-planned questions with zero follow-up that you would generally get on a typical interview. Just a genuine honest conversation going on right here.
@mosswaysfilipo4384
@mosswaysfilipo4384 3 жыл бұрын
Every question he asked word for word ? You thought of ? Or are you just exaggerating ? 🥺😂
@gatheringoflines2039
@gatheringoflines2039 4 жыл бұрын
At 27 minutes - yes. This is what I needed to understand about how my brain works. This is the lesson I've been looking for. I've thought for a while about training physically and how training increases lung capacity. But I haven't quite figured out how to train my "brain capacity" to handle strong emotions. I've also been trying to do a lot right now and I have a "fear of overwhelm" which causes me to take steps backward instead of forward in my goals. I want to train my brain to maximize my potential even when I feel overwhelmed by all that I'm doing. Thank you!
@lindavinod9098
@lindavinod9098 4 жыл бұрын
Gathering of Lines trying to do the same. more power to you!
@RekoMoreno
@RekoMoreno 6 жыл бұрын
I have to say this is one of my favorite interviews, I got into Dr. Michael Gervais' podcast because a friend of mine completely changed his life in the last year. He attributed his mental change to Dr. Gervais, which got me listening to him immediately. And currently I've kind of hit rock bottom, or at least that is what it feels like to me in my career. It definitely has me in a very uncomfortable place, great to hear it's okay, and that it can be the driving force to get me to my goal. Thank you @Tom Bilyeu!
@atturnec360
@atturnec360 6 жыл бұрын
Definitely at the top of my list for favorite guest you've had on the show Tom! So much value in one centralized place. For that, Thank You! Impact Theory is hands down doing that... IMPACTING! Like if you agree
@TomBilyeu
@TomBilyeu 6 жыл бұрын
Love that! Glad Michael resonated!
@khiannegeriane5297
@khiannegeriane5297 6 жыл бұрын
The fact that both are hosts and there is a good relay of questions for each other is awesome. Many facts has been stated here. Thank you so much Tom!
@carlfidance3083
@carlfidance3083 6 жыл бұрын
This man Michael Gervais just walked onto the show and dropped nothing but gems for 40 minutes straight. I'm absolutely moved and renewed.
@TheZGALa
@TheZGALa 6 жыл бұрын
I always expect to be inspired and moved to greater standards when I listen to an IT episode, and I am still blown away just a bout every time, by the variety of greatness you introduce me to. Thank you. I am so on board with this mission! Much Love to Michael, Tom, and everyone who helps put this show together and everyone listening/watching with intention to have a positive impact on our collective experiences.
@karigormley2709
@karigormley2709 6 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!!! Tom, his team, and guests are in a league of their own. How fortunate are we to be able to consume such life-changing content?!
@ReplayActionSports
@ReplayActionSports 6 жыл бұрын
Mind BLOWN
@desafinada9841
@desafinada9841 6 жыл бұрын
Agree 100%!
@Lu2c2
@Lu2c2 Жыл бұрын
Word! ❤🙌🏻✅
@davico23
@davico23 6 жыл бұрын
Tom you are saving my life, thanks for all the programs, interviews, wisdom shared by ur guests and you being the medium to provide that light to show a new and better more healthier path in the life of the people who watch the show, you r a great human being, God bless you
@Kait__C28
@Kait__C28 6 жыл бұрын
How are people thumbs downing this?!? So rude. This guy is phenomenal and Tom is an amazing interviewer. This is such a powerful interview
@kieranrchelsea
@kieranrchelsea 6 жыл бұрын
Wouldn’t say it’s rude, it’s just a button on a screen
@freeman1155
@freeman1155 5 жыл бұрын
Hapiness and peace of mind is realizing that others think differently to me. That what is meaningful for me is meaningless for others.
@k.alipardhan6957
@k.alipardhan6957 5 жыл бұрын
i've disliked 5 videos on this topic over the last 30 mins. those were a waste of time. just people pimping out paid content or adding filler to their videos. thankfully this video is better
@Anthony_Ponce
@Anthony_Ponce 5 жыл бұрын
I’m sure they were all mistakes. 🤣
@ClearOutSamskaras
@ClearOutSamskaras 5 жыл бұрын
The interview has enough utility that i too like it. But I can easily think of reasons that people would dislike it (ratings wise). One reason would be a distaste for how he spoke about research articles on "mindfulness" becoming more numerous and somehow "proving" the validity of "mindfulness". However, as he himself says, meditation is a practice that is thousands of years old. Also, the practitioners from thousands of years ago were scientists themselves of the mind, therefore the research has already been done, the benefits are already known but the work was carried out by the Asian branches of the human family and not the Western branch; and the recorded results of the research lived, outlined and depicted in a way that is not the way of academic research. The results and investigations were recorded in organic religious practice, in stories/scripture, etc. To speak about the West carrying out its research on mindfulness/meditation as the "real" research is very problematic (to be polite about it). So, the above is just one reason to give a thumbs down, people being the complicated things that they are, we can expect that many more reasons (thoughtful reasons, not just dislike for the sake of dislike, or as you chose to put it, "so rude") exist for dislike of the video.
@Tamcakes100
@Tamcakes100 6 жыл бұрын
Tom! Every time you say that something hits you hard you literally steal the words from my mouth... this was an emotional one for me. Thank you!
@I.am.Alexander.Telena
@I.am.Alexander.Telena 6 жыл бұрын
It never ceases to amaze me how often I can be amazed when I eliminate expectation. Excellent interview. I never heard of the guest prior to this segment. Dr Gervais thank you for your wisdom and insights. Tom! Thank you for your craft and commitment to share knowledge, insights, and wisdom with the seemingly singular purpose of making us all better human beings.
@pasoph2011
@pasoph2011 5 жыл бұрын
Your interviews are so good that you continue to make your guests dive deeper than they had planned. I love it.
@artturock820
@artturock820 5 жыл бұрын
Tom: I've heard several interviews with Dr Gervais, an this was the best by far. Your questions got him to meaty examples, rather than too much psychological high brow conceptual information. You do a great job framing introductions too. BRAVO! I'm a new raving fan.
@ju4261-u5i
@ju4261-u5i 5 жыл бұрын
The first time i saw this interview in 2018 did not impacted to me that much, 6 months from there now in 2019, i feel so much respecto for Michael Gervais. Thanks Tom and Mike.
@apocisaiah4811
@apocisaiah4811 6 жыл бұрын
This one surprised me quite a bit, I came expecting information on how to stay focused and efficient with time but left with so many jewels on fostering relationships. Job well done! I really enjoyed the section that got into Dr. Gervais marriage reconciliation when he discusses how to make those necessary deep conversations happen. Tom does a great job at hearing what the guest is coming to say, but then also making sure he finds something in their speech that makes it personally applicable to himself (and thus, the audience). I have yet again been introduced to another great leader out there in Dr. Gervais and will be leaving this will many more notes taken. -Isaiah Young
@MiraMyo
@MiraMyo 6 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU thank you!!! THIS Dude (saying it with complete respect and admiration) is BRILLIANT!!! We need as a humanity in the Western Culture a whole curriculum integrating what this man is speaking about into the educational system to teach our little people this stuff. He articulates in a way my soul/spirit and humanness can hear! THANK YOU!!! Just like Dr. Joe Dispenza. He allows for all of our humanity to 'come to the table....'
@thecloud9show
@thecloud9show Жыл бұрын
I was a original member of Finding Mastery w Dr Mike and followed Tom early on. As one with an empty mind, you both inspired me when I was experiencing ‘the dark night of the soul’. Much gratitude. Ricky
@reynemanzano
@reynemanzano 5 жыл бұрын
Full Context begins @7:30 @8:25 "A rising tide floats all boats" @9:13 "None of us do this thing alone, and if we're really gonna go the distance, and really step into the frontier to do the amazingly difficult challenging things, we need to lock arms to stay in the trenches long enough. And what happens for most people is we lock arms, we say, 'oh yeah, let's go get it,' and then we lock arms, and then as soon as it's hard, the brain kicks in, and the survival mechanisms in the brain are stronger than the thriving mechanisms. So the survival mechanisms light up, and what do we do? We save our own ass, and we unlock our arms, and we take care of ourselves. That is how people fray in rugged and stressful environments--emotionally stressful environments. We unlock. And so the extraordinary are able to stay the course, locked arms, because they're mission-minded, they're really clear about what they want to experience, and they bet on each other." Note to self: He's primarily talking about football, but can you carry this mindset to your intimate relationships? With family, friends, partners? Try it. See what happens.
@somethingbeautiful2212
@somethingbeautiful2212 5 жыл бұрын
Excellent summarization 🙂
@alexkid7814
@alexkid7814 6 жыл бұрын
Hi Tom, yesterday I took the plunge and wrote a message on here asking for your advice for my continued failure on my career. I wrote that I tried everything. I have since deleted that message because I have to be honest with myself. I do not believe I have tried everything. I just am starting to realise that I lack the skills needed in order to be a more capable individual of conquering my dreams based on my lack of ability to see past the failure. I am very scared of failure and all the emotions that run through my mind when faced with a challenge make me decide to not try at all. I am right now in this moment writing down every step, no matter how small, I need to take. I accept that in order to achieve my goals I have to put in the work, it's not going to come to me if I don't move towards it.
@csgstormer
@csgstormer 6 жыл бұрын
That is so powerful Alex. You are inspiration. Lean into the raw fleshy ego-destroying place and build from the ground up. During meditation I chant in my mind, "I don't know anything" on inhale, and "I don't even know who I am" on exhale. The results of doing this for even a few minutes are incredible. I recommend a basic Kryia Yoga lotus pose (legs crossed, chin slightly lifted up and eyes closed with inner vision focued at where the bridge of your nose begins). Bless you for your inspiration. You and I are so much on the same path. I feel you just in that small paragraph you wrote. Thank you again
@Lucky13Enterprise
@Lucky13Enterprise 6 жыл бұрын
Same here!
@gogetem340
@gogetem340 6 жыл бұрын
Hey dude, do meditation for at least 10 mins everyday & positive affirmations with emotion. Within a month or two at max, your stress levels will start normalizing. You are scared of failure therefore, you don't do things at all just to prevent failure. Meditation will distance emotion of fear/ stress from the desire of doing something. This is where you can start.
@JN003
@JN003 6 жыл бұрын
@@gogetem340 any particular method ?
@Anthony_Ponce
@Anthony_Ponce 5 жыл бұрын
Very positive realization you have had. Fear ....like limits.... are often just a figment of our imagination...keep moving forward
@saelath8674
@saelath8674 6 жыл бұрын
I think I've already watched this 4x today. It's everything I needed to hear. Insight after insight, ideas I've been contemplating for some time. Definitely got some clarity.
@ChrisBello
@ChrisBello 5 жыл бұрын
FOPO - fear of other people’s opinions. So true! Something magical happens when you stop worrying about what others think about you and start doing YOU.
@BladeRunner27
@BladeRunner27 6 жыл бұрын
I really love how Tom listens carefully without interrupting whenever the guests speaks.
@champtech8755
@champtech8755 5 жыл бұрын
Yeah, that's an amazing skill, especially when you have nothing to add to the smart thoughts.
@catedoge3206
@catedoge3206 4 жыл бұрын
@@champtech8755 nothing to add? Bruh
@StephenDix
@StephenDix 4 жыл бұрын
I'm really learning how to listen to people I disagree with here. Value on several layers.
@DEE-qu5mc
@DEE-qu5mc 4 жыл бұрын
True. So many interviewers always interrupt. Quite annoying.
@rayj.9568
@rayj.9568 4 жыл бұрын
@@catedoge3206 , It sounds like Champ Tech gave a backhanded compliment.
@PositivevIBSTribe
@PositivevIBSTribe 6 жыл бұрын
FOPO = FEAR of OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINION. LOVE IT
@kevinho1922
@kevinho1922 5 жыл бұрын
"your mechanism to survive is stronger than your will to thrive" man that hit hard
@SMA-cl2sq
@SMA-cl2sq 6 жыл бұрын
I enjoyed every minute of this interview!!!Thank you so much for all the effort,my way of thinking changed a lot.Please I’ll be grateful if you add an Arabic subtitle!I’m addicted to these mind-blowing interviews and I want to share it literally with all the people I know especially Arab people! They really need to see that,there’s not a lot of people teaching these things in my country (for free),I’m sure they will get a great benefit of your channel for better way of thinking and a better life!
@subashinikennedy5032
@subashinikennedy5032 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Tom, for giving all these for free. Whenever I feel low, I come here to enlighten me.. Thanks again, you are a wonderful soul.
@chb762
@chb762 2 жыл бұрын
This is one of the best interviews I have ever seen.
@dimpen
@dimpen 5 жыл бұрын
I love Dr. Michael Gervais! He's the right guy to go for a couple of friendly beers and change your life forever.
@zenlenzmedia
@zenlenzmedia 5 жыл бұрын
"Finding clarity in the mess and discovering life through a new lenz so you can live in abundance" is the foundation of my book "Hot Mess to toally blessed". Truth is I wouldn't have that book if I didn't go through the darkness. Im an avid believer that we can not know what Good is if we never go through the bad. We wouldn't know what bad is if we never experienced anything good. Im now in state of "knowing" that everything has a purpose and lesson for each of us. Pay attention to all the aigns. "Knowing thy self" first and getting clarity on who we are, why we act and react in all situations, and how we overcome, will be a reflection of our experience in this life. Tom did another great video! Loved this. My mind expanded and my heart felt appreciation. 💕❤ much love
@hfortenberry
@hfortenberry 5 жыл бұрын
Wow, that story about the Seattle Seahawks player and his team around him made me cry. What a beautiful thing!
@mahshidlife544
@mahshidlife544 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you both Michael Gervais and Tom Bilyeu. We want to experience all emotions but not lose ourselves on them. That was awesome. It was healing to my soul. Wow.
@unagasparovic3818
@unagasparovic3818 6 жыл бұрын
My life goal is to appear on Tom's show, to experience his introduction. Must be a better feeling than winning a Nobel 😜 Actually, the goal is to do stuff worthy of that introduction. But yeah 😁
@fckem1000
@fckem1000 6 жыл бұрын
That really hit me hard - like OMG
@tbserrano2
@tbserrano2 6 жыл бұрын
Mine too! But like you I know I have to earn the honor of being on this great show! Good luck!
@careflett
@careflett 6 жыл бұрын
Isn't that the truth! A worthy goal indeed :)
@timjordanLA
@timjordanLA 6 жыл бұрын
@@fckem1000 that's funny
@karenzhang1020
@karenzhang1020 6 жыл бұрын
Mine too :)
@reneecaines9097
@reneecaines9097 6 жыл бұрын
Thankful to hear your talk in regards to controlling your thoughts. I have a 6 year old on the Autism spectrum that I try to teach mindfulness and controlling his thoughts, otherwise he is over run with anxiety. I understand it will take time with his age and Autism, but I do believe overtime, he will have better control and develop resilience to his overwhelming emotions. I sure hope you can get a program into schools. In Canada (BC specifically) they are teaching the Zones of Regulation and it is an excellent start. I think High school men, specifically, would really benefit primarily from your approach. Thank you for working hard at your purpose daily!
@bxbexbxsmith4172
@bxbexbxsmith4172 6 жыл бұрын
Great interview! I’ve realised that everyone keeps referring back to the present moment. Every time I get very still I realise my thoughts are focused on past or future as in 24/7 all day long. Whenever I stop my thoughts continue. I’m now really learning how to detach from the thinking person and just be here. It’s actually fun catching myself when I fall out of the moment and go in my head. Thanks Tom 💖
@samrichardson9487
@samrichardson9487 3 жыл бұрын
One of the most insightful talks I've heard this year. Will make sure to share this with those i think will also benefit from this!
@CCMay_22
@CCMay_22 2 жыл бұрын
When I’m present in my children’s play , everything melts away and it’s absolute joy!
@daliadalia4339
@daliadalia4339 6 жыл бұрын
I love this episode. Mike is thoughtful and thought provoking. Love when I can learn about mindset and I love that he connects it to emotions. Going to have to either watch it or listen to the podcast again 👌🏾👌🏻. Thanks Tom for your constant hard work!!
@millymoon9951
@millymoon9951 6 жыл бұрын
Really powerful ...such a heart centered guy too ...thanks Tom💚🦋
@davidrazack9616
@davidrazack9616 5 жыл бұрын
Alot of emotional stability geared towards oneself, sensitivity & rediagnosing ones own perception.thanku
@motivation4u
@motivation4u 6 жыл бұрын
This is some of the most intelligent content in any media, anywhere
@terrimitchell-whatdoyouthink
@terrimitchell-whatdoyouthink 5 жыл бұрын
THE BEST VIDEO YET. The BEST... Michael Gervais is SPOT ON... totally and completely. I am currently working on my Ted Talk for material that is similar, from my own life and professional experience and he just articulated it spectacularly. *wow, I am a huge fan suddenly!*
@tojomathew4197
@tojomathew4197 2 жыл бұрын
Every greatness starts with pain.The worst thing that can be done to our beloved one's to to reduce their pain.Experince all emotion without losing yourself.How to harness our emotional imbalances are by means of mindful meditation.This is what I understand from you sir,Thanks a lot.
@pavanvenkat9182
@pavanvenkat9182 6 жыл бұрын
30:30 best way to put mindfulness!
@Bealight326
@Bealight326 4 жыл бұрын
I can’t say enough how thankful I am for the enlightenment, motivation, spiritual, knowledge that comes from Tom’s interviews. May God continue to bless you, wife, family ❤️❤️❤️
@TheWsteed
@TheWsteed 6 жыл бұрын
Tom's strategy of working out as soon as he wakes up and practicing engaging the sympathetic nervous system by working out and imagining his wife is being attacked by someone much bigger than he, to immediately practicing mindfulness meditation has been my FAVORITE practice to implement in my morning ritual. And Michael Gervais just helped me to fully understand the breadth of benefits it has. 10/10 - would recommend to anyone wanting to get closer to this same result!
@csgstormer
@csgstormer 6 жыл бұрын
Honestly, Tom, this man is a Sage. He deserves the title of Sage because of his deep wisdom and knowledge of life. I have heard mystics east and west and this man echo's everything that the enlightened people speak about. Brilliant, and mind blowing.
@OurNewestMember
@OurNewestMember 6 жыл бұрын
I'm SO GLAD someone clearly acknowledged this. Also, I want to point out that Michael so naturally seemed to cover such varied intellectual depths and even ranges of emotions. But what I think blew my mind was the fact that he's doing this with such eloquent consistency, FROM START TO FINISH, no big deal. Incredible. Thank you for stopping to zero in on the essence of this situation -- with a refreshing eloquence nonetheless.
@csgstormer
@csgstormer 6 жыл бұрын
@@OurNewestMember Thanks! :) Great reply and surprising observations! I've never heard someone so like-minded. We must share a similar level of perception 🤔 just based on that data point I can assume you and I could talk for hours. If you're open to it, which I assume you are because you're watching Impact Theory, let's connect! My email: iidentifywithignorance@gmail.com
@OurNewestMember
@OurNewestMember 6 жыл бұрын
@@csgstormer ... thoroughly agreed! 😁 Please rescue from the spam filter if need be!
@emilyc7515
@emilyc7515 6 жыл бұрын
Being on a team, especially in sports, I think is one of the most valuable experiences as a human. I wish I could go back to being on my high school swim team!
@WizappNetwork
@WizappNetwork 6 жыл бұрын
Emily, this is the reason we created Swift Spar. Maybe you could invite some of your old and even new buddies to join and make swimming a regular item: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jYSTiGOsrrOdibM please try the app and share it with friends.
@Aldorelaxingguitar
@Aldorelaxingguitar 6 жыл бұрын
Great Information, Espeically around the 22-minute mark, I keep replaying that section to really let things sink into my brain, what's strange is I also keep hearing the song I'm working on play in my mind at the same time, not sure why that's happining but I know enough to allow without questioning too much and just observe..... Thank You Tom, Ciao, ALDO
@azureocean8571
@azureocean8571 6 жыл бұрын
I have to say this guy is amazing!! I love the way he responded your questions & the way the interview went on ^^ I could have listened to your interview for hours!
@bgl00ney
@bgl00ney 5 жыл бұрын
OMG, I love these. I don't use the word "Love" as a lazy catch-all, I really do love them. One aspect that I find inspiring and very funny, is how innovative Tom is. I believe he legitimately wants to sit down with these amazing people and pick their brains, so he devised a format (show) that allows and validates that desire. In the end I see a dude eating his candy in front of everyone.
@somethingbeautiful2212
@somethingbeautiful2212 5 жыл бұрын
@ Simon Young, This is exactly how I perceive, and feel about Tom. I feel so fortunate to have the opportunity to experience his enthusiasm for his prodigious guests, and the inspirational information that they share. 🎯
@aLr_boosh
@aLr_boosh 6 жыл бұрын
I meditate every day and sometimes I wonder if it helps but like he said over time it does help and I believe it has helped me become more self-aware. Still working on maintaining presence in the moment as I can easily get lost in thought
@stephenmarvin2933
@stephenmarvin2933 3 жыл бұрын
It does help for sure. Also, make sure to declare positive affirmations about who you want to become- frame it in your declarations as if you already are those things. You hearing your own affirmations will change your state of being and who you are. Mindfulness and meditation is an incredible tool..... but make sure to be verbal as well- both will bring huge change.
@drz1093
@drz1093 5 жыл бұрын
That was one of the best interviews I’ve seen so far on the channel. Thanks for doing that 🙏🏻
@nurtured-channel2953
@nurtured-channel2953 6 жыл бұрын
I literally love Man Talk .... Tom Bilyeu has some of the most amazing , genuine, charismatic Interesting and Wise people around😍🔥👊 this makes the world a better place.
@nancyrohan9651
@nancyrohan9651 5 жыл бұрын
the information I have learned from listening to M. Gervais has literally changed and possibly saved my life as I have learned the fight/flight response and how it has contributed to my chronic disease. I am also so grateful that he acknowledges that its only available to the wealthiest. how do we spread this information.
@lyonifisher5757
@lyonifisher5757 5 жыл бұрын
He is spot on realizing it is his body is doing things and his brain can find a way to bring it back to balance. Body first, brain second. You have to do the work, either with the one you're with, or with a new one, there is no escaping it if you want a fulfilling life and relationship. Pain is where the learning is. Suffering is optional. Greatest modern fear is a fear of what others think, this causes us to cause us to be hyper critical to ourselves to protect ourselves from exposure. Solution is to love ourselves, and love others, then you won't have that fear, you will believe they are pouring love on you, not criticism, and you will pour love on yourself.
@somethingbeautiful2212
@somethingbeautiful2212 5 жыл бұрын
@lyoni fisher, Yes! Also if you do the work, grace and bliss are on the other side. Then, another challenge arises so, you do the work to get to the new evolved grace and bliss etc. ect. ... such is life 🎏
@apple8971
@apple8971 5 жыл бұрын
Tom = hands down the best interviewer on social media
@joshkristine6189
@joshkristine6189 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this Tom!. You’re awesome bro. Trained awareness is so powerful. Opened so much on my creativity and emotional control. Dr. Michael has some intense thoughts here.
@n.d.risley8674
@n.d.risley8674 6 жыл бұрын
Incredible guest with such impactful insights! Wow: “...being honest with the pain we feel ...” Right On. Thanks for a great show.
@lisalawn1111
@lisalawn1111 6 жыл бұрын
I totally dig Tom, Lisa, Impact Theory, Relationship Theory and AMA! Having said that... the ketosis diet is not new in the nutrition world of fads that come and go. The high performance lifestyle is not new in the world of achievement and success. The point being is that I notice both Tom and Lisa seem to be sick often & ongoing. Tom, in particular, is often "nasally" indicating mucus or inflammation in sinuses. My Q is This: Have you (Tom/Lisa) ever questioned the ketosis/high-performance lifestyle as the best way to achieve your highest goals? Signed, I care-- Lisa
@StillnessManifesto
@StillnessManifesto 6 жыл бұрын
To live in the present moment more often should be our first goal in the mornings. Life is so much more intense when you are fully present ✨ Awesome talk, Tom!
@SixtyStartingOver
@SixtyStartingOver 6 жыл бұрын
I had never heard of him until right now . I put this on to fall asleep to but now have no interest on sleeping and I am only 5 minutes in ✨🧘‍♀️✨
@janusjupiter6253
@janusjupiter6253 2 жыл бұрын
This is one of my most favorite interview. Thank you. I'm deeply touched.
@iamloveandpeace
@iamloveandpeace 6 жыл бұрын
Incredible human. Thank you for contributing 18 years of your Saturday nights.
@chrisfenennad3540
@chrisfenennad3540 3 жыл бұрын
Hi dear
@NymenaxX22Xx
@NymenaxX22Xx 6 жыл бұрын
your channel is a blessing
@TomBilyeu
@TomBilyeu 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@dantezsilverstone8063
@dantezsilverstone8063 6 жыл бұрын
A lot of people here say that pain is a choice... that is incorrect. Pain is literally inevitable, but you have the choice to choose what level of pain you feel you can go through and on what days you want to suffer.
@vi3nabl3
@vi3nabl3 2 жыл бұрын
Love his explanation! Many ppl doesn't willing to do the work together and be faithful. Armed lock and play in the football tricks!!!
@particleconfig.8935
@particleconfig.8935 2 жыл бұрын
I prime the coherence and depth of a standard set of meditation by doing a heart rate variability training for eight minutes before starting a meditation session. After meditation I lay down with eyecaps, earplugs (sensory deprivation) and start letting everything physically mentally go (deepening restfulness). After it I feel somewhat rejuvenated and I start a little writing about my psychology, and this all together completely changes my day into a vastly better one in all ways. If I do exercise before it, it's even better. There's soo much to discover (about ourselves) we just have no clue of yet.
@MrFinancialWellness
@MrFinancialWellness Жыл бұрын
Dr Michael Gervais, you have to be willing to do the work and as long as you have a common vision there is nothing you cannot achieve together.. wow powerful
@andreboismier3037
@andreboismier3037 6 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU TOM!! Your channel, vision, passion, and reason of being is giving me more clarity, understanding, and motivation so I can push towards my internal and external goals to become the best version of myself. I can't thank you and your team enough. Much love brother! Stay Legendary!! See you at the top!
@markm3090
@markm3090 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!! Michael Gervais is a gift and I love sharing his knowledge. This link has already been sent out.
@abdulmuti1
@abdulmuti1 6 жыл бұрын
This episode was depressing,,,,, sooooo short. Wow what a great wealth of information. I was hoping you will say will continue in the next episode. Thanks Tom again and God bless you. (I know you don’t believe in that but still, the best wish I can offer)
@SMarieTV
@SMarieTV 6 жыл бұрын
It’s all about the work in the relationship. Thanks for this reminder of letting love win 🌟🌟
@sammyevfit_9558
@sammyevfit_9558 2 жыл бұрын
This interview changed my life
@natashabanky9507
@natashabanky9507 6 жыл бұрын
I'm enjoying watching this so much! That comment about making decisions for both of us, rather than just me, locking arms through really challenging times, that was impactful for me.
@thecloud9show
@thecloud9show 6 жыл бұрын
Excellent. I feel less like an alien when I hear you both speak. It’s a treat. Thank you.
@LatAm13
@LatAm13 6 жыл бұрын
Rick W Hogan Greetings from Jupiter 🖖🏻
@kylestolk7915
@kylestolk7915 5 жыл бұрын
And greetings from the pleiadian star system. Mindfulness is powerful stuff
@qthirteen13
@qthirteen13 5 жыл бұрын
Rick W Hogan I enjoy being an alien....humans are super weird...lol
@Jejdjejbfjf
@Jejdjejbfjf 3 жыл бұрын
He sounds like a really passionate and helpful psychologist. Solid work!
@pennilesswriter1556
@pennilesswriter1556 6 жыл бұрын
This was the first time since John Paul DeJoria that my attention was completely focused on the interview. That isn't a slight to the people in between, but a statement to the magnetism of Michael Gervais as a speaker. Wow.
@oldprofilephoto
@oldprofilephoto 6 жыл бұрын
This is really great. This channel is a blessing for me. Thanks Tom and the team from the bottom of heart to produce this kind of show. God bless you guys.
@israellasure8721
@israellasure8721 6 жыл бұрын
Much love to everyone! GOODLUCK!
@suntoyfull64
@suntoyfull64 5 жыл бұрын
Another GREAT SHOW! I look forward to attending an episode live in the studio.
@doseofinspoworldwide
@doseofinspoworldwide 6 жыл бұрын
This was a great interview and very helpful and insightful. Another great interview Tom and well done to this team for finding this gem.
@benitadsilva852
@benitadsilva852 4 жыл бұрын
Would watch this again and again
@dianagayibkhanova2274
@dianagayibkhanova2274 3 жыл бұрын
Every time I watch Impact Theory, I keep saying "this was the best episode and guest". Just amazing! Thank you Tom💜
@Rytronica
@Rytronica 6 жыл бұрын
It's like somebody put Tom Cruise and Scott Disick in a hadron collidor.
@Alkemiss
@Alkemiss 6 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!!
@JUANRIVERA-zb9xq
@JUANRIVERA-zb9xq 6 жыл бұрын
hahaha I thought the same
@Lcorod
@Lcorod 6 жыл бұрын
Yes!!! I also see Big from Sex and the City
@DamiBlankestino
@DamiBlankestino 6 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!!!!
@carinagardner7745
@carinagardner7745 5 жыл бұрын
OMG you nailed it😁
@guillermoboscharaoz588
@guillermoboscharaoz588 6 жыл бұрын
I feel a second charter is needed, this one was incredible Tom! Thank you very much
@bimabima4284
@bimabima4284 6 жыл бұрын
Glad you brought Tom Cruise to the show!
@austinkuipers6087
@austinkuipers6087 4 жыл бұрын
Tom cruised through this interview with impossible speed, like a man on a mission. This science guy, this -ologist is brilliant. He makes the knowledge rain, man! I was so into it that I was on the edge of my seat, but it was so long I have to finish it tomorrow. Ok I'm done :P
@graalcloud
@graalcloud 5 жыл бұрын
The stuff he is saying is handy to learning how to skateboard. I have found putting yourself in perceived danger habitually is a key to a door to potentially let you master the dangerous situation.
@DianneHicks
@DianneHicks 6 жыл бұрын
Loved this... so relatable and things I've been stumbling through life discovering... it's so great to see content understand and explored on it... Tom Bilyeu... Let me say I absolutely LOVE your content... You put on the best people and extract the best information... You have been such a wonderful aid to my understanding and growth and as far as I am concerned you absolutely deliver... hands down... at least I can say... to me... you are Number 1 at the producing the BEST CONTENT ever!!!! You Always have such a great variety of sources yet something to be learned from each of them... take aways from Every single one of them.... To you Tom... The most appreciative grateful with my whole heart... Thank YOU so very much... Your content is a treasure and it is so helpful in a way that is priceless to me!!!
@sharadkumar8303
@sharadkumar8303 6 жыл бұрын
Tom produces such great content, it should be telecasted on Tv soon like Oprah or Ellen
@Lu2c2
@Lu2c2 Жыл бұрын
Great talk! Thank you Michel and Tom 🎉
@maritaofnazareth
@maritaofnazareth 6 жыл бұрын
Does leaving a comment here get you the foot in the door (THE DOOR BEING THE DOOR TO BEING INTERVIEWED BY YOU ?!!! I am so grateful to you @Tom Bilyeu - You give me my daily dose of energy that fuels my day with all the right attitudes that make me "achieve" my goals constantly : my goals to "be" my best self .. THANK YOU TOM... a REAL SINCERE THANK YOU...
@chrisfenennad3540
@chrisfenennad3540 3 жыл бұрын
Hello dear
@harrypandia5210
@harrypandia5210 4 жыл бұрын
Superb interview and valuable take away points shared by Michael, applicable in daily life.
@ボイヤ-u7u
@ボイヤ-u7u 6 жыл бұрын
He kinda looked like Tom Cruise from certain angles. With his story, I can't stop thinking about Mission Impossible haha
@danield183
@danield183 6 жыл бұрын
I was going to post the same thing......
@Yic17Studio
@Yic17Studio 6 жыл бұрын
32:05 is the point I had that thought.
@qthirteen13
@qthirteen13 5 жыл бұрын
T 9 hopefully without the fake Scientology smile...that is the one thing that always creeps me out about Tom Cruise...what’s his real name anyways?... such a fake guy in some ways....awesome in others...lol
@YaminiKalluri98
@YaminiKalluri98 5 жыл бұрын
That's what I thought!
@luisramos9844
@luisramos9844 5 жыл бұрын
Except his nose is smaller
@nomad1331
@nomad1331 6 жыл бұрын
Wow, what a man, what a mind. Super impressive.
@sunflower-oo1ff
@sunflower-oo1ff 6 жыл бұрын
Wow this was simply awesome ! Tom you are such a great host ! Kind and intelligent ! Much love your way 💕
@mayankpj
@mayankpj 6 жыл бұрын
Dr. Michael has really made a great point towards meditation for me !!
@fdavyes
@fdavyes 4 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this. Specially the part about nurturing relationships. Thanks for this 🙏🏽
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