You attract what you ARE! (Meaning)

[@tamikadaniels7850]

Some of us are healing and we need the encouragement/positive reinforcements.

[@princesslita100]

Thank you for the explanation. A lot of these other life coaches/writers don't explain in detail.

[@robinbryant7748]

Mom said to listen to men about men. This is an explanation of the saying. I like it because we may tend to assign more flaws to ourselves because we started something with some fool. Thanks bruh 👊

[@robinbryant7748]

I meant to say "a good explanation".

[@lizzylewis5793]

Yes!🙏🙏

[@natashafreeman2220]

It’s not who you attract it’s who you decide to take home and entertain.

[@Nekole1]

Love this comment

[@mayhall6071]

I like that.. good quote.

[@daniellamoreno3616]

Facts

[@chocolatenikki]

THIS!

[@sportsport1654]

It's absolutely bouth

[@quicheshelton953]

Say you are BROKEN, you will attract a BROKEN person. You may say, they were mean and controlling and aggressive. (That’s how he copes, trying to CONTROL every outcome to not be hurt). The other person, their brokenness comes off as insecurities and lack of self love, trying to over compensate in fear of abandonment. Both these traits are unhealthy, both present different flowers but have the same root. So yes, who u attract, has something in common with YOU.

[@jodysawyer8462]

This is sooooo true, I can't even tell you. Thank you!

[@tinaking9120]

This spoke directly to me! 🙌🏽

[@krystaltaylor8634]

That's exactly what that means...

[@tiffanyjolly6634]

Message received, thank you!

[@charlinecharlostin3188]

Sis you didn’t have to read my past like that

[@lialia8073]

Netflix paused, Earplugs in, Volume up.....It's Tony time!

[@angelgreen9945]

That made me laugh. Go girl!

[@drshelia]

I know I hit “like” before I even heard it but that’s ok ... I already know I like it😂😂

[@alexiselmore7502]

I do the same thing!!!

[@patricemurray6412]

Me too!

[@CaramelKissez]

God bless you 🖤

[@ashleyrolle2214]

Same here!!😎

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Thats how I roll when I get in here, I just know its gonna be good.

[@missgoodenergy]

“A zebra gon walk up to you so do that mean you a zebra?” I am holleringggg!!!!!!! skskskskks 🤣🤣🤣

[@ginad8238]

Amen Tony! That’s why I say, if a person says they married the wrong person, they were also the wrong person..

[@CaramelKissez]

Good one!

[@venda1008]

True

[@daniellamoreno3616]

Maybe yeah

[@InspiredUno]

Wrong person for the person they married as well.

[@renaeingram2934]

Ooooh Lawd

[@reashabiggs2236]

Thank you and May Jesus bless you Mr.Gaskin I’m 24 and my mom have passed away at the age of 42 a few months ago in which I now am raising my three younger siblings on my own . I’m not in a relationship but I was feeling down and like giving up due to feeling like my life is over but God really blessed you thank you for the encouraging videos you made today . Imma hold on to God and keep it going 🙏🏽

[@christyjohnson918]

Reasha Biggs- sorry for the loss of your mom. Don't give up God got you.

[@eileendom5858]

You got this. God is on your side and so are we. You are a true Angel to your siblings and because of you, they will be safe and ok. You will be blessed. My sympathies go out to you and the rest of your family. We are all here in case you need us.

[@WanyReyes]

God is with you and he gave you that assignment because he knows your strength, maturity and heart. Your mother is now an angel watching over you and your siblings. Stay strong and maintain the flame of your faith alive! God stays with you 🙏🏽💜

[@yaniquefrancis429]

You got this baby girl ❤️🌹 God bless!

[@RealLadi228]

God has huge plans for your life..keep the faith. Condolences to you and your Family You are in the right place on the correct path for wisdom and guidance 🙏 ✨ 🙌

[@TheCrazy1012]

Not being approached Is hard! Then the ones who do approach you..... I’m like God, seriously? Is this it?

[@angelgreen9945]

Your comment just made me laugh. I’m still laughing. Wow

[@tyjajackson5892]

Agreed

[@princesstiffanynews]

😂😂

[@overcomerbtboj]

Lol its the truth! 😂

[@monas]

Haha girl I know the feeling

[@Coolct]

My mom used to say to me even a thug wants a nice woman so don’t get offended or be mean.

[@joi5787]

CoolCalmChris it’s so irritating, like gon..... you don’t know what to do with me boy!!!

[@prettytrOuble]

I'm 29 & it took me sooo long to finally realize what this means . I had to take a look at the reoccurring negative traits I would encounter w. men & take accountability for my " toxic " traits tht I would ignore in men because it was still in me ...

[@beyoutifullyunique03]

You’re blessed to have figured this out in your twenties and not thirties like I did 😩

[@daniellamoreno3616]

I hear you sister.

[@Pattii1010]

Girl yes! Im in same boat. 29 turning 30 n still learning about myself and how it had be reflected on my relationships with men

[@Eyvette112]

Don’t feel rained on ladies I’m 50 and just learning

[@nurhayat81]

@@beyoutifullyunique03 It's not your fault. Exercise those self-compassion muscles beloved.🤗

[@angelag.7867]

Thats why living with a man unmarried is no-no.

[@ednachilds3134]

Tony when I found out my ex husband was talking and spending time with another woman. I sent him on his way! I am not mad at him or the woman. I did not want our daughter to see and think that his behavior was love but disrespect. I love my life! God has a better husband for me so I wait...

[@khocolateable]

That's rite

[@jbadams56]

Where in the Bible does it say God will provide your husband?

[@vegigirl7440]

I love Tony's "parables" and his " cast of characters"! I'm hollerin"

[@sarahq3962]

With them zebra socks thrown in mix too 😅

[@InspiredUno]

He’s such a great teacher!!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@cheekscheeks5840]

I listen 3 times a day the same video to make sure I’m getting every msg in my soul

[@coachnatishamommatish144]

@Cheekscheeks Love your new photo!😘

[@TheFactsofLife237]

CHEEKS CHEEKS Great photo!

[@TheFactsofLife237]

COACH Natisha Momma Tish1 Hi momma Tish1!

[@coachnatishamommatish144]

@@TheFactsofLife237 Heya,Sugas! How are you😘❤

[@cheekscheeks5840]

Thanks y’all

[@kenishalperkins]

Tony can I tell you something ? Sometimes you’re the first voice I hear in the morning and the last voice I hear at night. You’re my best friend in my head. Thank you for everything 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

[@tameekaharris6425]

You and me both my little big brother lol

[@kenishalperkins]

Tameeka Harris Haha Yup Tony is definitely family !!

[@ebere9078]

He's not God.

[@venda1008]

@@ebere9078 she knows that

[@selenajackson1745]

venda 100 well she need to stop acting like it

[@dgerminald]

This was good! Man what would we do if we didn't have people like Tony in our lives schooling us? Plus he's hilarious. His antics and analogies are 💯

[@tomaradoss3420]

Yes everything you said!!!! Tony is a blessing to my soul!! Funny as all get out!!!

[@loriwhalen2321]

Tony has a great sense of humor. It makes his videos extra great!

[@ladennayoung2939]

Right. Don't take it personal. Men will try/test you regardless. It is up to you to reject what you don't want.

[@j-tenn226]

I wish I'd read this a year ago.

[@gabbylemus5418]

Tony Idk what I’d be if I didn’t come along your videos, I was literally in bed curled up in the fetal position crying when I came along your video and you help me get out bed and put myself together and your strength was through me the rest of the day n everyday since I watch your videos , I appreciate you dearly, God Bless !

[@dn-cp6sh]

Yes, he really is a blessing to us.

[@nurhayat81]

The Most High bless you and open for you the right person at the right time.

[@charleigh1852]

I really needed to hear this. As women, we ignore the red flags thinking that it will get better. Things never do and us wanting them to be better men doesn't make a difference. It's up to a man to either be a man or remain a grown boy! Preach Tony!!

[@thatgirlcocoa]

I know God has called you to do this, the way you used all those props and kept talking off the dome was nothing but a blessing! Thank you for this word 🙏🏾

[@RealLadi228]

One way to be blessed is too be happy for whoever may seem to have what you are waiting for to manifest in your own life...this is for those Ladies who are wondering why another woman has a husband, man or situationship the only shoes you want to walk in is your own..I can guarantee you that....💯 Be a blessing to be blessed 🙌 What God has for you is for you until then focus on preparation ✨ 🙏 get ready to be ready.

[@glorytoyahuah2935]

FACTS‼️

[@nurhayat81]

Brilliant! You have a true overstanding of the Law of Attraction.

[@vibes8924]

@@nurhayat81 law of attraction is not from God. She didn’t mean manifesting w/o God.

[@JustBeingJae01]

This just changed my whole perspective You attract who you settle down with | well said

[@abrahampalmer8761]

Agreed

[@lediawhiteside9964]

I won’t settle again! I’m worth More than less. Thanks Mr. Tony and Family. Blessings on ya! 🙏

[@CaramelKissez]

God bless you

[@bflores3944]

I put my husband out for cheating etc. A dating site lady was happy to commit adultery, give him shelter & they married shortly after for her to obtain citizenship ($3500) he even used the wedding ring from our marriage to marry her. Thank you for this!! I already know his character. Speaks volumes on hers. I will no longer tolerate a disrespectful man who lies, cheats & steals. I held on for too long for our children. We're better off without his mess.

[@luash5073]

Tony’s random props always makes me laugh but it creates a good picture.

[@sanjeshnidevi982]

When society and the world is ready to pick me apart and tear me down, Tony has been so instrumental in helping me to pick myself up and shake the dust off my feet. His messages have been the source of my empowerment, my growth and connecting me back with my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. I can honestly look back and connect the dots from the painful place I was operating from, and see my journey with clarity for the first time in my life. I can truly say my mindset shifted and my healing began and I will continue in this journey with or without a man.

[@destinyuplift]

Amen!!

[@reneepulliam8423]

I’m watching for the ONE. 🙏🏽💯

[@denisedean8503]

Amen shawtty with or without a man all we need is God.

[@IAmTheQueen87]

I did leave a relationship because I was growing mentally, he wasn’t. I could’ve stayed to prevent starting over but I knew I wanted more and I wasn’t gonna get it by staying out of comfort and fear. I deserve to be happy.

[@marissat2682]

God work in mysterious ways. I was just thinking about this Thank you soo much for being obedient to the holy spirit!!! May God continue to pour out blessing over your family!!!

[@staceythorpe7938]

Yup! Just because they are attracted to you, does not mean you have to be attracted to them. "Two can only walk together unless they agree."

[@kibawilson4831]

Wow he couldn't of said it any better " why are you complaining about your man"?" Its you"...deep definitely food for the soul

[@msanja70]

I’m so glad I have continuously since a young child prayed for wisdom, understanding, and proTection. My friends get mad when they talk negative about the men they choose to deal with. “You Picked HIm”! Stop dating when you are bored! You end up with foolishness!!!!

[@leahdhahan4058]

Very insightful. Yes, men and women have different motivations for why they are in relationships. We have to discern people's motives and determine if the person is really the right fit. Thank you for this message Tony! It's very helpful.

[@avoiceandaninfluence]

Shout out to the props that appeared today. 😂😂😂

[@ayeleayih]

😂😂😂😂🤣🤣

[@ayeleayih]

😂😂😂😂🤣🤣

[@daniellamoreno3616]

🤣 yes...

[@brennaceja]

Amen! 😅

[@melaniegonzalezart8506]

Yes

[@RealLadi228]

Yes!! TonyG💯...I attracted men who weren't worthy of my space or time due to lack of self love. TG😇

[@DynamicallyDC]

Absolutely Tony! How we feel about ourselves and treat ourselves directly affects who we attract or settle for. 🙌🏾

[@RealLadi228]

Yes and every decision we make.

[@DynamicallyDC]

@@RealLadi228 Agreed! 💯

[@DynamicallyDC]

@bigjayking24 It's a loyalty badge when you become a member of the channel and the color of the badge changes based on the length of time.

[@DynamicallyDC]

@bigjayking24 If you hit the join button it will explain the loyalty badge & all the perks of becoming a member. I hope that answers your question. lol

[@erikasanders6259]

I listen to him while I'm going to sleep

[@mschat8776]

I do too

[@lilpinkbubbles6592]

Me too!

[@angelbasham6631]

Me too

[@thedivinityprinciples7780]

Theraputic👌🏾

[@jasming8893]

Same

[@meriammedina2178]

I’m padding myself on the back 🙌🏼 the knowledge you have given me has elevated me to a higher level. Forever grateful to you Tony! Blessings to you and your beautiful family.

[@merlinsvdd]

Tony Gaskins, you speak the truth about it. We attract what we settle with. I did settle for an insecure, low self esteem dude, who is my age who was toxic to most women who blocked him in his life. I settled untill my sisters and parents woke me up. Thanks be to god for them and u, Tony.

[@merlinsvdd]

Because he was my past as in i dealt with people who were toxic, narcissistic too. Thats why, i settled. Now, i know, must set boundaries because i am better than him.

[@1godsgift237]

Welcome Back Mr. Tony I just finished watching your video about the 8 signs of understanding a man. I literally starting crying cuz your video always helps me as a single mom to be stronger and date better. It doesn't matter how long the video is, your videos blesses me and then I pray 🙏🏾 continuously. Thank you

[@victoriamassie6017]

Why he sing "Don't Want No Scrub"& go right back to talking😂😂😂🤣I just love your videos, the message& sound affects😂Be Blessed🙏🏾& may God continue to Bless you& your family❤️

[@destinyuplift]

A message on Saturday night, I'm watching!

[@cocoj2252]

I swear your videos keep me sane ever since I broke up with a grown boy. Every time i start to think about him or want to unblock him I have to put on one of ur videos to keep me away from him.

[@tanyapineda7212]

Then the battery...wow. Powerful metaphors.

[@kimmiw8663]

Thank you Tony..this says so much about my first marriage..we were both in darkness until I became born again...walking with Jesus has change my outlook on life and my future husband...Praise our mighty God who was able to heal so much past hurt..bless your ministry and your calling..love your props 😂😂

[@joanwilliams4778]

Tony you are tooo much!! But nothing but the truth flows from your lips!!!! Keep teaching!!!!

[@misskaykayRSA]

So glad you broke this down. So much sense ❤

[@myarenea1125]

I feel so much better! I been feeling insecure lately because i weed out all the bad guys and no one decent ever comes my way. I just gotta continue doing what I’m doing until he comes my way! 😊

[@annabellearaya3432]

Watching this again and again! But really it tells me that men really don’t like themselves. Seriously my main thing here is men have very very low self esteem. If you got to sleep for room and board is a reflection of your character. Like wow this is deep. I read the scripture today in Ronan’s 8:15 , well I noticed the people are in bondage including myself but I’m awaken my spirit is telling me not to be carnally minded in other words whatever you think you have on this earth shall perish. To be spiritual mind is to think for eternity, I was thirsty but not for a man but for my salvation. House , cars and a man are nothing if it’s poison. Carnally mind was what I got out of today video and yes I’m going to do better. God blessed

[@35PinkFlowers]

Please please please continue to do God’s work here on KZbin just the way you are. I’m proud to say I recommitted my life to the lord because of your videos! I definitely would like to see more so I pray God gives you the strength to do more. You’re super funny as well! Overall, can’t get enough!

[@monaedawson4523]

Dropped Gems 💎💎💎💎💎today Mr. GASKINS. I appreciate your content as always. God bless you 💞

[@shaylalewis7417]

Tony, you’re the best!

[@madonnabailey660]

I needed this. Yet again..

[@feliciastanton5166]

All I want to say is thank you . Well received.

[@yahairacope1726]

He speaking truth. Been there and done that. Learned the hard way. Stop wasting your time ladies.

[@intentionalgreatness]

Some men need a pillow or comfy couch. When life gets hard he will run to you to heal his broken ego as a place of rest and recharging..then leave when he feels strong again.

[@angelicagabrieli7169]

Tony, May OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST BLESS ABUNDANTLY AND PROTECT You Tony and You Family members in everything you do IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!!

[@KrystleLaughter]

Your videos always brighten up my day. Thanks Tony.❤

[@christineporter9914]

Bro Tony you hit when you mentioned about the job that got me thinking about settling . you're so right am praying about that situation . Thanks for sacrificing your time tonight to bring this enlighten message.

[@poboption9541]

You are heaven sent! 🙌🏾😇

[@blondiemonique1932]

I appreciate you! I look forward to hearing what you have to share. I was watching one of your videos earlier today and decided to join your tribe because you have definitely been a blessing to me. Be blessed!

[@mekablessed2125]

Hello Tony!😃... I love those analogies and couldn’t agree more with you . “You attract what you are” that’s why not settling less than God’s best is so important. Just because he walks up talking a “good” game is not gonna work takes more than that. Thank you for keeping 💯😃. Continued Blessings 💕

[@tinaking9120]

“Everything looks like a treat to a dog.” 🙌🏽

[@melaniegonzalezart8506]

Several of my past Situationships would be on their bike with other women and share with me because we were "casual". I thought this was me showing I was "understanding" and "open" to their needs while clearly not meeting or identifying my own standards. I thought I had one up on the other women for being the one they could be honest to. I was honestly playing myself and it is great to hear the cold hard truth, that that is insecurity and open invitation to competition with other women. I am still healing, I hope to be strong and love my sisters while love myself and set healthy boundaries with men (previously nonexistent) and build strong friendships with women (previously competitive and envious). Thankful for this community.

[@reginastevens7673]

Hi Tony, I recently started watching your videos. I sure wish I would of found you much sooner in my life. Now, what I’m trying to do is get my 20 yr old daughter to watch them. It’s never too late Gods timing is always perfect. Thank you Tony🙏🏼🙏🏼 be blessed.

[@jacqueline2610]

She can listen while in the room with you without looking.

[@willLLIt]

This was sooooooooooooooo got dang goooood !!!! Man I needed this!!!! I can listen to you all day I laugh I learn or I say ouch when u stepping on my toes!!! U setting a new standard I appreciate what u do tony !! Now clean your office lol

[@katrinabrown7871]

Thanks Tony for clearing up " Who you choice to settle with is a reflection of you." my day isn't complete without my daily devotional and your words of WISDOM!

[@msdenise218]

This video should have a million views! Thanks so much Tony for all you do

[@tamekareeves8748]

I Appreciate The Message. Cause i know i done settled before. But after yo Lesson i just learned U r what u attract.

[@AscendinSoul]

Best demonstrations ever on most important self development topic in my humble opinion👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾.

[@BrittanyBlack]

Thank you for this bonus Saturday video 🙌🏽

[@aaliyahj3611]

Yes Tony just to confirm that fact ! Im one of the ones that look for your 1 hour long videos everyday! But I watch the old ones 😊🙏🏾 thank you

[@patsyhayes6019]

Excellent Tony...yes, I was better than what I had. 11 years trusting & waiting on God for the man that he has for me. Thank God for you!

[@Somuchtotalkabout]

Be Blessed! Almost finished reading a Woman’s Influence! Very eye opening! Been watching your videos all during the quarantine! Please keep spreading Gods word❤️

[@CatEyesKiki]

Tony, brother...you're speaking nothing but pure FACTS! 🙌🏾👌🏾 Can I just say, the props had me rolling! 🤭🤣🤣🤣 How you don't see your humour baffles me but goodness you are too funny!👌🏾🤦🏾‍♀️😁😂😂😂

[@vchild]

Great message Tony. Know your worth. Don't settle. Peep the red flags and act accordingly.

[@markgonzales9520]

That was real, tbh you’re right accepting disrespectful things is a reflection of yourself and we gotta hold ourselves higher to be at the highest spot we want to be, thank you!

[@GwendolynJohnson-r1s]

You are preaching Tony! You’re describing my experience with my ex husband. I was so desperate and I was emotionally and mentally and financially abused. Later I realized that he was on the down low. My son was the best thing from that farce of a marriage. So glad I am on my own.

[@sherina325]

TG loved the creative examples. As women we experience far more failed relationships than successful ones. And start to think that’s just the way it is. We get stuck! It was hard for me to come out of this pattern. My failed relationships had damaging effects on my life. Now I'm on a journey of self love. Putting GOD first every step of the way. The men I attract now align with the type of person I am now.

[@dn-cp6sh]

What a wonderful surprise video! Every video I cry, I laugh and always learn something new. Love the way he just does these random, when he feels he needs to get the message out. Those props killing me! Thanks Tony

[@lerandabrewer3923]

Coach T. You are the best and I mean the best as many times as I've heard that phrase I had taken to heart that all the trash that had been walking up to me and me attempting to give a chance was not me. Those chance encounters never lasted long and I always thought there was something wrong with me. Yes I have been working on myself in my single season getting the count's lane doing the hard work looking in the mirror getting my healing getting myself ready for that ready right man but I've never heard this phrase and its meaning explained the way that you have. Thank you so much for relieving yet another fear that something was wrong with me because of what was approaching me thank you thank you thank you.

[@zenobiaandrews8641]

Tony, you are such a blessing Brother!

[@sotoon2219]

Love the illustration. “ he don’t keep his gold teeth shined”. 😂😂

[@natasha2877]

I felt like Tony had to add shine at the end cause some women or men don't mind gold teeth 😂😩

[@lynnerene]

The visual aids were perfect 😂 Awesome message as always!

[@brandihines2332]

MAN YOU ARE WHAT YOU ATTRACT. AMEN 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 THANK YOU TONY

[@ubuhlebakwasibiya6087]

Thank you so much for this, I needed it. Just walked away from a toxic relationship and I'm currently in the place of did I do the right thing and this affirmed that that relationship was not the correct representation of who I am as a person and a woman and I don't want that for myself and those around me.

[@SWEETPEA117]

When I was married and it started going bad I would always call my mom and complain. The best advice she gave me either s*&t or get off the pot. So I found the courage to leave after 23 years. And I am happily single 😁

[@koconutkirby4135]

Same after 11 years... I finally starting valuing myself.

[@snmbooksandplans529]

If you mad about the hair toupee on 😂😂😂 I’m weak. Don’t block your blessings ‼️

[@KrystleLaughter]

Please post more videos Tony. You are our lifeline. We need and appreciate you.

[@sharajordan1830]

Mr. Tony Gaskins. You are the G.O.A.T. You are elevating the mindset, saving the lost, protecting the vulnerable, giving the blue print for healthy familes, providing the knowledge & resources to be successful business owners. You are truly a blessings to Gods children. God bless you and your beautiful family.🙏

[@LeafsIn2025]

👏👏👏 for the amazing Host, his co-stars, the awe inspiring, spirit-led, life-changing message of 100% truth and, especially, the Lord Tony is obediently faithful to! Thank you so much for all your words, visual props, and for clarifying this very important topic. It makes a lot more sense now. Very glad and grateful that you taught so well I stopped settling a while ago and have so much peace, patience and joy. I really wish I had had this information years ago but appreciate and respect God's perfect timing. God bless you and your family, Tony. Thank you, thank you, thank you so much!

[@reikicowgirl9817]

That guy with the floppy toupee never fails to find me 😏😂😂🤣

[@nessparadis6948]

😂😂🤣🤣

[@brennaceja]

Damnn lol

[@stampingwithlisa]

You are so good! I love your videos. They really make everything crystal clear.

[@jessicabenitez3097]

Dying laughing when he brought out the skinny white straw vs the tall dark pen props 😂😂😄😄

[@yoyo-jt6yp]

Thankyou tony for stating the truth the way it is. I mean , no sugar coating, just the plain truth.

[@Thealgorithm-k4x]

I needed this today. Thank you.

[@Berryashxo]

Not rollin the credits at the enddd 🤣

[@jjosborneable]

Props, storyline on point. You got me tonight. Great message.

[@redeemed1352]

Wow, thanks for clearing that up about what u attract. Feel much better now lol. Very clever with the props.

[@claudiafigueroa7330]

I love your metaphors