Top 4 Dementia Anger Outbursts & Triggers

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Thanks for watching! In this video we are going to learn the 4 common signs of anger with dementia patients to look out for so that you can be proactive about calming your person and keeping both of you safe coming from a therapist that worked at a psychiatric hospital for dementia patients. By the way, when you do get that win, comment it down below so we can celebrate you!
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[@JD-od8jn]

Yep husband with VD exhibits all 4....verbal outbursts towards me the worst and painful

[@dementiasuccesspath2239]

Im so sorry. There is no shame in having boundaries and separating from him until he has cooled off a little. It’s ok to not stand there and listen to verbal abuse

[@galilaya42]

That must be so difficult. I can't even imagine. I know when my mom gets abusive it can be very hurtful. Of course I know it's not her fault and she doesn't mean it but knowing that doesn't always help.

[@MeredithDomzalski]

​@@dementiasuccesspath2239 I'm anticipating that's going to be extra difficult for people who have parents who were abusive before they got dementia. I know it took me way too long to step away from her rages until I learned more skills.

[@Malachor01]

My mum has dementia and she is a shadow of her former self. Zero memory, aggressive, demanding, swears in front of my 8 year old son, bullies him to the point he has to scream in her face (e.g. "No nanny I don't want to go for a walk with you" -- as she will go out 10 times a day). She has caused her sister (who she lives with) to have a mental breakdown. I myself am on anti depressants and anxiety meds, have had sickness warnings in work and am so stressed out because the family keep offloading her to me as I'm apparently "obligated". My relationship is in tatters as a result too (my mum hates my partner) as there are constant verbal and physical altercations which my mum is always the initiator. She texts and calls me 100 times a day, I don't get a reprieve and neither does her sister. We're at breaking point.

[@vakho30]

I discovered that there is no point in learning everything and becoming smarter and smarter, because in the end you'll forget and be left with nothing. What matters for me now the most is the soul. We ought to train ourselves to love, forgive and treat each other well. This is the only thing that will remain in us when we get old. The reason our moms or dads are this way is because they didn't concentrate on improving soul. I have angry parents too. There no single day without conflict, swearing and false accusations (victim blaming as they call it). Sadly we can no longer change them. The only thing is to put up with it and meanwhile pray for them.

[@bananamilk1974]

Both my grandparents lives with my mother because we don't have enough money to take care of them. Let me tell you, she talks about the same damn thing. She complains about my grandfather stealing her money and her things, he's going out with to see another woman (they're in their 80's BTW), or she insults my grandfather for having a better life. She hates going out, but sometimes she wants out. I understand she feels worthless, but EVERYONE is trying here. She's 83, she lost her vision in her 70's, grandfather took her paycheck into his bank account so she lived under his allowance, she never learned how to drive a car, so she depend on someone to take her places, and we as family just figuring things about her past . We take her out, she protests but she wants to go out on her terms. We have jobs here, that she doesn't get. So she feels she's bothering us, so she shuts down. She hides medications, she never ate healthy, always ate whatever she wanted.. This is every day. She talks about it, everyday. We cope. We just try. We really try. And that's all you can do. It's better for her to be here, than out there somewhere. I know it's gets to you. But the sad part is, she doesn't know. She knows it's day time or night, but she doesn't know the date or could careless about what time it is. That's the heartbreaking part. Be safe and don't think you're alone at this internet stranger! 🧡❤

[@Malachor01]

@@bananamilk1974 ty for your kind words and for taking the time to respond. My heart goes out to you and yours as I know EXACTLY the hardships you're enduring. My mum is now (thankfully) in a care home. 24 hour staff and they cook for her and sort all her needs. Even take her out for walks etc. Took 6 years of pushing and fighting with GPs, Social Services, Memory Clinics/Teams and Dementia teams to get them all to see eye to eye and finally do something about it. My auntie and I had several breakdowns during her time with us. Both become mentally and physically unwell. Now she is in care our quality of life has improved 10000% and we can finally start living for ourselves not someone else. Mum is safe and has the care she needs and is surprisingly open to her situation, so it's win win. I truly hope your situation improves.

[@onthehill3381]

@@bananamilk1974 I take care of my 89 year old mom w/dementia m. She screams and makes horrible scenes. The other day she escaped down the street, picked her up in my car then she wouldn’t get out of the car to go back in the house. I got her by thee arm then she went limp like a two year old and dropped to the pavement screaming and crying. My father died in a small airplane accident when he was 41 and I was 13. I have grieved all these years for him. Now, I am thankful he is gone or I would quite possibly be taking care of two people with dementia.

[@bananamilk1974]

❤One day, we'll all be in peace. All we can do is endure. If you need to vent. I'll be checking by this post!@@onthehill3381

[@galilaya42]

I made my mom a poster with her kids, grandkids and great grandkids with everyone's name labeled. It helps when she wants to call someone or just wants to tell me a story and she cant remember the name. She's been going thru a spiral of sorts lately and hallucinating. Last night she became angry at "the kids" because "they wouldn't get ready for school" and "they weren't listening" she was scolding them and later going thru the house calling for them and insisting I bring her to them or bring them to her. This went on for some time and I was worried might lead to violence because her anger level was escalating and she felt I was keeping her from her kids and didn't trusted me. I used the poster for her to tell me who she was looking for and after she went thru everyone, in the end she said she didn't know and that was the end of it.

[@dementiasuccesspath2239]

Nice!

[@galilaya42]

@@dementiasuccesspath2239 My mom thinks she works at my house so she often thinks it's time to go home. I have tried to convince her in many ways she doesn't because it causes SO MANY issues but of course, I can't. This is all new to me so it took a minute to figure out I can't convince her of anything so mostly play along but this is one issue I wish I could.

[@dementiasuccesspath2239]

@DragonEnergy I have a video on this specific topic. I’m also coming out with a video on specific activities and redirection to stop them from asking

[@nancybrooks4404]

These tips are very useful. I’ve noticed my husband clenching his fists and pacing the most. I will try these tips. Thank you for your help.

[@dementiasuccesspath2239]

Thank you for watching and glad I can help!

[@markcroftocala]

Excellent content ! Very good video presentation. Pace was just a tad fast but I'm old so probably good for most caregivers. Text included below video on your website is very helpful. Thanks for stepping up to help the dementia community.

[@dementiasuccesspath2239]

Thank you for the kind words and thank you for watching!

[@jilliyvelez4879]

How do you de-escalate when your loved one with dementia already has their hands on you? My grandfather grabs my forearms to try to over power me. Asking in a calm manner doesn’t change anything. The most recent time, I was only able to get away by keeping him at an arms distance. He attempted once again to get physical by motioning to choke. Now I told my family that until he gets medicated for his outbursts I cannot be around him alone, they think I’m overreacting. I was his primary caregiver, and now he doesn’t want to be around me and I don’t feel safe around him.

[@oscardaone]

My mom already bit and hit me. Too late.

[@TheWendell946]

Mom out of control nothing seems to help. I cannot stay around her. its that bad

[@lindavaughn423]

Your sound is turned down,

[@rht100]

This is sleepy joe every time he in front of a camera

[@callingallkings163]

next video put your script behind the camera so that you look as if you are looking at the viewer and you won't look like your blind. Next tip. Balance your audio using a recording DAW instead of "winging it"