Too Many Men Have a Lone Wolf Mentality

Larry Hagner is the founder of The Dad Edge and host of The Dad Edge Podcast. He and Jon discuss Larry’s story, fatherhood, how he came to found The Dad Edge, and masculinity in today’s world.
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[@Goonie02]

I find the older I get the pack dwindles. Friendships dissolve , people change, true colors come out, self attentions appear. It's hard to find a good, positive pack with good people that are trust worthy. Really hard.

[@RyogaEchizen]

Hard indeed.

[@jasonvarney4991]

This is my reality too.. it’s easy to have a pack if you’re John, but what about the regular guys just trying to live a good life and raise your kids .. my pack are my kids. I don’t think most people know what the definition of loyalty is nor do they care.

[@bobbobberson5627]

You have to accept other peoples shortcomings. They have to accept yours. You have to help each other overcome them.

[@C_Hart]

It might be sad to say or consider but this my friend is our pack right here. Real shit is being expressed and some people are starting to understand that. I guess we have the alot of people to be thankful for that can bring us through time and space to reply to one another.

[@heffthegauud7297]

​@@C_Hart Agreed

[@xyvar1]

Better to be a lone wolf then with the wrong pack

[@makotonarukami7468]

When you say that there is really such Grace and having the end on your own instead of with people you don't even want to be around I tried making friends I ran into an old buddy in high school and his girlfriend and I would visit their house every few weeks I really once a week then eventually I told myself you know what I don't have to do this I'm not enjoying this so I'm just going to go less you know unless they text me which hasn't happened yet which is great because I really don't want to see them

[@Tuga_Cel]

Keep coping, only young people or boomers and X'ers say this crap. Reality it's you harder and harder the older you get...

[@um52]

🙏

[@nelsonegidio6540]

❤❤oh yes

[@dreydonstanford8376]

Men are always better in a pack that’s what women hate

[@jaughnekow]

lone wolf mentality is on the rise because there is a lack of friendship in these modern times.

[@thecrow5006]

A wolf pack consists of family not friends.

[@jaughnekow]

@@thecrow5006 whether friends or families, as long as there's a good bond, that's good to have.

[@eskabanofficial]

​@@thecrow500699% of families are worthless now because theyre always trying to be better and more succesful than you. its more like an enemy to fight with to show whos "better" so yeah socializing isnt worth it nowadays

[@borissibor2638]

We are disconnected from people because we are connected to our cell phones. When I commute on the city train, I take the time to look around me and notice the electronic plague: everyone is starring at their cell phones. Nobody talks or looks at each other at all. They just stare at their phones with their headphones on. Social media, movies, video games, and all the other stuff instantly available on our devices have put us in a hypnotic state that is just too comforting and addictive.

[@LethalByChoice]

@@thecrow5006 Most of the time your family moves on and doesn't care about you or is just toxic and you are the black sheep. Happens a lot.

[@BigBlockRick-gy6ym]

Sometimes the only person you can count on…. is yourself.

[@agoogleuser9218]

The ONLY person you can truly count on is yourself.

[@redrocket597]

And trust. Can't trust anyone else

[@Hardawayfits]

As a woman I felt that😊

[@TheDragonKnight98]

Yeah sometimes as a man there's no else that will come to save you except yourself. No one that you can rely on but yourself you're right.

[@user-bd1nh8kp5p]

Yup

[@thejohnsons2123]

We end up being the lone wolf when we get tired of being rejected by the pack.

[@honinakecheta601]

Why were you rejected? People have always been socially inclined, so why have you been rejected.

[@dn7422]

Maybe his pack just doesn’t resonate with who he is, his morals, beliefs, ethics, values n’ all. Maybe his pack didn’t tell him that but he did, who they are rejects him, who he is? Idk… context is needed though 😅

[@Lohanujuan]

Get a new pack, no?

[@5thsNGunz]

You’re rejected when you are the hunchback that can’t hold the sword and shield on 300

[@avonmaster6628]

lmao, this is so fucking corny.

[@josehuaman6603]

When you are a kid or a teenager, you think you have a lot of friends, but when You get older you notice that only a few of then are worthy to call a 'friend'.

[@STMARTIN009]

Once the partying stops and people get married that is when the so called close friendships fade to casual acquaintances. I am 43. I went to a wake this January where a childhood friend of mine passed at 42 from a 2 year battle with cancer. I had no idea he was sick for that length of time until another person told me he died.

[@alexander_foster653]

It’s hard to find good people

[@goat88378]

amen brother

[@ChrisPryerplus]

I think that’s true but depends on the environment that you’re “finding” these people. I’m not adding someone to my team that I met at a bar. (Not saying you do that, just giving that as an example)

[@tominator6684]

If I may suggest, try a Catholic Church or a monastery. You'll find plenty.

[@oldmountaindawg4593]

@@ChrisPryerplus morning 0330 . Coffee time then chores. I agree with your statement. I don't drink and don't deal with many that do. Only head into town every three or four months for possibles. Only team I trust , 11B, 0311, my pups an horses. Just never been a people person. If it wasn't for dogs an horses , I wouldn't have any adult supervision. Lol enjoy fellas, watch your six. Bear

[@Joseph-ed6hl]

I’m telling you now it’s probably impossible to find the ideal group of people your looking for. You can lead people away from flaws though.

[@Lev782]

Sometimes, we don’t have a choice

[@henriktveit3069]

we do

[@nicowins]

How? Please give an example. I think i know what you wrote, But would like you to explain please

[@snowyowlz5992]

Try being a longterm caregiver for decades as a guy also working full time.

[@tommypauly3249]

You always have a choice! Listen, there is no one on this planet that is exactly like you. Be true to yourself; you do this, life becomes more interesting.m

[@fwwaller]

@@tommypauly3249 The words of someone with an easy life, sometimes there is no other choice.

[@antyoutube7796]

Being a lone wolf is way better than bad company

[@henriktveit3069]

best good company

[@nicowins]

Just find good Company, that is way better. I was alone a long time and did not want to socialise with anyone. After all i am happy to live with a girl i love But besides her i am veey much alone which i enjoy. My girl Got the same mentality and we dont do everything together which is why we fit great together.

[@hemantakonwar7054]

​@@nicowinswhere can u find good company? There is very lesser chance you will find them in the crowd . Better to have a adaptable mentality. You never know that your company will work as poison or potion

[@nxise823]

What’s your point? It’s still not as good as good company.

[@BerishaFatian]

Ironically I feel alone when I'm with others, but not when I'm actually alone.

[@josemotherrosa7042]

Truth.

[@Kjf2691]

same

[@KithEsq]

Ditto. I try to carry everyone, then never reciprocate

[@stompbaddess1772]

Same

[@yogsenforfoth5948]

I love my isolation and solitude. It helped me get sober, get back in school, change careers, get out of debt, and get my life back on track. Some of us are just meant to be on our own.

[@--________________________--]

isolation can be good in so many ways but some people arent built to be on there own mentally and can harm themselves even more sadly

[@yogsenforfoth5948]

@@--________________________-- Oh, absolutely. I agree with that 100%. It’s a small percentage of us who are able to handle it, but after my last relationship ended badly 8 years ago, I decided that I had my fill of companionship. I had two serious relationships and several flings. The last one broke me, however, and I knew in my heart that I wasn’t cut out for romance or love. I’ve been able to learn how to love myself, and that’s something I could never achieve before I was alone.

[@kleeklee4572]

You’re the guy that everyone wishes troubled youth turn into. Keep going man.

[@Slim_Charles]

What he failed to mention is that the vast majority of men who have this mentality did not ask for it. They’ve been left with the choice of either sinking alone or fighting alone to stay afloat. And once you’ve embraced the idea of being a lone wolf (as you must if you are to thrive under it) and found that you are indeed capable of carrying it, it’s very difficult to go back.

[@TopG20073]

Extremely true

[@nordayzestreaming]

Amazing response I agree

[@nothingtosee314]

That's literally what his organization is trying to reverse. You commented before looking further.

[@roba.6419]

Well said

[@TrueWalker88]

Idk about that. I see a lot of men who have wives that are begging their husbands to talk to them, share with them, work together as a team. It's the men who withdraw.

[@goingoutonmyshield2811]

"The lone wolf dies" Reality check, we all die.

[@Senko1800]

You know what he means , he's not 8 years old he knows we all die .

[@goingoutonmyshield2811]

@@Senko1800 Then he should have been more descriptive if what he meant because that was a broad statement

[@goingoutonmyshield2811]

@@user-vi9zm5ss4f He didn't make one

[@Senko1800]

@@goingoutonmyshield2811 No you just missed the point he made .

[@goingoutonmyshield2811]

@@Senko1800 You mean the opinion he made. Lone wolf, Pack wolf, everything dies son, the only relevance is when and how. Period.

[@gwildordipkin6504]

Why gangs appeal to youngsters, even if they are criminal and negative. They'll have more male camaraderie in a year at 17 than some 35 year old cubicle guys still will have.

[@deanlister510]

Exactly 💯

[@winning3329]

Because men have a pack mentality

[@michaelotis223]

​@@winning3329 men are generally looking for a place to belong! And many'll find it anywhere they can

[@messydaisy9884]

who wants a bunch of cringy looking, wanna be thug punks for camaraderie, morw over when you are at your mid 30s

[@mcgee1864]

"comradery" is one of the last things they're thinking about. They're just thinking about all the money, cars, rims, bitches and hoes and other material things that they'll be able to obtain from hustling drugs being a gang banger. That and the hope of "saving up enough to get out of the hood"...🙄

[@fgc-linux1650]

Relying on others too much has the same effect. There has to be balance. If you don't know how to be independent to an extent, you won't go far either.

[@jackjack4412]

Absolutely. Iron sharpens iron, not plastic or rubber sharpens iron. Each individual must be a competent asset in order to contribute to the team.

[@leonardvojka5404]

Autonomy and interdependence. Self sufficiency ‘and’ selflessness.

[@STMARTIN009]

True.

[@Yujiro945]

Who is on the opposite? I am very independent and I Don’t trust, motherfuckers to be dependent on them it’s made me more stronger mentally

[@VanezArt]

Loneliness is the reality of life I think. Why be a part of soyciety which treats you like a disposable object? Common men are at the bottom of social food chain.

[@matthewvelge1196]

The result my generation been a screen generation. We believe that we have social life but it all super facial.

[@user-vc9nt2cg1c]

Lone wolf all the way. Rule number 1 in life first and foremost is learn to be your own best friend. People come and go but your going to be with yourself for a long time so like yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company.

[@STMARTIN009]

Being alone is ok. I have gone to sporting events,concerts,and even the movies alone. It's just so hard to get together with people as you get older . The funny thing is that when I go to the movies alone I see other married men who are also alone.

[@user-vc9nt2cg1c]

@@STMARTIN009 it's a good strength to have. I think too many people these days are needy. They constantly need company and attention. If ever a moment on their own they are straight on their phones txting and everything else. So many people put up with being in toxic relationships purely cos they are afraid of being single or alone. Liking your own company is a good quality to have.

[@billyjack2366]

When being a lone wolf is all you got. You make the best of it , always striving to better yourself

[@fayelis]

I walk alone. I live alone. I fight alone .I shall die alone.

[@lisasommerlad1337]

Bored alone isnt fun though, ay? Nor is being boring, alone.

[@jonathanplummer129]

​@@lisasommerlad1337I'm never bored on my own....not saying that what he's saying in this video isn't true or that we don't need people but some people actually like having time to themselves

[@robertdelatte3944]

@@lisasommerlad1337why the fuck would someone want to go to a bar or club every weekend when you can be building your dreams / kingdom instead?

[@eskabanofficial]

​@@robertdelatte3944because 99% of people are unable to and want to make the best out of their life as far as life allows them to. not everyone is as competent as andrew tate or whatever

[@by.myself42]

Everyone’s gonna die alone

[@SchneierViktor]

The lone wolf chooses to die alone because independent and self-sufficient individual. They find contentment in their own company and prefer solitude over social interactions. Their decision to embrace a solitary existence is not influenced by trauma but is a conscious choice reflecting their desire for freedom, self-reliance, and a deeper connection with themselves.

[@jardo1234]

Exactly!

[@Reign_Abov3_610]

Very well said!!!!!!

[@johnnyjohnson1326]

Perfectly stated

[@adamadkins4485]

Exactly I fall into the category but I do go to church and fellowship with other Christians and go to work and do talk to people but I'm careful about who I talk too. I keep to myself and enjoy my own company and yes it can get lonely but I don't let it get me down either

[@oldmountaindawg4593]

Well said young squire. I agreed. Besides my dogs an horses are the only adult supervision I need. Lol enjoy guys , .W.Y.S.

[@jaytriplenine999]

I love being the lone wolf. I feel no need for attachment or emotion anymore, completely alone and love it.

[@pradabears]

I would rather die. But salute to you

[@perseus274]

I was born a lone wolf and my surname means "friendly wolf". My favorite animal was always wolf :D

[@perseus274]

​@@pradabears why? Being alone is the best feeling ever. For me atleast. It's nice to walk at night alone, when everybody is sleeping. It's nice to look at sunset alone, while listening to music. It's nice to watch a movie alone, without anybody interrupting. You can do everything and say anything, when you're alone, without anyone judging you...

[@WintisCorner]

​@perseus274 Yeah I'm tired of being judged

[@rja9797]

Ok husk

[@ianl.gutierre1341]

“His fate isn’t pretty, the lone wolf dies.” We all die, my friend. You came into this world alone. And, chances are, you’ll leave it the exact same way.

[@borissibor2638]

I said the exact same thing when I heard him say that. The pack dies too!

[@LethalByChoice]

Only difference is do you want to die alone in a miserable pack that's toxic or die alone comfortable with yourself and at peace? Pick one.

[@Mus34679]

@@LethalByChoiceSay it louder for the people in the back!!

[@HealthHubbleScope]

@@Mus34679AMEN

[@henriktveit3069]

not alone no

[@johnnatandc]

The Lone Wolf is difficult and not everyone is prepared to handle it. You will die... and you will die alone. You never ask for anything and you move forward the best you can... I have been alone for a long long time... It is hard... dont belive people that tells otherwise... sometimes you end up in this path because you had no choice or because you were forced by external circinstances to move in this direction. Once you get used to it, like I did, it is hard to go back to the pack life.

[@archaicwisdom69]

I agree, it takes discipline to be alone, sometimes I think about reaching out to someone, then think how selfish that is for me to do to someone, because I sure won't listen to someone else if they reach out, so I stay to myself and my pups

[@mynameisnobody3931]

Everyone dies alone anyway

[@BlackSkull1984]

"One is better than many" -The man who was betrayed by his own kind

[@perseus274]

When you're alone, you will cover your back, when you're with people, you will get stabbed in the back

[@BlackSkull1984]

@@perseus274 exactly Perseus

[@Anthony-dj4nd]

Weak people hate those who can stand on their own

[@himesh2006]

Then all humans are weak - because we are all social creatures (unless you are mentally challenged).

[@johnlowtechie950]

As much as I try to be in a pack, the pack isn't just the path for me. I didn't choose to be a lone wolf. It is what I am.

[@megaxind16]

You described it really well.

[@victorrosales7565]

After a break up it makes you realize you ain’t got no one but yourself Sometimes the loneliness sinks in deeply and will have you paralyzed It’s a weird feeling but I’ve been feeling it for the longest it sucks having no one around friends family or partner

[@Cheeseburger045]

Us bro

[@gainer5526]

Going through this now, without those feelings, but yeah women are in for a wake up call soon when the internet goes down, the dollar collapses, and they lose their friends that encourage their nonsense.

[@rja9797]

@@gainer5526a WOMAN hurt you that you hate a whole gender. How pathetic

[@rcman4.2flyboy]

​@gainer5526 yep then those with skills are gonna rise from the dark

[@gainer5526]

@@rcman4.2flyboy Damn right! I always say the same thing. 😎

[@gamingtemple5731]

It’s better to be alone than being with the wrong ones

[@crazylarryjr]

Rather live as a lone wolf, than live with a problem pack

[@henriktveit3069]

best good pack

[@ericpadilla2454]

Im 41. In my 20s i had a group of friends. As i got older, that group shrunk. Im now married with two kids and a great career. I only talk to two of the remaining 10 friends i kept in touch with. Even those two seem like a distant time as we all move on with life.

[@danlozza]

It has to be a balance. Mob mentality is just as detrimental as isolation.

[@user-vb2bo3ts2h]

Yes 🙏

[@kellyjordan6440]

Totally agree. But these podcasts are looking for subscribers to join their "men's group" so they can make money!

[@SergioKoolhaas]

​@@kellyjordan6440the Grift that keeps on grifting

[@lohi172]

@@kellyjordan6440 Literally every culture in human history has valued community because it’s necessary. Don’t be fooled, the internet’s cynical mindset is a very recent one.

[@lonewolfx499]

Tough to be in a pack when the pack doesn't appreciate you. I was forced into solitude, but I chose to rise against.

[@Dominik0-0]

Didn't change my mind. I've had no problems with this life so far, that's why I live like this

[@r.t4130]

Some have no choice to do it alone!

[@DrewLove777]

Spot on. I am a loner. Always have been.

[@abrum8869]

We all die in the end. I had to adopt a " lone wolf" mentality as all the people in my life abandoned me. It is horrible and it hurts, but everyone either abuses or leaves.

[@notyourbusiness2302]

You’re not wrong, man

[@eskabanofficial]

true. im a lone wolf because i know too much about human nature and theyre just not worth being with. all so fake and shallow

[@B1RDSEYE]

Not true. You haven’t found the right people… or maybe… you’re not the right people. And yes, I would know. I’ve lived around good people who care about me my entire 30 years of life. That’s real. Don’t you want that?

[@nicowins]

@@eskabanofficialfor 99% of People yes. It is sad you never met the 1 % who you truly can trust. I only met 1 person which is my girlfriend i have been with for 10 years now. Also her life i an the only person that sticks around. Friends will always come and go

[@eskabanofficial]

@@nicowins relationships i trust even less, besides im not build for dating, dont trust women neither sadly, i learned too much about how they operate biologically and psychologically, glad it works out for you

[@SebastianLong]

The wolf pack may take care of their weaker members, but when it comes to humans, we shun the weaker members. No one wants to be part of a pack that feeds on their own, even if they are alpha at heart.

[@Yujiro945]

Facts bro a normal bro damn

[@nitrorn1496]

I’m a one man wolf pack!

[@boydmaddocks838]

I found cancer is a great determinant of true friendship. During my cancer journey I watched my so called friends disappear like mist in the sunlight, now 64 alive, with no friends & glad of it.

[@johnhodgeman3980]

That's where you're wrong. I'm not a lone wolf. I'm a lone tiger which can be just shortened to tiger because tigers are true creatures of solitude. I dont need a pack to hold me up. I hold myself up. I ain't built for a pack and I'm tired of pretending to be something I'm not because society deems it as the norm, said an extrovert. Fuck that. I walk my own path. Live by the sword. Die by the sword. And I can live with that and my choices.

[@snowarmth]

Badass~

[@heavyarms0801]

I use to be the person that is super friendly to everyone.. But the more you get wise, the more you grow old and the more you learn that your pack is smaller than you thought and you like it ornnot, there will be a time that you will be alone, and that's when you know, you're a lone wolf after all..

[@stanley-fghijk441]

Of course we do! I don't know a single guy my age who isn't 100% out for himself and fake. I do not have one real friendship. I just know a lot of people. This is what it is down at the lower - mid levels of society. Too focused on survival for such frivolities as friendships.

[@snorkus4790]

A dying lone wolf is indifferent. I couldn’t care less. I’m tired. When death has come, I’ve smiled. And now, I’m just waiting for my turn.

[@HonkHonkler]

The lone wolf IS badass. The reason why the lone wolf is dangerous is because they’re pack animals. So a lone wolf surviving means it’s DANGEROUS and skilled at hunting/killing all by itself. I’ll stay the lone wolf, I don’t like people. I want to be a traveling drifter/nomad lone wolf going form place to place never settling until I die. Or just a hermit alone in the woods, people suck.

[@tomwerner389]

Lone wolf from Australia here. You said it mate.

[@Kyrious]

I've been a lone wolf my entire life. Not by choice, I just don't belong in any ones pack, and I'm not someone who can make their own. Everyone who left my life, left me. Not the other way around. I'm not someone who fits in, and I will always be alone, and it will impact the level of my success in life. I'm okay with that now. When I thought it was a problem that's when my mental health suffered.

[@eskabanofficial]

relatable. and most people are too judgy and wanna be better than you and use criteria thats as shallow as money and status and looks etc. rather be alone.

[@willeton]

I have no friends, never married, no kids. no interaction with family, including relatives, dues to narcisstic parents. I have been isolated since early childhood, and have no issues being alone. I dont need anyone else in my life.

[@sheep734]

Are you happy? I also hate my home and soon plan on staying isolated(when old enough) from them.

[@aena5995]

relatable but i want to marry a guy from a better country

[@johnhodgeman3980]

"They say humans are social animals, they can't live alone. But you can live pretty well by yourself. I tell ya, instead of feeling alone in a group, it's better to have real solitude all by yourself." --Faye, Cowboy Bebop.

[@jardo1234]

Yeah...all this pack stuff is overrated in contemporary times. It can do more harm than good. What's so wrong about being happy and content by your own nature?

[@__________8997]

Taken out of context, she was taken advantage of with memory loss with this being her initial view lol she didn't want to be hurt again, and becomes vulnerable and has a character arc where she is at a loss when the group falls apart. Way to mischaracterize her. No man is an island is true, finding the right people is hard, and striving for that is part of the journey along with one's meaning where the struggle gives rise to that in one way or another.

[@maths23]

But is more efficient whwn you have team it increase productivity.

[@YOURCOUSIN]

It's funny how a topic like "what a lone wolf really is" gets started and then all the internet starts to milk it and milk it till the next thing comes around.

[@articulatedhero8611]

Real recognize real for sure!

[@rubenbustamante1828]

People are human and most of them change and might snake you at the end . Im a lone Lion a wolf isnt sht with out his pack . I trust no one too many fake friends in this world

[@JohnDoe-gx8di]

That is why humans shouldn't put COMPLETE trust in other humans. Your creator is the most honest, the most caring, the most wisest, the all knowing, the ever living. your creator is the only being you need to put complete trust in and believe me.. your life WILL change.

[@__________8997]

Lions are social as well, you know a lion pride? Rationalize how you want-the lies we tell ourselves-we as social animals flourish with a social networks. The struggle is not only finding but maintaining that from friends, peers, and family in some shape or form.

[@JohnDoe-cd6ro]

I'd rather be a lone wolf than to follow someone else.

[@craigtitus1379]

When you really want to experience and discover yourself, you need to be alone. It wiil be hard but you will discover so many things about yourself. The Power is within, Know Thyself ❤

[@mr.christopher79]

good luck on forming that pack and maintaining it lol

[@trenchcoatmafioso]

Put 3 or more men together, they're going to start bullying someone. I just enter a room, and they start. So f*ck the pack, I'll walk alone with my self respect intact.

[@tehronmoment1367]

Sounds like you need be around better men brother im sorry that you have had to deal with that.

[@jamisonbernhardt3310]

​@@tehronmoment1367 you talk shit to them in front of others to call their bluster. Often as adults the bullies want to assert themselves however violence does not come. Especially in a work place. Most people are too stupid to back up a work place fight or any other serious incident as most Americans live pay check to paycheck. Married men dont even get me started on their weaknesses. We are good. Talk loud when they dont want you to.

[@Spark-In-The-Dark]

Nah. Can't group all men in together...

[@Matsuhide114]

Amen, and am here to encourage my brothers to support one another. We have a voice and we should be there for one another in any/every time needed. We should also check in with each other to see that everything is ok mentally.

[@SigmaLegendus69]

You can live or die in both but how it begins or ends it may or may not be entirely up to you and/or others.

[@TheGypsy424]

The lone wolf is necessary, they are dispersers. They play an important role, they join other packs and mate, bringing new blood /DNA to avoid to much inbreeding there is a purpose unbeknownst to the wolf and it’s very common and necessary, when it goes off on its own. They keep packs healthy. ❤

[@mirpanda1]

"The strength of the pack is the wolf and the strength of the wolf is the pack" -Rudyard Kipling, The Jungle Book

[@louisegarand3627]

He is Focused and Reserved , RESPECT 🙏

[@sevman7]

Everyone is the main character of their own lives. The problem is people want to be the main character in everyone else’s life too. Either that or they’ve been shown the evil side of people and want nothing to do with them. Its just an ego thing. I could sit here and tell everyone to allow love into their lives but it’s hard to do that in today’s world. Such a small portion of people that want to built with one another

[@iPR0DUCE]

Bullseye 🎯🎯🎯

[@agoogleuser9218]

couldn't have said it better myself...

[@LethalByChoice]

It's not an ego thing, it's reality. It's not some self-imposed limitation that we've copped ourselves into. When you're a kid you think you have a lot of friends, then you get older and realize there's maybe a tiny portion of those people who are really your friend. Reality hits you in the face as you get older and it can make you depressed.

[@sevman7]

@@LethalByChoice thats not what this is about at all lmao

[@jont.3243]

I was just having this conversation with my brother yesterday... It feels good to show what you've accomplished on your own and with no help.... but what that takes away from you, you'll never get back. We are not meant to be alone. We are meant to work as a community.

[@far06c]

I like your post. can you please tell me what you mean by "but what that takes away from you, you'll never get back"? what does it take away from you? thanks in advance. (other people can reply with their thoughts as well)

[@libertybelllocks7476]

​@@far06c Your sanity, your trust, your carefreeness, your tolerance, your social life, your love life, your comfort, I can go on. You might expereince some of these things again, but it will forever be tainted by what it took for you to reach the other side. When you do something yourself, literally sacrifice everything for your goal because you have no choice when going alone, these things will be lost as you get to your goal and as you achieve it. Pity the ones that do all this and dont reach their goal. They got the bad consequences without the good. And when you do reach it, and see all the people that said certain things, neglected you, didnt understand, didnt take you serious, etc...thats when the feelings of no trust or tolerance or carefreeness rear its head. How can I trust people that like me now but didnt take me serious before even though their lips said they did but their actions show otherwise? Everything changes being alone and some stuff you wont get back. And the ones you do will have an asterisks by it.

[@jont.3243]

@far06c sorry, didn't see this til now. Cool and sadly, @libertybelllocks7476 took the words right out of my mouth, read his/ her reply and you'll get my explanation.

[@jont.3243]

@libertybelllocks7476 thank you, couldn't have put it better myself!

[@josephcaniones4629]

beta boy!

[@keithwoods266]

Most men live this quiet life because we were never taught to communicate with confidence. We are told we are being assholes or little shits as kids trying to figure out our feelings. While the ladies are treated as princesses and never do anything wrong. It’s hard to be a good partner when one thinks they are a dog and the other thinks they are a princess.

[@Insight-music]

Yeah over the last 20yrs or so this narrative has been pounded into us especially if you are under 30yrs old right now which I am

[@DeathrashWhiplash]

There is strength and self realization in solutide.

[@nathanlabombard3283]

I really like how you worded that🤙 I'm a 43 year old man who definitely feels that way, and I've always viewed my guy friends as buddies more than anything, and now at 43 I'm realizing just how alone I really am. It's nice to know that there is a group out there like this for the younger generation of guys coming in to the world so that they do have a strong influence to look upon👏

[@badluckdaniel]

i live like this. as my father before me. but i dont do it bc i think im this strong alpha. im just too tired to give af…

[@catcoffee7958]

But your dad had your mum,,, so he wasn't alone wolf

[@user-hb1st6gd3k]

The lone wolf mentality is not only about strength, but the most important thing is that you have nothing to lose and this is real strength.

[@blakemcmahan3960]

This is awesome! Love to see this Bernthal!

[@Krizefugl]

I've had one friend that I'd really call a friend for over 20 years now. We might not talk every day or even see each other that often but once we are together we are like brothers. I wouldn't trade that friendship for anything.

[@jasonk.3278]

As a veteran, that lone wolf thinking will get you nowhere

[@jbevolve2023]

I am a USMC Vet....currently living the lone wolf lifestyle outside the US for more than a decade now...would love to know why you say that.

[@Jay-tu5ff]

@@jbevolve2023 Semper Fi Brother. Keep living the good life.

[@jbevolve2023]

@@Jay-tu5ff Thanks :)

[@jasonk.3278]

@@jbevolve2023 I guess your lucky

[@jasonk.3278]

@@jbevolve2023 never having had to go to a funeral of those who tried the lone wolf mentality.

[@a.u.j6340]

Weaklings say you can't do that all by yourself. A human being is capable of doing everything by himself.

[@jardo1234]

Yessir

[@notyourbusiness2302]

That’s right

[@agoogleuser9218]

damn straight

[@eskabanofficial]

if that was the case i wouldve had a job a house and a car by now. stop the cap. only talented humans can succeed.

[@a.u.j6340]

@@eskabanofficial go and cry in one corner. Because you're not willing to work 3x harder than the talented ones.

[@acerp8123]

I just turned 50 and I've never felt so alone in my life. My traumatic childhood just resurfaced and I'm basically in a living hell. I have no wife or kids. I lost my dad in 2007. My friends are pretty much gone or have their own lives and I have no support from my mother or brother. I've been suffering from loneliness and depression on a daily basis for over 3 years now. I lost my job due to depression. I go to bed at night and hope I don't wake up, but I always do. Had I known it would have turned out this way, I would have tried to be less of a lone wolf.

[@moebandz7066]

If you really love your people you’ll be fine being the lone wolf. You’ll be okay knowing that when yu leave. The people you left will be more then okay

[@oldmountaindawg4593]

A man can live alone, and never be lonely. Desperate...no. isolation is my solitude. Even at my age I get more things done by myself. Not many I can depend on other than a vet. You can have your populations. I'm happy. Everything dies. Its the cycle.

[@kmetofficial5800]

Thing is if you’re naturally a lone wolf, you’re living your true purpose it’s always good to find a pack and jump in and out of them when it’s convenient for you. For example I’ve never succeeded whenever I joined a pack but when I’m alone my destination and my purpose is clearer That’s when it feels the most natural.

[@macaroniobama]

Man this is so true, I never realised how much I let life weigh heavily on my shoulders. Often others are willing to share the burden and chat, if you'll do the same for them when the time comes.

[@mrchihuahuaboy4306]

The time may never come it’s a real possibility

[@BobNWhitney]

If you walk on with hope in your heart, You'll never walk alone.

[@obadiahthomas4710]

We as men, need to choose; strength, grace, love, honor… faith. We need to choose each other. Strength is so much more than what you can do by yourself. Your faith does not need to be my faith. Having people around you who you disagree with is important. What can one learn if he is only surrounded by yes men.

[@gwildordipkin6504]

For most those are lofty goals. I think just starting with basic decency and empathy is a quantum leap improvement.

[@obadiahthomas4710]

@@gwildordipkin6504 Agreed. Extremely lofty. Shoot for the stars, you might get to the moon. Decency and empathy would be huge.

[@4bangerkovaaks]

Growth comes from within and from God. Seek help if you feel its needed, but know that all values, all teachings & all punishments. Will eventually always develop from within. You either grow strong or let your own mind consume you. That ain't going to be me.

[@sevman7]

It will if your ego lets it. Be careful thinking like that. You were born strong. Just don’t listen to the evils

[@williampicton7072]

I'm not alone. God is with me!!!

[@luisobrajero8465]

Ive thought about it too , growing up solo with mom , seems like she was always crying but me I didn’t know what was going on , I felt like it was just me and her , and now I realize that it’s not like that anymore and it shouldn’t be , a lot of men need fathers , I needed one , it sadly he never came through , so in a sense you get a lonely wolf kind of mentality when you take care of mom and your sister

[@jijiXSama]

Do we have to pay to be in this community you’re preaching?

[@jbevolve2023]

most likely

[@jasonvarney4991]

Yeah. John is cool, but this guy is full of shit regurgitating all these “pack” cliches.. just another social fad.

[@HonkHonkler]

Lol

[@estebancampos2914]

there's no one size fits all answer for anything. some men run in a group while others prefer to be left alone. as a former infantry marine who served 10 years in the iraq war, i've seen killers from both sides of the isles. boys who ran in groups of bros and boys who were the lone wolf type. as long as your a righteous man who does not harm the innocent let people be, we can't all be the same, life would be boring if that were the case.

[@eskabanofficial]

US soldier talking about being righteous and not harming the innocent. thats rich😂

[@jfranks1295]

This hits home harder than I expected. Subscribed and really curious to learn more. Thank you 🙏

[@shariyfjames8512]

And many confused “I can’t do it alone” with “you can’t do it all alone”, buddy we’re not cut from the same cloth lmao

[@grrrraffe]

It's good as long as you're in a pack and not a herd.

[@GoldMegamind]

Calm down buddy.

[@grrrraffe]

@@GoldMegamind sorry for the confusion. I can see how one might see a rage emoji on that. 🙂 Was just adding a note to the conversation after reflecting on how the last 3+ years have been.

[@JaySolColorado]

If the lone wolf dies then he dies. Rarher be alone then with a pack. If i die ok

[@The_Lovey_Informer]

When you get rejected from a pack, kinda makes it easy to be a lone wolf

[@w5irdotunesinc]

I’d rather die alone, why should I trust anyone when I’m meant to be disappointed?

[@adarsh4121]

Its hard being around people when all i have around me are guys with no discipline, no honour, have no vision, nothing going on for them. How can you be around people when you cant even find people who can help you build and vice versa!

[@amorileweni9822]

frank castle has his own podcast?shit where do I sign up?👊

[@scarymoe4113]

Basically find balance in all things. Too much of anything becomes pain and suffering.

[@jenniferferguson4373]

Brilliant!!! We need strong men in our lives. ❤

[@AntwonPugh]

The lone wolf doesn’t die from leaving the pack. The pack dies because they don’t know how to be alone. Hence the why they are called the lone wolf 🐺

[@cleonRIP]

When the cold winds rise, and snow falls high. The lone wolf dies. But the pack survives -Ned Stark

[@moronfromouterspace2972]

Don't piss on my leg and tell me it's raining. -That One Guy in Outlaw Josey Wales

[@TheMediaMachine]

When the cold winds rise, and snow falls high, the human does better than wolves. He has saved supplies to ride far passed two winters if needs be. Human's are not wolves.That is why wolves are becoming endangered species.

[@YoniGarcia-ty6tx]

The only person who can change you is you all the power you need is within

[@jerryjordan2482]

Set your Limitations on who you Hang with !

[@bigcoop3717]

Don’t take life advice from celebrities

[@HonkHonkler]

Lol seriously

[@Danny-zs3eu]

Because its so much better to be alone than with toxic modern women, the more you know them the more you are grateful to be alone..

[@erik222]

i’m all alone even though i have brothers sister cousins and my mother still alive, they rarely reach out to me, maybe 2 times a month or once a month. i feel happy when im alone, i get stressed when people start to socialize or try to socialize with me weather they are family friends or just random strangers. when ever im walking my 2 wolf dogs random strangers will stop me to compliment my pack and ask questions and this annoys me and agitates me but i still respond in a friendly manner and try to end the encounter so i can proceed with my walk or hike with my pack.

[@mortem-tyrannis]

The lone wolf dies? Do the pack wolves live forever?