How to read a man’s character?

[@janieh3950]

Ok, so I've read a lot of comments with some of you ladies saying I will never take care of a broke man again and or I'm not dating anyone broke. It was nowhere in this message that Tony said to take care of or support a broke man(i.e. no job). He said specifically the man may not make the amount you desire them to make. However, he has an income(lower than your expectation), ambition, and drive. So because of these characteristics along w/emotional security. He is going to end up rich financially at some point. Whew, chile! Some of y'all was stressing me out in the comments.

[@nikkih7949]

Janie H Thank you for posting this! Whew

[@janieh3950]

@@nikkih7949 you're welcome

[@4seasons546]

Hello the reality is that many woman have seen the potential in a man & have stood by the man planning for a combined future expecting he will appreciate her efforts and faith in him since the beginning ... BUT. 🛑 Once the man is up and running he very often leaves the woman for someone younger prettier fresher. - So nice to know that in Tony’s situation it worked out well for the wife 😁 But because many women have been left & heart broken the new train of thought is it’s safer to go with the man who already has it together. Which makes a good man scarce! There are many more men or women to choose from if they start with men that are preparing for success if only the man would be kind faithful and standby and yes women can take some responsibilities by testing a man’s character for a long time before they commit .

[@billiejean4705]

4Seasons I agree with you. There’s nothing wrong with dating a man of good character but I also understand where the other women are coming from because I’ve been there. I dated a guy who didn’t make a lot of money (I would say our income was the same at the time). I motivated him, taught him how to drive etc. once he got his promotion and started making more money than me, got his License, and bought a BRAND NEW car; He started cheating on me. I will admit that he did help me pay for school, bought me nice expensive gifts but his entire character changed. He never cheated on me until he started making money. I like Tony messages mostly but I do believe that he doesn’t have an open mind about other people situation. He comes off as if he knows everything and when someone voice their opinion he tell them that they are speaking from hurt/bitterness. Yes, it’s fortunate that he didn’t do his wife like that. But from my own personal experience I built a man up and supported him through his dark days and he ended up with a BIG head and cheated on me after he came up. I left him, and once he realized that the women he was chasing after only wanted him for what he can do for them and was not with him for him, now he want me back. And I honestly am not sure if I want a man like that. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@janieh3950]

@@4seasons546 I understand your point about seeing the potential in the men of the world and standing behind them. My 1st question is, is his potential at work or he has a vision and has yet to put it into play before you'll met. Per Tony, he had an income and his vision was in play already but moving at a slow pace. Therefore giving Mrs. Gaskins hope into what their future can become. I find that quit often these men has shown us their true colors but we have chosen to look past it because we see their potential as being bigger than their deal breaking flaws. We become fearful that that fake/lazy potential is going to flourish w/o us and they'd find another woman, so we hold on. When whole time we should've let go. If he moved on let him. He was wasting your time anyway and you knew it; but didn't want to believe it. So yes we have to take responsibility for our part. But if us believing that that financial support is going to help us ignore that they are broken We'll be right back at square one. Broken ourselves.

[@skwilson34]

Sadly, there are a lot of broke men with no character either.

[@Radirxch]

Shunna W seriously Sis ooo

[@Dtella55]

Truth.... 💯 💯

[@bootylicious0802]

Majority of the broke men I met had no vision and no ambition and were asking for money....so never again lol

[@JBrazielGreen]

Shunna W 🤣🤦🏽‍♀️ true 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@EarthAngel44-qmcc]

This is true.

[@bprincesswilliams962]

In 2008 I met my husband, he was a construction worker raising 4 kids alone. I am a registered nurse and I also owned my own business. People (family and friends) thought he was beneath me and urged me not to date him. This man was everything I asked God for, kind, calm, a good heart and he loved God. He is now my husband and I have never been happier. I am so glad that I was celibate and praying when I met him.

[@TalksWithYeisie]

Wow I’m going through that right now, except he has 3 children he’s raising on his own. I am blessed beyond measure. Man of character and integrity

[@maryihezie1190]

Wow! I'm so happy for you!😊 Your testimony helped to reframe my perspective. Thank you for sharing!❤

[@dorothymatthews6690]

Thank you for sharing your story. It gave me hope and was so encouraging. I've been praying and celibate for over 10 years now. I wish you and your husband and family all the best that God has for you in life!

[@aspiring...]

I don't mind about the money. I hate to see a man (or woman) without purpose, vision and lazy.

[@shakeyourtambourine]

Amén!!

[@Spruill526]

To Nikki H, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, respectfully ❤️

[@eveheart2876]

Loudt

[@christinediaz1953]

Exactly... not a match if you're lazy

[@catp6278]

Why? Many of them have a purpose- PlayStation games every night 😂.

[@nikkirowland]

“Emotional security will produce financial security” 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@nickbry7357]

Say it again

[@mmills860]

yes sis

[@mscassama]

Amen girl! 🙌🏽

[@musizlovva1570]

Well said.

[@dantejames4607]

How ?

[@arleciawhite7510]

Well, I did it, and we got married, we both eventually got good paying jobs, raised our kids, bought a house, and had a good life until he passed. I will always choose a good moral character. My husband also traveled as a drummer, and he did carpentry work. He's was so sweet to me, he treated me like a queen, with his loyalty, love, communication, and the way he spoiled me.

[@keysham8494]

Sometimes women also have to stop 🛑 looking at what other couples doing and envying them. We see you Tony and your wife where you are now but we didn’t see the years where God had y’all grinding it out. So people can envy the Promise Land but didn’t see the sacrifices made in Egypt.

[@jdilla7142]

Cherlyrese Montgomery 🎯

[@missmarymack3457]

Amen Cherlyrese Montgomery!!! This is so absolutely true!!

[@lynetteb4146]

Amen that's facts

[@ladyt280]

Well said👏🏾

[@reginadeans218]

💯

[@jessicac.4267]

“A dream is rooted in purpose, a fantasy is rooted in pleasure.” A mans character has to be backed by ambition and goal to complete the work God has given him to do

[@ladyshenna967]

Soooo true my fiancee was dead broke with no job when we met. Let me tell you this, that man was my best friend, inseparable and before he passed away he left me financially secure.

[@ladyshenna967]

@@heide-raquelfuss5580 Thank you so much.

[@loveinautumn3978]

That's a blessing sis❤

[@indriadrayton1132]

@@heide-raquelfuss5580 💕💕

[@nauxsi]

That's what a great woman can do to a man.

[@shanthinaguillory3058]

What a blessing indeed. I love hearing stories like yours, except I am so sorry for your husband's passing. Wow! I would love to hear more about you & your remarkable marriage. May God bless you 🙏❤️ @Lady Shenna

[@ADR-xn6dg]

I'm just now at 35 getting into the career I've always wanted, prior to that I never made much money and my degree will triple my income. Some peoples growth in financial terms may take longer than the time frame people expect.

[@90angieb]

Money comes and goes. I would choose a man with Godly character! I definitely understand this.

[@sabrinaalston1243]

So with you I PRAYED to GOD to allow me to be around people of GODLY character that HE hand picked and chose for me to be around

[@sylviasylvia8551]

But it is hard to have a man with Godly character and your lights are off, your cupboards are bare. Many things are a struggle. You do not have to live high and mighty, but have peace of mind with whatever is necessary to survive.

[@daniellamoreno3616]

@zadose Yes Amen!!

[@musizlovva1570]

Why he say he done tore a LIGAMENT IN YOUR THUMB............I am weak in my KNEES.

[@fredajohnson506]

Amen sister i agree with you hunderd percent i never been a gold digger

[@ashterrezao870]

I swear, nine of ten broke men will leave you, as soon as you help build them up. It's severely risky to help a dusty( broke men) Most women ain't taking those chances these day. Sad to say, but it's was it is. Sorry Tony.

[@lareignprunty3930]

This the first video where I can't agree where Tony coming from I met my kids dad and that's his lifestyle he broke and soely rely on weak single females such as where I used to be I met broke man wit good character but he's lazy and rely on me to keep pushing him forward.

[@coelho2795]

Completely agree on that. You have to be the prize and make him work to have conditions to have you by his side. If you work together they’ll find the chase of the prize in another woman because you were the step for him, not the prize.

[@Divinebeauty15]

Yup they will. Went through this

[@obsidian3510]

There are always exceptions to the rule. ALWAYS

[@obsidian3510]

@@lareignprunty3930 his character is missing something. He's not truly a good man if he's not God fearing. He wouldn't be lazy and leaving you to handle things. If he loves you truly he'd want to make your burden as light as possible. Reduce your stress or load

[@lanniedee857]

I could listen to this brother's knowledge forever. I'm about two seconds close to strapping both of my "know it all" adult daughters to a high chair and make them binge watch him...

[@beauphomasterpiece3795]

Lannie Dee please .

[@ashleys7604]

I try to get my 14 yr old daughter to watch Tony's videos with me! Every once in a while she we say "wait ma, go back and let me hear that part again". At least she hearing spiritual, positive, and motivational, words in between the mess she see/hear on social media.

[@anointedstilettos]

I want to do my adult daughter like that too lol.

[@sherryharvey9873]

Lannie Dee 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@LoveSierraDenae]

And I'm 28 trying to get my mom to listen lol

[@ForeverMattison]

I stopped watching tv and just started watching you the last man I dated was a demon himself. I’m learning how to read spirits and your helping me realize what the physical body should do or not do when it comes to dating and just deciding who’s a good person and who’s not ! A million thank you’s Tony

[@kimberlymmcguire]

Who shot John and forgot to kill'em? Tony you keep me crying. Never heard that comment in my life until today!

[@notthatvashti8127]

It must be a southern thing sis, I've heard it before! My mom had a trunk full of these euphemisms! They are funny!!

[@newbeginning.226]

What does it means pls?

[@marlenenoubet4927]

😂😂

[@neemyers6869]

It means if you shoot someone and don't finish the job, you will be astonished when he comes back for you. So it's the fear and amazement that will be on your face. 😲

[@lisajackson3743]

He had me thinking “on your bike” was another metaphor 😂

[@shereses.3298]

As a new divorcee, who has dated quite a bit since getting rid of my narcissistic ex-husband.....I truly believe if you trust God, and wait on him, work on yourself, pray for your future husband along the way......he will come. In whatever package that is, it will be just right for YOU. Effortlessly.

[@chickwitthagoodies]

This is what I'm about to do sis because I just can't with today's dating scene

[@gokelovefeji1651]

Exactly

[@missmjb599]

I agree with you!

[@bgsntn]

Absolutely agree with your statement. Wait. The right man will find you.

[@flowers8442]

@@bgsntn Truth. Too many women accept anything,anyone or the first man that comes knocking... Most men, dont desire commitment, especially NOT until they're done playing & sleeping around. Ladies, wait on the Lord's divine best for you...& put yourself first.

[@Krys50]

A man with character will never be broke

[@SuperDB215]

Exactly! You can't have character and ambition and be broke...

[@gogoldiego]

Yes!!!💛✌

[@nikkih7949]

Exactly! This point is literally going over some people’s head smh!

[@tiffanyhogan2967]

Truuuue that.

[@astralinterstellar4451]

No he won't be as long as he has his ride or die step up chick

[@ilciataracena-delcid5397]

I remember my husband's first job he was making $4.25 an hour we got married 4 years later we just made things work late 30's he said I know you want to be a full time mom to our son's go ahead I got this just make sure they graduate High School and get a Degree last year our oldest finished his BA Degree and this year our Youngest will complete his BA Degree as well both debt free..He is awesome we respect him but most of all I trusted his vision for our family. I didn't understand his work ethic but supported him and that's what he needed support..

[@jamie1425]

Emotional Security + Peace = Purpose and Prosperity

[@marshellepayne4020]

jame tj he learned us something with that right?

[@jamie1425]

@@marshellepayne4020 Sho nuff

[@psbringyourpassport]

The men I previously dated weren’t broke but they were brokeN in character and mindset. As I got older, I realized that mindset is CRITICAL.

[@felishapittman2778]

I met a guy who makes 6 figures but as Tony said...his character was poor! I was not impressed by his money and he learned that about me real quick. I could not be bought. We no longer talk.

[@fredajohnson506]

Amen sister i feel same way no one buy me not for sale that's like being a prostitute

[@denisemyers733]

That’s right I to was in one of those. and I left with the quickness’

[@Khadijah_respectfully]

I'm talking to a rich man now and you are right they will try to throw money at you for sex. He has just learned I cannot be bought so now we dont see each other anymore since I am not having sex. I'm glad the trash took itself out. Move out the way so my husband can see me.

[@jessitabonita]

@@Khadijah_respectfully I JUST experienced this, and still a little heartbroken and hurt... We met while both customers at an auto repair shop to get work done on our own Mercedes-Benz vehicles, and I love how his surname is literally "Benz" (lol yes I already fantasized about having his last name! 🙈) and I'm all thinking he'd be like my own Dean Martin Italian romantic... we'd talk about listening to Frank Sinatra, making homemade pasta and watching old Hollywood movies... him introducing me to his huge Italian family... the whole thing! He then started texting more than calling, not calling when he'd say he would, and then texted very sexual stuff which I reciprocated because I was too sprung on the _fantasy_ of all this than the reality of him NOT being a man of God, me feeding my own lustful desires, and he _still_ hasn't taken me on a date. 😫 Tried to tell me he DID ask me for a first date (to fly with him from Seattle to NY for a week...) and after our last phone call where _I_ was the one to bring up meeting somewhere local for a casual bite to eat, he ended the conversation to say he'd call back and hasn't in two days... 🤦🏻‍♀️ Ghosted me after being SO persistent saying he wants to see me, but when I told him he's not coming over to my place after I participated in texting back and forth with him when we were both aroused... I'm sadly not surprised. I'm glad I kept my legs closed, but I feel like I failed to do so mentally- and have a bit of regret. 😞 I'm an only child of divorced narcissistic parents so I'm more avoidant and actually like being alone, so I've gotten used to being single... But his awakening me to what _could_ have been and what I dream of has really thrown me off. 😞 Like I'm glad he showed me who he really is a couple weeks into getting my phone number, but I'm just sad at the loss.

[@Garnet234]

Same. I met this guy who use to send pictures to me of all of stuff with no context & of him with his shirt off. I confronted him about it & told him that I didn’t care about his money or things & he got upset 😂. So yeah , we don’t talk anymore. But it’s like these would be the same men that say women are gold diggers like sir obviously that’s what you want.

[@BossLadyMindsets]

I don’t mind Tony’s long videos because it’s so much knowledge and wisdom in what he is giving to us !! So THANK YOU Tony !!! 🙏🏽🙌🏽 And also those who follow Tony and support him should not allow Trolls in our Brothers comments because he is looking out and protecting us with the knowledge he shares we should in return make sure no one is in the comments continuously being contradicting to what his message is about because IF YOU DON’T GET IT, THEN IT’S NOT FOR YOU !!!! If the BeyHive protects Beyonce WE SHOULD Protect Our Brother !!! 💪🏽🙌🏽 Tony I appreciate your content however long it is Thank You again !! 🙏🏽🏁

[@TonyGaskins]

Thank you so much! Means a lot!!

[@nikkih7949]

So true ❤️

[@paulettec3561]

Saudia Lynn I totally agree with you sister. Tony is a blessing to so many I would have loved to had a father in my life giving me advice such as Tony or even a brother. I truly thank GOD for Tony’s anointing.

[@DynamicallyDC]

* When you allow character to be their currency you realize the men who are rich in character and the men who are character bankrupt. A man with alot of money, having poor character will eventually lose it. 🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@Kellergirl]

Amen!

[@DynamicallyDC]

@Dorcas Deroneth I agree..broke, empty, and depleted!

[@DynamicallyDC]

@zadose I'm unconcerned with who you take!! You're so ignorant & pressed from a true statement Tony made that I agreed with, which also didn't imply who I date.

[@daniellamoreno3616]

We need have both.

[@oppa9296]

Ok pickmesha I see you, thank you from saving from these duties

[@kristinamitanovska1273]

This man got deep wisdom, he speaks like a father. Thank you for all. Everybody should watch this i recomend it dearly. The world could be a better place with people like this. You are leaving a mark sir!

[@TheNaphisa03]

I am.glad to have a faithful and loyal husband with integrity who.also makes $100, 000 a year. In the beginning, it was his character that I chose. The finances came later, because he had to work towards it.

[@marilynking527]

🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@anointedstilettos]

Exactly! That's wonderful. When they have character, the money will come.

[@ShasellaBella]

Please adopt me lol

[@shante2018]

My husband faked his character for years!! Came out and said he cheated multiple times and wants to start over...

[@janedoe2299]

Shante S do you?

[@alexatoure3407]

Character and love are the most important. Character makes the man or woman.Without it you really have nothing. Its like building a house on sand. They key is pay close attention to true character.Emotional security is everything to me. Character may seem to be rare but it is deep within all of us. It must be cultivated. Also money is necessary and practical for life. It takes character to solve problems, make decisions, and sustain relationships.

[@lindageiling5922]

I took care of a broke man. N i will never do it again. Never. I was conned. Used n abused.

[@michelepace777]

Same here x 2, never again. Some people are just lazy as f. and want a mama not a mate.

[@viewly390]

People, please take the time to watch the WHOLE video. Watch it (3) three times. Believe me it’s worth the time. This is a gift from Jehovah Jireh

[@feleciapowell5792]

Linda Geiling THIS !!! Whew I empathize with you

[@AllThingsTiffanyTV]

We all have sis, congratulations for leaving. Celebrate yourself. Heal and prosper 💕 greater is coming for you !!!

[@shakeyourtambourine]

I won't either bc a man w good character is chased down by God's favor. He will work harder than me. Even if not making a ton.

[@SmplyZee]

"Money will be a byproduct of being a real man." -Tony Gaskins

[@brownsugarglamour]

“Have you ever meet a single man with MONE-TEE” 😂😭😭😂💀💀💀💀💀💀

[@honeys.9579]

Some people too busy dippin with the people who already have full families, meanwhile single people out here like huh okay 😂😏☮️

[@aminastoned5687]

Girl I’m cackling at that part..RITE NOW!😂😂😂😂

[@bettinaivory28]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@terrieverd5]

Nope!😂

[@coachkris2200]

Yes but he wasn’t about anything, poor character.

[@chantac9815]

I tried allowing to let the character matter most. He moved in after a year of dating. However, whenever a disagreement popped off, he would say things like; you think you're all that and that I am better than him. He tried to destroy me emotionally and would flip things on me. It was NEVER about the money. I paid for vacations, mortgage, food and purchased nice gifts. At the end, he stole all of my tools and other things. Heartbreaking. I am learning to be happier alone than to deal with a taker. I'm good.

[@laurenlocd3180]

Tony has another video stating if you pay for gifts and things for a man he will start to eventually resent you

[@namastewellness]

Chanta C A woman can't be a men's provider. Doesn't work.

[@paulettec3561]

Chanta C Did he have good character ? mmm🤔🤔

[@BlessednHighlyfavored12]

Well that doesn’t sound like good character at all

[@susuabc]

He said don't live with a man before marriage. or sleep with them.

[@mikaa444]

It's a high gamble. None of my investments worked out. Taking a chance and investing in a man that had very little or nothing wore by behind out! I'm never settling again! You don't have to be rich or perfect, but financially, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and intellectually there must be a healthy balance. He's not gonna drive me crazy....🤷🏾‍♀️

[@InspiredUno]

Lamika C this!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@LondonDreamSoul]

Agreed 💯💯👌🏾

[@natalieduncan82]

Facts!!!!

[@RealLadi228]

Body mind and spirit Amen

[@overcomerbtboj]

You are right on your assessment- no crazy drama - he’s got to have his head on straight 💯

[@Hairitage2023]

I’m so grateful for the hard time we went through together in the beginning of our marriage. We hung in there and no one even knew sometimes we had little to no food to eat. But, now because of the currency of my husband’s character we can eat whatever we want, travel and just enjoy life. I washed clothes by hand while we were living in a studio apartment. Now we live in a gated community in a four bedroom home. I’m so thankful for our mentors at the beginning of our life’s journey together until death do us part. We’re friends and I’m glad I was willing to pray for him, for us, encouraging him even when I was down. Thanks for these videos Mr. Gaskins!!

[@LucreziaGirelli]

It’s amazing how your words of wisdom come at the perfect time in my life. I broke up on January 3rd and this whole series is giving me clarity and peace of mind. I actually feel better now than before. Your videos only reinforce my faith in God. Be blessed from Italy

[@lzsunshine]

Girl stay on these videos. With prayer, bible study, and these videos....you will be back to normal quick. I am a living testimony. Take care of you sis!

[@fiftyfiftylifestyle456]

I've listened to MANY coaches on You Tube and I dont bother with them anymore. Tony is the best by a long shot. You are in good hands. xx.

[@LucreziaGirelli]

kellee ransom thank you very much sis your message made my day. You are so right the only way to get through it is sticking to God completely and consistently. Ephesians 3:20: “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory” Hugs from Italy

[@LucreziaGirelli]

Bibi Lafleur I believe so. Tony is anointed. I’m glad to join this community. Thank you very much xoxo

[@lzsunshine]

@@LucreziaGirelli Yes girl yes!! Hugs from Kansas City!

[@khakimay1505]

"Character has to be combined with AMBITION" (Dreams) with balance (Values and morals) this will produce the 3Ps-Peace, Purpose and Prosperity) NOT sitting in the couch🛋️ playing X-box😂 I literally had to take notes💝.

[@lizzylewis5793]

Recognize a real man when you see one. A man with character can earn any amount of money, but no amount of money can buy character. Let a man's character be his currency. Peace + Purpose=Prosperity👏

[@lizzylewis5793]

@zadose The point is to see potential in that broke man, build with him first before considering other options

[@aliciawoods8925]

But a broke man with good character will NEVER be broke forever.. understand that, because of his vision and ambition.. also just because a man with a lot of money has that when you meet him doesn’t mean that he’ll have money through out the whole relationship.

[@lizzylewis5793]

@@aliciawoods8925 Right! Amen

[@moons4363]

That is like the lottery unfortunately for many women they get used for that purpose and when the man reaches his goal he leave for a younger woman🤦‍♀️

[@lizzylewis5793]

@@moons4363 right, unfortunately I have heard of that scenario as well.

[@AS-br8in]

Best part is always when he talks with the arguing women-voice! 😂😂😂😂😂👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@fiftyfiftylifestyle456]

Watch to the end ladies. A man who is not a real man can make money. You don't need to character to make money. But there is no way to buy character with money.

[@shellyd38]

This is soo true. I dated a man who was between jobs. I accepted that because I understand the process.. I ended it because of his inconsistent behavior. I understood what standing by his side was doing to me as a person. Good message BTW..

[@lindageiling5922]

I WILL NEVER AGAIN TAKE CARE OF A BROKE MAN. I ASK HE HAS SOMETHING TO CONTRIBUTE. O WILL NEVER TAKE CARE OF A BROKE MAN AGAIN. I WILL CHOOSE ME . NO ONE

[@viewly390]

Linda Geiling watch again sis, the Whole video this time around

[@TheSomethingnew1]

It's a dangerous game. In this day and age, I wouldn't reccomend it because the vast majority of men will use your money and then leave when they get on. And some never get on at all. The number one reason for high divorce rates are finances, so it all can't just be based on good character.

[@lilkathytaylor]

You don't take care of a man. You let a man be a man. Let him stand on his own. The only help you should give is support and peace of mind. I did it before with a grown boy so I understand how you feel. I don't want you to allow the past to have your miss the wisdom out of it and carry the hurt.

[@manayang5087]

@@lilkathytaylor 💯

[@joannadziokan3267]

Linda Geiling I am guilty of that too. Twice! No more.

[@bgsntn]

Thank you Tony. Women need an honest God fearing respectful man to share his knowledge. I agree Emotional security is the true security. Many times women learn life lessons the hard way by walking through it. I pray all women listen to your wise words and give themselves peace

[@nickab2691]

🗣🗣🗣 SPEAK TO US, TONY. We need this even when it’s uncomfortable!!!

[@t.michele3282]

This is a great message. I've been on both sides. Truthfully...I need the part that I cannot provide for myself. Emotional security is what I prefer. Often times we seek what we want, and overlook what we need.

[@AngelaRCurry]

Preach! I prefer the longer messages. Keep serving.

[@gokelovefeji1651]

I also prefer when his message is more longer cos God is really using him.

[@fredajohnson506]

Amen i listen to Tony alll day because he has so much godly wisdom he be speaking the truth💯 some woman's not ready for that

[@yasha36]

I just found you! I have been watching your videos a lot! I use to be on the right path when I was younger. I didn't want to date anyone who smoke or drinks. I also wanted to save myself for marriage as well. However, I told my thoughts to my parents thinking that they would reaffirm my choice but all I got was backlash from them. However, now I feel like saving myself is the right thing to do. I am still figuring it out but I will say that you have motivated me to get back into my spiritual side. Thank you! ^^

[@sonyayoung263]

I’ve been saying for years, I would rather have a financially broke man, than an emotionally broken man.

[@moriahaddison]

Sonya Young absolutely

[@gogoldiego]

Both are not good. I need both in place.💛✌

[@sylviasylvia8551]

@@gogoldiego While we as women were growing up; with all the opportunities we have in this present world; you can excel in many areas; it is actually up to you and what type of lifestyle you want. Nothing to do with 'keeping up with the Jones'; it is survival and comfort. Justly understood. I agree with you totally. I am being honest to myself and to whomever, I will eventually settle and marry.

[@musizlovva1570]

@Shawny Love Dern....it"s always something is'nt it.

[@angelahill6313]

So true!!!

[@brendabeautiful3096]

Never met a single man with monte, with amazing character...never have )) TONY you are absolutely right...GOD bless you @ your family..

[@Dr.Elaine1]

“Listen to receive instead of to reply.” Be blessed.

[@christyglamr2951]

I know. It's sad money is not the message

[@earthgoddess4779]

Mr.Gaskins ever since I started watching your video's last year, so much has changed. You've managed to put so much in perspective and I am so grateful. Starting my second job next month so that I can do your courses. Thank you and continue being blessed. Sending positive vibrations from South Africa.

[@Best-ThingYouNeverHad]

Emotional security all day everyday.

[@longislandny696]

Desoray Williams YESSSS !

[@dominiquedelaine]

I truly appreciate these long videos!!! You give us the meat and potatoes! That’s what we need!

[@queenofthesouth4205]

Ladies stop settling for anything and everything you deserve better. His character should go with him being gainfully employed.....you will come to regret the relationship. If a man becomes ill and can not support the family it is totally different. But Nephew Tony you had income even if it was 20K, some of the men today refuse to work , they feel that some jobs are beneath them because they are chasing their dreams. My husband and I both work; I have the option to stay home but I just would not feel comfortable sitting at home. My husband has told our son that he has to attend college full time, with good grades or seek some type of employment..(cutting the grass/washing cars).....end of story periodddddt.

[@eugeniacriss3774]

P .

Queen of the South because I can’t eat character or pay the mortgage with it either

[@11940ful]

This generation of men is nothing but a joke. Low income women of color should not be allowed to breed. It very discouraging

[@queenofthesouth4205]

@@11940ful you would be shocked to know their are more white and hispanic women having babies.....and seeking public assistance (welfare). Black women have become highest population with college degrees in decades. I am a Hospital Administrator, my husband is a Surgeon.

[@LondonDreamSoul]

Agreed. At a certain age , you should have at least the basics. If you don't, this is a major problem and speaks volumes as to your character. If you don't invest in yourself, why should I. I shouldn't have to lower my standards or quality of life because of someone else's lack of ability or drive.

[@stephybobo1991]

Dating a broke man ⭐☆☆☆☆ I wouldn't recommend it. 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@jazzyfe84]

Nope

[@lolag4383]

Not Neva

[@oppa9296]

Yes! I know my self-worth.

[@BrendaBaBoom]

A broke dude’s energy dwindles enthusiasm. Definitely a WASTE of time.

[@marlenenoubet4927]

Stephanie Mills 😂😂😂

[@JBrazielGreen]

“Tore a ligament in your thumb “ 🤣🤣🤣🤣 smh I love it. These videos are everything. Hence, good knowledge, truth, transparency, and a good laugh lol. Thankfully I chose emotional security years ago. 🙌

[@lisajackson5931]

Those initial points.

[@serentalina401]

And above all its coming from a christian brother..... I used to watch another relationship coach, he tells the truth but because he's not a christian he uses curse words in his teaching which makes it uncomfortable to listen to.

[@Palaustin]

Thank you Tony, I am so blessed to hear your teachings. Ladies listen and stop breaking your fingers texting your disagreements

[@marilynking527]

Tony it’s hard to find men who even have good character tbh

[@thestoryofmylife5267]

So damn true

[@MsBdoll87]

The man is to find you. Tell God what you want and let Him send you the man you need. Can’t settle for anything. Discernment is key! Best of luck to you on this journey! ❤️

[@ziza19301]

I surely is

[@marilynking527]

MsBdoll87 so true

[@freddiesanders5942]

No it ain't yall just see men of good character as weak.

[@psbringyourpassport]

“Where he end up? In the pokey... getting poked” 😂 tony you be cracking me up

[@fredajohnson506]

Amen he has way with words hilarious

[@michelepace777]

Exchange, Respect, Integrity, God fearing, a real job and trying is EVERYTHING.

[@marilyncruz1030]

I live with a man 8 years with an amazing character. I have paid for our vacations,I’ve paid for our dinners and at one point I’ve paid the rent while he went to school. Now that I have pulled back and we go out he will ask at checkout “ you got this “? And I say “ no”

[@brownsugarglamour]

Yooo I lowkey be listening to you at work Tony and be laughing at my cubicle, while my coworkers look at me crazy ... just FYI 😭😭😂💀💀😅😅😅

[@myekaj2492]

me too! lol

[@anitawilder]

Thanks!

[@chrisannmaye9474]

A man finances is just as important as his character

[@goddessmaat9926]

Chrisann Maye true

[@nakooshaalbert8884]

Chrisann Maye You May wanna watch the full video two more times

[@viewly390]

Chrisann Maye please watch the WHOLE video. Watch it thrice. You won’t regret it. Peace.

[@havegrace9111]

Go back to mins 38 and 39

[@Lovejoi222]

Exactly.

[@teishahowlett6342]

I listen to tony gaskins on KZbin a lot,I listened to him all day yesterday on Easter when I was at work..

[@gabrieliap8080]

Hey just so u ladies know, sometimes these grown boys show u poor character and try to marry u to keep u around for benefits. So be careful, I seen it happen too many times as well. It could be a control thing than wanting commitment.

[@PeaceBeStill-]

Yep

[@natalieboult4726]

Exactly ! They don’t really want just you or you at all but they don’t want anyone else to have you .. and treat you well.

[@ericawhitfield7876]

Yes ma"am!!!

[@cherh]

Great message TG. Ladies use your KNOWLEDGE he didn't say go out get with a guy who doesn't have a job or a pot to piss in and make him your man. A man can have a steady job, savings, & 401k pay his own bills and don't have character. A good woman can bring the best out of a man, this can help build his character. Pray over/with your man ladies bring the best out of him. Be blessed 💫

[@cherh]

@@tiffanydiggs7625 yes! Can't be a doormat

[@Best-ThingYouNeverHad]

You can only bring the best out of a man if he allows you to go watch his video on can a man change if you haven't already.

[@cherh]

@@Best-ThingYouNeverHad as I said in the above comment use your KNOWLEDGE. Common sense is apart of that knowledge your learning along the way. And yes I've watched it, I watch and learn from each video. Thanks...Be blessed 💫

[@Best-ThingYouNeverHad]

@@cherh back at ya

[@Best-ThingYouNeverHad]

@@tiffanydiggs7625 thanks! You too

[@Authenticleatrice]

I truly believe I can have both emotional and financial security, if I meet a man and he’s not where he wants to be financially just yet. As long as he’s ambitious and striving for more in life. He won’t be “broke” forever.

[@ReciMT]

Authentic Leatrice period! I talking to a man that makes like 10k less than me, but he has a degree, he already has a business and his character is there. It’s just I see the ambition! But If he ever cheat on me, I’m dipping !

[@xtbsfan4evax]

Just bought a woman’s influence . Can’t wait to read it ! Thank you for all your videos and guidance. 🙏

[@Spruill526]

Good character and a financial plan is what’s needed. God bless you !

[@beingreezy]

It’s hard to have a favorite video of yours but I tell you I felt like I was front row at the church with this one! Yelling back at the pastor 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@AllThingsTiffanyTV]

I just watched your Breakfast Club interview and you said the same thing. Both great word. Be blessed

[@ellesam3348]

I’m a 35 successful woman no way in hell I date a broke dude or a street guy! I mean I’m in the business world so I will meet someone like me! Point blank period! I won’t be a sugar mommy!

[@ebonyflowers7599]

Tony is hilarious as usual. This is a word. I hope everyone watched it twice. He isn’t saying that you should take care of a broke man. Tony motto is keep your legs closed and your wallet closed. Please listen. Be blessed everyone!

[@vibrantindiana935]

When you discussed examining the root of desires - I felt that! This wisdom is also empowering to my journey too. "A dream is rooted in purpose. A fantasy is rooted in pleasure." - Tony Gaskins Thanks for that. God Bless!

[@Rebelle07]

I will never entertain a broke man. Sorry not sorry.

[@vanessam.2553]

Right, if a man cant even afford to live on his own how to you know hes genuine...especially when you as a woman is living nicely on her own, traveling, taking care of business. Unfortunately as a woman dating a man who is not financially stable is dangerous territory. Especially when we start getting into 30 plus in age...what is his reason for his situation? Of course hes going to be nice when he has an agenda.

[@go_off_Sis]

Vanessa M. By the time we hit 40 this is enough time to correct any pitfalls that bad decisions in his youth may have hindered his life and enough time to become the franchise manager of McDonalds if he was a cook and cashier 10 - 15 years earlier

[@go_off_Sis]

Elle Jaye A 💯

[@gyamagya19]

In the past i had a relationship with a broke man and i chose between him and a wealthy man. We broke up , because i taught he was a good man and i can help him grow and be happy together but he was so lazy and demotivated. So in the end im in a relationship with the wealthy man who loves me and who have manners and we are aaa looot better financial too. So...

[@myramilton1833]

Right

[@iamlearning8353]

Best video talk ever. Thanks Bro. Tony. I appreciate this so much. Set the captives FREE.

[@Kim-Kim29]

You’re right on this 1 Tony! Character goes a long way for men and women.

[@sf5823]

Such a good video! Really glad you covered this topic. 9:00 I'd choose and always have chosen emotional security over financial security every single time. Health = Wealth! Without good health we can't acheive anything in life. A good woman will stand by her man if his integrity is fully intact! However a good woman will also care enough about her own integrity and will not put up with a man without integrity! Money is really important too and affects how you live and bring up your kids because environment also affects your children. For example I won't let my children play out with the other children in my area because there's a lack of morals and values coming from their family homes. It's very anti-social as it's considered one of the roughest areas in my city but it's about what you as a person learn and bring to your family that counts. You can learn about how money works and learn how to use it properly in order to create financial security for yourself and your children. Unfortunately I didn't learn about this until recently but I plan on learning and teaching each of my children the principles so that they can take that into their adult lives and we as women can all do this for ourselves and our kids. The principles of money are as old as the hills. Seriously, wealth operates on the same system as it always has since currency became the exchange of energy for wealth building so we can look to finding out about those principles. Screw the money men and broken toxic men especially, ESPECIALLY the men who have different women here there and everywhere. Take care of your health and emotional well being ladies! 23:00, 24:50**, **34:30**, **36:50**** 40:40 ( check out Angel number 4040) 44:50 ( angel no# 4450)

[@DeeDee-no7bb]

Emotional security will produce financial security

[@Best-ThingYouNeverHad]

This was so good! I just finished watching the 2nd time. I always say this & have said this. Character is a must. It's not optional. It makes or breaks you 🅿

[@tamikamatthews4905]

Right on time Tony Gaskins, I really needed to here this message today. I'm done taking care of broke man's and abusive relationships. I rather be alone than to settle down with someone because of how much money they make. Self love and healing is important too. Be bless Tony much love and keep the video's coming

[@tamyachanelltv]

Amen, its all about being rich in the spirit, before being rich in reality.

[@kslaymusik]

I swear my IQ goes up every time I listen!!! Thank you Tony for pouring into me. Let those who have ears, let them hear !!!

[@marsalis12]

Emotional intelligence

[@mariadelagarza775]

Amen!!

[@laquetianewstartmercer]

Thank you Tony! Can't rush into anything! This video is very helpful!!

[@G.DD3SS]

Disclaimer: I did get to the meat, i.e., the nuances and caveats, but I do have some questions: Is there no difference between an ambitious broke 20-year old man, an ambitious broke 30-year old man, and an ambitious broke 40-year old man, etc, etc? If a man has character would that character not bear fruit in his career and his finances as well? Is it not safer for older woman to go for men with both financial success AND character in order to avoid wasting even more time being deceived and dogged by broke men who have faux-character and false ambition? Side note: I know Tony tends to reference his wife marrying him for his character and potential; however, I do feel that their situation was quite unique. By his own account, not many men were like him - looking for their wife at 21 - and his wife met him when she was 19 (if I'mnot mistaken). It would've been unreasonable for her to expect him to be well-established at that age.

[@felishapittman2778]

I'm 46...I can't afford to start over with a man. He needs to have his own.

[@vblacksugar7249]

Felisha Pittman And definitely have his head on straight.

[@cochrancochran66]

I have the same concerns...being over 40. I realize I have to use discernment and pay close attention to a man’s character more than his money situation because I don’t have a lot of time to waste.

[@ellesam3348]

Exactly my thought! At 20 I wasn’t looking for financial stability in a man! Today it’s normal for me to expect that I am successful so he will be too and ready for me!

[@AE-106]

@@cochrancochran66 Indeed!😊

[@sallyhamilton5928]

Thank you so much Brother Tony I learned so much from you and I look forward to hearing you say Tony Gaskin here cause I know it’s gonna be good thank you character is his currency

[@YourtrustedREAgent]

I had to rewind at the 9 minute mark! That was some good information. I'll say this is by far the best one Tony's ever done in my opinion. Explaining everything that he's ever discussed.

[@jenniferbroadwater4285]

$$$ can't buy character💯Character is priceless.

[@veronicathesinger11]

You keep amazing me. No hype. I never knew how much I needed your messages until now. God bless you. Thank you!

[@elicore.biz81]

Tony Gaskins please continue to make your extra long videos, I appreciate them. May the Most High bless you and your family.

[@pamelaoviahon6604]

Enjoyed the lesson today. You crack me up. Keep keeping it real, Mr. Gaskins.

[@tameekaharris6425]

Tony you're absolutely hilarious 🤣🤣

[@JBrazielGreen]

Tameeka Harris YES 🤣 🤣

[@tameekaharris6425]

@@JBrazielGreen 🤣

[@serentalina401]

When he says 'caveats and nuances'

[@tameekaharris6425]

@@serentalina401 😂

[@sherylharvey9492]

You truly truly bless me with your messages daily.... I’m happy to be apart of the blessed tribe... be blessed 🙏🏾

[@healinghandz5692]

💯 one real deep video . At the end of the day as of now I rather have emotional security . Ive been with a man with money definitely wasn't treated well at all . Great video Tony

[@t.l1357]

I did come back to this. This had sooooo many keys. I attract artistic men who have fantasies. They are very nice but there's some definite character flaws. This is very articulate and helped me clear up exactly what I want. Now these traits are starting to turn me off faster and faster with each new man who approaches. I'm keeping my legs closed and feel so blessed. I'm newly divorced and not making mistakes today but i could have easily fallen for these poor character men. I naturally try to help but that's something reserved for my husband. Thanks so much! I know my REAL husband is coming. I will be discerning this time.

[@Summer8484f]

What is the harm in knowing you are worth both

[@confessionsofagirlpilotgro2594]

“Peace, Purpose and Prosperity” God Bless You Sir!

[@traceyceaser56]

Tony Gastins you are so funny, thank you for being authentic.

[@gabriellakozma5857]

This is an outstandingly good video, thanks Tony! I never looked for the money, only the character. But I failed to assess if he is on his purpose. Sometimes it is hard to do, the devil is excellent in misleading. I had a great love who managed money well (he did not earn much), he did voluntary work, was social and helpful with everybody. He loved children (which turned out later was just pretending), took care about several gardens and animals devotedly. He made music, wrote books (which turned out he never tried to publish).I was sure I had found the love of my life. But he turned out to be a narcissist. He does all the good things on the surface to show off and to get close to vulnerable people whom he can abuse. You are perfectly right in your teaching, but discernment in practice can be sometimes very tricky. This man took away the chance from me to have children (with empty lies and broken promises) and tried to destroy me building my business and new life after him.

[@elizabethschilling7178]

Probably one of your best videos! Be blessed brother.

[@shaniecepinkston3743]

This is so good!! Because think of like this without character how are you able to sustain that particular lifestyle when no one taught you how to budget or control temptation. Why do you think so many celebrities go broke it’s because of the contents of their character. It go hand in hand and that’s also why when people win the lottery they go broke after 2 years.

[@MsDrich2]

Come thru with the long message Tony G! Right on Time as Usual! This message is Life 💯