"This Is A Woman's Sexual Fantasy" - STOP Being The Nice Guy & Learn To Seduce Anyone | Sadia Khan

[@TomBilyeu]

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[@DWbo-r7v]

Why do you invite people on who love to hate on the poor?

[@lyrithvalthier2236]

Tom, yes it is a sacrifice, and that IS - THE - THING that is why it is worth doing, (having kids) even if it may only come later. The drive your then fiance now wife gave you to achieve is exponentially greater with kids. It WILL make you better.

[@WarriorMen]

Fathering is the single greatest opportunity for sacrifice and is a tremendous opportunity for masculine growth.

[@thatguy-gl3zl]

He got married and then became successful. Most men work this way.

[@sky37blue]

Didn't he pull some kind of crypto scam on his followers?

[@warrenlanham9088]

It used to. Its becoming less prevalent as time goes on. Ppl are marrying less, later in life, and having less or no children as time goes on. It's part of the problem. The reason traditional values and ways of looking at relationships was so popular through out hustory was because it worked overwhelmingly better than anything else. The breakdown (active rejection) of it is how western society finds itself in its current situation.

[@thatguy-gl3zl]

@@sky37blue I don't know.

[@thatguy-gl3zl]

@warrenlanham9088 it's the cycle of civilisation.

[@warrenlanham9088]

@@thatguy-gl3zl as far as the ongoing cycle of liberalism and traditionalism going up and down in waves goes i totally agree. The one thing that is new (and scary) is the never before seen depopulation occurring across the globe in every country that has become increasingly liberal (yes this includes countries like China which over the past 2 decades have become exponentially more liberal and capitalistic in the past 2 decades versus even western countries). The only exception is certain countries in Africa which are still staunchly traditional and are posed to grow their population by an estimated 400% (or more in some cases) over the rest of the world by the end of the century.

[@WealthTracker]

Be successful, & be physically attractive. Got it.l! Got it in the 1st 20 seconds! & as crazy as it sounds, my brother & I were just talking about this less than 2 months ago. So nothing changed in the world w/ women... What a surprise...

[@thesilkpainter]

Really? Actually, I DO believe women changed MORE, recently than men. Sadly. Catch up and don't believe just one woman. AND can I point out SHE married him BEFORE he changed. So how does that fit?

[@2eroumgme753]

If I were going to have kids this is why I would want a girl. As long as my daughter is pretty enough she'll be fine and find a guy. With dating apps now women have access to high value men unlike years before. She'll have an easier life overall versus a son that's going to have to go out and get it and who might end up being a loser and I being stuck with forever.

[@StanleyBrunswick]

The juice 🧃 ain't worth the squeeze anymore IMO. Deal with a #empowered_modern_vvoman for the REST of my life? No thanks, I'll pass. 😂

[@noahjwhite]

@@2eroumgme753I have a daughter and I DO NOT want her having access to high value men on dating apps. This is not good for women either.

[@fndmystory]

You don't have to be "Dr, lawyer" successful. Confidence in oneself, great hygiene, a sense of ambition or willingness to learn and lead with humility will attract a mate quickly. Knowledge in her interests or a mate "with" your interests is the clinker. If you want hot, CFM class, then you need to be Richard Branson rich. End of story 😂

[@Sldoficn]

Men are so funny. She said success and they automatically think “highest bidder” and “rich” when in reality, what she elaborated was a man who is NOT lazy. Success doesn’t mean “richest” - it means finding your niche, what you are good at, your talents and developing that with confidence and earning whatever you do for that skill. My father is a pool cleaner, and he honed in on that skill and has his business. He’s not rich but he’s a hard worker and a gentleman. He drives when the family is together, he is always there when my mom gets back with groceries, if any of us get stuck out with the car - he will be there! Success doesn’t equal money, it’s character! Men who believe success = money have low self esteem. It’s not money for women, it’s can I rely on this man like I did my father. And for many men it’s, can I rely on this woman like I did my mother… It’s a beautiful thing to find a good marriage and it’s a lot of hard work too!

[@stefanalexandru2676]

love this comment

[@JustinNoko-v4d]

That is so true😲🔥

[@CarrieMartin-j3x]

his name is above all names amenCarrieMartin

[@CarrieMartin-j3x]

yeswhat's his name I CarrieMartin is talking about jesushe ismy father

[@32189djsddk]

How to be a gold digger 101

[@zakjey1299]

Pussy digger

[@dennissorensen8765]

😂

[@skepticalbutopen4620]

😂😂😂

[@soniacastro-sanchez5726]

Must be a b guy

[@storyeatermichael9046]

It’s a 3 hr podcast and it’s only been out 55 minutes….

[@redboy8883]

If it takes money to access her. Any man with money can access her. - solid insight.

[@BloodGangBrazy]

No, just because a woman requires money does not mean that she does not also require a man to be attractive as well.

[@soothsayer2406]

This women is a perfect example of what too avoid...too much entitlement, maintenance, and unrealistic expectations.... fun to drive for a while but not to own. Auction Girl here.. She belongs to the highest bidder...

[@32189djsddk]

Exactly. One of the best traits in a women is someone who will be with you through ups and down. Successes and failures. This is the complete opposite, classic gold digger and someone to avoid whether man or women.

[@SilkyMilkyOriginal]

​@@32189djsddkWomen wait at the finish line and pick the winners.

[@Dperfater]

As a woman I’m not a fan of hers but women are objects to own?? Hmmm got it. 😂 you’re not any better.

[@brigitte9999]

Her biggest problem in my eyes. Is her distorted face from surgery and injections. She seems boring and not much fun.

[@charlesfuchs]

facts

[@VCRINAX-fm2oj]

She's givin the definition of a Gold Digger.

[@32189djsddk]

Exactly. One of the best traits in a women is someone who will be with you through ups and down. Successes and failures. This is the complete opposite, classic gold digger and someone to avoid whether man or women.

[@2eroumgme753]

All women are gold diggers though. They all want to be taken care of and not work or work as hard. I had a female coworker ask me once "I'm talking to a guy that does so and so, do you know how much someone makes that does that makes".

[@pedropierre9594]

You even watch the video ?

[@LomoArt.]

@@pedropierre9594right! All of the comments like this have me like “are we watching the same video?” 🥴

[@lucaannone697]

Assuming that today it's easy to be successful seems a bit of a stretch.

[@1979ATL]

It’s just a convenient excuse to be a gold digger.

[@excelcsllc]

Having your own kids outweighs the entire treasures of the world. I’m blessed to have 2 boys!

[@Tristiam]

Totally disagree with some things said + she contradicted herself

[@32189djsddk]

Obvious red flags from her and someone men and women need to run from. One of the best traits in a women is someone who will be with you through ups and down. Successes and failures. This is the complete opposite, classic gold digger and someone to avoid.

[@LifeValue333]

Exactly

[@bradmodd7856]

Watched it 3 times....I didn't hear a damn thing she said

[@outdoorloser4340]

She's a woman, what did you expect?

[@robertPharry777]

Bottom Line... I don't want to work, I won't work!! GIVE ME YOUR MONEY, HOUSE CARS ECT.

[@MrTibbs]

Haha never

[@Arterium]

I’m a man and never been unfaithful and never heard of red pill content until now. I believe you get what you give. I’ve been blessed and I always trust my radar.

[@danfrank1250]

I just started hearing about the red pill, blue pill, black pill and all this other stuff and I'm an older guy and the younger guys laugh at me because I thought it was like Viagra or Cialis or something like that

[@ninag3068]

This chick needs to stop talking in behalf of women. I've never agreed with anything she sees and she gets away with it because she's attractive but her takes and insights are insane.

[@pa4765]

Agree 100%. Never ask a fish how to fish. She ignores the toxic nature of most women over 40 who want money and 6' tall men which is sick.

[@billl4977]

Her statement that women that will cheat with lesser status men, is at best anecdotal. It can happen, but these women will at minimum try to cheat with men of equal or greater status than what they already have

[@NickC341]

a lot of what she says makes sense .. sorry

[@ninag3068]

@@NickC341 Don't be, most basic men agree with her because of her looks.

[@sidyfall5319]

I love how she shat on the red pill movement and then her solution was literally what red pill content creators promote. Learn how to vet good women. Work on your self. Elevate your self worth etc.

[@thaNZdon]

💯. Her info was actually extremely valuable but her intro tarnished her delivery at little. I'm half way through but agree mostly with what she's saying and it sounds very similar to your red pilll veterans

[@raycecil4643]

@35:00 Im a father of two sons. Ive fostered 5 other children, and about to adopt two mixed race twins. Tom is DEAD wrong about children. He is correct about how annoying they are....im constantly ANNOYED. However, what ive discovered is that DEALING with that ANNOYANCE and teaching these little humans to be rational people is the MEANING of my life. Tom said it himself, "Life is a chemical experience....yada yada..." Well Tom, if thats the case, you are MISSING out BIG TIME by being so selfish with your "me time". Level UP Tom, be a MAN and raise some kids.

[@Jack_Parsons-666]

Wow, that really got under your skin. There must be something unresolved inside you that you don't want to look at, something Tom is pointing the way to, a part of yourself you've abandoned in favor of raising a bunch of kids?

[@JuStTrUsTMeBrO-ny4hj]

Agreed, Tom is clueless about this. Made me realize that he is actually a bit of a man child.

[@raycecil4643]

@@Jack_Parsons-666 Behind me SATAN!

[@ThatGuy-tx4vm]

​@@Jack_Parsons-666uhhhh no. The reaction is because what Tom preaches is unnatural to our evolution. This capitalistic mindset of career first is not truly fulfilling no matter how people feel. Having success is a sure fire way to get dopamine and feel good... But real fulfillment coming from financial success alone?? Pffft. It even sounds ridiculous when you say it. Being famous, respected, powerful and rich is nice and all... But deep down it is an empty pursuit of ego and material possessions.

[@BloodGangBrazy]

Are you sure that life is not simply meaningless and that you are just using children as a reason to cling to it?

[@arandmorgan]

Right... Right... Lets get something very clear. If you want to work all the time and be very successful and bare the burden of that, with all the psychological and physical issues that come with that, that is your burden and yours alone. Don't whine and mope and say "why aren't more men stepping up?". Your expectations of the world are warped by your ambition, and the problems you've created for yourself are now being weaponised against other people. "How dare you make me miserable for not upholding my expectations" is not acceptable and somebody was probably never disciplined by an adult. I see many successful people, punishing the people below them, so let's give you a hypothetical scenario. Let's say eveyone stepped up, and started being bosses. So we're all bosses now. Who's actually going to get stuff done? Who's actually going to do the job? Now let's reverse it, there are no bosses. There is a job that needs doing. Who's going to do it? Literally anyone. So really, value comes from the worker, not the boss. Hence why I'm more than happy working a simple job, however it would be great if people stopped messing with the monetary supply because they were ambitious enough to screw the rest of us over. I.e. bosses

[@ThatGuy-tx4vm]

Even worse. These women are neither bosses nor workers. They are nurturers at home. They do house work, cook and have sex/provide company. Providing company and sex cannot even be considered work and as for housework... I've been living in a middle class family since I was born 26 years ago and we always had a maid at home that took care of the cleaning. The wives of rich people don't even need to cook. Their role basically is to spend the money and have as much fun as possible whilst teaching the children responsibility and how the world works... Which they mostly can't because they've been spoiled their entire lives.

[@beenlegend1661]

you're just lAzY bro!!!1 last thing imma be thinking about on my death bed is how i wished i'd worked more LOL

[@ayla4686]

Even with motivation and desire , if the person doesn't have high intellect but is resourceful and passionate he or she WILL be successful. Persistent and consistent with DEDICATION to themselves and their mission. Even uneducated people have beat yhe odds and florished .

[@arcacoma3524]

How to lose half your stuff legally....Ps..My current partner and I won a substantial sum on the lottery and decided not to tell anyone...The big house,the two cars,the extension on our property got us 8 letters from my exes solicitor wanting an explanation....We got divorced 13 years ago.

[@SpaceStepper]

Hahaha they thought it might be worth a shot

[@AwakenProtocol]

I’ve lived on the edge of financial ruin. During the 1996 Olympics in Atlanta the Olympic torch was being passed from town to town. I asked a woman I was romantically involved with to pass me on to another woman. She did and passed me on to my first wife. Later on, after a divorce, I enter online dating for the first time. My first online date turned into a relationship with a female architect that designed aircraft control towers for the Southeast. I’ve lived like a rockstar with little to no money.

[@leonardogonzalez5171]

Just a pretty face saying obvious things... Great reminder that the rich have it easy and the pretty have options. Basically just reminding us about the points that we all thought about when we started trying to figure it out.

[@2eroumgme753]

Lol are you saying that the only reason Lauren Sanchez is engaged to Jeff Bezos is because HE IS JEFF BEZOS😮😮😮😮😮

“IF YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH ALL THE RULES GO DOWN THE DRAIN “ 💯

[@wesfin]

1:34 he didn’t have discipline. You need ambition/goals/desires/dreams/visions, intellect/knowledge/path, and discipline/drive. I have the big goal/desire, I have the knowledge of the exact path I need to take to get there, but do I have the discipline to walk/drive myself down that path everyday (to turn potential into reality)? 2:03 he didn’t develop drive until he had a partner: -To compare his effort/drive/discipline to and feel shame for laziness (his lack of drive/initiative/discipline became much more apparent/visible). -To motivate him to become the best man/choice he could be for her, to be able to give/offer more for her. -To prove the voices that say he’s a failure/mistake wrong, to get rid of the shame and garner respect. In short he developed drive/discipline to be successful once he had the responsibility/accountability to. Responsibility produces drive. If you lack drive/discipline take on responsibilities that come to you. Get married young, have kids young, be responsible for a household. 4:52 To earn reward/respect/honor/praise/love from a woman you love is a powerful driver/incentive.

[@markeldorf1467]

Fantastic conversation. Par excellence. Highly, highly interesting. I need to listen to it again.

[@DailyTuna]

Don’t listen to her. All a woman wants is somebody to interact with them and it’s how a guy makes them feel. You don’t have to be super successful, but you just have to try and be consistent.

[@CarterMilleman-g4x]

I’ve NEVER seen this woman get ANY pushback. So annoying

[@redtiger7268]

She is above average in terms of physical attraction. That is it nothing more. Guys don't push back on women like this unless they have been burned badly by them. Tom has not

[@GaneshPalraj1991]

She had plenty of push back when she was interviewed by andrew tate. wish she went on fresh and fit.

[@Kevin-kj5th]

It's because of her feminine voice and her looks

[@jameschurch9618]

She was on a podcast with Lewis howes where she debated Mathew hussy. There was a lot of podcast there if you're interested in watching

[@Suzanne291]

All true. Fantastic advice, boys. Take it.

[@MADDcartman]

2 ppl that have become successful talking about how to be successful lol. What a time to be alive.

[@brettbret8836]

Not true, Tom was successful running Qwest nutrition before he ever had a podcast

[@tristongraham6907]

Do your research on people before you talk about them. Tom was a multi millionaire before podcasting

[@DWbo-r7v]

Qwest nutrition was just salesman pitch nonsense ....not real research graft

[@txking4321]

You don't have it!

[@raycecil4643]

Tom basically is telling my story. I met my wife at age 20. I was sort of aimless from 18-20, trying different things out. I met my wife who is 6'-0" tall, athletic, blue eyed, and got my @$$ in gear. Im not doing too bad now. Been married to her 15 years and we are happy.

[@shippys2043]

Happy for you both

[@darrellroireau4061]

2 great critical thinkers! Always the best guests! Love your show Tom! Sadia is amazing and gorgeous too!

[@DWbo-r7v]

They are not critical thinkers because they give blanket statements. He did not push back on her dogmatic statements either.

[@olafbirkner7842]

The mistake both make is the biggest mistake you can do in life: they both believe their imagination enables them to judge about, what it means to have children. To you both: On a scale of 1 to 100 you have not reached a single percent of judgement ability. You are at zero point zero and will not get to a single permille before you have it.

[@chuckken3438]

Lol...and she's 40 and not married...what does that tell you?

[@MarkGaudie]

She’s happy with no man or at least tells everyone she is.

[@LeonardNemoy]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@igot40movies]

What's your point? This woman could get almost any man she wanted

[@maimaivaj91]

Pointless comment with little thought. Maybe she took her time to find the right guy, and maybe she prioritized her career before searching for a guy.

[@LeonardNemoy]

@@maimaivaj91 you're right - there's no way we can possibly know her as she actually is just from a youtube video. What's more likely is that we are projecting our own issues onto her and blaming her for us feeling bad even though we all clicked to watch. We've got to follow our feelings and click away!

[@rickymartinez4951]

It sounded strange when she said there is more cortisol for the man if the woman makes more. Which sounds correct to a certain point or dollar amount. Do you think a man is really stressed if the woman is taking care of the man in a big way like she makes 1 million plus a year and he doesn’t have to work? Seems like he would be pretty stress free and taken care of.

[@dogwithnobones906]

How to trick a man into giving you money 😜💰💰💰

[@The-Good-Life-Off-Grid]

Y

[@MohsenAmjadian-r1x]

99 percent of girls just think of money and money is god for them

[@DWbo-r7v]

Blaming people who are relatively poor on being lazy is one of the most disgusting things I've heard

[@ACTIVEsteps33]

shes successful so of course she doesnt want a bum

[@BigSlim48916]

FACTS. GOLD DIGGER

[@killedbycoconuts]

She's right about redpill content. It's not giving men the tools to be successful. It just puts a barrier between you and getting hurt.

[@itsU-240]

What a well spoken lady ❤

[@v9b23j]

I subscribe to private group coaching sessions with Jillian Turecki and I am amazed at the number of women in their 40's who ask her advice about whether they should try to make their dysfunctional codependent relationship work by staying with or leaving their NEET boyfriend who has no meaning or purpose, who depends on his girlfriends for financial resources, a place to live while he plays video games, watches porn, and smokes pot which enables his behavior.Sadia's statement here reminded me of those women 1:31:54 "At least choose somebody for when you slow down and you take your foot off the pedal he can take the steering wheel and if you haven't chosen that then you've effectively adopted a son that you didn't choose", Esther Perel said, "Caretaking is kind, but it's not erotic. When women care for their male partners like a son, they inevitably lose sexual attraction to them.

[@massimocaradonna3857]

Taking relationship advice from a single person is like taking financial advice from a homeless person

[@poppypops1987]

She’s married

[@LawrencePecue]

I’ve invested in Wurmp, and I believe this project is going to soar!

[@lesperez7297]

If you want to be smarter than Elon you need the wisdom of fatherhood! Nothing compares to see them grow and help answer their questions!

[@freshcoastrider]

I made it 12 seconds in. Done, NEXT!

[@shippys2043]

Hahaha

[@RoofDoctorsJoanne]

Never spoke about Love or Intregity once.

[@mikeokeefe9396]

The answer is that it all changes from minute to minute. To make a statement is all subject to change

[@mattmiles5562]

Hey Tom, You so into personal development and being your best possible person. All of those worries you have about your ability to love the child properly are empty and you can grow with it . And the bond that you and your wife have will only get deeper and stronger because you come together and create a new person that is the celebration and continuation of your love. And the child then carries forward all the reality of what good you have tried to make in the world in a true and real way

[@jeromehumblot5355]

Sadia always speak facts and i love that

[@DWbo-r7v]

No, she doesn't. Have you ever critically analysed anything in your life? I could understand if you're under 12 years old. She was a hypocrite blaming poor people for being lazy when some of the hardest grafting people are quite poor

[@User0User-hi6ji]

Ohhhh, men who were successful in crypto never struggled and never had hard times??? She is a red flag.

[@piedonethelarge8224]

There is a big difference btw getting lucky with Bitcoin and gaining the same wealth by creating value. That’s what she was talking about and she is completely right about that.

[@ThatGuy-tx4vm]

​@@piedonethelarge8224that is the flag. Because she not only wants the man to be rich but she wants him to get rich by doing the things she deems valuable or worthy... Whilst the woman stays at home and does not have any skill that every other woman can also master... Women need to do the minimum while men need to do the maximum... But also do it in the "right" way.

[@TimeSkip-Chapters]

⏱️ Timestamps by TimeSkip ⏱️ 00:00:00 - Attraction to Successful Men 00:04:50 - Women’s Influence on Men’s Success 00:09:11 - Understanding Relationship Sacrifices 00:16:40 - Self-Esteem and Relationship Choices 00:23:26 - Maxing Your Potential in Dating 00:28:11 - Honesty in Sexual Market Value 00:35:20 - Population Collapse Concerns 00:40:07 - Microplastics & Environmental Toxins 00:47:22 - Men's Naivety in Relationships 00:54:24 - Independence vs. Relationship Dynamics 01:00:15 - Cultural Shift in Sexual Expectations 01:05:20 - Cultural Energy and Individual Choices 01:16:46 - Understanding Hypergamy in Women 01:21:46 - The Nature of Attraction and Relationships 01:27:56 - Emotional Investment in Relationships 01:37:59 - Activating Sexual Instincts in Women 01:42:33 - Empowering Daughters' Autonomy 01:47:41 - Navigating Power in Relationships 01:57:59 - Maintaining Attraction Over Time 02:03:00 - Consequences of Letting Go 02:13:18 - Insecurities Behind Escort Use 02:19:59 - Capitalism and Human Relationships 02:25:05 - Female Hostility in Workplaces 02:30:21 - Historical Context of Women's Rights 02:39:20 - Racism and Economic Disparities 02:45:40 - Cultural Priorities and Acceptance 02:51:40 - Questioning Gender and Reality

[@supercal333]

Summary

[@ericlogan6159]

Tom, having children is the biggest gift you can give your wife and yourself.

[@shozi1799]

And vice versa

[@blankenstein1649]

children aren't for everyone. my wife and i definitely don't want kids.

[@majorkade]

Ever heard of Michael Myers?

[@billl4977]

He and his wife are 48 years old. That ship has sailed

[@blankenstein1649]

@@billl4977 they're more than rich enough to be able to afford fertility treatments or get a surrogate.

[@evitakh6409]

Amazing conversation!

[@mervinmorganjr]

She actually cuts people off more than I realized. I generally like her though.

[@arshaad252]

Intent is by default sexual and soul is by design sensual. Sex is a skill which evolves up to suprasexuality where sex becomes a superpower.

[@melaniearchuleta1283]

Great interview. Very insightful. Might only resonate with people who have actually been in relationships long term.

[@ktermalkut8332]

One thing missed is the uncle sam effect where voices speak to people to kill, take advantage of vulnerable suckers to get them to have large insurance policies etc. and then the source of those voices will trap the enticer and give them a fatal disease like cancer or a fatal accident!

[@MetaPhysStore0770]

How To... be passive aggressive 101😮

[@sxhrgvs]

Unlike many on here I think she said a lot of very sensible things. People, both men and women, may not want to hear some of what she said but, as a guy, I think she’s right on a lot of this. I didn’t watch this, I just listened to the podcast and came on here to leave some positive feedback.

[@DWbo-r7v]

There is a lot of opportunity to make wealth if you have the close connections already in place from trusted family networks and friendships. Many poor people work incredibly hard and are not lazy. This is disgusting. A lot of her ideology is disgraceful

[@maikaimakena9424]

This is facilitating ❤what a great and healthy conversation ❤❤❤❤

[@AetheriusComics]

I would love to see you have her discuss this, while also having a woman who is quite far left who has opposing views on how a man should be. Going back to the beginning of the vid where she say, she can't be attracted to a man who is not successful. I get it. I agree with it. But, what's confusing young men are the women on the left who views people negatively who expresses this. I hear women of opposing views speak confidently on things like this separately, but I rarely ever see them talk about their views directly towards each other, so we can see that there are two different views coming from women, that they are very passionate about.

[@wesleygreene2505]

Listen as a young man, my dad said, Son no matter what you’re gonna pay for that …….$?!y one way or another

[@kflecha1]

She nailed it 💗 For me connection is so important but we are living in a superficial world unfortunately ❤

[@Flodenable]

@kflecha1 I don’t think it’s superficial to want a man with motivation.

[@arandmorgan]

​​@@FlodenableIt really isn't our job. This idea that we have to permanently better ourselves all the time and pursue productivity and always be in competition with one another is a social construct that benefits a few and destroys the lives of most. The late protestant work ethic and honour systems in the east, are exploitable. The permanent worry of upholding the expectations of a society that is, essentially feudal at this point, or at least up to the point of not upholding traditional values which serves the community. It maintains no actual benefit to our communities or the people in them, but is an instrument of psychological enslavement. The wedge issues that keep us alienated from one another appeals to our egos because we always want to see ourselves as the victim, the hero, the savant, of our own narrative, but when we create one exaggerated form of a persona and attach it to ourselves, we create the opposite persona in someone else by projecting things we dislike within ourselves onto other people. The reason it is exploitable is that whilst we project our fear or hatred on the outer world, and personalise our success, despite the effect of our environment bringing us to where we are through chance, chaos and the ignored good will of those around us, in order to justify this, we have to uphold ourselves to the highest of standards, to become the Übermensch, to become godlike in productivity, in grace and all things, forever dictated to by the whims of what is fashionable, to have all and nothing, to be great and absent, all the while our precious time on the planet drifts away, and our employers or government or whomever we subscribe to gains wealth, attention and power over our minds. There is an argument of a certain degree of need for an ego, without it we would lack agency and will to affect our world, but accepting you are in your reality and you are free within the realms of your perception and agency shouldn't be yours alone, but shared by everyone.

[@Flodenable]

@@arandmorgan What do you prefer doing with your life if it isn’t self improvement and working on your self confidence?

[@EvanescentParagon]

The definition of rape, "intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against a person's will". Sadia Khan, "that's consenual rape and yes it is a thing". Smh.

[@JulianMonterrey]

First of all success is measured by overall quality of life , not solely by money. Secondly men already bring significant value to the relationship therefore women should study men and learn what value women have to provide instead of demand things as the weaker sex. To help women out a bit; We just want peace, progress and love.

[@jamesr141]

Don't kid yourself. There's one thing that conquers everything else in the dating game. And you already know what it is.

[@kman009]

it is true in jobs the nastiness (sabotage, pettiness, hostility) usually comes from women, even as a man, in the few cases where it does come from the men, it sometimes comes from the men you perceive themselves as alphas or men trying to endear themselves to and in front of the women around them.

[@dianalee1589]

well if he is married , no matter how physically attractive it is a turn off 😢

[@gprang]

The right to vote has historically been connected to land ownership and/or serving in the military. Women did neither of these things. The real struggle was for the right to own property. After that became a woman's right, suffrage became a viable idea.

[@lyrithvalthier2236]

Tom, yes it is a sacrifice, and that IS - THE - THING that is why it is worth doing, (having kids) even if it may only come later. The drive your *then* fiance *now* wife gave you to achieve is exponentially greater with kids. It WILL make you better.

[@JuliaSt979]

He doesn’t want kids because he wants to be his wife’s “No.1” because as a child he was not his mother’s No.1, who told him she prioritized her husband before the kids. Despite all the intellectual growth, this man still has to work on some basic psychological issues. May he be blessed to recover his balance.

[@lizkeith1356]

it's all different when the children are your own.

[@davidcoomber4050]

No sweet heart making lots of money fast doesn’t lead to mental illness or unhappiness nor does it attract gold diggers , that’s your opinion from a lifetime of patronising losers . People who spend their life struggling to make their dream come true are only interesting to you if they succeed

[@timr7067]

Toms’ presupposition that you need to be intelligent to be successful… completely wrong. There are millions of successful people with massive drive who aren’t intelligent

[@DanielMiramontes-q1b]

Why would you buy validation from a girl by you trying to be at your best ?? Then what?? Keep yourself at your best all the time so you can have a chick by your side ?? It's not worth it. Don't lie to yourself, be who you are,the right girl will follow you.

“ I promise her dad that I will make her rich one day “…🙃

[@davepenny1199]

Firstly. Amazing !!! Conversation. Near the end you said something Tom. That I think is worth repeating and thus highlighting. " technology will not be a utopia" It's not something in and of itself that has the potential to elevate and completely transform out existence and our trajectory. Nor will sex or companion robots ever replace real and organic relationships. And by replace, I mean truly replicate. Yes. A programmable self learning mimic. A big part of it just as it is in relationships. Is to identify what type of relationship we want to be in and what do we honestly need out of the relationship (s)... Technology/other human beings It's like you said. We are going to pass through a very chaotic and accelerated evolutionary period (which clearly we are already in/ begun). And, not everyone is going to make it through. As within biological evolution. So with what comes next for us collectively. And those that think control is the answer opposed to influence / nudging. Will quickly find themselves feeding themselves through a straw (no hands)

[@BlackWolF_1374]

why she is insisting every things is men's fault! it's wemen who are changed not men! we are what we were before!

[@calculatorade]

You have the best conversations with this woman. So much food for thought.

[@snips73]

the average man UK didn't get the chance to vote until 1918 either. You had to be a property owner to vote and over 30. that is always forgotten and that only because many sacrificed their lives for freedom during WW1 and firstly there were no slaves in GB, so the white woman owning black slaves must have been in a foreign land before 1834.

[@financialm3771]

What a likeable, down to earth gal with modest expectations! /s

[@arandmorgan]

'Modest expectations' was a nice touch.

[@jessee.2681]

When she confused the red pill movement with the "manosphere" and then in the same breath made the baseless accusation that it would always be the man's fault of low self-esteem and that women by implication never lie to get into relationships 😒 yeah lost interest.

[@tomd4223]

She is speaking honestly and it's good to hear it. Like it or not.

[@MightyPessimist]

38:11 the reason the reckless people have them is, They are in their human default setting or need something to live for.

[@smcdoug11]

I've never heard Tom swear this much before and showboat his intellect and capacity for poetry and scream his validation for masculine value for his wife. He must be in love with Sadia

[@MrHikerToYou]

Tom, you went from doing interviews with David Goggins and Simon Sinek to this nonsense. Take a step back and reevaluate what you're doing.

[@crashlander5555]

What’s this BS about “controlling” men or controlling women? Or about “submitting”?

[@danielasigner3058]

Good women, bad women... I do not see this the same way. We are mixed

[@mrfriendly9956]

"I was scrambling to make a sandwich", talk about being lazy.

[@Hotdrboy88]

At time 51:50 he said... "oh god You hate to say that..( what are the red flags?) it is what it is my man.. we men.. we need to learn how to pick a he right ones there for.. we need to learn how to identify RED FLAGS duh!

[@dmenaced]

Great episode!! Thanks Tom! I would love to see you interview Tom Leykis. You can have a discussion about genders with him. Haha!

[@user-uv6qe2tg7s]

A real "schemer" this one is. I must say that she has really perfected her grift. Yes, she is Intelligent, attractive, intuitive, excellent communicator... if you can't see through her psycho-babble then you are the audience she is looking for. The same men that think you ask a fish how to catch fish. Of course women concur... duh. Someone else said "clout chaser", yes an apt description... she begged to engage the the RP Community and it soundly rejected her. Now her bitterness and narcissism clearly shows. So interesting to listen and watch Tom fawning over her, the guy is so pathetically rudderless at times. As usual, he compensates by talking over everyone to force his nonsense into equation... truly loves the sound of his own voice. It's all opportunity for her. Listen and watch how she reels him in. God, what a simp, she plays him like a fiddle.

[@abedelhashash6025]

Oh my God! I feel like my brain is stretching and my mind is growing. Sadia is a wealth of knowledge. Thank you for sharing all the useful information about human relationships and putting things in a very practical perspective.

[@DWbo-r7v]

Bot comment? She blamed people being poor on laziness. What an absolutely disgusting comment when some of the hardest working people I know are poor

[@JuStTrUsTMeBrO-ny4hj]

Have to say, this man is clueless about what it means to have a child. To say that he would chew through a plate glass window when he tries to listen to his child explain something. Clearly 0 thought about how meaningful it is to watch your child go from a not being able to say a word to stringing together whole sentences. 0 understanding about the true primal power of a women givng birth. Grow up mate.

[@FlowState]

42:50 this is actually a solid AF theory

[@MightyPessimist]

1:09:18 she lost me there…. Women who are not as pretty and maybe successful should stay single and get over this romantic life they dream of. Or Keep their standards to the sky as they should. The average man should not have the opportunity to procreate. Average does not mean only wealthy. There are few that are poor but just above average.

[@kidcal]

Why is this even on this channel….. maybe time to unsubscribe

[@charlesfuchs]

When she turns over 40, she will eat her words hahahaha

[@JustinNoko-v4d]

You know that is the truth about life and women, if you can win her heart because of your finances. You know even other Men from the outside world, who have more money than you will also win her heart. You know now the million dollars question is, how irreplaceable will you be in her life as a Man?😲🔥

[@renegademind1833]

Well boys' need nothing less than a 'Lambo' Start saving your allowance.

[@17rere]

Awesome conversation!